I Can't Get Close to People

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    Bubble Girl

    It's just so difficult for me to open up and let people close. My "self" is so guarded, there isn't really a way for me to just let people in. They have to do things to sort of prove themselves to me. Not certain things, and for different people it may take more or less things...
    angeldancer angeldancer
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2012

    I Scare People, But I Dont Know Why

    Hi, well, my life has always being complicated, I dont have a lot of friends, I used to be bullied at school, because I was shy, and I am a year ahead at school so I am younger than almost all my classmates, also my Intellectual coeficient is high (135-140) and I am obsessive...
    mccintosh mccintosh
    18-21, M
    Aug 16, 2012

    And I'd Rather Not

    I isolate myself so well. It's an art form and I've perfected it. Outside of Ep, I find it really hard to let people in. Even with good friends I bite my tongue. I like observing, I don't like exposing myself even in insignificant ways. I am secretive, and it's hard for me to let...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 10, 2011

    I Can't Even Bother, I Don't Know How To . . .

     Condition aside. Being alone used to feel like a choice. But lately I've become some sort of repellant . I ramble. Im inappropriate.  All the things to give a person the excuse to run and hide from me, i give. My choice, not anymore. I think I crippled my self socially. Any...
    InspiredbyHair InspiredbyHair
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 8, 2011

    Once I get close to someone.

    I get too attached.
    LilRedFoxTail LilRedFoxTail
    22-25, M
    Mar 15, 2014

    Nor Do I Desperately Want To...

    I love and cherish my alone time. I had a girlfriend for a year and loved her more than my own life, but she broke up with me, and I have no desire to find someone else. My friends are my friends, and I enjoy spending time with them, but I would much rather be alone. I enjoy...
    TranquilTalk TranquilTalk
    18-21, M
    Apr 20, 2011

    Comforting Someone Crying

    Last year, I was in a room with a friend, more like an acquaintance at the time, and she looked very upset.  She was on my roommate's bed and I was in the other.  She was crying I think, and I handed her a box of tissues.  She was upset over her boyfriend and what...
    EileenRamQ EileenRamQ
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 25, 2007

    The Theme of My Life.  I ...

    The theme of my life.  I really feel no connection to anyone.  It's like I'm watching everyone else on television.
    Mandragora Mandragora
    46-50, F
    Oct 20, 2007

    So I saw today's EP of the day was tomato soup

    with a healthy side of fear? Something about being "Afraid" of letting ppl get close.. (stuck on iPhneFTL) And I thought well....I'm not afraid of something if I know what's going to happen... They'll see me, be amazed with me.. Start to get closer and then ... They'll stand...
    SShawnO SShawnO
    41-45, M
    May 2, 2014

    I Can't Get Close To People.

    When I was growing up I had a step dad that "taught" me ( beat me) to not show any emotions because it would mean that your a weak man. So I grew up keeping all my emotions in me. Everyone I meet don't really want to spend any time with me because they think I'm emotionless. And...
    tylerlou tylerlou
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2011

    I used to get close to people quickly

    now I don't, the fear of being blissfully happy installs fear and dread inside me incase it's taken from me again.
    Paleandpolluted86 Paleandpolluted86
    26-30, F
    Jan 11, 2014

    People get tired of me easily.

    I need a long time to show my true self. No body has the patience to hang around to meet that person, so they just take off. Their loss I guess.
    alexiadahl alexiadahl
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jul 4, 2014

    I used to get close to people,...

    I used to get close to people, but then in time I relize it comes with a price, you get hurt, so now I keep my distance and only stay close with those I truly know.
    rosygal rosygal
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2007


    I am afraid to get close to people again. let anyone see and get to know the real me... I don't know if I could try to accept someone only to not be accept in the end. How do u do that?
    DamensWalker81 DamensWalker81
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 7, 2010

    How to Get and Stay Close to People?

