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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 247 People

    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 66-70 3 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 5 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    Oh yes! HAHAHA. It's just so funny, I can't easily forget the topic I was laughing at. Silly me.
    CrazyTrishy CrazyTrishy 13-15, F 8 hrs ago

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    I want to find love. A person who likes me for me and a person who I can talk to about anything
    Anthony2400 Anthony2400 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    so i go for my surgery on Thursday i have to be up before 6 45 am because that's when i go to the hospital. I am getting tubal ligation, done but instead of just getting them cut...
    Alexia85 Alexia85 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I... I just, i cant... After years of having this constant and intense feeling of love. And then nothing, I felt so empty. And now, I've felt alone for more than a year. Not just...
    darkspiritwolf darkspiritwolf 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    We all have that one person we truly care about but can't have. My love happens to be married.
    lillydreams001 lillydreams001 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'm a single mom (divorced amicably, then he died) and I can't do this anymore. I can't. I'm barely hanging on to my job. My son is extremely depressed, and I can't help him. I can...
    mombot2000 mombot2000 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    When I read a book or see a film that inspires me my first thought is to seek out the people in it meet them, have them like me, even need me and love me. Since I can't replace...
    colorbuff colorbuff 51-55, F 5 days ago

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    And I hate myself for not being able to let go. Here's the story; I was friends with my ex friend for 4 years and that's all we were. I never wanted to be anything more because...
    awesomefallenangel awesomefallenangel 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    So a girl put that pandas are vegans. I corrected her, pandas eat 99% bamboo but they can and do eat meat if they find an easy prey. Basically they eat bamboo as it's easier than...
    Calvexz Calvexz 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    So a few years ago I stepped on a pair of earrings and I was very concerned that my foot would get infected so I asked my mum where the first aid kit was. It was down stairs which...
    RachelDare RachelDare 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    I can't wait too say. "No mom and dad. I am going to her house. I don't know or care when I'll be back. I will stay by her side until she's better. I don't care how long it takes...
    ICanDoMyOwnThing ICanDoMyOwnThing 13-15, F Feb 5

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    Sometimes it feels like everyone judges me. I can't run, or swim as fast as the rest of the girls, I get behind in school, way behind,I am always sleeping and have a really hard...
    Youngandsarcastic Youngandsarcastic 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    I feel it bubbling up inside me. This anxiety. I've lost you again. I've let you go again. You are the love of my life. But I betrayed you and lost you. So you leave every morning...
    saraandherfoxes saraandherfoxes 26-30, F Feb 4

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    I unfortunately have inherited the predisposition of thalassaemia from my dad and that's why I can't donate (very low hematocrit and irregular haemoglobin). I'd really love to help...
    ScissorhandsFingeredMe ScissorhandsFingeredMe 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    I've never been able to keep a job for over 2-3 years. I always seem to get ... I don't know what it is ... exacerbated. So I quit. I get fed up. I dislike authority figures...
    dmcac dmcac 46-50, F Feb 3

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    Why you? Where is the man I once knew? The one who I thought would never hurt me, especially not gonna make me cry? Where is the man that I fought for? Who's so gentle and loving...
    soyyoprincesa soyyoprincesa 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    if mind reading were possible, the world would be in chaos... everyone has a fleeting though or two.. they have thoughts that cannot be helped, its not their fault.. what they do...
    Darasi Darasi 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 3

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    I'm avoiding going downstairs because it's exhausting pretending that I love my family and enjoy their company. I haven't seen or talked to them in a year and I don't miss them...
    Lyric8 Lyric8 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    I remember feeling love. I think I love cats. But I don't feel attachment. I tell people I love them but it's more for manipulation, to "rub them the right way". I've been really...
    Lyric8 Lyric8 18-21, F Feb 2

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    I hate this. I was doing good for a while, then ONE night I stay up will 3 again and I screw myself. Wide awake once again, it might not be as late as it could be but still...
    GoldenHeart69 GoldenHeart69 22-25, F Feb 1

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    I keep staying nervuos aruond people and am very insecure, what to do ?
    Yviroc Yviroc 22-25, T 1 Response Jan 31

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    I feel like I'm surrounded by retards I tell them not to touch my stuff but they just don't listen. Now I can't find my gym clothes so that means I have to buy a new pair. I have...
    TinselCookie607 TinselCookie607 18-21, M Jan 31

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    Staying at my cousins house and she bought a big tray of my favourite pink iced & rainbow sprinkled donuts but she said to me "Only two, you're getting too fat, & I don't want your...
    FangBang FangBang 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    We broke up but my mind still cannot let her go. I used to reject her love and now I regret about it. And she rejects mine now. All is fair enough, I was playing with fire and now...
    Tourion Tourion 22-25, M Jan 31

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    RELENTLESSLY HAUNTED by every instance of poor judgement or just common errors. Can't turn my mind off, I just relive every single moment! Even ones looong forgotten by people who...
    HollowBravado HollowBravado 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Most days I’m ok. I mean sure, just like always you do cross my mind, but today I really miss you. I came so close to sending you a message telling you so, but I know it’ll...
    jackflash3300 jackflash3300 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 31

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    I can't even go a minute without factoring in the effect you had on my life. The next minute turns into hours all day where I secretly obsess over how it could have been. Instead...
    cbnfvr cbnfvr 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 30