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I Do Not Understand Homophobics

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    What's the Point?

    often, when i react to another person's homophobic remarks, people will say to me, "you're not gay, so why do you care?" while it's true that i'm not homosexual, i don't see why i shouldn't care. i've always looked at it like this: as a straight girl, if i'm in a...
    runnagirrl runnagirrl 22-25, F 21 Responses Dec 16, 2008

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    Phil Robertson, the fake redneck,

    preaches his dimwitted wisdom about his gay hate.   
    innosflew innosflew 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 11

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    I Understand.. But I Don't.

    depending on the individual, sometimes i understand why people are homophobic. and it's usually just a general rule that people are afraid of what they don't know. my feelings as a queer person, is that people who are afraid of LGBTQ people should meet one. face the fear...
    BarNapkinPoet BarNapkinPoet 22-25, F 29 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    I despise the idea that someone would

    disenfranchise and belittle an entire group of people over misguided and irrational hatred disguised as an opinion.
    MundiPace MundiPace 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Don't Try

    It's a fools errand to try and understand them. I do my best to avoid homophobes at all cost. I've always thought that what people criticise the most in others is something they see in themselves they don't like or will not deal with. Move On from these people, they are an empty...
    jamie939 jamie939 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 31, 2007

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    UNDERSTANDING CAME TO ME - I never understood

    homophobes, racists, religious fundamentalists, etcetera… who make such a big deal of other people being different, even though those don't hurt anyone with their differences. Lately however, I have come to a bit of understanding. I have always been morbidly fascinated with...
    Quantumphysica Quantumphysica 18-21, F Feb 7

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    Okay, I do not care about other ppl

    who are gay, they can be whoever they wanna be. it's just when I was in high school I didn't really date so I heard some ppl start to think maybe I'm gay? Wow. Just cuz no guy really wanted to ask me out this **** happens. Now I'm like boy crazy. I don't want ppl to think I'm...
    the808heartbreak the808heartbreak 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2013

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    runtom runtom 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    You Be You And I Will Be Me

    No matter who you choose to believe in every person on earth was created just the way they are. You like vanilla; I like chocolate You have a cat; I prefer dogs You are a morning person; I am night You are fine with these things until I am seen holding her hand. You did not...
    thereisnothingwrongwithyou thereisnothingwrongwithyou 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2013

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    If you don't like gays,

    lesbians, bisexuals, transgender or anyone one in the LGBT community and try to change us . I don't like you. There are so many other things wrong in this world and y'all choose us to bully and change. I have a lot of friends that are straight and they support the LGBT. So if...
    Kaleyn18 Kaleyn18 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    Homophobia Is Gay

    It's hard to understand human hatred at the best of times, especially when your hatred stems from a time where the people who lived through it have been dead for centuries. But homophobia? That's just silly. For one thing, it's not a phobia. You're not afraid of gay people. You...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    From Experience...

    most homophobics are that way because they are ashamed of some homo thoughts or feelings they themselves have
    RockYouBebeh RockYouBebeh 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2007

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    Love Gay Men But Hate Gay Women?

    It keeps happening that people in my that were avid supporters for gay rights and have tons of gay friends... have the opposite feeling towards gay women. People that I went to high school with that participated in the Day of Silence with me and were friends with all the gay...
    SweetDesireeRose SweetDesireeRose 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    Dad loves her. Mom loves her.

    Her dad loves her. But her mom? I'm not so sure. She hates that she's with me, hates me too. Can't even hear my name without cringing. Gives me that fake smile like those homophobic kids at school... She's scared for her daughter. Says being gay will make her life terrible. But...
    Boo37 Boo37 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I Do

      Just like any other intolerant people, they're either ignorant, closed minded, or have beliefs which that lifestyle conflicts with. Not to say they are right, quite the opposite, but eventually society will help these kinds of people understand that some people can live...
    smebro smebro 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 8, 2007

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    "I hate the word Homophobia.

