I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 243 People

    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 18, 2011
    burwi333 burwi333
    36-40, M
    Oct 24, 2010
    burwi333 burwi333
    36-40, M
    Oct 24, 2010

    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit
    22-25, F
    Oct 12, 2013

    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2007
    burwi333 burwi333
    36-40, M
    Oct 24, 2010

    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043
    70+
    3 Responses Jan 20, 2012

    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella
    22-25, F
    Jan 26, 2008

    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine
    18-21, F
    Dec 31, 2010

    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright
    18-21, F
    Oct 28, 2013

    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam
    18-21, F
    Jul 19, 2009

    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Oct 25, 2010

    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 18, 2009

    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    13-15, M
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    CatcherInTheRai CatcherInTheRai
    26-30, F
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    22-25, F
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    22-25, F
    Apr 20
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    GrandKhtulhu GrandKhtulhu
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 20
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    Stormeyes Stormeyes
    18-21, F
    Apr 20
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    FieryWolf FieryWolf
    16-17, F
    Apr 19
    I'm trying to write this paper but I can't!! I'm so tired I'm Layin in bed. I can't focus
    Flowerpower5678 Flowerpower5678
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 19
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    LowPricesTravel LowPricesTravel
    46-50, M
    Apr 19
    I can't stop thinking about you so I will indulge myself and remember everything without trying to shut it out. I don't know what tomorrow brings but tonight I celebrate memories.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 19
    I like this girl in my tech school but I can't tell her because she wouldn't care. She talks to a lot of guys and craziest part is we have a snapchat and we had a great convo on...
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 18
    My sleepy but I can't sleep!!!!!!!!! Someone talk to me I'm a nice person
    Ilovepigs089 Ilovepigs089
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 18
    My sleepy but I can't sleep!!!!!!!!! Someone talk to me I'm a nice person
    Ilovepigs089 Ilovepigs089
    13-15, F
    Apr 18
    I am afraid that I have been ruined forever. I have never loved anyone more. I thought he felt the same, even though he proved to me over and over again just how little I rate in...
    solost17 solost17
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 17
    its odd how it happens. you open up to people. you trust, you care and they care too. but then it happens. you realize you start holding back because you dont care to cause pain...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    Apr 17
    My partner of ten years is dying... I'm terrified of it all. I don't know what to do. One month ago everything appeared just right. Then in a weeks time my entire world came...
    iamvictorious iamvictorious
    36-40, M
    Apr 16
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    Benny412 Benny412
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 16
    I just realized one day that I like him again and its killing me I know I will never have him, he already likes someone else he is someone I can never reach, can I just delete all...
    girlpandaaa girlpandaaa
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 16
    When you know you should let go and move on... How do you keep yourself busy? How do you find that drive to get up and move forward? How do you stop comparing yourself to what is...
    ITmonkey ITmonkey
    31-35, M
    Apr 16
    what am i suppose to do when God doesn't answer my prayers. Where do I go? Who am I suppose to talk to? How do I relieve the pain?
    BrokeBandit BrokeBandit
    41-45, F
    Apr 16
    i love you all keep being beautiful i love you all so very much if no one else ever dose you always have me thank you for being a part of me and my journey
    o3118152 o3118152
    26-30, M
    Apr 16
    I honestly have been feeling like I want to cry lately... except that I can't. As in I physically can't. The tears don't come. At most a few tears come out but I need a really...
    VioletVivid VioletVivid
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 15
    Why do I care so much for a man that's not mine. When I know that I shouldn't. My heart always speaks of you, when it should be silent. It needs to learn to let go of the things it...
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 15
    I become speechless when i have something i really want to say, but don't feel like I should. When this happens, it's undeniable, something is wrong. I get quiet and quickly exit...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Apr 15
    EVER REMEMBER THIS - - > JESUS LOVES YOU.
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 14
    EVER REMEMBER THIS - - > JESUS LOVES YOU.
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 14
    I already got a sleep disorder I can't be without sleep now for hours because some one is snoring **** me off because I had a family member sleep Over on my room omg I couldn't...
    LucidxxShivery LucidxxShivery
    26-30, F
    Apr 14
    I've been through a blender, you could say. Age 2, I'm diagnosed with a genetic eye condition that eats away at my vision. Age 6, I'm diagnosed with mild Asperger's Syndrome. Age...
    AsYetNameless AsYetNameless
    13-15, T
    6 Responses Apr 14
    Re-posting for people who have not already read this.. I even wrote to EP to confirm this and here is there reply... EP Support replied: Hello, No, we have nothing to do with that...
    Openhonestnudist Openhonestnudist
    51-55, M
    1 Response Apr 14
    I struggle day to day to not do it. I would go to my family, but I know what theyre gonna say. I would go to my friends, but I don't want to bother them, they might have more...
    CrazyfatCatLady CrazyfatCatLady
    18-21, F
    Apr 14
    To that one person who judged me as if she knew me a lot. I'll never let you walk on my shoes. I'll never let you wear them because it can be too big and overwhelming for you...
    SparkofDecency SparkofDecency
    18-21, F
    Apr 13
    Can't understand myself. Don't know what to do!
    starnulf starnulf
    16-17, F
    Apr 13
    I am alone with nobody in my life who I can trust. I'm scared to live but scared to die. I don't want to live, but I don't want to cause my family that pain. or maybe it's just...
    Desperate10 Desperate10
    22-25, F
    Apr 13
    My whole life I have always been very slim and never had to worry about putting weight on. I never dieted and didn't do any formal exercise. These past few months however things...
    Pixiepickle89 Pixiepickle89
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 12
    My feelings are so messy.I can't handle things day to day anymore.I am trying to cope but my heart and mind are fighting.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 12
    Why do I always go through this. You know when you really care about someone and they mean everything to you. Those people who impact your life unexpectedly. I fell in love with...
    Thelostsoulslasthope Thelostsoulslasthope
    13-15, F
    Apr 12
    I feel like I am right back to where I was a few years ago... hating myself, wanting to cut or burn myself and to drink it all away. Wanting to close back up and never let anyone...
    KeKeNae KeKeNae
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 12
    I was a young, intelligent, motivated kid growing up aspiring to become a Computer Engineer. But as time passed, problems rose between my parents turning into dark days. I've been...
    SoulMadness SoulMadness
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 12
    I want to say. This is a really dumb group. And those who know me very well...I don't really get upset at very many things. This is a rare exception. Get turned on or attracted...
    drooniedat drooniedat
    41-45, M
    Apr 11
    How can I stop worrying and ruminating about past mistakes? Also how can I not care when people don't accept me?
    bettyboop777 bettyboop777
    36-40, F
    Apr 11
    I have some issues and I snapped at my friend now she's ignoring me. My crush/friend... I haven't figured out how I feel.. is also ignoring and my new friend type thing is mad at...
    XDeadxNxAliveX XDeadxNxAliveX
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 11
    How can you love someone so much and it all be one sided? You spend so much time with this one person and it not be enough. They say that they still love you or whatever but you...
    KeKeNae KeKeNae
    18-21, F
    Apr 10
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    stephanie751 stephanie751
    13-15, F
    Apr 10
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    EkuV EkuV
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 10
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    kenna2 kenna2
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 10
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