I Check Out Your Profile Before I Add You

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    My requirements are easy: 1.

    You need to have logged in within the past month - I only want active friends 2. You have a handful of mutual groups as me - I'm here to discuss the things that interest me 3. You have written at least a few stories - if you don't write it's difficult to know you
    swl2jo swl2jo
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Jan 7, 2016

    And I sincerely hope

    that you will do the same.
    canuckrider canuckrider
    56-60, F
    6 Responses Mar 9, 2016

    I don't consider it stalking,

    I consider your page as a extension of yourself so why not? I am gladly welcoming people to check out mine and if they like it, have a question then feel free to ask
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Nov 30, 2015


    Heres the rules... No urine, diapers or crap groups, unless they're hate groups. I dont want to add you if your over 70, a guy, and most of your groups are about ******* everything that moves, you should be in a retiring home. Pretty much, because i cant be ****** writing down...
    brogan16 brogan16
    18-21, F
    13 Responses Apr 16, 2011

    Generally if you have anything I deem creepy

    or are over the age of 21, I won't add you. I'm 16. I don't need that weirdness.
    QuietViolets QuietViolets
    18-21, F
    Nov 21, 2014

    I do, every time I get an add request.

    Questioning why? So many blank profiles. Please just give me something!
    Alexandra4u Alexandra4u
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Jun 3, 2015

    Before You Add Me To Your Circle Read This!

    I will not add you if you have any nudes/explicit photos and stories. Also I do not date older men. So don't even bother messaging me if you are 30-50+ unless you are a nice guy or girl not a pervert. I'm not lesbian or bi i'm straight. Also I will never send out nudes. And if...
    MKM18 MKM18
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Nov 26, 2013

    To cut it short, No pic,

    no add. If you don't have a picture as your profile instead of just that blank in the picture or whatever, and you add me, i will not add you back. Thank you. Have a nice day.
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Oct 23, 2015
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    5 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    yep i will stare a lot think a million

    times after that add you lol :)
    seekingsurfer seekingsurfer
    18-21, M
    Dec 12, 2015

    I am not interested in chatting with men

    who add children to their circle. It's strange to me when grown men are eager to fill their home feed with experiences of children they don't know. You might feel innocent about it, but it makes me uncomfortable that you seek connections with girls as young as 13. And only girls...
    Elayla Elayla
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 27, 2014

    Hey EPers... I take a look at profiles

    before adding anyone...I'm not here to run up a big collection of people that are "friended" as if I were collecting Beanie-Babies !.. I don't want a Bf, and I'm not looking for "Mr. Right'... not even "Mr. Right Now ". I enjoy talking with people with similar tastes, likes and...
    ElChapo36 ElChapo36
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Jan 14, 2016

    Its nothing personal.

    I just check to see who you are as a person, what you like, and with this I decide if I should bother. Which, as it turns out, I usually dont. ~ Lys ♪
    LysChan LysChan
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 9, 2015

    I check for compatibility on a couple different

    levels. Experiences, similar friends and stories.
    grower629 grower629
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Sep 26, 2015


    Do you contact me? If you're lonely and need an ear or a virtual shoulder to cry on, I'm here for you. I love people and love to help in any way I can. I have lived quite a bit, had a lot of tough experiences and more good ones than I can count. I'm living my life with an open...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Nov 7, 2013

    Everyone should read profiles

    before they add anyone...some just want to see your pictures...they don't really WANT to talk to you or be friends with you. Some are just scammers or creepers...the ones who don't have any groups or who don't have any stories, or don't have any "real" information about...
    RubyLane RubyLane
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Nov 23, 2014

    When messaging someone on EP,

    do you say they're beautiful because you think they have an amazing personality and you've taken the time to read their stories on here? Or do you hope for the best that the person you're talking to is remotely attractive and will feel the same way about you? Don't tell me I'm...
    juniper12 juniper12
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Apr 1, 2014
    SatanicAngel22 SatanicAngel22
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016
    stuffedkitten1 stuffedkitten1
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 3, 2016

    I do the same. And also

    when someone messages me, that way I'll know what I have in common with that person in both cases plus I'll have a good idea of what we're going to be chatting about.
    Railfan50 Railfan50
    51-55, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    I do. So if you send me an add request

    and you have your male member as your avi, it is a very high probability that you're not going to be added. Thank you and have a nice day :))
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    I am very careful with

    who I add. I don't just add anybody to my circle. So I will view your profile before adding. Anyone with request who's profile is inappropriate gets blocked automatically.
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 6, 2016

    If you have no experiences to share I will

    block you. If you have nothing in common with me I will block you.
    jeffreyrichards2015 jeffreyrichards2015
    56-60, M
    3 Responses Sep 6, 2015

