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I Check Out Your Profile Before I Add You

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    Before You Add Me To Your Circle Read This!

    I will not add you if you have any nudes/explicit photos and stories. Also I do not date older men. So don't even bother messaging me if you are 30-50+ unless you are a nice guy or girl not a pervert. I'm not lesbian or bi i'm straight. Also I will never send out nudes. And if...
    MKM18 MKM18 18-21, F 11 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    Who The Frig Just Added Me To Their Circle.

    When I see a new Fan I always take the time to read their page. I look at your Groups your Stories your Friends and how you market yourself on EP. I am only looking for platonic friends. The number of friends I have does not concern me I would much rather have quality friends who...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    Everytime!! I prefer those

    that write a variety of stories, have varied experiences, but most important to me........"you're real".
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 10 Responses Feb 8

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    if you don't have stories,

    face photo or have some sexual experiences,i don't add you.
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    Common Sense

    If you send me a friend request or if I have noticed a comment of yours to one of my stories or to that of a friend's then I will check out your profile before I consider adding you to my very small circle of friends.  It isn't about arrogance.  It is about finding people who...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    If your profile has a lot of sexual experiences

    on it I won't be adding you or accepting your message. I have no problem with sexuality. It's just that every time someone with that stuff on their profile messages me they're looking for sex. I'm not here for that. I'm mostly here to share my stories and maybe make a few...
    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I Don'T Add To Expect Reciprocation

    I add people that I find interesting. I may enjoy their ability to write well or I just might enjoy their content. I don't expect to be added in return but if that happens that's even better :)
    walabby walabby 56-60, M 3 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I am not interested in adding someone to my

    friends list, that does not have any posted stories or confessions, a decent avatar and a blanked profile. I want to know the inner workings. I prefer friends that agree that it is OK to disagree with them and will not just post something and immediately block me. Also...
    Hotdog798 Hotdog798 46-50, M 5 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    We can't be friends with people

    who does’t try to get to know ourselves.some people just wanna may be random talk. But i want have meaningful convasation.It means meaningful relationship.
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2014

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    Generally if you have anything I deem creepy

    or are over the age of 21, I won't add you. I'm 16. I don't need that weirdness.
    QuietViolets QuietViolets 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    Read This Before You Add Me.

    Finally, I shall write a story about this and put it on my top 8 experiences, because it's starting to bug the hell out of me. I have probably over a hundred fans... people fan me every day. Why? I do not know. However, I only have 23 friends. What does THIS tell you...
    flyawayhome flyawayhome 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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    *block*

    Heres the rules... No urine, diapers or crap groups, unless they're hate groups. I dont want to add you if your over 70, a guy, and most of your groups are about ******* everything that moves, you should be in a retiring home. Pretty much, because i cant be ****** writing down...
    brogan16 brogan16 18-21, F 14 Responses Apr 16, 2011

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    I think I should take my profile picture down

    because it seems that many males are trying chat with me, thinking that I'm going to give into them so easily. And that does not work with me. I will talk to some but only talk and I am younger than most who try to tell me I'm hot or anything.
    pinklimeliz pinklimeliz 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Averageguy41074 Averageguy41074 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    What I See Before Adding

    1. u should have sufficient no. of experiences 2. ur profile shud not be very recent 3. if u hv shared experiences thats better 4. u shud posted pics 5. if u hv cmmntd on my stories,u r an instant add 6. u shud have good english n u should not sound too desperate and look for cam...
    lonelyheena lonelyheena 22-25, F 17 Responses Dec 19, 2011

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    Every time. Send me a message

    or just add me and your name will show up in those little icons up there to the right. I will always read your message but the next step is to go through your profile. If it's shallow, has no stories and no real sense of common ground I will move on, but I will not add you. The...
    ClaudNine ClaudNine 18-21, F 6 Responses May 12, 2014

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    My friends and I have received a message on our

    whiteboards from the same guy. "Hi, add me plz". His status is "I am horny." Like we care.....yeah right!
    RedOnTheFarm RedOnTheFarm 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2014

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    Read This!

    I am really a good guy, it is not just my name on here. If you wanna cuss and get mad and let people have it, I really don't want friends like that. I hate Drama and I am recently divorced and my emotions go up and down but I will never be mean. I will respect anyone's opinions...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M Oct 20, 2013

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    Everyone should read profiles

    before they add anyone...some just want to see your pictures...they don't really WANT to talk to you or be friends with you. Some are just scammers or creepers...the ones who don't have any groups or who don't have any stories, or don't have any "real" information about...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    bluesky52 bluesky52 51-55, M 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    What's with these men going through circles

    and adding every female in them? I am sure this has been discussed time and time again.
    Justwalkonby Justwalkonby 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 14

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    Or even talk to you. I'm not snobby

    but if u don't have a profile and just made one up to talk to chicks I'm not talking to u. I like stuff on ur profile so we can talk about it and get to know one another better. 😃
    pantiesandstockins pantiesandstockins 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    You Bet Your Sweet Bippy I Do... :)

