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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 163 People

    I've had a few emotional affairs

    and have contemplated a physical affair... Luckily I've had some foresight to see that an affair would be devastating on many levels as they seem to never end well. If you are considering an affair check out the experiences of "I am the other woman". So full of wanting and...
    lovenlearn lovenlearn 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    No. Just no. That is not the kind of person I

    want to be. Marriage isn't perfect, but my husband and I are perfect for each other. I don't want to have the mess and heartache that comes with having an affair. Most of all, I don't want to face God after that.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 4

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    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2008

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others

     I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he has and all he lives for, so I want to be there for him...someone he can count on and depend on. I do not want him to have to ever worry bout losing me...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    I'm glad you're among the ones

    who do not want to have an affair! But if you are here because you are about to engage in one, I'm happy that you are looking for answers... I'll start saying that it is never worth it! It is actually a crime against your spouse, your family and yourself! It can feel right at...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 14

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    Soo as the story goes he did return in April. First he was nice and said 'we can meet if you want?' Texted back and fourth my anxiety got high again waiting for my phone to beep...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I'm glad it's been over for the last couple of months. I just found out that hubby may have cancer. They found some suspicious spots on a scan. He's going for more testing. I'm in...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My ex-AP called me yesterday & I picked up the f****** phone. I hated that ! I know I shouldn't have picked it up, but I did. Ok, another setback. Ok... back to sq 1, breathe...
    MorningRose10 MorningRose10 31-35, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I want have someone to talk to, love, and most importantly, to care for. It seems all highschool girls care about is looks or popularity. I wish they were more mature and weren't...
    MuayThaiMaster18 MuayThaiMaster18 16-17, M 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Over the weekend I had an affair with a married man. I'm 27 and he's 44. I met him over a year ago as a graduate student and then I began volunteering for his organization. I...
    olivehadley olivehadley 26-30, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    dealing with this right now. it hurts so much. he just ended it 5 days ago. this is someone I have known for 15 years, and he is my husbands best friend. we have a history, a past...
    slynnlee slynnlee 36-40, F 2 days ago

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    I'd love Ian online affair with a sexy woman
    Tarmigan113 Tarmigan113 61-65, M 2 days ago

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    I am married, and we share two mutual friends. both are sisters there is our friend, and her sister(woman in question). from the first time I laid eyes upon the woman in question...
    jtks1987 jtks1987 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    I am so messed up again. Ugh. I moved on and was over my affair. He was someone in my life regularly. I'm friends with his wife. He was best friends with my husband. My now ex...
    lilsecret1 lilsecret1 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hi, i had an affair which ended last week. She ended it because she said she deserved better i.e. that i should leave my wife, get divorced and live with her. I have two kids and...
    kabe200 kabe200 51-55, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I realized, here women are not afraid to tell that they had an affair. And many of the experiences are from women not men. Could it be true, that women likes sex and affection more...
    pluv2011 pluv2011 41-45, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/12/what-having-an-affair-taught-me-cami-krueger/ Elephant Journal is one of my favorite sites to read some very uplifting and insightful...
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    Well my affair took a strange twist . I used to be inlove with him , now I'm not sure If I'm . I want to end it soon and I did tell him that, but he has fallen in love with me and...
    liveforever1 liveforever1 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    This is the first time I have posted. After years of struggling to conceive my husband of 22 years developed erectile dysfunction. A year later we lost his father to an unexpected...
    Elsie173 Elsie173 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I had an affair and fell in love years ago and it's still going on till this day . My wife and mother of my kids has no idea about my infidelity ! I love my gf so much it's hard to...
    sleeplessinnewyork sleeplessinnewyork 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I'm craving an emotional online affair, is that what it's called lol? I don't want to cheat on my husband, but id like to fulfill my needs as a woman of feeling desired. I'd like...
    Sarahi7 Sarahi7 26-30, F 15 Responses a week ago

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    I DID IT!! I ended the affair with the married man who asked to move in with me. It was only ever an emotional affair never sexual. I told him I didn't want a relationship and that...
    lucylou13 lucylou13 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I am a married guy who has been married for 20 years. I met a woman at work 17 years ago and we became good friends. We introduced each others family. It was great. 13 years ago we...
    sm4e sm4e 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 21

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    I'm a single parent having an affair with a married man, he has asked me about us living together!! He has told his wife he wants to get a divorce and he is going to move out once...
    lucylou13 lucylou13 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    have enough to do what i want. have the skills and drive to get more.
    mistermdg mistermdg 22-25, M Jul 20

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    Someone talked about photo storage and how to be super discreet with text messages. I talk with my former AP all the time. Even though our affair is over, we still remain friends...
    atlantalady1101 atlantalady1101 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I don't know what has come over me...but for the last couple of days things have gotten a whole lot better...it was just last week where I felt like I was going to break and...
    FindingMyself03 FindingMyself03 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    So, to go through my past posts from years ago this will be the first post in the conclusion of my marriage. In early December I had become suspicious of my wife having an affair...
    j21043 j21043 31-35, M Jul 19

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    What does it mean when a friend you once had an emotional affair with tells you to stop doing something because it is "too intimate?" My friend kept complaining that her neck hurt...
    OML1971 OML1971 41-45 Jul 19

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    I had an affair and my story is a long and complicated one. Ultimately, my husband walked in on us and now he will not even be open to the idea of asking me questions about it, but...
    Anadiir Anadiir 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 18

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    Almost nine months out now. Feeling way better... though he still creeps into my thoughts at least once a day. I realise now that I was in love with the idea of him and what he...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    I was in a relationship where both of us were married. I ended it almost 2 months ago after his wife found out. I also decided at that time to tell my husband, as the guilt ate...
    meok12 meok12 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    When does NC become easier? I was a NC rockstar for nearly two months! It was easy, I felt great. Like tons lifted off my shoulders. I was getting things done, nurturing the truly...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 16

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    I'm married and having an affair with a married man.im in a great relationship with both men.
    k3rrr1 k3rrr1 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I am 59 yrs old having an affair with a man who is 14yrs younger. I have been with the same man since I was 18. I met the man I am having an affair with on a plane. We don't see...
    Salve7856 Salve7856 56-60, F Jul 14

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    Married in Colorado...wierd topic thought id take a gander lol
    Lifessoundtrack85 Lifessoundtrack85 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 14

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    I'm looking for a married man is willing to send me a pair of his wife's panties, let me wear them and send them back so his wife could wear them....our secret 😎
    Pam4U Pam4U 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 14