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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 170 People

    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    I do not want to have one

    and I won't have one, for me its simple I am with the man I chose to be with I love him every moment we have the odd argument or two but not often. He is a very very nice kind hearted man and come to think of it I am a nice woman as well, so I won't be having an affair because...
    louisetiger1 louisetiger1 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    No. Just no. That is not the kind of person I

    want to be. Marriage isn't perfect, but my husband and I are perfect for each other. I don't want to have the mess and heartache that comes with having an affair. Most of all, I don't want to face God after that.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 4

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    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    I'm glad you're among the ones

    who do not want to have an affair! But if you are here because you are about to engage in one, I'm happy that you are looking for answers... I'll start saying that it is never worth it! It is actually a crime against your spouse, your family and yourself! It can feel right at...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others

     I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he has and all he lives for, so I want to be there for him...someone he can count on and depend on. I do not want him to have to ever worry bout losing me...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I don't want to have an affair.

    Even if my marriage seems to be failing, going up and down, in circles I still want to work this through even if I finally realized I don't really love him at all... Or I may have lost the love somewhere in the process. But I recently reconnected to someone who after so many...
    purplefreespirit purplefreespirit 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 4

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    I've had a few emotional affairs

    and have contemplated a physical affair... Luckily I've had some foresight to see that an affair would be devastating on many levels as they seem to never end well. If you are considering an affair check out the experiences of "I am the other woman". So full of wanting and...
    lovenlearn lovenlearn 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2008

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M Jan 14

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    call me a wh@@@ or a homewrecker.. but I've had to affairs with two men and loved them.. it was fun and exciting.. one guy we continue today. I've known him since I was 5 and we...
    XoXo07 XoXo07 22-25, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    all they want is sex and that's all I want to. and I love having men who know that I can give them what there wife can't. it's such a thrill
    CheatingTracy CheatingTracy 22-25, F 22 Responses Apr 20

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    I know it makes me a bad person but I am seriously lusting after someone and I can't stop thinking about her
    cyanide88 cyanide88 26-30, M Apr 4

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    Yes. Yes. Yes. Older married men 😍😍😍😍
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 23

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    any couples out there?? around 27-36??
    XoXo07 XoXo07 22-25, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I want to find someone in Australia to have affair with
    patto077 patto077 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 19

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    ...and my ex of 4 years never let me express it. I want an affair with an experienced older man.
    kinleyhinefeld kinleyhinefeld 18-21, F 23 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hi I am recently engaged with the man I love. i don't know why but now i really want have a baby so badly . I mean I want to get pregnant an all. Ofcourse my fiance doesn't want...
    gummyloveme gummyloveme 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I really want have an online mistress or master to dominate, humiliate, and degrade me. Message me.
    subby123 subby123 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    Hello I want have a bf im 13 blonde and live in brough
    Gayboy1980 Gayboy1980 13-15 2 Responses Apr 12

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    Yesterday I saw a movie where the message was, in my eyes, that the smallest actions you do in your life at the moment might make a huge change on how your life will turn out...
    heardherwhispering heardherwhispering 16-17, F a week ago

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    I've been playing since I was too young to go to school; I remember being little and looking up at the piano, wanting to play it. This past weekend was an awesome weekend of gigs...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 1 Response 35 mins ago

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    I just want to thank each and every one of you for contributing your experiences on here. So so many come to mind, but I have been in turmoil for 2 years and relied on people who...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 10

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    I had an affair with my best friend's husband...Rightfully, she was very angry with me and was determined to let the whole world know, and that is exactly what she did. I don't...
    tulips1122 tulips1122 36-40, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm not sure if this a question or just a story that I have to tell. I just had a 5 month affair blow up recently. I am married for 20 years in my late forties with no children. I...
    phxguy2001 phxguy2001 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 13

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    I know from my own experience that married men don't always leave the wife. I am the wife. I found out two years ago my husband had an affair with some married woman that he met...
    Truthbetold81 Truthbetold81 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I know from my own experience that married men don't always leave the wife. I am the wife. I found out two years ago my husband had an affair with some married woman that he met...
    Truthbetold81 Truthbetold81 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Pep-talk to self: 1. What he does or who he is with is not your concern. He can be with her, or some new girl. If it is her, good that he manned up and showed commitment. If it is...
    HurtsEverywhere HurtsEverywhere 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 16

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    I am a married man, who has been having an affair with a married woman for 3 years. I am not leaving my wife, and nor is she leaving her husband. Neither one of us are IN love with...
    ChurchKei ChurchKei 31-35 Apr 15

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    As I look back at my affair, I look back at what it was, path that lead to so much pain and destruction. There is so much that it caused between my wife and I. Something else that...
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 15

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    I have been contemplating on having an affair for a while, with no one in particular just wanting to have some lively fun again so when an opportunity popped up i decided to hop on...
    fufie fufie 31-35, F Apr 16

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    I call it cheating. On the contrary, what could I possibly gain from cheating? I feel if you do not want a meaningful relationship or worse to pay back someone who has hurt you or...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Part Two. Consider this.. It is not to try to make anyone comply to how I feel. It is merely to enlighten you on what (I feel) is a better way. As I said in part one. What...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 21 hrs ago

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    Hello, I started an affair, it's been one month, at the beginning when he proposed me I stayed quiet coz I didn't know what to say but I had a soft comer for him and I think he...
    Nitin315 Nitin315 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    If you are having an affair and in love with two people then giving the choice to pick wifey/husband or ap, always pick the second, because if we truly loved the first we would...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 23

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    Inquiring... I know a lot of women in here had/have been on anti depressants because of the struggle of current affair or post affair or freak in marriage itself. How did you know...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 15

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    My affair ended back in December.. It actually was over in October but I held on to him sooo much longer then I should have... I missed the thrill of the affair...but I knew...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Actually, past tense..... I had an affair. I have been in a sexless marriage for over 14 years. One day, I met a beautiful woman here on EP who also is in a troubled marriage. I...
    Clandestine1 Clandestine1 51-55, M 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    100.) I woke today very bored. Sitting in my house with nothing to do and found this experience and thought it will kill sometime. 99.) I grew in a small town just outside of...
    tornsin tornsin 31-35, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    Found this helpful addiction advice https://affairadvice.wordpress.com/2012/10/24/breaking-the-addiction-to-the-affair/
    tan999 tan999 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 8