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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

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    Forever - I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could...
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    He's Perfect; For Me. - He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F Mar 29, 2008

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    I Follow What I Believe In - I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him? - Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others -  I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Part 3: the affair When I posted my experience on EP and how depressed I was about my situation I got a lot of positive comments and support which really helped me change my...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 30

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    You know what's wrong with the world no one want to take resposabilty for there actions. When they have affairs it's allway the spouses fault and that's just a copout. Yes your...
    Trueman1944 Trueman1944 66-70, M 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I've been fat my entire life. When i was a kid people would say its cute but when i got old and still fat people looks at me like I'm a disgusting person. I don't ride a bike cause...
    elel110993 elel110993 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    Try being fat all your life. Try being made fun of,day in and day out. Imagine trying all your life to lose weight,dreaming of being skinny. Dreaming,wishing,hoping. You know...
    RedeemingRose RedeemingRose 18-21, F Apr 4

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    Yes, I sometimes do. I sometimes, but only some times, want to have an illicit affair, with all of the things that comes with this. And when I say this, of course, because it is me...
    Lgl700 Lgl700 51-55, M 18 hrs ago

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    I am just trying to end a 16 month affair. I am married and my husband doesn't know about the affair. I can't cope any longer with all the hurt. I am a total mess. I already miss...
    evey44 evey44 46-50, F 11 hrs ago

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    My husband has been drinking every single day for the last 17 years. I can count on one hand the number of days he has gone without drinking in the last 10 years. Two months ago I...
    MrsElizabeth MrsElizabeth 31-35, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I found this TREMENDOUSLY eye opening. I read this last night on a message board about affairs and had to share ----- "Love", within infidelity, isn’t. Love in this context is...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 27

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    Posting this again... 17 Reasons Why People Cheat Break out into selfhood For a long time there are forces...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I wanted to share a couple of excerpts from the book "Getting Past the Affair- A Program To Help You Cope, Heal and Move On---Together or Apart" by Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, Donald...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have been here for awhile hoping to come across a story similar to mine. I need help. My story has gone from dream to nightmare. Had affair. MM always said he loved us both...
    blumomma blumomma 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 31

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    I'm writing this in the hopes that others can relate to my affair experience and help me let go. I'm very ashamed and reluctant to post this, but here it is. I've been married for...
    dsumm1 dsumm1 51-55, M 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    I had an emotional affair a year ago and was devastated when my husband found out and made me end it. Surprisingly my husband wanted to stay together and work on our marriage...
    sharoneys sharoneys 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    It all came out. I think part of me wanted to be "caught." All I ever wanted was my husband's love and attention. I saw the heartbreak on his face and I owned my deception and lies...
    MissViolet711 MissViolet711 46-50, F 11 Responses Mar 24

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    Yes, I had an affair with married man. I was married at the time too. My marriage was already crumbling but his is still going strong and I couldn't be any happier for him. I...
    lovehimdeeply lovehimdeeply 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My ex-H had an 8 mo affair which ended our marriage last year. We may have had sex twice in the previous 2 years prior to me kicking him out. The day before I left him, I had sex...
    bluebutterfly13 bluebutterfly13 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    So another another ... Another Dollar... Not what I meant to say... What I mean is another lie.... Affairs are about lies... Left, right and centre.... Lying at home and lying...
    learner80 learner80 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 4

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    You know what's sad all the movies that make affairs out to be so great. Affairs are nothing but pain pain for everyone. I believe they need more movies like Tyler Perry's...
    Poorspouses1 Poorspouses1 70+, M 3 Responses Apr 9

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    I had an affair with a son of a ***** Francesco Clementucci, I really felt in love with him, despite the terrible intimate part with him and knowing that he is almost married, I...
    anna1953 anna1953 56-60, F a week ago

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    Okay, I'll begin by acknowledging that I won't likely find a woman to have an affair with here. But I want to have an affair with a woman. I have been married 17 years and have...
    Mcluvinassman Mcluvinassman 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 28

