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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others

     I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he has and all he lives for, so I want to be there for him...someone he can count on and depend on. I do not want him to have to ever worry bout losing me...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I don't want to have an affair.

    Even if my marriage seems to be failing, going up and down, in circles I still want to work this through even if I finally realized I don't really love him at all... Or I may have lost the love somewhere in the process. But I recently reconnected to someone who after so many...
    purplefreespirit purplefreespirit 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 4

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    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    I've had a few emotional affairs

    and have contemplated a physical affair... Luckily I've had some foresight to see that an affair would be devastating on many levels as they seem to never end well. If you are considering an affair check out the experiences of "I am the other woman". So full of wanting and...
    lovenlearn lovenlearn 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2008

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    I do not want to have one

    and I won't have one, for me its simple I am with the man I chose to be with I love him every moment we have the odd argument or two but not often. He is a very very nice kind hearted man and come to think of it I am a nice woman as well, so I won't be having an affair because...
    louisetiger1 louisetiger1 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    I'm glad you're among the ones

    who do not want to have an affair! But if you are here because you are about to engage in one, I'm happy that you are looking for answers... I'll start saying that it is never worth it! It is actually a crime against your spouse, your family and yourself! It can feel right at...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M Jan 14

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    No. Just no. That is not the kind of person I

    want to be. Marriage isn't perfect, but my husband and I are perfect for each other. I don't want to have the mess and heartache that comes with having an affair. Most of all, I don't want to face God after that.
    1forHIM 1forHIM 22-25, F Feb 4

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    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    XoXo07 XoXo07 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    hi im a married man wanting an affair any married women out there looking for the same..i want to have fun...plus im well hung and love to please
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    I'm in love with a work colleague. We are both married (with a kid each) but our friendship developed in office hours like teenagers --- chatting/texting/skipping the team for...
    Admadrid Admadrid 31-35, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    My affair is almost one year away from me today. I have purposely avoided romantic relationships, though had some close calls. I wanted to understand what happened and why. I...
    OnAlert OnAlert 56-60, M 6 Responses Feb 18

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    Sorry for the long post. I normally try to keep my posts under a minute long. Someone thought it might be useful if a wrote about what I learned and what I would do differently...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 9 Responses Feb 2

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    Ok here is the sequel. I wrote about an affair I had with a married preacher, long story short my husband walked in and caught us. I haven't been with the preacher again since...
    reddhot reddhot 51-55, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Okay this might going to be a long post Does this ever happen to you that you are living a ****** life and then you are straight transported to cloud 9 then again everything comes...
    eriloves1D eriloves1D 16-17, F 4 hrs ago

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    my husband has been having an emotional affair with his co-worker for a few months now. He met her last summer and told me he wanted to be friends with her. Thinking it would just...
    brvnx brvnx 26-30, F Feb 4

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    I'm FREEEEEEEEEEEE.... free falling! :)) I should be upset, but somehow... I feel relieved. It's over! We had an amazing full moon night (Feb3). Lots of hugging, hot kissing...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 6

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    My heart is broken, I am hurt, and I don't know if I'm going to be ok right now. Let me say this, and please listen to me clearly. Having an affair is wrong, regardless the...
    Ditto85 Ditto85 26-30 28 Responses Feb 16

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    It was just sex. That is what the plan was anyway. We are both married, and yes, I know it's awful of us to seek comfort in each other, but we did. The first time we met for sex I...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 35 Responses 6 days ago

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    I need some advice and help on ending my affair. ..I have tried 4 times before and always gone back. This time I really need to end it. I want to make my marriage work and I feel...
    happyeve happyeve 46-50, F Feb 10

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    My spouse of 34 years is having a emotional affair with a coworker of his. He doesn't know it but that's what it is. She is the only one his cell phone minutes are used on and she...
    tml1959 tml1959 51-55, F 11 hrs ago

