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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 18-21, F Mar 19, 2014

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    He Said He Would Tell Everyone

    Growing up I lived by a foster home of boys. I often times became friends with them. There was this one boy there we'll call him...Eric. He was really nice. He seemed to be well mannered, caring, and understanding. He told me about his past and the things he has done that he...
    shellzz shellzz 18-21, F 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Now I need to push this off my chest. It's been almost 3 years or let's say , 2 years and something now. I had broken up with my ex after her ideals turned me off , just to name a...
    stephenrko stephenrko 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 9

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    If I'm being told to calm down, I'm probably very upset. And that will only make me more upset.
    1forHIM 1forHIM 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    its been this way all of my life. family get togethers I am the one who had to help cook, sit at the kids table in the kitchen while the other adults sat in the dining room, did...
    serendipitousone serendipitousone 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    I absolutely dislike being sick!! But I haven't been sick in over a year now. I've finally managed to boost my immune system and now, it's easier for me to keep viruses away. :D...
    ShakenButNotBroken ShakenButNotBroken 18-21, F Jan 1

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    Reading through this website helped me so much with my recent situation, that I felt the need to contribute somehow and hope it helps others in return. A little background about...
    guywithnoname guywithnoname 26-30, M 5 hrs ago

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    That girl. She was tired of being treated like ****, getting put last. She was tired of the mental, emotional and physical abuse, she tried to get away physically but he would let...
    deadgirlsfairytale deadgirlsfairytale 26-30, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I find myself less and less interested in forming intimate or long term relationships with people because I dislike confrontation of any level, unreliability, and clinginess.
    Rihe Rihe 18-21, F Jan 19

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    Kids make me anxious, mainly because I have anxiety, mixed with deep depression. I have had this since I was in my mid teens. I never had a good friend and only one at a time who...
    psychologicallydamaged psychologicallydamaged 41-45, F Jan 19

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    A few months ago, I completely cut off my ex. We had a long and complicated history that involved a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. On his part, a lot of it was underhanded and...
    MDubs MDubs 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    I had just turned 20 and I had been living with my first love for a year and a half, a handsome, charming man who abused me physically and emotionally. One day when he'd been...
    Brainyblonde Brainyblonde 66-70, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I have a best friend that has been with me for 10 years. However, no matter how much I put in effort and hard work to maintain this friendship, she will never be satisfied and...
    Dlyz Dlyz 16-17, F Jan 1

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    There are not many things I dislike more than being late. I pride myself on being punctual, and never having a single tardy in my entire school career. I always have to be early...
    DrKittyNinjaBunny DrKittyNinjaBunny 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    So I went out today. My stepfather was in his usual mood going out (well a lot of the time he is like this). I thought it was odd that mum was being ok to me. It didn't dawn on me...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    The potential is there for me to like you, as a person. The potential is also there to really like you. This is a double edged sword: the potential is there to dislike you. The...
    MsInvis MsInvis 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I never get it when people say they want to bang their head against a wall but right now, I just want to bang my head against a wall and scream some really insensitive...
    ShakenButNotBroken ShakenButNotBroken 18-21, F Jan 6

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    It's not in any way the same as being alone. Being alone is just being isolated. Being lonely is wanting someone near, but you still have no one. I'm tired of feeling alone and...
    SnowyBirdie SnowyBirdie 13-15, M 7 hrs ago

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    before I was born my mom had six kids and while she was pregnant with me she caught a 7 year prison sentence so when I was born I went along with my 5 sisters ( my eldest brothers...
    americanhorrorstorylover americanhorrorstorylover 16-17, F Dec 29, 2014

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    I am the second of five sisters. We are all adults with husbands and children. Our parents, now in their seventies, are still working, blue collar, paycheck-to-paycheck kind of...
    BobbieB106 BobbieB106 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    m moving out when I turn 18, and I'm absolutely terrified. I'm... feeling really small right now, so I guess that's why I'm writing this. My story is long, but relevant. I was...
    theydunnomyname theydunnomyname 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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    We all come across them. They exist in every social grouping. Across every age range. But yeah! I dislike them!!!
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    I dislike when people talk to me like I'm dumb. Why can't people think before they speak? Why do people feel the need to know everything? I don't care if you know everything, just...
    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    5 Things I like: 1) Spending time with friends and family 2) Honest People 3) Comedy 4) Cooking 5) True Crime Shows 5 Things I dislike: 1) Manipulators 2) Bigotry 3) Abuse of...
    JackMann JackMann 18-21, M Jan 18

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    I dislike 3/4 of my neighbors.
    lobbs921 lobbs921 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I miss the way being with a guy makes me feel. I miss feeling important and cared about. I miss the feeling of femininity that comes with it. Usually I don't feel very feminine...
    brimc7 brimc7 16-17, F 2 hrs ago

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    The Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessings be upon him) said:"On the Day of Resurrection I will intercede and say, 'O my Lord! Admit into Paradise (even) those who have faith equal...
    PosterGirl PosterGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I'd like to say that I am a nice person. I don't like mean people because they bring you down and they only act mean to seem cool. Being mean is not cool.
    TimidGrl01 TimidGrl01 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    I am so tired of having to deal with all the backstabbing and lying my sons father throws at me. I'm just exhausted from being so emotional. We have been through a lot together...
    britlx3 britlx3 18-21, F Jan 4

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    They have so many rules and regulations and the people who have got their loved ones admitted there are expected to blindly follow them.No bending of rules allowed.I went today...
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    She holds these damn grudges. She's been hurt lots of times by people, so why is she telling those experiences to me? She tells me things that happened years ago. I don't want to...
    nondiscrim nondiscrim 18-21, F Jan 7

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