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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F Mar 29, 2008

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others

     I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he has and all he lives for, so I want to be there for him...someone he can count on and depend on. I do not want him to have to ever worry bout losing me...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I kinda want to **** a married man. It turns me on.
    CuriousGurl13 CuriousGurl13 13-15, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am hoping to find one nice mature woman for a mutually agreeable and satisfying relationship in the Philadelphia metropolitan area.
    donaldsterling donaldsterling 51-55, M 16 hrs ago

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    Married man in Melbourne, Australia. Any ladies looking...? We can chat and maybe meet up during the day.
    melbourneonly melbourneonly 46-50, M Aug 27

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    I am a married man hoping to find a nice mature woman for a mutually agreeable and satisfying relationship in the metropolitan Philadelphia area.
    donaldsterling donaldsterling 51-55, M 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Is it bad that I want an affair!?
    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 13 Responses Sep 2

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    I just want to escape... That's all I ever wanted to just escape and not have to deal with what gets left behind because I don't want have to think before everything I do I want...
    EvaLauren EvaLauren 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I Had An Affair Tainted I am new this web page, read some of the interesting stories and have seen how much I can relate to some of them. I am not much of a reader or writer in...
    maidinthebox maidinthebox 41-45, M 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    To those who are having an affair, thinking about it, or to those who did...4 years i had an affair, he ended it all in a pretty messed up way...he doesnt want me he doesnt love me...
    TornLove82 TornLove82 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    I started my affair 6 months ago. Almost 6 months to the day. We are both married. She has two small kids, I have none. I've known her for 4 years and have had a crush on her...
    confusedinpa7 confusedinpa7 36-40, M 5 Responses Aug 28

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    It has been three years…still think of him all day every day. We haven't had contact for 9 months. I still feel like he is my soulmate. I love my husband to pieces…but it...
    twintower18 twintower18 31-35, F Sep 7

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    Last night was our monthly Retrouvaille support group (called CORE) for marriage meeting. Summary, for anyone new to this part of EP, we are over a year since I discovered his...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Well it's officially been a month since I made the hard decision of starting fresh and ending my affair once and for all. It's actually been over a month since our last...
    platnum2011 platnum2011 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    My affair showed me I have a side of me that is manipulative and selfish. I used to listen to this song over and over so loud. I love this song http://youtu.be/u3u22OYqFGo It...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    Ok so this question isn't strictly about my affair, more to do with the aftermath. I kinda don't know where else to post it. My affair ended 7 months ago. It has shattered my...
    Fififififi Fififififi 41-45, F 28 Responses Sep 5

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    A lot of times since my affair I don't want to be around anyone. I was very selective of my company to begin with. During the affair I only wanted to be around him but now no one...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 20

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    My wife wants a urgent divorce I can't cope? I was caught in a spa with her very good friend and I did not say I was going there with her ( don't look good at all ) When my wife...
    uncleginge uncleginge 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    I realized something with the help of my therapist. My affair saved my marriage. My H was depressed and drunk everyday... My marriage was at a low.. He came in my life when I...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    The reason I'm here is because I had an online affair. It was the start of things to come. He went away abruptly and I was really upset. I looked up "online affair" on the net to...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    OK EP friends, what I want to know is how is your life after the affair? I feel stuck. I feel like I cannot move forward with my wife. There is a huge void in our relationship...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 9 Responses Aug 30

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    I am currently six months pregnant as a product of my affair with my best friend. I am currently married for ten years and have three beautiful daughters. My husband is unaware of...
    HisCharmedOne HisCharmedOne 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    If you asked me a few years ago, I would tell you how horrible an affair is and I looked down on people who had affairs. Now I am the person on the other side, and it's true what...
    Yalaboo Yalaboo 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 7

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    So I was just driving and and the song came on he first dedicated to me ... Bruno Mars ... Locked out of heaven.... At first a couple memories came rushing in ... Where we were...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I miss my affair. I no longer miss HER because, for all her wonderful traits, she was still quite a narcissistic piece of work. Everything was about her, and I guess that my...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 6 Responses Aug 21

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    For those of you that know some of my journey, here is an update: As the poster child for the boy who cried wolf, I finally ended my affair. I knew for the first time in 3.5 years...
    pencruz pencruz 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I am a 30 yo male married for 7 years with my wife (28yo) for 12 years. we have 2 small children (6&4) together. I have been having an affair for approx. 4 months now with a woman...
    DIWK14 DIWK14 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 10

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    How many of you had more than one affair? If yes, do you think you are a serial cheater? I'm having an affair right now, don't ever want to do or experience it again. But I...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 26 Responses 4 days ago

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    I think I did. I'm not even sure if I am still am! May through to August of being together but not officially, although it ended 7 weeks ago yet we met up twice since then. It's...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    Today she tryed kissing me when she told me that kissing someone with red lipstick would b hot and sexy she pulled me towards her and i laughed and said ikr and pretended as if i...
    Tooweak Tooweak 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    When is the right time to finally say good bye???? To end it all?? Is it when you are too emotionally attached? Is it when you feel ignored? Is it when everything your affair...
    zoey3000 zoey3000 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 9

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    We were both married her husband left her for a younger woman I was married 3 months when I found her 7 years later after the first time I saw her! I being married had to be...
    marshall24 marshall24 56-60, M a week ago

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    Affair is one thing.. having affair before is also another thing.. and sometimes I wonder.. am I trying hard to hurt myself. If only you could simply 'erase' it from your memory...
    SwanLake78 SwanLake78 36-40, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    I had an affair. He had an affair. He's been talking with someone inappropriately online. I've met someone online who has rocked my world... I need to tell my husband it's over...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I love my husband but I had an affair. I told my husband everything and he wants to forgive me but hes finding it hard. I want to do everything he says because hes a wonderful...
    vuexter vuexter 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 23

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    So 3 months on and im so much better! Obviously still have down days but overall im much more accepting of everything..those of you that are still trapped in an affair with no...
    LionCaged LionCaged 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Yesterday, my MM should be back from his long vacation/business trip out of the country. I am dying to know if he's back yet, since we have been NC for a month. I woke up in the...
    Ruby2ng Ruby2ng 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I'm not sure why I keep coming back to EP any more. I met my OW here, and for months after the affair ended I couldn't bring myself to login to EP because there were too many...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 3 Responses Sep 3

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    This weekend will be interesting....well maybe interesting isn't the word I should use. H and kids will be away for the weekend, which leaves me home alone. Home alone for the...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 4

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    I had an affair with a mw for two years. She told me she just wanted me, and the sex for both was incredible. It replaced both of our sexless marriages. - and you wouldn't...
    TheOtherGuy35 TheOtherGuy35 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 9

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    Hi. This is my first post here. I’m mostly writing this for myself, to help me make sense of my life and my experiences. I realize that this sounds like incredible navel-gazing...
    wh00ami wh00ami 36-40 4 Responses Sep 10

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    Dear Haters: I would like to give you an insight of a person that is currently involved in having an affair and giving this insight might give you a different opinion of us...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 36-40, F 37 Responses 2 days ago

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    I recently was the "other man" in a woman's life as she had an affair. She was my coworker (and still is). I used a lot of charm to pull her in and she used a lot of body language...
    alextricution alextricution 18-21 2 days ago

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