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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 482 People

    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 18-21, F Mar 19, 2014

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    Blackmail is the worst im

    so scared and i dont wana tell anyone incase thay tell the police witch i carnt di
    lavinder128 lavinder128 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Dumbing down? How about smarten up? I'm getting really tired of being made to feel badly because I'm not illiterate. Yes, I'm smart. Reach higher. Achieve more. Do better...
    SubSided SubSided 46-50, F 23 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    yes. But only if your not someone I dislike.
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    "I need this." "I need that." "Can you so this for me?" "Now don't complain, we're all tired." "You're just a being lazy," and it goes on. I constantly sacrifice myself emotionally...
    lilabyjay1978 lilabyjay1978 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    I'm very reluctant to talk to those people who seem as they have a cucumber in their hole ***. Not for being nice to others you are going to be less honest.
    mmorgam mmorgam 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    When i was 13...i don't know if anyone will read this i just feel i need to get this in writing because i have told only my therapist and my dad. My therapist didn't help much, and...
    Sawke Sawke 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Firstly, I have always known somehow I had a gift to sense the emotions of other people as if they were my own. I can also sense any feeling when someone really *wants* something...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    To my brother After everything I have been put through, I get messages from my brother or some idiot acting like him. I sent the audios that I have posted. Apparently he thinks...
    letters2mymother letters2mymother 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    My husband and I have been together for approximately 11 years, married for 4, and I am tired of absolutely FEARING getting together with my in-laws. They are such a judgmental...
    disarmlily1979 disarmlily1979 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    By my ex and I'm still learning to pick women out. It's sad cause I'm almost middle aged and haven't found my true love yet. I'll keep being patient.
    Encontrados Encontrados 41-45, M 4 days ago

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    yah! I dislike it sooo much, that after I have my surgery, I won't have a period no more! awesome! bragging rights! cuz I totally dislike having my period!
    craigslist504 craigslist504 36-40 5 days ago

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    My dad controls my life, and he enjoys it. He belittles me, insults me, makes me feel insecure about myself. He gets angry over small things and I feel like i'm always walking on...
    Mayurichi Mayurichi 13-15, T 5 days ago

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    I hate it when people are around someone they aren't familiar with and they are mean or try to be dominate instead of just being receptive to a new experience
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am totally not a winter person. I don't like sitting in the house . I like being outside working... My job also requires me being outside fifty percent of the time so It is no...
    luvin2flirt luvin2flirt 56-60, M 6 days ago

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    u don't have to b rude to get what u want. in fact, it it is a sure mine way to not get what you want. im not rude. i was raised better than that. good ole southern hospitality. so...
    craigslist504 craigslist504 36-40 Aug 21

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    When I was younger, my dad was my hero. He was caring, loving, and he always made me feel appreciated. Then, my freshman year of high school started and he changed. He became...
    lcooper7768 lcooper7768 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    i feel like 97% of my stories on here are nothing but a bunch of moping and depressing stories. i dont like my job because im emotionally unstable. i constantly worry about what...
    Aeril Aeril 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I can't say was, because it's still happening since she started dating her 4th boyfriend ( now husband )... Everyday, my mom would compare me to her friends kids and tell them how...
    Soullessangel16 Soullessangel16 16-17, F Aug 19

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    gofund.me/GTransitionNYC Hey there! My name is Leilani (you can call me L) and I'm desperate for help at this point. I've recently started my gender transition (MtF) in June and...
    ASMRLegion ASMRLegion 18-21, T Aug 18

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    I hate when i go to far with guys, emotionally, because then i cant back out because i don't know how to and i always think i'm ready but then i just stop all of a sudden and think...
    IJustDontKnowww IJustDontKnowww 16-17, F Aug 18

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    "Why are you so cold-hearted"? He asked. I am not cold hearted. You just need to try a little extra harder to break these walls I have built inside my heart for me to fully open...
    22Nm 22Nm 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    Don't give cruel people the time of day. Anyone who has the time to spew negativity or do cruel things to you is unhappy and unblessed. If you have blessings, being cruel to...
    ThePrettyOnee ThePrettyOnee 16-17, F Aug 16

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    To me it was my fault fallinh in love with a boy the spark that i have never felt before when we kissed and just him holding me felt wonderful. There are so many things i want to...
    Soups Soups 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    i just read a post someone wrote about how shes so pretty but not arrogant and just shy and quiet and hard done by cant find a boyfriend. no one notices her quiet beauty. as...
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