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I Can't Find Love Until I Love Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 249 People

    I Feel Like a Failure

    I feel like such a failure. I can never accomplish my one and only goal. I want to loose weight. I want to gain self confidence, which is at level zero. I have tried to diet countless times. Its so emberrising and so huniliateing that I cant do this one things. I cant talk about...
    tryingtofindwhoiam tryingtofindwhoiam 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2009

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    It's Just So Hard

    I know in my heart that this is the truth. I can't expect anyone to love me if I don't love myself first. But it's so incredibly hard for me to love myself. I've never really accepted that I am the way I am and I need to be happy and love myself for that. I don't really have much...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F Jan 26, 2008

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    I Thought I Did...

    I can't possibly truly love him because I don't have enough enough love for myself and that is my true problem. My New Year's Resolution is to have more love for myself.
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F Dec 31, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    Loving Me!

    i realise that to really love someone you need to know and love yourself. so ill go and do just that!!!! (in time)
    LittleLostQueen LittleLostQueen 18-21, F Sep 18, 2007

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    How Can I Love Someone When I Can'T Love Myself

    Ok your probally going to say I'm too young to say this but I don't believe in love right now guys I date want me to say I love them but I don't I don't even love myself well enough to love them and they think I'm trying to hurt but that's not the case love isn't a 3 week...
    Shayalex Shayalex 18-21 Feb 25, 2013

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    Mwah!

    And I think I'm finally on my way to loving myself!! Thank God!!
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2011

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    Learn To Love Yourself - Try This - Make Lists Of Reasons Why You Are Wonderful

    Make a list of wonderful things about yourself. this is certainly not my original idea. All you "Secret" readers will know that right away. Why not? You are alive, you are here and have not given up, so make your list. I am wonderful because (doubt I can list hundreds of...
    doejohn2043 doejohn2043 70+ 2 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    I Just Realized This...

    For so long I have been searching for answers on why am I like this. I have been in several relationship but not one turn out to be good or happy. Of course I want to be loved and I want to love someone. But, I can't seem to truly fall in love with someone and that...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    Give So Much, Get Nothing Back

    I hate myself so much it hurts. I try to love myself, but I feel like I am unworthy. When someone comes into my life, I love them too much. I cling to them and they lift my spirit to the point where I am finally OK and I can start loving myself. Then they leave me and I fall...
    Lotte11 Lotte11 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2011

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    I Think...

    That's the most difficult truth I've had to accept. The problem is, I don't think I can love myself until someone loved me... I need proof that I am lovable... Of course then I realize it doesn't work that way... I don't think I could ever love myself 100% though. Therein lies...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    A Lesson Learned!

    I took me a very LONG time to learn this! I didn't love myself, when my horrible exes came across my paths. I was looking for others to love me first, before I could love myself. That thinking was "bass ackwards"! And that's why, I think, my exes were such horrible...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18, 2009

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    Being

     Being... It is the letting go of all the should's, the must's, the have-to's, the have-nots, the cannots, the doubts and the guilt. > It is allowing your thoughts to come forth - without judgement. > It is allowing yourself to feel - without judgement. > It is...
    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    burwi333 burwi333 36-40, M Oct 24, 2010

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    AND I Truly Do

    I AM PROUD THAT'S ONE HURDLE I'VE GOTTEN OVER AND IT IS THE SIMPLEST CONCEPT BUT THE MOST DIFFICULT TASK. THANK GOD I MADE IT. I REALLY DO LOVE ME.
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F Mar 18, 2009

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    A Bittersweet Cliché

                      "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror." - Ken Keyes            At one point I loathed such words. I interpreted it as being ignorant and looking through rose...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Goodness Gracious This Sucks....

    basically I liked this guy. Im not allowed to 'like' yet. i gotta learn to deal with my **** first. normally this would be no problem exepect i had the rare oppertunity in which this guy actually liked me back. problem: we live 20ft apart in our dorm. Im a art geek, fantasy...
    abittobright abittobright 18-21, F Oct 28, 2013

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    What is wrong with me? I feel so empty and dark. It's like so what that I have a boyfriend. He works overnight every night and I am alone. Yes, I have somewhere to live. FOR THAT I...
    minnieadams minnieadams 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I think I might've been blocked by this girl who was complaining that women have it soo much worse than men... I'm not sure since I just joined, but I can't find the post or...
    AaronH96 AaronH96 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It has been over five years now, and has taken me this long to come close to accepting it. I just don't get it though. Let me explain. About five years ago I was under lots of...
    kinkysexybabe kinkysexybabe 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 13

