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I Care Too Much What Others Think of Me

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     I care too much what others think of me and I'd sometimes do things I don't like just to please them in hope they will think good of me. It's because I hate being judged and criticised. Am getting nervous in simple social situations because am scared of making an idiot out...
    amlost amlost 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 9, 2010

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    Don't Like Doing Stuff

    Even if it just me walking down the street, I will change the way I walk or which way I am looking if I think that the person who sees me thinks I'm weird. I don't do a lot of things because I am afraid of mass judgement. Not that anything's ever come of it...I am a judgemental...
    Shyguy28 Shyguy28 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 26, 2012

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    Its Just Habit

    i'm used to wanting to know what people think of me. if people dont like something about me then i'll be paranoied about it, but as i said its just habit. people are always willing to tell me what i am and stuff so if thats what others think then i should think the same right? i...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2007

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    I let it get to me. It controls what I post on

    social media (which i deleted) it makes me second guess on who to hang out with at school, the clothes I wear to school, what music is listen to, what I get involved in and what I don't. I really want to stop caring about what they think, but as for now I can't.
    matt6521 matt6521 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    No Friends....

    I always worry about waht others think of me, and because of this, I always come out as being too withdrawn, or not interested in talking to others. I know I should stop being so paranoid, but I can't help it.
    mizzy11 mizzy11 13-15, F Jan 9, 2010

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    Well Depends....

    It depends on who it is and what kind of relationship I have with them....For instance I care entirely too much what my teachers think of me and I do as much as I can to make them like me!however I don't care enough what my family thinks of me and I often disappoint them:(
    PrincessTutu PrincessTutu 18-21, F Jan 9, 2010

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    I Care Way Too Much. How Can I Stop

    I care so much about what others think of me it scares me. In fact I right now I am caring about what one person thinks of me so much it is driving me crazy. I feel like I have made her mad although i know in my head I have done nothing. But because of my anxiety/depression I...
    heavensbbw heavensbbw 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2010

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    Caring Too Much Is Affecting My Relationships

    I have been dating a wonderful man for close to 1 year. We have had our ups and downs, but have really worked through things and are very happy. It has been a tough year for both of us with personal, health and family issues, and he is not as outgoing/social of a person as i am...
    sheeshee sheeshee 41-45, F Sep 1, 2010

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    If This Could Help..

    I have this problem and here is what came to my mind. Maybe this could help. There are people who, I guess, find me a wierd/funny/stupid/anything person (mostly I think it works with people who laught at you and mock you etc, I met plenty of them at school), but at the same time...
    Memonster Memonster 22-25 1 Response Aug 3, 2013

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    I Care Way Too Much What People Think

    I tend to say some pretty dumb things. Sometimes I tell people a little too much, or a little too little. And most of the reason I do this is because my social skills arent too good. I used to let this problem keep me from talking to people. Though these days...
    flyingdog2008 flyingdog2008 22-25 Apr 13, 2009

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    Been An Habit For Years

     ive always been this way since i was a little girl. i feel like ppl are starin at me(when their not) or tryin to figure me out by lookin at me. im scared of lookin the wrong way or sayin the wrong things. so i act differently wit diff ppl. even with family members. so if u...
    AceMoni18 AceMoni18 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 9, 2010

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    Yes, And

    what other's opinions are. I can firmly believe something (unless I deeply & strongly believe it and won't let anyone prove me wrong) then when someone else doesn't agree I doubt myself..... it's very annoying. I vote everyone should just agree with me.
    Kristin137 Kristin137 16-17, F Feb 6, 2010

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    I think this is something a lot of people do.

    We expect too much from ourselves and need to please everyone. Even strangers I see on the subway, I care what they think of me. I realize this is unhealthy and I'd be happier if I could accept that not everyone will like me, but I don't know how to change my behavior and stop...
    nyc441010 nyc441010 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Going Back In Forth On The Descion Of Divorce

    Been with my husband almost 8 years - and he has cheated and hurt me - However I believe he would change and he he started to then I felt it was too late and I filed for divorce I have all these friends Ive know since I was 13 years old telling me Im going right back to the...
    aimess aimess 26-30 Sep 7, 2012

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    Missing Out On A Good Guy

    One of the things I hate about myself is that I care too much what others think of me. This sick thought has driven many of my decisions, actions, feelings. The worst part is that it also drives my emotions and what I allow myself to feel. A year ago I met this really nice guy...
    andsand88 andsand88 22-25, F Feb 12, 2012

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    Oh yes I was that girl, that girl that cared what people thought of her. I cared Somuch that I was never able to express how I felt, I was always worried what people would think of...
    itsjustbrit itsjustbrit 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Spent the first half of my life trying to fit in with trends or music or other kid stuff like that. But then one day you wake up and say..."NO! I WILL NOT FOLLOW TRENDS AND PRETEND...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 12