    Outside of my blood relatives (and I don't often talk to or see them), I've lost touch with everyone I've ever known. My husband is the longest I've known someone for and it has been less than 5 years since we met. I know he loves me but he doesn't really know me and I'm afraid...
    Sandra Sandra
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 7, 2007

    I Am Afraid to Reveal Myself

    I had a friend tell me the other day that I am "so damned reserved" that no one knows what is going on with me.  I put on the happy face, I interact, I'm social, I joke around, but when it comes to revealing anything about who I really am, I just can't seem to do...
    Molly23 Molly23
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 7, 2007

    I want to connect very badly,

    but then I worry about disappointing them. It's a self- fulfilling prophecy.
    iamcass iamcass
    36-40, F
    Jan 21, 2015

    Can You Hear Me?

    I think I can't get close to people because i sub-consciously push them away because of fear or I think it may have to do with my upbringing. I'm not close to my father. To me, he's just there. I try to get close, but he's not much of a talker, and neither am I. Our relationship...
    closedwindow closedwindow
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 5, 2012

    I Have Major Trust Issues. ...

    I have MAJOR trust issues. There are ppl I would say I'm close to but NO ONE that knows me completely...no one that I can honestly say I'm always 100% truthful with. I always tell half truths so that I don't give out too much information ya know. I'm always careful about what I...
    pepsi21addict pepsi21addict
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2007

    Too Painful

    I cant get close to people since its to painful for me.Ive gotten hurt alot by people that i was close with,people that i though would never hurt me the way they did.Ive tried to get close to people thats been in my life forever,but i cant.I dont want to get hurt anymore so i mak...
    demonicsangel2011 demonicsangel2011
    22-25, F
    Oct 18, 2011

    They All Think I Care

    From what I have been told, I am charming, friendly, funny, outgoing, relatable, and comfortable to be around. People remember me and are for some reason drawn to me. I have a pretty nice circle of friends of which I am actually the leader. Sounds pompous, I know. But it's true...
    selinamb selinamb
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 21, 2012

    i don't know what's wrong with me.

    i want friends but I can't make them. i put a smile on but i can't keep a conversation going for more than two minutes. no wonder they they don't talk to me anymore. even now i sound like such a joy kill. i was never outgoing to begin with. i was always happiest alone in my...
    blusunblackmoon blusunblackmoon
    22-25, F
    Feb 26, 2016

    Everyone Fades...

    People tell me to be "open". But the second that I am "open" people just disappear. They aren't even worth the effort anymore because my life isn't getting better and no one sticks around me. This is why I'd rather stay "closed" because I know that 99.9% of people will always...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe
    7 Responses Aug 15, 2011

    Void Of Emotions.

    The people i my life are statistically categorized as this: 1% (this only being my husband) care for me and i give the same care back, 4% (mother, father, grandmother) are close only out of basic relation but are usually negligent, 15% (in-laws, husbands sibling) know near...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 1, 2012


    I dont know how to get close to people I guess it cause im afraid of being hurt but I just cant
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2010

    I Cant Remain Close To Girls.

    Im in a relationship with the most beautiful girl ive ever met. But I already have doubts about if im not good enough or if i can make her happy. And I constantly feel like shes gonna cheat on me. All this worry gives me tons of anxiety. Ive been like this most of my life and end...
    Anxiety850 Anxiety850
    26-30, M
    1 Response Dec 28, 2010

    I Don't Know Why

    I guess my reason is that I just don't know how.  I am afraid of letting people in, letting them see the real me.  I think it's because I don't even know the real me, so how can I let other people in?  I wish I could, I don't like having this barrier that people...
    boudica1224 boudica1224
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 15, 2007


    I think I'm just socially inept when it comes to getting close to people, so I've just given up.
    deleted deleted
    Aug 16, 2011

    Trust Issues.

