I Don't Answer All Of My Private Messages

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    Here is a tip: you will get a higher reply rate

    if you send better quality messages Soooo just sending me a message simply saying "hi" or "hey" is 100% likely to be ignored
    Fierrrrce Fierrrrce
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 18, 2015

    People are so boring.

    They are either just saying "Hey" and go absolutely nowhere with conversation or they try to make it sexual. There are others that ask off the wall stupid *** questions that make no sense. I've had people say that they saw something on my profile that interested them and they're...
    Ordinarylady Ordinarylady
    26-30, F
    Mar 14

    It's because sometimes,

    I simply don't wanna talk. I'm not trying to be rude.
    MrsCarlileAtYourService MrsCarlileAtYourService
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2014

    Or all of my friend requests.

    As far as friend requests are concerned, if you haven't messaged me, or attempted to, I'm not going to add you automatically. I will check out your profile thoroughly first to see whether we have anything in common. I might then add you depending on what I find, but I will wait...
    paulie138 paulie138
    70+, M
    1 Response Dec 9, 2014

    Someone said to me, "Ever think you could be a

    little kinder?" when I didn't respond to hie one liner. I'm sorry, that has nothing to do with being kind. Just because I am a nice person doesn't mean I should be obliged to respond to everything that is sent to me. I only want to talk to people who want to get to know me, and...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2015

    It's because I'm not on here every day,

    that's why!! No matter what site I'm on I try to respond to messages unless they raise a red flag!!
    derricksautism derricksautism
    18-21, M
    Feb 12

    I don't really accept/open

    and read them all. If I don't know you or you never talk to me on open forum, I don't..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 6, 2015

    I rarely respond to private messages

    unless the sender seems genuine, and if he or she has interacted intelligently, appropriately, kindly and politely beforehand. I definitely won't respond if you seem like a creep or a pervert, and here's a tip. If you have no profile pic, that adds to the impression that you are...
    ProfessorYaffle ProfessorYaffle
    41-45, F
    Mar 12

    I hardly ever respond

    even if I see them...
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 12

    Just to make this clear: I don't answer all of

    my private messages on here simply because there's too many of them and I don't have superpowers like that. I apologize if you were in the mood to talk to me, but you also need to understand that I have priorities in life and I'm not going to change them. So that would be all...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses May 5, 2014

    I am not being a snob

    or anything here. but all girls in this site probably get sveral hi msgs daily. If I answered every msg I will spend the whole day in this site n I am already spending more than I should. so if u care enough and want to make sure I reply just give me a reason maybe fill up ur...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 6, 2015

    none actually. don't bother.

    got something to say about my stories make a comment on it
    Angelcum Angelcum
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2015

    I've received some strange messages on EP.

    No, I don't respond to them. They start off with something like "I need some help" or "I need some advice." The next message in the conversation is nothing short of trash. I suppose they think I feel obligated to respond. Surely I couldn't just abandon them during their time of...
    Jononymous Jononymous
    26-30, M
    Feb 29

    Tbh I don't read them all it depends

    who sent me the message. If it is someone who is annoying I won't answer it or even read it.
    Nenanena13 Nenanena13
    13-15, F
    Aug 17, 2015

    I don't answer those

    that don't say "Hi" at least. So be sure to always greet :)
    DiketaDrako DiketaDrako
    16-17, M
    Mar 1

    I opened my settings up to receive messages,

    but I'm getting so many idiotic "hello, how are you" or variations of "would you like to meet/ chat with me" that I think I may lock it down again.
    ProfessorYaffle ProfessorYaffle
    41-45, F
    Mar 22

    I feel bad for not replying,

    but I don't like talking to people.
    JazminTheFlower13 JazminTheFlower13
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 21
    Casualdeviant03 Casualdeviant03
    18-21, T
    1 Response May 19, 2015

    I don't answer everyone,

    because you're either creepy or a pervert or too old.
    ReemLucis ReemLucis
    18-21, F
    Aug 22, 2015

    I check profiles 1st.

    If you don't have any experiences or I don't see you at least replying to others' but just adding people to your circle I won't message you back.
    BlackSheep613 BlackSheep613
    22-25, F
    Dec 19, 2015

    it's always hi and how are you,

    and what are you doing. imma stop replying to small talk messages like this cause they waste my time if nothing is really gonna be said
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 2

    If you think I'm ignoring you,

    I'm probably offline, at work, in class, doing homework, teaching dance classes, having sex, or living my life on the "outernet" like you should be :) Oh and last reason...I'm most likely ignoring you because you said something out of line. Or your sentences are incoherent. My...
    HeyyMrsCarter HeyyMrsCarter
    22-25, F
    Dec 9, 2014

    Not just in here, but on another kind of social

    media too Reasons: I take a nap I'm not in the mood Too lazy, too tired Afraid that i'm going open myself up Afraid that i have to go outside And because of that, i've had lost many friend that don't even really care about me. Which is make sad for a second...
    sunflaw sunflaw
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 13
    Irvyy Irvyy
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Nov 30, 2015

    No as I get to many! Your lucky

    if you get a response from me I'm not on long enough normally to go through them
    myownbox myownbox
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 11, 2015

    Guys i have to be really honest.

