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I Continuely Put Others Before Me

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    Putting Others Before Me

    I often find myself putting others before me.  The problem is that often times, I don't take care of myself.  I need to learn balance in this.
    troubled28 troubled28 26-30, F Sep 16, 2007

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    Always

    I always put everyone else before me. I am never number 1 in my life. I am always going to put people before me, and nothing about that is ever going to change. I will always put my friends, my family, everyone before me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 6, 2009

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    New Era

    I think I've mentioned this somewhere else before but I do. Everyone comes to me with their problems and I do enjoy helping them all. I love ti see them smile when I say something right, when things turn out well or just when I hear them laugh. Yet when I have my own problems I...
    CleoShilu CleoShilu 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2009

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    All the Time

    Have you ever experienced the kind of love that rips you apart?. He was that love to me. He still that love to me. It's one of those things that you can't go thru life without. Today I was watching "The Bridges of Madison County", and I understood why it made me cry so...
    caritus caritus 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 24, 2008

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    Definitely In This Situation....

    Maybe I shouldn't write this as I had some bad comments from people before but going to take the risk anyway. I had a colleague who made a real effort to befriend me as I looked after her baby son in my daycare. She used to say him and her loved me, act very mothering towards me...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2012

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    Left Behind.

    I'm getting impatient. When will someone acknowledge me and actually realize that i too have needs. The number of times i've been taken advantage might be the same as the number of strands of hair on my head.
    peacenik peacenik 16-18, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2007

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    Mostly My Children

    I would say it applies to most mothers though , we go without to give our children things , three of mine are grown up now , but still if they need anything at all then yes i'll put them before myself always ..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 18, 2009

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    I'll Be Stopping That Nonsense

    I need to learn the right ratio! How much of me for me and how much for everyone else?
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 27, 2011

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    No Friends

    i always feel that i should put others before me so then they feel like i'm a great friend and will continue to be friends with me. If i worry about myself before others, i feel like people will think i'm selfish and a horrible friend.
    syntheticxtasy syntheticxtasy 16-18, F Aug 18, 2007

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    Always

    I always think other people have needs that are more important than mine.  When I was in law school, I worked at a gas station.  I would sometimes work double shifts when people asked me to.  Then,  I would come home to a pile of homework and have to stay up...
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    No matter how crappy or sad I feel, I am always there for my friends when their down putting aside my feelings to make them feel better.
    MysteriousRose MysteriousRose 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I enjoy helping others. Its so much to help others in need. Just to see a smile on there face and knowing I helped them and there family! I went on a mission trip last summer for a...
    ShyProdigy ShyProdigy 13-15, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I never ever felt like the need to make fun of others to feel popular or to raise my self esteem. I used to be the one who been into a lot of making fun of. I knew it was cos they...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M Jul 16

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    I hear your words....I try to ignore them....but when I can no longer, after so long you have said these things....I look to you and ask "what makes you so special? what makes you...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    PLEASE READ BEFORE ADDING I respect people and I want the same in return that means look at this and accept you don't have to like it but if you want to add me you need to...
    BornDifferent BornDifferent 18-21, F 18 hrs ago

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    I used to care too much about what others thought about me, or about being liked by everyone, but I have discovered that that is a path to misery. No matter how good you are, some...
    SpectralMariner SpectralMariner 36-40, M 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Have Put My Hope In Gods Word
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    *DIARY OF A YOUNG WIFE* *Monday:* Now home from honeymoon and settled in our new home. It's fun to cook for Tim. Today I made an angel food cake and the recipe said, "beat 12 eggs...
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    Okay I am prepared for possible back lash on this and okay. Yesterday- I was on this churches Instagram, where people were arguing over Religious beliefs. My opinion, once...
    abrokendreamer abrokendreamer 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    I'm sure most of us have been guilty in letting others here dictate our moods or how we feel about ourselves.. I soon learnt when I came here being over sensitive is a danger to...
    primnproper primnproper 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 24

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    1 can (10-3/4 oz.) reduced-fat reduced-sodium condensed cream of mushroom soup1-1/4 cups water, divided1 pkg. (6 oz.) STOVE TOP Lower Sodium Stuffing Mix for Chicken6 small...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    Life before the internet was great, I just didn't know it at the time. It was so simple. I was in high school when social media became the 'in' thing. I wish I knew how...
    fullen fullen 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23

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    Why? Why does this exist? Human nature? Jealousy? Society standards? Yes, yes, and yes. Humans are bullied on a daily basis. Some take it harder then others, or some get abused...
    ForeverSmiling ForeverSmiling 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    Well, there we go.... For my whole life, people, friends, family have always helped me and were examples to me or inspired me. I think it's about time that "I" tried and inspired...
    Scavyfox Scavyfox 18-21, M Jul 1

