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I Can't Have Children

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    No Hope

    All I ever wanted out of life was to be happy with a loving husband and a few children, it was my life goal, I never wanted anything more.I tried to get pregnant for eight years before I eventually conceived my daughter. I've never missed a period, never been late, 28 days, like...
    amigoodenough amigoodenough 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Too Old

    I always dreamed of having and bringing up my own chilldren. But I never met that special guy,  -  at least, I thought I did (years ago), but he wasn't committed.  Sometimes I wished I had tricked him into making me pregnant.  I'm too old to bear children now...
    Tibicina Tibicina 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    The 50/50 Chance

    Warning: Long, but if you read it you'll understand why. The title of this group does not fit me exactly, but it feels as if it does. See I was born with incorrect DNA. I look normal. I wear normal clothes. Outside of a weekly appliance change and an abnormal way of using the...
    crisc8 crisc8 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    No One To Talk To.

    I'm 18 years old, and a few months ago I was told (after years of irregularities) that there would be little chance of conception. I had never really thought much of having children before because I'm so young, but now it's all that I can think about. I have ridiculous jealousy...
    shannon0495 shannon0495 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    Cant Hav Kids

    Having always tried to stay positive its a mental battle fought everyday. Found out the condition is ireversible. Been struggling with it.. it wins most of the time..feel helpless and angry. Sad and bitter. Afraid and lonely. I see my brother and sis.. happy with their kids. I...
    hummtumm hummtumm 41-45, M 1 Response May 27, 2013

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    Never

    If you had ask anyone in my family they would have said "When she grows up, she will have 50 kids or 50 dogs." That statement use to make me laugh, but now it makes me cry. Because at the age of 16 my dreams have already been crushed. Having children will never be a option for me...
    dancer43 dancer43 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    I find it so painful

    when people tell me they are having a baby. No matter how happy i am for them it will make me cry. I then begin to wish it was me and think that its not fair. I feel like i am being selfish. Like I am not suppose to feel like this. I have wanted a family of my own for years. Now...
    maggiedjp2002 maggiedjp2002 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    How Do I Adjust?

    I am 50, and have always wanted children.  I thought I was fertile, but I waited to marry until late, at 37, and only then learned that complications for being a "DES Baby" had compromised my ability to have children.  Several...
    LydiaBlue LydiaBlue 46-50 1 Response Feb 25, 2009

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    A Life Without Children

    A year ago I was told I could not have children. I remember sitting in my specialist's office, my husband beside me, I was so disappointed. I had gone through the process of IVF in the year leading up to this moment. In a way I kind of had a gut feeling that the news...
    neopup73 neopup73 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Why Cant I Have Chidren

    I'm 32 years old and I can not produce a child .what can someone recommend me to do because me and my fiance really will like to have a baby
    mscountry mscountry 31-35 4 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    My Family Won't Let Me

    I'm 26 with a college degree. I may have a disability, but my family members hate me so much that they don't want me to reproduce kids. No one has a problem with my twin sister having 3 kids, but I want to get married & have kids, & they disapprove. So not fair!
    otad12 otad12 31-35, F 8 Responses Jan 26, 2010

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    Oh The Irony

    Since I was a little girl the only thing I wanted was children. Having my kids and loving them like no one ever. When I was 14 I said that I wish i could have a baby right now, but I was responsible enough. I'm 18 now and I found out I can't have them, at all. I was born without...
    s1lenc3 s1lenc3 18-21, F 15 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    "I Can't Have Children"

    I was told last year, when I was diagnossed with PCOS (polycristic ovarian syndrom) that the chances of me having children of my own, and without any specail procudures are slim to nothing. While when I found out this, my heart was broken, in a way, I don't see it as a bad thing...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 28, 2008

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    A Bitter Rant.

