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I Cut My Mother Out of My Life

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    Masks And Wants...

    It's not something that I wanted to do...it's something that I needed to do. There's a fine line between needing something and wanting something. I wanted my mom in my life. I had this fake image of who I wanted my mother to be and I wanted that so badly that I started to believe...
    Aydasha5 Aydasha5 18-21, F 15 Responses Oct 6, 2010

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    I Am Also The Blame

    lol I coddled them.  My mother and sister.  The breakup of our family unit was a result of over indulgence on their part, and my constant 'will do' anything for family attitude.  A lot of things happened.  It was the inevitable.  I should not have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    Psychopath Mother

    Shes actually the one who asked i'd cut her out of my life about a year ago. She probly didnt want to stick around when I went to therapy and recoverered most of my childhood memories. When I was 15 months old, she ''pimped'' me to an old man, for 7 years, she used to drug me...
    Rheanna28 Rheanna28 26-30, F 2 Responses May 9, 2012

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    I Did the Right Thing

    Last night for some reason, i thought about my mother. I felt weird. I was praying and i asked God not to be too upset with me. You know that commandment about honoring one's parents. I've managed to break that rule twice.  I outright hate my father and feel nothing at all...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    I Was A Child When I Cut My Mother Out

    I was 13 the last time i saw my mother. She is paranoid schizophrenic and she terrified me. She was a complete stranger. I was being told by other family members she was evil. I didn't believe them but they made me more wary of her.  Now i'm 28. I have decided to make...
    taffytats taffytats 26-30, F Dec 14, 2010

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    She Was Hurtful

    So, in retaliation, I did just what she did and was hurtful back by not speaking to her and not visiting as often.  Finally, when I began to regret what I'd done I went to see her and she was just starting Alzheimers.  I spent more time with her but she was drawing...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2010

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    My Mum Died Christmas Day...

    I ma 28 years old... she was 58... collapsed on the floor from pnemonia... I was in the process of meeting up with her... she was so ill from schizophrenia, I had to tred carefully and do it through her carers... but it was all too late... perhaps I can make tings better by...
    taffytats taffytats 26-30, F Jan 1, 2011

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    My Mum Fails To See What She Has Done Wrong.

    She is and has been an alchoholic since I was a child. She is also quite religious spiritually although she still sleeps about, once sleeping with a boy younger than me. She forgets all the emotional abuse such as setting our belongings on fire, feigning suicide, being very nasty...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 25, 2013

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    Better Like This

    I don't even know anymore what it means or how it feels to be a daughter or to have a mother. Maybe I've never known and never will. It is like a hole, like a wound that will never heal, even if I cover it and forget it is there. But this is still better than having contact with...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    Fire

    I wouldnt **** in her guts if they were on FIRE.
    TEMPOLTON TEMPOLTON 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Orphaned

    I loved my mother.  Even when she didn't love, let alone like me. There were days i can honestly say my mother hated me, hell she told me so sometimes.  I have no one other than my sister that i am remotely close to in my family.  I never had a daddy.  The...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    But, You're My Sister. You Will Always Be My Sister.... Lol. Lmao

    This past Wed, my sister by blood relation calls me and invites me to have Thanksgiving dinner with her and my mother of blood relation.  I couldnt believe she called.  "Shocked!, I Was..." Lol. More like mystified.  'Why is she calling me?..?..?'.  Another...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 27, 2009

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    She Left Me No Choice

    Just as the title says she left me no choice. A mother who refuses to acknowledge my allergens and continues to put them in food she prepares when sending me an invite to dinner, who always finds a way to somehow degrade me and my life and especially since she decided to become...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 30, 2012

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    The Truth About My Mother - I Had to Cut the Umbilical Cord....

    My mother had 2 children.  I am the oldest of the 2.  I pretty much raised my sister from age 8.  We only had one parent, our mother.  Growing up for us wasn't normal.  I raised myself and my sister.  I learned to read mostly from going to school...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    It Just Got To Be Too Much

    My mother has manipulated me throughout my life.  She took every opportunity to vilify my father, whom she divorced when I was three.  She was always screaming about how unfair her life was, screaming at my baby sister (half-sister; mom remarried when I was 7), screaming that...
    MissShaina MissShaina 22-25 Jan 12, 2011

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    It'S Been Over A Year

    It's been over a year since I've last spoken to my mother. I am constantly pressured to re-contact her and re-start our relationship but honestly...I am so much happier without her involvement in my life. She is a narcissit, and her abuse tormented me for over a decade. In the...
    allthememories99 allthememories99 26-30 2 Responses May 3, 2013

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    Mother Has Demeaned Me And Hummiliated Me For 60 Years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    This is a personal story but I needed somewhere to vent. After 60 years of being put down, told that she wished she had never had you, told you very not pretty enough, I give up....... That even sounds a bit nuts to me. but really, I gave her my love, my attention, no matter what...
    nomorehurting333 nomorehurting333 56-60 2 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    It's been 7 months since I talked to my mother.

