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I Dont Believe In Cheating

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    Call me old fashion, call me a prude.

    I just have this part of me that keeps me true. Whatever I promise, that's what I do. A bit of a romantic, Maybe old fashioned to. If I give you my word you can bet I will be true. I am a man with morals, I value you. I do not share, Just me and you. I don't play games with...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Justifying Being Horny and Weak

    Everyone in a longterm, monogamous relationship gets bored and is attracted to other people on ocassion. Sexual feelings and desires, fantasies....etc. are all completely natural. However, we all have a neocortex and are capable of thinking about the consequences of our actions...
    moejoe moejoe 36-40, M 13 Responses Jun 11, 2008

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    The worst kind of cheating is

    when you're married. Why would anyone do that?
    Fortiplex Fortiplex 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 4

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    If you are going to cheat then why

    even enter into a relationship of marriage. It would be better for you to have never gotten married. For those of you in a sexless marriage get a divorce but do not cheat and work out your problems together. It takes two people to tango in their marriage. It also takes two...
    pattywoods pattywoods 31-35, F 8 Responses Jan 19

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    Cheating is 100% intolerable.

    Every relationship I've been in (minus one) I have been cheated on, and every single time, I left them on the spot. Cheating dose so much more than betray someone's trust, and I don't think cheaters realize that. It messes with the person your in a relationship with's head and...
    analisalane analisalane 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    Nope, not at all. I wouldn't do

    that to someone I love. Not my man. I love him so much. I believe he is my SO. So why would I mess that up? I would be hurting myself too. I have way too much respect for myself to do anything stupid like that. Its a waste of time and energy. I got everything I need with my man...
    Inherownwords Inherownwords 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 24

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    Just be honest with yourself

    and your partner. If you have the desire to cheat, you should probably end your relationship. On the other hand, Women, Men, if you refuse to give it up to your significant other, don't be surprised when they tell you they have the desire to sleep with someone else. We're...
    MadameMM MadameMM 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 18

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    When some of you guys share stories of how hard

    it is to be the "other woman" it really makes me wonder why you chose to be with a person that's already involved with somebody else. Why do you feel like the victim?
    Ennah Ennah 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    If your with someone you shouldn't be with

    someone else behind their back. If your not happy with someone than end it. Don't cheat
    iheath iheath 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    If you cheat, you instantly disgust me.

    There is literally no point in cheating. If you don't like the relationship, LEAVE! If you don't like the marriage, either wok it out or divorce! Yes to go through a divorce you may go through a lot but you're going through more trying to hide your cheating. I've been cheated on...
    ForeverLostPoet ForeverLostPoet 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    How is cheating alright?

    Even if you are in a loveless marriage , cheating will never be okay. Do the honourable thing and break it off if you are unhappy. I was called "naive" on one of these pages for thinking cheating is wrong. In fact, I think they are the ones who need to realize that their selfish...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    My marriage is at its end right now.

    Wife is demanding her freedom after twenty plus years together. I was in an open marriage it's just that I didn't know or approve of it. I never once cheated in her even after finding out about her indiscretions. Now I find myself looking forward to the divorce to finalize in a...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 3

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    If you cheat it means you aren't in love with

    your partner and that is my feelings because I have seen it destroy people because they could have broken up but choose to cheat instead an brought friends into it.
    Eyeofthebeholder23 Eyeofthebeholder23 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    Being cheated on is the worst feeling in the

    world and I don't think I'll ever be good enough for anyone that scares me ๐Ÿ™ˆ #hurt #lesbian #
    Daniellestiller Daniellestiller 16-17 May 21

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    Up until I was around 20 I was a jerk.

    I was a cheater and had been cheated on too. I finally woke up one day and realised that it was so stupid to be like that. So no I don't believe in cheating when I'm in a committed relationship.
    muppetmaster muppetmaster 41-45, M Jan 26

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    Cheating is NOT a mistake.

    If youโ€™re truly in love with someone, you will not be able to kiss someone else without tasting your loved ones tears stain your lips. You will not be able to take your clothes off for someone else without feeling like a field ripped bare to its soil. Cheating is a choice, its...
    FuSoYa FuSoYa 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 29

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    Married And Looking In Ep, Is Cheating To Me.

    I am really amazed how people tend to fool others but mostly themselves. I understand that being in a sexless marriage must be very painful, or being around a woman who you truly love and she is just not interested in having any kind of intimacy (any kind) with you. I talk about...
    MyNameIsCecilia MyNameIsCecilia 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    I never have believed in cheating

    and now that I have been cheated on I'm a much strong advocate for it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 31

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    What Is With This Question--- (Is Oral Sex Cheating?)

