I Don't Automatically Trust People

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    With many years working in business, law and government, I have learned not to automatically trust people.  It is sad but in the particular areas of that I have worked in, it is more common for people to lie than to tell the truth.  This is opposite from what I was taught as a...
    Sweetertnu Sweetertnu
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2011

    I've been so quick to trust over the years.

    I'm the type that wants to see the good in people, but so often I've been disappointed. I see all these people with huge circles of friends that are also hugely successful with the gender they are attracted to, and I wonder how it all worked so well for them while I failed so...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77
    36-40, M
    Feb 14, 2015

    Just So You'll Know!

    Heehee! I do back away, when people demand trust from me when we first meet and start with hurt feelings of "I trust you, don't you trust me?" Erm, NO! LoL! I don't trust anyone I've met in just one day, or two days, or three months! XD Yep, that...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2009

    I know many people but only have a few friends

    whom I feel comfortable trusting. This is something that needs to be earned.
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 15, 2015


    The way I trust people is sort of messed up. I can trust strangers, but I can't trust people I have intimate relationships with, whatever the kind, boyfriends, lovers or friends. At this moment of my life, I can sadly say I trust only four people in my life. And a bunch of...
    LittleMonroe LittleMonroe
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2009

    Bad Experiences!!

    I used to trust people without thinking much, and I continue to lean on the side a little in trusting people without hesitation. But I have my guard up now, I try hard not to trust anyone easy.
    bluie19 bluie19
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2012

    I went to a psychologist a about week ago.

    She said that I need to start trusting people and being more open. I tried to be more open and trusting with the few people that were somewhat close to me. Today, the person that I consider a friend in the making or at least support. Took everything that I said him and...
    cupcakedips cupcakedips
    18-21, F
    Feb 8, 2016

    Trust Must Be Earned

    I used to trust people until I was burned, then it ended.  Although I still want to do that, it isn't automatic anymore.  Now you have to prove to me you can be trusted.
    rhettbuttler69 rhettbuttler69
    61-65, M
    May 5, 2009

    A Grain of Salt In a Pepper Shaker...

    I grew up in a city where I felt like a grain of salt in a pepper shaker. When I was little, I got beat up, robbed by big kids on the regular, and sometimes even molested. With that said, I really didn’t have the opportunity to bond any friendships since, well, I didn&rsquo...
    ShinobiJoe ShinobiJoe
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Feb 12, 2009

    And Still Don't

    But from the start it was different with you. I could tell you anything and for once in my life, was unable to hold anything back.  For the first time in my life, I saw that running away was not protecting the one I loved but causing more hurt, confusion and isolation. And...
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    3 Responses Feb 12, 2009

    I Make No Apology For This

    And neither should you friends. We simply live in a much more unstable society than ever before. Being careful and affording trust to be earned is the standard for me these days.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 5, 2011

    I'm inherently skeptical of what anyone says,

    even the closest of friends or family.
    Twichl Twichl
    22-25, F
    Mar 16, 2014
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