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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 16-17, F Mar 19

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    He Said He Would Tell Everyone

    Growing up I lived by a foster home of boys. I often times became friends with them. There was this one boy there we'll call him...Eric. He was really nice. He seemed to be well mannered, caring, and understanding. He told me about his past and the things he has done that he...
    shellzz shellzz 18-21, F 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 3, 2012

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    yup... that is what I am... bored... and I dislike it a lot... I wish I was able to have a nice selection of people to spend some time with... bummer!
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F Sep 13

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    Calm down. Dont cuss. Let evil win. Dont show pain at evil winning. Dont show evil hurts. Be quiet. Let evil die slowly. And let it hurt millions by being...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 25

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    and its happening right now. Could have said something. Than making one feel stupid waiting and waiting and waiting. Aaarrrgghhh!!!
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    By employees of the club i joined. They use double standards. And me found they are posers. Given discretionary power. That they abuse. To chase me away. For...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Sep 6

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    I lose interest in people fast, friendships are pointless especially when they realize they can't get any freebies off you. As I get older, I'm starting to become like my great...
    LadyOutspoken LadyOutspoken 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    sticks and stones may break my bones but your words they surely kill. saying dirty things and being rude doesnt make you man or anything it is just proof that tell how full of...
    lulutaa lulutaa 22-25, F 9 hrs ago

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    I have also been in a very abusive relationship. I am still recovering as the marriage ended only recently. Now, this will shock you all but I met the perpatrator here on EP!!! I...
    kitty42812 kitty42812 36-40, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I admit I'm a jealous hater. I rather be with someone who's happy but I can't relate to them and I don't like faking how I feel. Depressing people are annoying but happy people are...
    WhatTheFrenchToast WhatTheFrenchToast 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 8

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    Every gathering I'm at without fail, I'm always the one that gets the disapproving looks (if you want to get an insight into who I am, read my experiences) however I digress. I...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 15

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    This Friday makes 2 years since my boyfriend & I been together ,within the time of being together his family have not been nice to me . I was once pregnant by my boyfriend & I lost...
    CubanSky CubanSky 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I like people who are honest and straightforward. I like people who stand up for what they believe in. I like people who can distinguish reality from perception. I like friends you...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 31

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    If you finish reading this and provide advice, suggestions, or insight - I will think the world of you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. So this is complicated and I'm not...
    CloseItForSure CloseItForSure 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 2

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    It's not really the dogs I dislike but the people-dog combination. I think I figured it out today. People that have dogs basically have children. I don't want to date someone who...
    colorstone colorstone 31-35, M Sep 4

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    I really dislike people who are sooo negative. Im battling through somethings and i start everyday as if its a new day, i put on a smile and keep doing good things, but then you...
    staystrongsu staystrongsu 18-21, F Aug 28

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    I don't dislike alcohol and drugs because my parents told me to. I actually don't mind people drinking a little every now and then, there's nothing wrong with that I'm sure when I...
    NameIsMailbox NameIsMailbox 13-15, M Aug 26

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    I like 1. Talking to kids and asking for their opinions - I have learnt so much! 2. Feeling sunshine on my back. 3. Blue skies. 4. Starry skies. 5. People being nice to each other...
    InfiniteSunshine InfiniteSunshine 26-30, F Aug 29

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    My therapist calls it a survival tool from my childhood. I feel everything but don't let it rise to the surface of conscious thought. I become a creature of intellect and logic...
    ausofbounds ausofbounds 41-45, M Sep 2

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    It seems that 90%+ of the world (if EP's anything to go by!) is suffering from some condition that has to be specifically named and render people 'labelled'. I know people are bi...
    Moonpenny Moonpenny 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    Before I start this, I want to say that I know that this shouldn’t upset me as much as it does. The problem is my boyfriends’ brothers’ girlfriend (my boyfriend and his...
    faithtrustandpixiedust faithtrustandpixiedust 22-25, F Aug 27

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    People whom I'm jealous of that pompous guy, vengeful old man and also spammers thank you for all the hatred, the condescending tone of lectures. Thank you, I love it that I can't...
    GrumpyMe GrumpyMe 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 4

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    Some-days, I feel that I am the loneliest person in the world. Now, that “in the world” feeling may be a bit of hyper-collegiate over-dramatisme, of latent-teenage psychopathy...
    Newydd Newydd 18-21 Sep 11

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    Fear of Abandonment!One of my biggest fears is being abandoned by people around me especially in my time of need!I dislike people leaving me especially when they mean so much to me...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was lied to every day for four years. He lied about being married to another woman and it's only this last week he has come clean about it. I feel used and also like I've been...
    Mimimanxcat Mimimanxcat 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 24

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    Why? I think it's weird that you start a group expressing dislike for someone you don't know, who never did anything to you.
    chumiloons chumiloons 41-45, F Aug 30

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    I like being teased. S*xually and emotionally. Like I think it's cute when a guy teases me and acts a little cocky. But I love being teased s*xually. I love the thought of a guy or...
    biebbrauhll biebbrauhll 13-15, F 6 Responses Sep 1

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    Pitbulls are not vicious dogs, they are just like any other animal. Any dog, or animal, big or small can be vicious for that matter. All dogs have a certain way they like, and...
    Blackstallion76 Blackstallion76 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 8

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    I like: Documentaries. Dogs. Pizza. Funny people. Art. I dislike: Mayonnaise. Flying insects. ******** of society. Hot weather. Huge crowds of people.
    WhatTheFrenchToast WhatTheFrenchToast 18-21, M Sep 8

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    Hate is a big word I just dislike bullies...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    I do and I think that's perfectly okay because the disorders can sometimes be largely responsible for forming who the person is. What's wrong with just disliking certain...
    Cetacean Cetacean 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 15

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    i am new to this page but cannot find the interpretation to this dream i had this past week. most of the beginning is now blurry but i do remember being up in a spaceship like...
    cee84 cee84 26-30, F a week ago

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    Bringing to you, things I dislike volume 2. Here we go 1 hot chocolate. yeah I know I'm weird 2 pimples. Though they have lessened over time :D 3 people who fire me with...
    sheisthesongthatnooneshallsing sheisthesongthatnooneshallsing 18-21 3 days ago

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