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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 249 People

    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    Loving Me!

    i realise that to really love someone you need to know and love yourself. so ill go and do just that!!!! (in time)
    LittleLostQueen LittleLostQueen 18-21, F Sep 18, 2007

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 70+ 2 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    AND I Truly Do

    I AM PROUD THAT'S ONE HURDLE I'VE GOTTEN OVER AND IT IS THE SIMPLEST CONCEPT BUT THE MOST DIFFICULT TASK. THANK GOD I MADE IT. I REALLY DO LOVE ME.
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F Mar 18, 2009

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    …and I never get bored of myself or hate myself... I love being myself at all times; perhaps I am a little narcissistic... Oh well, better than self hating, no? Although I don't...
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    YvesGAM YvesGAM 22-25, F Jan 5

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    Can't sleep. Waiting until the sun rises ☀︎
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    My life is very busy and i can't allow time to myself. I am tired. i am saying this always but i can't do nothing and what happend now?
    injizzy injizzy 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    I can't stop looking at myself in the mirror and seeing fat. I went from tone at 117lbs to 185 :/ I lost my fiancé, that I was with for over 8 years because he said he lost all...
    IntricatelyBeautiful IntricatelyBeautiful 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    Reading through this website helped me so much with my recent situation, that I felt the need to contribute somehow and hope it helps others in return. A little background about...
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    Everything started when I was in eighth grade, in gym class. There were three girls who thought that every guy in the class was supposed to crawl to them, only to get their hearts...
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    I'm so in love with a man. He loves me too. His friends tore us apart with lies about me. The love of my life now won't even talk to me and I can't do anything to get him to know...
    EmilyPouliot EmilyPouliot 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Back in the day the phrase "i love you" was used only when a person meant it, but now it is just thrown around like it's nothing. How can people just throw that phrase around like...
    lolawolf lolawolf 16-17, F Jan 12

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    All around me, people are finding love. I don't like doing this. I hate being alone. I'm the kind of guy who hates being alone and would rather be around people he likes, even if...
    wolfboy1993 wolfboy1993 18-21 6 days ago

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    Accepting: The phrase, "time heals all wounds" has to be the biggest crock of human sludge I've ever heard. Perhaps for normal people it is so, but it certainly isn't that way...
    dontknowdontcare dontknowdontcare 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Look at you stupid ex-husband! Trying hard to follow me like a desperate guy! You are worth nothing to me! I dedicate my devotion and love to a guy better than you stupid! Because...
    DawnS87 DawnS87 26-30, F Jan 18

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    Hi, yes , correct, I'm here to rant about my sister in law because I really can't stand her anymore. She's currently living with my parents and I, because they couldn't afford a...
    Lucyfire Lucyfire 18-21 1 Response Jan 7

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    I still can not stop thinking about my ex. Some days I'm ok, other days I still cry. I can't get him out of my head. My heart pounds so hard when I think of him. I miss everything...
    EmilyPouliot EmilyPouliot 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I am going to be 30 in 16 days. I have 2 wonderful children who are my world. I grew up in a rough home, moved out at 16. I felt I had to, or I was going to end up just like my...
    sohurtnow sohurtnow 26-30 Jan 15

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    I am so sick of this, I can't fall asleep till 7am, sometimes even 8.. and I just want to sleep normally again.. I've always had this problem but now it's just getting in the way...
    fastlife22 fastlife22 18-21, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Me and my boyfriend have only been together 5 months and he slept with his ex whilst we was together once and she slept over his house twice. She told me about a week ago because...
    jennypenny1664 jennypenny1664 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    How can I feel love for my wife and get love back after she cheated on me.
    678beardface 678beardface 31-35, M 1 hr ago

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    So I am pretty sure I am passive aggressive or something because I am afraid to say what it is I want so instead now I just sulk. I can’t stand my husband he has left me so many...
    andylynn39 andylynn39 36-40, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I suffered form this anxiety- importance deficiency anxiety. Yes I made that up! I don't know how I got this disease. But it was really painful. It still is some times. So what is...
    im1whoknocks im1whoknocks 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I don't understand why people say they understand when clearly they have no idea. not on all aspects of your issue regardless of what it may be. I appreciate people for trying n...
    sixtens sixtens 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    also, I need a job. It's frustrating. I need to get to work about two months ago. I can't decide where I even want to bother applying. I know I want something that I can enjoy...
    jsc0tzi jsc0tzi 26-30, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am in love with a woman 30 years younger than myself and I know she likes me but I am just too old for her. I would never do anything to hurt her and value her friendship too...
    iwillbealone iwillbealone 56-60, M Dec 29, 2014

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    I annoy myself so much. my mind never stops talking. i hate the sound of my own voice. i hate my reflection. i hate the way i look. i hate my personality. i hate everything about...
    EnjoyTheSilenceX EnjoyTheSilenceX 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    It's kind of a strange situation, that probably requires a whole lot more back story than I'm willing to give it. Consequently, this will probably be a bit short, a bit rambling...
    LostInCode LostInCode 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 7

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    So I have a question that all of you may be able to help me with. I am 28 years old, actually turning 29 this weekend! Anyways, I have pre menopause which means I cannot have...
    curiousviolinist curiousviolinist 26-30, F Jan 20

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