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    I am 22 years old and have had CRIPPLING emetophobia for as long as I can remember. In fact, my fear is so bad that I can't even stand to hear or read the "v" word...so browsing...
    hummingbirdbullets hummingbirdbullets 22-25, F 4 hrs ago

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    I have decided that I am going to stop having affairs. My wife has not changed or anything but with a recent health scare I realized that the excitement and thrill of the affairs...
    Alston76 Alston76 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 8

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    My affair has changed me in so mine ways. First I'm hurting so much for hurting my wife and family. She deserves better then me. Second my heart is so heard right now I don't care...
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 5 Responses Feb 9

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    I am writing this for my best friend. She is married and her husband is loving and caring. She is now having an affair. He is not married. She is too serious but she cant hurt her...
    Lizy123 Lizy123 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    I am having an affair with a married man who I used to date 15 years ago. He is twelve years older than me and I was very much in love with him. At the time I think I was too young...
    ma4466 ma4466 36-40, F Feb 4

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    I was unhappy and lonely in my marriage. I bumped into an old flame one night and we started growing closer again. I hadn't wanted to admit to any of my friends or family that my...
    masa2014 masa2014 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    Sometimes I wonder.... what if we love fearlessly with all our might. Will the outcome be any different? Often we guard ourselves by drawing back, playing games, withdrawing into...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't even know what to call this any more... I don't even know if i want this any more... Sorry this is going to be long but i need to just get this out there in some form...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    As I continue to heal. Memories of her pop up at random times. I haven't spoken to her in ten months. The pain has deceased drastically. I still have moments of vulnerability, but...
    elington elington 31-35, M 5 Responses Feb 11

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    About 4 months out of the affair now. There is good and bad days. Days where my thoughts are of him all day, days when he only pops in occassionally and I feel like myself again...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 21 Responses Feb 13

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    Now let's be honest dont u IMAGNE a great loving husband and amazing kids. And that U are not gAnna fight. Well your Wrong sure U can say BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER. Look at UR parents...
    stelliester stelliester 13-15, F Feb 13

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    Is this it my friend my lover? Or is this a pause in the game? Afraid of never speaking to you again. Afraid of speaking to you again. Conversations will never play out as we...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 16

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    Even though its like eating glass when I say his name--the other man---it is of incredible benefit to my children that they have a good time with other man and their mom.They don't...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 17

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    I'm using this forum as a way to be able to talk about my feelings that I couldn't talk about with anyone bc of my secret affair. The only person I could talk to about this was the...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 18

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    The 5th Chakra. It had been weeks when MM kept complaining about his throat. He said, I think I have something wrong with my thyroid. I responded, I don't think something is...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 19

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    I love my wife and we have been married for more than 20 years, but I realize I am not able to stay satisfied in a strictly monogamous relationship. Five years into our marriage...
    jwtecy jwtecy 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    I dreamt that was having an affair with my sister's husband and she's quite okay with it. Also, it turns out my sister's husband was also having an affair with some other woman i...
    itcheru itcheru 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am a 40-year-old married woman who befriended a 25-year-old man on social media. We spend a year and a half talking about sports and random day-to-day things. A couple months ago...
    flytygal flytygal 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I just started posting here and I do have to say, the negativity on here in this category is mind blowing. I want to share my experience about how I met my husband. When we met, he...
    Lil5 Lil5 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    The affair is over, I haven't seem my OM since last summer. We are still in touch occasionally by text, the chat is normal small talk about what we've been up to recently. We don't...
    yespleaseMrDarcy yespleaseMrDarcy 36-40, F 13 hrs ago

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    National media becomes dark at this bearings and they aswell prove to the humans of Manipur that Manipuris are conflicting and it cannot be a allotment of India. If it was Bihar or...
    fifaallen9339 fifaallen9339 18-21, M Feb 8

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    My boss once said to me, “You’re actually kind of brilliant, when you are awake.” The customer I had been working with at his store had been offended by the comment. But I...