I Didnt Have Much of a Father Figure

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    A Swiss Cheese Heart

    For myself it is much more than a lack of a father figure... It is a hole I have been trying to fill my whole life. He never went out of his way to call me. It was my responsibility to call him, but I wanted to be important enough to him for him to call me. I never was. He was...
    TheSilentObsession TheSilentObsession
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 16, 2013

    My dad abused my mom

    and left me when I was 5. Later on, my dad tried to take me back when he got remarried when I was 11 even though my mom had legal custody on me.
    theultimatesashacourtney theultimatesashacourtney
    16-17, F
    Dec 30, 2014

    I need a new dad. Seriously.

    I need a second chance to be a kid and be taught how to live. I crave the discipline I've never had. I never thought I'd be one of those girls with "daddy issues," but I wish I had a powerful man in my life to protect me, direct me, and care for me. I may or may not be...
    adianoeta adianoeta
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Jan 25, 2015

    Not His Fault...

    I didn't have someone to really look up to most of when i was growing up. My father died when i was fairly young and i was left just with my mother.  All of his brothers wanted nothing to do with me after he died. I think my grandfather still cared a little bit but he was...
    Tacit Tacit
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Sep 23, 2008

    But He Is Still My Daddy...

    My mom and dad got divorced when I was 15 months old... we then moved to California shortly afterwards and my mother remarried... up until I was 5 I thought my first step-dad (who I call daddy chucky b/c he was my daddy as well) was my real father... when I moved back to Hawaii...
    phidget phidget
    31-35, F
    Jun 23, 2008

    Not Have a Father Figure

    Thinking about my father hurts. I cry when i think about him. I'm still a kid 14 yr old. I knew my father and it wasn't to exciting. The things he did disappointed our family. i loved him you can say but i cant explain the love i had. this may sound confusing but i do miss him...
    aznkid924 aznkid924
    13-15
    Apr 12, 2009

    Why Dad, Why...?

    This is going to be a hard one for me..I didn`t trully realised how much of an impact had the both the presence and absence of my father..why absence? Because he doesn`t really..care..there, I said it. I was forced to choose between two bad characters, mom and dad. One, the...
    gia99 gia99
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Oct 28, 2010

    My father was ill with chronic lung conditions

    all his life. He seemed old from when I was a child, breathless and coughing and spitting into the kithen sink. He could not play with me, or walk with me, he never visited my school. He had to use an inhaler to get from his chair by the TV to the car on the drive. He watched TV...
    dispossessed dispossessed
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jul 13, 2014

    I Don't Blame Him

     My parents split when I was 5... my father was non existent for 7 years after that.  I saw him once a year after that until I was 19.   Living with my mother until I was 19 years old .... by age 13 I began to understand why my father did not stick around ... my...
    RighteousGirl RighteousGirl
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 3, 2009

    I Am In Tears As I Post This

    I have a forum entitled, "I am not close with my father." You are welcome to check it out and join it if you want.
    MySweetLord MySweetLord
    36-40, F
    Oct 2, 2009

    my father used to abuse me

    as I was younger slaps turned into fists. it was the way he was raised. when I got old enough I did what he did to his father and fought him ... once I won he never bothered me again. my kids have never been touched. I was in my teens as this happend and he died in his 40s I...
    kerac kerac
    51-55, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2014

    None Here....

