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I Detest the Gender Binary

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    Amazing That It Is Accepted At All

    when the notion of the gender binary has not a shred of medical evidence to back it up. Simply, accepted wishful thinking. ...well, wished for by some. Perhaps some day we can just all be who we are, dress how we wish, express our true selves, and the rest of the world will be...
    GirlieSpirit GirlieSpirit 41-45, T 7 Responses Mar 17, 2011

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    Just Introducing Myself...

    I consider myself pansexual and polyamorous, [the actual orientation,] if any label.  I'm openminded to the possibility of varying degrees between 'straight' and 'gay' but, truthfully, I think that you just love whomever you love, and are attracted to whomever...
    MeMena MeMena 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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    See What My Little Brother Had to Say

    I just had to share this. I asked my 10 year old brother what he thought masculinity and femininity meant yesterday (yeah, I am of the opinion that you're never too young to think about things.) His answer: "I don't think they exist. They are just stereotypes...
    musicspirit musicspirit 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 28, 2009

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    Why I Hate The Gender Binary And The Culture That Promotes It (rewrite, Merge For Repurposing)

    I was born in Oregon  (around Hillsboro, a suburb of Portland) and eventually migrated  ALL over the country. eventually ending up right back where I Started. The place I lived the second longest was Orland Florida, because my father got a job for Disney... This was great in...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 9, 2012

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    Did A Youtube Video

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKj5-u8EpSM
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Mar 2, 2011

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    The Pain It Causes

    The gender binary causes so much pain and sorrow in this world.  People are crammed into those little boxes that keep one from expressing the true self.  Throughout my life, I have had to fit in one or the other.  Mostly the male box.  I have allowed the...
    Michellewhois Michellewhois 56-60 15 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    My Life (Updated With Deeper Regressions And More Details For 2013)

    When I was first born into this world we quickly found out i had A.D.H.D, but only when I was 13 did we find out more. I am hesitant to tell you what else because I'm afraid you'll judge me too quickly. I don't suffer my symptoms from A.D.H.D anymore, But I was hard to discipline...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Jun 20, 2013

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    I Now Know (for Sure?)

    I took the Cogiati Test, now I am not one to believe that tests can layout what a person is all about completely. But this one helped me get a better veiw of myself, a veiw that I was sure of,  this just confirmed it. So where does this lead me? not in a different direction...
    paddytram paddytram 56-60, M 2 Responses Jul 15, 2010

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    Newsflash To The Offended.

    http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/ATLAS_EN/html/the_social_roles_of_men_and_wo.html there’s a term that I Feel I might have allowed to be bandied about called “approppiation” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_appropriation when it comes to gender identity it...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Sep 19, 2012

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    Non Binary Me

      I Detest the gender Binary because I don’t fit Because saying I’m Male means excluding Most of me. Saying I’m Female means excluding Most of me.   I’m Me & I’m both Gender Identities that do fit are Intergender Androgyne...
    kinkly kinkly 31-35 3 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Defined

    Gender Binary- the common idea that there are only two groups that a person, action, or behavior can belong in: male or female   This promotes sticking people into boxes, stereotyping labels slapped over their eyes and mouths. Which contradicts all forms of realistic...
    realitychallenged realitychallenged 16-17, F 8 Responses Mar 29, 2008

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    Why Is It When I Seek Attention Is Totally Me Doing What I Do But When A Woman Does It?

    she's shamed back and forth for it.All a woman has is her bubbly exteiror. if it breaks down people judge her.if a guy breaks down he's seen as sexy, everyone wants to know what's going thru my head.I'm showered with affection. but her? she has to be a tower of strength.This is...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Jul 14, 2012

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    How Society Emasculates The Truth.

    I consider myself post gendered. Let me explain what I mean: I think that we should stop assigning roles to both genders. I Think we should let nature decide what’s masculine and what feminine, let god sorts it out. Not man. Physical gender is VERY binary. I maintain that...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 16, 2012

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    Jesse Boy..

    I detest the binary. i love and care for many transgendered persons and know a few genderqueer people. They're some of the strongest i've ever met, and i admire them so much. I've always been comfortable being female, well aside from descrimated but i never thought of changing...
    paws615 paws615 16-17 3 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    I don't have the same level of feelings

    that people have about the gender binary in here, but I do wish for a world where everyone doesn't have to be "male" or "female". While I am unsure of what "label" I fit under in terms of gender, I know that neither of these terms fit me. I want to add my gender to my profile...
    faeriefate faeriefate 18-21 Mar 15

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    Gender Blindness = Racial Blindness = Both Problems.

    gender blindness = racial blindness. So barack obama was elected so racism is over right? Right? Yeah. Same ******* thing on the gender blindness front.
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Sep 19, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    The worse prejudice is the one for wanting, doing or liking something associate with the opposite gender.
    InsanelySaneGuy InsanelySaneGuy 18-21, M Jul 3

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    *clears throat* hey guys, everyone out there curious about gender queer people I am here to help! My name is Marley, though naturally that's just the name that I chose for myself...
    Cryingsmile Cryingsmile 16-17, F 5 hrs ago

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    This is sort of getting out of hand. I can't control it any longer. It seems that my efforts to appear as normal and okay as can be are... failing. Never in my entire life have I...
    minecrafter4343 minecrafter4343 13-15, T 5 days ago

