I Do Not Feel Sorry For People Who Do Not Help Themselves

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    Id rather teach a person to fish,

    rather than feed them fish!
    adriansimoes adriansimoes
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 16, 2015

    Homeless For 4 Years?

    I understand being homeless. Things get tight and you suddenly realize you are in over your head. Then you try and try but you seem to be digging deeper into that hole and POOF!.... Your landlord kicks you out, or you lose that home you're buying. I've been there a few times...
    FellidayaFiresong FellidayaFiresong
    31-35, F
    Sep 3, 2012

    I Hate Helping People Who Don't Try

     I mean, God Damn, when I help someone, I don't ask for something back. All I want to see is that my help has benefitted them, that they've accomplished something, gone further because I've helped them. You don't even have say thank you, or show gratitude...
    BrownEyedMystery BrownEyedMystery
    3 Responses Apr 9, 2009

    Surrounded By Idiots Who Don'T Help Themselves

    I must begin by saying I have tried all my life to be as independent as possible and learn as much as I can about any and all subjects. Almost all I learned was self-taught. For example, though I had English classes, after learning the basics in fifth and sixth grade, I studied...
    xptomaluco69 xptomaluco69
    22-25, M
    Jun 15, 2013

    But I Am Expected To...

    I'm expected to give money to people who won't work (my neice)..I'm expected to "understand" that she doesn't wanna work because she's never had to...I'm expected to have "empathy" for her "situation" because she's overweight...You wanna know what I...
    freedomlovingypsy freedomlovingypsy
    31-35, F
    12 Responses Apr 9, 2009

    Its Their Fault.

    My one friend always felt bad for overweight people. I never did and dont now ever. Its their fault, if theyre fat its not like someone forced them to eat fast food every meal or shove everything dowsn their throat (probably not haha.) People like that say look at me im fat feel...
    LoveLindseyMusic420 LoveLindseyMusic420
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Aug 7, 2009

    Here is Practical Explanation about Next Life,

    Purpose of Human Life, philosophical/religious facts, theories etc. ___________________________ *********** Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- `1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what...
    bolt0 bolt0
    22-25, M
    Dec 7, 2013

    I wish I can say this completely

    but I got a soft heart and I'm a sucker for a sob story
    sirnatural sirnatural
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    If your not going to at least help yourself

    Don't asks me to help you. I won't feel bad when I say no
    staystyleandsmile staystyleandsmile
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 26


    OMG I have never encountered someone this absolutely helpless. It seriously makes me sick. I have tried to help her. She has an excuse for EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING. She recently lost her husband, who was the family's only source of income (Social Security Disability). She has two...
    TattooedMissez TattooedMissez
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2011


    That is what they are.  They cheat themselves out of the happiness that they could have. They also cheat others out of good relationships with them. I used to feel sorry for people but I don't anymore.  At least not for people who just sit on their butts and don't do anything...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 16, 2011

    No I Really Don't....

    If you are not going to put forth the effort to help yourself, and do what you think you need to do, to help yourself have a better life, than I really am not going to feel sorry for you. I will give you advice and do my best to help you, but if you are just using me, to have...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 25, 2010


    What exactly is help themselves?
    YBlah YBlah
    Nov 13, 2013

    I used to have all the patience in the world

    with those type of people. Not anymore. If someone doesn't want to change things for the better, I'm not wasting my energy to be ignored.
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 15, 2015

    Professional Complainers

    It's annoying hearing the same complaints over and over again involving the same situations or people from someone, especially if they do not seem to be interested in resolving the situation. Some of them want others to solve their problems for them and others just enjoy...
    Morgause Morgause
    41-45, F
    Nov 14, 2010

    Lazy, Self-absorbed Mother.

