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I Can't Talk to People About My Problems

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    I don't like sympathy.

    i don't like people feeling bad for me, I don't like being judged so I rather keep everything to my myself. as crazy as it sounds I'd rather say what I feel to people I don't know.
    Lucylubbsgolda Lucylubbsgolda 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    Up until recently I've had no-one,

    no-one I trust no-one I can talk to and no-one I've ever wanted to. The problem is I know me and although I've met a good person I know I'm gonna loose them and that I don't deserve how good they are and have been to me. Maybe as usual I'm thinking to much and over analysing but...
    NightGambit NightGambit 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 26

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    There Are More Than the Sounds That Can Be Heard

    One, two, three words that I might write,   But in truth, what I wrote can not be right.. I write a million stories in each and every word,   But the only thing read, and heard, is still simply, just the word.. I want to scream and shout and make people understand...
    Katfather Katfather 51-55, M 5 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    I Write My Feelings Down

    I can't talk to people. I'm not mute or anything...I'm just too afraid to talk. There's only a few people I really feel comfortable talking to, but I still can't really talk about my problems to them, so I write about them. I had a livejournal blog, til some guy started posting...
    KaBe22 KaBe22 18-21, F 15 Responses Mar 16, 2010

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    They just wouldn't understand.

    well, most people wouldn't understand. No one can truly understand how I feel. If I told my family / friends everything that bothered me, and how I'm responding to my problems, they'd think I'm crazy. Trust me, they think I'm messed up as it is, and they barely know anything...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94 18-21, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    Control

    It feels as though I'm to blame for everything. I cause so much pain and suffering and I don't mean to but my decisions just make more problems. I feel completely worthless and I cry at random thinking of the void. I'm now dealing with a social worker in my home with my two...
    sagesbones sagesbones 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    My husband says things to me

    that really hurt. When I tell him that what he said has hurt me, he gives me a half-assed apology. If I tell you that you hurt me, please don't say "if what I said hurt your feelings" then I'm sorry. You know that you hurt my feelings because I just told you. How hard is it to...
    babygirl42priceless babygirl42priceless 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    Because...

    ... most of them really don't care, even tho sometimes they pretend to.... the ones that want to be there for me just wouldn't understand.None of them would understand as they have created this image of me that does not match the truth but still they stick to it, admitting half...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 9, 2012

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    My problems are just plain crazy.

    . where would I even start? I started seeing a therapist though - he's paid to listen. I just feel sorry for everyone who has the great privilege of dealing with the likes of me xD
    plsdontsitonme plsdontsitonme 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    I want to find someone

    who I can tell everything confidentially
    shethia shethia 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 23

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    funnyquirky funnyquirky 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    Nobody wants to read

    or hear negative thoughts or messages. Can't tell friends, family and can't post on social networks. Who do I tell? No one. It's hard to keep everything to myself it's like my heart is gonna explode my head aching so bad. When you are full of problems how can you can you smile...
    alone03 alone03 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 17

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    Apart from my normal problems.

    ... Well my car isn't working and turns out it's going to take $1000 to fix, it's freezing outside, a water pipe broke in my house so I officially haven't showered in two days, I thought I was going to have the weekend without parental supervision but that changed and plans have...
    AshleyWCSloth AshleyWCSloth 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 9

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    It's hard for me to "whine"

    or "vent" to others. As the oldest child, I was always expected to find my own answers and I did. I took pride in always being independent and never having to rely on anyone else for my happiness or survival. Then I got into a very abusive relationship. It became even harder...
    kitkat0216 kitkat0216 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    i can post about them on here,

    but generally i cannot talk to people about my real problems. in real life i never do because every time i try, its clear that people dont percieve everything the way i do so they cant truly understand my pain
    bongripper1 bongripper1 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 4, 2014

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    Rather than getting help from others,

    I tend to work my issues out on my own. Explaining my problems usually changes my relationships with people. Conversations get awkward, and the memory of opening up to them just gets in the way. Even when people legitimately care, I prefer to not worry anyone. Also, getting...
    The3rdAndOnly The3rdAndOnly 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    Me and therapy = disaster.

    I usually turn it around on him asking him questions
    Ridingtonewyork Ridingtonewyork 16-17, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    eery time I tell somebody my problems its

    ends up as a disaster so I try not to show any emotiona at all
    imapainter imapainter 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I hate talking about my problems

    because no one understands. Either that or they think I'm exaggerating and that I should get a grip. Its so frustrating. Every time I rant about my problems I feel like I'm being a burden even if its my boyfriend or bestfriend.
    mandycandy0123 mandycandy0123 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 5

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    when i was on grade 9 i always get bullied

    based on my looks i chose to ignore it even though i want to hit them same goes with my friends i cant even tell my parents about it since they easily get angry and scold me for not fighting back so i always keep my peoblems ro myself,my friends suddenly did not kgo to school so...
    letmetellyouajokeMyLife letmetellyouajokeMyLife 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 30

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    Lilypantz Lilypantz 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    not anymore, they just don't understand my

    situation n then they turn around n judge me : (
    StreetgirlnamedDesire504 StreetgirlnamedDesire504 36-40 4 Responses Aug 27

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    I feel complicit in making myself lonely

    and miserable, because I am surrounded by people who would be willing to listen but I just cannot talk to them. I was tortured at the age of twelve, witnessed my father's suicide when was fifteen and was repeatedly raped for the period of three months when I turned eighteen...
    aersibeth aersibeth 18-21, F a week ago

