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I Do Not Like People to See Me Cry

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    WendyDarlin WendyDarlin 18-21, F Jul 1

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    Forewarning: Not a Pleasant Story

    My family dynamic was so skewed and I was taught not to cry too much. My mother's husband that I still refer to as "*******" was a mean drunk and wildly abusive. One such instance that sticks out in my memory was that of dental care. Yes...dental care, or the lack...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 11, 2008

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    It shows that I'm weak.

    It shows that I can't handle anything on my own. I don't like it. I never have. Only three people that know me have ever seen me cry, and I still am embarrassed by it. I bottle up a lot of pain inside me and to let it out around certain people...it just makes me feel vulnerable...
    dyingalittleinside97 dyingalittleinside97 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Crying: A Strength Or Weakness?

    Now I've always been a firm believer in keeping problems to myself. I've lived by the mantra "no one likes a downer!", and have strived to always be happy and content. That's what everyone strives for, isn't it? Happiness. The drive to be happy is what motivates us to do any...
    nadiney nadiney 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2012

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    But yet I can't control it

    when I do. I always apologize in the midst of it since I KNOW I look ridiculous
    jenneruz jenneruz 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Girlfriend was on the narrow edge of ending it.

    She had gone into the "shutdown" phase, and started to ignore me. And after a sad sequence of events, I found myself after school with my back against the cold lockers and my knees weighted to the hard floor. The burn in my eyes left a watery accumulation; a blink would have...
    TheSmartestManOnEarth TheSmartestManOnEarth 16-17, M Jul 6

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    And I let that happen today sadly.

    ..why does he do this to me? He tells me he loves me but he wont date me and ***** around with other girls...doesn't he know he's ******* with my feelings?? I love him I really do. Why can't I just have him..
    kellibear kellibear 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 2

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    How is it that someone can be falling apart on

    the inside and feel so broken, but yet they are known as the happiest person to all of their friends?
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Only very few in my life have seen me cry.

    . Even though im pretty emotional. I hold it all in and fight it so hard so no one can see my tears. I hate showing people that im weak or broken.. Not everyone is who you think they are.
    caijedu caijedu 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    Bawling... At Work *blush*

    Gees Louise! Monday I was having a really rough morning. Over the past couple weeks my office has been calling into AT&T to get our sales cleared. I was sitting over 13 sales which is a big chunk of money and was just frustrated with the computer system, which was updated...
    GoddessNakiBean GoddessNakiBean 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 22, 2009

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    The only person who's seen me cry is my

    girlfriend and I was in her arms crying :/ Idk why I don't like people seeing me cry i feel weak when I do and when people see me I feel exposed and vulnerable and I'll never cry in front of my friends because they'd take the puss outa me...so the only person I cry in front of...
    DeadGhost123 DeadGhost123 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    jamorah jamorah 13-15, F Jul 6

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    And yet I am such a cry baby.

    The tiniest thing makes me cry. If I hurt myself I cry, if I get told off I cry, if I miss someone I cry, if I get annoyed I cry, I hate it.
    Mahsa99 Mahsa99 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    One day I'm going to blow up .

    Everyone will see how much suffering i been through . Nobody believes it. Maybe I am selfish.. That's cause I'm tired of being easy . Easy to help , people always took advantage of my kindness. My tears keep falling. .-.
    Beautybomb Beautybomb 16-17, F 1 Response May 31

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    I don't like upsetting other people

    so I usually try to hide my emotions it's kinda hard having to keep a mask of happiness over the hurt and pain all the time ah well I'll get through :)
    mellywoo mellywoo 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    1) I rarely cry because I see it

    as a weakness. 2) I am a veeeeery ugly crier. 3) If you do see me cry, I suggest you look away before you turn into stone.
    NeeverForget NeeverForget 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    I only cry when I'm alone

    or by myself, because I don't like people to see me cry and get emotional and ****, they'll think I'm weirder than I am now. 😢
    Heissler Heissler 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 5

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    I hate it cause then my friends freak out

    and don't know what to do. If its my mom then I don't mind cause she can clam me down. So I don't mind but I hate when people see me cry cause then I have to explain all the **** that has been happening . It feel like I expose my weak side.
    FighterWolf FighterWolf 13-15, F Jul 1

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    I feel that a person is tagged

    as a weak fellow when he cries in public. I am a woman and a cliché that women's biggest tool is tears..being popular among majority of men makes me firm not to show my emotions when i am weak inside. I once cried because of some accusations put about me by my closest friend...
    kiara1234 kiara1234 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    I feel their pain. It's been happening to me

    since I was a preteen and I didn't understand then why if I saw someone cry I would cry too but now I know that I'm a very spiritually sensitive person and I can pick up on others emotions. I'm very sympathetic and I hate to see people upset :( I want everyone to be happy! :)
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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    I hate seeing other people cry,

    as soon as they do I start boo-hooing! I find it odd because I am rough on the outside but soft on the inside! am i Bi-polar
    CAMBRIA22 CAMBRIA22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    Only because most of people will feel sorry

    and others will be happy so I won't give them that satisfaction .. Heads up, Smile on ..
    belseg belseg 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 11

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    God, I hate it. It's like I don't want you to

    see my weakness. And don't even hug me, or try to comfort me, bc that will make me cry more. Tears are like drops of weakness and I can bare living with the ability to cry
    mutedvibe mutedvibe 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 11

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    I'm a weirdo I think,

    and an INTJ if it helps at all. I hate crying in front of people not because being vulnerable bothers me, but because to me it's inefficient. If it's not productive and serving a purpose to move me forward, I don't want to be seen doing it. I may very well be a robot, or a...
    dolceharajuku dolceharajuku 26-30, F Jul 4

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    I Cry More Than I Wish To Admit

    I wanted nothing more than to have a happy family and a romance to last me my whole life. I never ever cried growing up. Not since I was 6 or 7. I broke my arm playing football and just did some deep breathing. Never even teared up. But I started crying alone for my marriage...
    justinlimbertake justinlimbertake 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    Well of course i am so ugly

    when i cry and i am such a huge mess. it's like i am a blow fish face. No one wants to see that.
    NymNin NymNin 18-21, F Apr 19

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    So the last two days I spent crying my eyes out.

