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I Do Not Like Being Told To Just Get Over Past Abuses

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    No Kidding!

    I know full well that I need to "get over" my past.  It's just not that blasted easy.  My head is a mass of programming and crap He did to make sure I stayed docile.  My body remembers things that I don't yet.  Just last night I triggered a panic attack just by trying to post...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2011

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    Need Help?

    I love to give advice. if anyone has a question about anything then message me. questions about anything. my life, guys, makeup or even how to get through rape,or your mom leaving you. ive been through it all and i really want to help just remember ~through every dark...
    cocopufffxoxo cocopufffxoxo 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    No

    I do not like being told to just get over my past, and to just get over the abuse that I have gone through. I don't believe anyone can just get over it. You have to deal with it, you have to come to terms with it, you have to understand it, because if not, than it will always be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    "issues"

    My ex best friend.We'd been "best" friends since 2nd grade.  Recently, after years of building hostility, it flooded out, I told her off.She was s rich snob, self centered and a b****.  She stepped on people when they were already down, flirted with our best friend's boyfriend...
    NowYouSeeMe NowYouSeeMe 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2012

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    My Mother Says To Me.

    My mother had abused me as a kid and my cousin sexually abused me as a kid. When I would bring it up. My mother says to me " Grow up, and get over it".
    AvaLynne AvaLynne 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2012

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    At The Age Of 4 My Mom Met A Man That Would In Time Ruin My Life. Him And His Family. My Mom Had It Rough And I Try Not To Blame Her But It Is So Hard... Her Mother Died When She Was A Baby And Her Father In Turn Just Gave Her To His Parents So She Was Ne

    At the age of 4 my mom met a man that would in time ruin my life. Him and his family. My mom had it rough and I try not to blame her but it is so hard... Her mother died when she was a baby and her father in turn just gave her to his parents so she was never shown how to be the...
    tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt 26-30, F Jul 9, 2012

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    Once Upon A Time, How I Love To Hear Those Words.

    Growing up every Saturday after taking a bath in the old wash tubs we would all say, "mom tell us a story."  Then we would all sit quiet and listen pationtently for mom to begin with:  Once Upon a Time and our minds would begin to drift off into those wonderful scenes of far...
    jonjon3962 jonjon3962 70+ Jan 8, 2011

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    I do not like being told to just get over my

    past, and to just get over the abuse that I have gone through. I don't believe anyone can just get over it. You have to deal with it, you have to come to terms with it, you have to understand it, because if not, than it will always be with you, and haunt you. I am trying to deal...
    AlyAngel AlyAngel 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2013

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    Like They Would Know.

    I hear this alot from family and my therapist,, they say stuff like i know how you feel but you got to get over it. Really if you truly knew how i felt you would not say stupid crap like this. Then my therapist is all like you need to forgive your abuser. I forgive people who...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 13, 2012

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    Abuse

    Forgive- maybe.....Forget- NEVER
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M Apr 16, 2011

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    Here's My Miserable, Empty Life

    Im only 14 years old, and all my life I've been filled with fantasy because reality is just so empty, hurtful and unstandable. I tried to kill myself on february, on my birthday, and I tried again days later. The pills didn't work, and there was no change in my life. I hate my...
    JaneLimNat JaneLimNat 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 12, 2012

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    I Just Cant Get Away From It All.

    I moved thousands of miles away and it feels like I cant get away from everyone who turned their backs on me. Ive been abused for as long as I can remember and all by family memebers. Ive searched for help in those who you d think would be the main people in my life I could turn...
    g3nuin3nhop3ful g3nuin3nhop3ful 26-30, F Sep 7, 2012

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    Apparently Its My Fault

    The sister in law of my abuser, who allows her children to be babysat by him, told me to just get over it and move on with my life. She also told me that if anything happened to her girls, it was my fault for not speaking up. Her words were "God for bid if it did happen to my...
    AntiqueMirrors AntiqueMirrors 26-30 2 Responses Jun 23, 2012

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    Everyone in my life tells me this.

    You're past is what shapes you as a a person and people always tell you to remember your past but then once you do it's wrong. My parents get at me for holding grudges against them and especially with them both being Christian they are completely against me not forgiving them...
    Alyssa5977 Alyssa5977 13-15, F Feb 21

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    Its Provocative And Careless

    to tell genuine hurting people to just get over it. I understand the pains and humilations of child sexual abuse and child emotional and psychological and physical abuse. its the last thing they want to hear is "just GET over it" ... my spiritual healer, Doret said she hear a...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Sep 9, 2011

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    Get Over What Exactly?

    See I have amnesia of my abuse, and I don't know exactly what happened. I have been getting body memories and emotional reactions, and I know it was bad, it was sexual and involved torture, and I know the perpetrator was my Not-mother. It's most painful when my family (mainly...
    Handed Handed 41-45, F Jul 6, 2012

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    Abuse Never Ends

    I am alone! My family and "friends" have bullied me for most of my life. I spend holidays and birthdays alone because I am unable to hear any more unsolicited criticism from family and friends. Many of my "friends" have used me to advance in college and in their careers. They ALL...
    BulliedAndBeaten BulliedAndBeaten 36-40, F Nov 13, 2012

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    Such A Clichéd Way Of Saying...