    When you've been gossiped about, and stabbed in the back enough, you start to realize, that the world is full of unkind people. You start to realize that... Your friends don't really like you. They don't want you here. They want you to leave them alone. That you're annoying. And...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies
    61-65, M
    5 Responses Apr 7, 2012

    Breaking An Invisible Barrier

    it is like i am living..or walking around in a bubble...a strong one that is...and i just cannot get close to people. im talking both physically and emotionally. it is always either i back away or the other person does it. i wonder why for ages. is it because i am different? but...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 28, 2008

    More In A Literal Stance

    Things have happened and I just cannot go within more of two feet of person. I guess that can be taken figuritve sense as well.
    MissingIdentidy MissingIdentidy
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 19, 2012

    Needs To Be Improved!

    I do get close to people, very quickly in fact. People i meet on daily basis, from classes, school. But as soon as I lose touch with them, its like we were never friends before. And I hate small talk. Be it my relatives, or someone i met for the first time or after a long time, I...
    ftale ftale
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 28, 2012

    I Have A Hard Time Making New Friends

    As I've grown older, I've grown shyer and more withdrawn.  I started to notice in my teenage years that I could not really connect with people or make friends that easily.  Eventually, in high school, I had some friends, played in various bands, and, come to think of...
    ClassOf200Hate ClassOf200Hate
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 2, 2010


    I like myself and know that I'm different from most women. I love football and hate shopping. Most of my life has been about having fun. My relationships have all been the same - intense for two years then loss of interest. I definitely meet the same guy over and over. I...
    rabuf rabuf
    2 Responses Sep 10, 2011

    A Quote I Just Read

    I just started reading a new book and it started off with the following quote: A number of porcupines huddled together for warmth on a cold day in winter; but, as they began to pr*ck one another with their quills, they were obliged to disperse....At last, after many turns of...
    bizbuz bizbuz
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

    I'm scared of getting too close to anyone

    because those who said that they'll always be there for me, left.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody
    26-30, M
    Apr 28, 2015

    Its Normal For Me

     i dont like to ..it seems like everytime i do ... i get hurt .  my therapist says i only let people get so close to me before i shut down and either keep it where it is or cut them out completely .And i know i do ... its a defense mechanism ... and it keeps me from...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 24, 2007

    True Story

    I have problems getting close to people. I am starting to realize that I am a difficult person to get to know. And very few people know even the half of it. I’m guarded and I don’t break easily; no matter how close I am to people, I know that most of them are still kept at a...
    deleted deleted
    Apr 17, 2013

    Not After a Certain Point, Anyway.

    I used to be very very shy until about halfway through high school. I experienced a lot of social rejection when I was a kid - same old thing about children being cruel to the different ones - but a lot of people can say that. Still, I can remember getting the warm fuzzies when...
    DamageCtrl DamageCtrl
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 23, 2009

    At Arms Length

    Due to my way of thinking and how my mind seems to work when analysing those awkward or hard situations that arise in life, i tend to keep everyone at arms length, no-one truly knows me both inside and out, i feel as though there is no need for discussion upon an issue unless...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 26, 2012

    I am a closed book. ...

    I am a closed book. I think that I push people away on purpose. I dont mean to, but I do.
    silvertears silvertears
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2007

    It's Just A Thing, Man

    I really have a lot of trust issues. It takes a lot to break through my barrier of mistrust and even then I don't let people get too close for a while.
    deleted deleted
    Feb 2, 2011

    My Weakness Is That I Care Too Much

    i care too much what people will think if they know the real me. only one person really knows me. and im still hiding alot from her. and shes my best friend. to be completely honest i cant get too close to people. because im scared of getting hurt. the ones who are the...
    youdontknowme54321 youdontknowme54321
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 13, 2007

    I Am My Best Friend

    I am somewhat eccentric and a bit anti-social. I have a few trust issues that gets in the way of making friends. I can't get close to people for the fear of becoming vulnerable and setting myself up for rejection. The thought is unbearable and it's much easier to be withdrawn...
    tessa4ever tessa4ever
    31-35, F
    Jun 5, 2013
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