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I Can't Get Close to People

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    My Weakness Is That I Care Too Much - i care too much what people will think if they know the real me. only one person really knows me. and im still hiding alot from her. and shes...
    youdontknowme54321 youdontknowme54321 16-18, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2007

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    Bewildered - I like myself and know that I'm different from most women. I love football and hate shopping. Most of my life has been about having fun. My relationships have all...
    rabuf rabuf 51-55 2 Responses Sep 10, 2011

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    Im Afraid to Get to Close to P... - im afraid to get to close to people. they always leave me. I think its all in my head but tell that to my feelings and heart.
    irishwannabeky irishwannabeky 26-30, F Oct 20, 2007

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    I Am Afraid to Reveal Myself - I had a friend tell me the other day that I am "so damned reserved" that no one knows what is going on with me.  I put on the happy...
    Molly23 Molly23 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2007

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    I Can't Even Bother, I Don't Know How To . . . -  Condition aside. Being alone used to feel like a choice. But lately I've become some sort of repellant . I ramble. Im...
    InspiredbyHair InspiredbyHair 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I used to get close to people quickly now I don't, the fear of being blissfully happy installs fear and dread inside me incase it's taken from me again.
    Paleandpolluted86 Paleandpolluted86 26-30, F Jan 11

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    True Story - I have problems getting close to people. I am starting to realize that I am a difficult person to get to know. And very few people know even the half of it. I’m...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 17, 2013

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    I Can Only Get So Far. ... - I can only get so far. Not letting anyone know what I am really feeling keeps a barrier of sorts between me and everyone else. I just recently had a...
    starfly starfly 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    I Cant Remain Close To Girls. - Im in a relationship with the most beautiful girl ive ever met. But I already have doubts about if im not good enough or if i can make her happy...
    Anxiety850 Anxiety850 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2010

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    .............. - I dont know how to get close to people I guess it cause im afraid of being hurt but I just cant
    PRETTYGIRLHATESTHEWORLD PRETTYGIRLHATESTHEWORLD 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2010

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    I Can't Get Close To People. - When I was growing up I had a step dad that "taught" me ( beat me) to not show any emotions because it would mean that your a weak man. So I grew up...
    tylerlou tylerlou 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 28, 2011

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    I Don't Know Why - I guess my reason is that I just don't know how.  I am afraid of letting people in, letting them see the real me.  I think it's because I don't even...
    boudica1224 boudica1224 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 15, 2007

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    Needs To Be Improved! - I do get close to people, very quickly in fact. People i meet on daily basis, from classes, school. But as soon as I lose touch with them, its like we were...
    ftale ftale 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    Can You Hear Me? - I think I can't get close to people because i sub-consciously push them away because of fear or I think it may have to do with my upbringing. I'm not close to my...
    closedwindow closedwindow 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    Trust Issues. - When you've been gossiped about, and stabbed in the back enough, you start to realize, that the world is full of unkind people. You start to realize that... Your...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies 56-60, M 5 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    The Theme of My Life.  I ... - The theme of my life.  I really feel no connection to anyone.  It's like I'm watching everyone else on television.
    Mandragora Mandragora 46-50, F Oct 20, 2007

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    Once I get close to someone. I get too attached.
    LilRedFoxTail LilRedFoxTail 18-21, M Mar 15

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    I Have A Hard Time Making New Friends - As I've grown older, I've grown shyer and more withdrawn.  I started to notice in my teenage years that I could not really connect...
    ClassOf200Hate ClassOf200Hate 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 2, 2010

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    A Quote I Just Read - I just started reading a new book and it started off with the following quote: A number of porcupines huddled together for warmth on a cold day in winter...
    bizbuz bizbuz 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    It's Just A Thing, Man - I really have a lot of trust issues. It takes a lot to break through my barrier of mistrust and even then I don't let people get too close for a while.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 2, 2011

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    I Always Get Close to People A... - I always get close to people and they just let me down I need someone who won't disappoint me anymore. My ex disappointed me after 4 yrs and my...
    SoDone SoDone 16-18, F Dec 13, 2007

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    Fear - I am afraid to get close to people again. let anyone see and get to know the real me... I don't know if I could try to accept someone only to not be accept in the end. How...
    DamensWalker81 DamensWalker81 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2010

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    Idk - I think I'm just socially inept when it comes to getting close to people, so I've just given up.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 16, 2011

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    At Arms Length - Due to my way of thinking and how my mind seems to work when analysing those awkward or hard situations that arise in life, i tend to keep everyone at arms length...
    YellowLilyPad YellowLilyPad 18-21, F Nov 26, 2012

