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    Lies Ans Pain. - My story would take for ever but in brief I have lived in a sexless marriage for 16 months.  My marriage has been plagued with problems but I chose to try and...
    moontears moontears 51-55, F 9 Responses Sep 11, 2010

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    Faithful And Sexless - After eight years, you'd think I'd be tired of not having sex. You'd think why does this crazy, young, twenty-five year old girl who has her whole life ahead...
    nelliebum nelliebum 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 15, 2013

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    Faithful By Choice, Sexless Not By Choice. - My wife was diagnosed with stage 1 ovarian cancer many years ago. She was successfully treated, and has been given the all clear by the...
    timothywgray timothywgray 41-45, M 17 Responses Sep 22, 2008

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    Bewildered - I have been married to a wonderful man for nearly 15 years now.  He is my best friend in the world but it has been months since we have had sex.  He never...
    Sacul Sacul 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 15, 2008

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    Happy At Last! - When I made my first story here. I was confused about being married to a practically no-libido, very sexually uptight man. Today, I am a happy satisfied woman. I...
    TrulyWhinehouse TrulyWhinehouse 31-35, F 8 Responses May 30, 2013

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    Sexless But Faithful By Choice - While in a sexless marriage I choose to be faithful.  It is a choice I have to make every day, and sometimes even moments of the day as well...
    adama adama 36-40, M 21 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    Faithfully Holding On to Hope - Married 12 years, together for 19. Intimacy left about 13 years ago, but still very much in love with my wife. I love being around her, we have alot...
    cash65 cash65 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 3, 2009

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    I Choose To Be Faithful In A Sexless Marriage - Similarly my husband has been chronically ill with heart disease & cancer, now in remission and is in no shape to have sex but our...
    waynenan29 waynenan29 51-55, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2010

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    Not Married To Her But Has An Eerie Resemblence - I've been in a very close friendship with this much older lady friend. Once Upon A Time We were in a relationship but at the time...
    Raziel1976 Raziel1976 36-40 Oct 15, 2013

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    In the Dark - my husband hasnt touched me for two years he cant give me a reason i know hes not cheating and at first i felt hurt and rejected ect now its becoming normal to go...
    hanginout hanginout 46-50 5 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    I Did - for almost two decades. Now I have chosen to leave.  If I am being totally candid, its not really the lack of sex in itself.  It's all the other things that got me to...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Find It Harder Every Day - I am faithful now in a completely sexless marriage. I find that to continue to do that is becoming increasingly difficult. Unfortunately, I have to...
    OutOfPatience OutOfPatience 61-65, M 7 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    Another Point Of View - I got involved in a marriage for all of the wrong reasons and have stayed in it.  I felt pressured by a religious situation to get married and I met...
    blaze3 blaze3 56-60, M 6 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    The Xbox Is Killing My Marriage. - I threw out all types of hints today.  I was seductive.  I was loving.  He overlooked every advance.  I was furious...
    onmyown2009 onmyown2009 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    No Sex In This Marriage - Well, it all just crazy life has drain the sex emotion out of us do to stress, family, work, we feel very lucky to still be togather after all the changes...
    deannzzee deannzzee 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 8, 2011

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    Fox In The Hen House - I'm a little reluctant to write this, but I'm going for it anyway. I feel a bit like I've para-dropped behind enemy lines, and I'm about to be detected. Why...
    TheWendigo TheWendigo 36-40, M 14 Responses Jun 13, 2011

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    Now I No Longer Believe Marriage Is Supposed to Make Me Happy - I've been frustrated, hurt and confused for a long time, but no more. I think I achieved personal enlightenment. I'm...
    realrightnow realrightnow 21-25, F 6 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    Making Love To Myself! - I married a man that obviously only wanted me to bare his child. He stopped wanting to have sex with me after he got me pregnant. That was almost three...
    TrulyWhinehouse TrulyWhinehouse 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Been married for 36 years. My wife is an ACOA adult child of alcoholic. Her parents messed her up bad. Did not realize it at first. She was like a faithful loving wife ready to...
    in2mec in2mec 51-55, M 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    Nothing Going On. -  I never though it would end up like this, day after day week after week,year after year  not a hand shake, kiss, or even a hug.  My marriage life has come...
    katnaps katnaps 51-55, F 16 Responses Sep 21, 2011

