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I Choose to Be Faithful In a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 253 People

    Not Married To Her But Has An Eerie Resemblence

    I've been in a very close friendship with this much older lady friend. Once Upon A Time We were in a relationship but at the time She was living her 2nd adolescence. The so called real relationship lasted about 2 yearsish but She stated to Me that She wasn't going to be devoted...
    PitaBeeta76 PitaBeeta76
    41-45, M
    Oct 15, 2013

    I'm almost 40 and been in a sexless relationship

    for the last 3 years. I say I am married because we tell everyone we are. (We have been engaged for 3 years, just never found the time for a wedding) we have been together for 7 years; the first four being amazing. We were madly in love, sex multiple times a day...then I put a...
    jbreaforth jbreaforth
    41-45, M
    1 Response Feb 5, 2015

    Nothing Going On.

     I never though it would end up like this, day after day week after week,year after year  not a hand shake, kiss, or even a hug.  My marriage life has come to a complete stand still. As a woman you would think it would not take much to get your man in bed for more than a...
    katnaps katnaps
    51-55, F
    14 Responses Sep 21, 2011

    Another Point Of View

    I got involved in a marriage for all of the wrong reasons and have stayed in it.  I felt pressured by a religious situation to get married and I met someone  with the same religious pressure  who was so desperate to get married that she misrepresented who she was to me.  And...
    blaze3 blaze3
    56-60, M
    6 Responses Aug 23, 2011

    I Choose To Be Faithful In A Sexless Marriage

    Similarly my husband has been chronically ill with heart disease & cancer, now in remission and is in no shape to have sex but our relationship still stands and he still shows me in many ways that he loves me, we have been together for 37 years tomorrow and I am his wife as well...
    waynenan29 waynenan29
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Dec 14, 2010

    My Story

    I've posted a few other sexless marriage areas on EP.  I like this site.  there are so many that are where I am.  I'm 45 married 21 years to 41 yo wife.  We have 4 teenagers 15-20.My wife finally told me a few years back that she felt sex was a dirty chore, other than that...
    rv02tx rv02tx
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Sep 26, 2011

    Faithful to My Vows to Christ

    mY husband is addicted to ***********. He has tried to get me to participate for years. i have turned from it since i got saved in 2000. He has progressively not been able to perform when we have sex. I am becoming frigid from constant revealings of infidelity. We have nothing in...
    bluemoon31799 bluemoon31799
    3 Responses Aug 24, 2008

    Faithful By Choice, Sexless Not By Choice.

    My wife was diagnosed with stage 1 ovarian cancer many years ago. She was successfully treated, and has been given the all clear by the doctors. However, she needed a complete hysterectomy. This allowed her to survive, but it put an end to what was left of our sex life. She has...
    timothywgray timothywgray
    41-45, M
    16 Responses Sep 22, 2008

    I have read many posts now,

    and I cannot claim to know what is the best route for others. I love my wife and I have amazing young kids, but our problem with sex goes back from long before the kids, and has been there for years. There was a long time where I would approach her and she never would want...
    travelight travelight
    41-45, M
    Apr 20, 2014

    Find It Harder Every Day

    I am faithful now in a completely sexless marriage. I find that to continue to do that is becoming increasingly difficult. Unfortunately, I have to depend on my wife's income. So, I cannot leave. I really do not want to hurt her by having an affair. So, I am kind of stuck in...
    OutOfPatience OutOfPatience
    61-65, M
    7 Responses Aug 5, 2011

    Tough Times

    So, instead of trying to make myself out to be a man who is frustrated due to lack of intimacy, I have to focus on 'why' it is that there is lack of it. In life, there have been situations that have led me to believe that I was a victim or that I just lost total sense of...
    Mikahel Mikahel
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Aug 24, 2009

    Faithful And Sexless

    After eight years, you'd think I'd be tired of not having sex. You'd think why does this crazy, young, twenty-five year old girl who has her whole life ahead of her stay? Well Let me explain: 1. We had a sexless relationship before we got married( on a calendar, 6 times in one...
    nelliebum nelliebum
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Aug 15, 2013

    I chose to be faithful in my marriage.

    I'm beside myself in what to do next because I don't know if I can live like this anymore. In every other aspect our marriage is great. He is a good dad. He helps me around the house without me asking. Occasionally even helps me with laundry. Just that one area is lacking. It...
    hopefull2014 hopefull2014
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jun 23, 2014

    No Sex In This Marriage

    Well, it all just crazy life has drain the sex emotion out of us do to stress, family, work, we feel very lucky to still be togather after all the changes we have been through, now I have fibro diease, that lead to peridonal diease, that was started from depression just going to...
    deannzzee deannzzee
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 8, 2011

    Does A Broken Childhood Home Equal A Broken Marriage?

