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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 176 People

    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 3 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 14

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    I'm glad you're among the ones

    who do not want to have an affair! But if you are here because you are about to engage in one, I'm happy that you are looking for answers... I'll start saying that it is never worth it! It is actually a crime against your spouse, your family and yourself! It can feel right at...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    I've had a few emotional affairs

    and have contemplated a physical affair... Luckily I've had some foresight to see that an affair would be devastating on many levels as they seem to never end well. If you are considering an affair check out the experiences of "I am the other woman". So full of wanting and...
    lovenlearn lovenlearn 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    No. Just no. That is not the kind of person I

    want to be. Marriage isn't perfect, but my husband and I are perfect for each other. I don't want to have the mess and heartache that comes with having an affair. Most of all, I don't want to face God after that.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 4

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    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    I think it's overrated.

    Sex is amazing, why would you ever want to associate bad or regretful behavior to it? Just flirt people, no harm in that ha!
    JJ9880 JJ9880 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2008

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    It's been just about 2 years since D-Day and I'm still looking this ***** up like it just happened or they're still talking. His little co-ed has been making the president's list...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So many years ago I had an affair it was wonderful wasn't happy at home so I ventured out and found her
    layedback75 layedback75 36-40, M 2 hrs ago

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    It has been over a year since we started trying to get pregnant. It became increasingly difficult to even want to try. At first it was exciting. But as the months went on, it...
    St4rbright St4rbright 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I met this Italian lady (29 now) 2 years ago when visiting a friend. We were both struck by lightning and fell in love with each other though we did not mention it at the time. She...
    DutchDaniel DutchDaniel 26-30, M 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I'm an interracial adoptee from Africa, adopted by a white family. These last few years I've been thinking about the stories my adoptive parents have told me about what happened...
    Tearystar1027 Tearystar1027 18-21 8 hrs ago

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    I am okay. and I don't mean it in a dishonest way, or telling you what you want to hear so I don't need to explain myself. I am okay,happy and relaxed typing this. I have finally...
    kiki2016 kiki2016 26-30, F 11 hrs ago

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    Really horny rn👅 maybe a married man will help my craving?
    Musso18 Musso18 22-25, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Where do I start? What do I say? It's been months since I last posted a story/experience. I want to come here and tell you all that I'm the happiest I've ever been since he's left...
    Missybad Missybad 26-30, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Men please speak up. How are you feeling, thinking and coping if your affair is over? How do you justify your affair if it is not over? Do you think you can reconnect to your wife...
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    Okay, folks, an unusual situation here. About a year ago I started an affair with a married man, who, like myself, longed for intimacy (not just sexual). Our marriages do not...
    Cestmoi2019 Cestmoi2019 36-40, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hi, I'm looking for some help from the guys in this group. I didn't have an affair, I was cheated on. I left and I'm dating again. I want to know what makes you cheat, aside from a...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    so I've been in this affair for 2 years. hes ended it numerous times. mostly because of guilt and I should respect that. just because I'm not feeling guilty doesn't mean he shouldn...
    libby59 libby59 46-50 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm hurt, sad , numb ,lost, confused. I ended a 2 yr affair 3 days ago. I am married and my Ap is single. I love him, am in love with him. However our relationship for the most...
    IWhoAmI IWhoAmI 31-35, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    We have been married for 20 years and have a 10 y.o. together. We have been through many things together, like any couple I guess. In our marriage I am the one who leads and he is...
    Miranam8 Miranam8 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Because of the way our marriage have turned out I have been thinking about other women more and more... Last time we where intimate with each other was early 2013 (this I wrote in...
    SteinHansson SteinHansson 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    What's not to want on having an affair?When you have a boyfriend, you can request many things...kisses there, hugs here...yeah love is on the air.But what's more in store is during...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 20 Responses 6 days ago

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    What I see, I wish he would see in himself, he can be the most amazing most intellectual, kind, loving, sweet natured man when he unlocks his walls. He can be my world, my love, my...
    HisBeautifulDisaster HisBeautifulDisaster 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    As I've complained about my wife's infidelities I've wondered about what it would be like to have an affair. When I mentioned that I didn't share my wife's interest in other...
    VeryBear VeryBear 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    The morning dawn removes the hidden of the night's dark. An affair that goes no-where is an illusion that the Other Person, the MM, the AP lives. Ours is the disappointment to...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    The nature of forbidden love is uncertainties. I hated that. I hated that feeling of there is no tomorrow. Any promises are just fake and empty. I hated that. I cannot say about...
    MorningRose10 MorningRose10 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 23

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    I'm actually had more then one affair with a married man. The first was when I was a teenager, I had a relationship with a guy I babysat for. His wife was friends with my mom, and...
    karebear92 karebear92 22-25, F Aug 21

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    Hi all. Here's a question for you all. When you have had or are having an affair, is there any expectation of the affair lasting long term forever or do both sides understand...
    NJBeachGuy NJBeachGuy 51-55, M 17 Responses Aug 21

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    Happy Friday So it's about a week since I found this place. It's been so helpful for me to connect. I've made a friend or two as our stories were oh so similar, it's even more...
    seashaker seashaker 46-50, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    It started about four years ago. I've been married over 10 years, some history in my other stories, but my wife withdrew physical affection and later any sort of intimacy as a...
    jp20156 jp20156 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 19

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    I just have to vent. I am so sick of reading that affairs are always the fault of the person who has the affair. Really? I call BS. Is there anything that my spouse could have...
    untenable untenable 41-45, F 30 Responses Aug 17

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    My wife wants me to be understanding while she flirts and has an affair. How better to do that than to feel what it's like for myself. I'm not interested in spiting her, that gets...
    VeryBear VeryBear 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 17

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    Why do people have affairs?All marriages need to be worked on.It is just that some are too messed up to work on it and seek pleasure outside.It is like a drug.They love the instant...
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 16 Responses Aug 16

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    I left EP a few months ago - and have since realized the degree of loneliness I've experienced. My wife has been in an emotional affair for nearly six years. She avoids all forms...
    Niceguy6 Niceguy6 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 16

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    I love the first time you meet someone and you can sense they are attracted to you. I have met two different people on EP that I met in person and had sex. Both were nice but not...
    intenselycomplicated intenselycomplicated 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 15

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    I have been in an affair with my neighbor for almost four years. I would have never thought I was capable of doing something like this. I would never believe it in a million...
    BellaJuanita13 BellaJuanita13 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 15

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    I don't know if I want a full-blown affair. I think I would be happy to just meet with an open minded lady for conversation and a cuddle.
    melbonly melbonly 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 15

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    Married man here, looking for lady for open minded conversation and friendship. It does not have to include sex.
    melbonly melbonly 51-55, M Aug 15

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    I have been married for 19 years. A few months ago I found out my husband was having what has been called an emotional affair. I found out when I saw a text from her on his phone...
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