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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 249 People

    AND I Truly Do

    I AM PROUD THAT'S ONE HURDLE I'VE GOTTEN OVER AND IT IS THE SIMPLEST CONCEPT BUT THE MOST DIFFICULT TASK. THANK GOD I MADE IT. I REALLY DO LOVE ME.
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F Mar 18, 2009

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Loving Me!

    i realise that to really love someone you need to know and love yourself. so ill go and do just that!!!! (in time)
    LittleLostQueen LittleLostQueen 18-21, F Sep 18, 2007

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 66-70 3 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    covernine covernine 46-50, F Apr 6

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    I hate myself. Did you ******* hear me I HATE MYSELF. Yeah. a lot. What you want some kinda proof that only young people can have a monopoly on hating themselves!!! Man. How self...
    lifeisforfree lifeisforfree 66-70, M Apr 16

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    You can find a job because it's all in your head
    extincthumanspecies extincthumanspecies 26-30, F Mar 29

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    I have the perfect apartment but it's on the expensive side. I could move to a nearby building and save maybe $2000 a year but there are always hidden fees and I'm worried I would...
    fixiefemme fixiefemme 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I dream of nothing anymore. I just feel tired. I have one thing left. I've been married 44 years. I was hoping. That I would buy the farm first. Doesn't seem that way. I have a...
    lifeisforfree lifeisforfree 66-70, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Sexually. Everyone I'm interested in has already done "it". They're cool people but it just kinda makes me feel odd. I guess I'm the weird one .-.
    TrackStackz TrackStackz 13-15, M Mar 29

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    Here's the short of it: Found out 100 percent that she's been having an ongoing affair with a guy seven years younger. Our relationship has and never will be the same. I begged her...
    theworstfeeling theworstfeeling 51-55, M Apr 4

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    eally don't know how to express this but I've actually feel comfortable enough to even post this! My life right now is not as pleasant as it should or could be! I'm a 28 yr old...
    TewTewLove TewTewLove 26-30, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    If i can ever find love , things might change. There is no guarantee though as to if anything would change
    Thedepressedgirlatthewindow Thedepressedgirlatthewindow 16-17, F Apr 12

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    the date was march 9 when we broke up. but before it happened, i was having conversation with my girl friend. i like her and i know having conversations with her is not good, but i...
    EricGo EricGo 18-21, M 11 hrs ago

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    I didn't believe in God until I started having the strangest things happen to me. First they were subtle little things that could have been set up. Then they graduated to paranoia...
    SeasonsinHell SeasonsinHell 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    I owe you an explanation I can't give you in fact. Suppose I never will. I could barely explain it, even though it's actually very simple... I told you I was afraid to be around...
    Mellangela Mellangela 26-30, F Apr 3

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    I am 20 years old now, and I have never had a girlfriend, I have never kissed a girl, I haven't even ever held a girls hand. It makes me feel so pathetic and sad to realise that...
    WandererJay WandererJay 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    I am 16 yrs old girl and in my life happened something strange that I cant understand but I love and I cant let go altough it is hurting me and I just can't decide what is right so...
    nitheism nitheism 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    Don't get me wrong, I love my parents. It's just... sometimes (most of the time) I wish they would get divorced. My mum is easily pissed off and my dad constantly shouts and swears...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 9

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    Trying to tell myself what I would tell a friend for comfort. Trying to answer the question how can love die. How can one be so cherished once then a just bit of history. Missing...
    stufy stufy 46-50 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I can't remember the first 10 or 12 years of my life. And what few "memories" I have are more like pictures (like I may have seen a picture of it and remember that/I only remember...
    IAmJustAGhostGirl IAmJustAGhostGirl 13-15, F Apr 7

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    I met this guy who I had an incredible connection with - we slept together for the good part of a year, until we decided to stop the physical because the relationship wasn't going...
    catonfire catonfire 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    That happens when you haven't done anything productive in days... I wasn't in school from Wednesday, and I don't see it getting better. I'm going to the doctor tomorrow, but I don...
    BMTH99 BMTH99 16-17, F 3 hrs ago

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    I wanted someone to know me before I died. Wanted them to know what I was really like. I think that's part of what sparked my ramble today. That, and weariness. My ramble was a cry...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 1 Response Apr 14

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    They just wouldn't understand. well, most people wouldn't understand. No one can truly understand how I feel. If I told my family / friends everything that bothered me, and how I'm...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94 18-21, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    I can't seem to settle with making friends. Maybe its because I'm too shy or awkward? I don't know. I always feel like making friends is great until conflicts starts settling in...
    ohangela ohangela 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    family parties are impossible for me it's like an over abundance of my entire family's thoughts just hit me to hard and I just can't handle it
    wlanonymouslw wlanonymouslw 18-21, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Ivan has gotten so close to me again. He's checking on me everyday, he even asked for a hug. He even told me in front of pretty much the entire class "I've probably hurt you more...
    BrokenGlassDoll BrokenGlassDoll 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    You told me today I pushed you away and I can`t even tell you were wrong. I do, I push you away, because it hurts too much to be around you. To see you, to talk to you, it makes me...
    Mellangela Mellangela 26-30, F Apr 5

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