I Disagree With Using "Retarded" As a Synonym For "Stupid"

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    Gosh this has been hard

    for me to do. I actually grew up using retarded as a synonym for stupid. Adults I knew did it too. But I'm trying to stop now because I wouldn't want to offend anyone who was mentally challenged. They can't help their situation and are probably trying to make the best of it...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 8, 2015

    It's Offensive

    I try never to use that phrase because I just feel that people who can't help the way they were born shouldn't be called stupid or made fun of. It's as wrong as someone making fun of someone because they were born with dark hair. It's just senseless.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 6, 2010

    So Sick Of It

    I am parent of a child with special needs, who is developmentally challenged.  I've supported individuals with special needs for over 20 years, and disgusted by the use of the word "retarded" in any way as it applies to people.  Those who used to be labelled "idiot...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl
    41-45, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2010

    100 Percent

    I've been called retarded on numerous occasions just because I am different and don't come across the same as others do, although I actually have no mental retardation at all. But some people actually do have mental retardation and it's not fair to use that word to mean stupid...
    ItchyWitch82 ItchyWitch82
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2011

    Words Hurt

    I've been working with mentally challenged adults for a year and a half now. I don't like the words Retard or retarded in relation to human beings. It's an old-fashioned word and idea that should die. Identifying the word with truly stupid people is immoral in my view...
    IanMatthew IanMatthew
    56-60, M
    12 Responses Nov 26, 2011

    They Are Two Different Things But ...

    i admit of often use the word retarted or spastic out of anger... some people are retarted in the way they do things or think but some people have a illness that makes then genuinely physically handicapped like cerabal palsy or other types of illness ... I hate the way some...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    Mar 16, 2011

    I Dont Like To Use Retarded As A Synonym For Stupid

    I think being a retarded person is not because of your wish, i think people just born like that, and use retarded as a synonym for stupid is stupid! .Because a stupid person is a stupid person because doesn't WANT to accept or understand something, and a retarded person Cannot...
    mike7864 mike7864
    56-60
    1 Response Aug 9, 2011

    That Is One Of My Biggest Pet Peeves!

    another one I don't like is when people use gay as a synonym for stupid. I wish people would think before they spoke when things like that are said, it takes so much for me to bite my tongue and not ask if their parents ever taught them any manners or how to respect others at...
    wack1985 wack1985
    31-35, F
    Feb 23, 2010

    Unless I am describing my best friend.

    .. then "retarded" is the synonym I'd use. After all we are two peas of the same pod :D
    Shayala Shayala
    18-21, F
    Jul 8, 2015

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