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I Did Not Want This Divorce

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    Its Over, Now What? - After two years of trying to convince my wife of almost 30 years to reconsider, we are divorced. I pretty much gave up all our assets, to avoid a lengthy...
    happyharpy happyharpy 46-50 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    Why Did This Happen? - I was married for more than half my life. My husband started shutting me out, only talking during dinner than off to his computer. The more I tried to talk...
    mystified340 mystified340 51-55, F 4 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    Been A Long Time Ago - I remember the first morning it hit! Knock on the door, bondsman asked me my name, He handed me a paper that said, Application for Divorce! Of course the...
    thegunsmith thegunsmith 51-55, M 8 Responses Oct 4, 2010

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    I am here because of my failed marriage. It's not something I wanted, but it happened regardless. Sharing my story with others has helped me and continues to help me through some...
    vincentriver09 vincentriver09 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Heartbroken - My husband of 9 years came to me a few months ago and told me he loved me but was no longer in love with me. We have a three year old daughter who is absolutely the...
    lovelost12 lovelost12 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    And One Night He Just......Walked Out..... - The day I met my husband was the day I fell in love with him. We had a beautiful, exciting, outgoing relationship. We had moved in with...
    2muchsaddness 2muchsaddness 36-40 4 Responses Feb 1, 2013

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    Don't Know Where To Start - It is such a long story, needless to say, after 11 years, my husband phoned the police, lied to them saying that I was alcoholic and he couldn't...
    HurtinginSilence HurtinginSilence 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    I Don't Want This At All. - We've been married for 15 years, together for 18. We have a beautiful 16 year old daughter. Through the years we've had our ups and downs but these past...
    jennalove jennalove 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    I Did Not Want A Divorce, But Decided To Love Myself - I went through the same thing. My husband had an emotional affair with a younger coworker, and did and said the same things...
    Anotherstart14 Anotherstart14 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 22, 2013

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    My Husband Recently Infected With Gambling - My husband recently infected with gambling, also owed a lot of debt, a friend advised me to divorce, I had a child, I do not want a...
    lucyy01 lucyy01 26-30 Oct 15, 2012

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    15 Years of "I'm Sorry" - Alcoholism does interesting things to a relationship. Alcohol can be a truth serum. You can be so nice when you're sober, but so cruel when your...
    Derangedjdub Derangedjdub 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    9 Month Marriage - Okay, so, I know my story isn't half as bad as most of the stories on here, but here it is. I was only married for 9 months, and I always thought we were really...
    wantinganewchapter wantinganewchapter 22-25 4 Responses Nov 26, 2012

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    I Did Not Want This Divorce. - I was married 15 years. I had it all but was to blind to see it. I never had to worry about anything. Bills where taken care of, minus mine. I worked...
    cprincess3 cprincess3 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2013

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    What If - I meet my husband in 2000 .i spent almost every day with him .i fell in love ,and so did he .we married in 2003 .i lived my life around him what ever he wanted .we...
    Roochie22 Roochie22 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 24, 2012

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    My story is long, so this is part 1: The background My hubby and I have been friends since we were 10 years old. Both went to the same church. We did everything together, even...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    Distress call part 1 Zane, Zane, Zane Cynthia called out to Zane trying to wake him. And it work Zane woke up and first thing he saw was Cynthia sighing in relief. Cynthia...
    darkwolf19 darkwolf19 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    I am writing this experience because of the guilt, shame, and pain I feel about pushing someone away... If you can relate to this, please comment... I could use your support... I...
    Shoutittotheworld23 Shoutittotheworld23 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    So this situation i am in is terrible...let me start from the beginning. 3 years ago i met a man who was a sizable amount of years older than me i was 21 and he was in his early...
    kdiggpants kdiggpants 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    i did it, i opened my eyes and kicked dopey to the curb. one fateful day at work he pulled the most shadiest move possible. not only he ignored my texts but he also avoided seeing...
    Lilcrazyducky93 Lilcrazyducky93 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Tired of being in a dead relationship with my husband for the past 8 years ,I am all set to find love. I want to love n be loved.It was hard for me to make up my mind because I was...
    Theright1 Theright1 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    My friends and i were bored on a monday night, we decided to look for someone to kick it with. so we found some guys who wanted to hang out with us they picked us up they live like...
    Bubbly7 Bubbly7 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    Ive never met the man, never saw a picture of him. Dont know anyone from his family. All i know is his name. Ive tried looking him up but all these people finder sites are...
    Zoneout167 Zoneout167 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 5 hrs ago

