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I Dated a Sociopath

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    I Dated One And Now I Am One

    Five years of circles... leaving coming back....now i am him and he never existed.
    iloveppl iloveppl 26-30 Jan 4, 2013

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    Trying To Figure It All Out And Why

    I was cruising around the web looking for articles on how to get over dating a sociopath and came across this website and figured I will give it a try. How do you ever trust yourself or try to have a relationship once you have been thru the wringer with a true sociopath? I no...
    lostandwandering41 lostandwandering41 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 14, 2013

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    My Encounter With An Intense Sociopath

    This is rather long,but I want to share with you my recent experience with a sociopath who I met online, then unfortunately,met in real life. He lives in Chicago, and I live in California.We met on Myspace when he hit me up with a friendly message. Now, I usually deny...
    71vwgirl 71vwgirl 31-35 7 Responses Jul 16, 2009

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    Ghosts Of My Ex Girlfriends Past...

    Okay here is my story. I am an Indian student in the united states who was doing my PhD until now because my career has got completely ruined and left me with a PTSD and severe traumas. This was around 3 years ago that I met T***y. She started behaving like the girl of my dreams...
    maverick2013 maverick2013 31-35 3 Responses Apr 19, 2013

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    The Man In The Mask - Part 5 of 8

    In late July, he called me from his mail box near his home. He had gotten a letter from the child support division. They suspended his license for back arrears and a day later he called to say he was at the accountant filling back taxes of several years for his business and just...
    eldorazita eldorazita 36-40, F Nov 15, 2012

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    I Didn't See It Coming!

    I found out 3 days ago that I have been dating a sociopath for the past 2 years. To say I am shocked, heartbroken, outraged, angry, and numb is an understatement. The first 48 hours I couldn't eat. I have had such a physical response to the emotional pain this man has inflicted...
    sociopathvictim27 sociopathvictim27 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 23, 2012

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    The Man In The Mask - Part 6 of 8

    At this point, I realized that Mask was in a financial mess. He told me straight up this was the reason for his stress and change in behavior since we first met in May. In 2006, he started his own business and it was going well until the 2008 when the depression hit. Since then...
    eldorazita eldorazita 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2012

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    The Man In The Mask - Part 1 of 8

    On line dating! I had just joined a familiar site and on May 1st, I was emailed by a charismatic handsome man (Mask). His profile header, "A good man looking for an angel." This man laid on all the flattery a woman would melt over. Why was I on there? Did I know how beautiful I...
    eldorazita eldorazita 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Is She A Sociopath?

    Is she a sociopath or what? I am writing this for two reasons: one is that in my heart I know I am in a bad place. Two: If what I write can help someone … all the better. Here is my story…. First about my myself: I am a good looking man, young for my age (so I am told) in...
    winstonoboogie winstonoboogie 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 28, 2010

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    Thank God I'm Out Of It

    Sociopaths will have you believe everything is your fault and that you should be kissing their feet. Fall in love with a sociopath and they will take advantage of this at every turn, denying they've ever done anything wrong. They are immune to attack until you call them out on...
    Emokitten Emokitten 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2011

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    Why Can'T I Escape!

    I'm still in a relationship with him, it's the worst its ever been. I've been catching him in lies lately, nothing drastic nothing a normal person would ever even lie about. The lies built up and up until I told him I had had enough and I wanted to break up. We were apart a few...
    learntoswim learntoswim 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    I Married My Sociopath

    After reading some of the stories of others, I really wanted to share mine. I married my sociopath. We met in college. He was going to the church I had gone to for years. He wasn't at all what I thought I wanted in a man, but he seemed to love me. He made me feel like...
    marriedtoborderline marriedtoborderline 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    She Reeled Me In..

    We met online- which I try Not to do anymore (you have to be exceptional for me to even Consider it) . We talked on a chat room- Health and Fitness of all things- I WASN'T looking.. Over the weeks, I fell for her...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 30, 2012

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    Is He A Sociopath?

