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I Do Not Like Being Told To Just Get Over Past Abuses

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    They Don'T Understand....

    Nobody can understand what going through abuse is like unless they've been through it. It affects everybody differently. I've told few people of my past because I don't want them to feel sorry for me or act any differently towards me. The couple of close friends I did tell...
    HyperAngel HyperAngel 18-21, F Feb 10, 2013

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    Apparently Its My Fault

    The sister in law of my abuser, who allows her children to be babysat by him, told me to just get over it and move on with my life. She also told me that if anything happened to her girls, it was my fault for not speaking up. Her words were "God for bid if it did happen to my...
    AntiqueMirrors AntiqueMirrors 26-30 1 Response Jun 23, 2012

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    Once Upon A Time, How I Love To Hear Those Words.

    Growing up every Saturday after taking a bath in the old wash tubs we would all say, "mom tell us a story."  Then we would all sit quiet and listen pationtently for mom to begin with:  Once Upon a Time and our minds would begin to drift off into those wonderful scenes of far...
    jonjon3962 jonjon3962 66-70 Jan 8, 2011

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    Telling some one to "get over it"

    or "you shouldn't be sad because there are people way worse off than you" is like telling someone they can't be happy because there are people way better off than you
    irreelevance irreelevance 16-17, F 3 Responses May 30

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    Basic Story Of My Abuse

    I was abused by a step-father from the age of seven to eleven. I was told everyday that if I told anyone that I would be killed. For five years I dealt with the physical abuse, mental torture and abuse. He would beat me and laugh at me. He found out I was afraid of mice and he...
    Brokenlikeaturtleshell Brokenlikeaturtleshell 36-40, F Sep 9, 2012

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    Its Provocative And Careless

    to tell genuine hurting people to just get over it. I understand the pains and humilations of child sexual abuse and child emotional and psychological and physical abuse. its the last thing they want to hear is "just GET over it" ... my spiritual healer, Doret said she hear a...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Sep 9, 2011

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    I do not like being told to just get over my

    past, and to just get over the abuse that I have gone through. I don't believe anyone can just get over it. You have to deal with it, you have to come to terms with it, you have to understand it, because if not, than it will always be with you, and haunt you. I am trying to deal...
    AlyAngel AlyAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2013

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    I have only been away from my mother's abuse

    for 6 months but I still get anxiety attacks when I think to hard about it all and I still flinch if somebody moves their hands to fast... No body should be told to get over past abuse. If anything they should be helped.
    Watson1450 Watson1450 16-17, F May 31

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    Here's My Miserable, Empty Life

    Im only 14 years old, and all my life I've been filled with fantasy because reality is just so empty, hurtful and unstandable. I tried to kill myself on february, on my birthday, and I tried again days later. The pills didn't work, and there was no change in my life. I hate my...
    JaneLimNat JaneLimNat 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2012

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    I'm the opposite, I do like to be told to get

    over it. I wish people would say that more often. That's why I couldn't go to counseling - one session and I knew I'd never go back - because, the counselor was too sympathetic. I wanted them to just say "get over it. It was ages ago, and it wasn't even that bad. Get over it...
    CrazyKid4 CrazyKid4 16-17, F 1 Response May 1

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    Don't you think that

    if it was that easy to "just get over it" I'd be over it by now...like really just get over it?? Wow I haven't tried that yet -_-
    irreelevance irreelevance 16-17, F 2 Responses May 2

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    Abuse Never Ends

    I am alone! My family and "friends" have bullied me for most of my life. I spend holidays and birthdays alone because I am unable to hear any more unsolicited criticism from family and friends. Many of my "friends" have used me to advance in college and in their careers. They ALL...
    BulliedAndBeaten BulliedAndBeaten 36-40, F Nov 13, 2012

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    I Just Cant Get Away From It All.

    I moved thousands of miles away and it feels like I cant get away from everyone who turned their backs on me. Ive been abused for as long as I can remember and all by family memebers. Ive searched for help in those who you d think would be the main people in my life I could turn...
    g3nuin3nhop3ful g3nuin3nhop3ful 26-30, F Sep 7, 2012

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    How can you get other some

    that haunts you every single day? You may ask me how here is the answer. When I was young about the age of four/five I remeber very little but they say you remember the bad things which I can say is true. I was four my brother was six/seven we got abused be our sister day in...
    WannaBeAna1 WannaBeAna1 13-15, F Jun 1

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    I was once told to "get over it",

    the abuse that is. I wish it was that simple. Its always easier for the person on the outside looking in.
    goodwitch011070 goodwitch011070 41-45, F 1 Response May 31

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    One Finger Salute

    And there they go, the picture of the perfect family. A man, a woman, two kids. The oldest of the children holding on to the side of the buggy as the parents talk and laugh as they go about their day. Only, everyone knows the man's a rapist, they just don't want to admit it to...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    At The Age Of 4 My Mom Met A Man That Would In Time Ruin My Life. Him And His Family. My Mom Had It Rough And I Try Not To Blame Her But It Is So Hard... Her Mother Died When She Was A Baby And Her Father In Turn Just Gave Her To His Parents So She Was Ne

    At the age of 4 my mom met a man that would in time ruin my life. Him and his family. My mom had it rough and I try not to blame her but it is so hard... Her mother died when she was a baby and her father in turn just gave her to his parents so she was never shown how to be the...
    tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt 26-30, F Jul 9, 2012

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    In no situation EVER is it ok to tell someone

    to get over abuse. The only thing ok to say is that you are there for them, and that they are brave!
    BigCountryEStories BigCountryEStories 18-21, M May 31

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago,

    and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17 whether they like it or not, they cannot make me stay. I am done with my mother telling me that I am a mean and ugly ***** . She says...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    You don't get "over it.

