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I Do Not Want to Have An Affair

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    He's Perfect; For Me.

    He is my soul mate! his imperfections are a reminder to me of my own. I see my reflection when I look at him. I know that we both need each other, and are afraid of that, too. We both are Pisces, and I have looked it up, it is dead on about why we are the way we are with each...
    CarmenDWJ CarmenDWJ 36-40, F Mar 29, 2008

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    I Follow What I Believe In

    I don't want to cheat because I believe in what is just. Because I don't feel in case that is a solution. Because I'm faithful, very, to my partner; and to myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19, 2008

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    I Want to Be Someone That Does Not Hurt Others

     I really want to be loving and thoughtful and kind. I do not want to destroy my husband or make him feel pain. I am all he has and all he lives for, so I want to be there for him...someone he can count on and depend on. I do not want him to have to ever worry bout losing me...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    Forever

    I am only going to get married once. I am married now and it is till death do us part. Even if we fight we can always work things out. I have no reason to cheat nor could I betray my husband. THe guilt would eat me a live.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Mar 21, 2008

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    How Can I Show My Husband I Really Love Him?

    Every time I join sites like this, my husband worries I'm out looking for someone else.  I'm not.  I just find blogging and sharing experiences very therapeutic.  I do like to flirt.  And I do like to be found attractive and desirable by others.  But that...
    ladydewinter ladydewinter 36-40 2 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I want to have an affair with an older woman. She must be curvy and up for no strings adult fun - I am married but seek excitement and adventure. South Dorset UK.
    Daniel1978 Daniel1978 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 10

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    was cheated on and want to have an affair male with big **** and experienced
    8InchesToStretchYou 8InchesToStretchYou 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    tractorman2427 tractorman2427 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    I wish id someday find a guy who id like to have affair with. I think i deserved that after what i was going thruh. One day i will be desired. I feel that. I didnt seareched well...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 33 Responses Jul 10

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    My husband of many years who I have 7 beautiful children with has been have affairS yes capital S with other women...i am completely broken he doesn't want a divorce but wants to...
    sweetmelissa77 sweetmelissa77 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I really want have a genuine friend on here. 👥 Please be around my age group... No pervs 😠
    cuteshaybay cuteshaybay 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    My boyfriend and I of 6 years have been seeing this wonderful girl for the past couple of months. We are swingers and it started out as that but ended up being more. He has...
    peace61292 peace61292 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    1.) My name is Olivia 2.) I have two middle names. Catherine & Esther. 3.) I have an obsession with tea (I just LOVE my tea <3) 4.) I am a bookworm. 5.) I wished my birthday was...
    Liv4Life Liv4Life 18-21, F Jun 30

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    I met my OH when I was 13 and he was 15.... we are pretty much together since than with some on/off phases inbetween. When I was 18 I had an affair with his younger cousin who was...
    anniecherry anniecherry 26-30, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I seriously thinking about having an affair because i dont think im am happy with my marriage anymore.
    Prulla Prulla 26-30, F 8 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I never have to see her again now..now its time to really move on, now its time to stop obsessing, stop checking if shes been online, stop wishing and hoping she cared more. I just...
    Greggerz Greggerz 26-30, M 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I've posted my affair story, so not going to repeat. I've finished my Affair, which is why this title says, I HAD an affair. It's been 5 months since I was together with the...
    OnAlert OnAlert 56-60, M 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    An Affair Of Sadness I just recently finished reading an English translated book titled "Koula," by Menis Koumandareas. Menis is a highly regarded author in Greece. I'm not...
    FrozenGuy FrozenGuy 51-55, M Jul 18

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    Emotional Affair: Was she Narcissistic or Borderline Waif? I am a married man with two beautiful children and a wonderful wife. I have never “physically” cheated on my wife...
    DriveRiggins DriveRiggins 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 9

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    Before I begin, let me first say there's no confusion here about whether or not to cheat. Can't handle the truth.... Having an affair is on my bucket list. Yeah, I said it! I...
    thatdresstho thatdresstho 41-45, F 13 Responses Jul 6

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    I ended my affair 4 months ago. I'm continuing to work on my marriage, however, I am having difficulty enjoying sex with my husband. His sex drive is pretty much dead due to his...
    Musicalangel13 Musicalangel13 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 19

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    Goodbye.......... This is an update to a story I wrote on May 20th about my affair coming to an end. Since I initially wrote this story, things had taken a turn. Initially, the...
    bobrido bobrido 46-50, M 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I found out my husband had been having an affair and I left him. I had no desire to pursue anything with anyone else, because I knew I was vulnerable, & that I was still...
    RayMizae RayMizae 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 8