    It's not a phobia. You're not scared. You're just an *******." - Morgan Freeman
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Love Is Love

    Unless you are God, you cannot tell people what is right, and what is not. LOVE IS LOVE.
    iL0VEYOU iL0VEYOU 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2011

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    If you are a homophobic

    or against gay rights I hate you already.
    dropdeadwilma dropdeadwilma 16-17, F 6 Responses Sep 11

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    http://www.youtube.com/watch?

    v=8n5O9tz30So This is my opinion. While it's not completely about homosexuality, it's about all sexual acts, including homosexual ones. Basically, you are not part of it, so it does not affect you. Therefore, you have no right to care! Why do you care what two guys do in their...
    faeriefate faeriefate 18-21 1 Response Feb 23

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    Some People Born Gay, Get Over It

    tho in my country, Homosexuality is Legal but society still kills them hating... :( They think Homosexuality is a disease, and it just spreads HIV not love... I wish they could understand , they are not spreading love by hating homosexual people and they also spread HIV
    rob128 rob128 22-25, M Jul 4, 2013

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    So just because you don't agree with them,

    you're afraid of them? Vegetarians aren't afraid of meat eaters, it's just a preference thing whether it's with people or food. Someones sexual preference is no one elses business :) so keep on truckin', homophobes. Get outta here!
    Blackfish510 Blackfish510 22-25 4 Responses Jul 1

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    This is what I don't understand.

    Homophobia is a phobia, a fear. People don't see a gay, lesbian or bisexual and run away from them like some people would with arachnophobia. No, it's literally ignorance. I hope I don't sound sexist, and I'm sure this is the same with girls, but I've met a lot of 'homophobic...
    Stillnotbroken Stillnotbroken 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    Doesn't Make Sense

    I guess I don't recognize why people would take so much of their energy and put it towards hating something that will never effect them in their lives.  I don't get why they have to go out of their way to make others uncomfortable.  I don't understand why people want to...
    debmichelle debmichelle 36-40 2 Responses Jun 22, 2008

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    Homophobia. Hope And Betting On Goodness.

    This morning I received a private message from someone telling me that she wanted to add me to her circle but she noticed I was a lesbian so she didn't in the end. I asked her why? And she said she disapproves of the choice to be a lesbian and that people should control their...
    autumnsparrow autumnsparrow 18-21, F 2 Responses May 6, 2013

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    innosflew innosflew 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 11

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    They Make Me So Furious I Could Cry!

    How on earth is it anyone's business what other people do in their sex lives? I mean, would it seem anymore insane for me to go up and confront 'known heteros', telling them they are evil because they have sex with the lights off? I think it is really just that random! If you don...
    Superfluous Superfluous 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 5, 2007

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    Girls Cloths

    so,,,i'm in this department store picking out outfits,,in the misses section. i'm having fun,,doing my thing. i have a couple of tops picked out,,,and i'm looking through racks of jeans for my size.(and yes i'm wearing girls clothing,,any how( all of a sudden i hear,,,YOU MAKE ME...
    starchild182 starchild182 31-35, M 16 Responses Dec 6, 2011

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    homophobics, read this: it's our personal life,

    our business, our ****, not yours. if you don't like homosexuals, don't be a homosexual! it's not our fault, it's the way we are, and you act like babies. "she's not the same as me eeeee."
    hans13 hans13 51-55, F Jun 2

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    Homophobic's are generally insecure about their

    own sexuality. It's something they have not come to terms with. The good news is it's their problem, not yours.
    Shannongirlyboy Shannongirlyboy 46-50, T May 29

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    I Live With In My Family Against Me

    you see i am gay and my whole life  my family cant accept that and i am the joke of the family and my brothers always accusing me of molestation whe they get mad at me and te only ican think of is because i am gay and it,s always be this way i  dont know how much ...
    clarencefields2007 clarencefields2007 31-35 12 Responses May 8, 2008

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    Okay so my kinda "boyfriend" is having some

    issues. His mom is not really accepting of the fact that he is gay. He wants to tell her about me but he's scared. He's talked to his dad about it and he's all for it. I just keep reminding him that I will be there for him no matter what. Is there anything else I can do for him...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 28

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    I think homophobes are angry about something in

    their own lives so they take it out on people who they see are happy.
    gotzdem gotzdem 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 16