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    Yes, I Choose To Be Faithful, But Shouldn't I Be Choosing Divorce? - This is the hardest thing I have ever done, staying this this marriage. It's not only lacking sex, it's...
    Amy100co Amy100co 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 24, 2012

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    It's a Tough Decision -  Having sex all alone isn't the ideal that I sought when we got married.  But, I love her and don't want to hurt her by being unfaithful.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 4 Responses Dec 26, 2008

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    Not Me - I just clicked on the not me... My spouse sure isn't being faithful (by rejecting and neglecting me sexually) so she doesn't deserve faithfulness from me. I would...
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 22, 2007

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    Missing My Wife - I am married, love my wife and she rejects me, it has been more than a month since we have been intimate. I am a faithful partner and want help to figure out how...
    solaytriste solaytriste 41-45 2 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    I have been together with my wife for 18 years and been married for 8 years soon. And the past 8 years there have been less and less sex. For now, no sex at all. All these years i...
    WhereIsHome WhereIsHome 36-40, M 15 Responses a week ago

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I've been separated 6-months after being in a sexless marriage. I didn't stay in one place much during the separation. But after being overseas for a while (spent time in Australia...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 28

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    Things are going great, why wouldn't they? I've completely dropped the intimacy topic in our marriage. I've started focusing on other parts of myself that I would like to change...
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses 6 days ago

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    This is a little scary, posting about such private matters to people I've never met, but here goes. I googled sexless marriage for the first time today. What triggered it was the...
    TCKat TCKat 36-40, F 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hi all After reading many posts here it looks like that most of the people who live in a sexless marriage do in the end separate. Are there anybody here who have gone trough the...
    easylistener easylistener 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 19

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    Note from opposite land My post sexless marriage love and I debuted this weekend a skit about our romance. It was part of a cabaret show at the community theatre where we met...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    It really does amaze me how many people are in a sexless marriage. I guess maybe because I'm an extremely sexual person, and my partner matches that, that I could never see myself...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    Remember the Peanuts cartoons where Charlie Brown tried and tried to kick the football held by Lucy? Charlie Brown would approach the ball, skeptical and questioning: "If I try to...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 9 Responses Apr 2

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 2 days ago

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    What would you consider sexless marriage? no sex in 1 month? 1 year? 5 yrs? How can anyone survive a sexless marriage without cheating? Just curious as I didn't know so many people...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf 31-35, M 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    "The Dummies Guide To Ending A Sexless Marriage" or "How I Learned Not To Give Up Emotional and Physical Intimacy" by CherishMe2 Step 1: Acknowledge that the lack of emotional...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 18

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    Another thing missing from this sexless marriage, besides intimacy, love and respect is fun and laughter. (Jeez, what exactly do I get from this marriage) I thought that I had...
    Gingersnapped Gingersnapped 51-55, F 13 Responses Mar 25

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    There are 2 whys in the sexless marriage. The first is: why does my spouse not want sex? This leads to a huge cycle of reason-chasing, smokescreening from the refuser, magical...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses Mar 26

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...
    Leavinstevin Leavinstevin 41-45, M 20 Responses 1 day ago

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    Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post yesterday. I was overwhelmed by the friendship and advice that you guys gave. As I think about the situation I am in...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 10 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    How people get into sexless marriages A friend of mine who is in her late forties is being chased by a widower in his late fifties who wants to marry her. He seems to be very...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 17 Responses Mar 18

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    This is an update to the last story I wrote here not too long ago. It's over. My husband and I are now separated. He said quite plainly that he doesn't want to be married and never...
    nicoleal20 nicoleal20 46-50, F 7 Responses Mar 18

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    Survey Says 1 In 5 Unhappily Married Women Are In A Sexless Marriage http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/21/marriage-infidelity-study_n_5009245.html
    LynxKitty LynxKitty 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 23

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    My mother passed away peacefully on Monday, March 24, 2014. She had battled long and hard against the ravaging effects of years of smoking cigarettes. The last thing my mother...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 28 Responses Mar 27

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    Update: I was active on this site about 2 years ago. I read all the posts and despite the enormous body of experience laid out I still somehow thought I would be different. I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 30