    I have a couple questions for you (anyone that is a sociopath)....would you mind answering them? 1. i dated a guy for 2 years and we just recently broke up because i found out he was cheating on me the entire time (maybe like once a month or when i was out of town for a short...
    vtorres58 vtorres58 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22, 2013

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    He Was A Legit Socio Path

    I cannot believe I have been so blind for song long. he was cheating and lieing and using me for money. I couldn't imagine it would happen to me because I am pretty and cultured and no no no it couldnt be true! But it completely was. He would makeup ridiculous stories about his...
    platinumstraat platinumstraat 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    Just finished watching "The Best Offer" (La

    migliore offerta) and it's provides a telling glimpse to how it feels like to be devastated by a sociopath. Until the very end, where they have robbed you blinded and painfully taken away every thing you hold dear, they still can tell you that "no matter what" they would "love...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 13

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    "the Sociopath Next Door"

    I learned what a sociopath is the hard way. I had a relationship (if we can even call it that) with one. The best part is that he lives in my building and I have another year until the lease is up. The actual best part? I found the strength to end it almost 6 months ago. His...
    naturalzoo naturalzoo 22-25 2 Responses Jun 9, 2011

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    The Man In The Mask - Part 8 (yes, The Finale!) ;-)

    The next four days, I had really pulled away from him. Something I suspected he wanted me to do, so he could softly make his exit. I went to bed on Wednesday and he came to tuck me in. I sorrowfully responded, “You really don’t have to do this. I would prefer you didn’t...
    eldorazita eldorazita 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    4 Years, And This Is What I Have To Show For It.

    Life with a sociopath. Four and a half years ago, I met JH on a mission trip to Peru. I must admit, I was not attracted to him at first. I thought his good looks and charm gave him a slight, almost unnoticeable arrogance that I was not particularly impressed by. Then we started...
    PeaceAndRenewal PeaceAndRenewal 22-25 3 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    I met this guy 2 years ago.

    He was respectfull, charming, he treated me good, he was really nice and I started to appreciate his presence. He was always telling me how much I'm pretty, perfect, sweet etc...He was telling long extravagant stories about his life. He was a dr*g-dealer who smokes a lot of...
    tedylaye22 tedylaye22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 27

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    I was 15, he moved really quick,

    he was very smooth, and confident, He seemed to be the most perfect person in the world at first. He used to always ask me to buy him food and every time I buy food for me he would say "your not going to finish that" and eat as he wishes even if I say no. Then 3 months go buy...
    f1made f1made 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    For 5 years, he was the only one I could love.

    He was charming, smart, he took care of me. He taught me things and he "loved and respected" me in a way I never though anybody would. We broke up after a stupid fight and I did everything I could to win him back, to no avail. He found a new partner after 2 weeks and moved in...
    daniellecat daniellecat 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    The Ghost Of My Socipath Ex Will Never Go Away

    I met my ex just over a year ago through a guy I met on Plenty of Fish. I felt I had a better connection with my ex than the guy on POF, so I continued to talk to him despite the fact he had NOTHING on my list of musts for a boyfriend. He didn't have a car, a job, a degree, he...
    BrokenPicker BrokenPicker 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    I am a freshmen in high school

    and I was recently in a relationship with a sociopath. I don't know if I am old enough to be on here but I need help so sorry. I was crying at a football game when a senior (age 18 1/2) from my school came up to me and gave me hot chocolate and a ring pop to make me feel...
    Purple7575 Purple7575 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    The Man In The Mask - Part 2 of 8

    We talked on the phone for a bit. His inflection was the most gleeful I had ever witnessed. Once we got off the phone, the emails did not stop. He was head long in his conquest. He just knew he had me now. Telling me the great lengths that he went through to set all of this up...
    eldorazita eldorazita 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    I Finally Confronted Him.

