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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 18-21, F Mar 19, 2014

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    Yep I do... Even when others mean well and care deeply. Unless you've walked in another's shoes... Truly walked in their shoes!... You can't know what it's really like for them...
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    uuftk uuftk 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 13

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    JupiterCity JupiterCity 36-40, M 1 hr ago

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    Sometimes I really feel as if I'm better off being alone....not relationship wise. Me being in college these past 3 years showed me who and how I was. I didn't really realize it...
    vadupree vadupree 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    I think that my dad is emotionally abusive. You know that little voice that tells you something isn't right? That you aren't being treated right? I hear it, but it's hard to really...
    dartfrogged dartfrogged 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    Deadinsideguy Deadinsideguy 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Well I've always been rejected and treated badly by my ex boyfriends and bad friends. I've steeled my heart so I'm used to those emotions but I try not to get used and bullied...
    Myalee Myalee 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    Not many, but some. I even have some tendencies.. But.. Those who are so dry. Dry like an raisin. Up tight, snobbish. Never any laughter, especially not about themselves. Those...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 3

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    And it's even better than being with other people most of the time. Sometimes I wish I could be somewhere where people wouldn't know me at all. I could do what I want and not care...
    woodenstrings woodenstrings 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    I find it quite peaceful...not deal with others around me in my world, one in particular..I am with my self when am alone, fling of self and my mind relaxes for those moments...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F Mar 18

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    The most destructive emotional abuse is the emotional abuse we learned to inflict upon ourselves. We formed our core relationship with self in early childhood and have been...
    sweetartventure sweetartventure 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    Things I like: 1-climbing into a bed with fresh, clean sheets. 2- a long, long hot shower. 3- falling asleep with the windows open when there's a thunderstorm in the distance. 4- a...
    Oso41412 Oso41412 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    The hardest part about being married to a narcissist/sociopath is their lack of empathy and shallow emotions. The hardest part about leaving the narcissist/sociopath is their lack...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 25 Responses Mar 19

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    I'm a pretty odd person. I'm not exactly your average teen. Most people I know dislike me for that. Oh well. I've learned that this is who I am and as long as I can accept me for...
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    This in a sense is pure vanity too. I say this because of "selfies." I had a dislike for selfies in the past only because my appearance is better suited for fright rather than art...
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