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    Okay, I understand if you dont like seeing gay

    people kiss or when they flirt with you, everyone hates it when someone theyre not attracted to does that. But is it really necessary to insults them or try to keep them from loving someone when it has no effect to you? Are you the one getting married? Are you the one having...
    BlurredBeyondTheStarsx BlurredBeyondTheStarsx 70+ Dec 15, 2013

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    Agenda

    and it's not just men.some women can be very homophobic.some will go out of there way to make a point,,,like there on some sort of an agenda,,so they can walk away feeling better about themselves. honestly hetros are afaid of us,,,we make them nervious,and uncomfortable. i like...
    starchild182 starchild182 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    I Could Never Understand Homophobes

    I have never had an issue with people in the LGBT community. At ten years old my favourite tv couple was an LGBT couple. Since then I became more and more aware of LGBT rights and the problems they face. Even at that age I could not understand how people could treat others...
    TrishaHarrington TrishaHarrington 16-17, F 3 Responses May 8, 2013

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    No Homo? Please, You Have Insecure Written All Over Your Head.

    When guys says, "No Homo." I always ask if they are unsure of their sexuality. They always give me this blank stare that reads, Umm.. **** no or Do I look gay to you. I always laugh & reply, if you have to constantly say, No Homo, you must have some insecurities toward yourself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    Homophobia is a word used by the gay community

    to destroy people who far say anything critical if they lifestyle. It's almost the same as being called a "racist" by the black community if you dare say anything critical about the black community. You have every right to do what you want in the privacy of your own bedroom...
    TheBrooklynKid TheBrooklynKid 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    I just don't understand.

    I do understand that people have their own opinion and I respect and agree that everyone should have the right to their opinion. I think that if you personally think it is wrong because of your religion or something its whatever but when you tell another person how to live their...
    Jessica4729 Jessica4729 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Honestly I don't understand

    why same sex marriage is banned in a lot of places... Do people realize that allowing it doesn't mean you have to be gay or lesbian... It makes other people happy and makes their lives easier. You think it's repulsive and doesn't make sense but most f these people are taking...
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M Sep 12

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    When I went to middle school all the kids in my

    class somehow knew I liked girls before I even knew myself, and the girls would be so ignorant; if I looked at a girl because she was in my direction they would freak out thinking I was looking at her because I liked her. We needed a bathroom partner in my school and most of the...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Jun 18

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    I am not les. Myself

    but I don't understand them... Like people accept you so you met to be accepting or should I say tolerant. Gay and lesbian people get so much hate that is unneeded. Children need to grow up knowing what ever gender they like is okay. My mom said to me that she will accept...
    rachelmu22 rachelmu22 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    A School Dance

    When I was in High School, I was an active member of two of the school's most prestigious choirs.  We went on a major trip at the end of each year to compete with other choirs from around the country.  These trips were a huge treat for us, and we all looked forward to...
    Avice Avice 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I Don't Get It

    Why dislike/hate someone just because their sexuality is different from yours? I can't understand it at all. I once went to a gay club with a friend from college and it was great fun. I did get propositioned in the toilets but I just told her I was straight and she was cool with...
    TheatreGirl TheatreGirl 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    lesbiancouple lesbiancouple 18-21, F Sep 11, 2013

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    This Seemed to Fit This Group...

    I did not write this but I love the statement it makes... Every Girl Every Boy FOR EVERY GIRL WHO IS TIRED OF ACTING WEAK WHEN SHE IS STRONG, THERE IS A BOY TIRED OF APPEARING STRONG WHEN HE FEELS VULNERABLE. FOR EVERY BOY WHO IS BURDENED WITH THE CONSTANT EXPECTATION OF...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 19, 2007

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    Closet Gay?

    I've always had this theory that homophobes are really just secretly gay.
    cj0511 cj0511 22-25 Aug 9, 2013

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    innosflew innosflew 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 10

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    Homophobes

    I've always thought they were secretly gay. But, I don't know. Maybe, they are just ignorant and rude and close minded.
    Awesomeness2015 Awesomeness2015 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 10, 2013

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