    I'm tired of people and their children. "OMG I'M SO HAPPY TO BE A NEW MOMMY!!!" "OMG I CAN'T WAIT TO MEET MY NEW BABY FOR THE FIRST TIME!" "I LOVE BEING A MOM!" Babies this. I'm pregnant that. Mommy this. Mommy that. Look at my kid, it did this. Look at my brat, it said that...
    absolutionist absolutionist 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 21, 2012

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    Sigh

    I have always wanted to be a mother. I didn't really care about a husband, but knew I wanted to be a mother. My older sister has always hated children. She has 2 sons. When they have a play-date or some congregational or communal activity, her husband is the one who deals with it...
    JusT613 JusT613 31-35 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    Missed My Chance..

    I'm a 23 yr old femal that jst had my ovaries and uterus removed due to dermoid cysts. It started in Jan..the pain anyway. But since April, it's been an up-hill battle trying to figure out what was wrong with me. I dealt with chronic pain daily..it was horrible. I finally...
    Bamababydoll Bamababydoll 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2010

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    Reason I Can't Have Children

    It's two, actually. First, it's financial reasons. I live with my mother in-law and it's very difficult and impossible to find an apartment these days that I can afford and doesn't need credit check, since I have bad credit. My husband is disabled and received SSI, I work full...
    Onigiri Onigiri 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    Who Knew...

    I was 16 years old when I got pregnant (2009). I was scared and ashamed. I didn't want to tell my parent. I didn't tell my parents. I hid my pregnancy for 9 months. I went to school like normal. I could hear people whisper about me, but I didn't care. I told myself I'm not...
    Luzaan Luzaan 18-21 1 Response Jul 26, 2013

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    I Didnt Think It'd Bother Me So Much

    I cant bare children, its an impossibility for me. I have known this for a long time. That used to not bother me so much when I was younger... but as life goes on... :'( Some nights, it absolutely kills me. I dont know how to put it in to words.... and if I try to talk to the...
    Hellomiakoda Hellomiakoda 26-30 5 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    Shoved In My Face

    I always wanted to settle down and start a family. I always did. But how is that possible if I can't make a family of my own? I'm all for adoptions, but it still hurts. I will never have a child of my own. It's stuffed in my face every time I see a mother and child walking down...
    BloodRedShadow BloodRedShadow 18-21 2 Responses Jun 28, 2012

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    At The Age Of 17

    In high school I was always very active. I have been a swimmer, gymnast and pole vaulter for as long as I can remember. Because of this, I was never really worried when my friends were getting their periods and I still wasn't. I kept putting it off thinking I was just too active...
    jcm1691 jcm1691 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 4, 2011

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    12 Years And Still Praying

    I am a 42 year old woman married 12 years. My husband has two kids, that we raised together. I love them deeply but I have always wanted to have children of my own. Over the years so many ask time and time again, what we are waiting on. I feel so bad becasue I am always at a...
    emptywomb69 emptywomb69 41-45 1 Response Sep 13, 2011

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    Life With No Children.

    ... i guess i have a happy life. some days is okay, some days i wish i was dead. i havent accepted it, i dont think i truely ever will. i can put on a front, a fake smile, a fake face. a freaking fake day! but i never really will be truely happy. i have a deaf mom. i have a...
    kendramariex0 kendramariex0 26-30 1 Response Jun 11, 2013

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    Two Friends, Two Very Different Days.

    This story could go in many categories here, but, well, here goes nothin'. In the past 24 hours, I've had two distinct but related experiences. Last night, I found out that a much older friend was admitted to hospital. She has been dealing with head and neck cancer for the past...
    leesuhm leesuhm 31-35 1 Response Aug 25, 2013

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    Not Anymore

    I have been a mom since i was 16 yrs old.I have been married twice ,and i did have 5 children.I'm a very,very fertile woman.I can get pregnant on birth control,and i have.Needless to say,my tubes are tied .My heart goes out to those who want a child,but can't:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    The Hardest Decision of My Life......

    Six year ago (approx) I had a bad fall which rsulted in me breaking parts of my back and severly displaced my right hip.... I am fine now to the point where I walk how any one does, but I have issues with my right hip and my back gives me grief and aches after too much use...
    GothAngel GothAngel 26-30, F 10 Responses Jan 24, 2008

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    What Is This Life For?

