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I Care Too Much What Others Think of Me

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    I let it get to me. It controls what I post on

    social media (which i deleted) it makes me second guess on who to hang out with at school, the clothes I wear to school, what music is listen to, what I get involved in and what I don't. I really want to stop caring about what they think, but as for now I can't.
    matt6521 matt6521 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    If This Could Help..

    I have this problem and here is what came to my mind. Maybe this could help. There are people who, I guess, find me a wierd/funny/stupid/anything person (mostly I think it works with people who laught at you and mock you etc, I met plenty of them at school), but at the same time...
    Memonster Memonster 22-25 1 Response Aug 3, 2013

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    I Care Way Too Much What People Think

    I tend to say some pretty dumb things. Sometimes I tell people a little too much, or a little too little. And most of the reason I do this is because my social skills arent too good. I used to let this problem keep me from talking to people. Though these days...
    flyingdog2008 flyingdog2008 22-25 Apr 13, 2009

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    No Friends....

    I always worry about waht others think of me, and because of this, I always come out as being too withdrawn, or not interested in talking to others. I know I should stop being so paranoid, but I can't help it.
    mizzy11 mizzy11 13-15, F Jan 9, 2010

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    I Care...

     I care too much what others think of me and I'd sometimes do things I don't like just to please them in hope they will think good of me. It's because I hate being judged and criticised. Am getting nervous in simple social situations because am scared of making an idiot out...
    amlost amlost 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 9, 2010

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    Caring Too Much Is Affecting My Relationships

    I have been dating a wonderful man for close to 1 year. We have had our ups and downs, but have really worked through things and are very happy. It has been a tough year for both of us with personal, health and family issues, and he is not as outgoing/social of a person as i am...
    sheeshee sheeshee 41-45, F Sep 1, 2010

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    Don't Like Doing Stuff

    Even if it just me walking down the street, I will change the way I walk or which way I am looking if I think that the person who sees me thinks I'm weird. I don't do a lot of things because I am afraid of mass judgement. Not that anything's ever come of it...I am a judgemental...
    Shyguy28 Shyguy28 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 26, 2012

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    Yes, And

    what other's opinions are. I can firmly believe something (unless I deeply & strongly believe it and won't let anyone prove me wrong) then when someone else doesn't agree I doubt myself..... it's very annoying. I vote everyone should just agree with me.
    Kristin137 Kristin137 16-17, F Feb 6, 2010

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    Its Just Habit

    i'm used to wanting to know what people think of me. if people dont like something about me then i'll be paranoied about it, but as i said its just habit. people are always willing to tell me what i am and stuff so if thats what others think then i should think the same right? i...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2007

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    Well Depends....

    It depends on who it is and what kind of relationship I have with them....For instance I care entirely too much what my teachers think of me and I do as much as I can to make them like me!however I don't care enough what my family thinks of me and I often disappoint them:(
    PrincessTutu PrincessTutu 18-21, F Jan 9, 2010

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    Missing Out On A Good Guy

    One of the things I hate about myself is that I care too much what others think of me. This sick thought has driven many of my decisions, actions, feelings. The worst part is that it also drives my emotions and what I allow myself to feel. A year ago I met this really nice guy...
    andsand88 andsand88 22-25, F Feb 12, 2012

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    Going Back In Forth On The Descion Of Divorce

    Been with my husband almost 8 years - and he has cheated and hurt me - However I believe he would change and he he started to then I felt it was too late and I filed for divorce I have all these friends Ive know since I was 13 years old telling me Im going right back to the...
    aimess aimess 26-30 Sep 7, 2012

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    I Care Way Too Much. How Can I Stop

    I care so much about what others think of me it scares me. In fact I right now I am caring about what one person thinks of me so much it is driving me crazy. I feel like I have made her mad although i know in my head I have done nothing. But because of my anxiety/depression I...
    heavensbbw heavensbbw 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2010

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    I think this is something a lot of people do.

    We expect too much from ourselves and need to please everyone. Even strangers I see on the subway, I care what they think of me. I realize this is unhealthy and I'd be happier if I could accept that not everyone will like me, but I don't know how to change my behavior and stop...
    nyc441010 nyc441010 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Been An Habit For Years

     ive always been this way since i was a little girl. i feel like ppl are starin at me(when their not) or tryin to figure me out by lookin at me. im scared of lookin the wrong way or sayin the wrong things. so i act differently wit diff ppl. even with family members. so if u...
    AceMoni18 AceMoni18 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 9, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    In High School, some girls and boys did not want to hang out with me because they thought I was a bitchy girl that would discriminate others. The girls were always criticising me...
    EarlPhantomhive EarlPhantomhive 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    Once you stop caring what others think of you, you take a huge step to what is called freedom.
    3dogmatic 3dogmatic 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 18

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    It matters not what others think, it matters what I know.
    3dogmatic 3dogmatic 36-40, M Aug 19

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    Care too little, you'll lose them. Care too much, you'll get hurt.
    Manzzle Manzzle 18-21, M 5 Responses Aug 9