    I finally had enough of her narcisstic behavior and never feeling loved by her or cared about. The final straw came two months after my second child was born. I called to say happy birthday to my father and after that plesant conversation my mother got on the phone and started...
    dar76 dar76 36-40, F May 14

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    Cypress

    Back when the mental and sexual abuse was on a shelf back in the farthest, deepest and darkest hidden corner of my soul, and I felt I was living a somewhat normal existance, I composed this poem. It's directed at my mother, if she even deserves the title.... Cypress Standing...
    cajunsunshine cajunsunshine 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    By Default I Suppose

    ...not that I wanted to get her out of my life, but I moved 2 hours away and then she got busy with looking after my uncle, and I got so much going on with university and my kid and work. She can be so damn difficult to deal with though. She only hears what she wants to and...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    Run Out Of Time

    I recieved a phone call from my mothers social worker... mum died christmas day. I was too late to make amends and be there for her
    taffytats taffytats 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    I Had To Cut My Mother Out Of My Life

    My story is so complicated that I don't where to begin.  My mother has always been very selfish and only thought of herself.  I am so hurt and angry by the things that she has pulled over the last 42 years.  The straw that broke the camels back was when she took my children to...
    jgjc1205 jgjc1205 41-45 4 Responses Aug 18, 2011

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    The Funeral Is Delayed Because Of Money?! 6-8 Weeks!!

    I lost my mother Christmas day. tragically her partner found her on the floor by her bed collapsed from pneumonia. She had probably died much earlier in the night. my mum was schizophrenic and typically, had the extreme version of the illness. Her partner also has schizophrenia...
    taffytats taffytats 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 7, 2011

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    I'm Done Letting Her Get Away With Crap Cause Of A Title

    I'm 30 and the person who gave birth to me feels like you're betraying her because you want to think for yourself. She is extremely Judgmental and is black but when someone is darker than her she looks Down on them. She has called people animals cause they didn't look how She...
    Overthebs Overthebs 26-30 1 Response Apr 27, 2012

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    Things Finally Seem to Be Going My Way

    Since i kicked my mother out of my life, things have been going more and more in my favour.  LOL.  I know it's sad to say such a thing, but it is what it is.  After my sister robbed and left, things have only improved.  I put everything in my name as far as...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 9, 2009

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    Threatened Again!

    C'mon mother just what part of me cutting you out of my life don't you understand??! My mother had to track down my facebook address and send me a threatening message of taking me to court because she hasn't seen my daughter in a long time! My daughter doesn't want to see her...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 23, 2013

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    Having A Hard Time Dealing

    I know that compared to most people in my age group that have cut off contact with their mothers I had a pretty easy time growing up.  My mother isn't abusive and actually raised me with some pretty strong values and ambitions...  She always wanted what was best for me...
    tavery2 tavery2 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 17, 2009

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    The Egg Doner

    my son went to visit his grand mother for spring break when he was 15..... he didnt want to live with my wife any more as she was drinking alot....so when we went to pick him up they called health and welfare and told them LIES that were geard to get him taken.  that...
    TEMPOLTON TEMPOLTON 41-45, M 4 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Me And My Kids Are Better Off

    I cut all ties with my mother after she pushed me to try and kill herself. I posted my story about my abuse from her under I am a child abuse survivor. If it wasn't for my loving husband my girls would be growing up without a mother. I took a handful of pain meds after she and my...
    survivor228 survivor228 22-25 Jan 29, 2013

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    Good Memories.....?

    'remember the good times you had together......' um..........??? my mother was schizophrenic and I was forcefully removed form her when I was four years old, and had already been in and out of care for neglect and abuse. It was not her fault i have to make clear. she didn't want...
    taffytats taffytats 26-30, F Jan 18, 2011

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    It Wasn't Always Bad.

