I Don't Add People to My Circle Just Because They Add Me

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    I have had to rethink adding people to my

    circle. I've added too many people who never chatted or talked to me. Because of this, I have reduced my circle number twice. The first time it went from 83 down to 18. The second time was 18 down to 5. If you're not going to talk to me, don't bother adding me.
    FTDFTL79 FTDFTL79
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 13
    Babyhenlin Babyhenlin
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2015

    things I look at when thinking about adding

    people. age experiences gender stories and recent activity
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 29

    I do not understand why people randomly add's

    you to their circle without ever talking, saying a word to that person. And some who never writes anything, is it just to show off, "hey, i got alot of people in my circle, talk to me!" what is the point of adding someone that you never have or will talk to?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 24, 2015

    The amount of people

    that just randomly add others surprises me. I mean, what's the point of adding people you haven't even talked to, or will never talk to. And then when you go to their profile and see, they've added 20-ish people in a matter of 10 minutes. Wow. Aha this isn't Facebook/Instagram...
    lifetime201 lifetime201
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Jul 18, 2014

    I have over 600 pages of people

    who try to add me but I never add back. people either just add me for no reason or add me with out getting to know me first. and it's always someone 2 or 3 times my age. I'm only 19 legal yes interested, mooost likely not. if you talk to me long enough I might consider...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    If you're 50 years old

    and the only experiences you've joined are sexual, you get an automatic block for trying to add me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    Also I do not reply to people

    who just say "hi" or "hello". Give me a question or something interesting to reply to.
    leanr15 leanr15
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015

    I don't get why people add me without ever

    saying a thing first.i dont know you and you have never interacted with me on E.P. could you at least say something? otherwise- bye bye
    xkmb xkmb
    56-60
    11 Responses Sep 1, 2014

    I go to their profiles

    and go through their stories, posts, comments, as well as their friends list...just to have a general idea of their interests and ways of communicating. I found it useful to prevent unpleasant moments once I friended them...some only want to have a look at photos we may have...
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 21

    well I look at age but

    even that won't have me add you. even if you are my age I might not add you. my messages arnt blocked so being added to my circle seems pointless. unless we've talked for a good amount of months and I don't wanna lose contact will I add you (I have only 8 friends in my circle...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 15, 2015

    Yeah, you know if you have the number 69 in

    your username you're just asking to be blocked -_-
    HannahSavannah HannahSavannah
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    because first of all I want to chat by a longer

    time of period with this people if we are really compatible as friends. Furthermore I always check the profile. I am very selective by choosing my friends.
    Loretta78 Loretta78
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 21, 2015

    Before I Add You....

    Men- comment on a story or blog...let me know why you want me to add you. Just because i love sex doesn't mean Im going to add a lotion random guys..if tout show a real interest in me i will consider adding u...if u don't post any comments or send me a message...youwwill be...
    darkangel6977 darkangel6977
    22-25, F
    7 Responses May 15, 2013

    I will only add you to my circle

    if we have talked and we get on and then we because friends
    Doctorwhofan25 Doctorwhofan25
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 6

    Why? Well when someone adds me to their

    circle I take the time to check out their profile. If there is anything I see there which catches or ‘grabs’ my attention then they are definitely in. But all too often, all I find a very long list of chosen experiences… but no written actual experiences. A large number...
    Alexandra4u Alexandra4u
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Aug 30, 2014

    I only add you if we have a lot in common

    and I think we can become friends or acquaintances.
    theguywiththeredhair theguywiththeredhair
    18-21, M
    Dec 4, 2015

    seems as if i have to be more strict with my

    rules now because EP just isn't safe as it used to be...... well, i guess a person can never be too careful. i will not add you if you have the number sixty nine in your username or if your username is inappropriate, i am not here for any type of sexual roleplay, just no (and i...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 6

    Just because I get a notification

    that you became a fan, does not mean I am going to do the same, and become friends. I feel friends should be age appropriate. I am not going to friend someone who is 12-13 years old.
    FTDFTL79 FTDFTL79
    36-40, M
    Dec 5, 2015

    For some reason, I get an awful lot of fans,

    people who friend me, but never bother to message me, respond to any of stories, or even like them. While there are a few exceptions, mostly people I want to try to remember to message or read their stories, for the most part, I don’t add these folks. I’m not being a snob...
    mickitg mickitg
    46-50, T
    2 Responses Jan 19

    Don't take it personally.

    .. I honestly don't add anybody 💁🏻 usually if I chat with someone, the conversation will eventually fall short. most of the time I don't get a respond back, and questions like "was I rude", "did I say something wrong", "am I not interesting enough", "am I too gay for you...
    Gabs1997 Gabs1997
    18-21, T
    1 Response Sep 1, 2015

    I wouldn't blindly start associating with

    someone on the street, it takes a concerted effort to prove it's worth the time and emotion to add a connection.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 7, 2015
    bandit5320 bandit5320
    31-35, M
    Mar 27

    I don't even add half the people

    who add me. I check profiles first. I'm not adding anyone who seems like a total creep or someone who is into anything weird. I'm not here for that.
    VirgoBeauty VirgoBeauty
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 14, 2015

    If you see my lists of fans.

