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I Divorced My Abusive Husband

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    I'm finally going to be able to file the

    paperwork this Friday. (little over a day from now.) I'm so relieved. ♡
    tinkortaylor tinkortaylor 26-30, T Jun 23, 2014

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    Loser Patrol

    it has been almost exactly 2 years since i got my divorce finalized. the only thing i can credit him with is he never hit me. but that is the only thing. other than that, he treated my like crap. i had to bail him out of jail on the 2nd night of our honeymoon. and it was all down...
    metalgirl99 metalgirl99 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    In a Divorce

    Hi, I live in Oregon and have been here for 4 yrs.  (I am from FL)  Moved here with my husband of 10 yrs. He has ALWAYS been a Control Freak and wants everything HIS WAY! He was "nice" UNTIL the Day we MARRIED.  Ever since then-it has been like I own you...
    WynterRoses01 WynterRoses01 46-50, F 4 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    Gone, and Good Riddance

    I divorced my evil ex after 2 years of torture.  He was an alcoholic who was constantly going from one binge drinking session to another.  When he would stumble home drunk he'd argue with me (to the point he'd wake me up out of sleep to fight), hit me with the phone...
    Dragonflower Dragonflower 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2007

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    He Never Loved Me

    my ex-husband was an abusive "man", or should I say child, who treated me like something on the bottom of his shoe...he yelled at me, called me every derogatory name in the book and ignored me every chance he could.    He was only abusive during sex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 24, 2007

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    2 Years Later

    I have been officially divorced for 2 years on Oct 12th. He still scares the crap out of me. I keep wanting to get a protection order, but I don't know where he lives. I mean I have a cell number for him, and his mom's number halfway across the country. He started texting me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 25, 2008

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    So Miserable

    Well this states I divorced my abusive husband...which is not true...I need to divorce him...he is such an angry person..who can make me feel two ways...1. like I'm made of gold "or" 2. I'm nothing but garbage......When he gets angry...he goes out of his way to put me...
    tracylyn245 tracylyn245 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    It Took Me 8 Years

    It took me 8 years but yes I divorced him.  It felt so good to finally be away from him.  To be hit for no reason at all other then he was angry and it did not have to be towards me.  I was just there for him to take his anger out on.  The physical and...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    In a Divorce

    Hi, I live in Oregon and have been here for 4 yrs.  (I am from FL)  Moved here with my husband of 10 yrs. He has ALWAYS been a Control Freak and wants everything HIS WAY! He was "nice" UNTIL the Day we MARRIED.  Ever since then-it has been like I own you...
    WynterRoses01 WynterRoses01 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    It Took A While But I Did It

    I'm grateful that we didn't have children. Through it all I was careful not to become pregnant. I am divorced since April 2011.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 8, 2012

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    Is It Bad to Still Think of the Good Times?

    I feel sick when I am reminded of a good time my husband and I shared. I feel guilty and become depressed. I don't know how other people's other halves were but mine was physically violent, mentally and emotionally violent and calculating. It came to a point were I honestly...
    Praying4Understanding Praying4Understanding 22-25 1 Response Jul 6, 2008

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    My husband was always abusive, always self centered, always loved. It wasn't until he decided to get his attention elsewhere that I decided to look at him for who he is. Now I'm...
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    I think my husband hates me.....My childhood was REALLY bad. My current husband also had a childhood similar to mine but was not as lucky as me and his life took a different path...
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    omg i cant take any of this anymore I am at my wits end. I actually joined this experience bc I wanted to get out of the totally unhealthy codependent controlling manipulating...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Really rough day. Was in tears and now just emotionally defeated and depleted but I need to pick myself up, dust myself off and try again tomorrow...the eternal optimist:) I need...
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    My husband once cheated on me we are not yet married that time... Its been 5years ago.. They have a child.. Now we've been married for 2 years but i still cannot move on... We have...
    misbBh misbBh 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    We were married for 8 years. He still is my best friend. I just saw him yesterday to get some stuff from the house. I didn't want to leave. We were laying on the bed just talking...
    meganm1994 meganm1994 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    I do believe that women should obey their husbands and I think that a great deal of problems in today's world can be contributed to the fact that this practice is no longer...
    KittyInDisguise KittyInDisguise 31-35, F 11 Responses Jan 19

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    I have had many issues and experiences with my husband. We have had so many ups and down and it has really affected my emotions. As of late, my husband went through a very...
    sfm21 sfm21 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    I met my husband when I was 19. He is 8 years older than me and was unhappily married at the time. While we did have a brief fling at the beginning, we remained strictly friends...
    GoddessShashini GoddessShashini 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I have already shared my experience about how I cheated on my husband. and no I'm not proud of it and I am well aware of the guilt feeling and how my husband would feel if he knew...
    idontknowwhatiwant idontknowwhatiwant 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    My parents waited until my older brother & I were both done with university. I graduated last year and my brother is in his final year (he was supposed to graduate last year before...
    lntel lntel 22-25 3 days ago

