I Don't Believe In Unconditional Love

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    Not From a Human Stand Point Anyway...

    ... and it depends on your definition of love and if you believe there is more than one kind of love.  Like the way you my love your wife, is different than your Mother, which is different than your brother, which is different than your cousin and different from a friend and...
    2nice 2nice
    46-50, M
    Jul 9, 2008

    I Don'T Think People Think When They Say This...

    "Unconditional Love"People seem to see it as being either black or white. Either there are no conditions and you love each other totally and completely, or, there are conditions, exceptions, clauses, and other legalese which are petty and do nothing at all to contribute to the...
    MidKnightStorm13 MidKnightStorm13
    22-25, F
    May 8, 2013

    It Would Be Nice But....

    Nothing is unconditional. I have been accused of being conditional. But that very same person puts conditions on me...to move, to die, to suffer, to conform to his conditions so that he can be happy. So what's the difference? There is none. Hate blinds a person from moving on, or...
    rowenbumble rowenbumble
    56-60, F
    1 Response Jan 1, 2013

    Too Much Has Happened To Prove Otherwise

    I see kids with good, healthy relationships with their parents and sometimes (well, a lot of the times actually), I'm envious. I've never known what it's like to have a parent as a best friend, confident, reliant, and predictable adult. Who has been raising me all my life...
    Emokitten Emokitten
    18-21, T
    Jun 2, 2011

    I Just Can't....

    I used to believe in unconditional love and I have given that to several people in my life including some of the people on here. I think that sometimes women are better at giving unconditional love as the men in my life that I have expected unconditional love from really couldn...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    41-45, F
    22 Responses Jul 8, 2008

    I Have Been Hurt Many Times By People, But I Have Found The Most Valuable Of All Love In Him

    I found this video on unconditional love... let me know what you think 
    Tiddlemouse Tiddlemouse
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 2, 2010

    I only believe it as a parent to a child.

    But romantic love? nope. If you say you love someone unconditionally, doesn't that mean they can treat you 'any' way they want, good or bad and you'd have to accept that? Doesn't sound healthy to me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 4

    UNCONDITIONAL? I don't believe in loving

    someone totally 'unconditionally'. How can there be absolutely no conditions? How?? The closest kind of love I could see fitting under this heading would be a mother's love for her children (and I say 'mother' simply because I am one.....I'm certainly not trying to discount...
    NotHisBabydoll NotHisBabydoll
    46-50, F
    16 Responses Oct 30, 2014

    I Used to Believe In Unconditional Love...

    There was a time that I believed in unconditional love, but I truly don't anymore. I am in a situation where I am totally in love with my wife, but she has a serious problem with negativity. It's to the point where I am literally at the end of my rope with this relationship...
    SpringForward2k8 SpringForward2k8
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Jun 30, 2007

    Hmmmm

    I used to think it existed but after me giving it to another and getting just heartache in return I really don't think I will meet someone who can give it in return.
    Tigress Tigress
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jul 19, 2007

    He Says He Loves Me...

    ..all the time.  But then there's all the things that I don't do right every day.  I'm tired of trying to endlessly please.  He says that I say I'll do things that I never do.  That's true.  I do say I'll do and then somehow time slips by and whatever it...
    amychris72 amychris72
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 13, 2007

    The Trouble With Love

    You can never, ever be certain that a person loves you unconditionally. You can never truly know the contents of someone's heart. You could be in a wonderful relationship with the person of your dreams. You share everything, know all about each other's life story, likes and...
    CosmoLang CosmoLang
    41-45, M
    2 Responses May 21, 2012

    Do You Love The Way He Lies?

    I'm alright because I love the way it burns... Check out this video on Rhinna and Eminem's new song "I love the way you lie"
    Tiddlemouse Tiddlemouse
    22-25, F
    Aug 11, 2010

    Crazy Logic

    I've always had trouble with the idea of unconditional love. People have tried to explain it to me in various ways. They have said it is love given without expectation of anything in return. To me, unconditional love means that there are no conditions. You will love the person...
    wundayatta wundayatta
    56-60, M
    7 Responses Jun 29, 2010
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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