    I'm 26 years old. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for few years now. It just wasn't happening. I decided to see my family doctor about it. I Went for an ultra sound and found a mass. That's what they called. The "C" word was said. I was referred to a specialist...
    StaceyAmelia StaceyAmelia 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 20, 2013

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    My Niece Turns One Today

    i cant tell my husband i don't want to go i cant stop him from having a niece that he needs to know, he is a great uncle to bad he'll never be a dad, today hurts me more then he will ever know.after out 2cd failed attempt at ivf my sister in law announced they were pregnanti cant...
    fallenrach fallenrach 26-30 Sep 29, 2013

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    Unable to Have Children

    I have always wanted children...maybe it's just engrained in my head that I'm not a woman if I don't...I dunno. I tried having children since I was 22...with absolutely no luck at all. I was first diagnosed with severe depression when I was just 13. Since then, I have been on...
    Lexicon78 Lexicon78 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    Ill Never

    I'll never feel you kick inside of me I'll never get morning sickness I'll never have your father rub my belly and talk to you I'll never hold you in my arms for the first time I'll never sit back and watch your father hold you and tell you how much he loves you I'll never have...
    fallenrach fallenrach 26-30 5 Responses Jun 21, 2013

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    I Can't Have Children.

    When I was perpetually abused by my boyfriend's dad at the age of 16 (ironically my boyfriend was underage and I was still a virgin so we were going to wait for each other to be ready), I was unaware I had caught something until I got dragged to the sexual health clinic by my...
    pidgeon1991 pidgeon1991 18-21 Nov 18, 2010

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    I Feel So Abnormal As A Sixteen Year Old.

    I'm sixteen, and from birth, Doctors knew that I wouldn't be able to have children. When I was around six, I had to have my Ovaries removed because they were abnormal; and since the age of twelve, I've been having to take Hormone-replacement tablets so that my body develops...
    Dinnis04 Dinnis04 18-21, F 10 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    What I Told Myself.

    "If you want to know the truth of it," she says, "I'm glad you guys aren't real." And the kids disappear. "Really glad."
    ChrisPaulsens ChrisPaulsens 22-25 Jun 7, 2013

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    i promised my bf of 5+yrs i would do my best 2

    give him 4. then we found out that it wasn't likely i could give him ANY and childbirth could even B fatal 4 me. then he left. before we split i asked him how he could leave before letting me at least try 2 give him a child. he told me that he had been trying 2 start OUR family...
    nannyunconceiving nannyunconceiving 31-35 Jan 11

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    Hurting...

    I happen to come across this forum when looking up some of my options. I am 26 years old and my spouse is 31. I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis when I was 22 years old and was put on IV treatments monthly to basically keep me walking. I also have endometriosis; diagnosed...
    CrystalClear23 CrystalClear23 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 11, 2013

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    I've Passed The Worst Part!

    The day my future seemed to shatter before my eyes, I thought I wouldn't make it! Everytime I looked my husband in the eyes my heart was ripped out of my chest. Just knowing that this man that I love will never have the family he deserves. That I will never carry our child! I dug...
    StaceyAmelia StaceyAmelia 26-30, F Oct 27, 2013

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    Whats Life For If Not Having Children?

    I am an only child, I have cousins but we are not a close family and to be honest I'm the second oldest anyway. I met my first husband when I was 17, we married 7 years later and started to try for a family immediately. After a couple of years we saw the doctor, I was diagnosed...
    susani susani 41-45, F 7 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    But You Can Change It.