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    Cheater amaze me you have a affair then when crap gets bad you want to blame the affair partner. Well guess what it's affair it never was meant to be right. Something so wrong as...
    Trueman1944 Trueman1944 66-70, M 4 Responses Jul 11

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    How do you have an affair without getting your emotions involved? I think about an affair because I'm so lonely but I tend to get easily attached because I am longing for...
    tammie74 tammie74 36-40, F 16 Responses Jul 13

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    I am an affair success story. Due to my x-h's controlling behaviour toward me (coupled with alcohol abuse) for years, I checked out of my marriage a few years ago. I allowed fear...
    dayflight dayflight 31-35 8 Responses Jul 15

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    Happily ever after is only in the fairy tales ladies. I was a "success" story. I thought that I got my HEA when I married my mm. That is what we all think. We think how perfect...
    blumomma blumomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 17

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    I was in a perfect place. Everything was amazing on Thursday ... You know I get a little emotional right after were together... Only for a day or so.. When I need you the most...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    This is probably a more common problem than I think.. I want to have an affair, I'm newly married but we have had problems for awhile, my husband is an alcoholic .. I feel...
    danitykane13 danitykane13 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    Did anyone have success re-establishing sex and not only sex, but passion back in their marriage after they had an affair? If you have re-established sex with wife/husband...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 7 Responses Jul 2

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    So... my ex mm still wants me. I got divorced, he never did. It's been 23 months of a rough road, filled with enormous love, laughter, anxiety, guilt, excitement, doubt, fun and...
    lilsecret1 lilsecret1 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 3

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    My mom is currently having an affair with this other man who just so happens to be married as well. She's quite open about it and even tries to make me get along with him despite...
    dontknowacoolname dontknowacoolname 13-15, F Jul 3

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    Denial.... I haven't accepted his decision to end things. How could he? Where the heck did he find the strength? Why would he end it when the sex was so damn amazing? I...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 4

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    It's funny you know, In the early days of this affair I thought to myself 'of course I can handle this' and I felt sure of it too. But with each passing day, week, month that...
    reccos234 reccos234 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    So after 19 months, I ended my affair this evening. I sent him an email telling him that I can no longer sustain the affair. We're both married and neither of our spouses found...
    lynn49 lynn49 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    See Dreamgirl75,,,you had the affair,,with your co-worker,,now you ask a question ,,Can to married people (MM and MW) Who having affair with one another 1, Stop the sex ,, yes you...
    pullupgirl103 pullupgirl103 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    I had an emotional affair with someone who was once just a friend. I have been married less than a year. My husband found out when he went through my phone and saw some text...
    soon2bnurse soon2bnurse 22-25, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Is it still considered an online affair if you know the person in real life? My affair is with my ex husband. We were just kids when we separated but we have both grown into...
    ThatCatKitteh ThatCatKitteh 31-35, F Jul 1

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    I'm curious about something? I am only using a MM example bc I'm a woman. How many if you married men had a physical and emotional relationship with a woman who was half your age...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 3

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    She thought I had an illicit affair when I was on travel. I travel a lot, but she got the wrong impression when I described one of my trips. She decided to try her own hand at...
    rikki3214 rikki3214 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 4

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    Kinda of an answer for those who post "how can you say I love you to your significant other when you are having an affair?" Sometimes having an affair is the equivalent to...
    blovedsmle blovedsmle 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 6

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    I had an affair with a random woman called Gill. It was excellent while it lasted but I went back to my wife. She let me come back but she does not trust me. I felt that I would...
    ericthebee ericthebee 36-40, M 5 Responses Jul 7

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    Last year, I started an affair with a married man at my work. At the time, I was his boss. It was his first time cheating on his wife of 20+ years and my third time with a...
    GumboGirl GumboGirl 36-40, F 16 Responses Jul 8

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    If an affair is really over in mans mind would they still have contact with you? I'm trying to figure out his reasons for answering my texts. Is he just being polite? Idk...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 9

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    I had online affair some years ago. The man was married like me. It ended bad. I was scared to meet him in person and i quit with him. A year later he contact me and say that he...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 10

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    So this question is for married men having affairs. What conditions would make you go distant from your other woman? And would you end an affair with the other woman or would she...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    Just a thought..and I might get alot of sh*t for this but I had an affair and it really f*cked me up (read my posts!) and I will never do that again!! Now my thought is for those...
    Greggerz Greggerz 26-30, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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