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I Did Not Want This Divorce

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    Its Over, Now What?

    After two years of trying to convince my wife of almost 30 years to reconsider, we are divorced. I pretty much gave up all our assets, to avoid a lengthy court battle, and because crazy as it is, I still care. It was touch and go as she wanted alimony on top of everything else...
    happyharpy happyharpy 46-50 2 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    I Don't Want This At All.

    We've been married for 15 years, together for 18. We have a beautiful 16 year old daughter. Through the years we've had our ups and downs but these past two years have be great. My husband told me a few days ago that he is so unhappy and can't see us being together any more. I am...
    jennalove jennalove 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    Heartbroken

    My husband of 9 years came to me a few months ago and told me he loved me but was no longer in love with me. We have a three year old daughter who is absolutely the sunshine in my life. My husband did not want to go through counseling, did not want to work on the marriage, did...
    lovelost12 lovelost12 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    My Husband Recently Infected With Gambling

    My husband recently infected with gambling, also owed a lot of debt, a friend advised me to divorce, I had a child, I do not want a divorce, then how can I do it? www.newvoguehandbag.com
    lucyy01 lucyy01 26-30 Oct 15, 2012

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    Marriage protects men,

    women and children emotionally, physically and economically. It shouldn't be so easy to discard. Husbands need to realize that a divorce would not heal his years of built-up resentments nearly as effectively as working together with a wife who now was giving her all, with him...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    To be honest, I'm not sure

    if it will end In divorce. I know he cares. I know I broke is heart. I told him I had an affair because I love him dearly. I made a horrible and selfish choice. I own up to them completely. I'm hoping time, space, and prayer will change his heart towards me and he will give me...
    Youngandfree90 Youngandfree90 22-25, F Apr 27

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    Me and my husband got married in 2004 in

    Switzerland and in 2005 he said that he wants to move back to his country in Australia, so after not even of one year marriage I followed him with the intention to try it.. I felt a lot lonely without being able to see my family and the only person I could refer to was him...
    Mary1079 Mary1079 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Don't Know Where To Start

    It is such a long story, needless to say, after 11 years, my husband phoned the police, lied to them saying that I was alcoholic and he couldn't "control" me, so they removed me for a 12 hour "cooling off" period. When I returned the next day I was told "2 more day's". 2 day's...
    HurtinginSilence HurtinginSilence 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    Been A Long Time Ago

    I remember the first morning it hit! Knock on the door, bondsman asked me my name, He handed me a paper that said, Application for Divorce! Of course the world crashed in, my wife, my children, my home everything my life had been for 11 years was circling the drain. Of course it...
    thegunsmith thegunsmith 51-55, M 8 Responses Oct 4, 2010

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    One day my life will be back together again.

    Right now I'm in pieces and I'm completely decimated. How am I going to live after this is over? How are the kids and I going to survive after all this? There are so many unknowns for the future it's scary. And I'm afraid of this new life. I'm afraid of everything that will...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    I am here because of my failed marriage.

    It's not something I wanted, but it happened regardless. Sharing my story with others has helped me and continues to help me through some very dark times. If you are divorced, currently going through a divorce, dissolving a long term relationship or in a separation. Share your...
    vincentriver09 vincentriver09 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Why Did This Happen?

    I was married for more than half my life. My husband started shutting me out, only talking during dinner than off to his computer. The more I tried to talk to him and get him to tell me what was wrong the more he tuned me out. Finally one day he says if your so damn unhappy I...
    mystified340 mystified340 51-55, F 4 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    And One Night He Just......Walked Out.....

    The day I met my husband was the day I fell in love with him. We had a beautiful, exciting, outgoing relationship. We had moved in with each other after just a couple months. Had bought a house a year after that, started a successful business, and marriage followed 6 months...
    2muchsaddness 2muchsaddness 36-40 4 Responses Feb 1, 2013

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    What If

    I meet my husband in 2000 .i spent almost every day with him .i fell in love ,and so did he .we married in 2003 .i lived my life around him what ever he wanted .we divorced in 2012 .i know what I did wrong .i love him so much ,I made sure he was happy .i never spoke up when I...
    Roochie22 Roochie22 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 24, 2012

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    15 Years of "I'm Sorry"

    Alcoholism does interesting things to a relationship. Alcohol can be a truth serum. You can be so nice when you're sober, but so cruel when your drunk. If you really don't like me have the stones to say it to me sober. Don't be nice to me while your sober, and rude -hurtful...
    Derangedjdub Derangedjdub 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    I know things happen

    for a reason, but sometimes I wish I knew what that reason was.
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    In No Way Could Stop Her Lying & Cheating With Me!!

    Situation-1:At evening after picking her from womens parlour as usual husband requested for intimacy as its been over a month no contact!! Wife as usual given dubt that in the morning she has too much work load as she has to go Tongi for official tour & she quit!! Situation-2...
    sunjib sunjib 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 11, 2012

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    I Did Not Want This Divorce.

    I was married 15 years. I had it all but was to blind to see it. I never had to worry about anything. Bills where taken care of, minus mine. I worked for a hobby at the clinics. I had two beautiful boys at this time. My husband was gone a lot on weekends, I was always home with...
    cprincess3 cprincess3 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2013

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    9 Month Marriage

    Okay, so, I know my story isn't half as bad as most of the stories on here, but here it is. I was only married for 9 months, and I always thought we were really happy. One morning while I was at work he sent me a text, saying that he was leaving and he was filing for a divorce. I...
    wantinganewchapter wantinganewchapter 22-25 4 Responses Nov 26, 2012

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    There are so many unknowns with this divorce.

    What I do know is that I am falling apart slowing. Rejection from the person who said he loved me forever is tough. I fall asleep every night crying. I wake up so many times - I don't even know if one can call it sleep. I wake up wondering what's going to happen and if my...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    I Did Not Want A Divorce, But Decided To Love Myself

    I went through the same thing. My husband had an emotional affair with a younger coworker, and did and said the same things. He planned the affair to become a physical one after he left me and our 3 kids. Now, he lives a carefree life of no responsibilities. He sees our kids once...
    Anotherstart14 Anotherstart14 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 22, 2013

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    Prayer to Heal a Relationship "Almighty God,

    hear this prayer." Dear Lord, I offer you this prayer, to help me with my current relationship situation. Please take away all the pain and hurt in my heart. Fill it with love, joy, patience, and understanding. Bless me and my partner, so that we may never surrender to...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F Jun 30

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    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 23

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