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I Check Out Your Profile Before I Add You

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    I Check You Out

    I do check out your profile. It doesn't mean I will reciprocate. I would like my friends to have a range of experiences, not just sex. If that's all you're interested in, then I'm not interested. Nor am I fan of any of the other  pee and poo fetishes. I use the toilet, but I do...
    Becnme Becnme 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 3, 2011

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    Generally if you have anything I deem creepy

    or are over the age of 21, I won't add you. I'm 16. I don't need that weirdness.
    QuietViolets QuietViolets 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 21

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    Everyone should read profiles

    before they add anyone...some just want to see your pictures...they don't really WANT to talk to you or be friends with you. Some are just scammers or creepers...the ones who don't have any groups or who don't have any stories, or don't have any "real" information about...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 23

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    Lmao you might as well just not add me,

    I'm telling you right now .
    Fallenprinceofthedarkside Fallenprinceofthedarkside 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 15

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    I think I should take my profile picture down

    because it seems that many males are trying chat with me, thinking that I'm going to give into them so easily. And that does not work with me. I will talk to some but only talk and I am younger than most who try to tell me I'm hot or anything.
    pinklimeliz pinklimeliz 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Some people are just weird.

    I'll befriend almost anyone but, I will definitely check your profile out first. I may not be your cup of tea and you may not be mine! I get the weirdest msgs in my inbox and I block immediately. My block list is extremely long and it'll get longer. Don't be weird people!
    JourneyJames JourneyJames 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 2

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    And preferably we would have been talking

    for a while first too. I want people in my circle to be friends, not just people adding me because i have some dodgy pics. I want it ot be people i can look forward to coming online and talking too xD, so i'm going to check you out before i add you haha
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 23

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    I have to make sure Im not going to start

    talking to a pervert don't I? :3 So yeah I will check your profile. I'll read your experiences and your posts and I'll check which experiences we have in common if any. Pretty much full stalker mode.
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 25

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    If your profile has a lot of sexual experiences

    on it I won't be adding you or accepting your message. I have no problem with sexuality. It's just that every time someone with that stuff on their profile messages me they're looking for sex. I'm not here for that. I'm mostly here to share my stories and maybe make a few...
    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    I Don'T Add To Expect Reciprocation

    I add people that I find interesting. I may enjoy their ability to write well or I just might enjoy their content. I don't expect to be added in return but if that happens that's even better :)
    walabby walabby 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    Actually I don't, I just add,

    answer the message you may have wrote me, And them i check your profile.
    Forders2 Forders2 18-21, F Sep 26

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    I've become strict with adding males here.

    They seem like the most annoying. I've come to the point where I'm weary of men over the age of 40, those with a ton of sexual stories and experiences (that one goes for both genders, actually), and those with an obviously fake profile picture. I know you're not really that...
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F 1 Response Nov 6

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    Do I Ever !!

    I mean...why would I add you IF we have nothing or very little in common? Why would I bother if you've been around EP for a while but haven't bothered to add a story, share a common experience, make a confession, answer a question or even up rate or like something I've posted...
    RobertaS RobertaS 36-40, F 15 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    PsychologyNerd PsychologyNerd 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    Well,its been awhile

    since Ive needed to say this but again and I mean no offense,I need to say,,,,if You are a man who is a cd,a tg.I will not ad You.I am 100% straight.If all the groups You are in are sexual,be You male or female,I will not ad You.
    The1960texan The1960texan 51-55, M 2 Responses Nov 17

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    Every time. Send me a message

    or just add me and your name will show up in those little icons up there to the right. I will always read your message but the next step is to go through your profile. If it's shallow, has no stories and no real sense of common ground I will move on, but I will not add you. The...
    ClaudNine ClaudNine 18-21, F 6 Responses May 12

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    bluesky52 bluesky52 51-55, M 1 Response Nov 17