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    First off, I am a loner

    and a socially awkward person, so I often feel weird and embarrassed when I talk about my problems. Also, a lot of people can be jerkish and rude most of the time, like making fun of you for your problems, which utterly makes you feel worse about yourself and the problems you're...
    TheGuyWithChocolatePie TheGuyWithChocolatePie 13-15, M 2 Responses Jun 17

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    Lonely And Sad

    My name is not important. I don't really know where to begin with my story, so I'm just going to say things, and I'll let you piece it together if you like. My father left when I was three, I don't remember much. He told my mum she would be nothing, spat in her face then left...
    Heatherman Heatherman 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    I kinda just clam up

    and can't put it into words. I've always been pretty inarticulate, but it's worse when I try to talk about something I don't particularly want to talk about but have to. I also hate feeling like a victim when I talk about my problems; it makes me feel weak and pathetic.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 10

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    I can't talk to people about my problem

    because I don't like conflict must have time if I have problems I try and sit down and solve them by planting the amount. Plus I don't like to whine and bother people with my problems everyone has their own
    me0883 me0883 22-25, M a week ago

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    For me, it's always been a matter of not

    wanting to burden my friends (who are really family more than anything) with problems that are most likely never going away. They already have enough going on in their lives that I would feel bad unloading my own personal hang ups on them. The irony (I hope I'm using the term...
    illamasqualover illamasqualover 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    they just feel so, tiny in the grand scheme of

    things, makes me feel rather selfish i suppose
    Curiouscatbug Curiouscatbug 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Grief is a private hell.

    People just say "it will get better" "sorry for your loss" and a million other things that don't seem to add comfort. Words are empty. No one understands the depth of sorrow I am feeling. The minute you begin to express your pain they instantly try to stop you with those catch...
    Gr8terlater Gr8terlater 41-45, F Nov 18, 2014

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    This Is Too Much!

    Why can't they understand the situation? Why can't they help instead of complaining? Why can't they ask instead of demand? Why do they have to think of their own happiness all the time? This is too much!
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    why do I need to lie to everyone

    and tell them that I am ok. I'd rather lie to the people I love than to tell them I'm hurting. I don't understand why I keep on doing these.
    deidei27 deidei27 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 9

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    I can't, firstly I can't word it

    because I'm an idiot, and secondly I don't see why I should bother people with my boring life stories.
    thedimone thedimone 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 5

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    Either It's Marital Or Personality Problem

    And I am not yet ready to talk about it unless by counselling. It might be something anybody can simply open up to friends. Given the fact that my marital situation is obviously known to everyone in town. But I still can't make myself talk about it and be candid telling...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 2, 2011

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    I know people won't understand

    if I tell them and honestly some of my problems I can't even put into words to talk about. I just feel that way
    ZacharyGray19 ZacharyGray19 18-21, M Jun 9

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    I Don'T Know Why

    I always have had a really hard time explaining how I feel or telling people how I really feel. That's why I don't understand how people can just post their life stories online. I mean if that helps you deal with whatever you are going through then great but I'm exactly the...
    sweetie96 sweetie96 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    There are two kinds of problems: the ones you

    can talk about and the ones you can't
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    I have the biggest problem with this!

    people ask me if I want to talk about whatever I'm feeling and I say no even though I really want to but when I do I regret it! I don't know what to do! :'(
    DaughterOfAnAngel24 DaughterOfAnAngel24 22-25, F 3 Responses May 22

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    Tomorrows a big day for my country,

    they plan to overthrow the government. And I mean it. It's pretty scary and I wouldn't actually be to concerned about it, well, if I wasn't going to be in it. The people here are sick of our government and my parents are too, so they will have a democratic rally against the...
    SugarDoughnut SugarDoughnut 13-15, M 1 Response a week ago

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    And I Can Not Say a Word

    I sometimes feel like I have failed, And I can not say a word, No sound, no sigh, no whimper, No sound out of me is heard.. I try so hard to be so strong, To show no sign of being weak, But the picture I paint is oh so wrong, It's actually strength and comfort from others...
    Katfather Katfather 51-55, M 22 Responses May 8, 2009

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    People are usually so caught up in their own

    lives that they can't imagine that others have things going in their lives as well. I usually don't tell people what's going on with me because I know that others have enough problems themselves without me burdening them. It's funny, the reactions I get when I mention something...
    IndecisiveLateBloomer IndecisiveLateBloomer 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    Why?

    Why is it easier to talk to strangers, then family and friends? Is it because strangers won't judge you, or is it because you don't care if they judge you? I think it is strangers may know and understand what i go through,more than family and friends. I can talk about some...
    mulder mulder 26-30 2 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    I feel trapped- I have trust issues

    and a bunch of other things. I keep the truth about how I really feel locked inside. I'm afraid to tell the truth about my feelings. I feel like I have to help other people and I can't think about myself. I tell myself that I don't matter and that other people are more important...
    Ivoryinsanity Ivoryinsanity 13-15 1 Response Jan 24, 2014

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    Jman1320 Jman1320 22-25, M Jun 27

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    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M Aug 27

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    I want to tell about my problems,

    or rather relieve me of them... I just find it hard to say anything to others because they won't understand or they'll think that I'm overthinking stuff and that I should just get a hold of myself...
    deidei27 deidei27 18-21, M Jun 8