I 'd Rather Get To Know You Than Small Talk

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    You are the first person I want to talk to

    when I wake up and the last person I wish to see before I fall asleep. I want to stare into your eyes and never look away. I want you to hold me in your arms and tell me it's okay. I want to kiss you with a passion that only we can share and when it all falls down I want you to...
    PosterGirl PosterGirl
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jun 30, 2015

    I enjoy getting to know people

    and seeing the world through their eyes. There's a big world out there, different cultures, food's, lifestyles etc. I enjoy that a lot.
    toreffects toreffects
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2015

    Hello friends, If you want pass time im not

    your person. I like to know what you are deep inside rather than how you look or talk. If you want someone to share things , experience, life, happiness then im our guy. Im here to know people , i mean the real person inside you.
    getgoodfeeling getgoodfeeling
    26-30, M
    1 Response Dec 17, 2015

    I mean, it's okay to start off with small talk.

    Though, I have a habit of spilling my life story to anyone who gives me attention, but still. Small talk is good to begin with. But if you only engage in a short conversation of "how are you?" Or "nice weather, eh?" Then don't bother. I'd rather talk about something that is...
    IFeelTooDeeply IFeelTooDeeply
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I say hello. I was taught

    that it was good manners to acknowledge someone, whether an acquaintance or stranger (providing they don't seem scary.) I find small talk more awkward than the silence. I stumble with words and clich├ęs. Silence is nice.
    domesticgypsy domesticgypsy
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2015

    it's strange how here we're all strangers

    connecting on matters and interest that we don't with our own friends on other social networks haha ;)
    EmilioAsc EmilioAsc
    26-30, M
    Mar 21, 2016

    I can't stand small talks.

    Small talks are for people who don't wanna be friends. I rather be quite all evening if we only is going to talk about weather and what happens at work! I'm deep, and I really wanna know and understand why people answer with "I don't know", "yes", "maybe" or "no" and...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated
    31-35, M
    Jan 18, 2016

    I like conversing with people online.

    I understand that every conversation starts with a "Hi, Hello and How are you?" but hopefully, we can progress over that and share intellectually stimulating or heartfelt conversations.
    deleted deleted
    11 Responses Feb 13, 2015

    So, primates were once nocturnal

    and eventually evolved into diurnal beings. This eventually lead to humans. Now, what if these nocturnal primates had never become diurnal but still evolved into humans. How different do you think our society would be?
    DMwannaBE DMwannaBE
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    I've come to realise

    that there are some complex peeps in this world. I have a desire to understand. A need to peel away the layers and get to the bottom of everyone and everything. I ask a lot of questions and it bothers some people. I cannot help myself.. This is how I am. I feel as if I can...
    CovertInk CovertInk
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jan 5, 2015

    I've never been good at small talk.

    Every time someone tries to talk about the whether or something trivial they did on the weekend or how their mom won't stop bugging them about doing laundry, I can't help but reply with a deeper, more analytical answer than a short, cursory one.
    jateeq jateeq
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2016

    It just bores me. Not every conversation topic

    needs to be profound, but it would be nice to actually get to know someone.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 8, 2015

    I like people. I love to talk ,

    share things. I'm an observer. I like to know you deep inside rather than small talk.
    getgoodfeeling getgoodfeeling
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2015
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    how do you feel about people

    that let their religion control their happiness. I knew someone who was miserable because he was afraid of his religion so much, but he didn't even know that some of the stuff he had done in life was a sin already.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2015

    How are you? Good and you?

    Don't stop there, tell me why you're good. What you're looking forward to today.. I've always been an in-depth person.. People treat conversations like a little puddle.. I want our conversations to be oceans deep. Let us bask in the topics that intrigue us. :) there's no...
    ladysapio ladysapio
    26-30, F
    5 Responses May 31, 2015

    I dislike small talk with a passion.

    When I talk to you I don't want Hey Hello? What's up? Nothing much Oh cool Yup Tell me why you added my to your circle! What did you find interesting? Clearly you like something about me. Just let me know and we can figure out what we have in common. We won't know though if you...
    Raptax231 Raptax231
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 1, 2014

    A lot of people read this

    and they assume I mean get to know you as in have virtual sex with you or whatever the pervs on here do with each other but what I actually mean is I don't like people who are nervous and leave me to ask all the questions or they ask all the questions and we don't want to say...
    sexysmeagol sexysmeagol
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 11, 2016

    I can do small talk. It's a script that's not

    difficult to master. The problem is that it never seems to get beyond small talk. Or in other words, I relate completely to the first selection in Antoine de Saint-Exupery's The Little Prince. I've accepted that no one wants to talk about the multiverse and what it means if that...
    Emeryael Emeryael
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Jun 29, 2015

    I feel so dead inside.

