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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 18-21, F Mar 19, 2014

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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