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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 249 People

    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 66-70 3 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    reapersweep reapersweep 18-21, F May 11

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    I spent most of the day alone. I forgot to eat. it's 3 am and I just realized that...
    indecisivewitch indecisivewitch 18-21, F 1 Response May 23

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    I knew ep was moving them to a group... But with 2500 stories...and 68,000 groups....they have got lost.... :(
    expressomarkie expressomarkie 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I was looking for my confession, except it's now somewhere in EP mystery land. There's no longer a confession link on my profile page. What am I missing (besides my confession)?
    Kim1girl Kim1girl 56-60, T 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Gonna try an condense 15 years into this post. 15 years ago, I met this girl via an online chat game. I'll call her Dawn. We hit it off instantly and we were pretty much...
    Malumbrus Malumbrus 31-35, M May 25

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    UGH- so in very short nut shell about 18 months ago I was working for a non-profit that had a state contracted job, that I had, the company got bought out and then the state...
    kyla1098 kyla1098 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    Sometimes I wish I could cry, only the tears can't be found. I'm surrounded by a thousand screams, but I can't hear a single sound. I'm walking through a land of darkness...
    good4nothin1 good4nothin1 31-35, M 2 Responses May 5

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    So there's this guy, let's call him... Joe (because his name is Joe) and I am in love with him. Maybe its not even love. Maybe I'm just infatuated. But I can't stop thinking about...
    ShesSimplyKenny ShesSimplyKenny 18-21, F 2 Responses May 13

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    ... is it premonition or just pessimism? I'm actually not pessimistic. I try to see the bright side of life no matter how shattered I feel inside. And if there is no bright side...
    MentallyVibrating MentallyVibrating 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm in love with two men.. well I'm really only in love with one... but one is good for me.. but I can't make myself fall in love with him.. The other has hurt me.. and is a...
    alienmom82 alienmom82 31-35, F 4 Responses May 23

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    I'm 19, I was raised to respect and obey my parents as long as I lived under their roof, so that's what I am doing. Being forced to go to church (Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's...
    behavedmisfit behavedmisfit 18-21, F 10 Responses May 20

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    My dad yelled at me. He says I spend too much time locked up in my room on the computer. It's not actually true, and I think that I was *this* close to being grounded probably just...
    IRemainAnonymous IRemainAnonymous 13-15, F May 22

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    I've studied sociology, anthropology, psychology and biochemistry and I don't think I'll ever get it. I've experienced infatuation and lust but love..... Nope. I'm not sure it's...
    4science 4science 22-25 1 Response May 24

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    I do not want your pity just understanding but you can't comprehend. So they say just move on, get over it, grow up and ect.. Which makes me want to cut their throats but I won't...
    Notadickjusthonest Notadickjusthonest 26-30, F 4 Responses May 23

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    I can't avoid this pain any longer. I can't hide this part of myself. Can somebody save me? Johnny please... Fill this emptiness. Make me feel whole again. Your gone. I accept this...
    Flowerpower5678 Flowerpower5678 18-21, F 1 Response May 14

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    I'm new to this and I need to get this feeling out. So here I go. Second Grade is where it started. Mrs. Holston's class. I walked into that class not knowing what to...
    AtheistChrist AtheistChrist 13-15, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm 44 years old with a 4 year old and a 2 year old and I know I'll never be able to find love. All the men my age don't want little kids when they've already gotten their kids out...
    lucismom lucismom 41-45, F 2 Responses May 12

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    I am.. but sometimes I wish I could read other's thoughts. Lately my life's been very busy and hectic... but for a woman that spend so much time being 'caged' up.. being...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    As always i am thinking about you and wonder if your thinking of me too. I often think about that day i had with you.That was the first time we spent a day together since the first...
    solongago2 solongago2 31-35, F 1 Response May 7

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    I just have deep passion for multiple people but the one person I always end up having the deepest emotions for is someone I can't be with. It's an inappropriate bond that I can't...
    Gabbysam Gabbysam 16-17, F 1 Response May 16

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    I lived with my bf for a year.. He's from Iraq and I am from South America but we both live in United States. I discovered some pics on Facebook about him and a baby which I asked...
    Alicoop Alicoop 36-40, F 6 days ago

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    I'm so in love with a man who says that he can do anything for his family.. He will just ask them if he could marry me and explain my family situation ( parents divorced n...
    justsomebody12 justsomebody12 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    He is a little kid!! He always "forgets" to do stuff, I think he just has selective memory! I can't stand it! On top of so many problems and baggage he comes with, why do I have to...
    Gia00 Gia00 26-30, F 1 Response May 6

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    It's the strangest thing. I don't know what she looks like. I don't know where she lives exactly, just that it would take a plane ride to get there. We've only exchanged...
    Brontide Brontide 36-40, M 3 Responses May 6

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    8 weeks since he went back to W. I think of him every day, I do still wonder if he thinks of me 2. On a bad day my heart still aches and crys out for him. I am moving on a bit now...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 2 Responses May 11

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    i was 10 when i started thats when hell broke lose. it was 4th grade the joy of growing up filled me i couldn't wait to begin. when i did pain started. i was bigger than most girls...
    thewatcher12 thewatcher12 13-15 1 Response May 15

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    The feeling I hate the most when unable to sleep is the piercing loneliness. There's nothing between you and your thoughts and you wish you had someone to call, someone to message...
    Featherwings Featherwings 18-21, F 2 Responses May 21

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