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    Its Normal For Me -  i dont like to ..it seems like everytime i do ... i get hurt .  my therapist says i only let people get so close to me before i shut down and either...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2007

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    I used to get close to people,... - I used to get close to people, but then in time I relize it comes with a price, you get hurt, so now I keep my distance and only stay close with...
    rosygal rosygal 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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    How to Get and Stay Close to People? - Outside of my blood relatives (and I don't often talk to or see them), I've lost touch with everyone I've ever known. My husband is the...
    Sandra Sandra 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 7, 2007

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    I'm Just Too Scared to - i don't like to get close to people cos i'm scared of losing them. it's hapened alot before so i now constantly fear losing people. with my ex-boyfriend, i...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F Aug 17, 2007

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    A Resolution! - I am learning more and more with time that I really don't need to  know other people's opinions. I am well equipped with  my own way of knowing what...
    caramelpeace caramelpeace 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 2, 2010

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    And I'd Rather Not - I isolate myself so well. It's an art form and I've perfected it. Outside of Ep, I find it really hard to let people in. Even with good friends I bite my...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 10, 2011

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    Breaking An Invisible Barrier - it is like i am living..or walking around in a bubble...a strong one that is...and i just cannot get close to people. im talking both physically and...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-18, F 4 Responses Jun 28, 2008

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    I Am Trying to Stay Away From ... - I am trying to stay away from toxic relationships, i do have a few people, i am close to.
    mother mother 61-65, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2007

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    Bubble Girl - It's just so difficult for me to open up and let people close. My "self" is so guarded, there isn't really a way for me to just let people in. They have to do...
    angeldancer angeldancer 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2012

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    Void Of Emotions. - The people i my life are statistically categorized as this: 1% (this only being my husband) care for me and i give the same care back, 4% (mother, father...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 1, 2012

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    More In A Literal Stance - Things have happened and I just cannot go within more of two feet of person. I guess that can be taken figuritve sense as well.
    MissingIdentidy MissingIdentidy 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 19, 2012

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    More like they can't get close to me, due to me not letting them. It's become like a protective barrier, I feel if I let them in, it will all end in tears one way or the other, and...
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M Mar 15

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    I Scare People, But I Dont Know Why - Hi, well, my life has always being complicated, I dont have a lot of friends, I used to be bullied at school, because I was shy, and I am a...
    mccintosh mccintosh 18-21, M Aug 16, 2012

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    Everyone Fades... - People tell me to be "open". But the second that I am "open" people just disappear. They aren't even worth the effort anymore because my life isn't getting...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 7 Responses Aug 15, 2011

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    Not After a Certain Point, Anyway. - I used to be very very shy until about halfway through high school. I experienced a lot of social rejection when I was a kid - same old thing...
    DamageCtrl DamageCtrl 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Too Painful - I cant get close to people since its to painful for me.Ive gotten hurt alot by people that i was close with,people that i though would never hurt me the way they did...
    demonicsangel2011 demonicsangel2011 18-21, F Oct 18, 2011

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    I Just Can't. - I get scared I'm going to get hurt. I hate to take a chance and be vulnerable when my feelings are on the line. I also have self-esteem issues where I don't feel...
    oldaccount oldaccount 18-21, M 4 Responses Oct 23, 2012

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    They All Think I Care - From what I have been told, I am charming, friendly, funny, outgoing, relatable, and comfortable to be around. People remember me and are for some reason...
    selinamb selinamb 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 21, 2012

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    I Am My Best Friend - I am somewhat eccentric and a bit anti-social. I have a few trust issues that gets in the way of making friends. I can't get close to people for the fear of...
    tessa4ever tessa4ever 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2013

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    Nor Do I Desperately Want To... - I love and cherish my alone time. I had a girlfriend for a year and loved her more than my own life, but she broke up with me, and I have no...
    TranquilTalk TranquilTalk 18-21, M Apr 20, 2011

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    I Need Boot Camp For Intimacy! - I ran across this group by Googling "I can't get close to people."  Isn't the Internet wonderful? I just turned 52 and it seems...
    jla520 jla520 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2009

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    Comforting Someone Crying - Last year, I was in a room with a friend, more like an acquaintance at the time, and she looked very upset.  She was on my roommate's bed and I was...
    EileenRamQ EileenRamQ 19-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2007

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    I am a closed book. ... - I am a closed book. I think that I push people away on purpose. I dont mean to, but I do.
    silvertears silvertears 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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    I Have Major Trust Issues. ... - I have MAJOR trust issues. There are ppl I would say I'm close to but NO ONE that knows me completely...no one that I can honestly say I'm always 1...
    pepsi21addict pepsi21addict 21-25, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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