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    I've only just come out saying it without fear and confusion. I'm not coming out of the closet, I like men and women, I'm pansexual in that sense, I like the person regardless of...
    segreti segreti 22-25, F 9 hrs ago

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    Alright, this became a thing recently. Why does it matter if I am male or female. I believe in gender non-binary, a thing where I refuse to conform to the gender roles & stigma...
    RokerVazi RokerVazi 18-21 2 Responses Jul 6

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    I'm not what I seem to be ... But I'm authentic What am I ? Are we all prisoners to our binary ?
    aspiedavid aspiedavid 31-35, M Jun 23

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    Why do people do this? Have they literally got nothing better to do then pretend to be someone they aren't. Especially when they're super bad at pretending to be someone. They...
    WeWereNeverAlive WeWereNeverAlive 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am not sure if it was because of how I was raised, or because I am biologically born this way or a combination of the two, but I am a traditional girl who is most comfortable...
    abigailc abigailc 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    Gender is like a warzone for me. I'm A female attracted to females.. I don't always feel like a girl though. I got my hair cut short to feel more like myself recently. I just...
    lostwonderingsoul lostwonderingsoul 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    I'm new here. I'm sorta confused about my gender. Sometimes I can just be me but other times, my gender matters because the bathrooms and locker rooms are segregated and when I...
    thunderstruck14 thunderstruck14 18-21 2 Responses Jun 25

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    This might seem like it has no relevance to the subject, but its why i hesitate with decision concered with gender identification,,,, Right ive wrote several stories that are...
    pascal2012 pascal2012 18-21 5 Responses Jul 8

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    I think we Should feel as we want and dont let conservative and unwritten rules steer our lives. We are many on this earth anyway so we might aswell embrace the diffrences and...
    vickepicke vickepicke 16-17, M Jul 13

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    Mother and daughter closely bonding together,, the relationship I can only dream of, but can never witness,,, As summer approaches, I watch families and friends having fun together...
    pascal2012 pascal2012 18-21 2 Responses Jun 22

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    If anyone can relate to this, its never been easy to explain and has left counsellors blank with no clue what im talking about when ive tried,,bare with me>>>> The majority of my...
    pascal2012 pascal2012 18-21 2 Responses Jun 29

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    i completely support transgender people. i just feel it must be wierd for OTHER people to dispute over YOUR gender. when people think of transgender they think all technical and...
    nobumbump nobumbump 13-15, M 2 Responses Jun 29

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    When people ask your gender and you explain you're genderqueer and they still want you to pick male or female #thestruggleisreal
    kyleishellagay kyleishellagay 13-15 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I tried to tell my mom that I was genderqueer but she can't wrap her head around it. I keep explaining that there are more than two genders but she thinks that I'm pretending to be...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 1 Response Jul 9

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    i feel cis less and less each day and i can say ive felt this way for a long time but i never really figured out my gender. i think im starting to identify more as genderfluid. im...
    mataro mataro 13-15 Jul 11

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    None of this is a surprise to me. S.A.G.E. Test Results Your Raw Score is: 955, which indicates that overall you are Feminine Your appearance is Feminine Your brain processes...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T Jul 11

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    No real surprise here S.A.G.E. Test Results Your Raw Score is: 955, which indicates that overall you are Feminine Your appearance is Feminine Your brain processes are mostly...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 2 Responses Jul 11

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    Found this test interesting as I've always been more of a tomboy S.A.G.E. Test Results Your Raw Score is: 435, which indicates that overall you are Androgynous Your appearance...
    crochet4fun crochet4fun 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I'm am so very confused about my gender. I was born in a male body. Grew up male, but started to crossdress at a young age 5ish, I'm now married 21 years to kids, I love my wife...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 2 Responses Jul 13

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    I am straight. But often question gender roles. Why do many people think that you are gay if you have long hair as a man? Also in the summer, when it is 90 degrees, I often envy...
    Sake1008 Sake1008 13-15, M 4 days ago

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    I am by nature a very sexual being. I can be the most sensual and submissive female in bed but truthfully in my everyday life I am more masculine. I naturally attract men who are...
    bytemyascii bytemyascii 36-40 Jun 30

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    I'm quite confused about my gender. I was born female but some days I feel like being a girl and sone days I feel like being a boy (to the point of wearing wigs and talking in a...
    Areiaado Areiaado 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    I was born a female. Sometimes I feel like a girl, other times like a boy. But I mostly feel like a guy. I like to dress in clothes that hides my gender, I feel uncomfortable...
    faithandfree faithandfree 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Your Raw Score is: -330, which indicates that overall you are Androgynous Your appearance is Androgynous Your brain processes are mostly that of a Androgynous person. You appear to...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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    I'm so confused about my gender and have been for a long time. I started putting my mom's stuff around 4 or 5, I battle the desire to dress all the time . Then growing up I liked...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 1 Response Jul 11

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    Your brain gender is: 31% Male, 69% Female. I think this is remarkable. It is most likely close to being right. I have been told by my ex that I think and act more like a woman...
    dianecarr dianecarr 61-65, T Jul 11

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    It is assumed that girls don't eat a lot well I eat more than my dad at dinner most times and I can destroy a nice burger and steak. I curse like a sailor I am obsessed with...
    LoganAdele LoganAdele 13-15, F Jul 13

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    Hi all my ep friends, I have observed that there are so many wounded hearts in this world which scream to be heard. Stories of love which have failed to blossom for any reason...
    anuragch11 anuragch11 18-21, M Jul 14

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