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I Divorced My Abusive Husband

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    It Took A While But I Did It

    I'm grateful that we didn't have children. Through it all I was careful not to become pregnant. I am divorced since April 2011.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 8, 2012

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    In a Divorce

    Hi, I live in Oregon and have been here for 4 yrs.  (I am from FL)  Moved here with my husband of 10 yrs. He has ALWAYS been a Control Freak and wants everything HIS WAY! He was "nice" UNTIL the Day we MARRIED.  Ever since then-it has been like I own you...
    WynterRoses01 WynterRoses01 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    I'm finally going to be able to file the

    paperwork this Friday. (little over a day from now.) I'm so relieved. ♡
    tinkortaylor tinkortaylor 26-30, T Jun 23

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    So Miserable

    Well this states I divorced my abusive husband...which is not true...I need to divorce him...he is such an angry person..who can make me feel two ways...1. like I'm made of gold "or" 2. I'm nothing but garbage......When he gets angry...he goes out of his way to put me...
    tracylyn245 tracylyn245 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    In a Divorce

    Hi, I live in Oregon and have been here for 4 yrs.  (I am from FL)  Moved here with my husband of 10 yrs. He has ALWAYS been a Control Freak and wants everything HIS WAY! He was "nice" UNTIL the Day we MARRIED.  Ever since then-it has been like I own you...
    WynterRoses01 WynterRoses01 46-50, F 4 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    Gone, and Good Riddance

    I divorced my evil ex after 2 years of torture.  He was an alcoholic who was constantly going from one binge drinking session to another.  When he would stumble home drunk he'd argue with me (to the point he'd wake me up out of sleep to fight), hit me with the phone...
    Dragonflower Dragonflower 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2007

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    Is It Bad to Still Think of the Good Times?

    I feel sick when I am reminded of a good time my husband and I shared. I feel guilty and become depressed. I don't know how other people's other halves were but mine was physically violent, mentally and emotionally violent and calculating. It came to a point were I honestly...
    Praying4Understanding Praying4Understanding 22-25 1 Response Jul 6, 2008

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    It Took Me 8 Years

    It took me 8 years but yes I divorced him.  It felt so good to finally be away from him.  To be hit for no reason at all other then he was angry and it did not have to be towards me.  I was just there for him to take his anger out on.  The physical and...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    2 Years Later

    I have been officially divorced for 2 years on Oct 12th. He still scares the crap out of me. I keep wanting to get a protection order, but I don't know where he lives. I mean I have a cell number for him, and his mom's number halfway across the country. He started texting me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 25, 2008

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    He Never Loved Me

    my ex-husband was an abusive "man", or should I say child, who treated me like something on the bottom of his shoe...he yelled at me, called me every derogatory name in the book and ignored me every chance he could.    He was only abusive during sex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 24, 2007

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    Loser Patrol

    it has been almost exactly 2 years since i got my divorce finalized. the only thing i can credit him with is he never hit me. but that is the only thing. other than that, he treated my like crap. i had to bail him out of jail on the 2nd night of our honeymoon. and it was all down...
    metalgirl99 metalgirl99 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    I need to divorce my husband but I am scared of him getting remarried and my kids loving their stepmother more than me.
    sherrybetan sherrybetan 36-40, M Dec 10

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    I am contemplating divorcing my husband. The problem is that this will be my third divorce and I am only 43. I made some bad decisions in my twenties based on growing up in an...
    strikes3 strikes3 41-45, F a week ago

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    Talking may help. I keep wanting to seek counseling but something is holding me back. My ex husband was a binge drinker and was cold and emotionally abusive and with held affection...
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I have become quite the master at putting on a masquerade for the whole world to see. Especially those around me. I have been in a verbal and physical abusive relationship for the...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 38 Responses Dec 12

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    Quick story and lesson: I was married for 5 years to a wonderful woman that I loved and cherish. Even though it was wrong and we were not made for each other (the realization of...
    jpllc jpllc 26-30, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Today is Thanksgiving...but my husband has locked himself in the room because I got upset that he wouldn't let my kids listen to their father's message on the phone. I asked him to...
    NotVibrant NotVibrant 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 27

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    I just joined this site after reading about other people's stories. I want your opinion to this problem. I have a father who has always put me second after my little brother. When...
    Abyss5 Abyss5 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Ladies if you are in your 20ties and you had no kids and your husband hit you for the first time would you divorce him knowing that that first belt lash and him telling me I had...
    Ihavetosurvive Ihavetosurvive 26-30, F 9 Responses Nov 25

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    I believe my husband is mentally and emotionally abusive to me. He does so many things to mess with my mind and self esteem that I am no longer myself anymore. I am very withdrawn...
    MarylouD MarylouD 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    Mine may not be as worse as most of the posts in this group but I really really hate my ex husband. I left him 4 years ago because he was physically and psychologically abusive...
    CantankerousBabe CantankerousBabe 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 10