    OF COURSE it is! Has society become so rotten that we really feel the need to ask whether oral sex is cheating? Seriously?...Holy crap, and some people actually choose that it's not cheating....you know I avoid profanity as much as possible for the simple fact that I don't...
    AbandonedArchangel AbandonedArchangel 26-30, M 8 Responses Jun 29, 2010

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    Never Have, Never Will

    I understand and know that there are many reasons that people will cheat or stray from their committed relationships. And by no means would I begin to judge those that do, its not my business. But in my own mind and sense of morale it is not something I am capable of doing. Not...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 4 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Being a female, I'd like to know

    when men cheat, do they do it because they've found someone more appealing to them? Or do they do it because they can't commit to just one woman? Or could it be the girl friend who's the problem? .. Because I have close friends who've been cheated on and I know they've been...
    lm1993 lm1993 18-21, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    My finances best friend has cheated on her

    boyfriend and it scared the **** out of me ๐Ÿšฌ๐Ÿ˜ต
    jfisthebest jfisthebest 22-25, M 1 Response May 27

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    I don't believe in it.

    .. Yet I've done it. I hate myself every day for it. I probably ruined my life because of it. If he finds out, it'll completely break his heart, even though we aren't together anymore. I almost cheated on him with his best friend. The day before I broke up with him, I was at...
    PraiseGod101 PraiseGod101 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    Not My Thing...

    Hey if you want to do it that's your deal. As long as I'm with someone I'm committed to them. It's only fair and I'd only expect the same. I've also learned that although you may fall for a married person you shouldn't take it seriously. If they are willing to cheat on their...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2007

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    Cheating Karma

    I originally posted this as a blog as a result of a question I read on the Q&A, frankly I was so blown away by the answers and the conversation that I needed to vent, please pardon any trucker words, lol! Anyway, it seemed appropiate to repost in this group... ONE of my best...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 24 Responses Sep 13, 2010

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    I Would Never

    I would never cheat on my husband. He makes me happy in every way possible. Now it's one thing to look and flirt but it would never go beyond that. He is the best person in my life and I love to keep it that way. I'm happily his now and forever. I couldn't ever hurt him like that...
    Tara277 Tara277 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    When I was young and dating a male friend I

    never cheated. When I was married I never cheated ever on my husbands. There is no need to cheat if you are truly in love and not lust. If you are going to cheat, then why even get married. Get a divorce and stop the cheating.
    olderblondemom olderblondemom 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2013

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    I guess I just do not understand

    why this type of behavior would come across to someone as acceptable! As a person who has been on the non guilty party side I can say with certainty that I will never ever cheat. I know how it feels to be hit by that truck in the fast lane going head first into brick wall. The...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    I've never cheated on someone

    and never will But I need advice. - My bestfriend goes out with a guy called Warrick. They're really cute together and they both mean a lot to me. I promised them I'd look out for them and everything and well.. My best friend (Melissa) is cheating on Warrick but she doesn't...
    CallMeChelsea CallMeChelsea 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I don't believe in it.

    .. Yet I've done it. I hate myself every day for it. I probably ruined my life because of it. If he finds out, it'll completely break his heart, even though we aren't together anymore. I almost cheated on him with his best friend. The day before I broke up with him, I was at...
    PraiseGod101 PraiseGod101 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    Result Of Cheating...

    I fell for a man, our relationship started in an unusual manner and perhaps that should have given it away. However, as time went on and he took me on trips, wanted me to stay over for days at a time, bought me gifts, brought me into his life....I slowly allowed myself to care...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 58 Responses Jun 15, 2012

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    Most times you hear about the guy being the

    cheater but this time my 5 month girlfriend was the cheater. Well I am not so sure about the severity of what she did but I have not yet forgiven her or broken up with her. She didn't even tell me yet, she doesn't even know I know about it. Her best friend told me about it and...
    LastTime1 LastTime1 13-15, M Sep 1

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    My best friends friend is dating my ex.

    Me and him ended on good terms and remained friends but faded apart because she doesn't trust me around him and whatever and I saw his happiness and told him that I cared enough to be able to let go so he can move forward. Today I found out she cheated on him, I know he trusts...
    Jaimedee Jaimedee 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    Break up with the *****

    before you go **** someone! Shady Lyin bastards
    kpweant1 kpweant1 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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    I have been cheated on in every relationship I

    have had bar one! I would never cheat on anyone ever. The experiences made me lose faith in men for a while until I snapped out of it and realised that it was me in the wrong for choosing 'those types' not intentionally... I think men are amazing and are capable of not cheating...
    Rainbowcatcher Rainbowcatcher 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    I'm not down with cheating.

