I Consider Online Cheating a Form of Spousal Abuse

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    But, that said, I will also say that each and every relationship is different, and the couple involved ALWAYS needs to know where the boundaries lie. My fiance and I both enjoy 'active' sexual roleplay online. We're both flirts online, even when not roleplaying. There are even...
    iFortiTude iFortiTude
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2008

    Guys stop asking me about sexual things

    or trying to get me to send pictures or sending me pictures. I don't want any part of it. I will block you.
    deleted deleted
    Feb 27, 2015

    I Was Just Talking About This...

    I actually just had a conversation where I compared being cheat on to rape. It does a lot of the same psychological damage, causes the shame, the extreme drop in self-esteem, the anger, damages the ability to trust. It is a psychological and emotional violation, and if the...
    eyes eyes
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Apr 13, 2008

    Instead of Thread Jacking

    Blue's story brought some questions to mind of a different nature...so instead of intruding them on his thread thought I would start a new. I very close friend of mine was in town this weekend.  She is facing a heart crashing time in her life.  I am not sure what...
    Lexus Lexus
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Apr 14, 2008

    Online Activity With Someone Not Your Spouse

    To me anything that involves the emotional engery ment for your spouse is cheating.  It becomes abuse when the one doing the cheating blames you for the bad choices and behaviors they have decided to participate in. My husband more than once has become involved with other...
    Grits4life Grits4life
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 24, 2008

    Been There, Done That.

    i have cheated with an online fling. and got caught. and come to find out it was totally the same thing as cheating. my fiance told me once to remember "even if its in secret, its still tearing us apart" and thats so true. i think that is something that all of us in...
    misskrissywithaK misskrissywithaK
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2009

    Online Cheating Is Cheating!

    My boyfriend of 21 months didn't consider it cheating when he had cybers*x with an ex-girlfriend, so didn't see it fit to tell me until I saw it on his message history for myself! If he didn't consider it cheating, why didn't he tell me? An emotional and sexual bond to someone...
    jhasam jhasam
    6 Responses Feb 7, 2009

    Re: Cheating.

    You brought up a good stories blue. Online cheating is just one form of cheating.  There is other form of cheating. Like writing a lover to someone who is married.  
    mother1983 mother1983
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 16, 2008

    He Took It Offline- Cheater In the Flesh

    I was married for 3 years this past September. I feel so stupid because I didn't see any warning signs that he was cheating. We were together 24/7 (own a business together). I now believe that the game Runescape is what ruined our marriage. I honestly believed him when...
    FlyBunny FlyBunny
    6 Responses Feb 12, 2009

    My husband has been online cheating our entire

    marriage. He hides his outside life from me and I recently found posts and number to local girls. I don't know if the calls and texting has lead to something more. My heart is broken and I can hardly speak to him anymore. I don't know if this marriage is worth holding onto. I...
    MsAdell29 MsAdell29
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    Well I had it all typed out

    and pushed cancel .... So let's try this again. Abuse is a very big word and it holds a very heavy weight to it. Do I believe this is a forum of abuse then yes but mental and it is a very touchy subject to a lot of people. This is my personal experience. When I was 15 I...
    numbunknown numbunknown
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 23, 2015

    Online Cheating

    I have done it...my hubby also has done it. My hubby doesn't mind if I still do it or not...I choose not to do it anymore...He says; I am his no matter what.  Whatever I say on the internet are only words whether they are true or not and in the end, I end up sleeping with...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2010

    It Wasn't Actually Chesting.

    That was the stoty I told myself. I didn't physically hook up, so I didn't consider it cheating. I shared erotic preferences, fantasies and emails with pics. I justified it by lack of romantic attention. My wife saw all my emails. She was blown away. I told other women...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Jan 11, 2013

    It Is a Slippery Slope!!

    Chatting online and hiding it from your partner can be very dangerous to your primary relationship.  You share personal things with an online friend that you should be sharing with your real life partner.  As the communication falls apart, so goes the...
    InTheNameOfLove InTheNameOfLove
    36-40, M
    19 Responses May 21, 2008

    Online Cheating

    I've been with my fiance for three years, we have a beautiful 6month old baby together. Four months ago i found out he cheated on me with a female he met online two years ago, in that time i had traveled to South America to visit my family, I left for a month when I...
    gabymov gabymov
    2 Responses Jul 4, 2009

    I'm in a LDR, we've been together

    now right at a year. We dated years ago, moved apart and lost contact with one another. We are planning to move together this summer. A few months back I was deleting a dating/hook up page of mines. Before I deleted it I looked to see if he was on there, and he was. He had...
    missteen2 missteen2
    36-40, F
    Feb 27, 2015

    Online Cheating Is Exactly That, Cheating

    My husband and I are expats and I have recently found out that he is cheating online. He has many many different chats he uses, hidden emails, video pics. When I confronted him about it he told me it was all in my head and that if he was it was all my fault, how can it be my...
    Dyhann Dyhann
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Nov 11, 2010

    I dated a guy in LA, thinking I was lucky to

    have him in my life. The first two months was good.. But then it started to fall apart after couple factors that was visible. I caught my ex bf online cheating. I knew something was odd when he started making excuses to not have me come over. Saying, it was his commitment...
    gingerbunni gingerbunni
    22-25, F
    Jan 8, 2014

    Spousal Abuse

    In my opinion, I'm not sure if the words "Spousal Abuse" is an accurate statement for online cheating for this group. I am willing to listen to what others on EP think.   But....Cheating on your spouse is wrong.  Whether it's online or up front...
    PeedeeDog PeedeeDog
    10 Responses Jul 4, 2009

    Cheating Is Cheating

    Online relationships that are kept secret from your partner, that you yourself wouldn't like if reversed is cheating. This is my opinion. If I am doing something I wouldn't want my partner to do then it is wrong. and vise-a-versa. Some of you will say it is ok because you...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia
    41-45, M
    180 Responses Apr 13, 2008

    Cheating Is Cheating

    though this has never happen to me i have seen it happen to others. for me cheating is anything that emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and/or physically binds you to another other than the one you are with.  a lot of folks don't see the harm in an online relationship and...
    knf knf
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jul 21, 2008

    I Chat and I'm Engaged

    I can't join this group cause I'm outta the ranks. I just wanna say i chat and cam and love it. I am 29, engaged and have been with the same guy for 9 yrs. Only in the last month have I been unfaithful for the first time ever and that's through chatting, guys I met online. Beware...
    Jaspa Jaspa
    26-30, F
    Jul 9, 2008
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