I 'd Rather Be Alone Than Unhappy

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    did you leave the area because of it?
    shper1 shper1
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    I think I was happier

    when I was alone sometimes...
    mike7280 mike7280
    51-55, M
    1 Response Aug 10, 2015

    I'd love to find someone to be happy with.

    But the odds of finding a guy that 1) meets my requirements, 2) can handle me, and 3) that I actually like are astronomical. I'm not that picky really, I just know what I want and need. But I woud rather be alone than accept something less and not be happy. Life is too short to...
    AntiveninKiss AntiveninKiss
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 29, 2014

    I have never been around people

    that I don't genuinely like or aren't authentic.I've met interesting people and wouldnt compromise just to have company.im happy to spend time on my own and enjoy qu8et time so only hang out with people that have positive attributes.
    sagiluvin sagiluvin
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 14

    I fear that I am meant to be alone

    and unhappy anyways.. At this moment I feel more confused than ever and have no idea which way to go.. Which way is up..
    HealingSadness HealingSadness
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 26, 2015

    Sometimes you have to sacrifice

    and let go of the things you love to move on with your life. I guess that's why life comes before love in the dictionary.
    Aamulus Aamulus
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Oct 5, 2014

    I recently divorced after 38 years of marriage.

    During the last 10 years of that marriage, I felt very alone. After trying everything I could think of to fix things, I realized that I was the only one trying. I finally decided that if I was going to feel alone, I might as well be alone. At least now I can make decisions...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

    Every guy I have met is disappointing.

    .. Some people are just doomed to have terrible luck in love relationships ... And I m one of them. Why can't I just accept the truth and stop looking ?! If I have stuck to my plan to stay single forever - I would feel happier. Really I should stop caring !!!
    thousandcuts thousandcuts
    26-30, F
    18 Responses May 6, 2015

    I came to this realization today watching my

    parents. I've been spending a lot of time with them recently, which is unusual, and I don't know if I just didn't notice it before, or if it's grown since I got married and moved out, but they hate each other. Everything that my dad says is bounced back by my mom with daggers...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses May 24, 2015

    problem is i get both

    but i understand how i am my own worst enemy in this. how i manage to drive away any who would try to be close. its amazing if you look at it in a detached way, just how alone you can feel with people nearby. i am surrounded by people at work and get along rather well yet...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    Apr 6

    I love him, but I don't love

    when he is staring at the screen when I'm trying to make conversation. This bothers me, and I shouldn't have to tell him time and again that I want him to look at me when we're having a conversation. I feel alone in the same room with him a lot. It's not fair. I wait for him to...
    PoisonLace PoisonLace
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 2, 2015

    they say, it is better to feel pain

    than feel nothing at all... they say, being passionless alone is not living... but is living in pain and sorrow is living at all? i used to agree with them.. so i chose pain after another, and another, and another.... and i lose count.. thought i was living.. life is a...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    My marriage lasted ten years,

    and probably for the last 7 of them, I was lonely. Verbally beaten down and isolated from friends and family. I became totally dependant on someone who insulted me and criticized. Called me names and blamed me for our troubles. When he left me I was devastated. I had, over...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    I'm alone now, but compared to the loneliness

    of my last relationship of 13 years it's like Christmas every day. I felt more lonely in that relationship than I ever have done. Now I'm just rediscovering myself and my sensual nature is coming back, it completely disappeared and I despaired of ever being physically at ease...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Jul 27, 2014

    I've been recently diagnosed with Ulcerative

    Colitis and it has been really tough adjusting to my new school since I just moved . I go to a very snobby school so people don't even try to talk to me. Sat at a lunch table and the girls got up and left....I don't understand people.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 3, 2015

    I enjoy my own company

    and am quite resilient, I almost always have a project on the go. Getting the balance right matters. I know when I need to socialise with a friend or lover, and try to get my needs met for someone's company before settling down once again into my peaceful, hassle free life...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 26, 2015

    I am more than content living the rest of my

    life without a "significant other", but sometimes all I want is someone to come home to cuddle with. Can I be totally independent yet feel so dependent on another human being? Can one have a serious committed cuddle relationship and nothing more? Sex and cuddle complicates...
    PLisa88 PLisa88
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 10, 2015
    Ashen44 Ashen44
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 17, 2015

    SOMEDAY, your Prince Charming will come.

    Mine just took a wrong turn, got lost, and is too stubborn to ask for directions.
    BeautifulDayDream BeautifulDayDream
    22-25, F
    12 Responses May 30, 2015

    Wife asked, is it possible

    for me to be happy if we weren't together. Now after two months of separation, I may not be happy, but I am no longer miserable.
    HarryOsbourne HarryOsbourne
    56-60, M
    5 Responses Jun 18, 2015

    There comes a point in your life/relationship

    when it suddenly dawns on you that although it's pleasant having company & someone to fill the silence.....it's not enough! The more time goes by the more I realise how trapped I'm becoming, how all my thoughts & actions are to please someone else (who frustratingly fails to...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2015

    Most people annoy me,

    im not a people person and the thought of being in a relationship or even friends with somebody just so i wont feel alone or unhappy make me feel sick, i am very happy by myself than with somebody and there baggage
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Jan 24, 2015

    If i could turn back time,

    i'd go back to the day that i fell in love with you, and stop myself from falling. It's been too long and my heart isn't that strong. We never were, we never will be, but i can't shake the thought of spending my forever with you, and only you. You're my world, my stars, my moon...
    Jhayz Jhayz
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2015

    Too many unfaithful people

    who are unsure of their feelings so they decide to play with yours.
    Xo12345 Xo12345
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 5, 2014
    Holdontothefire Holdontothefire
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jun 11, 2015