    ...I could not care less about how you feel. ...I don't want to listen to you. Shut up already. ...your problems mean nothing to me. ...it's not a big deal to me so it shouldn't be a big deal to you. ...you're exaggerating/making it up for attention. ...I don't understand you...
    DescendingAutumn DescendingAutumn 16-17 1 Response Jun 26, 2012

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    My Past Has Passed

    "Your past has passed" My reflection:  How many times to we tell ourselves something that happened in our past will repeat itself in the future?  Why do we believe in self-sabotage? If we had a bad marriage we tell ourselves that we will never find the right person.  If we...
    iwritebiographies iwritebiographies 41-45, F Jul 8, 2011

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    Basic Story Of My Abuse

    I was abused by a step-father from the age of seven to eleven. I was told everyday that if I told anyone that I would be killed. For five years I dealt with the physical abuse, mental torture and abuse. He would beat me and laugh at me. He found out I was afraid of mice and he...
    Brokenlikeaturtleshell Brokenlikeaturtleshell 36-40, F Sep 9, 2012

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    I Can't..

    I can't "just get over the past". It happened and it has affected the person I am today. People ask me about why I am in pain or why I do things a certian way or why I lower myself into a ball or even why on certian days I can't come out of the house. Then they say "well you...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2011

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    How Disrespectful!

    If you have ever been abused in any way, you KNOW what a heartless and disrespectful thing it is to tell someone else to "get over it". Abuse doesn't just go away as soon as it stops happening. It sticks. It haunts you and affects everything you do and everyone you are close to...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 22, 2011

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    I Didn't Realize What Happened To Me As A Child Was Affecting Me Now As An Adult...

    It's really hard for me when I have poored my feelings out to someone about being molested and they don't understand how hard it is to get over. When they don't know the pain it causes and the issues it causes. I didn't even know that it was affecting me until someone slapped me...
    tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt tryingtogetthroughsomuchhurt 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9, 2012

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    Noone Should Be Told To Just Get Over It

    My exboyfriend beat, raped and terrorized me for a year and a half. My family claims how they understand, but how can they claim that, if I'm told I deserved every bit of abuse I got. That I should just get over it and move on! The only one who understands is my therapist and the...
    grizzycat grizzycat 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 14, 2012

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    One Finger Salute

    And there they go, the picture of the perfect family. A man, a woman, two kids. The oldest of the children holding on to the side of the buggy as the parents talk and laugh as they go about their day. Only, everyone knows the man's a rapist, they just don't want to admit it to...
    MrsLalaninjacakes MrsLalaninjacakes 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    They Don'T Understand....

    Nobody can understand what going through abuse is like unless they've been through it. It affects everybody differently. I've told few people of my past because I don't want them to feel sorry for me or act any differently towards me. The couple of close friends I did tell...
    HyperAngel HyperAngel 18-21, F Feb 10, 2013

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    Always have been like this. Earned me the nick name Rebel lol. I will take extra effort not doing something I want to do just because someone TOLD me to. Tell me to do the laundry...
    Bela21 Bela21 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    Oh god no. I like be fun, crazy, and wild. Many have tried, but there's no taming happening any time soon. Accept my crazy life or stay out of it. Don't tell me to change. Because...
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    Learn the rules like a pro Then break them like an artist
    missmosjer missmosjer 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    Most churches dont care about jesus and your soul there just want the money in the basket in sunday have u been in to some off these preachers houses its like heaven in there!
    nicholas1974 nicholas1974 31-35, M Oct 2

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    I never follow all the rules. I have to break at least one.
    Brightfuture99 Brightfuture99 26-30, F Oct 1

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    I hate it especially when its by an older guy who thinks i'm stupid apparently...
    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F Oct 1

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    I do things my way. I'm open to other ways but it would have to be right for me.
    Reallifeperson Reallifeperson 22-25, M Oct 2

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    Some bosses are **** in the head to
    nicholas1974 nicholas1974 31-35, M Oct 2

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    Tell him to f off dont let a guy do that to u
    nicholas1974 nicholas1974 31-35, M Oct 2

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    Quoting: DONT TELL ME WHAT THE **** TO DOOO IM CRAZY IM CRAZYY!
    LadyWhatever LadyWhatever 18-21, F Oct 2

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    It's a girl thing. We're always right
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 2

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    For as reserved as I am, and prefer to hide I still rather less than follow :-)quite the weird personality
    Gypsydanger48 Gypsydanger48 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 2

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    I am very stubborn and set in my ways. I prefer to do things with my own methods.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 2

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    I don't listen so u DONT bother to give me a command
    jeniffer200 jeniffer200 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 4

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    Being told to "calm down" is the quickest way to push me over the edge! Yeah...I've got issues SURPRISE!!
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 27

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    I like being dominated by woman. Being tied down and used. But I also get turned on by dominating men and making them do what ever I want. Humiliating them in every way.
    lilfreakbitch lilfreakbitch 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 8

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    My parents recently just asked me a pretty good question.....why I always drink so much and take so many damn pills. I said the first thing that came to my head, "Because I hate...
    SonofSomebody SonofSomebody 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    Of course there are times that I do, though I don't like being lonely.
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 1

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    I can't believe I hated myself and believed that there was something wrong with me because I am not attracted to women sexually. I tried to think they were ok but I know what I...
    Czexican Czexican 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 3

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    I like being young and single. a relationship is not on my list right now. I know I've got time and I'm using it. :/
    KazeDream KazeDream 18-21, F Oct 7

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    It's not often I get to enjoy it, but here are some sections around my hometown with lots of woods, rocks, rivers and everything nature intended. There are lots of areas that are...
    mcsac223 mcsac223 31-35, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I like being a girl so that no one expects me to be good in a Brawl tournament. Then I kick everyone's butt and win glory for my team! >:D
    DrowningInRed DrowningInRed 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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