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    I discovered this over the weekend..not sure what happened or how it started but my husband and I were fighting and I punched him pretty hard in back of his head. I'm done...
    weeniegirl weeniegirl 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I am Sonalyso, 51. Three years ago, I took divorce from my husband as he had an extra – marital affair and clearly, he chose me over her. Right after the divorce, I began looking...
    sonalyso sonalyso 26-30, F Nov 26

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    Soooo I don't love him anymore. Not for awhile now. My main concern is that he spends his time and money on her....not his kids. We aren't divorced yet though. He asked me if I'd...
    Cinderfire Cinderfire 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 29

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    Why is this Christmas so hard? I have a new lady in my life that inspires and treats me far better than my ex. She and I get to pick up my children tomorrow afternoon and have them...
    jeditaz jeditaz 41-45, M 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    As much as I dislike writing about my own divorce, I must admit, and mostly out of the pain and suffer ring I've felt for so long, that divorce is very hard. I was divorced at only...
    makingitbetterrr makingitbetterrr 22-25, M Dec 5

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    my ex husband is still making my life miserable. now he is using our 14year old son against me. he is vicious and cruel. he tells me how fat and ugly i am. i am on disability and...
    melkrell2575 melkrell2575 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 8

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    We have been together for 10 years, had a ceremony but not legally married in 2007. We have a four year old boy together. We have been having the same argument for past 5 plus...
    Ashleys44 Ashleys44 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 15

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    I am not strong enuff to end this relatioship. I married the guy who claimed to love me a lot ,and I thought this is all I would need to stay happy .I was 22 and he was 30 , but...
    knowinglystupid knowinglystupid 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    I was in two back to back abusive relationships ,I never knew and till this day know how to handle being alone.I have always wanted to grow with someone.My first ex I lost feelings...
    grabamic828 grabamic828 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Their not actually divorced just spilt up because they never got married, and that Dosent mean I was born by accident in just a quick fling or something, they got together and...
    AlliLittle AlliLittle 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    My parents got divorced and my sister and I had to move into my grandparents house. My mom is never home and when she is she is mostly just talking on the phone and i see my dad...
    expendableimportance expendableimportance 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    I've noticed his abusivness since I was 10 (which was almost eleven years ago). It's complicated though, it's on and off and I guess thats why my mother won't leave him. It's a...
    sunisburning sunisburning 18-21, F Dec 2

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    im not sharing my story for pity. im sharing it because I want people to kno if I can hanle it anyone can. I was in an abusive relationship when I was 14. I got two concussions and...
    lilmisssme lilmisssme 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 4

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    When I first met him he was fantastic, we began dating very quickly everything was good. When I moved in things changed dramatically. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere not even to...
    missjulia123 missjulia123 22-25, F Dec 8

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    Last year I met this guy, who I fell in love with two months into "talking." We worked together. He would talk to me during work hours but after I wouldn't receive a cal or text...
    TVel94 TVel94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    It's really remarkable to find so many people who I can relate too. My mother has been emotionally, physically, and verbally abusing me since I was a small child. I don't have any...
    WeOnlyHaveNow WeOnlyHaveNow 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 13

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    I was in an abusive relationship. Actually I wAs in 2. People who have never lived through that have no idea the damage it does. People judge because a person stays in the...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I see my ex-husband everywhere. His face appears in my dreams, I see him in the check-out line at the Bay, or while waiting for the subway. I am constantly thinking about him...
    chatonenamour chatonenamour 31-35, F Dec 10

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    I see my ex-husband everywhere. His face appears in my dreams, I see him in the check-out line at the Bay, or while waiting for the subway. I am constantly thinking about him...
    chatonenamour chatonenamour 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    This morning my husband had said he would take our teen son to the top of the road where the bus stops. I didn't even ask him to. I noticed my husband seemed to be running late for...
    Ladyscorpioz Ladyscorpioz 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    I had been married for 23 years when I fell in love with another man. I had felt disconnected from my husband for a lot of years but thought I was doing the right thing by staying...
    Alucia66 Alucia66 46-50, F Dec 11

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    The Bible teaches that the husband is the head of the home but there is a considerable amount of misunderstanding about how that leadership role is to be fulfilled. The husband is...
    sunnycaramelo sunnycaramelo 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 13

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    A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance: You may visit this...
    Ivan7X Ivan7X 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    Even When I Didn't Deserve Him-I was just a 18 year old country bumpkin from the Deep South when I met and soon married my husband of now 27 years. My family didn't like him and...
    SexiChox SexiChox 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    To be honest, I love being a house mom. I love to keep everything in order, wake up 5 am to make a good breakfast and dinner everyday. Cleaning the house, helping my daughter with...
    iamasuperwoman iamasuperwoman 26-30, F Dec 3

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