    So after writing an hour long deal about how conniving and charming my sociopath can be, it didn't post for whatever reason. However, I saved it. For some reason, maybe because I'm upset he left me once again, I decided to send him the whole thing. I thought maybe if he read...
    Italianabella23 Italianabella23 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 10, 2013

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    The Man In The Mask - Part 4 of 8

    Sounds like quite the whirlwind fairytale, doesn't it? I thought so as I was in it. It was if I was a puppet in a play. It all was very surreal and fun, but all things good, tend to fray. We knew we wanted to see more of each other, so we discussed that he move locations, for his...
    eldorazita eldorazita 36-40, F Nov 14, 2012

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    I met him in my senior year of high school.

    In the beginning, he was always very sweet and wanted to spend every second of every day with me. At first I found it flattering, but in hindsight, that was the beginning of him cutting my social connections. Jealousy was a constant problem, and he would consistently accuse me...
    alexarosexo alexarosexo 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    The Man In The Mask - Part 3 of 8

    He handed me medicine, insisted I took it first thing. Soon he started to rub my shoulders to relax me.  He continued to listen to my travel stories and oooed and awed over all of my travel goodies and viewed some of my pictures. The whole time, I could feel his gaze upon me...
    eldorazita eldorazita 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Pregnant, Ashamed, Lost, Scared, Manipulated

    Seriously scared now more than I have ever been. Long story made kind of short, here I go. Need help figuring if I am with a sociopath. I met him three years ago. ( I was 17 and he was 29. Now I'm 20 and he's 31)He just had ended a relationship and this ex-girlfriend was...
    sarahp12 sarahp12 22-25 2 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    Unforgivable

     I was ready for a relationship. DW did all the right things from the very beginning. He wasn't like all the other guys who just wanted to "chill", he wined and dined me and courted me all summer, exactly like what I was looking for. And then the lying started. The first lie was...
    redpill2013 redpill2013 26-30 4 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    Lecherous Truth Of It

    Did you know what you were doing when you walked into my life? You once told me that you were a monster - perhaps the only time you didn't lie. They say when the hair stands up on the back of your neck you're supposed to listen. ---> I always was a rebel. Your mother was...
    maezombiie maezombiie 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Why Do I Even Care??!

    So I went peeping around on fb... why, right?!! Yes, he was a terrible person but it's hard to just simply forget someone who you've shared so much time with. So. I went looking and lo and behold he's very much in love with the new girlfriend. Mind you, the 2.5 years we were...
    redpill2013 redpill2013 26-30 5 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    The Sociopath I Loved

    I was at a real high time in my life, when my sociopath ex girlfriend found me. I was sitting at an airport bar in Panama, having just spent three months in the jungle for an Air Force mission. The last thing I had done before I left civilization was win an cagefight against an...
    Tjpep1986 Tjpep1986 26-30, M 4 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    George W. I met him June 9,

    2013, and I wish I hadn't. Each boyfriend I had previously in my adult life was some kind of control freak. At worst, I dated one guy, on and off, for a long time, in my early 20's, who damaged me a lot psychologically. All the boyfriends I had told me what to do, most...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 2 Responses Sep 4

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    I'M Pretty Sure I Dated A Socialpath.

    I dated someone that took care of all my needs and showed loved for me everyday. Except I when I behaved in a way he didn't like. When I did he put up a huge wall. Aside from that jealousy issues he would have with me. He was great. We never fought. Though he questioned me about...
    Barbara38 Barbara38 36-40, F 7 Responses May 4, 2013

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    Poison Facade

    I'm ill with pseudo-Polaroids nailed to the most decrepit caverns of my mind. perhaps a flesh wound can prove the death of monogamy for you. absent are the lies you spun...
    maezombiie maezombiie 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    I'M So Scared

    I know I have to leave, I know I would be better off, but it's so hard. He acts like nothing is wrong he calls me baby and tells me everything I want to hear. I just have to remember that actions are the measure of love not empty words. don't get poisoned by those words. the lies...
    learntoswim learntoswim 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    I dated a sociopath. At first I thought

    everything was perfect, he was my prince charming. He made me feel so happy. Then suddenly about a year into our relationship I found out he had been lying about a lot of stuff and it's like he turned into a completely different person. He didn't want anything to do with me...
    erindanielle94 erindanielle94 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 17

