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I Do Not Believe Suicide to Be Selfish

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 144 People

    Having Been There...

    On the verge of committing the ultimate choice one can make in their short life, I've heard it before, it's selfish of you to take your own life, you should consider the people around you and how it'll hurt them, blah blah blah, BLAH. I am 30% in agreement of that. Sure, it does...
    Neur0ticism Neur0ticism
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Mar 29, 2008

    Damaged Goods

    I don't think that anyone who hasn't been bitten by the suicide  bug would ever understand this. If someone is dying from cancer we do everything we can to make his/her final time most comfortable. I really don't know why we can't do this with people who feel suicidal. I...
    sheisme sheisme
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2007

    Everybody Dies

    No one knows their death date for sure. You could estimate when you think someone will die by looking at what they eat, how much they exercise, whether they smoke and drink or not etc. But you'll never know for certain. You could get hit by a bus today and die. People will be...
    UnseenBlossom UnseenBlossom
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2008

    Suicide Is Not Selfish

    It is more selfish to expect me to live here in unbearable pain so that I can keep you "company"? I have long since stopped being around you because of the pain. So what is the point? Suicide is freeing both of us from pain. You will get over it. The people who claim...
    summerschild summerschild
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Oct 25, 2007

    It Depends...i Guess

    Some one here said something to in the way of: if you are not suicidal, or have those feelings sometimes, then you would obviously not feel this way. I do not think it is totally selfish. Yes, some people may hurt, some may be mad. But, the families and friends only feel that...
    EricS EricS
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2008

    My Feelings On This Emotive Subject

    But!! I can accept that a lot of people feel that to commit suicide is one of the most selfish things a person can do.  The thing is unless you have been there, in that place you cannot possibly understand how one can contemplate suicide, attempt suicide and or die from the...
    cello cello
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jul 28, 2008

    Not At All

    I have lost people I Love to suicide...It hurts...Its hurts a LOT....Do I wish they were still here, yes I do, more than anything...However would I want them here if they are completely miserable? NO way.... Have I been suicidal...yes...Do I wish I had the courage to take my life...
    deleted deleted
    Oct 31, 2012

    It's All About Me Isn't It

    I don't believe I am selfish for wanting to die, it's my life so why can't I take it. You didn't give it to me, I owe you nothing. The people that did could care less so I say go for it. Sometimes you feel that low, sad, alone and you just don't see an up. If no one is there to...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality
    36-40, F
    33 Responses Nov 9, 2007

    I Have Lost Him...

    It wasn't selfish...I understood his reasoning..It hurts but I know that he was not meant for this world He showed me this world. The harshness..the cruelity.. I felt him shatter in my hands but I can not blame him He was the embodiment of life to me and he showed me what it...
    HanaNoMizu HanaNoMizu
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2009

    Dead Eye

    while slowly wandering along a dirt fire road that winds through the hills of their home town, during a cool moon lit night, he turned to her and said, "it hurts doesn't it, i mean it really ******* hurts." a little shocked to hear such a thing on such a lovely...
    CopperCoil CopperCoil
    36-40, M
    Jun 10, 2008

    It Can Be...but...

    In a way it can be selfish, because It does affect the people you leave behind deeply. But it's just as selfish as the people that want to take your choice away and say your "crazy" for wanting to die. It's not their life. They want you to live for THEMSELVES, so they don't have...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 29, 2011

    Define 'selfish'

    I knew a woman who adopted a dog from a shelter. The dog's previous owner had died, and the creature was depressed to the point where it didn't even want to eat. He and his owner had lived on the other side of town, and the dog would always stare at the garden gate, looking off...
    MilkMoon MilkMoon
    18-21, F
    Nov 24, 2011

    Been On Both Sides

    I personally don't think suicide is selfish but I do see where people are coming from when they say that it is. I have been on both sides being suicidal myself and having lost someone I love to suicide. But I believe that people who say it is selfish should look at the other side...
    suicidalloser183 suicidalloser183
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2012

    Bestfriend,family,boyfriend,supporter,love Dies At Once

    my boyfriend of 2 years past away 2 months ago he was the only person that has ever been there for me unconditoionally, i dont want to find anyone else i know i could move on but i dont want too whats so wrong of not wanting to be here anymore whos more selfish? me for not...
    bellagirl777 bellagirl777
    18-21, F
    Aug 9, 2011
    deleted deleted
    Oct 31, 2012


    I am very much "pro-suicide". We as individuals have many choices in our lives. What we wear, where we live, where we work, when we eat, what medications to take. But the most significant event in our lives -death- we are forbidden to have any choice over. There is a huge stigma...
    Mediocre Mediocre
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 19, 2010

    If ...

