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I Can't Make You Happy

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    We Can't Make Other People Happy

    I cannot make you happy... but I can help create the conditions that will make happiness in you begin to manifest. I can help prepare the soil for the seed of happiness to begin grow inside you. I can help bring about the conditions that would awaken that seed. I cannot...
    dancin dancin 46-50, M Dec 11, 2008

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    It's A Choice

    I can't make you happy, just like I can't depend on you or anyone else for my happiness.    Happiness is a choice. I can choose to do things that make me happy. I can choose to be involved with people who bring positive things to  my life. I choose where I go...
    hmminteresting hmminteresting 31-35, F 1 Response May 4, 2010

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    Don't Seem to Care Anymore

    I have been struggling with some pretty major issues concerning myself lately.  What a surprise.  One of the issues is that I can't make people enjoy themselves or me.  Intellectually I always know this.  It is that whole emotional over taking that I can't...
    Krypton Krypton 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    You Are Certainly Off to a Good Start!

    Judging from the photo I would say King of Spades is not entirely correct in that happiness comes from the inside unless your the woman I suppose that makes sense.
    Shaylon Shaylon 26-30, F 2 Responses May 27, 2008

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    Too Long

     i've known you for a little over 2 years, over the past year i spent almost every day with you. and i started to fall for you early on. but you were sprung over this other guy at the time, and i was far from your usual type. as you guys got together i said nothing, he...
    essuadelpozo essuadelpozo 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 12, 2009

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    I Try

    I try so hard to just make him happy, all I want is for it to seem like im amazing. I feel like I am making this all a fairytale just to make him happy. When he messes up, "its okay". I dont want him to be unhappy. But I dont know if it is worth all that I find myself...
    babygirl87 babygirl87 18-21, F Dec 15, 2007

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    Can't Please Everyone....

    I used to believe that if you were pleasant, honest, straight forward cordial....then there would be little or no problems with any action you did in life.  I have since found out that especially when we are in a relationship and allow someone in to our inner sanctum as well...
    Kazushi Kazushi 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2007

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    Damned If You Do and Damned If You Don't

    That has always been my life story.  Especially the last three years of my life where my marriage has been concerned.  When I first married my husband, I tried to make him happy and nothing I did was ever good enough.  He was that way with my 7 year old son as...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    I Can't Make You Happy

    I have been married for almost 3 years now.  My wife tells me all the time that she can't make me happy until she makes herself happy.  I think this is total BS.  We only make love about every 1-2 months and I can tell she is only doing it to satisfy me. ...
    tpmotor tpmotor 36-40 May 10, 2009

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    I'm Sorry.

    i can only do so much. you need to find the happiness inside yourself first. once you accomplish this, even if it's just a little bit, i'd be more then willing to share my love with you. to help your happiness grow. but i cant do it by myself. i cant keep fighting your battle...
    gypsysoul gypsysoul 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 1, 2009

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    Happiness

    im sorry i never gave you that happiness i know im not your husband nor your boyfriend to give you that happiness but even friends share that happiness still now i think about how rude i treated you not only you but i have never given that happiness to anyone i want to change...
    Roadguy Roadguy 26-30, M Aug 11, 2012

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    Happiness Is Within

    Happiness comes from the inside, not the outside. The greatest mistake we make is to think that someone *out there* can make us happy *in here*.  We have to make ourselves happy.  The way to do that is to just be happy with who you are, to accept yourself, love...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 11, 2007

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    Do I Not Mean Enough....

    My boyfriend is out of town for close to 2 weeks. (it is emotionally draining for me). I am starting to get used to him being gone for work but when he is just gone at home i feel a little different. its like he is so unhappy with me that he cant wait to get away. He never calls...
    babygirl87 babygirl87 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2007

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    I Don't Think So

    So why the **** didn't you say so, why the hell did you (and are still) use me?
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2009

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    I Cant Make

    My mother  My Grandmother My self  Happy. 
    Deletedaccount Deletedaccount 18-21, F May 10, 2009

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    We Can't Make Other People Happy

    I cannot make you happy... but I can help create the conditions that will make happiness in you begin to manifest. I can help prepare the soil for the seed of happiness to begin grow inside you. I can help bring about the conditions that would awaken that seed. I cannot...
    dancin dancin 46-50, M Dec 11, 2008

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