Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Care Too Much What Others Think of Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 217 People

    If This Could Help..

    I have this problem and here is what came to my mind. Maybe this could help. There are people who, I guess, find me a wierd/funny/stupid/anything person (mostly I think it works with people who laught at you and mock you etc, I met plenty of them at school), but at the same time...
    Memonster Memonster 22-25 2 Responses Aug 3, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yes, And

    what other's opinions are. I can firmly believe something (unless I deeply & strongly believe it and won't let anyone prove me wrong) then when someone else doesn't agree I doubt myself..... it's very annoying. I vote everyone should just agree with me.
    Kristin137 Kristin137 16-17, F Feb 6, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Well Depends....

    It depends on who it is and what kind of relationship I have with them....For instance I care entirely too much what my teachers think of me and I do as much as I can to make them like me!however I don't care enough what my family thinks of me and I often disappoint them:(
    PrincessTutu PrincessTutu 18-21, F Jan 9, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    No Friends....

    I always worry about waht others think of me, and because of this, I always come out as being too withdrawn, or not interested in talking to others. I know I should stop being so paranoid, but I can't help it.
    mizzy11 mizzy11 13-15, F Jan 9, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Care Way Too Much. How Can I Stop

    I care so much about what others think of me it scares me. In fact I right now I am caring about what one person thinks of me so much it is driving me crazy. I feel like I have made her mad although i know in my head I have done nothing. But because of my anxiety/depression I...
    heavensbbw heavensbbw 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Its Just Habit

    i'm used to wanting to know what people think of me. if people dont like something about me then i'll be paranoied about it, but as i said its just habit. people are always willing to tell me what i am and stuff so if thats what others think then i should think the same right? i...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Been An Habit For Years

     ive always been this way since i was a little girl. i feel like ppl are starin at me(when their not) or tryin to figure me out by lookin at me. im scared of lookin the wrong way or sayin the wrong things. so i act differently wit diff ppl. even with family members. so if u...
    AceMoni18 AceMoni18 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 9, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Care Way Too Much What People Think

    I tend to say some pretty dumb things. Sometimes I tell people a little too much, or a little too little. And most of the reason I do this is because my social skills arent too good. I used to let this problem keep me from talking to people. Though these days...
    flyingdog2008 flyingdog2008 22-25 Apr 13, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I let it get to me. It controls what I post on

    social media (which i deleted) it makes me second guess on who to hang out with at school, the clothes I wear to school, what music is listen to, what I get involved in and what I don't. I really want to stop caring about what they think, but as for now I can't.
    matt6521 matt6521 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 14, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Going Back In Forth On The Descion Of Divorce

    Been with my husband almost 8 years - and he has cheated and hurt me - However I believe he would change and he he started to then I felt it was too late and I filed for divorce I have all these friends Ive know since I was 13 years old telling me Im going right back to the...
    aimess aimess 26-30 Sep 7, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Caring Too Much Is Affecting My Relationships

    I have been dating a wonderful man for close to 1 year. We have had our ups and downs, but have really worked through things and are very happy. It has been a tough year for both of us with personal, health and family issues, and he is not as outgoing/social of a person as i am...
    sheeshee sheeshee 41-45, F Sep 1, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Care...

     I care too much what others think of me and I'd sometimes do things I don't like just to please them in hope they will think good of me. It's because I hate being judged and criticised. Am getting nervous in simple social situations because am scared of making an idiot out...
    amlost amlost 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 9, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What I like about drinking is that

    after a few drinks I don't care about the critics. They say I drink too much, I eat too much, beer has too many calories, I shouldn't wear this, I should wear that. They all get quieter and disappear to nothing: both those voices outside and those inside my head.
    CatalinaVanilla CatalinaVanilla 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I think this is something a lot of people do.

    We expect too much from ourselves and need to please everyone. Even strangers I see on the subway, I care what they think of me. I realize this is unhealthy and I'd be happier if I could accept that not everyone will like me, but I don't know how to change my behavior and stop...
    nyc441010 nyc441010 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Don't Like Doing Stuff

    Even if it just me walking down the street, I will change the way I walk or which way I am looking if I think that the person who sees me thinks I'm weird. I don't do a lot of things because I am afraid of mass judgement. Not that anything's ever come of it...I am a judgemental...
    Shyguy28 Shyguy28 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 26, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Missing Out On A Good Guy

