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I Dislike Being Told to Calm Down

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    Just Hate It....

    It annoys me greatly when my friends like to say these words "calm down, relax, chillax" especially when i'm being neutral. There is a big difference when someone wants you to calm down and when they try to get on your nerve. As if they're expecting me to act like their lap dog...
    snownymph snownymph 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2011

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    Why Not?

    Why not? It's just one way of pacifying me. And I am not a kid anymore. I know how to act appropriately in different situations. So if I act "violently", surely that would be for some valid reasons. And nobody has the right to shut me up.
    wildice wildice 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 18, 2010

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    Don't Tell Me To Calm Down!

    I'm usually a very calm person, so if I'm upset, let me have my moment!
    girlanonymous girlanonymous 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 31, 2011

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    Im Told That I Get Angry All The Time

    I get worked up sometimes, and turn red. I cant help it. I will fill with rage and just verbally attack anyone around me. It would be funny if it was a movie. But it is actually my life.
    Dan0000 Dan0000 26-30, M Sep 17, 2012

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    I Hate Being Told How to Feel Period.

    I have a right to my feelings and if someone is telling me to calm down I assume it is their discomfort and therefore their problem. I feel more angry when told to calm down. Who gave anyone such power over me?! I was told my whole life growing up exactly how to feel and how not...
    candy100 candy100 56-60, F 3 Responses May 13, 2009

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    Be Cool

    I hate when Im trying to express myself fully, when Im letting every thought thats bothering me leave my lips and someone says, Calm Down. It sets me off so fast and makes me explode. You dont tell me to calm down, I will calm down when I am ready too. It ****** me off so...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jan 29, 2010

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    Only Because...

    I don't like being told what to do basically. That's all due to stubborness and always feel the need to have the last word in.
    AmethystWings AmethystWings 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    Calm Down?

    Simply tell me to calm down? I get mad at whoever told me to calm down.Don't tell me to take 10 deep breaths, or i'll attack.I need to go to a peaceful place to relax (considering I can even find one in the chaotic town I live in).I hate people that tell you to calm down, do your...
    Anonymous6182 Anonymous6182 13-15 Aug 4, 2012

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    Trigger Words And Phrases

    I have a number of trigger words and phrases that can set me into a full-fledged fit of rage. "Calm down" is one of them. Don't tell me to calm down! I'm obviously seriously upset about something, and for me to make that known is rare. So if I'm hysterical, ranting, crying...
    SarahTM SarahTM 26-30, F Nov 17, 2010

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    I Do Not Like Being Calm!

    I do not like being calm because it is boring and it is so slllloooowww! I feel like i have to flip out almost every other second because it is fun and i feel so good when i do it.  You need to get all the emotions you have inside and being calm is NOT how you do it!
    Ghostette Ghostette 16-17, F Sep 17, 2011

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    Calm Is Good

    On 90% of the occasions I have been told to calm down, I was actually very calm. And very right. It is merely a ploy used by control freaks,  to get you to shut up. They are trying to ruffle your feathers. Remain calm, they hate that!
    Lilt Lilt 46-50 27 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    How You Make Me Really Mad

    Yes, if you really wanna see the sh*t hit the fan, tell me to calm down. I do have a temper, and when I am losing it, for everyones safety, don't tell me to calm down or tell me I am acting crazy.
    wonderstruck77 wonderstruck77 31-35, F Feb 24, 2013

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    I Really Hate Being Told to 'calm Down'

     I am a passionate person. So I also have a bit of a temper. And every time something or someone gets on my nerves and I say something about it (not even angry); my friends keep repeating to me 'relaaaaax'.  God that makes me want to punch them in the face sometimes...
    LadyTink LadyTink 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    Oh .. Hell No ... Never .....!!!!!

    The only people that ever try to tell me that, are the head in the clouds, smack talking, think if they command respect they shall get it, bit off way more than they can handle, ignored all the polite, tons of, warnings to take a second, thought they had nothing to fear, watching...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 1, 2010

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    I Will Not Calm Down!

