I Don't Believe Marriage Is Necessary

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,816 People

    Never plan on having one,

    and I've been consistent in my opinion about marriage for several years. There are some personalities that are not suited for long term monogamous relationships and raising a family; forcing yourself into a social role that you aren't capable of adapting to will only end in...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    Aug 2, 2015

    You will either be together forever

    or split up... Marriage doesn't change that outcome.
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420
    26-30, F
    17 Responses Mar 26, 2015

    Unspoken Agreement

    When i was a child i always would say "i cannot love someone, until i can learn to love myself"; Never did i think i could achieve this. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Love is an unspoken agreement, and many, many human...
    mistamew mistamew
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 2, 2012

    I've never been very fond of marriage.

    No, my parents never got married. No, I didn't really want them to get married nor did I not want them to. I think I just realized after watching people and shows and whatnot that marriage wasn't necessary. You can get everything you want in a marriage just having a significant...
    lunarrose123 lunarrose123
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 8

    Why do I need to get married?

    I'm happy with my partner and we are not married. I don't need a ring to show my commitment. Plus it saves money. Who says we won't move on later in life? Again, saves money with that cost too
    SurpriseMeToday SurpriseMeToday
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 12, 2014
    Ang012685 Ang012685
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 23, 2015

    Don't want to get married.

    If anything, I want to have a platonic relationship with someone and raise kids together (or simply live with them the rest of my life)
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 2, 2015

    Everytime I hear the word,

    marriage, I think of Shirley Long from Money Pit "Why do we need a piece of paper from the state of New York.' but marriage can make or break a relationship. There's so much more to life and if you get married to fast and young, you'll miss out on experiences so enjoy life...
    LonerGirl24 LonerGirl24
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jul 8, 2015

    I don't believe that I need a legal marriage to

    solidify the way I feel about someone. I feel that just being together and living in the moment should be enough on both sides. If I ever find someone and we stay together until the end, great. If not, that's okay too.
    poodahpop poodahpop
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kimcc11 kimcc11
    26-30, F
    Sep 1, 2015

    I was watching a video about same sex marriage

    rights and the legal benefits that come with marriage, such as inheritance, immigration, hospital visits, parenting rights, etc ... I was just wondering, is it possible to get these rights without marriage?
    Yeonico Yeonico
    18-21, F
    Mar 10
    Alexzoz Alexzoz
    16-17, M
    1 Response Mar 7, 2014

    I use to but seeing how the world takes

    marriages I gave up on that idea. A lot of people get married for materials and the idea of marriage and are quick to divorce. Marriage seems to be taken as a joke by many. I have seen some people together for 10/15 years happy then get married and divorce within a year. Others...
    EternityF EternityF
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 16

    I don't know why I want to be married,

    I don't want the responsibility but I just want the companion
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 21, 2015

    I've never been married

    and never plan to be. I love to be free and will never understand why marriage seems to be the goal for most. If you are happily married, I am happy for you, but that seems to be rare indeed.
    faerieoglen faerieoglen
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 22, 2015

    I don't think you need a piece of paper,

    a ring and a big fancy do to show someone that you truly love them. I think it's better for people to love eachother without having to show it in such a materialistic way with rings and gifts..
    ThePiggycorn ThePiggycorn
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Sep 1, 2015

    I don't understand why you would need a piece

    of paper and a ring to show your ''undying'' love for someone. Of course, I'm taking into account that you benefit from it. But then, if you divorce there's alimony, which quite frankly is BS to me. Can't you be with someone without risking having so many problems if you wanted...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2015

    I used to think so but

    Changed my mind in a big way... sorry
    Gemzaayy Gemzaayy
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 6, 2012

    Marriage is just a religious

    and legal institution. It doesn't even need to involve love. Just look at all the arranged marriages that continue to go on all over the world. Medieval European society used to be particularly all about arranged marriages. Can you imagine doing the big dirty with someone your...
    Mossonarock Mossonarock
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 19, 2015

    What is marriage but a document

    and an expensive party?
    ImmaSlender ImmaSlender
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Dec 10, 2014

    Not Necessary At All

    Two people who are in love don't need a piece of paper to validate that love and they shouldn't have to prove their love before God or anyone else.
    chumchi chumchi
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Aug 13, 2012

    I had a boyfriend and he proposed to me.