    You can change it, most of the time. I just spent time in training today with someone that works closely with the doctor that helped my wife (not with conception, he saved her life when the other 'doctors' said it could not be done). He stated that his success rate with couples...
    90forlife 90forlife 36-40, M Sep 14, 2013

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    Klinefelter syndrome (or XXY syndrome) is a

    chromosome disorder that affects males. The affected male has an additional X chromosome, which causes infertility
    bigcat73 bigcat73 41-45, M 8 Responses May 5

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    Double Whammy

    We married in our early 30s. Neither of us had kids, and we weren't in any rush. A year or so after we married we decided we were ready (I was the hold-out). We had learned shortly before that my wife was a carrier for a devastating genetic disease (she'd always known there...
    dattarac dattarac 36-40, M 3 Responses May 20, 2013

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    Numb

    How is it possible that I'm mourning the loss of something I have never had.  The pain from a lifetime of broken relationships is absolutely nothing compared to this heartbreak.  It hurts worse than anything I have ever known.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    How do you get over it?

    I knew going into my marriage and my attempts to have children that there was a good chance I wouldn't be able to conceive. The doctor told me when I was 18 and first diagnosed with PCOS. She told me later that there was a chance so my husband and I decided to try. It sounds...
    Dawn0421 Dawn0421 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    Chromosome Translocation Means I Can'T Have Children

    I have lost 4 children. 2 I lost at 5 months the other 2 I lost at 6 weeks. I have found out that due to a genetic problem I'm unlikely to have healthy children naturally. I've just failed at my second attempt of pre selective IVF. I feel very down and haven't got a very good...
    Paula1234 Paula1234 36-40 1 Response Sep 23, 2013

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    hard to explain but i found out i couldn't have

    kids at the age of 14 didn't really concern me back then because i was only young now that I've grown up and found the love of my life i would love nothing more than to have children with her there are obvious ways i could have kids with her but all i can think about is that...
    jimmyy84 jimmyy84 26-30, M 2 Responses May 2

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    I Am Not Sure Anymore What My Purpose On This Planet Is...

    I am 31 and have been trying to have children for 5 years. 6 miscarriages and 2 ectopic pregnancies later with a diagnosis of Hashimoto's and doctors who tell me that they don't know what's wrong with me while telling me I might have too many antibodies and wanting me to do IVF...
    villaverde3003 villaverde3003 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    When I Grow Up

    We all get the question when we're children about what we want to be when we grow up.   My answer changed a lot, except for one detail:  Whatever answer I gave to start, it always ended with "... and a mom!" :)  At various times it was...
    shelbs shelbs 31-35, F 11 Responses May 23, 2009

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    I Cant Have Children, But Was It Ever Meant For Me?

    I cant have children and what an indescribable feeling it is. I am a 37 year old female, who has never been pregnant, nor have I ever been married but can't say that, I have a desire to be either; however, that's whole another story. Currently, I am in a long term (17 yr...
    Chyna331 Chyna331 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    Born Without Ovaries - Ivf And Donor Egg My Only Option.....

    When I was around 17, and hadn’t started puberty my parents & doctor decided to investigate - after many months of numerous blood tests (so many I got used to the light-headed feeling), they decided that I had a slight form of Turners syndrome (more on this in a bit), which...
    sascorpio sascorpio 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 7, 2010

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    What Does Compassion Mean?

    i go to many spiritual gatherings,i have studied all major religions,but i cannot understand what people mean when they say this word.''COMPASSION'' for example when i saw the movie gone with the wind,i could see the love and com-passion between scarlet and rhett,but...
    neitha neitha 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    Dinner

    this story has set in my drafts forever i wasn't for sure if i wanted to post it or not but hopefully it will help me get over some **** and might let other people know there not alone we didn't tell anyone we were continuing with the invetro we felt it was better that wayI sat...
    fallenrach fallenrach 26-30 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    Not Getting Any Easier

    I'm 38, married, and can't have children, nor can I adopt. I found out several years ago that my tubes were blocked, and I had surgery to open them, which was successful, but 6 months later they had closed again. I had the option of in vitro, but at the time could not afford it...
    jkai jkai 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 21, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Pretty much the same old same old I guess. But what's there to lose by telling you? Here I go. He is a grade older than me. Doesn't go to my school. As far as I'm...
    ouatnatalie ouatnatalie 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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