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    This is when I get hurt, I am a very emotional person with a lot of feelings! I can get attached to someone very quickly! Sometimes I realise but other times i dont until i get...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I hate how I care too much about people when they don't care about me at all
    whyusteens whyusteens 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    It kind of varies. I care about everything, and then all of a sudden you can throw anything at me and I won't react much as if it takes too much effort. I probably do care at one...
    Katami Katami 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    I don't want to sound like a martyr, but I can't seem to shake the thought that I care so much more about people in comparison to how much they supposedly care about me. I love the...
    Plutonianbabe Plutonianbabe 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I think too much and that's why I always end up hurting myself than the other person. I'm no goody two shoes but I don't know why I seem to always be occupied with thoughts...
    MoonMusicLover22 MoonMusicLover22 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 15

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    I feel like I do so much for everybody.. And they don't even notice. I always end up getting hurt in the end but that never stops me from helping them still.. Sometimes I just wish...
    bebe805 bebe805 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    Imagine this: you have a business trip in which you have to leave home for a month to meet and interact with another branch of your company. Now, imagine you're a closeted...
    youtubeninja youtubeninja 18-21, F Jul 15

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    The story of the donkey (why you can never please everyone) There once was a man with a donkey. He had to go to the market with his son, so he put his son to ride on the donkey...
    urbanwanderer urbanwanderer 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I know for a fact that we CANNOT please everybody... so why would I bother trying to please all people around?? I do what is right according to my beliefs and teachings.... those...
    meemo70 meemo70 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 22

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    I spent all day in my room, distracting myself. It was only when I went to go take a shower that the water works started coming. It might seem weak to feel suicidal, but if it's...
    TheAnonymousINFP TheAnonymousINFP 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    I wish I didn't. It frustrates me to know end and I know that people can take care of themselves. I have ridiculous amounts of anxiety and depression and it is crippling. I had to...
    AmarieSkyFlower AmarieSkyFlower 22-25 4 days ago

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    I can't help it as that is how i feel when see someone need help in anything. I get like pretty fast to help them out and dang. I find myself hurt from knowing i should stop caring...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 15

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    Why is it that those you care and love the most don't apreciate it? It is a real life mistery for me.Not because of this I can stop loving and caring but it is a smash over smash...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Yeah and what I get for it is a broken heart for a whole year, sleepless nights, and razor blades:)
    hebrokemyheart99 hebrokemyheart99 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Honestly why bother? People will always hurt you. You can be a great person and care about someone but do they feel the same? Can you believe them?? I just don't know anymore, all...
    eaarcher93 eaarcher93 18-21, F 15 hrs ago

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    Alexa is miiiiiiiiiiineeeeee
    baseballuno baseballuno 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 12

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    This ep is the place i share my misery and happiness but mostly i throw my **** here to let it out. I dont expect any to read. Writing my thoughts help me
    spongechannie spongechannie 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    ***** if u want a Burger🍔 have a Burger🍔 ***** if u want some French fries🍟 have some French fries 🍟 The ****
    Chasemanning Chasemanning 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 13

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    When people start talking **** to me I just start laughing and walk away
    Chasemanning Chasemanning 13-15, M Jul 13

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    I'm my own man....have always been a maverick, gone against the grain and done things My Way.......like 'Ole Blue Eyes..:)
    Davido57 Davido57 56-60, M 1 day ago

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    i am studying to be a doctor, so i'm not sure how these are bad qualities. in any case, they are one of the main reasons that my boyfriend broke up with me. it has left me reeling...
    flutterby75012 flutterby75012 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    I do alot...and the problem is..I can't help it
    Xcinderella Xcinderella 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I do alot...and the problem is..I can't help it
    Xcinderella Xcinderella 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    I love helping people. People i dont even know. I hate seeing people in pain or depressed. I try to help everyone who is suicidal because life is worth it. I was saved and now im...
    tribetown tribetown 16-17, M Jul 3

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    It's a weird feeling to feel obligated to help someone. I don't know why I feel that way but I do. It's not as simple as saying I see someone and want to help them. No it's a...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F 11 hrs ago

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    Put a brake on your mind: It is said that one of the most dreadful disease among humans living in 21st century is "Overthinking". As per estimates, an average person has around 70...
    rajblr1970 rajblr1970 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Recently, me and my husband eloped and of course, my parents and family members were not okay with it. It got to the point where I was beginning to regret making the decision of...
    sarashay sarashay 18-21, F Jul 8

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    I gave this up a long time ago. I do not care any more what people think of me. I am who I am and if one does not like that, well sorry, I will not change. I can make compromises...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F Jul 15

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    I'm curious of what others think about me. If you saw me in high-school what would your first impression of me be?
    silverthewulf silverthewulf 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    Should I be up... like right now... I can't sleep... same as last night, it seems to be commonplace for me to think too much at night. The thinking keeps me awake too. Night...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    It's so scary to think about how much I care. How much I've let my walls down around you. All I want is to love you, be there for you, and make you happy. I've had to put a lot of...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 4

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