I Can't Talk to People About My Problems

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    It is so polarizing, having been in an abusive

    relationship. People assume that you must be trailer trash, uneducated, weak. I am none of those things, and neither are many of the women I know who have experienced abuse. It is awful how we are stereotyped and often asked "what we did" to make our abusers hurt us. I can't...
    kitkat0216 kitkat0216
    31-35, F
    Sep 7, 2015

    Tomorrows a big day for my country,

    they plan to overthrow the government. And I mean it. It's pretty scary and I wouldn't actually be to concerned about it, well, if I wasn't going to be in it. The people here are sick of our government and my parents are too, so they will have a democratic rally against the...
    SugarDoughnut SugarDoughnut
    16-17, M
    1 Response Aug 28, 2015

    First off, I am a loner

    and a socially awkward person, so I often feel weird and embarrassed when I talk about my problems. Also, a lot of people can be jerkish and rude most of the time, like making fun of you for your problems, which utterly makes you feel worse about yourself and the problems you're...
    TheGuyWithChocolatePie TheGuyWithChocolatePie
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    They just wouldn't understand.

    well, most people wouldn't understand. No one can truly understand how I feel. If I told my family / friends everything that bothered me, and how I'm responding to my problems, they'd think I'm crazy. Trust me, they think I'm messed up as it is, and they barely know anything...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    18-21, F
    13 Responses Apr 11, 2015

    I Do Not Feel Comfortable With A Shoulder To Cry On

    I often keep my feelings inside.  I know it is not good to keep things inside, but I feel obligated to ask them about their problems and listen.  I am a much better listener than a speaker.  When I told about my problems it depressed people, or they did not care...
    BBUDS BBUDS
    18-21, F
    14 Responses Apr 8, 2010

    not anymore, they just don't understand my

    situation n then they turn around n judge me : (
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Aug 27, 2015

    "No one gives a **** about you" became "No one

    really cares", so I keep a lot to myself. I often feel bad for feeling, well, not happy. I worry about bothering others, remind myself that people have their own problems. I usually talk to myself and a journal.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 10, 2015

    Up until recently I've had no-one,

    no-one I trust no-one I can talk to and no-one I've ever wanted to. The problem is I know me and although I've met a good person I know I'm gonna loose them and that I don't deserve how good they are and have been to me. Maybe as usual I'm thinking to much and over analysing but...
    NightGambit NightGambit
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 26, 2015

    Nobody is going to understand my problems.

    When i do speak of them. It's like they don't even listen to me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 19, 2015

    they just feel so, tiny in the grand scheme of

    things, makes me feel rather selfish i suppose
    Curiouscatbug Curiouscatbug
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    I feel trapped- I have trust issues

    and a bunch of other things. I keep the truth about how I really feel locked inside. I'm afraid to tell the truth about my feelings. I feel like I have to help other people and I can't think about myself. I tell myself that I don't matter and that other people are more important...
    Ivoryinsanity Ivoryinsanity
    16-17
    1 Response Jan 24, 2014
    isolatedandlonely isolatedandlonely
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 10

    My husband says things to me

    that really hurt. When I tell him that what he said has hurt me, he gives me a half-assed apology. If I tell you that you hurt me, please don't say "if what I said hurt your feelings" then I'm sorry. You know that you hurt my feelings because I just told you. How hard is it to...
    babygirl42priceless babygirl42priceless
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 26, 2015

    My problems are just plain crazy.

    . where would I even start? I started seeing a therapist though - he's paid to listen. I just feel sorry for everyone who has the great privilege of dealing with the likes of me xD
    plsdontsitonme plsdontsitonme
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    And I Can Not Say a Word

    I sometimes feel like I have failed, And I can not say a word, No sound, no sigh, no whimper, No sound out of me is heard.. I try so hard to be so strong, To show no sign of being weak, But the picture I paint is oh so wrong, It's actually strength and comfort from others...
    Katfather Katfather
    51-55, M
    22 Responses May 8, 2009

    The problem is not the problem.

