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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 247 People

    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 66-70 3 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 5 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Oh wow! I thought I was the weird one and considered hiring a therapist but it looks like I'm not. I've an amazing mother and had a loving father. Growing up, they took care of...
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    I lay in bed at night and imagine being someone else. A girl that I've completely made up over the course of years that lives a perfect life. I feel like I know her better than I...
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    Gudsine Gudsine 36-40, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I really can't I second guess myself too much
    sweetangel20 sweetangel20 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Fierceapple Fierceapple 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    FadeIntoTheDarkness FadeIntoTheDarkness 13-15, F a week ago

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    I'll be 30 this October 2015, I can't believe I'll be that old. and I still don't drive..or can't drive. Its not that I haven't tried. As a teen I took driver's ed in highschool...
    DrawingDragons DrawingDragons 26-30, F Jul 27

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    It's too hard for me to look at myself and just be happy. It's really cliché, but I can't help it. I can't seem to find myself as good enough. I don't know if it has something to...
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    He's 27, I'm 20. He's flying off to New Zealand, I'm flying off to Neverland. Haha. Damn. Two years of concealed feelings, and still nothing has changed. Why can't the universe be...
    zrylism zrylism 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    This guy.. He's something different.. Something I won't find again.. And I feel like I belong with him. He even said he loved me, and I love him, too.. But what if he doesn't...
    JSylvia1015 JSylvia1015 13-15, F Jul 25

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    I believe we all have a Batman like friend (emotionless and stotic) while i'm the Joker friend (carefree and funny), except almost nowhere near psychotic:I tried so hard, my dear...
    EternalLuckyGuy EternalLuckyGuy 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    Although I'm not one to fangirl over movie stars, singers, etc; Channing Tatum is an exception. How can you not love him!😍😆
    WonderxGirl WonderxGirl 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    Sure can,t and find it a lot on this site..Damn it,s ok to be a perv i,m one at times as well but why lie...If you say you will do something do it...***.. just say n...Stop the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 25

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    You know when you think you're over it but you're really not. In October I started talking to this guy. It was weird because no one had ever shown interest in me prior to this but...
    FightingForRecovery FightingForRecovery 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    Met my bf 2 yrs ago and he didn't tell me for 3 months he had a kid. Don't know when they really broke up and could overlap. I can't accept he has a kid with her and it was also on...
    Ofmiceandmens Ofmiceandmens 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    This is a shoutout to anyone else who can't stand having themselves posted anywhere. I hate my body, I hate that I can't go anywhere without being paranoid about being picked on...
    Stradinius Stradinius 22-25, T Jul 21

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