    I think I have been dying for a long time because when bad things happen in my life, everything else falls to ****. I feel no excitement for life in any way and everyday is a dreadful experience of being awake and passing the hours. Losing my job, living in this terrible...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 28, 2016

    Small talk is better during a social gathering,

    but I would rather actually get to know someone than engage in trite conversation that is as exciting as talking about the weather.
    Mrskatearch Mrskatearch
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2015

    I really don't know how to hold a conversation

    that is meaningless. I want depth. I want real raw meaning. I want to spend hours talking without there ever being an awkwardness between replies.
    damnitskaity damnitskaity
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Jun 8, 2015

    I hate small talk. I always ask the deep hard

    questions for people to answer. Life is too short to talk about the weather
    deleted deleted
    12 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    When I talk to others on EP I am

    so used to receiving and giving like about 1-2 lengths of paragraphs with others. I don't want to sound mean, but I think some people on here are not much of a conservationist, even over the internet. I don't talk to many people in RL, but online if I want to talk to you I'll...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Sep 19, 2015

    Do you believe in "what goes around,

    comes around"?? I`ve seen so many people doing bad things to others and yet they continue living their lives happily as if nothing happened leaving others carrying the consequences of the mess they left behind.
    JJgd JJgd
    17 Responses Jun 20, 2015

    Small talk doesn't last.

    If we can't find something to talk about a little deeper I can't be bothered. a conversation about anything it doesn't have to be about the meaning of life just talk to me like you actually like talking to me. I can tell when you really want to talk to me or you're just trying...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Dec 16, 2014

    Yet, sometimes knowing someone

    and realizing what they are not what you thought they were, and suddenly what felt like two souls in harmony feels like two souls in collision.
    Nyx935 Nyx935
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Jul 5, 2015

    I find small talk to be too awkward.

    . It feels forced. I want to actually have a conversation and get to know somebody by seeing how their brain works; how they think, feel, what their opinions are. I don't care about the weather. I am interested in your favorite type of weather, why that is, how certain weather...
    dontyouunderstand dontyouunderstand
    8 Responses May 14, 2015
    NiamhM NiamhM
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 17, 2016

    Small talk is just for acquaintances.

    I want to be your friend. I want to know what makes you smile, what makes you cry, what make you think
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jul 21, 2015

    I love knowing about someone to the great

    things we have in common im especially interested in zodiac signs
    godessd godessd
    22-25, F
    21 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    I hate small talk. I wan to talk about atoms,

    death, aliens, sex, magic, intellect, life, space, lies, truths, flaws, memories, fears, and emotions. I want someone to talk WITH not TO. I'd like to talk with someone who has depth and a twisted mind. Anyone who wants to talk message me or respond here.
    DMwannaBE DMwannaBE
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    Small talk...that's why I don't like first

    dates. There is really no meaning in it at all. I would rather make you a list of questions & you answer them for me or vice versa...then to be like "so do you like football?" I want to KNOW people, not just superficially.
    RubyLane RubyLane
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Mar 26, 2015

    I hate the first 30 minutes of every time

    someone wants to get to know me on here! It always goes the same Hello Hi I'm Tom I'm Jess How are you? I'm good. How are you? I'm great, thank you. So what are you doing? Nothing really. What are you doing? Watching tv. It's just so annoying! Tell me something random about...
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners
    18-21, F
    18 Responses Jan 26, 2015

    I know that I have trouble talking to strangers

    most of the time. But I absolutely despise small talk. It often seems very superficial. I hate talking for no reason. I'd rather someone not speak to me than waste our time with forced formalities. Let's be honest. Most of the time you don't care about my day or my family or...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    If it pleases the other person,

    I love to have deep conversation.
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    51-55, F
    Oct 31, 2015

    I would much rather get to know someone first

    before I just talk. I like to know who I am talking to and what the person likes and dislikes.
    Gambler715 Gambler715
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    Is there a nice, non terrifying way to say,

    "Heyyyy, I've been stalking your profile and pretty much everything on it drives me wild! Even the non sexual things." ? Because, damn.
    RMDk RMDk
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 16, 2016

    tfw you just want to ask someone about aliens

    and the afterlife and human nature but you can't because they'll probably think that's just weird because no one starts off a conversation with a stranger like that
    lerlyblandor lerlyblandor
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Jul 9, 2015

    I don't like small talk.

