I Do Not Know If I Want Children

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    I Just Don't Think I Want Children. . .

    I've never been maternal at all, never felt the urge to have a baby. My sister has two and most of my friends and my boyfriends friends have them and now that I've turned 30 I'm starting to have to think about it. My boyfriend has made it clear that he has to have children and...
    RachelGreen147 RachelGreen147
    2 Responses Aug 10, 2009

    Didn't Want Child, Then Wanted, Now Confused - Help!

    When I was a child, I decided that I didn't want to have a child when I grew up. I guess there were many reasons for this - my parents had an unhappy marriage; I found younger children irritating; I thought the world and people in it were just getting worse and worse...
    dollsteak dollsteak
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2013

    Should I Have Kids?

    I am so torn.  I do not know what I should do.  I am 33, so I have some time...but can't wait forever. I have 2  beautiful step daughters, ages 6 and 9.  I love being a step mom, but it is difficult at times.  A lot of work and no appreciation. ...
    Anlienisse Anlienisse
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Aug 18, 2007

    ... And If Then When. Can You Think Of Anything Other Than...

    ... what's in this table on this page: http://www.vhemt.org/biobreed.htm Bigger version: http://www.vhemt.org/whybreed.jpg Bigger version: http://www.vhemt.org/paternalinstinct.gif Bigger version: http://www.vhemt.org/humanfamily.jpg Hmmm.... I wonder. Can anyone think of...
    randomblue13 randomblue13
    70+, M
    3 Responses Aug 16, 2012

    Children Or No Children?

    My finace and I are getting married in less than a month. We are both 23. He is very adamant about not wanting children. I am adamant about not wanting children for at least 10 years because we have large student loan debt, I have a good education, and a really good job that is...
    kjschro kjschro
    1 Response Aug 11, 2011

    Children Or Great Career?

    I'm 35, have a great - but very demanding job. My husband is a workoholilc (15 hour days are normal for him) so effectively I'm a single parent with one child. Inspite of all this we're a happy family and take time out for vacations. Now the question is whether to have a second...
    Liotta Liotta
    Apr 19, 2012

    Is Being a Mummy For Me? and Why Dont I Know?!!

    I am 32 and happily married to my gorgeous husband who I adore. we have a great marriage, just coming up to our first anniversary and I would never be without him.  Recently, dont know if its age, or hormones or body clock but I am finding myself constantly battling...
    girlconfused girlconfused
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 15, 2007

    I'm Very Confused....

         I never thought about having kids before now.  I don't know how to interact with them, talk to them, and I don't even know how to hold a baby!  I got married recently (1st marriage for both, and neither of us has kids), so I know that if I...
    lgraz83 lgraz83
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2009

    Young But Unsure

    I'm only 22, which I know is still pretty young, but honestly I've never been crazy about kids my whole life, and to this day I really don't know if I want to have kids.  This is tough for me because I've always been a very sensitive, nurturing person so it seems almost...
    caitlinphoenix caitlinphoenix
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 28, 2009

    Kids On The Mind

    I am a 25 (almost 26) year old female. I have been with my partner for almost 5 years. We have both talked about having kids, but never seriously until just recently. I think we are getting closer and closer to the idea of wanting kids, but there is still part of us that is...
    Aws808 Aws808
    Feb 22, 2011

    I Think So, But...

    Would I be a good father? Can I take care of kids? Can I raise them? How many would I have? What kind of world would I bring them in to? There are so many questions, so many worries, so many wonders. I just hope that if/when I do have kids I'll be able to be the best father...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss
    18-21, M
    3 Responses May 22, 2008

    How Long Do I Wait?

    I'm 27 & engaged; we've been together almost 6 yrs. We've had financial problems as others do; we both always said we want to get married/have kids. About a year ago we found out that my fiance has ADHD and he is 30. Getting him to take his meds can be a battle and...
    TeresaMW82 TeresaMW82
    26-30, F
    Dec 1, 2009

    Never Knew Before, Still Don'T Know Now

    I was diagnosed with PCOS as a teenager and spent most of my adult life believing I was infertile. Two separate doctors told me I would not be able to have children, and my mother told me it was better that way. When I married my husband, he was older and told me he didn't want...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti
    26-30, F
    Apr 28, 2013


    I am 28 years old and my boyfriend of 4 years is 30 years old.  We both have good educations and are in stable careers; our future looks quite promising.  Most of our friends have children and we often talk about having our own... he seems quite unsure and is leaning...
    Lylas17 Lylas17
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2010

    Not So Sure

    I have been with my guy for over 5 years, and we have been married for one and a half of those years. He wants children, actually if he had it his way, we would have at least one 5 year old. He has a very unstable relationship with his parents, especially with his father. His...
    HCurry416 HCurry416
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2008

    Children Or No Children?

    I'm intereseted to hear from other people in my same boat. I was divorced about two years ago because I had determined that I didn't want to have children - my ex-husband did (we had other issues - but that was a big one). Now, I'm 29 years old and in a great relationship. At...
    Notsosure Notsosure
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 6, 2007

    I Want Children, He Doesn't Know If He Does

    My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years, we are 12 yrs apart, he has 3 teenage boys from previous relationships. We recently broke up for other reasons but have been talking about getting back together. He and I have always talked about having a child...
    czinno czinno
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2009

    Children If And Only If I Find True Love? Or Should I Settle Down Just To Have Kids?

    Hi All, I am a 29-year-old woman. I had a long term relationship (5 years) until we we broke up 2 years ago. Since then, I have dated but not had a serious relationship. All my friends are married and some have babies. I feel that I need to make a decision. The doctors say...
    stephie33 stephie33
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 26, 2010

    I Want To Live My Life. Is That So Wrong?

    I'm 25, turning 26. Me and my boyfriend both work. He wants kids in the future. He says it's point of being to procreate and bring future offspring into this world. We are both, in my eyes, in the first parts of living life to the fullest. We still haven't matured into the end of...
    ShouldILaughOrCry ShouldILaughOrCry
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 3, 2013
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