    I was walking down the aisle when I suddenly woke up. It was all just a dream. I was so terrified when I woke up, my hands sweating and my heart racing. I cried because of the fear. I was disgusted at myself. I don't know why I ever felt this way.
    maricarangelica maricarangelica
    18-21, F
    Jan 9

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 3, 2015

    Maybe people should get a marriage certificate

    after they've spent a significant amount of time together? Let it be more of an achievement than a commitment. That way the priest/government official can look at them and say "Yep, 10 years. Congratulations, you've achieved marriage!"
    Pingless Pingless
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 9

    Maybe Someday

    Proven fact: marriage is the number 1 cause of divorce Well first I'd have to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life, second she'd have to want to spend the rest of her life with me and in reality I don't believe a piece of paper signifies much other then...your...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

    Why marry. You're free like a bird.

    Marriage is like willingly flying into a cage. Yes you can divorce. Ever wonder why u need a lawyer for that. Because u still have to settle who gets what. What's rightfully yours might go to your ex-partner. The trauma of a caged bird will stay with you forever. It's ten times...
    NikyMouse NikyMouse
    13-15, F
    Feb 21

    I've been married for 9 years.

    Divorce is pending. Though we've agreed how to go our separate ways, financially, possessions , living arrangements, and kids. It is still burden and worrisome. Marriage is nothing but legal hoopla. Personally, I'd rather wake up with someone each day with someone knowing I am...
    kstillsearching kstillsearching
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 8, 2013

    People could be committed

    for life or break each others hearts and crush one another's souls for free, ya know? And just think, if we took all the marriages that ended in divorce and went back in a time machine and donated the money spent on their wedding to charity, WE COULD END WORLD HUNGER...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Feb 13, 2015

    I totally respect and admire the fact of two

    people devoting themselves to each other for as long as they live, but I feel marriage is a way of requiring someone to stick around. Maybe it's just me who imagines living my life as an island, such as only providing for myself. I'm not trying to sound selfish or anything, but...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    My Views...

    Ok... so I guess this is the big moment where I will fall out of favour with some of you... c'est la vie... I just can't understand why we feel we need a piece of paper showing the approval of some hypocrite in a funky suit to validate our feelings for another human being... I...
    hippiechick333 hippiechick333
    46-50, F
    20 Responses Oct 1, 2011
    ralf78do ralf78do
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 6, 2015

    Everything is changing continuously in a pace

    hardly imaginable. I'm almost nothing like the person I was two years ago, finances changed drastically (and thereby my lifestyle and workload), I hang out with different people, I do different things throughout the day. How can anyone even remotely imagine what they will be...
    Gentle153 Gentle153
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 8
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    In this modern day and age,

    getting married simply isn't necessary in this modern age. Although I can appreciate the beauty of two people committing to a life together, or the tradition that comes with holding a wedding - marriage has never fully appealed to me. Today, we are able to get similar rights...
    lilysworld lilysworld
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jul 18, 2015

    I never thought I say this cuz of the way I was

    raised .. but it's I don't feel that traditional notions about marriage is in the best interest of women terms of gave their needs and urges satisfied
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 14, 2015

    Why do you need a contract between two people

    who want to live together, have sex with each other, and maybe make babies? Seems an ancient antequated idea of thinking of reliability. Tend number of divorces proves it's a ridiculous idea.
    Paca24 Paca24
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 12, 2014
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 28

    I think it's weird how often people asked me

    and others if we plan to get married when we were in high school. That's not to say I wouldn't ever get married but it's not part of my future plans if I meet someone who I want to spend the rest of my life with and we decide we want to get married sure but I definitely haven't...
    Amani7 Amani7
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2015

    At the end of the day,

    it's just a piece of paper.
    kai360 kai360
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    If What You Seek Is Not Within You You'll Never Find It Without

    People seem to think that they've got this love thing correct when they've found a person to marry and not when they've sorted out how they see love. I think I have the most objections with the "institution" or "establishment" of marriage when it comes to seeing love as a...
    Ariella Ariella
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2008

    Marriage, Schmarriage.