    One of the things I hate about myself is that I care too much what others think of me. This sick thought has driven many of my decisions, actions, feelings. The worst part is that it also drives my emotions and what I allow myself to feel. A year ago I met this really nice guy...
    andsand88 andsand88 22-25, F Feb 12, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    Then You Shouldn't ******* Care So Much. Damn You Enemies. Damn The Humans. Damn the World.
    Gabster27 Gabster27 18-21, F 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Ever since my mom's passing, who was my best friend, I got to see who my real friends and family are, and not to mention how strong I can be when I bring my situation to Christ...
    GarnetRoses GarnetRoses 22-25, F 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    it hurts when i care and the other one leaves me as i am nothing for him it hurts when someone cmes in ur life and makes ur life happy and then steal all happiness in a second it...
    brokenangelia brokenangelia 26-30, F 13 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've become bolder as I grow older. I still care about giving the right impression but I care a little less about it as time goes on. Do you find you are a rollar coaster or a...
    KevinAdams123 KevinAdams123 31-35, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I realize that most people do not find fat attractive but I do. Growing fatter has made me feel much more confident and comfortable in my body, more so than when I was skinny and...
    coolsean1 coolsean1 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Betrayal. It is one of the most painful things to experience and i know from experience. Today i was betrayed lied to tricked but what could i do but break down? Betrayal is simply...
    Pedroman75 Pedroman75 13-15, M 4 Responses Feb 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm Dutch and to stereotype some thing,yes,I still walk on wooden shoe's some times,they are very practical,warm in winter,cool in summer,easy to slip on/of and very natural.Not...
    kingkyrie kingkyrie 51-55, M 3 Responses Feb 23

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I suppose that's the reason some of the time.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I hide my caring nature behind so many walls that no one can see it and such they don't believe I have it
    Xcena Xcena 16-17, M Feb 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i believe that my inner self is completely destroyed. i havnt slept im ages. i havnt talked to any1 since ages. when some1 needed me i was always dre for dem but now everyone just...
    mannankaur3 mannankaur3 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Everywhere i go i only wish to help people out and when i help i get kicked along. As if i like to get kicked cause i never stop caring.
    Angie1110 Angie1110 22-25, F Feb 16

    Your Response

    Cancel
    This is bs , societal paradigm requires that one cares what others think in order to fit in with others no matter where you are within the social strata , you need friends...
    missreeedy missreeedy 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I think too much to the point where I spiral into despair. I worry I'm not making the most out of my life or I'm not living up to the person I set out to be. It got so bad that I...
    eveylind eveylind 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 22

    Your Response

    Cancel
    what if my family stops caring about me all together? what if i never get married? what if suddenly i had no friends at all? what if next year i go to college and i don't do good...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 23

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I ate too much again, i think i'm gonna throw up :s
    itcheru itcheru 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I can't make decisions about anything, really. I think this stems from being uncertain about nearly everything. I've noticed having "faux" convictions in place in order to mask my...
    urbanseeker urbanseeker 22-25, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Does anyone have any advice on dealing with this irrational fear I have? I worry about how others see me based on how I act and what I wear. I don't act like I would with someone...
    MarioT96 MarioT96 18-21, M 5 Responses Feb 22

    Your Response

    Cancel
    40 Lessons by Holy Prophet (S.A.W.W) ------------------------------ 01. Refrain from sleeping between fajr and Ishraq, Asr and Maghrib, Maghrib and Isha...
    samgha samgha 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    On the way to my driver's ed today, I was asking my mom if she knew when my dad was going on trial. She got started to get mad and say she didn't care about him going to jail...
    moose73630 moose73630 16-17, M 3 Responses Feb 16

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It never fails. I always back off and keep my distance from others. I can't fully explain why, cause I really don't know why. I always wonder who is real, who is pretending. Who...
    EyeDontGiveAHoot EyeDontGiveAHoot 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 22

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I mean to say I think we're encouraged to think too much. I've thought about it a lot. Too much actually. My parents were pretty strict but fair.I was encouraged to think for...
    Blondiex15 Blondiex15 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 24

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I tend to think I have become this way because of my childhood, I have always been the only son, so I played mostly alone, hence I had to talk to my self, friends aren't...
    Iamdusk Iamdusk 36-40, M 8 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My brain is a talking machine at night like wtf is going on up there? I'm like ok today step in bed get a good night sleep and then suddenly I'm hungry and I'm like nope think...
    WTFGOD WTFGOD 13-15, F 7 Responses Feb 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have way too much on my plate and I'm not even HUNGRY!! I have so many things to do and NEVER enough time to do it all! On the other hand I have plenty of time to all I need to...
    NamelessWife NamelessWife 41-45, F Feb 16

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Today I spent six hours doing private messages on EP... and 90 minutes yesterday. (Finally caught up!) And this is with skipping the messages that really don't give me anything...
    igivefreelove igivefreelove 18-21, F 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I know I think too much. I try and imagine things happening before they do so that should it happen I know what I'm going to do. I suppose some would say that it's worrying too...
    T1ggy67 T1ggy67 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I still think about how much I hurt him. If he's actually ok. If he's forgiven me or if he's just blocked it out. I read about what he thinks/thought about me all the time, about...
    TallyO TallyO 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 14

    Your Response

    Cancel