    There is no such thing as a second chance with me. And I do not believe in separation. Though a separated situation could have many reasons and stories to it (like an ex unwilling to divorce), I still wouldn't feel comfortable getting involved, so no.
    Sourminds Sourminds 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    This is never going to happen.

    I don't care if I'm unhappy in my marriage. I will work through it. I am NOT that kind of woman.
    HushedThoughts HushedThoughts 22-25 4 Responses Aug 15

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    I have been cheated on once.

    It didn't hurt as much as i thought it would, that may have something to do with the fact that i wasn't in love with her. But i don't see the point in cheating, she told me straight away, but why? Why do it in the first place when you know its not a good idea? Everyone has a...
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    disappointment is just God,

    s way to say you that i have some thing better for you just be patient live life and have faith on me...........
    isabelarao isabelarao 18-21, F Feb 14

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    Either you live up to the relationship

    that you are in or accept the fact that if you're looking somewhere else, you're not happy with what you have right now. Man up and end the relationship if you don't want to work it out anymore. Don't waste anyone's time. Time's precious. Don't hurt. Be more picky if you're...
    TabbyGirl18 TabbyGirl18 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    What In The Hell?

    As a thrown away byproduct of more than one affair I am actually becoming sickened by the "experiences" (mostly women, hypocrites of their gender) post on here about an affair they've had. Worst yet, trying to justify it as "we only went so far" or "it's what we did, not who we...
    Dantescircle Dantescircle 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 18, 2013

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    I don't understand why it's

    so hard to be considerate. If you're not feeling it or you find your mind and eyes wandering, be fair to you and your partner and just end it!
    BleuGardenia BleuGardenia 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I Am Totally Against Cheating In Any Relationship !!!

    I see it happen all around me and its happened to me more than once,,, causes deep depression,, and no desire to do a damn thing with ones life!
    NightOwl321 NightOwl321 41-45 1 Response Jan 25, 2013

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    I don't understand why people think being

    cowardly is attractive. Because that's what a cheater is. They are people without the backbone and convection to confront whatever the scenario is that "caused" them to cheat. If your wife or hubby doesn't have sex often enough tell them and tell them you want to augment your...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I have been loyal and totally in love with the

    one girl since high school never even crossed my mind to look at another woman in my eyes she is all i ever wanted we have a son together and the two of them my entire world but she did not have that same loyalty in the time we have been together she has broken my heart a couple...
    bigfoot1976 bigfoot1976 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 6

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    Cheating Is Not The Solution, It Is The End

    Being cheated on is painful, especially when you've known and loved someone for many years. Had it happened earlier in our relationship, I would have been more forgiving but after years of being together it just kills a person's soul. I can never forgive him if he remains in my...
    tessa4ever tessa4ever 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 25, 2011

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    My Husband Cheated On Me.

    It's been months now since i found out that my husband had an affair with one of his co-workers.  After 13 years of being together (3 years of being married), i would have never thought that he would have done this to me.  We have no children, our first was born too...
    Upsetwife Upsetwife 31-35 5 Responses Jul 23, 2008

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    So I got married in June. I've known my husband for 7-8 years (lost track), been living with him for around 7 months, and dating for a year. We have a baby together. Last month he...
    Ealasme Ealasme 16-17, F Aug 19

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    Hi... My name is Autumn. Me n my boyfriend had been together almost 3 months we had dated wen I was 14 but it was bad timing bc he's 3 years older. So we gave it another shot bck...
    autumn977 autumn977 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    My life as I know it has been turned upside down. Two nights ago, my husband didn't come home after work. In the 7 years we've been together, this wasn't something uncommon. He has...
    ZeldaIV ZeldaIV 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    I really need someone to talk to. I found out my dad is cheating on my mom when I was 14 (now i'm 16) and i've done nothing about it, until 2 months ago. He got a text and I...
    Frederique0000 Frederique0000 16-17, F a week ago

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    I have a traditional perspective towards Love. I do not believe that love is always a feeling. I believe that it is a verb, and will, that is active in times of joy and times of...
    NicoleLM NicoleLM 26-30, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I believe in forgiving people because it can ease a bit of your stress. It has for me. I do not believe in forgetting the wrong they did to you because they are capable of doing it...
    guideme2truth guideme2truth 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 20