    My wife comes from a broken home (dad who abandoned her forever at age 8 and a mom who is bipolar). Since our son was born 4 years ago, we have had little intimacy and have been married "friends". God brought us together and blessed us with our son(who is our everything...
    GreatHusband37 GreatHusband37
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 16, 2013

    Married my wife knowing

    that she was not a highly sexual person. I married her because I was in love with who she was. There was times we went 9 months without sex. Sometimes it was very hard. I got through it because I was deeply in love.
    Cnfsddad Cnfsddad
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Nov 7, 2014


    My husband and I have been married for 11 years.  Shortly after I had our daughter my sex drive dropped from every day (or more) to about once or twice a week.  He didn't appreciate that very much needless to say.  He wasn't mean, or nasty, or vindictive...
    ponii ponii
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 8, 2009

    I love my wife and my kids

    but my wife has no interest in having sex with me. She would have sex if I initiated it but when I'm initiating all the time, it almost feels like I'm raping her. I just want her to show me some love once in a while. We don't even cuddle. She doesn't hug me or hold my hand. It's...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Apr 21, 2014

    I'm new to EP and have been reading a lot of

    different posts. I have to say that there are a lot of people out there living in sexless marriages. I really didn't know where to turn just to vent until I found EP. My wife and I work well together. We understand each other well. We have 2 small children (5 and 3 years old...
    allen8185 allen8185
    31-35, M
    May 18, 2014

    Yes, I Choose To Be Faithful, But Shouldn't I Be Choosing Divorce?

    This is the hardest thing I have ever done, staying this this marriage. It's not only lacking sex, it's lacking companionship, spiritual connection, emotional connection - a CONNECTION. He's a good man, really. A nice man. But I'm so lonely.
    Amy100co Amy100co
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Aug 24, 2012

    In the Dark

    my husband hasnt touched me for two years he cant give me a reason i know hes not cheating and at first i felt hurt and rejected ect now its becoming normal to go without sex,i have never cheated on him but what is he thinking surely he has to imagine i might eventually if hes...
    hanginout hanginout
    5 Responses Jul 3, 2008

    Lies Ans Pain.

    My story would take for ever but in brief I have lived in a sexless marriage for 16 months.  My marriage has been plagued with problems but I chose to try and overcome these as I knew my husband loved me and I loved him and we led a good life traveling and enjoying the same...
    moontears moontears
    51-55, F
    9 Responses Sep 11, 2010

    But I Come Here To Cope

    and hopefully 'play' a little. I'm still a man, although being in a sexless marriage is certainly a challenge to my manhood. I need to come here to feel alive sometimes.
    deleted deleted
    Jul 24, 2010

    The Xbox Is Killing My Marriage.

    I threw out all types of hints today.  I was seductive.  I was loving.  He overlooked every advance.  I was furious.  I went up and unplugged the game (yep right in the middle of him playing).   I yelled, I screamed and I banged around a...
    onmyown2009 onmyown2009
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Oct 20, 2009

    Missing My Wife

    I am married, love my wife and she rejects me, it has been more than a month since we have been intimate. I am a faithful partner and want help to figure out how to adjust to her lack of desire towards me
    solaytriste solaytriste
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2009

    Now I No Longer Believe Marriage Is Supposed to Make Me Happy

    I've been frustrated, hurt and confused for a long time, but no more. I think I achieved personal enlightenment. I'm not trying to say I've got it all figured out for you and your situation, but for my part I am 95 percent relaxed, happy, fulfilled and still love and enjoy my...
    realrightnow realrightnow
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jul 3, 2008

    I Did

    for almost two decades. Now I have chosen to leave.  If I am being totally candid, its not really the lack of sex in itself.  It's all the other things that got me to that point.  For me it was the constant affairs, the lies, the crushing of me into someone I am not.  It took...
    TKD1 TKD1
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2013

    Sexless But Faithful By Choice

    While in a sexless marriage I choose to be faithful.  It is a choice I have to make every day, and sometimes even moments of the day as well.  I choose to be faithful for my children's sake.  How do I teach them to be faithful to their future spouses if I choose to...
    adama adama
    36-40, M
    20 Responses Jul 19, 2007

    I Love The Title Of This Topic

    "I Choose" Yes, i have chosen to be in a celibate marriage I love my wife very much She has mullerian agnesis - which means she has no vagina or uterus (but yes she has ovaries) She is very warm loving and supportive - and i like hugging and cuddling with her.
    shreem75 shreem75
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 16, 2012

    Faithfully Holding On to Hope

    Married 12 years, together for 19. Intimacy left about 13 years ago, but still very much in love with my wife. I love being around her, we have alot in common. I am now starting to understand the difference between sex and intimacy. I yearn for the emotional feeling of intimacy...
    cash65 cash65
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Feb 3, 2009


    I have been married to a wonderful man for nearly 15 years now.  He is my best friend in the world but it has been months since we have had sex.  He never had what you could call a high libido, but now I'm lucky if we have sex 4 times a year.  My husband is 14...
    Sacul Sacul
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Apr 15, 2008

    Not Me

    I just clicked on the not me... My spouse sure isn't being faithful (by rejecting and neglecting me sexually) so she doesn't deserve faithfulness from me. I would be faithful (a one woman man), but she is not interested so what's the point.
    JRSK007 JRSK007
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Oct 22, 2007

    Fox In The Hen House

    I'm a little reluctant to write this, but I'm going for it anyway. I feel a bit like I've para-dropped behind enemy lines, and I'm about to be detected. Why? Because I represent the group that chose not to be faithful to a sexless marriage. I think what you are doing (remaining...
    TheWendigo TheWendigo
    41-45, M
    11 Responses Jun 13, 2011

    Been married for 36 years.

    My wife is an ACOA adult child of alcoholic. Her parents messed her up bad. Did not realize it at first. She was like a faithful loving wife ready to serve my every wish for years. Then the children came and we were bussy. They are grown now and on their own leaving us with...
    in2mec in2mec
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2013
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