    You will know that I did not just add them because they had me. I am selective now.
    mother1983 mother1983
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 7, 2015

    Especially those near

    or over 30 years of age. I am not comfortable being friends with men, much older than me. I will also not add women of 30yrs of age or over. I am very much more comfortable talking to people around my age. If you have added me and fit these ages do not expect an add from me
    Kingofgames20 Kingofgames20
    18-21, M
    Sep 21, 2015

    I always look at your profile first

    and there are a couple of factors I look at before I decide to add. Even if we have some things in common I may get a feeling from other experiences that we may just not get along. It may look like all you are is a friend collector so I figure you will never chat anyhow and I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 13

    I always look at the profile first.

    Just to be safe. And dude, talk to me man. I aint gonna eat ya.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    If You Want Me to Add You...

    Why not comment my stories or something first?  Get to know someone before you just add them to your circle.  And like most of the other females in this group, I'm more selective with males.
    ChevyGirl ChevyGirl
    18-21, F
    13 Responses Jun 19, 2008

    I have 1761 fans. They must like what I write.

    You all can continue reading my stories and I might consider adding some of you next year. I am selective in adding friends. Peace and Love
    mother1983 mother1983
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    Sorry, but I don't! I did add back a lot

    when I'd just joined but then I found they were "friend collectors" who didn't interact or they were after dirty chat (which I'm definitely not!) so I've shrunk my circle a lot and I'll only add people back if we talk on Q+A or a story and I like you.
    CaffeineJunky CaffeineJunky
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Aug 3, 2015

    20/03/2016 - Generally,

    I don't add anyone to my circle. I'm not the type of person who just goes through adding random people. Especially not ones whose account looks as fake as their profile picture. Or the ones who have stories that are so obviously fake every person and their dog is adding them...
    shecanonlydream shecanonlydream
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 20

    Wow......Every time I log on here

    when I do get a chance to come on here...I see who has added me to "His" circle...I check out their profile and see nothing but heavy sexual content....why the hell are you adding me?! I will not add you for that such reason, and just because you added me to yours I do not add...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 16, 2015

    i get random people keep adding me

    but they never message me, i dont understand. and they have like loads in there circle. are they just a bot?
    Lewlou98xxx Lewlou98xxx
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 19, 2015

    If you add me and try to message me

    and i do not respond, do not go through my stories and heart everything it makes you all look very desperate, if i do talk to you and know you than go ahead but everyone else quit being a creep
    JimMorrisonsGhost JimMorrisonsGhost
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 29

    I check out your profile first.

    If you have a harem of naughty women, then you should not even bother, because I will not add you. Not here to hook up. If you have no face, I won't add you, because experience has taught me that the no faces are usually trolls. Doesn't have to be your face just some kind of...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    I'm always put off when I get added to

    someone's circle who hasn't had a single conversation or contact with me. If you cannot bother to extend a greeting and a sentiment of why we should consider to be friends, how can you possibly expect me to be comfortable with you lurking about? That's just creepy (and one step...
    storyteller4u2 storyteller4u2
    51-55, M
    6 Responses Jun 11, 2015

    It's not even meant in a mean way.

    If people who add me have similar groups, I'll probably add them, too, but if not, I'd like them to message me first. Also, I won't respond if someone doesn't say "Hi" at least.
    DiketaDrako DiketaDrako
    16-17, M
    Jan 19

    If you add me to your circle then don't throw a

    freaking hissy fit if I don't add you back. seriously it's annoying and childish. I don't just add any happy time joe off the ep street into my circle. I barely add people to my circle nowadays and those I do add. are pretty lucky because out of all the crazy shitwads on ep I'm...
    SladeBolinLeaderofEp SladeBolinLeaderofEp
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Sep 25, 2015

    Also if I do add you to my circle

    because we get on if we don't talk for ages then I will remove you as there is no point in keeping you on their
    Doctorwhofan25 Doctorwhofan25
    26-30, M
    Feb 6

    I believe in getting to know someone

    before blindly adding to my circle. It tends to stay small because people come and go so often. I will not add someone just because they add me in first 10 min. Those tend to never work out for the best.
    Jamestone73 Jamestone73
    41-45, M
    2 Responses May 6, 2015

    Really, just send me a message

    or something if you're going to add me to your circle. I probably won't add you back if you've randomly added me.
    SomeGuyNamedBlue SomeGuyNamedBlue
    18-21, M
    Mar 20

    I don't understand the people

    that add you to their circle, when they haven't even responded to any of my topics. doesn't mean I'm going to add you. and most of them are men, with strange topics they want to talk about. I ammmost likely going to block those people.
    myjason myjason
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 8

    Its crazy to be added without knowing me Why

    Add then not message? I don't get it
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    I'm not going to add people

    so I can have the most friends. I'm here for a reason and that is to interact and talk to genuine people. I want friendships.
    foreveralone22 foreveralone22
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 6, 2015

    to add some one to my circle I have to feel I

    have some type of connection with them
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    If your 40-50 year old i don't add you in my

    circle. Sometimes I don't even add 30-39 year old because they talk about s-E-x all the time. Go find a lady in real life Stop using internet girls. Just because you added me doesn't mean I'm going to add you.
    lorrena19 lorrena19
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 2, 2015

    I have 0 people in my circle.

    I'm going to add 10 people tonight. Like this if you want to be in my circle. The first 10 will be added
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses May 25, 2015
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