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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 18-21, F Mar 19, 2014

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    My story isn't quite like everyone else.. we live about 300 miles away so we only get the "princess" during the summer but that is a few months of my house being taken over and...
    EvilStepMom33 EvilStepMom33 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    i love being ticklied message me how you tickle me and message me if you wanna tickle rp
    redkittyticklee redkittyticklee 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Every night before I go to bed I act like I'm being forced into a sex change that I choose it to stop... I like doing that for some reason and I wish I was a female. I love doing...
    Crossdress4life Crossdress4life 18-21, M 11 hrs ago

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    Honestly everyone here disgusts me stop being ******* whiny and fight back. Wtf is wrong with you no two races look the same all because you seen some poll on how black woman don't...
    Dickbutt123 Dickbutt123 13-15, F 13 hrs ago

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    I hate it when I send someone a message and they read it and don't even try to get back to me, or just being ignored in general.
    Born2Inspire Born2Inspire 18-21, M 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I would really appreciate it if you don't grab me or try to convince me to calm down when I'm clearly upset it will only escalate the situation.
    shericka1992 shericka1992 22-25, F 16 hrs ago

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    I use to self-inflict pain upon myself physically but at some point I found emotional pain more painful. Emotional self-infliction is something more controllable than physical; no...
    BriarRose96 BriarRose96 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Hi I would like to vent a bit.I was going to put my spouse doesn't support me.But because of him being bipolar and stress from work I can understand his bipolar disorder.But I have...
    Fruitypunch15 Fruitypunch15 31-35 1 day ago

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    I'm tired of not being able to control the things happening in my own life. Why is it I'm allowed to ride passenger seat in the buggy and be pulled along every which way people...
    SereneWarrioress SereneWarrioress 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have emotionally cheated on my lover. I was talking to a ex. I was confronted and I lied. Repeatedly. It wasn't until I knew I had hurt them did I change my ways. But change I...
    Killingcasper Killingcasper 31-35, M 1 day ago

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    So i'm rude every once in a while; I don't regret being blunt at times. I admit i'm not innocent at all and i'm completely okay with that. I'm intelligent and I sometimes come off...
    ImmortalMagiKarp ImmortalMagiKarp 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    I also found out the love of my life was texting his ex girlfriend daily. While reprimanding for even mentioning mine. He claims he had never heard of emotionally cheating before...
    aquarius2383 aquarius2383 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I been in an Abusive relationship not physically but mentally. As a guy with dyslexia, ADD, and being in special ed from my ex she would put me down. To point I believed but once I...
    LoyaltynTrust93 LoyaltynTrust93 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    I love this experience. This is also why I LOVE being crushed on or liked in general. Because I know that I'm being myself and not fake at all... And these people like the real me...
    akaShaun akaShaun 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    I've seen it all here. People being catfished, scammed, lied to and misled, I've seen men pretending to be girls, I've seen pedos, I've seen fire and I've seen rain, and sunny days...
    SpiritsInTheMaterialWorld SpiritsInTheMaterialWorld 41-45, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    MEMBERS OF THIS GROUP BEWARE! June 27, 2015 The many members of this group, ("I Am Being gang Stalked") who truly ARE being gang stalked should beware of the fakes and paid...
    goodogstay goodogstay 46-50, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hate is a strong word, thus I will use "Dislike". Sometimes, I feel like I'm a maid to him. He's a fat, lazy ******* who always thinks that he's better than me. He laughs at...
    blapppp blapppp 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Emotionally leads to physically. So. Shower and curfew. Special curfew. Called no ep to sleep sanely. Lol.
    Converted Converted 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    This is quite a mouthful, I'm sorry. I just need to write it out. When I was around 7, my family made the move from California to Washington State. Now, around 10 years later, I've...
    buffybellissimo buffybellissimo 16-17 6 days ago

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    I guess this is more for venting but I just feel like I'm always un-happy. I don't want to commit suicide (for religious purposes) but I'm just tired of living. I can be in a...
    sophie257 sophie257 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Why do you feel this way? I have a personal set of reasons (homosexuality is hard in a hereronormative world, it's hard 'finding' potential partners,' people treat you like a weird...
    lolitabrat lolitabrat 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I feel like a piece of trash. used and thrown. nobody just nobody cares about me. my boyfriend have another gf. my guy friends just want to **** me. my gf think I'm a just being...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response a week ago

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    I still am in an emotionally and mentally abusive situation, not so much physical anymore though. I take full responsibility for all that has happened and for allowing myself to be...
    DoveinMourning DoveinMourning 36-40, F a week ago

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    My 16 year old sister has suddenly felt like she needs to lie to me constantly. I just do not understand. She has never lied to me before. I'm not saying I dislike her, but simply...
    TrapQueen19 TrapQueen19 18-21, F Jun 23

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    My biggest weakness is probably not allowing myself to be vulnerable around people that genuinely care about me. I can cry in public surrounded by strangers or by myself, but if I...
    SapphicMinion SapphicMinion 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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