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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 70+ 2 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    Loving Me!

    i realise that to really love someone you need to know and love yourself. so ill go and do just that!!!! (in time)
    LittleLostQueen LittleLostQueen 18-21, F Sep 18, 2007

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    AND I Truly Do

    I AM PROUD THAT'S ONE HURDLE I'VE GOTTEN OVER AND IT IS THE SIMPLEST CONCEPT BUT THE MOST DIFFICULT TASK. THANK GOD I MADE IT. I REALLY DO LOVE ME.
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F Mar 18, 2009

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    Before I use to tell him I love him every time we talk or every 30 minutes. A few days ago he cheated on me for the second time and I caught him the same day and confronted him...
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    I've been through my share and I can't find a man with any kind of integrity, not that I attract "normal" guys... But it's a little depressing. I'm not getting any younger!
    Z00Z00Z Z00Z00Z 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 6

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    Not that hard to prove there fake. Or there using a fake pic. Just tell them to take another picture doing a certain action. Or whatever might be out of the ordinary. That...
    Deeperthinker Deeperthinker 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    I have been seeing this guy for a little over a year, yes a year. I have tried but all I feel is annoyed most of the time. He is a really nice guy, and I think part of the...
    normil normil 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    My ex dumped me a year and a half ago and has never spoken to me since. He quickly meet another woman and married her in 6 months time. He told me he loved me when obviously he was...
    brainwrecked brainwrecked 36-40, F Aug 15

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    Not that it's new. I gave myself insomnia while a freshman in college, a short yet oh so long year ago. This summer of 2014 went by too fast. I floated along on Cloud 9 thinking...
    SarabearPark SarabearPark 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I've posted this elsewhere, multiple times... didn't get much in the way of insight; so I'm posting it here. I just started working at this really small shop about a month or so...
    cloaked1 cloaked1 22-25, M Aug 2

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    Well, I am lying. I have already met him. As in, I know him. But I doubt I will ever see him again. I met him at my school last year - we had a joint lesson with another class...
    TaylorJensine TaylorJensine 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 6

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    I am a mother at heart... I have cared for children since I, myself, was a child. At 7 years old, I taught myself how to make macaroni and cheese for me and my younger brothers...
    HiddenAnger HiddenAnger 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    I can't stand my MIL! She isn't what you would call mean or lazy but she is just so damn annoying! My husband and I have been married for a month and a half but we dated 6 years...
    cdub1990 cdub1990 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I can't wait until that day comes. :) But until that day comes. I'll be waiting. I hope he's waiting too.
    Idreamtowaketofindthefate Idreamtowaketofindthefate 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    There is a Persian woman who works with me. She is the most beautiful person I've ever seen. I may have never noticed her, had she not went out of her way to make sure that I did...
    valtameren valtameren 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    I did a long long post yesterday so I will do a kinda short one today:! I ate long into the night until I fell asleep half weigh trough the 2nd bag of jam donuts then I woke up...
    SherbertGainer SherbertGainer 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am in love with a friend and colleague who is happily married to a woman he calls his soulmate (and she is beautiful and lovely.) There is absolutely no chance that he and I...
    brendabrenda brendabrenda 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I'm sorry-I seem to be saying those two words a lot lately, mostly in my mind. I wish I could say them to the people who deserve to hear it. The ones I care about....I've hurt them...
    NeverTrulyWanted NeverTrulyWanted 18-21, F Aug 17

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    I feel so heavy and numb. I want to cry to release all this pent up engery, but my body refuses to allow any sound to come out. A few tears stray down my cheeks, but that's all...
    NeverTrulyWanted NeverTrulyWanted 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    It's my own mind... I know. My anxiety just over takes me and I end up quitting days after I get hired purely because I tell myself over and over that I can't do it. I'm getting...
    MarissaDreams MarissaDreams 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    But I'll never find it... You know why? Because I have no social life... I don't have anywhere to look because i'm not comfortable going anywhere. I'm so depressed, and doing all...
    or19937 or19937 18-21, M Aug 20

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    We flirt(ed) all the time in person, we'd hug and sit together and have inside jokes at the back of the bus even though he's 3 years older and it looked slightly weird to all his...
    n4ta1i3 n4ta1i3 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    What are we? gfbf, mate or Fwb? He just ended a long term relationship (and i heard they are in open relationship now) Obviously he is not that into me, he rejected to take the...
    wtsthiswtstht wtsthiswtstht 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I pretty much know that it is over. This distance would have never worked. And as upset as I am with you moving on, it has to happen. And she will beat me every time. She is...
    trb98 trb98 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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