    I didn't have a father figure growing up and I believe it has affected me in a way. I've never been comfortable around guys. I have a hard time striking up conversations with them. It takes me longer to feel comfortable around them, even though I know they won't cause me problems...
    DietIcedTea DietIcedTea
    36-40, F
    Jul 2, 2009

    Nope

    i didn't have much of a father figure in my life . i saw my father i could count on one hand when i was younger  . then my parents  spilt and i didn't really know what he looked like . so we moved upnorth and i eventually had to live with him . he didn't care really...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 20, 2009

    If I had a father figure in my life I do believe

    that half the decisions I've made in my life would have never been made .
    goingplaces1 goingplaces1
    22-25, M
    Mar 16, 2014

    You know, the rule book in life never says we

    can't find our own happy endings. I didn't have a daddy growing up, I had a monster. We were taught to believe we were nothing and disappointments. I don't believe it has to stay that way. Anyone wanna daughter? Blunt? Probably. Possible? Absolutely. I am 25, married, a great...
    Ellie2015 Ellie2015
    26-30, F
    Jun 30, 2015

    I Have A Dad But I Hate Him

    Is a bad man is a lot of times he beat my mother and my brothers and me ... Thank God is not alive with us today .. what is certain to have children I will behave much better
    tbhnrueth tbhnrueth
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 20, 2012

    Be A Man...

    I don't talk alot about my father, and for good reason. He's ta miserable, drunken abuser who only cares for himself. When I was growing up, the word "dad" meant fear and loathing. He was not someone you loved, respected or learned from. He was someone you hated and feared...
    Valdaine Valdaine
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Oct 3, 2013

    Not Really..

    From an early age on I realized that my mum is not happy in her marriage and that my dad didn't turn out to be the way she hoped he is. I often saw her crying, because once more he disappointed her. So somehow I decided to compensate that by being everything she wants myself. Of...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2008

    Need a person to talk to,

    in feeling down about so many things /:
    goingplaces1 goingplaces1
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 24, 2014

    He Was An ***!

    Haha... yep, my birth-father was a royal *******. He had left my mother alone with me and sister, when we were babies. He ran off to California to live, sleep with women, and do drugs. So, for most of my young life, I didn't even know I had a father. :-/ It was just me, my...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 20, 2009

    Nah...

    the ididot cheated on mama..she moved when i was in the 4th grd to a apt...he went his ways and we went ours. i mean when **** needed fixin i would beg n cry n he'd come over..but..over all..he wasn't ****. just somethin in the way to provide for OTHERZ. low life loser.
    lostprophet lostprophet
    22-25, F
    May 14, 2009

    The funny thing is he was what I'm sure a lot

    of people in this category dreamed of having as a father. Hard working, strict but kind hearted, and as I'm trying to list a third one, I'm at a loss. I guess he was a boxer? That list in its self proves my point. I barely know my father, true, I love him with all of my heart...
    Jonathan98 Jonathan98
    18-21, M
    Dec 30, 2014

    my dad walked out on me

    when i was 2 i was raised by my mom but last year she got married now i have a step dad
    Taylor031397 Taylor031397
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

    More Of A Responsibility Than A Father...

    At five years old, I had the best Daddy in the world. I was so happy. He used to sing me to sleep, run me around the house making airplane noises, watch movies with me and make me home-made pop corn (the kind where you put a little oil in a big pot and half a cup if corn-curnels...
    absolutionist absolutionist
    22-25, F
    Oct 29, 2010

    My early years my Dad took care of me

    until he met his second wife, who really only married him for money, 10 years of abuse by her, and her brothers, and 2 girls later, he finally divorced her, but now he focuses now mainly my little sisters and chatting online with random dating site women. Since puberty, I tried...
    collegestudent83 collegestudent83
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2014

    I Needed You D*** It!!

    My dad was in my life although he lived in another state and he supported us financially but he was not around for all of the crucial times in my life to tell me the dos and donts he wast around to govern the boys I talked to or how I was doing in school and the choices that I...
    Braveheart4real Braveheart4real
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jun 7, 2008

    my dad was always drunk,

    never worked for the family, not even supported us.
    kArmen0314 kArmen0314
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2014

    my parents separated

    as i entered adolescence. before that my time spent with my dad became much less since he had to work in the city and stay there. until i became used to not having him around until now. i had older male relatives like uncles and cousins. but they lived far away from us too. no...
    elysium9527 elysium9527
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 31, 2015
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