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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 70+ 2 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    Loving Me!

    i realise that to really love someone you need to know and love yourself. so ill go and do just that!!!! (in time)
    LittleLostQueen LittleLostQueen 18-21, F Sep 18, 2007

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    AND I Truly Do

    I AM PROUD THAT'S ONE HURDLE I'VE GOTTEN OVER AND IT IS THE SIMPLEST CONCEPT BUT THE MOST DIFFICULT TASK. THANK GOD I MADE IT. I REALLY DO LOVE ME.
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F Mar 18, 2009

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    I don't know why but I just can't. I can tell when people love me but I can't love them back, I just don't feel it no matter how hard I try. It's like I'm disconnected from...
    WinterSkyout WinterSkyout 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Im to find that one girl for and I feel something is wrong with me. I can send hundreds of messages and get no replies. I'm a nice guy, I don't get it.
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    It seams like no matter where I go, the area I live in only has people who are too young or too old for my age. The girls who are my age however either already have girlfriends, or...
    Zzarcon1 Zzarcon1 18-21, M Jul 4

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    It's a depressing thought when this sort of thing comes to my mind, but I've been thinking about it a lot lately, and the more I think about it, the more hopeless my cause seems to...
    TheBratPrince TheBratPrince 16-17, F Jul 10

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    So I've sent my resume twice to this Doggie Daycare place and emailed them 3 times like two weeks ago and no one has called me or emailed me. I need another job to save up for my...
    DiamondInTheSkye DiamondInTheSkye 18-21, F Jun 28

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    So I have a four year degree in Finance....but am stuck working in customer service, dealing with evil people. Ugh. So frustrating.
    Nikki351 Nikki351 31-35, F Jun 26

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    I always find myself wanting to try new things and wanting to pursue becoming skilled at something. I can't seem to keep myself going though. I spent about 3 months learning...
    JustMarley JustMarley 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 12

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    If one refuse to listen and won't take advice what is the point of me trying to help? If you won't help yourself and don't change your life for the better then you can't get help...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F Jul 9

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    God...I'm so tired but can't fall back asleep! I have so much on my mind. I wish I had money, it would solve so many problems! Everyone thinks I'm a money tree and keeps asking...
    lostandlonelyone lostandlonelyone 36-40, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I'm 21 and I cling to everything I can remember, which isn't much of a good thing... I remember heart break, physical agony, emotional torture, and memories that I wish I could...
    Christuh Christuh 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I love this site! I knew in theory that there were people with my problem, but had never met any of them. Like others here, I don't know what is wrong with me. I do my best, but...
    chazman48 chazman48 46-50, M Jul 12

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    Long story short: I cheated on my ex and he dumped me. Now I can't get him out of my head. I don't know why cheated, I keep trying to find a reason but when I find one I feel like...
    Ren10 Ren10 13-15, F Jul 13

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    Hi, I've been going through a similar experience.... I’ve been with my boyfriend for the past 8 years. I’m 40 and he’s 61. When we met, I knew he had been vasectomized while...
    Patricia2212 Patricia2212 36-40, F Jul 14

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    So I know I should always love my dad and be grateful for everything he's given me, but I really cannot stand him most of the time!! He pays for everything for me and my mom always...
    sindianau sindianau 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I officially give up. I've been trying to stop gaining for months, but I just can't do it. I'm too hooked on food. My years of actively trying to fatten up have completely...
    Comradette Comradette 18-21, F 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I love cooking and I seriously would rather cook than go out to eat. At least I know how my food is being handled and exactly what I'm eating. It's way better and healthier so I...
    PepperX PepperX 22-25, F Jul 15

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    Growing up I was yet another 'victim' of emotional neglect. As a result I grew up surrounded mostly by imaginary friends in my own little world as, quite frankly, nobody bothered...
    MailTheGlobe MailTheGlobe 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    Before telling you my story, I wanna ask you something... Is there someone who you just can't get over? Someone who's broken your heart and you just can't mend it? 3 years ago I...
    vinylvanilla vinylvanilla 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I really resent my father sometimes. First off, he knows everything. He's a doctor, a lawyer, a mechanic, a chef, a veterinarian, a repairman, etc. You get the point. And he won't...
    LadyBojangles LadyBojangles 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    I got my first permit when I was 17. No one cared enough to trust me with their car. I'm not smart enough to learn how, so I guess it figures. So now I'm 29 and utterly useless to...
    wtfimik wtfimik 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I don't know how I feel about him. When I'm talking with him or sitting right beside him, his attention goes straight to me. Even if we don't talk, it's like I know he doesn't mind...
    HarmonyEvers HarmonyEvers 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I dated a girl all throughout high school. We started dating Freshman year (her sophomore year) and we dated up until she went off to college. I left her after she had been at...
    whoknows2014 whoknows2014 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    after that I couldn't find him anymore he was sooooooo handsome and hotttt but my mother got my mobile phone and deleted his number !I want to see him again but IDK where can I...
    maryamgh1376 maryamgh1376 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I want to find love in my life with a girl but it's like I can't because sometimes I get very nerves when talking to a girl and I don't know what to say to a girl when I have...
    Chasemanning Chasemanning 13-15, M Jul 13

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    No one can ever truly walk in your shoes but you shouldn't judge me until you know me... I'm a different person from what I may be perceived as
    TashaBbb TashaBbb 18-21, F Jul 16

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    I fell in love so slowly, I didn't even notice I was in love until it was too late. I told him I loved him. He broke up with me a few weeks later. I don't even know if he's into...
    dourpenguin dourpenguin 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    I do not understand why in the the world I care so much about you. Its my confession or like a diary entry... My last post. I hope you find it and see for yourself. Oh man. I know...
    foryoureyesonly1983 foryoureyesonly1983 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    So I'm starting high school next year and I have literally no friends in my entire grade. Last year all of my friends became popular, EVERY SINGLE ONE. How does tht even happen...
    juliakats3 juliakats3 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    If you believe in God, or nothing or some other deity, I feel like it's a cruel piece in our genetic make up for us to seek companionship. It's something we have no control over...
    tonib123 tonib123 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 3

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    There's this girl I know she's so beautiful her brown eyes her beautiful hair and she is soo gorgeous and I love her and she says she doesn't want anyone but me back but I feel so...
    greatbritain1707 greatbritain1707 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 3

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