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I Can't Make You Love Me

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    Will He Ever Love Me Back?

    I was single for ten years after having my heart broken, then the man who broke it came back to town and got into contact with me, he sweet talked me over the phone and computer, but I told him I couldn't see him in person, that I wasn't ready. he persisted and kept asking me to...
    Lithriel Lithriel 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    But Baby....

      I don't want to MAKE you want me, I want you to WANT me Babe....
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M Sep 8, 2010

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    You Whom I Love

    sometimes no matter how much experiences in relationship we had in the past, we tend to forgot those lesson learned when we are in love. As i did, i'd forgotten that in love, never assume you have her heart just because she chooses you and never take words literally just...
    ideallover ideallover 22-25, F Mar 26, 2013

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    Sad..

    but since i can't make u love me.. i've decided to love myself instead.. so i'm not waiting forever.. i'm not sorry for meeting u.. nor turning my back.. i'll still love u my friend.. thank u for the lessons..
    msurreal msurreal 22-25, F 1 Response May 30, 2011

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    Relax And Let It Go

    It's just not ME. I don't need someone fawning all over me , making a big deal to get my attention , then doing a 180 and disappearing without so much as a see you later.I'm not interested in forcing anyone to love me ~ that's plain and simple insecurity ~ and it's not love , it...
    SWEETGYPSYROSE SWEETGYPSYROSE 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2010

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    And

    I can't make you love me and don't want to because life is too short to live it not being truly loved for the person that I am.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 6, 2010

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    Another Good Night?

    I feel like I am taking over this group. Lol. Okay, so Monday night was a good attempt to please the missus. I continued again yesterday. I was up and ready before anyone in the house, so proceeded to prepare breakfast for the kids, and a pot of hot coffee for Mrs Grizzly. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 9, 2011

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    Well I Keep Trying...

    I don't know why I can't stop trying to do everything right! He doesn't try, doesn't care how I feel, yet everyday I find myself trying to do the "right" thing, whatever that may be, knowing that if I do ten things right, he will find the one thing I don't do perfectly. I want...
    KarynT45 KarynT45 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    I Can't Accept It......

    I can't accept it....as i spend hours thinking is it so wrong for me to want you to love me, because i love you... ..y do i put myself through this i don't know...but its like im stuck in a moment and i jus want you to love me,is it too much too ask for...i can't control free...
    injured injured 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2010

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    Outside Of Our Control

    Sometimes we have to accept that there are things which are outside of our control. The emotions of other people are definitely not something that we can control or dictate.  This idea of loving someone and not having that love returned has to be one of the most painful...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 30 Responses Sep 4, 2010

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    Why Would I????

    Why would I want to make you feel something that you don't? It's all good people feel a lot of things and most of them don't belong to me :) I know you don't believe it but it does make me smile. It just tells me I need to step my game up in life. So what if I am the nice one...
    college101 college101 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 22, 2010

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    For 8 years of my life I had this thing where

    if I knew 1 person hated me I would freak out and I wouldn't be able to sleep at night I would have little mental break downs but as I got older I realized a lot of people don't like me for being me and I can't help that I love when someone says I Love You it's makes me feel...
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    No

    No,I can't but I wouldn't want you to love me if I had to make you anyway.I will take what I can get and I will give you all that I can give.I'm sorry for distracting you now.Tell me to let go and I won't hesitate. 
    AmayaEkio AmayaEkio 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2010

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    A Good Night?

    I spent all weekend wondering how I can improve things at home. I came up with a great idea. I need to woo and court my wife again. I need to try to make her realise that I am the ideal man for her; the man she should spend the rest of her life with. So, I put the plan into...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 8, 2011

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    I Can't Make You Love Me...but I Want You To.

    I'm writing this here, hoping to find some sort of advice. I'm not a strong person, and I'm extremely dependent on the man who broke my heart. He says he does love me, but his actions do not follow up on his words. He's caused me heartache, and pain. Yet, at the same time, there...
    cnk91 cnk91 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    How Many Heartbreaks?

    How many heartbreaks should a person endure to find that "one" true, long-lasting love? How can you not lose faith, hope and strength after years and years of getting your heart broken?  How do you keep taking risks when all you've known is pain and rejection?  Please share...
    yrm12 yrm12 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 23, 2011

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    I love you and appreciate every move you

    make .Your presence is just like a wonderful joy for me which words can't describe fully .In short You are like the entire world to me but What am I to you? i don't know because It's not in my power to make you love me the way i do.
    shap36 shap36 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 29

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    And I Would Never Want To

    i would never want to MAKE you love me. love is not something to be taken from someone it is to be given to someone willingly. if you try to take it from someone then you truly must not love them. i have given my love my heart and my soul willingly and i will always love her...
    CaptainJackass CaptainJackass 22-25, M Dec 16, 2010

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    CAN'T MAKE YOU STAY. If you feel like you need

    to leave, I won't beg you to stay. If all we've shared means nothing to you, maybe we're better off this way. It's very heart breaking to know how shallow your heart really is. I thought that what we had was something special and that we would never end up like this. In time I...
    adamw adamw 36-40, M 3 Responses May 11

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    God Knows...

