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I Dislike Being Emotionally Blackmailed

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    Re: I Hate It

    Why do people do this? To be cool. I don't think is cool.  
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F 2 Responses May 9, 2008

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    He Said He Would Tell Everyone

    Growing up I lived by a foster home of boys. I often times became friends with them. There was this one boy there we'll call him...Eric. He was really nice. He seemed to be well mannered, caring, and understanding. He told me about his past and the things he has done that he...
    shellzz shellzz 18-21, F 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    My Mother

    my mother was diagnosed with severe depression. i have inherited it. she shows it a lot more than i do but sometimes i wonder if she uses it to her advantage. she will tell me how ill she is and have me feeling sorry for her and then she will ask for money or something...
    sexyducky2272 sexyducky2272 22-25, F 2 Responses May 23, 2010

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    Trapped

    "I'll kill myself if I lose you." There's so much passion yet also desperation in those words. It's like they're saying, "I've got nothing to offer you to keep you around, so I'll threaten you instead." A relationship or a friendship based on threats, fear and manipulation...
    CashCarStar CashCarStar 18-21, M Mar 14, 2010

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    The Meaning Of Sacrifice

    sac·ri·fice /ˈsækrəˌfaɪs/ Show Spelled [sak-ruh-fahys] noun, verb, -ficed, -fic·ing. –noun 1. the offering of animal, plant, or human life or of some material possession to a deity, as in propitiation or homage. 2. the person, animal, or thing so offered. 3. the...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F 7 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Mom Used To Do This

    But, no more - i have separated myself from her.  She always used that tactic about her being the mother, and i, the daughter.  Just not right, nor is it fair.  Im not angry anymore about it.  Moving on is the best thing.  LOL.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 7, 2010

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    Power

    It is about power. They think "I can make ____ do whatever I want if I give them the guilt trip, the silent treatment, etc". Emotional blackmail is controling someone or a situation you feel you have no control of. It is a poor and pathetic way to live, but it...
    shynomore shynomore 36-40, M 2 Responses May 13, 2008

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    Hell Ya! Who Doesn't? ...

    Hell ya! Who doesn't? At least have the respect to shoot it straight with people. If you play these types of games then don't bother with me! Move along. Your not worth my time! Harsh I know but respect is everything!
    neo2012 neo2012 36-40, M May 9, 2008

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    Families

    Much as we love them, how they can use this one power against us- the one thing we want to be opened unto others, we naiively give to them through a duty to trust and they use them as spears in our chest- one word, one little phrase and a whole lifetime is questionned.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 30, 2008

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    I Find It Atrocious and I D...

    I find it atrocious and I do my best not to reposnd to it but sometimes I get so caught. Only with my  husabnd really. do I play the game and make the response he desires or do something different and get a petulatn, angry tantrumming scene. i guess that's emotional...
    everhopeful everhopeful 31-35, F 1 Response May 9, 2008

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    Can't Stand It

    My mother is like an Olympian when it comes to emotional blackmail. Complete with rigorous training and unshakable dedication. Congratulations, Ma, you've gotten really good at it!
    LucidDementia LucidDementia 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2008

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    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0 22-25, M Dec 7, 2013

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    Because I've Always Wanted My Hair To Turn Clear And Then Run Away.

    If you know me,... insert story [here]. If you don't, let's suffice it to say that I am among the most adept, skilled and masters as emotional blackmail and manipulation. What's amazing, is when you walk away, and feel like YOU did something wrong,.. or said something wrong, or...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned 41-45, F Dec 15, 2010

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    One of the Worst Abuses Ever...

    It's manipulation supreme especially by those who deign to love you. I will no longer fall for it and oh....just a hint. People who say "I'll kill myself id you don't/do (whatever)." need a freaking life.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9, 2008

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    A Low Blow

    I cannot stand being emotionally blackmailed but the problem is I often can't see that is what's happening. It doesn't feel that unnatural to put someone else's needs ahead of my own,even if its to my own detriment. Today I made a point of standing up for myself against someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 3, 2012

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    Don't Know If This Counts.

    My mother can be very emotionally abusive.  She loves to give me a guilt trip when SHE can't pay HER bills. Last Friday, I announced on Facebook that I'd be going to a festival with my friend that evening.  I'd told my mom I'd loan her $100, days before that. ...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2010

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    Don't Even Think You Can Try

    I learned that I couldn't let people get away with it years ago with one of my crazier exes. If you want to try it you're not getting anywhere with me because I just don't tolerate people like that anymore.
    antiflash antiflash 22-25, T Aug 19, 2013

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    But the devils will do it

    once they know that it's the only way to get me to stay. If they cant be fixed it's because they don't want to be or it's not your place. Just because they say you are the only thing that can keep them held, look the other way or they'll drag you to hell because that's where...
    rose114 rose114 16-17, F Mar 19