     I do not feel sorry for people who do not help themselves because I grew up with a mother who was the most self-absorbed, self-pitying, spoiled brat of a woman that I have ever met.  She has never done an honest days work in her life while my father works himself to...
    bjordan3 bjordan3
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    Love Being the Helping Hand But You Know Sometimes

    Sometimes I get punished for my kindnesses. Sometimes you try to help people who end up wanting you to do all the damn legwork. It gets tiresome real fast and I love helping people. Makes me feel great inside, like I won a medal or cured cancer but I cannot care for those who...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 10, 2009

    I have a friend who told several people a HUGE

    lie, it involved someone dying when they did not. Well, now everyone is ditching him, and he said I am the only one left, but he doesn't want to put it all on me. Normally, I would feel bad for someone who has no one else to turn to, but now I don't. If people trust you and you...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Nov 17, 2015

    I found myself saying this to someone

    yesterday: "You can't help those who don't want to help themselves." You have to be ready to cut things off once they start hurting you with their actions. These people care of nothing but of their own pain. They don't want to change. They make excuses for everything they do...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 19

    Unfair Maybe, But Sorry

    I usually lose patience with them. Thinking about it, I guess it is a bit unfair that I tend to care more about those who have the courage to try and keep on going than those who sit around moping and whining about how things never get better for them. I have met...
    june1999 june1999
    31-35, F
    14 Responses Jul 12, 2009

    No I Don't and I Don't Have Too!!!

    If you want help and are willing and trying and giving it your all then this ISN'T about YOU!!! For those who refuse to work or even try to support or care for yourself, always looking for a hand out but never helping others not because you can't but because you are unwilling and...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe
    36-40, F
    4 Responses May 27, 2009

    Do Something.

    I don't mean to be cruel, judgemental, or uncaring for others, but I cannot stand watching people just let themselves go in every aspect of their lives. It frustrates me to see people struggle, beg, and desire for things that are not so far fetched yet they give up before they...
    Ardestin Ardestin
    22-25, F
    24 Responses Apr 9, 2009

    There's only so much one can do

    before realizing they are going to keep getting what they deserve because they simply don't want your help or listen. So that's when I hand over the shovel and tell them to have at it.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 25

    If you don't try then don't expect my

    assistance. At least show society that you are really trying.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits
    22-25, M
    Dec 15, 2015

    I Know What You're Saying Is True

    I know, I had a friend who slept till noon and smoked the day away and then she'd draw the welfare and bum money off anyone that would loan it to her and she never paid back one dime but she'd go blow it on Bingo or fast food and then she'd bum some more but never ever would she...
    imahag imahag
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Apr 9, 2009

    I Dont Feel Sorry For People Who Do Not Help Themselves.

    This is a topic that bothers me alot. I jus hate the fact that certain people feel like they should be handed everything without doing anything. Yes we have basic human needs but sometimes its taken too far. Alot of people are lazy and expect things to come easily which is not...
    applescruffs applescruffs
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Aug 29, 2009

    The Worst of Humanity...

    ...especially when they are intelligent and aware enough to at least ask for a small assist; maybe get up and move out of the puddle of drying puke they are festering in.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 6, 2009

    I Don't Feel Sorry

    I don't feel sorry,People,Who won't help themselves,Don't even try,Feel sorry for themselves,Nothin' else matters,What are they thinking?Why don't they give it a go?They might be surprised.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Feb 27, 2012

    No Doubt ...

    I dont feel sorry for ppl who dont try to help themselves in any troubles They are dependent and couldn't cope with problems in their lives How could you expect helps from others If you yourself dont even give it a try We are all physically equal We have 2 hands .. 2 legs...
    DollyDiva DollyDiva
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Sep 23, 2009

    Behind Your Own Personal Steering Wheel

    Don't get me wrong, I am a very compassionate person I believe. I hate the thought of people hurting, and will go out of my way to help others. But I am starting to realise that I can't help anyone if thet are not willing to help themselves. EP has been a BIG factor in my...
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2010

    I Dont Feel Sorry For People Who Do Not Help Themselves.

    This is a topic that bothers me alot. I jus hate the fact that certain people feel like they should be handed everything without doing anything. Yes we have basic human needs but sometimes its taken too far. Alot of people are lazy and expect things to come easily which is not...
    applescruffs applescruffs
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 29, 2009
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