    But it's because I actually want to interact with my friends on EP. And when I say interact...I do not mean...skype...or cyber...or have phone sex. *rolls eyes* I want to read your stories...and get to know you as a person...and I want you to read my stories...and get to know me...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 8 Responses Aug 11, 2012

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    I'm not gonna lie. I add,

    ignore or block based on first impressions. Why? Because I can :/
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2014

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    Well,its been awhile

    since Ive needed to say this but again and I mean no offense,I need to say,,,,if You are a man who is a cd,a tg.I will not ad You.I am 100% straight.If all the groups You are in are sexual,be You male or female,I will not ad You.
    The1960texan The1960texan 51-55, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    EvaLolita EvaLolita 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Yup, I check for a lack of weird sexual stuff

    and whether or not you've made posts. The age doesn't really matter that much.
    Twichl Twichl 18-21, F Jan 4

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    checking if you just wanted to have

    that friends of yours increased in number.. And doesn't add people without stories.
    gwenllian gwenllian 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    I've become strict with adding males here.

    They seem like the most annoying. I've come to the point where I'm weary of men over the age of 40, those with a ton of sexual stories and experiences (that one goes for both genders, actually), and those with an obviously fake profile picture. I know you're not really that...
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2014

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    I always check out profiles

    before I add someone to my circle or start messaging them a lot. I usually got through the first 3 pages of experiences. I think that's enough to get a good feel of someone. And if someone only has 1 or 0 experiences I will not add them. And if you're under 18 I won't add you. I...
    GirlLearningHowToSmile GirlLearningHowToSmile 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 15, 2014

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    When messaging someone on EP,

    do you say they're beautiful because you think they have an amazing personality and you've taken the time to read their stories on here? Or do you hope for the best that the person you're talking to is remotely attractive and will feel the same way about you? Don't tell me I'm...
    juniper12 juniper12 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 1, 2014

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    That being said, I have sexual "likes"

    but that's not the only reason I'm here. #meetingalotofpervs
    iwontbeg4it iwontbeg4it 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    Lmao you might as well just not add me,

    I'm telling you right now .
    Princeofnothing Princeofnothing 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2014

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    Yep, I check profiles.

    I enjoy reading your stories and learning something about you, even if your lifestyle is different than mine. I never just add people to my circle. If I find your page interesting, I'm courteous enough to note you and I'd appreciate the same. Let's start a short dialogue and...
    EtherealEquinox EtherealEquinox 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2014

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    I am not interested in chatting with men

    who add children to their circle. It's strange to me when grown men are eager to fill their home feed with experiences of children they don't know. You might feel innocent about it, but it makes me uncomfortable that you seek connections with girls as young as 13. And only girls...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    jenneruz jenneruz 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 4

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    Lately, I haven't really been checking out the

    profiles of people who add me to their circle or message me, because I'm not going to base my conclusion on what they've experienced in life. Hell, I'm the last to judge. It's only by how you handle life. You, as an individual, may inspire me to press on or to think twice...
    NaomiSunandMoon NaomiSunandMoon 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 23

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    Do I Ever !!

    I mean...why would I add you IF we have nothing or very little in common? Why would I bother if you've been around EP for a while but haven't bothered to add a story, share a common experience, make a confession, answer a question or even up rate or like something I've posted...
    RobertaS RobertaS 36-40, F 15 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    Why

    Do you contact me? If you're lonely and need an ear or a virtual shoulder to cry on, I'm here for you. I love people and love to help in any way I can. I have lived quite a bit, had a lot of tough experiences and more good ones than I can count. I'm living my life with an open...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 6 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    Personally, I think that is a huge disadvantage

    not to take a look at someone's profile before adding or talking to them. I also don't add people without their direct permission. I look at a profile before I even respond to a random person that messages me as well. I really like that age brackets and experiences are...
    Nyx613 Nyx613 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    PsychologyNerd PsychologyNerd 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 11, 2014

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    lmtnmn lmtnmn 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 25, 2014

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    I would be updating my circle of friends real

    soon... Would be adding or deleting...
    Charmeeee Charmeeee 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    I don't add people who's profile talks about

    sex etc, I'm here for friendship and honest connections. I advise you to read my profile before adding me! I delete (for the most part) messages without some form of prior communication. Again, if you are expecting me to send you pictures, you're barking up the wrong tree...
    justjayne justjayne 41-45, F Nov 23, 2014

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    Some people are just weird.

    I'll befriend almost anyone but, I will definitely check your profile out first. I may not be your cup of tea and you may not be mine! I get the weirdest msgs in my inbox and I block immediately. My block list is extremely long and it'll get longer. Don't be weird people!
    JourneyJames JourneyJames 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 2, 2014

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    I don't add people blind,

    I check and make sure we have at least some experiences in common first. I actually like the Experience Project doesn't allow you to message people out of the blue, giving me to the means to often view a profile and delete messages I'll suspect are blatant sex or picture...
    KatTF KatTF 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I always check a profile

    before I add a new friend. It gives me a sense of a person's character, which is very important to me. When members are vulgar or condone cheating and betrayal, are vindictive, or abuse privacy of others, it's a red flag to me, and I won't add.
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 8, 2014