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    I don't add people without looking at their

    profile. Why? For one thing, I am not here to chat with children or very young adults. I'm solely interested in chat with people in my age own bracket and older. When I first came here to EP it was simply to write without having to create a blog. Well, now that I have my blog...
    Nyx1978 Nyx1978 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 12

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    It's not to judge you

    or to choose whether or not to add you, its to get to know you, find out what we have in common :)
    Redbeard74 Redbeard74 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 5

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    You Bet Your Sweet Bippy I Do... :)

    But it's because I actually want to interact with my friends on EP. And when I say interact...I do not mean...skype...or cyber...or have phone sex. *rolls eyes* I want to read your stories...and get to know you as a person...and I want you to read my stories...and get to know me...
    KassieKat KassieKat 46-50, F 8 Responses Aug 11, 2012

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    We can't be friends with people

    who does’t try to get to know ourselves.some people just wanna may be random talk. But i want have meaningful convasation.It means meaningful relationship.
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I am not interested in adding someone to my

    friends list, that does not have any posted stories or confessions, a decent avatar and a blanked profile. I want to know the inner workings. I prefer friends that agree that it is OK to disagree with them and will not just post something and immediately block me. Also...
    Hotdog798 Hotdog798 46-50, M 5 Responses Nov 11

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    I always check a profile

    before I add a new friend. It gives me a sense of a person's character, which is very important to me. When members are vulgar or condone cheating and betrayal, are vindictive, or abuse privacy of others, it's a red flag to me, and I won't add.
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 8

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    Before You Add Me To Your Circle Read This!

    I will not add you if you have any nudes/explicit photos and stories. Also I do not date older men. So don't even bother messaging me if you are 30-50+ unless you are a nice guy or girl not a pervert. I'm not lesbian or bi i'm straight. Also I will never send out nudes. And if...
    MKM18 MKM18 18-21, F 12 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    *block*

    Heres the rules... No urine, diapers or crap groups, unless they're hate groups. I dont want to add you if your over 70, a guy, and most of your groups are about ******* everything that moves, you should be in a retiring home. Pretty much, because i cant be ****** writing down...
    brogan16 brogan16 18-21, F 14 Responses Apr 16, 2011

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    Common Ground

    While I am flattered by being fanned, I feel I should point out that I do check out profiles to see if I have anything in common with you before I add you. In general, I would like you to have at least 5 experiences in common with me, and for you to have at least a few stories...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 17, 2011

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    My friends and I have received a message on our

    whiteboards from the same guy. "Hi, add me plz". His status is "I am horny." Like we care.....yeah right!
    RedOnTheFarm RedOnTheFarm 26-30, F Nov 6

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    I don't add people who's profile talks about

    sex etc, I'm here for friendship and honest connections. I advise you to read my profile before adding me! I delete (for the most part) messages without some form of prior communication. Again, if you are expecting me to send you pictures, you're barking up the wrong tree...
    justjayne justjayne 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    Fair enough if I share some of your interests,

    but just because I might write about something of a sexual nature, it doesn't mean I want to act it out with you. So if you are: Into wearing nappies/diapers, are under aged or have anyone under aged in your circle (I think ep should have a different section for them, why haven...
    HolmesGirl HolmesGirl 51-55, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Who The Frig Just Added Me To Their Circle.

    When I see a new Fan I always take the time to read their page. I look at your Groups your Stories your Friends and how you market yourself on EP. I am only looking for platonic friends. The number of friends I have does not concern me I would much rather have quality friends who...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 13, 2013

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    Why

    Do you contact me? If you're lonely and need an ear or a virtual shoulder to cry on, I'm here for you. I love people and love to help in any way I can. I have lived quite a bit, had a lot of tough experiences and more good ones than I can count. I'm living my life with an open...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 5 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    That being said, I have sexual "likes"

    but that's not the only reason I'm here. #meetingalotofpervs
    iwontbeg4it iwontbeg4it 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Or even talk to you. I'm not snobby

    but if u don't have a profile and just made one up to talk to chicks I'm not talking to u. I like stuff on ur profile so we can talk about it and get to know one another better. 😃
    pantiesandstockins pantiesandstockins 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 22

