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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 248 People

    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 66-70 3 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 5 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    I'm in my mid 30's and I still can not find what makes me passionate about life. I constantly feel like something is missing. At best I can feel content but I have no enthusiasm...
    thatstaceygirl33 thatstaceygirl33 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I'm a 26 year old male coming up on 27. It seems like everyone else is able to find someone except me. I feel like some of them just had it fall into their lap. I couldn't find it...
    alley00pster alley00pster 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    Married for 5 years. Together for 7 years. We have two children (4 and 7). The seven year old is from my previous marriage. That previous marriage was abusive and he cheated on...
    m3385 m3385 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hello, I'm posting here because I really don't know what else to do. So me and this girl have been friends for about 4/5 months now. We met through drama school. I'm 22, she's 19...
    EdgeOfSanity EdgeOfSanity 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    i once was with a group of people and we were talking and I was asked by a guy who I would never date and I said quietly "not you" but it was heard and it was never forgotten even...
    loreto789 loreto789 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    You really can’t go home again.I’m in my small apartment, a little drunk... *maybe* a little lonely. Looking at photos my Dad sent of the newest renovations that...
    drfate drfate 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I just can't stop. Broken promises will always be on the top of my burden that I carry. The scars will forever mark my wrists, thighs, sides, everywhere where I could reach with a...
    renlambert renlambert 13-15 2 days ago

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    I have already lost a hope to find a good mannfor me,I have a feeling that best men is already taken :'(
    Jellybean88 Jellybean88 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Every day is just the same broken record. Get up, see my mum off to work, and spend the day at home alone. I try to keep myself busy by gardening, getting some decorating done or...
    blvckhvart blvckhvart 18-21, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I very seldom remember my dreams. As a child I remembered all my dreams and was very excited when I woke up to learn the meanings of them. Then something traumatic happened to me...
    cosmicburst cosmicburst 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    What do you do when you feel you had the one you are meant to spend your life with, and you let them walk away? Our paths were going in different directions. He had his reasons why...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I want to find love but I am asexual. Some asexuals do not believe in love, and a lot of people think all asexuals do not believe in love. I definitely believe in love, I just do...
    DarianM DarianM 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    We were once close friends...now? I don't even know if he sees me as a classmate anymore, whether he sees me as nothing... With my emotions died away, I can't feel the hurt, the...
    colourflame colourflame 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't have any idea what he wants from me. Circumstances mean we can never be together. Ever. Add distance (different countries) to that mix, there is no way this can ever have...
    ally124 ally124 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    In my last post I talked about me being in love with my cousin, and I've continued to think about it. This old quote keeps echoing in my head, "How can I love somebody when I don't...
    owf684 owf684 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 21

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    I know in my soul that I am blessed beyond belief. So why is there not one thing I love about myself today.
    pinkstarburst pinkstarburst 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 20

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    I didn't know that I was in love with him. Then I broke up with him because of reasons outside our relationship. A mutual friend was being a real pain to me, and she was in total...
    lillyforever4 lillyforever4 16-17, F Jun 20

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    I can be that meek innocent rosy-cheeked girl cycling past with a puppy in her bicycle basket. I can also be the demon from hell when I've had a bad day. You would be wrong if you...
    LadySylvia LadySylvia 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 19

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    I'm so sick of myself that I can't even admit to what I'm thinking on a mostly anonymous support site, but hey, I'm alive and I'm living, so I guess it doesn't really matter.
    2l4t 2l4t 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 18

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    I don't think that I will ever find love or a lover I have a problem of relationships and it's not because I cheat or anything of that matter, it is because of the fact is I am a...
    BoostedJ BoostedJ 22-25, M Jun 18

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    I keep replaying the night before he left over and over in my head. We were just sitting in his car from 1:00 am until 4:00 am.. Just talking about everything. Just enjoying that...
    kelsiex920 kelsiex920 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 17

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    This mad emotional instability inside me, is honestly too much to handle. I cannot live with it anymore, and to say I'm slowly dying on the inside or that I'm chocking doesn't seem...
    Soligem Soligem 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 17

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    So I'm going to be a senior in the fall, and I have these two friends, W and C. W is one of my really good friends. He's a super cool guy, he's nice to everyone, and is an all...
    jfletch23 jfletch23 18-21, M Jun 16

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