I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 171 People

    I think it's overrated.

    Sex is amazing, why would you ever want to associate bad or regretful behavior to it? Just flirt people, no harm in that ha!
    JJ9880 JJ9880
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 12, 2015

    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy
    22-25, F
    Mar 21, 2008

    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter
    36-40
    3 Responses Nov 20, 2008

    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 29, 2008

    I'm glad you're among the ones

    who do not want to have an affair! But if you are here because you are about to engage in one, I'm happy that you are looking for answers... I'll start saying that it is never worth it! It is actually a crime against your spouse, your family and yourself! It can feel right at...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2015

    No. Just no. That is not the kind of person I

    want to be. Marriage isn't perfect, but my husband and I are perfect for each other. I don't want to have the mess and heartache that comes with having an affair. Most of all, I don't want to face God after that.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 4, 2015

    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 19, 2008

    I've had a few emotional affairs

    and have contemplated a physical affair... Luckily I've had some foresight to see that an affair would be devastating on many levels as they seem to never end well. If you are considering an affair check out the experiences of "I am the other woman". So full of wanting and...
    lovenlearn lovenlearn
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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