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I Dislike Being Told to Calm Down

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    If I ******* want to be a screaming mess of

    crazy, then ******* let me be.
    KOOLKAT446 KOOLKAT446 13-15, T Jan 1

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    Only Because...

    I don't like being told what to do basically. That's all due to stubborness and always feel the need to have the last word in.
    AmethystWings AmethystWings 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I hate it when people tell me to calm down,

    especially if I'm already calmed. Like kiss my ***, that'll only get me more agitated obviously.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    When I am upset and someone tells me to calm

    down ( or cheer up ), it is like throwing gasoline on a fire. It's not helpful, and it actually fuels my anger or frustration. To me "calm down" sounds very condescending. It sounds like an exasperated parent speaking to an unruly five year old child who doesn't know what's good...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 1 Response Apr 28, 2015

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    NEVER Tell Me to "Relax," "Calm Down," Or "Lighten Up!"

    I have been told "calm down," "relax," and "lighten up" my whole life. What REALLY upsets me is when I'm in the ER in horrendous pain, and because oral pain meds aren't working, they have to start an IV. So there I am being poked...
    traceywhite traceywhite 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2009

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    I Hate Being Told How to Feel Period.

    I have a right to my feelings and if someone is telling me to calm down I assume it is their discomfort and therefore their problem. I feel more angry when told to calm down. Who gave anyone such power over me?! I was told my whole life growing up exactly how to feel and how not...
    candy100 candy100 56-60, F 3 Responses May 13, 2009

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    It's so condescending

    and ridicularizing.
    TheMindBlower TheMindBlower 13-15, M 2 Responses Jan 2

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    I Hate it to pieces. Especially

    when The person who tells me to calm down is never calm and for any reason
    angelicFaces angelicFaces 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 7, 2015

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    Seriously...Don't.

    It's so maddening when you're upset and you hear some idiots say "Just calm down." No! Just because your royal *** dictates for me to calm down, doesn't mean It's going to work! Just go be cheerful elsewhere and let me fester in my anger, because even that seems more pleasant...
    imalittleteapot39 imalittleteapot39 18-21, F Dec 1, 2013

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    Ugh.

    Telling me to calm down when I'm getting pissed off is a guaranteed way to make me exponentially more angry and riled up.  Usually because they are blowing things out of proportion and acting like I'm the hulk or something and I'm going to explode which is ridiculous. An...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    I Actually Hate It,

    because I'm never calm, I'm nervous all the time! ( the picture says it all ) 
    watermellonsmile watermellonsmile 16-17, F Jan 15, 2012

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    I Really Hate Being Told to 'calm Down'

     I am a passionate person. So I also have a bit of a temper. And every time something or someone gets on my nerves and I say something about it (not even angry); my friends keep repeating to me 'relaaaaax'.  God that makes me want to punch them in the face sometimes...
    LadyTink LadyTink 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    I would really appreciate it

    if you don't grab me or try to convince me to calm down when I'm clearly upset it will only escalate the situation.
    shericka1992 shericka1992 22-25, F Jul 1, 2015

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    Why Not?

    Why not? It's just one way of pacifying me. And I am not a kid anymore. I know how to act appropriately in different situations. So if I act "violently", surely that would be for some valid reasons. And nobody has the right to shut me up.
    wildice wildice 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 18, 2010

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    It's annoys the hell out of me

    if someone asks me to calm down ... Really ... I know how to calm down I don't need your two cents ...
    UrbanLights UrbanLights 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    I Will Not Calm Down!

    When I'm upset or angry, I want to vent. I don't want someone telling me to calm down. I am feeling what I am feeling. You aren't going to stop these strong feelings just by telling me to calm down. I hate when the person that upsets you tells you to calm down. Who do they...
    yisrael yisrael 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2009

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    Annoying is right!! My boss does this often to

    me and anyone around her. I want to rip her to shreds when she does that. Lol.
    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 21, 2014

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    Dont Say Calm Down

    when im told to calm down i get worst. If you want me to calm down help with the problem, or give me weed. which ever one works for you.
    Kid5252 Kid5252 18-21, F Jul 13, 2013

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    Calm Is Good

    On 90% of the occasions I have been told to calm down, I was actually very calm. And very right. It is merely a ploy used by control freaks,  to get you to shut up. They are trying to ruffle your feathers. Remain calm, they hate that!
    Lilt Lilt 46-50 28 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    thedimone thedimone 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 2, 2015

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    Don't Tell Me To Calm Down!