    We're raised knowing that when you grow up, you get married.  You find yourself a nice person, you date them, you fall in love, and you marry them.  You have some kids, get a house in the suburbs, and live happily ever after.  Both of you are so committed to each...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    17 Responses Oct 20, 2008
    TheNateAust TheNateAust
    22-25, M
    Oct 21, 2014

    Marriage is a religious institution.

    The government shouldn't be in the business of giving out marriage licenses. The government should only be giving out Civil Unions. If you want married, go to a church, not the government. Seperation of church and state b!tches!
    Mossonarock Mossonarock
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Feb 9

    I think it is a legal price of paper,

    so the federal government can poke n prod into yo personal affairs. I think you can love someone n make a commitment from the heart. I shouldn't have to advertise my love life to big brother! lol not many ppl feel that way. but, I'd rather have a real relationship, than an empty...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 20, 2015

    it's all part of ' the system'

    and quite frankly it's unnecessary pressure.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 28, 2015

    I am not going to marry anyone.

    i have already decided that.i hate too much responsibilities.i want to live like a free bird :)
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 3, 2015

    Related Experiences

    Well, it's been a lovely time floating through Experience Project. I'd like to thank my few friends, the intelligent peeps, the fakers, the short-tempered, the perverts, etc. You...
    SlipperyHawk SlipperyHawk
    13-15, M
    Apr 21
    about dating? God no. I think in terms of emotions their involuntary nature. Feels. in other words. I mean obviously i feel lucky sometimes to be with whoever i'm with but I don...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix
    26-30, M
    Apr 21
    Today i meet another doctor. What i thought would be another person saying there is nothing indicating that something is wrong. instead i get a doctor who tells me this is the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 20
    Not really a fan of him... i mean there could be a god you know and a satan like from paranormal hauntings, but that guy jesus that everyone talks about is just total bs now...
    Rokas2260 Rokas2260
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Apr 20
    This is what I imagine a god would be thinking if one existed.
    KatieTreat KatieTreat
    51-55, T
    1 Response Apr 20
    I just changed my reality to one I like a lot better. The opportunity came and I reached out and grabbed the proverbial brass ring. (Has anyone ever seen a merry-go-round with a...
    9minute 9minute
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 20
    I am a 15 year old girl with two almost divorced parents. I am so sad and I have been so depressed during the past two weeks I didn't know what to do. Seeing my mom hurting and...
    wondur wondur
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 19
    People who are insistent usually have to learn the hard way. But with time they learn to back off.i dont mind entertaining the idea of hearing anyone's philosophies or...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 19
    Simple and sincere language. I wish more people would listen to a song like this, because it deserves some ears. The content is not rly that applicable, but I'll set this as a...
    SparkofDecency SparkofDecency
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 19
    I don't want to lose contact with you. My contact information is on my profile. Also don't forget to bookmark and use the new site: www.teen-concerns.blogspot.com It is up and...
    Humanist321 Humanist321
    70+, M
    Apr 18
    I feel as if there is something wrong with me... but I can't quite figure it out. I felt as if I couldn't move this morning, so I slept all day instead. I just keep telling myself...
    pokadot pokadot
    13-15, F
    Apr 18
    I just don't find them necessary. Is that good or bad? My chest is flat so I don't think it helps nothing. X)
    GiddyX GiddyX
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 18
    Please don't close EP! I have had lots of fun on this site for ages and don't want it to end too soon! :(
    kbpimpin87 kbpimpin87
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 17
    Sometime it's too much too take in. I don't know what to say and all I do is smile.. I don't even feel like m doing anything different ... I m just trying to be there for them...
    Dezeena Dezeena
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 16
More Stories