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    Many years ago, he was handsome

    and charming but also very manipulative and convincing with his lies and stories. They drag you in, use you, then spit you out with no thought for your feelings. Listen to your 'gut' feeling.
    whitewhiskey whitewhiskey 56-60, F 2 Responses Jan 15

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    I met my sociopath 2 years

    after divorcing my husband of 22 years for just coming on to a woman at work and I feel that the pain of the sociopath was worse. I met him on a dating website and I thought I was being cautious but he swept me off my feet! We had grew up in the same city and were amazed us that...
    Auntie3272 Auntie3272 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Caught In The Web

    So I just got out of a relationship with someone that I'm pretty sure is a sociopath. However, I'm still caught right in the middle of it. I am glad that I have at least been able to figure out where the problem is (he's out of his damn mind!) but I still can't seem to escape. I...
    renzikay renzikay 22-25 9 Responses Dec 11, 2011

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    Ode To The Perpetrator Of A Crime

    Im walking away because I deserve better than you. I deserve someone who actually gives a **** about me, someone who loves ME, not me and 3 other girls. You don’t know what love is and I almost feel sorry for you, I hope one day someone tears your heart out so maybe you might...
    maezombiie maezombiie 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    Was he a sociopath? Please Help!

    So at the end of November of this past year, I started talking to a guy that I had known from college. He had previously dated a girl that I had known and we kind of ran in the same circle. I always thought he seemed like such a great guy. Always charismatic and the center of...
    katienicole77 katienicole77 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE I feel

    helpless my ex is a sociopath and his a police man and threats to take our baby of me if I stand up for myself I'm any way. Eg child support or me saying no to anything he wants. He threatens his job over me knowing he can get his way with his connections at work. If he...
    adviceplease11111 adviceplease11111 26-30, F 1 Response May 31

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    I've Never Been So Betrayed

    This is going to be long, but I feel like I need to tell my story. When I first met Frank he was amazing. We started out as just friends. I was instantly attracted to him. He had this charm about him that just pulled people in. Whenever he talked, people would listen. When we...
    clmoore clmoore 18-21, F 9 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    She Robbed Me.

    I met a girl on eharmony and we hit it off pretty fast. We started dating and being intimate within days. She began telling me about being a recovering alchohalic and was even on a dui as we began dating. Her father left her and her sisters along time ago as they were little. He...
    rtfdemo42 rtfdemo42 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 29, 2009

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    Just Trying To Help

    Angry, confused, victimized....That's me, alright.  I met him at a homeless shelter while we both were in the process of getting back on our feet.  It was a weird place to meet someone, but he seemed like such an amazing guy and we hit it off instantly.  We were a...
    katybird707 katybird707 31-35 5 Responses Jun 27, 2010

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    At Least I Don'T Love Him Anymore

    He always made it seem like my fault. He was always right, and I was always wrong. He said he felt like he had to "teach me everything." I was never good enough for him. He criticized my body. He saw other women and hooked up with them. He criticized the field I wanted to go into...
    Woman1000 Woman1000 22-25, F 5 Responses May 23, 2013

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    It had never crossed my mind until I picked up this book called "The Sociopath Next Door." It talked a lot about how sociopaths lie, cheat, steal, etc. to get what they want...
    smokingweedwithparishilton smokingweedwithparishilton 18-21 2 Responses Sep 11

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    I think my friend and room mate is a Sociopath. I have known her at a distance for roughly 4 years, and we (my boyfriend included) have lived together for about 6 months. So lets...
    allyjayx allyjayx 18-21, F Sep 14

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    Well I might have a story a sociopath might like to hear. I am a high functioning schizo-affective who loves a sociopath. For those who don't know a schizo-affective has the...
    schizoguy schizoguy 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 14

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    I want advice. I don't know if I'm a sociopath or not. I seem to meet the criteria but I don't quite understand. I have been an extremely manipulative person ever since my first...
    JoeVan JoeVan 16-17, M 4 Responses Sep 4