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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

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    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 18-21, F Mar 19, 2014

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    Blackmail is the worst im

    so scared and i dont wana tell anyone incase thay tell the police witch i carnt di
    lavinder128 lavinder128 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2015

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    Mine finally walked out on me, after I called the police over his threats to trash my travel trailer. He started out as a nice guy. He was pleasant, fun, and I really liked him...
    ToolshedCat ToolshedCat 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I really need to speak with a Buddhist or anyone like a Hindu who really understands the mind and it's blowing this way and that in worry, even with meditation. My mind is...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Just right now I cut away another person from my life. This year was and is just amazingly eye-opening when it comes to dating stuff and I must admit that I learnt a lot...
    AmethystCluster AmethystCluster 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I have a friend who is very sensitive to anything anyone tells her. She then explodes and makes me feel guilty as i think it is my fault. My inside voice tells me it is not.She is...
    sawakm33 sawakm33 31-35, M 2 days ago

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    That **** spins both ways....no one has any right to judge anyone for being broke just as well as the rich dude getting **** on for having money! It depends on how he earned it or...
    Spitbak Spitbak 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    I am here because I need your help. I am not the victim though. I am the abuser and I want to stop. I can't afford therapy. My issues stem from not feeling worthy or having self...
    Backspaceblogger Backspaceblogger 26-30 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I dislike anything fake.... always be real you are beautiful the way God made you... he doesn't make junk
    Aprildawnmarie Aprildawnmarie 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    i feel like people with anxiety/depression are left without a rope in terms of working society. It debilitates me in a way that i never knew the full scope of until now. Every job...
    Outoforbits Outoforbits 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    Until I left for college when I was 17, I had this weird tendency to look out the window of my bedroom at the market by the street near our house, to see if the stores were closed...
    IndraD IndraD 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    Since high school, I've always thought that 24 was going to be the best year of my life. I've anticipated this year long enough and now that it is finally here, I feel so...
    HazelLancaster HazelLancaster 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I remember when my husband and I were starting from scratch, just having moved across the country to start our lives. He was promised a job, but that fell through when we moved...
    VVmommy VVmommy 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    Absolutely ! To me it says a lot about the person doing the limp handshaking ! It shows a lack of self confidence, or being intimidated by me (which I don't understand cause I'm a...
    AdBlue AdBlue 46-50, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am a recovering male anorexic who has been in outpatient therapy since March of last year. Back in June, I wasn't improving at all, and was starting to get very sick. It got to...
    Caridinals21 Caridinals21 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I dislike it being shown to anyone but me. That's what's important.
    savoy2 savoy2 46-50, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I dislike the fact that I am taken for granted, but I suppose I should be used to that by now.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Has the opposite effect most of the time.
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989 26-30, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm actually so stupid. why tf do I always fall for the same ******. I actually honestly liked this boy on ep up until now -_- ... I just found out he's being saying the same...
    ChampagneMamii ChampagneMamii 16-17, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I dislike it unless I'm the one getting it. Then I'm okay with it.
    savoy2 savoy2 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm posting here instead of the Dare group, because I'm not trying to encourage more dares and this story is about me being the only one naked in a group of people. OK, so another...
    NakedLezzie NakedLezzie 18-21, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    It's been about a week seen I've decided this is not the life I planned for myself or my children. I decided to write down my long toxic relationship from beginning to the all most...
    jennymike28 jennymike28 36-40, F 1 Response a week ago

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    So I wanted to give an example of a normal day in my life! Things like this happen everyday and in the end I'm in the wrong!! I end up confused like how was this my fault. So it...
    jennymike28 jennymike28 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    I do dislike rude People and have fond a few here in my short time so being rude will not work for you..
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 27

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    Hate is such a strong word and I dislike it very much!! But under the circumstances I'm starting to have just those kind of thoughts. I've been with MH off and on for 21 long years...
    jennymike28 jennymike28 36-40, F Jan 26

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