    First post.. not even sure

    if this is where I should be.. Anyway : My husband and I married 19 uears ago after living together for 3 years. Immediately after the wedding - in fact during the honeymoon he became.. no, he expected me to become his mother - but with sex-on-demand. After fewer than 2 years I...
    omaLostinatl omaLostinatl
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Nov 27, 2014

    I've always been there,

    but never had someone beside me. Out of all my friends I've ever had, they've always had nice things said about me that a good friend would hear. I've always liked that and felt good being a good friend. I've always said "You never had a friend like me, your enemies are now my...
    theEmmettshow theEmmettshow
    18-21, M
    Jul 12, 2015

    Here in my terrace, alone

    and watching the moon. Relaxing and injecting some happy thoughts in my mind. There's no better company when you want silence....YOURSELF.. ❤️
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Aug 10, 2014

    The guy I've been most closest to & thought was

    perfect for me is starting to make me feel uncomfortable about myself and everything is disconnecting. I'm done with it. I'd rather be alone then spend time putting effort into someone who doesn't give back the same.
    anarchoflower anarchoflower
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 2, 2015

    That awkward part where you're alone AND

    unhappy. But you know leaving that person saved your life.
    BlackSheep613 BlackSheep613
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2015
    IRootI IRootI
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jan 3

    I prefer being alone

    until I find the one true guy who I truly love and who I will trust until the end of infinity.
    CaitlinFrenchIsActuallyBritish CaitlinFrenchIsActuallyBritish
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    I'd rather be alone because

    when you run into somebody that says they're interested, somewhere down the road they're not. then they ignore you and reject you. it happens all the time.
    vf702 vf702
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    just don't have the patience anymore

    for other people's melodramas. if that's how you prefer to live fine. life is way too short to let anyone else control it for me. who else feels that way? I can be alone and never lonely. peace overrides drama!!
    caramelpeace caramelpeace
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2015

    Happiness is the greatest thing.

    But feeling so alone, it's difficult. I'm surrounded by people yet feel so unfulfilled. True connection is just hard to come by. I'm not unhappy, and I've been in that horrible place before. But the numbness isn't much better. I need to find it within myself, I know. But it...
    DantheMan17 DantheMan17
    26-30, M
    1 Response Sep 5, 2015

    Toadily. I seem to be incapable of having

    reasonable adult relationships and I tend to attract same, so I'm alone and have been quite a while, now. Getting so I prefer it.
    wvdickhead wvdickhead
    51-55, M
    Nov 20, 2015

    I'd rather be alone then unhappy ,

    often when I'm out with other people I find myself unhappy . I have been alone for so long that I've gotten to know myself , I hates myself but I have more recently started to like and love the things and all of the achievements I have made . sometimes it helps to have someone...
    Ellis1993 Ellis1993
    18-21, M
    Jun 18, 2015

    wy to depend on anyone to make you happy

    or please ypu? make yourself so successful and capable that you can be happy on your own, be good to others and dont expect everything from everyone.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 15, 2015

    I don't know what's wrong with people just

    because I don't want to go party's , movie or going out with friends doesn't mean I'm a loner I just choose to be by myself because I found much peaceful and it doesn't make me want to smack someone in the face when they fake to the so called best friend, I find it funny because...
    bitchwhere920 bitchwhere920
    18-21, F
    Apr 6

    Easy...alone until it turns into loneliness.

    Beyond that, unhappiness starts anyway, so they become a package deal. Prolonged loneliness starts that downhill slide into isolation which before you know it can snowball into a crippling depression.
    ChaoticEnigma ChaoticEnigma
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 18

    When one is alone by choice,

    solitude is solice. When one has another, yet experiences true loneliness, it becomes a trap. Why ensnare oneself in something with no future? ''I can do bad all by myself'' - Tyler Perry
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 1, 2015

    After being lied to and cheated on,

    I have trust issues so I prefer my own company. I'm a bookworm, I have cats, I deleted my fb account, I'm happy. I have some of the best people as my friends, but I still love to be alone.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 23, 2015

    I don't think people are made to be alone all

    the time. But I rather be alone than with someone who makes me feel lonely and unhappy.. There is so much beautiful places and moments and life is running so fast, so it is nonsense to waste with somebody who doesn't get you. I wonder what is wrong with people these days. So...
    Eriane Eriane
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 7

    Happiness is so important!

    It is also difficult to describe, but other people did the work, they are lots of books and such talking about what made various people happy, and perhaps it will work for you also. Part of it, is growth and renewal. We don't necessarily need to do "new" stuff, but we do need...
    Taurusedi Taurusedi
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    problem is i get both

    but i understand how i am my own worst enemy in this. how i manage to drive away any who would try to be close. its amazing if you look at it in a detached way, just how alone you can feel with people nearby. i am surrounded by people at work and get along rather well yet...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    Apr 6

    I am getting a divorce

    after being with my husband for ten years. For many of the years we were together I was so very lonely. I became so depressed and I lost who I once was. Now that I finally am coming out is this horrible deep depression I can see what I've been missing in life. I've been...
    Nurse83cali Nurse83cali
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 12, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 5, 2015

    I Am Happy With Myself

    I like to be all by myself than in a company where I am not comfortable and feel sad. People generally like my company but I choose who I want to be with.
    donotfollowme donotfollowme
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Nov 25, 2013

    Although I'm sort of alone right now

    and it's no fun either :(
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 13, 2015

    for real though. fuckthe people

    who make others feel like ****, loneliness is miles better than misery
    lerlyblandor lerlyblandor
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 9, 2015
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