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    I met my now ex husband in early 2010. The relationship moved very quickly and we ended up getting an apartment together in August of 2010. Other than a few "little" things (his...
    abarton abarton 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I have been married to my husband for ten years, he was diagnosed about five years ago as bipolar but refuses to get help. He is very verbally abusive and I cannot take it any...
    greengeenie greengeenie 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 11

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    Its been over a month since the last time i seen or heard my husbands voice at all.. Ive been cut off.. which in a way a lot easier to cope with our seperation (now permanent...
    stuckNWEbbz stuckNWEbbz 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 16

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    A few months ago, I completely cut off my ex. We had a long and complicated history that involved a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. On his part, a lot of it was underhanded and...
    MDubs MDubs 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Things began normally. We were together a short while before his eating disorder became an issue. He would tell me in detail about his purges. I was so dependent on him I became a...
    gothstan gothstan 16-17, M 5 Responses Jan 2

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    I am not in an abusive relationship - I was in a verbal and emotionally abusive relationship but I chose to bring it to an end. Life moved on, I met someone else and Well here it...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M Jan 1

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    Man. When does the random crying cause you're children hurt stop. When I get upset about my divorce it's only due to the kids heartache never mine. I hate the ***** actually. I'd...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I just found out that my Ex-husband was into BDSM. He is like a totally different man. He seems so happy with his new girlfriend it makes me sad. He cooks and cleans for her and...
    lilpoetbear lilpoetbear 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    dear self. get a divorce. move out. you need to better your life. it's time. are you ready? mentally, yes.... maybe.. i guess you will never be ready. who ever is? it's tough. you...
    TakingFlight TakingFlight 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I keep having the same question go through my mind.. "Is he worth it?" He's an amazing person. He supports us with never ending motovation. He's a loving father that I know he...
    LadyJunebug LadyJunebug 31-35, F 10 Responses Jan 2

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    I think my head knows things are not heading in a good direction. But my heart still loves with passion and determination. When he play fights with me he is getting rougher and...
    Skylalast Skylalast 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I really thought my boyfriend was different but i guess we all do at one point. He started pushing me when he was upset which after the first tike promised he would never do again...
    tengomiedo tengomiedo 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I can't take it anymore my crazy abusive mother is calling me about every 30 mins to an hour all through the night on the phone trying to terrorize me. I eventually quit answering...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My ex is a complete a$$ hole and dies everything in his power tinsel my life miserable and try to turn my two young children on me... It's such a sad existence when all you care...
    stargazer2468 stargazer2468 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    My boyfriend is a navy officer and he was divorced a year ago. We've been dating for a little over 3 months now and he's seriously committed to our relationship. There was one...
    bluemoon92 bluemoon92 22-25, F Jan 1

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    After 4 years of divorced. Sometimes I still feel like such a failure.. How could the 23 years of marriage feels like nothing for him? But life is life and it keeps moving on.. I...
    nananomi31 nananomi31 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 8

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    I'm 38, disabled wife is 48, I'm emotionally divorced, lonely, poor, but have 3 kids so it's my duty to stay, but unhappily? IDK what to do!
    jgoffe10 jgoffe10 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 8

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    My parents got divorced while I was in 3rd grade. However, two years ago my dad remarried and the step mom has always hated me, she kicked me out twice for cutting and for coming...
    Theawkwardbrokenone Theawkwardbrokenone 13-15, F Jan 16

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    I dont know how to forget being married. I see him with another woman on Facebook so happy and I think to myself what did I do wrong? why wasn't he that happy with me? I think of...
    lilpoetbear lilpoetbear 26-30, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    I recently got out of a relationship...reason because he left to Miami for a couple of days and when he came back he was starting to be abusive and he would get mad with every...
    soccerislife14 soccerislife14 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    It started three years ago. He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and...
    ImperialGoddess76 ImperialGoddess76 18-21, F 14 Responses Jan 1

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    I have been in an abusive situation for the last thirty years. Mental torture and psychological abuse are heaped on me relentlessly by someone who is famous, rich, addicted and...
    GettingOutOfThere GettingOutOfThere 61-65, F Jan 2

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    I love the fact that after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    About 5-6 years ago I was in a very abusive relationship with a man. He and I met on a dating website and met the same day. He lived in my city. When we met, he was told I was...
    Happywife2015 Happywife2015 36-40, F Jan 11

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    Reading everyone's experiences on here is truily heartbreaking ... I've never been in an abusive relationship, but my mom is married to a man who treats her horribly he also treats...