    ....i get alot of ep messages and sometimes i find it overwhelming.....i do try and answer as many as poss and i only really keep chatting to the ppl i have made a connection with.....im sorry if it comes across as ignoring but im overwhelmed......please be understanding as i...
    reyyah reyyah
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 15, 2015

    Yeah i normally don't answer many of them.

    Nothing against the people i just not good at talking to people.
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Mar 1

    Help me someone... this guy ha sent opened my

    snaps I sent him but he was on Facebook and instgram like 10 min ago and its been 2 hours since I sent the snap.. whats going on
    Dusty5566 Dusty5566
    13-15, M
    1 Response Mar 1

    i need some peace - so i restricted my inbox to

    my circle only... i'll see how i feel in the morning.
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 29

    Mainly because people can't be arsed doing the

    ground work. Last 5 people to message me wanted to 'chat' and I use it loosely! Asking questions that I have experiences about who clearly haven't bothered to read my profile or anything. Just warning that if all I get is a hey, sup babe etc I'll probably not answer...
    xlxSpiraxlx xlxSpiraxlx
    31-35, F
    Aug 11, 2014

    Ok, don't be offended

    and do not ever take this personally, but I WILL NOT waste my time answering messages like "hi" via pm, unless I feel so inclined. If you wish to have a conversation with me over the pm function in this app, please just comment on one of my posts WHY you wish to, or if it is a...
    JustAnotherEmoKid JustAnotherEmoKid
    13-15, T
    1 Response Oct 30, 2015
    Hyst3ria Hyst3ria
    18-21
    1 Response Jun 14, 2015

    8 out of 10 messages turn out to be pervs,

    4 out of those 8 barely speak English, and the 2 that don't fall into that category are usually either underage, or start out seemingly nice and genuine, and then they goes from 0- to full tilt crazy in a little under 5 minutes. This is why i don't answer too many private...
    RoseMarie86 RoseMarie86
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Mar 1

    I dont, not because I cant

    but because its dudes in there 30's like seriously.
    JimMorrisonsGhost JimMorrisonsGhost
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 29

    There's No Way

    I get waaaaaayyyyyyy too many messages. There's no way I can answer them all. No way. I believe I answer the majority of them, but I tend to ignore a lot of the "what's up?" "hey," or "how are you?" messages because I really don't know how to respond to those kind of messages...
    deadmoon deadmoon
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Apr 19, 2011

    Even though i am a perv myself.

    I will not read your messages guys. Dont have time to reply to 10 messages at a time. Just a heads up next time. Sorry , not sorry...
    LadyPerv LadyPerv
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 17, 2015

    So I started this today.

    I tried figuring this out then left it alone. Just now installed the app. I got a message from someone and didn't respond earlier in the day. So I responded now. I was being nice and they blocked me because I didn't respond fast enough! Like what? That doesn't send a good...
    Kamio381 Kamio381
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 2
    fauxlady fauxlady
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 14, 2015

    I am sick of men interested in sex

    and sex talk on here jeez thats not why i am here . Writing about how i feel is one major reason i am here please dont contact me if you are only interested in sex fulfilling your fetishes i hate FWB idea or NSA or sex chat thanks
    anasteel2 anasteel2
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 13, 2014

    I'm really sorry I can't answer all of my

    private messages, since I just get way too many of them. I wish I could, but there are just way too many of them.
    sonaydushi sonaydushi
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 5, 2015

    ...especially not the ones

    which are only saying "hi". And I also ain't gonna add people to my circle with whom I didn't have any kind of contact before or exchanged some experiences. So if you seriously want to ask me something (not the "are-you-horny" kind of question, I didn't sign up for that stuff...
    MentallyVibrating MentallyVibrating
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 3, 2015

    I usually always ignore them lol,

    either too lazy or I just don't wanna talk :p
    bloodyzombie19 bloodyzombie19
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2015

    If you're too old for me (

    and I prefer younger men ) I won't answer you. Sorry
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Aug 22, 2015

    You wanna get in touch with me,

    then intrigue me! Show me how you relate to me, otherwise I'm forced to assume that you're just a random ***** with the ability to type. "Hi", "Hi there", "Hiiii" and such don't make me interested enough in you to reply..
    LunaInvicta LunaInvicta
    26-30, F
    Jun 23, 2014

    If I Don't It Simply Means: I'm Not Interested, Get Over It.

    Let's say I have a 'radar' when I receive private messages from men who are secretly hoping for a relationship to bloom, or for webcam sex. They don't say it, but I have a nose for it, it's like I can smell it. I'm a lady, I'm not into those things. And I'm asexual (go google...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights
    31-35, F
    Sep 20, 2013
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