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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 250 People

    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    AND I Truly Do

    I AM PROUD THAT'S ONE HURDLE I'VE GOTTEN OVER AND IT IS THE SIMPLEST CONCEPT BUT THE MOST DIFFICULT TASK. THANK GOD I MADE IT. I REALLY DO LOVE ME.
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F Mar 18, 2009

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 70+ 2 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    Loving Me!

    i realise that to really love someone you need to know and love yourself. so ill go and do just that!!!! (in time)
    LittleLostQueen LittleLostQueen 18-21, F Sep 18, 2007

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    It's really hard finding someone who willing to love you for you. -you wear something the guy doesn't like it -you hang out with your guy friends he wants you to hang out with...
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    Sometimes things get weird the less u know, the less u hurt.Sometimes people u trust may deceive u , Say stuff that truly affects u , ur heart hallow and empty .Sometimes without...
    belllla belllla 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I've been married for 13 years. My wife has put on weight since our last child (he is 11). Because of her weight and fitness we can not make love successfully. It's been probably...
    crossvilledavis crossvilledavis 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 10

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    I am trying to write a poem about a guy, looking for love in all the wrong ways and places. But I can't find the flow. Could I get some female advice? Please. WOMEN ONLY!
    deademotion11 deademotion11 22-25, M 5 days ago

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    Let me start with I have a problem. I'm only 19 and I have always been drawn to older women that have a strong personality. I went to job corps and Miss Maria was my 3rd shift...
    patriotslover21 patriotslover21 26-30, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    it's only been a week, and I tell myself not to think of him but I do. I know it's bad for me but I do. 2 years and gone. I can't stop thinking about him.
    VictoriaHall VictoriaHall 16-17, F 1 hr ago

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    Sign Here. Torn pages of my life. Ripped to pieces in the muddy **** you smashed them into. Burnt and frail in parts never to be salvaged. A huge chunk of it is still stuck on...
    BunniesCry BunniesCry 31-35, F Nov 9

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    Hey guys. I need help & advice. So i have a boyfriend, he is amazing, he loves me very much and he cares for me like crazy. We had been together for 8 months, but a person got in...
    iSimplyWish iSimplyWish 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I can't seem to find true happiness, I grew up at my grand ma place, my dad is based in Asia country, have always go to school myself, other kids come to school with their mother...
    lindadalexmonroe lindadalexmonroe 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    She takes it slowly at first but learns that this is the person for her and that she has no need to be hesitant as she will never find out unless she takes a leap of faith...
    darnit05 darnit05 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    I did it again. I pushed her away again, when she was close to letting me back into her world. Why do I feel like I am too much for her? Why do I feel like I am too much of a mess...
    aainfamous aainfamous 22-25, F Oct 31

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    I am 85% sure that girl I like will never be mine. Don't say man up and talk to her because that's not how I do stuff. I might get into a relationship but thats short term until...
    xxxfakerhaterxxx xxxfakerhaterxxx 18-21, M Nov 5

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    schlagathor schlagathor 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 7

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    Hello EP readers. I don’t know what I hope to gain from sharing all this, but I feel compelled to do so. You will probably think I’ve lost my mind by the time that you get to...
    ThePolarPanda ThePolarPanda 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 18

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    Sort of in denial that I have a problem. I would really like some advice on how to stop. I pick at my skin a lot. Even the tiniest little bump I will try to get something out of it...
    sweetbee33 sweetbee33 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    More of me venting than anything else... I do not celebrate holidays or my birthday or any other such holidays. It isn't that I am dull and boring, but I find it extremely...
    duhibrokeit duhibrokeit 31-35, M Nov 9

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    So.. I'm having the hardest time getting over this and I need help.. advice.. anything. my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. we met online while I was away at...
    mparks7 mparks7 18-21, F Nov 17

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    My husband to be is really an incredible human being. I've never met someone so loyal and dedicated to everything they do. He is so trust worthy and I feel so safe. I feel like no...
    Mousetoes Mousetoes 18-21, F Oct 29

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    I know this is so cliché, but I can't stop thinking of him! No matter what I'm doing throughout the day either at school or at home I find myself thinking about him. Maybe even...
    pats17 pats17 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 10

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    Friability Friability 18-21 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Hi there, I am in a relationship with a lovely man but I am a bit wary, here are the reasons: 1) he lives with his partner who has been telling him for a long time she no longer...
    delphinia46 delphinia46 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 11

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    I don't regret meeting you, because for the first two years what we had was a great adventure. For the many times you hurt me I want to say that I should have stood up to you. I...
    BlueZeo BlueZeo 26-30, M Nov 13

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