    I would rather talk about you and me and where we have been with our lives. Our outer world and inner thoughts.
    songformyfather songformyfather
    61-65, F
    4 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    I often scare people away with my extreme lust

    of deeply knowing them. Either they can't answer my hard questions because they a) don't know themselves and are scared to delve too deep or b) are highly reserved. Or they can't take MY raw, unadulterated thoughts and emotions. I break walls when I talk to people no matter how...
    PrettyBunny PrettyBunny
    22-25, T
    5 Responses Jun 21, 2015

    The only time when small talk is bearable is

    when it is hilarious. If you can make your small talk shine with wit, if you can be cheeky, playful and just that little bit insulting - it - my friends is no longer small talk - it is not even big talk...it is Godzilla talk.
    SeantheWolf SeantheWolf
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 11, 2015

    Just received a message from someone saying

    that they'd like to get to know me. I respond the same way I always do. I told him that I don't mind getting acquainted, but that I'm pretty awkward and not very good with small talk. I also add that he can ask me whatever, because I'm basically an open book. He replies with...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki
    26-30, F
    18 Responses Dec 4, 2014

    I'm very open to others I don't ask them to be

    like I am but I want to get to know you before taking the next step( if it's the case ). Guess I'm not the only one who spoke with many people and in the end one of them didn't wanted to continue or haven't replied back. Haven't you even once message to a person who you like...
    Sebastian10 Sebastian10
    18-21, M
    1 Response Oct 22, 2015

    Can we talk about how terrible small talk is?

    I just can't stand how boring it is. Here you are, asking each other "hey, how's life?" even though neither of you actually care. It's a really stupid hoop to jump through to get to any meaningful conversation. Another thing, small talk only gets you to know the exterior of a...
    stealthyduckling stealthyduckling
    18-21, M
    Dec 16, 2015

    I love talking about weird

    and deep things. some people have told me that I have a twisted mind but I like twisted things. i like to talk about why we're here, my weird obsession with Matthew gray gubler, and just about anything haha. (I really like criminal minds if you can't tell) I'd really like to...
    KareliaKarou KareliaKarou
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Nov 28, 2015

    I don't mind small talk,

    but if all I get are 1-3 word responses, I will not respond. I don't want a one-ended conversation.. I feel like I'm just being a nuisance then.
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Sep 27, 2014

    First and foremost, I have been serious about

    my relationship with the Father since I was in my 20's....not to say, I haven't made some really bad choices (choices that a person that understands what Jesus did for her, and if it had been old testimony times ....I would have been stoned or turned to salt or caused...
    LetsShareStories LetsShareStories
    61-65, F
    4 Responses Apr 10, 2016

    I never message people cause I know I'll have

    nothing to say. I don't like small talk or putting people through it on my end. and skipping small talk doesn't mean going right to what my user name is about. it's exactly how it reads. no secret meaning behind it. now let's talk anime, Pokemon and food. the weather, anything...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Jan 1, 2016

    Honestly small talk is just awkward.

    I mean i can do it but its just boring and weird. I'd much rather get to know someone on a deeper level and give them someone to trust and go to if they need to talk. Open for anyone to talk to!
    justanaveragegurll justanaveragegurll
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 8, 2015

    Small talk is nice when testing the waters to

    see if there is any type of connection. Some people you may not want to get to know. You may have nothing in common or the flow of conversation may be painful. But if you find you are on the same page, you have a lot in common or there is a spark, a long meaningful...
    NaughtyWhispers NaughtyWhispers
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Aug 25, 2015

    When someone randomly asks how I am I really

    want to say why do you care! This person doesn't even know me! What difference would it make to them if I wasn't okay! However I don't want to be a ***** so I respond with the standard 'I'm good thanks, how are you?'
    Serena6669 Serena6669
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    ep has deleted my profile nine times this

    should tell you something about this site
    spankyouhard9 spankyouhard9
    56-60, M
    5 Responses Dec 18, 2015

    how small talk works: hi,

    hi how are you, fine/good/ok what are you doing, nothing/watching tv can we just skip all that? get to the the point. I know half of you don't even really wanna talk but wanna try and find someone to be dirty with.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Dec 17, 2015

    Especially on here. With irl small talk you can

    communicate a lot with eye contact and body language. You can communicate a lot on an emotional or playful level that can make the small talk a lot more interesting. But on here it's just text, which means that the subject itself has to stand alone in making things interesting.
    SilverSearching SilverSearching
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2016

    I hate getting random messages from guys trying

    to force a conversation. I don't want to talk to anyone unless that actually have something to really talk to me about. Just because we both smoke cigarettes doesn't mean all I want to talk about is cigarettes. Like if you want to talk to me look at what I post see if we...
    blackroses75 blackroses75
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2015

    aaaaa.... good old canned sardines: the

    supposedly healthier" version of fast food
    MY2centz MY2centz
    26-30, M
    1 Response Dec 21, 2015
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