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I Don't Believe Marriage Is Necessary

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    In this modern day and age,

    getting married simply isn't necessary in this modern age. Although I can appreciate the beauty of two people committing to a life together, or the tradition that comes with holding a wedding - marriage has never fully appealed to me. Today, we are able to get similar rights...
    lilysworld lilysworld 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 18, 2015

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    You will either be together forever

    or split up... Marriage doesn't change that outcome.
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 26, 2015

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    Don't want to get married.

    If anything, I want to have a platonic relationship with someone and raise kids together (or simply live with them the rest of my life)
    crypticcrime crypticcrime 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 2, 2015

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    Marriage is just a religious

    and legal institution. It doesn't even need to involve love. Just look at all the arranged marriages that continue to go on all over the world. Medieval European society used to be particularly all about arranged marriages. Can you imagine doing the big dirty with someone your...
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2015

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    I don't know why I want to be married,

    I don't want the responsibility but I just want the companion
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 21, 2015

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    ralf78do ralf78do 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2015

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    Unspoken Agreement

    When i was a child i always would say "i cannot love someone, until i can learn to love myself"; Never did i think i could achieve this. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Love is an unspoken agreement, and many, many human...
    mistamew mistamew 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 2, 2012

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    Inside Knowledge

    I just don't think we are able to happily stay together forever, we are too complicated for that and change too much over time. What works for you?
    JamaisVu7 JamaisVu7 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    Never plan on having one,

    and I've been consistent in my opinion about marriage for several years. There are some personalities that are not suited for long term monogamous relationships and raising a family; forcing yourself into a social role that you aren't capable of adapting to will only end in...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison 22-25, M Aug 2, 2015

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    I used to think so but

    Changed my mind in a big way... sorry
    Gemzaayy Gemzaayy 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2012

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    it's all part of ' the system'

    and quite frankly it's unnecessary pressure.
    moononomice moononomice 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2015

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    I don't believe that I need a legal marriage to

    solidify the way I feel about someone. I feel that just being together and living in the moment should be enough on both sides. If I ever find someone and we stay together until the end, great. If not, that's okay too.
    poodahpop poodahpop 22-25, T 2 Responses Mar 12, 2015

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    Everytime I hear the word,

    marriage, I think of Shirley Long from Money Pit "Why do we need a piece of paper from the state of New York.' but marriage can make or break a relationship. There's so much more to life and if you get married to fast and young, you'll miss out on experiences so enjoy life...
    LonerGirl24 LonerGirl24 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 8, 2015

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    Maybe people should get a marriage certificate

    after they've spent a significant amount of time together? Let it be more of an achievement than a commitment. That way the priest/government official can look at them and say "Yep, 10 years. Congratulations, you've achieved marriage!"
    Pingless Pingless 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    TheNateAust TheNateAust 22-25, M Oct 21, 2014

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    I think it's weird how often people asked me

    and others if we plan to get married when we were in high school. That's not to say I wouldn't ever get married but it's not part of my future plans if I meet someone who I want to spend the rest of my life with and we decide we want to get married sure but I definitely haven't...
    Amani7 Amani7 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2015

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    I totally respect and admire the fact of two

    people devoting themselves to each other for as long as they live, but I feel marriage is a way of requiring someone to stick around. Maybe it's just me who imagines living my life as an island, such as only providing for myself. I'm not trying to sound selfish or anything, but...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    I never thought I say this cuz of the way I was

    raised .. but it's I don't feel that traditional notions about marriage is in the best interest of women terms of gave their needs and urges satisfied
    wunderluv wunderluv 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 14, 2015

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    My Views...

    Ok... so I guess this is the big moment where I will fall out of favour with some of you... c'est la vie... I just can't understand why we feel we need a piece of paper showing the approval of some hypocrite in a funky suit to validate our feelings for another human being... I...
    hippiechick333 hippiechick333 46-50, F 21 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Maybe Someday

    Proven fact: marriage is the number 1 cause of divorce Well first I'd have to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life, second she'd have to want to spend the rest of her life with me and in reality I don't believe a piece of paper signifies much other then...your...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    What is marriage but a document

    and an expensive party?
    ImmaSlender ImmaSlender 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I've never been married

    and never plan to be. I love to be free and will never understand why marriage seems to be the goal for most. If you are happily married, I am happy for you, but that seems to be rare indeed.
    faerieoglen faerieoglen 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 22, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    skyeccaa skyeccaa 26-30, F Jan 10

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    Contracts and Love Are Mutually Exclusive

     When I look at it, I think what that piece of paper changes is the fact that you're not together because you love each other anymore. You're together because you have a contract. Someone once said, "If you love something, you must let it go. If it returns to you, then...
    NeonBlueMidnight NeonBlueMidnight 26-30, M 8 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    Marriage, Schmarriage.