    She knows how to make me feel like everything I do is wrong and I don't know how to make my own decisions and that I'm at fault for everything. Right now I feel so isolated because I she is tracking all my movements. Normally I don't have anybody to talk to about what has been...
    findingbeauty2468 findingbeauty2468 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It's horrible. I don't like doing it

    because then they say "what's wrong?" Or something else I don't wanna hear. I'm not gonna say it...they don't need to know what's wrong and trouble themselves with it. It's embarrassing too...to break down in tears in front of someone. But it's just sometimes that you can't help...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 29

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    It makes me feel weak

    and vulnerable.. that is why no one knows that I used to cry myself to sleep every single night.. no one know how many tears I've actually shed, I'm sorry I'm not perfect :') Afire Love ~ By Ed Sheeran
    TigerNita TigerNita 13-15, F Jul 23

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    I cried in the middle of class once.

    Worst thing I could have ever done.
    meganayyye21 meganayyye21 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 20

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    I'm a very sensitive person

    and I HATE crying not only in front of people, but even when I'm by myself. Crying in front of others makes me feel vulnerable and weak... And like they have an advantage over me. I hate it.
    n0ceur n0ceur 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    nealbrute nealbrute 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    turtlebomb turtlebomb 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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    I cry a lot but no one would ever know

    because I hide my tears from everyone. I cry myself to sleep almost every night hoping that life would get better. The truth is it's probably only going to get worse. I support my friends and help them with there problems but when it comes to me they don't know how hard I try to...
    cutieblue cutieblue 16-17, T 1 Response Jan 11

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    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza 18-21, M Jun 11

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    I just think it's awkward

    and I don't like looking weak
    EvaSFenty EvaSFenty 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    Always Being Strong

    I have always been considered the "strong one" in the family or within my group of friends and colleagues.Usually I am calm, though people know that if they have pushed my buttons a little too far that I will let them know they have overstepped it.  They might end up missing a...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I try my best to not cry in front of anyone.

    Only my parents and ex have seen me cry. There are those who have a pretty cry, and then there's me. Swollen eyes, tears and snot flowing, and hyperventilating. It's not a pretty sight. Sometimes I feel guilty, however, that I've worried about my own appearance and not shown...
    puberro puberro 70+, F Mar 31

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    I hate it! Even at a funeral I want to hide my

    face so people can't see my tears. It's always been like that. If someone sees me cry I get upset with myself.
    SilviaAnnGinger SilviaAnnGinger 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    I hate it when I really need to cry

    but I can't because there is people around and I always keep it in and at night sometimes I still can't let it all out.
    lalieornelas lalieornelas 13-15, F Jul 23

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    The people make it such a big deal

    that they end up making you feeling even more miserable. And way too pathetic.
    iamnoor iamnoor 13-15, F Jun 27

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    Im so ugly and even more

    so when i cry. I hate doing it in front of people because no one EVER bothers to ask what's wrong, or hug me. They just stare at me like a freak.
    Takemetomywonderland Takemetomywonderland 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 5

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    Goddesslove3 Goddesslove3 18-21, F 2 Responses May 21

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    A deep breath and a daydream and please

    don’t blink so i can hold my tears into my face i beg myself not to whimper in front of them it hurts my eyes it hurts my heart but i stay quite, i burn in silence . write it and burn it they say...instead i cut myself .April. SUNNY AND HOPELESS.
    RoobieCatenis RoobieCatenis 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    When I was little, say about the age of 6,

    a boy pulled my hair and stuffed snow in my suit. I did what any 6 year old would do.. I decked him, and consequently gave him a bloody nose. I was sent to the principles office, at which point I was preparing myself mentally for another fight, this time with an adult. I just...
    MSCris MSCris 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I hate it because then idk I feel like I show

    my weaker side and my family will ask me what's wrong and I don't want to tell them and my friends force it out of me so yeah I rather cry alone where no one can hear me or see me
    Hiddenamoungus Hiddenamoungus 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    Crying Makes Me Feel Weak

    Going through life I have always just "kept going" Give me hell and I'll walk through it....everyone is always saying, Jen you are so strong, Jen how do you do it? etc....truth is I have no idea...because half the time on the inside I'm screaming NO I'm not ok...
    jenfur210 jenfur210 31-35, F 6 Responses Sep 5, 2009

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    Pride thing for me. It makes me feel weak

    and more vulnerable to others
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    It's not that I don't like to seem weak.

    I just hate doing this because people don't know what to say to me. This happened today as my friend was taking me home. I held in my tears until I got out of the car and as soon as she left I cried my fill in the front yard before entering my house.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 21 hrs ago

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    One of my greatest fears is having people see

    me cry. I once had a nightmare that I cried in front of my friends. I woke up relieved that it was a dream.
    LittleCanoe123 LittleCanoe123 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 5

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    It's embarrassing and uncomfortable.

    I feel like I'm the center of attention and I hate to be the center of attention. Also, I feel like it has something to do with my past; if ever I cried from being abused they would get mad and it would make it worse or longer. Whether that has something to do with it or not I...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Jun 29

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