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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 168 People

    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    No. Just no. That is not the kind of person I

    want to be. Marriage isn't perfect, but my husband and I are perfect for each other. I don't want to have the mess and heartache that comes with having an affair. Most of all, I don't want to face God after that.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 4

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others

     I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he has and all he lives for, so I want to be there for him...someone he can count on and depend on. I do not want him to have to ever worry bout losing me...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I'm glad you're among the ones

    who do not want to have an affair! But if you are here because you are about to engage in one, I'm happy that you are looking for answers... I'll start saying that it is never worth it! It is actually a crime against your spouse, your family and yourself! It can feel right at...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2008

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    I've had a few emotional affairs

    and have contemplated a physical affair... Luckily I've had some foresight to see that an affair would be devastating on many levels as they seem to never end well. If you are considering an affair check out the experiences of "I am the other woman". So full of wanting and...
    lovenlearn lovenlearn 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    It has been so Long, since I have actually had a Deepful, and meaningful conversation with someone, about Life, goals, and dreams, about what is going on in the world, or what is...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 1 Response 40 mins ago

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    I always pretend. I pretend to laugh. I pretend to not show interest. I pretend to not listen, I pretend to be all cool and calm kind of person but I would suddenly be cheery and...
    samof53 samof53 18-21, F 43 mins ago

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    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    My name is Holly and I'm 30 years old. For the first time I'm getting an apartment for myself and a job. Have not had a job in 5 years. I really want this badly! My fear is that my...
    Sweetaspie29 Sweetaspie29 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    I've heard that when people begin an affair, some people will try to be more sexual with their spouse. either out of guilt or increased sex drive. does anyone have experience with...
    redpelican7 redpelican7 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So for those that haven't read my story it's a bit like like this, had an affair with a mm, we got caught, we tried to stand by eachother after his w put him out. The son stepped...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Just ended my affair and I'm sad. She was careless with her phone and her husband found out, she spilled everything. Mixed feelings. A bit relieved but also sad, I loved her...
    joestu84 joestu84 41-45, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Those of you who had an affair and experienced a D-day with your spouse... what does it feel like? I'm curious.... sorry if the question sounded weird. I just want to be more...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I was 8 years old I saw my mother wanting to leave. I did not realise at the time why, now after all these years I am curious. Was it an Affair like he said? All I know is...
    moyesp moyesp 51-55 a week ago

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    Been a almost a week since I ended my affair. When does it start getting easier? I don't eat or sleep. Wish I could fast forward this part of time.
    latinafairy latinafairy 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have been married for 9 years and began having an affair with a married man 7 months ago. He is 7 years older than I am and what a difference I see with being with him! He knows...
    LoveSexMagic11 LoveSexMagic11 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    We both knew how this would end, but I tried to pretend that day would never come. I tried not to think about how much it would hurt to lose him and how, as I explained to him from...
    GemGirl46 GemGirl46 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    I'm 30 great guy fun and caring. Looking for someone near chattanooga I go there for business often. Im not just looking for just an affair to be truthful, although I wouldnt mind...
    Tenman15 Tenman15 31-35, M Jun 25

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    It was a year ago today that you found out. I will remember that day forever, you were so mad, I have never seen you that mad. I still could see the love for me behind those sad...
    DannysSong DannysSong 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    I am a married woman who had an affair with a single guy.... Why do I feel like the other woman?
    DannysSong DannysSong 36-40, F Jun 25

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    I've been riding a roller coaster of a marriage for almost 20 years. I want out. I've had a few chances to just walk and I've always stayed. (Once was when our son was born and...
    Strugglemuch Strugglemuch 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    I had an affair for almost 4 years, I didn't get the love and attention from My husband, I was lonely... I became close with my friend from work, spent time together and eventually...
    Ccutler Ccutler 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    My affair ended one sidedly by him! He got transferred back to his country...to his wife and kid for good! Yes! He is married too! When I found out, my heart shattered and I wouldn...
    Wynee Wynee 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 23

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    I feel so selfish; I am riddled with guilt and yet I can't stop thinking about my affair partner. I have everything most people in the world would long for - I have been married...
    FrankieLeaf FrankieLeaf 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 23

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    I was married pretty young I was 18yrs old. I had my daughter when I was 22yrs old and was divorced by the time I was 25yrs old after my husband had an affair and another daughter...
    elewis99654 elewis99654 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 22

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    I can only echo what many other men have said in previous postings. AM is a loser's bet for men. I've been using AM since early 2012. I just logged in to my account. Over the...
    bobrido bobrido 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 21

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    What do you do when you don't know what you want? Stay in the secret relationship but my mind can't see us not together even if I think or say it. I don't know what I want anymore...
    sunshineab sunshineab 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 21

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    I would love the thought of my wife having an affair while I'm out of town working. The thought of another man dating and seducing her, then pounding her in bed drives me wild. She...
    Brian944 Brian944 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 20

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    I'm 27 and happily married but can't stop looking at **** and fantasising about other women
    Mike8008 Mike8008 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 20

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    This is for all of the recent posts of having gone NC. Applause to us that have chosen to end, where the affair became toxic and the joys of being on the journey were gone. NC is...
    pencruz pencruz 51-55, F 10 Responses Jun 19

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    I really do love her but she is so distant and the sex is non existent lately. I want to ask her but don't want to know because if she is I don't know what I will do. She is...
    custommade custommade 41-45, M Jun 19

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    lord help me...I can do this today.. I know he was trying to be sweet and tell me about the death of our friend.. but I want to respond with..please leave me alone so I can heal...
    MissMoneypenny6 MissMoneypenny6 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I hate to sound awful because I have met some wonderful and kind hearts on this site during my short period here and you know who you are. :) However, I am NOT looking for an...
    Lostandscared3 Lostandscared3 36-40, F Jun 16

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    Today just must be that kind of day a crappy one for me anyways, I understand being angry after an affair, the hurt,disapointment feeling used,tricked and lied to and lead on,even...
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    Well my confession is I no my husband has cheated when I was gone for thirty days and he's still acting like he's so about our family now that I'm back it's really hurtful to me to...
    lilly1389 lilly1389 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 15

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    I had an affair and ended it. Should I tell the wife of the married guy or not. I'd want to do it anonymously if I did, But I don't know if I should let her know.
    imjustthatgirl66 imjustthatgirl66 18-21, F 27 Responses Jun 15

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    My husband was my first boyfriend and we got married. He was the only man I ever knew for years...until our marriage starts to fall apart! Then out of the blue I met my affair. I...
    Wynee Wynee 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 15

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    I am married and having an affair with a unmarried man. the hardest thing for me in dealing with this affair is wanting him to be all mine but I know I can't leave my husband...
    DannysSong DannysSong 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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