    The problem is your attitude about the problem. ~ Captain Jack Sparrow
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2015

    Can't Find Anyone To Relate To.

    I am having trouble finding anyone to relate to. I do not know if I am too old and set in my ways, or if I am just not around the right people. I work with people from 18 to mid 40's on a daily basis. They are nice people, but the things they talk about, the things they seem to...
    HardToKnow HardToKnow
    51-55
    4 Responses May 21, 2011

    Why?

    Why is it easier to talk to strangers, then family and friends? Is it because strangers won't judge you, or is it because you don't care if they judge you? I think it is strangers may know and understand what i go through,more than family and friends. I can talk about some...
    mulder mulder
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2012

    I struggle day to day to not do it.

    I would go to my family, but I know what theyre gonna say. I would go to my friends, but I don't want to bother them, they might have more problems than me. I'm weak. I'd be gone if it weren't for my cat. Shes my only life line. I fear the day she is gone cause I will soon...
    CrazyfatCatLady CrazyfatCatLady
    18-21, F
    Apr 14

    I always feel like I'm whining

    or annoying that person, I shouldn't be bothering people with my problems. I only have one person to talk to about my problems but she's unavailable for quite a while.
    carazami carazami
    16-17
    1 Response Oct 19, 2015

    because of being abused

    so many times. my dad hurts me and my mom supports him. I feel like i cant talk to anybody but my brother. :(
    TylerAndTrevor TylerAndTrevor
    13-15, M
    3 Responses Oct 17, 2015

    Me and therapy = disaster.

    I usually turn it around on him asking him questions
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    I Don'T Know Why

    I always have had a really hard time explaining how I feel or telling people how I really feel. That's why I don't understand how people can just post their life stories online. I mean if that helps you deal with whatever you are going through then great but I'm exactly the...
    sweetie96 sweetie96
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2013

    when i was on grade 9 i always get bullied

    based on my looks i chose to ignore it even though i want to hit them same goes with my friends i cant even tell my parents about it since they easily get angry and scold me for not fighting back so i always keep my peoblems ro myself,my friends suddenly did not kgo to school so...
    letmetellyouajokeMyLife letmetellyouajokeMyLife
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jun 30, 2015

    Lonely And Sad

    My name is not important. I don't really know where to begin with my story, so I'm just going to say things, and I'll let you piece it together if you like. My father left when I was three, I don't remember much. He told my mum she would be nothing, spat in her face then left...
    Heatherman Heatherman
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 29, 2013

    I feel complicit in making myself lonely

    and miserable, because I am surrounded by people who would be willing to listen but I just cannot talk to them. I was tortured at the age of twelve, witnessed my father's suicide when was fifteen and was repeatedly raped for the period of three months when I turned eighteen...
    aersibeth aersibeth
    18-21, F
    Aug 29, 2015

    It's hard for me to "whine"

    or "vent" to others. As the oldest child, I was always expected to find my own answers and I did. I took pride in always being independent and never having to rely on anyone else for my happiness or survival. Then I got into a very abusive relationship. It became even harder...
    kitkat0216 kitkat0216
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    People are usually so caught up in their own

    lives that they can't imagine that others have things going in their lives as well. I usually don't tell people what's going on with me because I know that others have enough problems themselves without me burdening them. It's funny, the reactions I get when I mention something...
    IndecisiveLateBloomer IndecisiveLateBloomer
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 18, 2015

    Apart from my normal problems.

    ... Well my car isn't working and turns out it's going to take $1000 to fix, it's freezing outside, a water pipe broke in my house so I officially haven't showered in two days, I thought I was going to have the weekend without parental supervision but that changed and plans have...
    AshleyWCSloth AshleyWCSloth
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 9, 2015

    It's always hard when you have problems

    but your life isn't horrible. I never want anyone to think I'm just complaining. My problems are real to me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2015
    cashetty69 cashetty69
    51-55, M
    Aug 27, 2015

    Either It's Marital Or Personality Problem

    And I am not yet ready to talk about it unless by counselling. It might be something anybody can simply open up to friends. Given the fact that my marital situation is obviously known to everyone in town. But I still can't make myself talk about it and be candid telling...
    ladyryan ladyryan
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Nov 2, 2011