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    "I want a divorce" are the words I spoke to my husband of 13 years......today. after 3.5 years of effort trying to save our marriage, i realised a time ago that i cannot fix it...
    Elena36 Elena36 36-40, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My ex and I have been off and on for the last 10 years. We are very different yet in so many ways the same. He is a veteran and I am Bipolar. I tell you this because it is not an...
    yanene yanene 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    This is a little harder then I thought.... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Well I finally got help with my depression that was contributed by my abusive cheating husband. I was alone, depressed, withdrawn, and suicidal. But as I got the time to hurt, I...
    2young4marriage 2young4marriage 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    This is the sort of situation I never thought I would get into. I thought I was too old and too smart to make the mistakes I'd seen my friends go through in their early twenties...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 27

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    It appears that the final court hearing for divorce and child custody are next week. I am overwhelmed and unprepared. I don't have an attorney and was not able to find one to...
    MissingBoston MissingBoston 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I would be celebrating my 25th wedding anniversary this June, but instead I hope to have my divorce final by then. My husbands affair put the nail in the coffin of our marriage...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    I am so sad and scared about the future for myself and my kids because I have come to the realization that I need to file for divorce from my husband of almost 14 yrs. I am...
    tornandhurt tornandhurt 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    My parents got divorced a few years ago and I want them to be happy, but it's not easy to watch my parents date other people. Recently my mom started seeing a man who had a 19 year...
    lesliemonster lesliemonster 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    I've never been one to put much stock into signs.. My sister in law tends to say things like, "Oh, we were just talking about that, and look! It must be a sign, you should do it...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    After 5 years of marriage my wife left me. We had a rough relationship from the get-go and still opted to get married. Once married my wife changed, sexually, emotionally and...
    robmartin23 robmartin23 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 22

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    98% of the time, my parents splitting is a good thing. But sometimes it's bad. My dad has a really bad temper and has harmed my brothers and my mom. I don't know why he hasn't...
    emily39 emily39 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    Why I had to get divorced I married my husband over 20 years ago. We have children, some in college, some at home. He is a military man, proud and honorable. He is also very...
    lizziegirl10 lizziegirl10 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 17

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    I was married for 19 years. In June I went to the bank and found out there was nothing in our checking or savings! I called my husband from the bank parking lot to find out what...
    RDDB RDDB 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    My name is liline I was married to an african man, his from west africa. He was the first man that I knew. We dated for two weeks. Then he asked to marry me. My family didn't...
    pluviose pluviose 18-21, F Mar 20

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    Thursday night went as expected, more or less. I got home, and she was asleep but woke up fairly soon. We talked a bit, I reiterated that I wasn't happy, that we haven't been happy...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My story is so unlike so many I see here. My husband isn't abusive, or even mean. He wants this to work. Or rather, for us to stay together.. the marriage has never really worked...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    PAIN! You want to talk about pain! I was not a perfect Mom but I did the best I could, I gave hugs and kisses every night, I helped with home work and planned birthday parties! I...
    itry itry 36-40 1 day ago

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    I have been with my partner 2.5 years. Our first year together was a good one, he lived in his home and I lived in mine. He seemed so different from all the guys I had dated before...
    painfultime painfultime 31-35 2 Responses Mar 26

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    No hate. I really want to get pregnant and be a mother. I feel like even though I am young, I am ready for the responsibility of being a parent. I have wanted a baby for a long...
    justanotherpixie justanotherpixie 16-17, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Just to my friends here... if I´m not writing to you as often or as gladly...
    SweetNancy SweetNancy 22-25, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Who expects to "divorce your kids?" We'll step children, but I've helped raise them!! They have cried with me, prayed with me, held my hand. I've cut up their food into bite...
    Lackluster40 Lackluster40 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    This was something I thought was a phase, but the more I grow older, the more I realize that I truly would find more peace without being in a marriage. I'm going to turn 23. Today...
    franny21 franny21 22-25, F a week ago

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    Hi all, thanks for reading i hope you can offer some words of wisdom to a girl who is stuck! I can't tell you where all the time has gone - but in 2007, now 7 years ago a boy I...
    sulkypuss101 sulkypuss101 31-35, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    My dad and my stepmom are getting divorced... Only she doesn't want it. And as we speak they are arguing. She is crying he is raising his voice. And... I would do homework...
    TubaAtheist TubaAtheist 18-21, F Mar 24

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    I knew I like the ladies at an early age. I hid it for 32 years. Through my catholic grade school years, public high school, and even through my college years. I wasn't questioned...
    TheCunylinguist TheCunylinguist 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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    Well it's been a year now since I started my new life alone and now the divorce process is starting. We have a legal separation in place and so I am hoping the divorce goes...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 1