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    I did it again. I cared too much. This is the second time I've posted about this topic, but it's happened about eleven times where I meet someone, and I start to build feelings for...
    youtubeninja youtubeninja 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    I just don't care any more, I am exhausted in caring what other people think if me.... I have spent calf my life pleasing people...they want me to be this way and not that way...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Today I was talking with one of my EP friends about how a guy on here ignored me for no apparent reason. No matter what I tried to say to him, he wouldn't respond.. I don't believe...
    Tazzu Tazzu 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I wish I didn't care so much about everything, about like self appearance it eats me up inside every single day of my life like you don't know self hate until you've lived through...
    jadetumbler jadetumbler 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    Why do I care so much, I think that I have an amazing friend and it turns out that, they are the same as they were before, and that they haven't changed!
    Charliee4 Charliee4 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    why do I care so much... I have to remember I'm 14 and I can't solve everyone's problems. I can't even solve my own. but I always put myself out there for my friends to try to...
    Katelynann30 Katelynann30 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 8

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    Everyone i know pretty much allways goes " what r u wearing!!" Or like "dont dance in public youre crazy" but whatever 😄✌️
    ep1093 ep1093 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    Caring is a good thing when you need to control your impulses and keep yourself from doing selfish, stupid actions... but that's not exactly my problem right now. I just wish...
    MysteryMe110 MysteryMe110 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    so I had a short relationship, suddenly he sent me a text that he was happier when we were friends so we decided to be friends (it's really hard for me though) he deleted me from...
    123anotherme 123anotherme 18-21, F Jul 31

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    People work their lives away for money rather than happiness. What's worse is the inability to live if you don't work. I bet hitting that goal this week or getting that A in school...
    PuckDrop PuckDrop 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 4

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    The more money the more problems we have. All this greed and superficial materialistic crap is destroying the planet today. I'd rather share and care keeping it real regardless...
    lifeafterdeath7 lifeafterdeath7 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    As some of you know I'm in a toxic relationship. So much has changed with her since we first met. She used to love to be around me. But now I think she avoids spending time with me...
    shunjustin shunjustin 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 11

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    Am trapped. On a gold claim. Trying to be decent and healthy. But i reported staff. They hate that. They have company help. Their crimes get ignored. But my...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 31

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    Dear hurt, Why can't you leave me alone? Why is it that you always find your way to suck me in, with no fair warning? Hurt, you put me down so many times. You keep telling my...
    natashaxxs natashaxxs 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 4

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    That i skateboard and land on ribs and breaking them like people don't care about me
    painfulwedgiegirl painfulwedgiegirl 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    The positive side to this, is that when someone I know has walked almost the same path as me I'll try my hardest to make it easier for them. I go out of my way to remain their...
    DaFufinator DaFufinator 18-21, M 6 hrs ago

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    Other girls are into make up shopping and nails while im into wearing snap backs backwards and tanks sometimes i like playing video games but thats just me (sorry for my ugly ness...
    desitor desitor 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    Is it wrong to expect some small gesture other than "I'm sorry" after a big fight?
    panikki panikki 18-21, F Aug 21

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    Am letting flies out the door. When calm or sad. Fok. Weird. Lmao.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    People wait to see me down. They will keep waiting all their life. BURN BABY BURN.
    usernameunavailabletrylater usernameunavailabletrylater 18-21, F Aug 13

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    It's a weird feeling to feel obligated to help someone. I don't know why I feel that way but I do. It's not as simple as saying I see someone and want to help them. No it's a...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21 Jul 31

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    My family has always raised me to be this way. To express myself and not care what others think about me. :) I am so glad they taught me to be this way, I feel really sorry for...
    BurntToasty BurntToasty 13-15, M 3 Responses Aug 11

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    I am new to this because i never really talked it to anyone, except for one person. They recommended this website to me and I thought "why not give this a try?" Okay, so I care...
    JadeB410 JadeB410 18-21, F Aug 12

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    The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there...
    BeatTheBest BeatTheBest 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 22

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    Self esteem or a sense of worth is a very fragile thing for me. I am not competent to comment on others' feelings on the same matter, but some words (even if spoken in a different...
    pretender2687 pretender2687 26-30, M Aug 20

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    Often, I will want to just spill the beans about myself. Something about "purging," I guess. Sometimes, it is good. Many times, it is not. So, the question is: "How much is too...
    hillcountrydeb hillcountrydeb 61-65, F Aug 1

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    People always ask me, why I hardly sleep! Stress, that is the cause. I stress about everything. Can I pay this bill, student loans, keeping the car up todate, etc... I have...
    vbedwell90 vbedwell90 22-25, F Aug 18

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    Today was freshman orientation for school and I went really confident. I thought I looked great and I thought I was gonna make lots of friends and maybe even meet a cute boy or two...
    Fishy2k14 Fishy2k14 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Should I be up... like right now... I can't sleep... same as last night, it seems to be commonplace for me to think too much at night. The thinking keeps me awake too. Night...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jul 31

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    I wonder if I ask too much when all I ask for is a little respect.I prefer not asking anything from anyone.I believe in myself and can take care of myself.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F