    If so many people suffer from your death it's suposed to mean that they loved you right ? Well I have one question, if they cared so much about you how the **** did you en up killing yourself ? When my parents stoped one of my suicide atempts they preached me and told me...
    ruedecascades ruedecascades
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2008

    I Do Believe There Is Hope

    As someone who has been nearly at the end of my rope, completely helpless, hopeless and heartbroken more than once, I can definitely say that those who are suicidal have their reasons for feeling that way. Sometimes it is events they can't yet come to terms with. Sometimes it is...
    PewterFantasy PewterFantasy
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 22, 2008

    Finally Know How To Do It And Almost Have The Means To Do It

    After years of research and longing now have the method and almost the means to do it. I have to do it slowly as I don't want to bring on undue interest by family. But I still stand by my original proposition that suicide is not selfish. I find it freeing. It frees the family...
    summerschild summerschild
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 1, 2010

    Wasted Time

    All this time spent here, is just wasted time. I already know what I want. And what I want is to die. I don’t care about anyone here in this world, and why should I? when no one has expressed any interest in caring for me, not that it matters anyway. I am going to end my life...
    hjenni911 hjenni911
    4 Responses Jan 18, 2011

    Deny Thy Father And Refuse Thy Name; Or, If Thou Wilt Not, Be But Sworn My Love, And I'll No Longer Be A Capulet.

    Were Romeo and Juliet acting selfishly when they committed suicide? Or were their families the selfish ones for not putting aside their differences, for letting it get that far, for not being willing to go against the way things had always been, for assuming that everything was...
    shannonymous shannonymous
    18-21, F
    Nov 7, 2012

    Any decision one makes generally has its

    effects, to varying degrees on their loved ones. It is not selfish to take a way out of a bad, irreparable situation. Yes, it is noble to persevere and go on, but it is understandable to be overwhelmed, to run out of ardor. Is it selfish to move away for a better job? Is it...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 17, 2014

    I Lost the Love of My Life to Suicide..

    I don't believe that what he did was selfish. I believe that he honestly didn't know whatelse to do. I think he missed his sister and wanted to be with her again. I think Slade loved me with all that he was, but just couldn't stay in a world where all he felt was sadness and hurt...
    Sylverwynd Sylverwynd
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 10, 2008

    What's Selfish Is Calling Someone Selfish and Cowardly Just Because Your Feelings Are Hurt

    Anyone who wants to die is already hurt a lot more than their suicide could ever hurt you. I know this because if it DID hurt you more than they hurt, you'd kill yourself too. All of us have a threshold of pain and when that is crossed we can't take it anymore. If you can't...
    AngelaDark AngelaDark
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Nov 23, 2007

    Selfish For Whom

    How can it be called selfish to not want to bring others down with your pain If you are mentally ill how can it be selfish to choose not to burden those you love with it and all its details How is it selfish if you will not be missed, when you are alone in the world How can it...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    37 Responses Jul 3, 2008

    Social Suicide.

    My depression is getting worse....Its a horrible empty feeling and I just feel like everyone else would be better off without me. I cant stop it. I mean have you ever thought about your funeral and which of your friends would show up? lately that is all I can think about. I have...
    muffintopwarrior muffintopwarrior
    18-21, F
    Aug 12, 2008

    Getting Closer To Time To Go

    I had a hard time figuring out the anti enemic but getting there. I will call the doctor and find a way to get the drug. Of the 3 drugs I need I have 2 of them fully and one very close. It will be soon but not soon enough. My family will be so much better off when I am gone. The...
    summerschild summerschild
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jun 22, 2010

    It All Depends

    I personally believe that if you are truely in pain and decide to kill yourself that you are not being selfish as long as you were truely in pain. However, if you kill yourself over something stupid (which many people have done) then you are being selfish. There's a difference...
    BleedingMascara BleedingMascara
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 22, 2008

    To Anyone Who Thinks That Suicide Is Not Selfish,please Read. I Have Been On Both Sides.

    I have been suicidal and thought as you are thinking now,I lost 3 family members to suicide so I know both sides. Personally,I am glad that I did not take my life 20 years ago although I wanted to very badly and even tried over 20 times. I felt like you do now,that since I was...
    Justjoan Justjoan
    46-50, F
    2 Responses May 17, 2008


    she had demons more than any of us could ever imagine.       it would have been selfish of us to ask her to live when she didnt feel she could any more.         doing something for yourself, when you are that desperate, isnt selfish. it...
    Tesse Tesse
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 7, 2009

    Everyone's Own Decision

    If I would define the word 'selfish' it would be something along the lines "an act or thought that is commited in a way that benefits the commiter on the expense of others." If this is what selfish means, then I hardly think suicide fits the picture. I wouldn't call...
    Fearofsilence Fearofsilence
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2009
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