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    It's almost April. My life has changed so much. I'm happy. Complete. Content. Calm. I'm very much in love. Living together. Falling asleep in his arms every night. It's amazing...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 29

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    For a little over a year I have been trying to explain the reasons and motivations behind the way I have lived my life since I married my husband. I have never been able to explain...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    So this is where it sucks.....I've been seeing my other guy for over nine months now. I am very much in love with him. I know your not suppose to do that in an affair but I am...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    So after some thought and review of my own experience and others I have discovered the following. If you are involved in an affair there is something major missing from your...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 20 Responses Mar 27

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    What do you do if you want to feel every emotion imaginable in the world.... ten fold? Have an affair. My two year affair brought me the most intense pleasure and the most...
    Steph613 Steph613 41-45, F 12 Responses Mar 27

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    I did it because of my insecurity. I was married at the time and the guy gave me desire, affection, adventure, and sex all of which was missing from my marriage. My husband and I...
    sapphire601 sapphire601 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 29

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    Where to start?? Run women, if it hasn't began yet run! It's a very long and painful road. Feelings get involved on both sides and then one stops feeling before the other and all...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    Just wanting to hear from some other married ladies like me out there who had an affair with a single man, fell in love and vice versa but decided to stay with their husband for...
    Casscat Casscat 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 8

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    I have an eating disorder and my AP doesn't even know. He loves petite skinny young girl type body figure but failed to realize with me being 5'4 and close to 100 pounds it's not...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Affairs and marriage two completely different things!!! I want to be 60 with my husband and have my grandchildren come to the house. My husband takes care of me because he loves me...
    circlesnomore circlesnomore 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Hard Habit To Break The desire to have constant contact with you IS a Hard Habit To Break. It is true that you currently are, and have been for some time now, my first waking...
    FindingMySong FindingMySong 46-50, M 7 Responses Mar 23

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    I cannot stop thinking of the incredible sensual ~sex filled ~affair that I had with my handsome Italian chiropractor! It was a crazy high voltage "love affair of a lifetime" with...
    BeJen BeJen 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    My longstanding affair ended after his spouse found out (a few times over a few years), threatened divorce and he couldn't see us ever having a "happy ending" after destroying both...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 33 Responses Mar 29

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    I'm never on fb and went on and saw a pic of him and his wife commented on how sexy he was and blew a kiss emoticon. It made me furious!! How dare she?! She's found out about us...
    Australianladybug Australianladybug 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 29

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    8 years ago I had an affair with my then boyfriend's best friend. I fell so deep in love with him, he was my obsession. I just could not get away, i saw him everyday, we took trips...
    S3xym4m4 S3xym4m4 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    So many of you know, I had written about 6 weeks ago about ending my affair. I was sad beyond sad. But I also was determined. Then one text message from him and I'm right back in...
    sallyanne44 sallyanne44 41-45, F 13 Responses Apr 4

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    I am going through a separation, divorce is going to take a while, and I have a long term relationship but it is long distance. I am commited to the relationship, and have no...
    Hotcocoa15 Hotcocoa15 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Is this normal to think about this or even right? Ever since my wife first cheated on me I've always wanted to start an affair. I want to know what it feels like..
    Northwestmale11 Northwestmale11 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 17

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    I am ashamed to admit it but I did have an affair with a married black man that I work with. It started off kinda slow with just blow jobs and stuff for about a month but...
    WanabeBuxom WanabeBuxom 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    I want to meet a married woman for a steamy affair. I live in Liverpool, England. If any ladies happen to be local give me a message x
    HereForTheHonesty HereForTheHonesty 26-30 1 Response Mar 26

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    I had an affair or close to it. She was my wife's friend. Always telling me I was good looking always being nice then the text came and I responded. My wife hadn't wanted me in...
    october004 october004 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 5

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    I want a taboo affair with an older man that wants to pretend to be my Daddy!
    LauraLeaa LauraLeaa 31-35, F 21 Responses Apr 7