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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 250 People

    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    Loving Me!

    i realise that to really love someone you need to know and love yourself. so ill go and do just that!!!! (in time)
    LittleLostQueen LittleLostQueen 18-21, F Sep 18, 2007

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    AND I Truly Do

    I AM PROUD THAT'S ONE HURDLE I'VE GOTTEN OVER AND IT IS THE SIMPLEST CONCEPT BUT THE MOST DIFFICULT TASK. THANK GOD I MADE IT. I REALLY DO LOVE ME.
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F Mar 18, 2009

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 70+ 2 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    When I was younger, I thought: "Finding love should be relatively easy, just choose the right girl...". Heh, how naive. The only "right girl" that I found was already taken. And...
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    This mostly happens when I'm upset, I can't find the words to explain anything because everything I'm going through is just feelings. It's hard to explain to somebody that you don...
    qwernia qwernia 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    I lost a friend. I still can't believe this. We had stopped talking but its still sad and painful to know she's gone. :(
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    Haha. because I can't speak English correctly. *hurt
    Hartini Hartini 22-25, F Dec 5

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    A few months ago, three of my five best friends graduated from our high school. I was a year below them, so I had to stay. Watching them go was probably the hardest thing I've ever...
    EEB13 EEB13 16-17 16 hrs ago

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    10yeargap.com focuses on younger women dating older men and it encourages age gap marriage. 10YearGap.com is not a sugar daddy site. Single women are attracted to older single men...
    JessieFay JessieFay 31-35, F Dec 2

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    I woke up this morning and poof! ..my lighter is gone. I have looked everywhere and have resorted to a candle, lit via a piece of paper lit via the toaster. Yes I love candles, yes...
    BarefeetAndPalmtrees BarefeetAndPalmtrees 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    To tell you that there is probably a big smile plastered across your face, it's what you've wanted, it was hard hearing how much you wanted it...you've been through so much in your...
    orchids2blu orchids2blu 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have nowhere else to post this. I don't want whatever drama might come with exposing you, so I'll keep my mouth shut. You broke my heart once. I let you get close to me again...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F Dec 6

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    Why can't e just notice I'm alive it kills me every time he looks and me and walks away why can't he love me the same way I love him ugh
    purtylilcountrythang purtylilcountrythang 13-15, F 20 hrs ago

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    I am trying to write a poem about a guy, looking for love in all the wrong ways and places. But I can't find the flow. Could I get some female advice? Please. WOMEN ONLY!
    deademotion11 deademotion11 22-25, M Nov 23

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    Hi I'm synthea sprauer 15 and I started cutting when i was 11.I stopped when I was 13 and started again a couple months ago. each time I cut it gets worse and deeper but I feels...
    slowlyfading35 slowlyfading35 13-15 1 Response a week ago

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    Being a minority and racially slandered by society, I'm all too aware of it so I know every body else is. Education, to me can be nothing more than word of mouth and protocol. To...
    phenom0086 phenom0086 26-30, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I can't feel pain anymore. No matter how hard I try to cry, I just can't. There seems to be no happiness no joy no love. Love doesn't exist. Is just something that slowly eats at...
    chameleonvenom chameleonvenom 18-21, M 9 hrs ago

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    . I don't reckon i've waited like some ohter huys have. You know. like down th ri8ver and stuff. but by goll6b 8[ve wa8ted./ I had to edeleteee some othnis post because i couldn't...
    itismichael itismichael 36-40, M 13 hrs ago

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    Hey guys. I need help & advice. So i have a boyfriend, he is amazing, he loves me very much and he cares for me like crazy. We had been together for 8 months, but a person got in...
    iSimplyWish iSimplyWish 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 26

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    I can't seem to find true happiness, I grew up at my grand ma place, my dad is based in Asia country, have always go to school myself, other kids come to school with their mother...
    lindadalexmonroe lindadalexmonroe 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 27

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    All this is too horrible and I don't want to believe it. First of all, my parents are really nice people: they love each other, they get along so well, they love me, and we look...
    cerisesetharicots cerisesetharicots 13-15, F 19 hrs ago

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    Being sixteen and in love is inconvenient. Add in the factors that I am gay and she is not. She is 18 and leaving school and I am not, and finally the fact that we aren't close (so...
    Kayceyy Kayceyy 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 13

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    We are not going to see one another over the whole of the Christmas holidays and all I want to do is take her in my arms and kiss her she is on my mind constantly when I'm awake...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Finally, a place to find some comfort. Thank you so much for your story... of course, I draw such similarity to my experience. I have had an affair for almost 4 years and she...
    hearbrokenandlonely hearbrokenandlonely 46-50 a week ago

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    She takes it slowly at first but learns that this is the person for her and that she has no need to be hesitant as she will never find out unless she takes a leap of faith...
    darnit05 darnit05 31-35, F Nov 23

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    Before I was born, my mother was pregnant with my brother and decided to marry my father for the support. She stayed with him for twenty years until now to raise her children...
    bubbleteax bubbleteax 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    I don't know how it all happened, or at least I am pretending not to know. Lately I've been waking up in a mild panic just as I fall asleep. I flip on the lights and wait until I...
    Friability Friability 18-21 1 Response Nov 22

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    I am frustrated today. It's due to little unimportant things that should not matter. Things are not succeeding today: like attaching a wall plate to a power outlet in a bathroom...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I am married for 2 years ... We were in love until marriage came and destroyed everything ... He changed and o discovered too many after marriage now i haven't have actual sex and...
    Naninono Naninono 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    I hate liars I can't stand fakeness The worst is when you catch someone in the lie
    Juggalooking Juggalooking 70+, M 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    My mum told me she wants to divorce my dad because of me in an argument and I can't get over it :(
    lostlouise97 lostlouise97 16-17, F 4 hrs ago

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