    I don't like sympathy.

    i don't like people feeling bad for me, I don't like being judged so I rather keep everything to my myself. as crazy as it sounds I'd rather say what I feel to people I don't know.
    Lucylubbsgolda Lucylubbsgolda
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 27, 2015

    my kind of problems are not the kind

    that people openly discuss which why I never see anyone online talking about them,regardless I'll still do it. there the kind that people don't know how to deal with the kind people can't relate to the kind that make people judge you.I wish I had normal ones but I don't.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2015
    Lilypantz Lilypantz
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    I wanna talk but no one wants to talk back?

    ?I tell my friends this but they say it's to depressing 4 them
    soccergamerbv soccergamerbv
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Jan 25

    Control

    It feels as though I'm to blame for everything. I cause so much pain and suffering and I don't mean to but my decisions just make more problems. I feel completely worthless and I cry at random thinking of the void. I'm now dealing with a social worker in my home with my two...
    sagesbones sagesbones
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

    Rather than getting help from others,

    I tend to work my issues out on my own. Explaining my problems usually changes my relationships with people. Conversations get awkward, and the memory of opening up to them just gets in the way. Even when people legitimately care, I prefer to not worry anyone. Also, getting...
    The3rdAndOnly The3rdAndOnly
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 27, 2015

    i can post about them on here,

    but generally i cannot talk to people about my real problems. in real life i never do because every time i try, its clear that people dont percieve everything the way i do so they cant truly understand my pain
    bongripper1 bongripper1
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 4, 2014

    it's not that I don't want I just feel they

    won't understand I mean people think that it's being a negative Nancy but it's not that's just how my life is
    fragilfirl6567 fragilfirl6567
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2015

    past street life, prostitution,

    these are things that I can't even budge a word into with my therapist. I just got one but I'm so guarded up I doubt I'll make any progress. at the same time though it's tearing me up inside
    Nmetb Nmetb
    22-25, M
    Nov 18, 2015

    There Are More Than the Sounds That Can Be Heard

    One, two, three words that I might write,   But in truth, what I wrote can not be right.. I write a million stories in each and every word,   But the only thing read, and heard, is still simply, just the word.. I want to scream and shout and make people understand...
    Katfather Katfather
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Jun 14, 2009

    Because...

    ... most of them really don't care, even tho sometimes they pretend to.... the ones that want to be there for me just wouldn't understand.None of them would understand as they have created this image of me that does not match the truth but still they stick to it, admitting half...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Feb 9, 2012

    Grief is a private hell.

    People just say "it will get better" "sorry for your loss" and a million other things that don't seem to add comfort. Words are empty. No one understands the depth of sorrow I am feeling. The minute you begin to express your pain they instantly try to stop you with those catch...
    Gr8terlater Gr8terlater
    46-50, F
    Nov 18, 2014

    I can't talk to people about my problem

    because I don't like conflict must have time if I have problems I try and sit down and solve them by planting the amount. Plus I don't like to whine and bother people with my problems everyone has their own
    me0883 me0883
    22-25, M
    Aug 28, 2015

    Nobody actually wants to make you feel better,

    it's a social obligation to comfort someone who's annoyingly open about their personal problems. I hate the insincerity. I hate feeling pitied. I hate it all. I wish someone could just understand exactly why it was all so hard and why it ****** me up. That's all. Understanding...
    Godlevel Godlevel
    18-21
    2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    When i start to i end up lying half way in

    or joking it off, i start with the intention of telling sumone but end up not
    theresajanelle theresajanelle
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 18, 2015

    eery time I tell somebody my problems its

    ends up as a disaster so I try not to show any emotiona at all
    ilovetturtles ilovetturtles
    13-15, F
    1 Response Aug 9, 2015
    Jman1320 Jman1320
    22-25, M
    Jun 27, 2015

    i just dont have people to talk to,

    no best friends to share stuff or anything
    wolfchungg wolfchungg
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Oct 19, 2015
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