I Dislike Being Told to Calm Down

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    I would really appreciate it

    if you don't grab me or try to convince me to calm down when I'm clearly upset it will only escalate the situation.
    shericka1992 shericka1992
    22-25, F
    Jul 1, 2015

    I Will Not Calm Down!

    When I'm upset or angry, I want to vent. I don't want someone telling me to calm down. I am feeling what I am feeling. You aren't going to stop these strong feelings just by telling me to calm down. I hate when the person that upsets you tells you to calm down. Who do they...
    yisrael yisrael
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2009

    Never in the history of calming down has anyone

    ever calmed down by being told to calm down.
    glassbonespaperskin glassbonespaperskin
    18-21, F
    Mar 5

    Calm Is Good

    On 90% of the occasions I have been told to calm down, I was actually very calm. And very right. It is merely a ploy used by control freaks,  to get you to shut up. They are trying to ruffle your feathers. Remain calm, they hate that!
    Lilt Lilt
    28 Responses Jan 29, 2009

    Only Because...

    I don't like being told what to do basically. That's all due to stubborness and always feel the need to have the last word in.
    AmethystWings AmethystWings
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 8, 2011

    Please Dont

    Telling me to calm down when I am upset is one of the most frustrating things for me because I am a rather passionate person and what I feel I feel strongly. Telling me to calm down when I'm angry only makes me more infuriated because what *I* hear is "what your angry about isn...
    MountainGhost MountainGhost
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jun 25, 2011

    It's annoys the hell out of me

    if someone asks me to calm down ... Really ... I know how to calm down I don't need your two cents ...
    UrbanLights UrbanLights
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 5, 2015

    NEVER Tell Me to "Relax," "Calm Down," Or "Lighten Up!"

    I have been told "calm down," "relax," and "lighten up" my whole life. What REALLY upsets me is when I'm in the ER in horrendous pain, and because oral pain meds aren't working, they have to start an IV. So there I am being poked...
    traceywhite traceywhite
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 24, 2009

    When I am upset and someone tells me to calm

    down ( or cheer up ), it is like throwing gasoline on a fire. It's not helpful, and it actually fuels my anger or frustration. To me "calm down" sounds very condescending. It sounds like an exasperated parent speaking to an unruly five year old child who doesn't know what's good...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
    Apr 28, 2015

    Annoying is right!! My boss does this often to

    me and anyone around her. I want to rip her to shreds when she does that. Lol.
    Berryqueen Berryqueen
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 21, 2014


    Telling me to calm down when I'm getting pissed off is a guaranteed way to make me exponentially more angry and riled up.  Usually because they are blowing things out of proportion and acting like I'm the hulk or something and I'm going to explode which is ridiculous. An...
    shygirl14 shygirl14
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 18, 2009

    My younger sister has gotten into the habit of

    telling me to calm down when I'm perfectly calm and just trying to tell her something. As a way of severing my attempts at communication she tells me to calm down. It makes me very not calm.
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum
    18-21, F
    Dec 17, 2015

    I Hate it to pieces. Especially

    when The person who tells me to calm down is never calm and for any reason
    angelicFaces angelicFaces
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 7, 2015

    Whenever I try to talk to my partner about

    fixing our relationship, he always tells me I'm silly and to just calm down and quit overreacting. It feels so disrespectful and degrading like I'm a child, or I'm crazy.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Jan 10

    Usually when people tell me to calm down,

    it's over text...and when that happens I'm pretty much always already calm. People assume too many things about emotions when they are texting. I can disagree with what you say and even argue with you, while still remaining calm.
    Hannah1100 Hannah1100
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Apr 5

    I Actually Hate It,

    because I'm never calm, I'm nervous all the time! ( the picture says it all ) 
    watermellonsmile watermellonsmile
    16-17, F
    Jan 15, 2012

    By yelling the words "calm down" won't

    magically et me to calm. Do you think telling me to calm down will help? That's like saying to a locked door "open yourself." Don't you think if I could "calm down" I would? So repeating that over and over again isn't really going to help...just saying...
    Randompi Randompi
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 12, 2015

    Be Cool

    I hate when Im trying to express myself fully, when Im letting every thought thats bothering me leave my lips and someone says, Calm Down. It sets me off so fast and makes me explode. You dont tell me to calm down, I will calm down when I am ready too. It ****** me off so...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie
    22-25, F
    Jan 29, 2010

    Being told to calm while in the middle off

    anxiety attack is not helpful. It's just annoying.
    sroonaka616 sroonaka616
    3 Responses Dec 17, 2015

    At this point it's too late,

    the ***** is out. It's way too late to be appealing to my sense of calm.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 1