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    Sigh. Where to start. I'm 29 and never been kissed. Never been asked out. Never been in a relationship or even on a date. Not even in high school. I chalk up my relational dry...
    Addressingthevoid Addressingthevoid 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    It feels good to type everything down here.. I have been keeping everything to myself and it is getting harder to manage but I am sure that I can seek advises from other persons...
    Zenalia Zenalia 18-21, F Feb 23

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    I'm kind of glad people can't read my thoughts sometimes. I just find learning about certain things, or doing research on certain things, that "normal" people wouldn't really find...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 18 Responses 4 days ago

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    I can't take anything seriously these days that it's come to the point that I feel apathetic and numb to everything. My friends, my part-time job co-workers (though this makes...
    Unable2Breathe Unable2Breathe 22-25 1 Response 2 days ago

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    *I can’t attest to facts of this story. It was narrated by a not so reliable colleague of mine, but a good friend* We once had the good fortune to meet this charismatic woman...
    xtaldart xtaldart 31-35, M 4 hrs ago

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    I'm so ready to throw in the towel, wave a white surrender flag. Nothing I do ever works out and all I do is sit around feeling sorry for myself. I want to die every day, I am no...
    brokenandlost brokenandlost 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I'm a gay guy in my sophomore year of high school. At the beginning of my freshman year in high school I saw a boy named Josh in my multi-media design class. I kinda liked him at...
    smellyfeetguy20 smellyfeetguy20 18-21, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I feel this connection with an actor I don't personally know. It feels weird but my intuition is telling me I will be with him. The same exact thing happened with my ex. He's a...
    TheBossAng TheBossAng 16-17 1 Response Feb 24

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    so a year and a half ago I started a relationship with someone that in no way should have ever been thought of but it was and it happened and at first it started out as just sex...
    sissieblue sissieblue 31-35, F Feb 20

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    I put alot into my relationship with my ex and I got nothing out. I'm talking physically, mentally and emotionally. I've realised that's why I have this feeling of i can't be...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Please please, I don't wanna live anymore. Today was a terrible day, and I wish I could just delete everything from my memory that happened (actually not only today, but this whole...
    ABACDEE ABACDEE 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    Need help/advice! Here's my story: My mom and dad split up before I was born, so I never really saw much of my dad or his side of the family growing up. When I was about 17, my dad...
    Italy21 Italy21 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    How many of us on this app are true introverts and don't even know it. I say this because I myself learned about this about a year ago with the help of some new friends. For the...
    diamondgirl07 diamondgirl07 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 8

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    And I want to tell her, but she's going through a lot right now (Work stress, three deaths in her family in the last month and she can't afford to fly home to see them, and other...
    kikikoko80 kikikoko80 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    Bad religion...I could never make them love me without denouncing all I am for one or the other. is it unrequited love or am I just in the wrong place at the wring time? She could...
    Dannie92 Dannie92 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    I have tried an tried again to be what he wants. I can never be. The moment I have any happiness. He has to crush it. Why do I not just go away? Six foot under cant be that bad. No...
    Txwoman123 Txwoman123 41-45, F Feb 22

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    No matter how hard I try I can't bring myself to honestly confide in another person. I feel as if they will judge me, or that they think they can no longer view me as someone they...
    FirstSnowFall FirstSnowFall 18-21, F Feb 8

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    I can't stand being with my boyfriend any longer, but I don't know if I can leave him...I'm too afraid to let go. So this is our story: We're at a long distance relationship...
    Bitterlove Bitterlove 16-17, F Feb 10

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    I try. But I'm stuck in a pattern of attracting toxic people. I'm trying to break out of that. I know it starts with healing and self-love. I know I'm a good person, I'm kind...
    Undeadly Undeadly 41-45, F Feb 10

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    I have been single every valentines day, until this one. My boyfriend had asked me what I'd like to do earlier that week & for once I felt my heart speed up in excitement that I...
    gluestickruler gluestickruler 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 15

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    I'm feeling much down today .. Most day's I feel always happy & some of other half feeling like crap ! .. I don't see myself happy as I use to be before I can't cry over myself I'm...
    billyaldo billyaldo 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 20

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