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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F Mar 29, 2008

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others

     I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he has and all he lives for, so I want to be there for him...someone he can count on and depend on. I do not want him to have to ever worry bout losing me...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    was cheated on and want to have an affair male with big **** and experienced
    8InchesToStretchYou 8InchesToStretchYou 26-30, M Jul 23

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    I think it's really sad that I've seen alot of women get romantically involved with married men. As a single person like myself, I feel like it's not really worth it because you're...
    texaschic35 texaschic35 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    Sexless marriage. Happy beyond that. Just want to feel desired.
    roaama roaama 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My ex affair cost her so much I wonder if she ever thinks it was worth it? My kids want have anything to do with her. I wonder how bad her holidays are they haven't spent a...
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 4 Responses Aug 10

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    My boyfriend and I of 6 years have been seeing this wonderful girl for the past couple of months. We are swingers and it started out as that but ended up being more. He has...
    peace61292 peace61292 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    am new my name is maria am from spain and want have friends but have patient for my english not is perfect but i understand very much
    mariaishere mariaishere 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 1

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    To those who are having an affair, thinking about it, or to those who did...4 years i had an affair, he ended it all in a pretty messed up way...he doesnt want me he doesnt love me...
    TornLove82 TornLove82 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    A lot of times since my affair I don't want to be around anyone. I was very selective of my company to begin with. During the affair I only wanted to be around him but now no one...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 4 Responses 31 mins ago

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    I think I did. I'm not even sure if I am still am! May through to August of being together but not officially, although it ended 7 weeks ago yet we met up twice since then. It's...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I think if I was happy I wouldn't miss OM. It's been since March and I am still over here crying over the man. Why why why??! I can not forget him. He doesn't seem to miss me so...
    nothappybutstaying nothappybutstaying 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I've posted my affair story, so not going to repeat. I've finished my Affair, which is why this title says, I HAD an affair. It's been 5 months since I was together with the...
    OnAlert OnAlert 56-60, M 11 Responses Jul 25

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    If you've read my other experience post about my recent marriage collapsing, then you know the story. What I'm wondering is this: normally when women are cheated on by their...
    Ealasme Ealasme 16-17, F 13 hrs ago

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    Goodbye.......... This is an update to a story I wrote on May 20th about my affair coming to an end. Since I initially wrote this story, things had taken a turn. Initially, the...
    bobrido bobrido 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 24

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    I met my OH when I was 13 and he was 15.... we are pretty much together since than with some on/off phases inbetween. When I was 18 I had an affair with his younger cousin who was...
    anniecherry anniecherry 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    I got married at a very young age. I would have to say it was pretty happy for the most part. In 2008 I began an affair that finally ended in 2010 when my husband found out.I was...
    manyregrets manyregrets 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    It's amazing how much power we give the other person to have on us, I have been feeling like an idiot for the last three days why coz he hasn't been contacting me so yesterday I...
    sunshineab sunshineab 22-25, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My wife has had several affairs. It kind of turns me on.
    tx2stepper2013 tx2stepper2013 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    It looks like a lot of you'll have got caught. I'm sorry for the pain your family's going throw. And I hope that things work out for your family. I hope the pain of trying to fix...
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 11 mins ago

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    After some of the replies to my post yesterday, I see that plenty of people are on here to attack people that have had an affair, to try to make us feel worse for what we have done...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 19 Responses 5 days ago

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    My friend and her husband got in a fight this last weekend. Her husband knows she had an affair. When he drinks he becomes insane. Last weekend he yelled at all the kids told them...
    Circlesnomore Circlesnomore 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Thought I had a solid marriage, I love my husband. Started having an affair with an older man I've known awhile. This is my first affair after 10 yrs of happy marriage. At first...
    opentolearn opentolearn 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 9

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    Just putting some thoughts together... An affair is how much you are willing to deal with in your affair and in your marriage My ex OM had the choice to stay or leave his marriage...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    I'm a young woman stuck in a situation that has completely blown my mind. I never intended to have an affair at any point in my life but the affair i am currently having has become...
    YourMissingPiece YourMissingPiece 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I'm a young woman stuck in a situation that has completely blown my mind. I never intended to have an affair at any point in my life but the affair i am currently having has become...
    YourMissingPiece YourMissingPiece 18-21, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    If you are still having an affair, stop. It's not worth it. I am now feeling like **** for hurting my family . Especially my kids. Somehow my family found out including my in...
    js1276 js1276 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had an emotional affair with someone who was once just a friend. I have been married less than a year. My husband found out when he went through my phone and saw some text...
    soon2bnurse soon2bnurse 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 28

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    I have a difficult decision to make. My marriage went south about 3 years ago and 20 months ago I had my first affair. It's time to stop that behavior. It wears me out...
    CountrySlicker CountrySlicker 51-55, F 6 Responses Aug 6

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    I have been involved with a wonderful man for over a year now. I have been married for 37 years, same with my OM We both have voids in our long term marriages, that apparently we...
    downbytheriver downbytheriver 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I am capable of loving 2 persons at a time perhaps. Of course, I am not perfect. .but the affair that I had . .did teach me a lot of things. I was caught . .I had no idea how...
    SwanLake78 SwanLake78 36-40, F 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    So this question is for married men having affairs. What conditions would make you go distant from your other woman? And would you end an affair with the other woman or would she...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 21

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    Just a thought..and I might get alot of sh*t for this but I had an affair and it really f*cked me up (read my posts!) and I will never do that again!! Now my thought is for those...
    LionCaged LionCaged 26-30, M 5 Responses Jul 23

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    After I found out the affair, after the initial denials, my husband ultimately severed contact with his AP. He had created a email account just for her and cleared that out too and...
    missingherbigtime missingherbigtime 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 25

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    Thanks everyone for the advice about the safest way to meet him .. I asked him yesterday what his thoughts were on where we should go..( for those of you who don't know a cop...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    Qu for men- after finishing affair, did you keep your ex affair a friend/remain in contact etc and why if yes or no?
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    My affair began due to a long distance relationship. I had been dating my boyfriend for 2 years prior to moving 6,000 miles away for a job. The job was only supposed to be for one...
    Sabrina89 Sabrina89 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm in the midst of an almost two year affair. It doesn't seem like it's ever going to end. We just like each other. We are both married. I don't want to leave my hubby and he...
    crazyinlove74 crazyinlove74 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I am married and lonely. My husband can't carry on an intelligent conversation with me. The sex now lasts 30 seconds. I had an affair once and had the best sex! He is now in...
    anavay anavay 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 22

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    My MM has disrespected me one too many times. I have tried to be everything that he wanted but have lost myself. I've lost my spark, my enthusiasm for life and even sometimes my...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    Awww.... I know I shouldn't ask and express in this way. But Nahhh. screw it! I really want to have a lesbian affair! You, my lovely princess. I'm imperfect so please forgive me...
    EasyOrange EasyOrange 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    I was 15 she was 35 my speech teacher. She was very will pretty and always rubbed against me in class. I was a naive kid who did not know what was happening. She told me in class...
    edstarr edstarr 56-60, M 1 Response Jul 30

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    It's the same old saying, they want you to do good until your doing better than them. I am not sorry your husband loved me. I am not sorry your husband had sex with me. I am not...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 30

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    Its old news I had an affair. That part of my life is long over but it was such a turning point that it still affects me every day. This little update probably belongs under a...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 5

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