    I'm A Banshee

    I hate being told to calm down because I like to throw tantrums. They're a healthy outlet for me. Instead of bottling up my feelings, I like to say what's on my mind and have a good old fashioned panic attack. Cleansing.
    GrabYourPardnerDoeSeeDoe GrabYourPardnerDoeSeeDoe
    26-30, F
    Jan 15, 2012

    It's so condescending

    and ridicularizing.
    TheMindBlower TheMindBlower
    13-15, M
    Jan 2

    Seriously has telling a pissed off guy to calm

    down ever helped a situation? Cause it sure as hell never helps me.
    rehn65 rehn65
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 30, 2014

    If I ******* want to be a screaming mess of

    crazy, then ******* let me be.
    13-15, T
    Jan 1

    If I'm being told to calm down,

    I'm probably very upset. And that will only make me more upset.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 8, 2015

    When I'm angry or hurt.

    .. And someone tells me to calm down... I feel like exploding... Like OMG you calm down! >;c
    ItzPuppeh ItzPuppeh
    13-15, M
    3 Responses Jan 2

    Why Not?

    Why not? It's just one way of pacifying me. And I am not a kid anymore. I know how to act appropriately in different situations. So if I act "violently", surely that would be for some valid reasons. And nobody has the right to shut me up.
    wildice wildice
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 18, 2010
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jan 30

    I Hate Being Told Calm Down

    I happy most days and I dont lose my temper very easy.  But the last time I got really upset I did so becalse i didnt feel i was being hurd , i was asked for the3d time to move in with his mother i didnt feel it would work out i got so mad i could barely speak  ...
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Sep 1, 2009

    Im Told That I Get Angry All The Time

    I get worked up sometimes, and turn red. I cant help it. I will fill with rage and just verbally attack anyone around me. It would be funny if it was a movie. But it is actually my life.
    Dan0000 Dan0000
    26-30, M
    Sep 17, 2012

    I Really Hate Being Told to 'calm Down'

     I am a passionate person. So I also have a bit of a temper. And every time something or someone gets on my nerves and I say something about it (not even angry); my friends keep repeating to me 'relaaaaax'.  God that makes me want to punch them in the face sometimes...
    LadyTink LadyTink
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 3, 2009
    thedimone thedimone
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jun 2, 2015

    Being told to "calm down" is the quickest way

    to push me over the edge! Yeah...I've got issues SURPRISE!!
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2014

    Dont Say Calm Down

    when im told to calm down i get worst. If you want me to calm down help with the problem, or give me weed. which ever one works for you.
    Kid5252 Kid5252
    18-21, F
    Jul 13, 2013

    When I was younger, age 27 to age about 45,

    I was a hell raiser. I got into fights both verbally and sometimes physically with mostly counter people at stores, everywhere I went. And I am a female. I always left the scene before any police had a chance to arrive, thank goodness, otherwise I would have a record. When I...
    loveaguilarg loveaguilarg
    56-60, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2014

    I hate it when people tell me to calm down,

    especially if I'm already calmed. Like kiss my ***, that'll only get me more agitated obviously.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 19, 2015

    By telling me to calm down

    or count to 10 or stuff, you are actually making it worse by making me angrier
    GalacticDaniel GalacticDaniel
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2015

    I don't think anyone likes to be told that.

    Luckily it hasn't happen to me.
    deleted deleted
    Apr 4

    Oh Well, Now That You Told Me To I Guess I Will Stop Being Upset

    I have always been told I am "hypersensative" but Iguess that means I don't appreciate getting made fun of in a mean spirited way, I cry when I am angry, and I cry when I am sad, and I cry during emotional movies. I have anxiety, so yeah, I am an emotional person. But do...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

    I get told to calm down by my dad

    and my mom constantly it's so annoying. I mean I love them but I'm a teenager I have an attitude and I am hyper.
    Daddysprincess14 Daddysprincess14
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    Don't Tell Me To Calm Down!

    I'm usually a very calm person, so if I'm upset, let me have my moment!
    girlanonymous girlanonymous
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2011

    How You Make Me Really Mad

    Yes, if you really wanna see the sh*t hit the fan, tell me to calm down. I do have a temper, and when I am losing it, for everyones safety, don't tell me to calm down or tell me I am acting crazy.
    wonderstruck77 wonderstruck77
    31-35, F
    Feb 24, 2013


    It's so maddening when you're upset and you hear some idiots say "Just calm down." No! Just because your royal *** dictates for me to calm down, doesn't mean It's going to work! Just go be cheerful elsewhere and let me fester in my anger, because even that seems more pleasant...
    imalittleteapot39 imalittleteapot39
    18-21, F
    Dec 1, 2013

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