    Been there done that...got the T-shirt, will never ever ever ever ever wait on someone again, thinking they will change how they feel. EVER.
    LitterCritter LitterCritter 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2011

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    Is It Really Better To Have Loved And Lost Than To Have Never Loved At All?

    I met my ex years and years ago when I was a kid. We fell in and out of touch several times until this last time. We were both mature enough to have a relationship at this point and we fell in love fast. It was so perfect between us except for the fact that over the years his...
    xmyhrt xmyhrt 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 4, 2010

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    Can't Be Anything Other Then Who I Am....

    I can't make people love me. I am not your typical, pretty 25 year old girl who has loads of friends, a partner and a great social life. I am not the life and soul of the party, the one who makes everyone laugh and who you always want to be around. I am quiet, kind, gentle and...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F May 31, 2011

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    Why Not Me?

    A few months ago, there was a man I was in love with. It was a long distance, both of us married, sort of thing. But he said things and I said things and we fell...or at least I did and he said he did. Then in an instant it was over--he wanted to recommit to his wife...
    CountrySlicker CountrySlicker 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2013

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    She Says To Her Heart . . .

    Its been two years.i've only seen you twice since you broke it off.but it seems that I dont go a day without thinking about you. it seems now, that I'm doing nothing but moving forward.like I'm flying through time so fast I'm getting whiplash.but, I'm still here, stuck to...
    kays kays 18-21, F Nov 1, 2009

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    I Won't Try

    If I tell someone I have strong feelings for them, and they don't feel the same way, I accept it and move on. You can't force someone to feel something for you, so I don't even try. I think it's kind of embarrassing when people desperately try to make others love them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2010

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    Relax And Let It Go

    It's just not ME. I don't need someone fawning all over me , making a big deal to get my attention , then doing a 180 and disappearing without so much as a see you later.I'm not interested in forcing anyone to love me ~ that's plain and simple insecurity ~ and it's not love , it...
    SWEETGYPSYROSE SWEETGYPSYROSE 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 27, 2010

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    Do I Go? Will He Want Me To?

    I've been with my boyfriend for gong on 3 years, saying he has love and trust issues would be an understatement. he has never looked into my eyes and really told me he loves me. He has said "I love you too" if I say it, he has said other loving things,mentioned engagement in...
    Lithriel Lithriel 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 27, 2013

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    dsegar dsegar 26-30, M Nov 13, 2012

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    No

    i have no regrets if i can't make you love me .   rather, it's much more comfortable when you hurt me or hate me .........   at least i will know it is straight from your heart.   
    Erevos Erevos 31-35, M 12 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    Be Yourself

    i think we can't make the person who we like to fall in love with us ... how ? trying to be fake and show them a picture that we know they will  like us in that way..... that is going to be a lie ... fake person ... when the love disappear everyone will get back to...
    listenup listenup 26-30, M 8 Responses Apr 7, 2010

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    I use to think that my mother loved me.

    Everyone else hated me, but she was always the one who acted like she loved me. I first started noticing it when she started dating. I had to teach myself to cook at an early age because she refused to do so. Most nights, I wouldn't eat. But when her boyfriend came over for...
    JustAskAnything JustAskAnything 13-15, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I Can't...

    I can't make you Love me I can't make you want me I can't make you think I am amazing I can't make you Love me I can't make you do anything you don't want to do. But I will tell you this I Love you, even if you don't Love me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 2, 2009

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    Love

    Love,I can't make you,Still,I accept you,As you are,Weather you love me,Or not.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Oct 19, 2011

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    Heartache

    Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years but we argued over stupid stuff all the time so I told him we need a break. We separated for about month and got bak together things were going great until he told me while we were apart he met someone else and can't...
    Madihah123 Madihah123 18-21 1 Response Oct 14, 2012

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    To My Wife

    Dear L, Things have been hard for us recently, and I know you are struggling to cope. I have tried to help where I can, but you continue to shut me out. During our heart to heart talk last week, you said the words no husband ever wants to hear... "I love you but I am not in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    Although

    I wish I could make you love me. We all want to be loved. 
    nitid nitid 16-17, F Dec 15, 2010

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