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    Primarily since i am a target. Their reasons are lame. They say they care. And worry. And teach. But really they are just miserable. Due to others. Others with...
    AlmostDiscarded AlmostDiscarded 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I don't understand why we let our "friends" **** us over. Why do we put up with their **** when all you is put up with theirs. Is it worth it? The pain? The drama? I don't believe...
    Todayisadream Todayisadream 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I've had this theory since last summer I'd like to share. I firmly believe that everyone has their very own story; a chapter book regarding the events, people, places, & emotions...
    Plutonianbabe Plutonianbabe 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I love to help others out even though I have major problems of my own I guess it's just a way to forget about all the negative things that are happening in my life!!. When I know I...
    MalachaiP MalachaiP 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I'm that guy who always holds the door for others. Even if I have to put myself in an awkward position that actually makes it more difficult for them to enter the door.
    BJoon BJoon 26-30, M Jul 7

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    Like what the hell is the point? You feel the need to prove what a shallow arrogant little git you are, and what a tosser you really are So you decide to try and make yourself...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    You can repeatedly say the same sentence countless times "you are not alone" and to be quite specific the ones that fit this criteria are the ones that don't and will never...
    Angelanorexic Angelanorexic 18-21, F Jul 20

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    Please make sure that you read this post before adding me to your circle. I love making new friends on EP, but I do try to stay away from creeps as well. Here are some things you...
    Justletmebeally Justletmebeally 13-15, F Jul 22

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    Many of the private businesses had owners who wouldn't work for anybody else. Enter into the scene a cabinet maker with a wife and three kids on the verge of bankruptcy and later...
    Kickingnscreaming Kickingnscreaming 56-60, M 2 days ago

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    It's not really a story... It's just a sestina poem I wrote for school and am deciding to put it on ep. So here goes nuthin: Once upon a time, there was this person, whom lived a...
    blackswan012 blackswan012 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    I have my life as before and after 1991.Before I was conservative ,I liked Rush Limbaugh, was sexist ,racist, mean and would fight verbally and some times physically. I was also...
    tom67890 tom67890 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 13

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    I have been raised in a family that strictly put me under moral order. But thanks to this set up, I am now a person of character. Anyone who is in deep trouble I am the superman of...
    HarmonicArtist HarmonicArtist 13-15, M Jul 20

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    I am new here and found this group and thought this may be a clever idea. I am here to try a new "experience" sorry for the horrible pun on that! I am not here for sexual...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    Sometimes I don't know why I bother so much, trying to fit in. But when it's said and done, I still try to fit in. It hurts me everytime. I know I've always been the odd one out of...
    bezelbufu bezelbufu 16-17, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I hate getting put down but by now I just expect it like its just apart of life. I get that some people might not like my hair, my personality, or even what I say. But at least I'm...
    Skinnylove99 Skinnylove99 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    Usually when you know about someone who makes fun of another person, then everyone else always thinks like, "Oh, you're just insecure and you need to put other people down to make...
    jpk29 jpk29 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    My American cousin, Kat, and I have always been close even though we live across the ocean from each other. We just seemed to hit it off the occasions we saw each other...
    Jilly53 Jilly53 56-60, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    I’ve been coming around E.P. for years now. I know that makes me sound old – to be fair I haven’t been a spring chicken for a long time. I bit too leathery and tough to...
    UnderEli UnderEli 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    Sex before marriage. First, let's start with this question: What is marriage? Marriage is the unity of a man and a woman in God. So, if that man and woman is not trying to glorify...
    Oasisdawn3 Oasisdawn3 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    I suppose I have spent so much time in the past four years trying to unravel the constant web that my mum surround me with, that I have become a narcissist myself. I guess that...
    createababe createababe 31-35 Jul 9

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    Why can’t I just be me? Do I have to always measure myself against what others will think of me? Sometimes I just think on things too much, I guess we all do. But why do I worry...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    If you wish to add me, know this. I am here for on reason only. To vent out my feelings the way I want to. Some things in my post will be fake and you will know it. Like how I...
    TimeTwoBeMe TimeTwoBeMe 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    My mother was a right character. On one occasion my sister and I had incurred the maternal wrath and were lined up for what she deemed the necessary punishment over her knee. After...
    Jilly53 Jilly53 56-60, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I'm anxious to start my career! Currently I'm a psych major and still have a ways to go before actually working in my desired field. After I achieve my BA In psych I am going for...
    danielle1423 danielle1423 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 5