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    What I See Before Adding

    1. u should have sufficient no. of experiences 2. ur profile shud not be very recent 3. if u hv shared experiences thats better 4. u shud posted pics 5. if u hv cmmntd on my stories,u r an instant add 6. u shud have good english n u should not sound too desperate and look for cam...
    lonelyheena lonelyheena 22-25, F 18 Responses Dec 19, 2011

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    Common Sense

    If you send me a friend request or if I have noticed a comment of yours to one of my stories or to that of a friend's then I will check out your profile before I consider adding you to my very small circle of friends.  It isn't about arrogance.  It is about finding people who...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    I always check out profiles

    before I add someone to my circle or start messaging them a lot. I usually got through the first 3 pages of experiences. I think that's enough to get a good feel of someone. And if someone only has 1 or 0 experiences I will not add them. And if you're under 18 I won't add you. I...
    GirlLearningHowToSmile GirlLearningHowToSmile 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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    When messaging someone on EP,

    do you say they're beautiful because you think they have an amazing personality and you've taken the time to read their stories on here? Or do you hope for the best that the person you're talking to is remotely attractive and will feel the same way about you? Don't tell me I'm...
    juniper12 juniper12 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 1

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    Read This!

    I am really a good guy, it is not just my name on here. If you wanna cuss and get mad and let people have it, I really don't want friends like that. I hate Drama and I am recently divorced and my emotions go up and down but I will never be mean. I will respect anyone's opinions...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M Oct 20, 2013

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    I am a straight male

    who only interested in women that are of adult age. I don't have any problems with gay men, I have some that are friends, but I don't want anyone emailing me and asking me if I would like to be with a guy. I WOULD NOT!!! Also if you are underage, don't contact me for any...
    avgjoe71 avgjoe71 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17

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    3Dogmatic 3Dogmatic 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 25

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    I'm not gonna lie. I add,

    ignore or block based on first impressions. Why? Because I can :/
    AngrySantaCat AngrySantaCat 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 6

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    Of course, what do you think.

    I dont pervs in my friend list
    LadyWhatever LadyWhatever 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 26

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    I get messages and random people

    that add me all the time. I wont add you if i see that all you are doing is adding people and have no experiences and your profile looks suspicious to me :P
    Batsandstars Batsandstars 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 11

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    EvaLolita EvaLolita 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 15

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    Please Read This Before Requesting An Add

    I check out your profile before adding you, just as you check out mine. No I don't read everything but, if you have not joined any groups, have not written any stories or asked any questions or not answered any either... Chances are extremely high I won't add you. I look at what...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    lmtnmn lmtnmn 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    Yep, I check profiles.

    I enjoy reading your stories and learning something about you, even if your lifestyle is different than mine. I never just add people to my circle. If I find your page interesting, I'm courteous enough to note you and I'd appreciate the same. Let's start a short dialogue and...
    EtherealEquinox EtherealEquinox 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 3

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    I don't add people blind,

    I check and make sure we have at least some experiences in common first. I actually like the Experience Project doesn't allow you to message people out of the blue, giving me to the means to often view a profile and delete messages I'll suspect are blatant sex or picture...
    KatTF KatTF 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    I would be updating my circle of friends real

    soon... Would be adding or deleting...
    RayaneCharmee RayaneCharmee 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 26

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    I am not interested in chatting with men

    who add children to their circle. It's strange to me when grown men are eager to fill their home feed with experiences of children they don't know. You might feel innocent about it, but it makes me uncomfortable that you seek connections with girls as young as 13. And only girls...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 27

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    Read This Before You Add Me.

    Finally, I shall write a story about this and put it on my top 8 experiences, because it's starting to bug the hell out of me. I have probably over a hundred fans... people fan me every day. Why? I do not know. However, I only have 23 friends. What does THIS tell you...
    flyawayhome flyawayhome 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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