    When I'm upset or angry, I want to vent. I don't want someone telling me to calm down. I am feeling what I am feeling. You aren't going to stop these strong feelings just by telling me to calm down. I hate when the person that upsets you tells you to calm down. Who do they...
    yisrael yisrael 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2009

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    Seriously has telling a pissed off guy to calm

    down ever helped a situation? Cause it sure as hell never helps me.
    rehn65 rehn65 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 30

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    It Makes Me Even More Mad

    When I'm annoyed all I want to do is smash things. Unfortunately I can't do that so I like to rant it out wherever I can. It makes me super angry when someone tells me to calm down. If it was in a soothing and meditative way then I possibly wouldn't have much of a problem but it...
    Alluded Alluded 18-21, F Aug 8, 2012

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    Seriously...Don't.

    It's so maddening when you're upset and you hear some idiots say "Just calm down." No! Just because your royal *** dictates for me to calm down, doesn't mean It's going to work! Just go be cheerful elsewhere and let me fester in my anger, because even that seems more pleasant...
    imalittleteapot39 imalittleteapot39 18-21, F Dec 1, 2013

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    Stubborn Me

    When i am feeling an intense emotion, whether it be sad, angry, happy, worried.... All i want to do is sit around and feel that way. If i am sad i want to sit around and mope and feel bad, if someone comes and trys to make me feel better i usually find myself running away...
    cookielove4 cookielove4 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 12, 2011

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    Calm down. Dont cuss.

    Let evil win. Dont show pain at evil winning. Dont show evil hurts. Be quiet. Let evil die slowly. And let it hurt millions by being tradition. Hell no i wont shush. Am not a lemming. Wont go quietly.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M Aug 25

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    I Hate When Someone Tells Me To Calm Down In A Bitchy Tone

    I really cant stand bitchy people that pretend they want to have a non-drama situation, but they really wanna just aggravate you so that they can tell you to calm down and they can feel like they accomplished messing with your head. I hate people that just are asking for you to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 21, 2011

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    Patronised

    Man I hate being patronised.But I do believe some are not trying to...but It always feels that way.If Im flipping out...Its best if you either help me sort it out (find my keys DAMMIT)Or just walk away....If you walk away...eventually I will calm down and feel like a **** but if...
    MushroomFaerie148 MushroomFaerie148 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 27, 2011

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    All the time people say "calm down,

    calm down" i hare it, it dosent make me calm down, maybe if you say it in a extremely silly way i will
    Pot1023 Pot1023 13-15, M Dec 3

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    Opposite Effect

    Telling me to calm down when I'm upset tends to have the exact opposite effect.  I'll just get more wound up.
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2011

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    It Makes Me Feel Like Im Not Important To You.

    I hate it when people tell me to calm down like my feelings are not important to you.  When my fiance told me to calm down by saying, Sit your happy a** down. , it surprised me and I started to do it.  We were at work together. We were the only ones in our business there...
    Donna072511 Donna072511 46-50 1 Response Apr 29, 2012

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    Stfu!

    I HATE being told to calm down. Unless you're feeling what i feel i don't want to hear it. I feel like slapping anyone who says that because they do not understand whats going on in my head and the panic i'm feeling. My mom tells me that a lot when i get upset.
    enemyinthemirror enemyinthemirror 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2011

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    I Hate Being Told To "calm Down!"

    Because the jerk that's telling me to "calm down" is either quashing my excitement or not hearing what I'm saying.  And if he's not hearing me if I'm yelling to be heard over his mouth, how's he going to hear mine if I stop talking...?     
    Deadened Deadened 51-55, F Aug 16, 2011

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    Annoying

    If I'm pissed off and somebody tells me to calm down that just ****** me off even more.
    CreedenceGold CreedenceGold 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 2, 2011

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    I Hate Being Told Calm Down

    I happy most days and I dont lose my temper very easy.  But the last time I got really upset I did so becalse i didnt feel i was being hurd , i was asked for the3d time to move in with his mother i didnt feel it would work out i got so mad i could barely speak  ...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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    Annoying is right!! My boss does this often to

    me and anyone around her. I want to rip her to shreds when she does that. Lol.
    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 21

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    I think most people do lol.