    Looking back on things, i can honestly say there were a lot of bad things going on in my childhood.  Then again i can say that there were some good times.  Good times didn't last long and they were far in between, nonetheless they did come.  Still wouldn't have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 18, 2009

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    I Wasn'T Abused, But There Was No Emotion

    I'm in the process of learning how to cut ties with my bio family. Starting a family of my own, I've come to realize that my childhood really wasn't what I thought it was. My parents clothed us, fed us, ensured school was a priority, but we never hugged, said I love you. They...
    babywhisperer babywhisperer 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2013

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    Enough Is Indeed Enough

    My relationship with Teresa has never been a good one i mean how it could be when she’s was so phyisically verbally and emotionally abusive all my life she took out her anger and suffering on five beautiful innocent children. At least one of us a day, would be physically beaten...
    jackie1014 jackie1014 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    The Way My Life Went Was No Walk In The Park

    I had a best friend when I was a primary school and it went through to high school but my mother always tried to keep us apart and there was no real reason for it and in the end all I said to her is just because you might have had a bad childhood doesn't mean you have to reenact...
    dangerousbunnyrabbit dangerousbunnyrabbit 22-25, F Oct 22, 2013

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    Grandma

    ~~  "Some folk learn slower than other's.  Your sister is one of those people.  Both of you were raised differently ((by my mother)) and learned differently.  I think you should help your sister and keep in touch with her." ************ It's...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 3, 2009

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    I have officially cut my mother out of my life.

    I know this is sad considering it took me years to finally do it but this time she has gone too far. This all started a few days ago. My narcissistic personality/ sociopath younger brother had asked my husband to hang a TV in his room. My husband had told him he had to work...
    sweetsumigirl sweetsumigirl 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    Making Our Own Family Connections

    I grew up thinking that I wasn't good enough or worthy of a good family or true friends. I was alone, lonely, and self hatred had gotten to me. I need to be nurtured, cared for and listen too. I just never wanted to be accepting of that when I was young and in to my later teen...
    Hugsdirector Hugsdirector 36-40, F Nov 4, 2013

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    I have recently had a falling out with my mother in law - She cursed me out and almost hit me. She is dead to me as far as I'm concerned. My husband is not cutting her out of his...
    CantGEToverit CantGEToverit 31-35 3 Responses Jul 22

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    Not the easiest thing in the world to do, but most certainly the best decision I have made. The first, my ex. I gave him over a year of my life, miscarried his child, and was to be...
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F Jul 23

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    A few nights ago I cut all but four people out of my life. It was so hard. I'm just so tired of dealing with people that are pointless to talk to. The hardest part is afterwards...
    Bitch2014 Bitch2014 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I suppose I have spent so much time in the past four years trying to unravel the constant web that my mum surround me with, that I have become a narcissist myself. I guess that...
    createababe createababe 31-35 Jul 9

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    unbornangel unbornangel 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    Big props go out to those single mothers out there. They've got to be the father and mother of the family and that has got to be sooo tough. Not only that, but single mothers are...
    AlbuquerqueJay AlbuquerqueJay 31-35, M Jul 18

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    I am against using abortion as birth control. I believe there are certain instances where women should be free to terminate their pregnancies if they choose (unreported rape...
    RaverFan RaverFan 41-45 1 Response Jul 3

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    I'm not the only person in my family who hasn't gotten along with her. She doesn't speak to my grandmother, who practically raised me, because she doesn't agree with my mother's...
    E991010 E991010 13-15, F Jul 10

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    With all the things a woman can be, a mother is the greatest. Love to all you mothers out there. This is the hardest job so just showing appreciation to you all. You're doing an...
    SoberJessica SoberJessica 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    It's taken me and my sister a very long time to realise that our mother is passive aggressive. We always thought our mother was selfish and wanted the world to revolve around her...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F 17 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry in advance if this post ends up a little long, but this issue is very, very important to me and I want to make sure I get my point across well. I'm a fresh graduate who...
    HelloBones HelloBones 18-21, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I'm newly single mother of a year and half old boy, been a week since we last seen my baby father... He hasn't contacted me.. Never asked about our child.. Nothing more than I...
    shexlove shexlove 22-25, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Hello EP one more story to tell you it has always been my life from bad to worse, I know what I did to deserve regrets life I just want is pity that nobody ever felt, I want to...
    ferrer95 ferrer95 18-21, F 9 hrs ago

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    Outside your window, the snow turns to gold, Right here beneath you, Ill never get cold. Outside your window, the rain never dries. Close to your doorstep, I cant tell no lies...
    BloodRedDarkness BloodRedDarkness 16-17, F 14 hrs ago

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