    I'm usually a very calm person, so if I'm upset, let me have my moment!
    girlanonymous girlanonymous 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 31, 2011

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    When I was younger, age 27 to age about 45,

    I was a hell raiser. I got into fights both verbally and sometimes physically with mostly counter people at stores, everywhere I went. And I am a female. I always left the scene before any police had a chance to arrive, thank goodness, otherwise I would have a record. When I...
    loveaguilarg loveaguilarg 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 11, 2014

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    I'm A Banshee

    I hate being told to calm down because I like to throw tantrums. They're a healthy outlet for me. Instead of bottling up my feelings, I like to say what's on my mind and have a good old fashioned panic attack. Cleansing.
    GrabYourPardnerDoeSeeDoe GrabYourPardnerDoeSeeDoe 26-30, F Jan 15, 2012

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    My younger sister has gotten into the habit of

    telling me to calm down when I'm perfectly calm and just trying to tell her something. As a way of severing my attempts at communication she tells me to calm down. It makes me very not calm.
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum 18-21, F Dec 17, 2015

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    By telling me to calm down

    or count to 10 or stuff, you are actually making it worse by making me angrier
    GalacticDaniel GalacticDaniel 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 16, 2015

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    Oh Well, Now That You Told Me To I Guess I Will Stop Being Upset

    I have always been told I am "hypersensative" but Iguess that means I don't appreciate getting made fun of in a mean spirited way, I cry when I am angry, and I cry when I am sad, and I cry during emotional movies. I have anxiety, so yeah, I am an emotional person. But do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    Being told to calm while in the middle off

    anxiety attack is not helpful. It's just annoying.
    sroonaka616 sroonaka616 18-21 3 Responses Dec 17, 2015

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    How You Make Me Really Mad

    Yes, if you really wanna see the sh*t hit the fan, tell me to calm down. I do have a temper, and when I am losing it, for everyones safety, don't tell me to calm down or tell me I am acting crazy.
    wonderstruck77 wonderstruck77 31-35, F Feb 24, 2013

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    Im Told That I Get Angry All The Time

    I get worked up sometimes, and turn red. I cant help it. I will fill with rage and just verbally attack anyone around me. It would be funny if it was a movie. But it is actually my life.
    Dan0000 Dan0000 26-30, M Sep 17, 2012

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    At this point it's too late,

    the ***** is out. It's way too late to be appealing to my sense of calm.
    LadyShagworthy LadyShagworthy 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    Please Dont

    Telling me to calm down when I am upset is one of the most frustrating things for me because I am a rather passionate person and what I feel I feel strongly. Telling me to calm down when I'm angry only makes me more infuriated because what *I* hear is "what your angry about isn...
    MountainGhost MountainGhost 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2011

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    Calm Down?

    Simply tell me to calm down? I get mad at whoever told me to calm down.Don't tell me to take 10 deep breaths, or i'll attack.I need to go to a peaceful place to relax (considering I can even find one in the chaotic town I live in).I hate people that tell you to calm down, do your...
    Anonymous6182 Anonymous6182 13-15 Aug 4, 2012

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    Being told to "calm down" is the quickest way

    to push me over the edge! Yeah...I've got issues SURPRISE!!
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2014

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    If I'm being told to calm down,

    I'm probably very upset. And that will only make me more upset.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 8, 2015

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    Seriously has telling a pissed off guy to calm

    down ever helped a situation? Cause it sure as hell never helps me.
    rehn65 rehn65 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 30, 2014

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    Whenever I try to talk to my partner about

    fixing our relationship, he always tells me I'm silly and to just calm down and quit overreacting. It feels so disrespectful and degrading like I'm a child, or I'm crazy.
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jan 10

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    Be Cool

    I hate when Im trying to express myself fully, when Im letting every thought thats bothering me leave my lips and someone says, Calm Down. It sets me off so fast and makes me explode. You dont tell me to calm down, I will calm down when I am ready too. It ****** me off so...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jan 29, 2010

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    By yelling the words "calm down" won't

    magically et me to calm. Do you think telling me to calm down will help? That's like saying to a locked door "open yourself." Don't you think if I could "calm down" I would? So repeating that over and over again isn't really going to help...just saying...
    Randompi Randompi 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2015

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    I have no idea why, honestly.

    But when people say it, it only makes me angrier.
    GuroBrat GuroBrat 13-15, F Jan 1

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    I get told to calm down by my dad

    and my mom constantly it's so annoying. I mean I love them but I'm a teenager I have an attitude and I am hyper.
    Daddysprincess14 Daddysprincess14 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2015

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    When I'm angry or hurt.

    .. And someone tells me to calm down... I feel like exploding... Like OMG you calm down! >;c
    ItzPuppeh ItzPuppeh 13-15, M 3 Responses Jan 2

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    PanHead1989 PanHead1989 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 30

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    I think most people do lol.

    .it almost always has the opposite effect lol..and when im already pissedoff and someone tells me that that just makes me more angry lol..
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F May 6, 2014

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    I Hate Being Told Calm Down

    I happy most days and I dont lose my temper very easy.  But the last time I got really upset I did so becalse i didnt feel i was being hurd , i was asked for the3d time to move in with his mother i didnt feel it would work out i got so mad i could barely speak  ...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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