    .it almost always has the opposite effect lol..and when im already pissedoff and someone tells me that that just makes me more angry lol..
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F May 6

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    Wrong Answer.

    I very rarely get really riled up but when I do, leave me a wide berth.  Telling me to calm down when I'm volatile is like pouring gasoline on a fire and the sh!t's really gonna hit the fan now. It's like pulling the pin on a grenade, in that it offers no solutions to the...
    zillaron zillaron 51-55, M 4 Responses May 26, 2009

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    Don't Tell Somone To Calm Down

    Okay, so maybe sometimes I do go a bit over board, but do not tell me to clam down. If you tell someone to calm down do you seriously think they're just gonna stop their rant and take a few deep breaths? No. It just makes that person go off even more. So unless you want someone...
    CrystallizedDream CrystallizedDream 16-17, F Oct 14, 2011

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    I Hate It!! It Makes It Worse!!

    Calm down! Relax! Chill out! Breath! Take a ****** chill pill?! NOOO I dont wana! I wana be mad and embrace it or I wana be me without being harrased about it, or i want to just rant, or i want u not to tell me to calm down cuz it wil **** me off....the end
    sweetmusic2011 sweetmusic2011 18-21, F Apr 4, 2011

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    Being told to "calm down" is the quickest way

    to push me over the edge! Yeah...I've got issues SURPRISE!!
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 27

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    I'm A Banshee

    I hate being told to calm down because I like to throw tantrums. They're a healthy outlet for me. Instead of bottling up my feelings, I like to say what's on my mind and have a good old fashioned panic attack. Cleansing.
    GrabYourPardnerDoeSeeDoe GrabYourPardnerDoeSeeDoe 26-30, F Jan 15, 2012

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    Dont Say Calm Down

    when im told to calm down i get worst. If you want me to calm down help with the problem, or give me weed. which ever one works for you.
    Kid5252 Kid5252 16-17, F Jul 13, 2013

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    NEVER Tell Me to "Relax," "Calm Down," Or "Lighten Up!"

    I have been told "calm down," "relax," and "lighten up" my whole life. What REALLY upsets me is when I'm in the ER in horrendous pain, and because oral pain meds aren't working, they have to start an IV. So there I am being poked...
    traceywhite traceywhite 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2009

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    Ugh.

    Telling me to calm down when I'm getting pissed off is a guaranteed way to make me exponentially more angry and riled up.  Usually because they are blowing things out of proportion and acting like I'm the hulk or something and I'm going to explode which is ridiculous. An...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    Oh Well, Now That You Told Me To I Guess I Will Stop Being Upset

    I have always been told I am "hypersensative" but Iguess that means I don't appreciate getting made fun of in a mean spirited way, I cry when I am angry, and I cry when I am sad, and I cry during emotional movies. I have anxiety, so yeah, I am an emotional person. But do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    When I was younger, age 27 to age about 45,

    I was a hell raiser. I got into fights both verbally and sometimes physically with mostly counter people at stores, everywhere I went. And I am a female. I always left the scene before any police had a chance to arrive, thank goodness, otherwise I would have a record. When I...
    loveaguilarg loveaguilarg 51-55, F 3 Responses Nov 11

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    I Actually Hate It,

    because I'm never calm, I'm nervous all the time! ( the picture says it all ) 
    watermellonsmile watermellonsmile 16-17, F Jan 15, 2012

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    Please Dont

    Telling me to calm down when I am upset is one of the most frustrating things for me because I am a rather passionate person and what I feel I feel strongly. Telling me to calm down when I'm angry only makes me more infuriated because what *I* hear is "what your angry about isn...
    MountainGhost MountainGhost 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2011

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