    " You deal with it,day by day,minute by minute. The trick is to deal with it in an effective and productive manner for YOU and you only. There are those out there that don't understand,that lack empathy or understanding...see them for what they are.
    lonelybutok lonelybutok 46-50, F Jun 21

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    Please do not tell to get over it.

    . . I grew up training myself to go into robot mood, because I had witnessed a violent childhood. I was never taught to release my feeling an easy matter. Now that I am learning who I am and that I have feeling and emotions. . . they feel extreme to me. I have extreme emotion...
    RebekahWriter13 RebekahWriter13 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 30

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    What a stupid thing to say.

    Of course they're trying to get over it. Saying that is idiotic, unhelpful and ignorant.
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 31

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    because clearly no one understands me,

    and they would never understand how much misery I've been through
    craz3f8g craz3f8g 18-21 3 Responses Feb 18

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    "issues"

    My ex best friend.We'd been "best" friends since 2nd grade.  Recently, after years of building hostility, it flooded out, I told her off.She was s rich snob, self centered and a b****.  She stepped on people when they were already down, flirted with our best friend's boyfriend...
    NowYouSeeMe NowYouSeeMe 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2012

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    COMPLETELY YES. That's none of YOUR business

    ****. And be careful the words what you speak in front of survivors. Stay strong or ..yeah i've been told..many times. They never understand until they have same experiences.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 21

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    Abuse

    Forgive- maybe.....Forget- NEVER
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 16, 2011

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    I Can't..

    I can't "just get over the past". It happened and it has affected the person I am today. People ask me about why I am in pain or why I do things a certian way or why I lower myself into a ball or even why on certian days I can't come out of the house. Then they say "well you...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2011

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    No

    I do not like being told to just get over my past, and to just get over the abuse that I have gone through. I don't believe anyone can just get over it. You have to deal with it, you have to come to terms with it, you have to understand it, because if not, than it will always be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    My Past Has Passed

    "Your past has passed" My reflection:  How many times to we tell ourselves something that happened in our past will repeat itself in the future?  Why do we believe in self-sabotage? If we had a bad marriage we tell ourselves that we will never find the right person.  If we...
    iwritebiographies iwritebiographies 41-45, F Jul 8, 2011

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    My Mother Says To Me.

    My mother had abused me as a kid and my cousin sexually abused me as a kid. When I would bring it up. My mother says to me " Grow up, and get over it".
    AvaLynne AvaLynne 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2012

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    Need Help?

    I love to give advice. if anyone has a question about anything then message me. questions about anything. my life, guys, makeup or even how to get through rape,or your mom leaving you. ive been through it all and i really want to help just remember ~through every dark...
    cocopufffxoxo cocopufffxoxo 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    Like They Would Know.

    I hear this alot from family and my therapist,, they say stuff like i know how you feel but you got to get over it. Really if you truly knew how i felt you would not say stupid crap like this. Then my therapist is all like you need to forgive your abuser. I forgive people who...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 13, 2012

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    I do not like being told to just get over my

    past, and to just get over the abuse that I have gone through. I don't believe anyone can just get over it. You have to deal with it, you have to come to terms with it, you have to understand it, because if not, than it will always be with you, and haunt you. I am trying to deal...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    No Kidding!

    I know full well that I need to "get over" my past.  It's just not that blasted easy.  My head is a mass of programming and crap He did to make sure I stayed docile.  My body remembers things that I don't yet.  Just last night I triggered a panic attack just by trying to post...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2011

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    There are some things

    that can't he forgiven,or forgotten. ..
    RocknRollCowboy71 RocknRollCowboy71 41-45, M 1 Response May 31

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    How Disrespectful!

    If you have ever been abused in any way, you KNOW what a heartless and disrespectful thing it is to tell someone else to "get over it". Abuse doesn't just go away as soon as it stops happening. It sticks. It haunts you and affects everything you do and everyone you are close to...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 22, 2011

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    I Didn't Realize What Happened To Me As A Child Was Affecting Me Now As An Adult...

    It's really hard for me when I have poored my feelings out to someone about being molested and they don't understand how hard it is to get over. When they don't know the pain it causes and the issues it causes. I didn't even know that it was affecting me until someone slapped me...
    tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9, 2012

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    I cried and I crumbled in you're arms,

    I was broken and lonely, my heartache had grown, I trusted you to catch me when I fell so low, how can you tell me to get over this blow. My love has gone, forever and a day, now not even you can take this pain away. I lay there at night with a pillow over my sight, to catch my...
    traceyannmay traceyannmay 22-25, F May 1

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    Noone Should Be Told To Just Get Over It

    My exboyfriend beat, raped and terrorized me for a year and a half. My family claims how they understand, but how can they claim that, if I'm told I deserved every bit of abuse I got. That I should just get over it and move on! The only one who understands is my therapist and the...
    grizzycat grizzycat 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 14, 2012

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    Such A Clichéd Way Of Saying...

    ...I could not care less about how you feel. ...I don't want to listen to you. Shut up already. ...your problems mean nothing to me. ...it's not a big deal to me so it shouldn't be a big deal to you. ...you're exaggerating/making it up for attention. ...I don't understand you...
    DescendingAutumn DescendingAutumn 16-17 2 Responses Jun 26, 2012

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    Get Over What Exactly?

    See I have amnesia of my abuse, and I don't know exactly what happened. I have been getting body memories and emotional reactions, and I know it was bad, it was sexual and involved torture, and I know the perpetrator was my Not-mother. It's most painful when my family (mainly...
    Handed Handed 41-45, F Jul 6, 2012

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