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    Related Experiences

    I always use to think that I loved to be alone and have time to myself. So much so, that if I ever met anyone who thought or felt the opposite, I'd basically view as weak. But...
    SweetKrazyChill SweetKrazyChill 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    **Pitiful Numb** Dear diary, Can anyone see this pitiful, being inside of me? Broken hearted, yet always singing? Nothing to smile for, yet always smiling. Torn apart, and never...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Water Negative doubt creeps in like water slowly trickling down the drain. I try to submerge them but somehow they have air. I’m in a time and place were everything’s...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Nothing Feeling Nothing Feeling Confusion What do I want to be? Happy or sad? Medicated or not? Hopeless or hopeful? Why do I always have to be in the middle? Or am I in the...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Mind of Mirrors I glance in a mirror, I realise I fear her, This feral dirty *****. She's scratching where I itch. She glares through her hair, I'm caught in her stare. Who is...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Lost In Numbness Lost in numbness for years Running from pain Trapped in the freezing rain Constantly numb Pain is better than nothing at all Pain without reason, a cause, or...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Been married 20 years. He cheated, I forgave him as long as he promised to to put us first (our 2 kids and myself), not to be a drunk or a pot head. None of that has happened...for...
    SummerJasmine SummerJasmine 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    as the sun rises, like a zombie,Numbness trapped in this dream i watch life pass by; i wandered alone, fighting all that came in my way, struggling to make sense of this war, that...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Blank Walls All around me are blank walls Never moving, always the same Full of fools and a numbing pain Constantly wailing for a change These stupid grey walls Have me trapped...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    darkness, defined These empty pages, devoid of any defined reality, reign over hope more than any ink stains could bear, for this numbness resides, when pain no longer haunts the...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Numbness Numbness. Contradicting the pain I felt. Flooding through me like a dose of anesthesia. I lay. Paralyzed by the nothingness. Unable to bring myself to move. Conditioned...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Louder than... Insanity of thought pervades my mind; if only incessant thinking would cease, but it runs rampant here, there, everywhere like a swelling stream into river...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Comfortably Numb (Addiction) I feel so numb Unfeeling even I was feeling in the beginning Of my day today Though I didn't like what I felt So like any addict I turn to my...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    My Savior, Pain Too numb to care, far too broken inside, bring on the pain. Just let me know I'm alive. The pain made me numb, now let it bring me back. Let it undo this torture...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Slumber I surrender to the sacred slumber as the sun rises in the sky. An aching numbness pulses through my body as I have not slept for a little while. I surrender to the...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Numb I feel nothing at all. Inside I am dead. I hit the ground, but do not fall. I'm lost within my head. I swallow the pill that makes it go away. I become numb. I feel no...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Numb I lie here, Intoxicated by numbness, It surrounds me like a cloud of thick smoke, Choking me, Seeping into my veins, my brain, I desperately search for some feeling, But my...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Not What I Used To Be I am not what I used to be. At least I don’t think it’s me. I would not know, Since now I just go with the flow. I used to be able to feel, I used...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Numb Numbness how did you come to hold, So strong a grasp that's crushed my soul? How did you rob me, strong and vain, and now you linger where once was pain, Like Fire raging...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Drifting into Numbness I'm so tired of drifting through life. dragging my feet, not knowing or caring which way I'm heading. The world turns around me and I'm left behind. I just...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    numbness lately I've been having the feeling that I don't feel anything at all and nothing is as quite as concealing as this emotional wall all these painful situations occurring...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    Lost There is nowhere to go Life like a maze Almost every turn a dead end Is there no way out Why am I here The lowest level of hell I'm cold and numb I can't find my way back...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    I Am Emotionless pit, endless fall To the depths of insanity I crawl Timeless confusion, reeking decent Can’t find my wits I am bent Lost feelings, numb mind Destination...
    Nataliefosterdoglover Nataliefosterdoglover 26-30, F Jul 7

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    I'm someone who is very slow to trust to begin with and when my wife is stressed she becomes mean. I can't respond in kind and end up going further into my shell. He moods can...
    ThroughAGlassDarkly ThroughAGlassDarkly 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 10

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    It came in time when I was being emotionally black mail by my own family..! It felt like having a heart-attack I wanted to run away and go far as I can but it's just saying that...
    Reena12 Reena12 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I'm fourteen years old and a freshman in highschool. I strongly dislike being black. I wish I was born white. I constantly try to mimick white people with fake hair and dying my...
    niamcmillan niamcmillan 13-15, F 8 Responses Jul 5

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    I don't want to say hate so I'll use the word dislike. I dislike when human beings try to bring other human beings down just boost their ego, make them feel powerful and more...
    wolflover1648 wolflover1648 16-17 3 hrs ago

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    1. Cancelled plans after I am all dressed up 2. Movies with terrible endings 3. Being lied to when I already know the truth 4. Extremely arrogant people 5. People who think they...
    laurielala11 laurielala11 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    I guess you could say that I dislike my old self. I used to be a huge attention seeker and I became inspired to write out this story in hopes that it could shed some light on the...
    JudeLeDude JudeLeDude 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I noticed there are many individuals in this world who are mentally and emotionally weak. They want other people to tell them they're "beautiful, smart, etc.". They want other...
    Neiymara Neiymara 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    I have been around passive aggressive people long enough to recognize the signs when I see them. That being said, it is extra offensive and disappointing to me when I recognize...
    Aimee17 Aimee17 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 days ago