    I always give people I add the courtesy of a PM

    to let them know why I did and what I found interesting about them. If you would like to be in my circle, please shoot me a note and let me know why. There see to be too many people that just like to collect friends without any connection.
    gladewalker gladewalker
    56-60, M
    Feb 7, 2016

    I don't add people unless they seem like they

    can be respectful and alright people
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 18, 2015

    To be honest I barely

    even do it anymore, I add almost anyone but I'll only talk to some people. The amount of people that I'm willing to talk to on a regular basis is maybe less than 5. If you make me uncomfortable I don't talk to you, and it takes A LOT to make me uncomfortable. If you act like an...
    Rockandrollfan Rockandrollfan
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    Sometimes yeah sometimes no.

    ..I get in adding moods where I will just add a bunch of people. I don't really care what you have in your profile, only that you are an active participant. On that note, if you message me when I am not online I am just not going to read it...nothing personal but it is easier...
    TheGreatKate TheGreatKate
    22-25, F
    14 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    I Don'T Add To Expect Reciprocation

    I add people that I find interesting. I may enjoy their ability to write well or I just might enjoy their content. I don't expect to be added in return but if that happens that's even better :)
    walabby walabby
    61-65, M
    3 Responses Apr 20, 2013
    KnightStalkerXIV KnightStalkerXIV
    18-21, M
    Apr 20, 2016
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Nov 29, 2015

    Do I Ever !!

    I mean...why would I add you IF we have nothing or very little in common? Why would I even consider it if you've been around EP for a while but haven't bothered to add a story, share a common experience, make a confession, answer a question or even up rate or like something I've...
    RobertaS RobertaS
    41-45, F
    17 Responses Jul 30, 2013

    Most men who have added

    or messaged me are solely interested in getting to know my breast size or if I live in x so I can hook up with y.
    EngelH EngelH
    22-25, T
    4 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    Before anyone messages me,

    I always check out the profile. I don't care if you're Regis Philbin or the mailman across the street (Love ya, Reg!)!
    HypnoticFever HypnoticFever
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 9, 2015

    If you try to add me

    or message me out of the blue, I simply won't reply. Bugging me in the notes of my stories won't work either. If we've talked enough (there's room to do so on the stories) and I feel comfortable adding you, I will do so, but only then. It's not personal, it's that I'm cautious...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 10, 2016

    Please don't take offense

    if I don't add you. I don't view friends lists on line the same way most do. I only add people that I have continued communication with over time and we actually become friends. My friend's list is not acquaintances.
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Mar 15, 2016
    PoisonLace PoisonLace
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2015

    I always check people profiles

    before I add them because I might end up talking to a crazy person and bow these days people are
    prettymama123 prettymama123
    1 Response Dec 30, 2015

    I always check out profiles

    before I add someone to my circle or start messaging them a lot. I usually got through the first 3 pages of experiences. I think that's enough to get a good feel of someone. And if someone only has 1 or 0 experiences I will not add them. And if you're under 18 I won't add you. I...
    GirlLearningHowToSmile GirlLearningHowToSmile
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 15, 2014

    Why yes. Of course I do.

    Just wanna make sure you aren't some bad guy or some other lower who tries to mess with me in a sexual way.
    Shanmaro Shanmaro
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    Even before I talk to people.

    I don't respond to people with weird *** usernames or weird *** experiences
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 15, 2016

    I check out your profile.

    . if you add me or message me.. and if I think you're up to making troubles then I don't bother with you further.. no offense.. too many gutter brains here.. o.O
    MeowBird MeowBird
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Mar 21, 2016

    you added me to your circle?

    well lets see, how old are you? 25+ I wont add back, how many stories you shared? 0, probably you are too boring to have anything to talk about with me, your groups? zero in common, no way am gonna add back. move along
    prettykatey prettykatey
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 20, 2016

    if you don't have stories,

    face photo or have some sexual experiences,i don't add you.
    juryandrews juryandrews
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2015

    Don't be offended. I just don't want to add

    someone in my circle that has a history of inappropriate things and such.
    maddie91101 maddie91101
    16-17, F
    Mar 14, 2016

    Or even talk to you. I'm not snobby

    but if u don't have a profile and just made one up to talk to chicks I'm not talking to u. I like stuff on ur profile so we can talk about it and get to know one another better. 😃
    pantiesandstockins pantiesandstockins
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 22, 2014

    I think it's the best thing to do on here.

    I've noticed some people adding me and checked out their profiles... Wow. Way too extreme for me but to each their own. Just not for me. So I check all profiles before adding and if it's clear we would never interact because we are just not in the same galaxy of understanding...
    GoneGirl78 GoneGirl78
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 27, 2015
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