    We're raised knowing that when you grow up, you get married.  You find yourself a nice person, you date them, you fall in love, and you marry them.  You have some kids, get a house in the suburbs, and live happily ever after.  Both of you are so committed to each...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Oct 20, 2008

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    I've been married for 9 years.

    Divorce is pending. Though we've agreed how to go our separate ways, financially, possessions , living arrangements, and kids. It is still burden and worrisome. Marriage is nothing but legal hoopla. Personally, I'd rather wake up with someone each day with someone knowing I am...
    kstillsearching kstillsearching 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2013

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    I am not going to marry anyone.

    i have already decided that.i hate too much responsibilities.i want to live like a free bird :)
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 3, 2015

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    Welcome To My World

    my mom and i left the hospital at 10:30 last night, where we'd been with my dad most of the day, to discover that she had been ticketed not once, but twice, for parking in a 2 hour zone. she told me that she knows the new Mayor and that he would probably handle the tickets for...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 9 Responses May 18, 2011

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    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    A Lifetime Decision?

    Many people get married while they are in their 20s. "To love and hold, forever. Until death." Why? Why the pressure to make a 'lifetime' decision so young?? And why the pressure to 'stay in the marriage' and 'make the marriage work'? Are there any other decisions we...
    rusted rusted 56-60, M 8 Responses Sep 8, 2008

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    Why do I need to get married?

    I'm happy with my partner and we are not married. I don't need a ring to show my commitment. Plus it saves money. Who says we won't move on later in life? Again, saves money with that cost too
    SurpriseMeToday SurpriseMeToday 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I think it is a legal price of paper,

    so the federal government can poke n prod into yo personal affairs. I think you can love someone n make a commitment from the heart. I shouldn't have to advertise my love life to big brother! lol not many ppl feel that way. but, I'd rather have a real relationship, than an empty...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 20, 2015

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    I had a boyfriend and he proposed to me.

    I was walking down the aisle when I suddenly woke up. It was all just a dream. I was so terrified when I woke up, my hands sweating and my heart racing. I cried because of the fear. I was disgusted at myself. I don't know why I ever felt this way.
    maricarangelica maricarangelica 18-21, F Jan 9

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    Ang012685 Ang012685 31-35, F 1 Response May 23, 2015

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    At the end of the day,

    it's just a piece of paper.
    kai360 kai360 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    People could be committed

    for life or break each others hearts and crush one another's souls for free, ya know? And just think, if we took all the marriages that ended in divorce and went back in a time machine and donated the money spent on their wedding to charity, WE COULD END WORLD HUNGER...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 13, 2015

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    Alexzoz Alexzoz 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 7, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3, 2015

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    Not Necessary At All

    Two people who are in love don't need a piece of paper to validate that love and they shouldn't have to prove their love before God or anyone else.
    chumchi chumchi 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 13, 2012

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    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M Jun 9, 2015

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    If What You Seek Is Not Within You You'll Never Find It Without

    People seem to think that they've got this love thing correct when they've found a person to marry and not when they've sorted out how they see love. I think I have the most objections with the "institution" or "establishment" of marriage when it comes to seeing love as a...
    Ariella Ariella 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 29, 2008

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F Dec 21, 2014

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    Why do you need a contract between two people

    who want to live together, have sex with each other, and maybe make babies? Seems an ancient antequated idea of thinking of reliability. Tend number of divorces proves it's a ridiculous idea.
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 12, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kimcc11 kimcc11 26-30, F Sep 1, 2015

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    I don't think you need a piece of paper,

    a ring and a big fancy do to show someone that you truly love them. I think it's better for people to love eachother without having to show it in such a materialistic way with rings and gifts..
    ThePiggycorn ThePiggycorn 13-15, M 3 Responses Sep 1, 2015

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