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I Continuely Put Others Before Me

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    Putting Others Before Me

    I often find myself putting others before me.  The problem is that often times, I don't take care of myself.  I need to learn balance in this.
    troubled28 troubled28 26-30, F Sep 16, 2007

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    Mostly My Children

    I would say it applies to most mothers though , we go without to give our children things , three of mine are grown up now , but still if they need anything at all then yes i'll put them before myself always ..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 18, 2009

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    No Friends

    i always feel that i should put others before me so then they feel like i'm a great friend and will continue to be friends with me. If i worry about myself before others, i feel like people will think i'm selfish and a horrible friend.
    syntheticxtasy syntheticxtasy 16-18, F Aug 18, 2007

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    Always

    I always think other people have needs that are more important than mine.  When I was in law school, I worked at a gas station.  I would sometimes work double shifts when people asked me to.  Then,  I would come home to a pile of homework and have to stay up...
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2007

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    Definitely In This Situation....

    Maybe I shouldn't write this as I had some bad comments from people before but going to take the risk anyway. I had a colleague who made a real effort to befriend me as I looked after her baby son in my daycare. She used to say him and her loved me, act very mothering towards me...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2012

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    New Era

    I think I've mentioned this somewhere else before but I do. Everyone comes to me with their problems and I do enjoy helping them all. I love ti see them smile when I say something right, when things turn out well or just when I hear them laugh. Yet when I have my own problems I...
    CleoShilu CleoShilu 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2009

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    I'll Be Stopping That Nonsense

    I need to learn the right ratio! How much of me for me and how much for everyone else?
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 27, 2011

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    Left Behind.

    I'm getting impatient. When will someone acknowledge me and actually realize that i too have needs. The number of times i've been taken advantage might be the same as the number of strands of hair on my head.
    peacenik peacenik 16-18, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2007

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    Always

    I always put everyone else before me. I am never number 1 in my life. I am always going to put people before me, and nothing about that is ever going to change. I will always put my friends, my family, everyone before me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 6, 2009

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    All the Time

    Have you ever experienced the kind of love that rips you apart?. He was that love to me. He still that love to me. It's one of those things that you can't go thru life without. Today I was watching "The Bridges of Madison County", and I understood why it made me cry so...
    caritus caritus 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 24, 2008

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