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I Don't Believe Marriage Is Necessary

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    Im Not Really Married But We Are Hubby And Wifey

    we have tattooed each other name on the others ring finger but... im not really married... celebrities get married, get millions of dollars and get divorced in the same year... and we worry about gay/lesbians getting married, im all for gay/lesbian married by the way, love is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    Once a Thing Becomes a Necessity

    Once a thing becomes something that must be done, all sense of romance is removed from it. As soon as I became pressured that I was at the marrying age, its true meaning was removed.  I do not have that natural bride gene, as to me it has always represented someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Oct 30, 2008

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    My Last Name

    Personally I believe that I can take a vow to love, honor, respect and cherish without legal documentation.  I don't make promises I don't intend to keep.  Nothing is ever guaranteed and if for any reason we decide to part ways.  Why should I pay the courts to...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 12 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Marriage Isn't For Everyone

    I have been on both sides of the fence on this issue.  I was married for 16 years in a less than satisfying relationship, and now I have been single for 12 years.  Having experienced both sides, I vote for the single life.  Not that I am adamantly opposed to...
    Vignette Vignette 51-55, F 39 Responses Mar 17, 2010

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    An Institution

    Marriage is an institution; last I checked, being institutionalized was a bad thing   Seriously though, I do not view marriage as "necessary". If I want to spend my life with someone, all that should matter is that I am deeply in love with that person; I...
    Magickintheair Magickintheair 18-21 3 Responses Sep 7, 2008

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    To A Certain Extent.

    I believe that marriage is something which should be private. Now I don't mean hidden, I just mean something personal. A solemn pledge between 2 people, and their family/friends, if they so choose, and their God(s) should they have any. It is none of the state, or the government...
    Rivfader Rivfader 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 19, 2013

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    Just to give you a perspective of how odd my

    family was I shall tell you this. When my grandmother announced that she was marrying "Mr Willeard", her father swore and her mother swerved into the ditch.
    projectgwyn101 projectgwyn101 16-17, M Apr 8

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    Married, But Believe Marriage Isn't for Everyone.

    First off let me say I like being married. However, it takes a lot of patience, understanding, and commitment to make a good marriage. Society acts like marriage is like a level up achievement everybody needs to get. Which is baffling considering how life encompassing it is, and...
    jlk2 jlk2 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 16, 2013

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    Inside Knowledge

    I just don't think we are able to happily stay together forever, we are too complicated for that and change too much over time. What works for you?
    JamaisVu7 JamaisVu7 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 11, 2013

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    It's just not for me,

    I can see the appeal. The ceremony, the ring, the statement you're making, you're telling the world "we are together" that on it's own is beautiful. I just don't see it for myself. I'm not very religious nobody in my family requires it and I don't need a piece of paper to prove...
    Arriety Arriety 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    I cannot see how marriage makes a relationship

    happier, stronger or better in any way. Maybe if it wasn't so easy to get a divorce people would take marriage a little more seriously. Then my opinion might change.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    My Views...

    Ok... so I guess this is the big moment where I will fall out of favour with some of you... c'est la vie... I just can't understand why we feel we need a piece of paper showing the approval of some hypocrite in a funky suit to validate our feelings for another human being... I...
    hippiechick333 hippiechick333 46-50, F 20 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Marriage, Schmarriage.

    We're raised knowing that when you grow up, you get married.  You find yourself a nice person, you date them, you fall in love, and you marry them.  You have some kids, get a house in the suburbs, and live happily ever after.  Both of you are so committed to each...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Oct 20, 2008

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    No Love Should Last Forever

    While I think I will get married someday, I'm constantly battling the presumption that a relationship is meaningless or "failed" if it doesn't end in marriage.  People are always trying to make love permanent, which is naive when you're in love, and hamful when you...
    Honir Honir 26-30, M 5 Responses Nov 27, 2008

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    My friends and I always talk about marriage

    and all the nine yards. We talk dreams and I'll tell them if I was to be married that I'd like to get married on a boat, we talk for a while an them we go on... But truth be told I've always been a free spirit. I can't say I don't believe in marriage but I do believe that you...
    FutureVal FutureVal 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2013

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    Contracts and Love Are Mutually Exclusive

     When I look at it, I think what that piece of paper changes is the fact that you're not together because you love each other anymore. You're together because you have a contract. Someone once said, "If you love something, you must let it go. If it returns to you, then...
    NeonBlueMidnight NeonBlueMidnight 26-30, M 8 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    As my sister put it, "4 years undergrad.

    4 years med school. 3-7 year residency. And that's something I actually WANT to do. Why the Hell would I add a whiny man-child to that mix who will want to constantly **** AND expect me to work like a lackey being Suzie Homemaker while he sits on his ***?" The beauty of living...
    Eitan Eitan 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 15

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    Things Change...

    When I was little I used to think Marriage was the golden light. Marriage used to be everything but then I grew up. I learned i'm a bastard child but still had a wonderful mother, and I learned gay marriage wasn't allowed. I didn't understand why two people that loved each other...
    Beatenrodent Beatenrodent 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    I Do

    Marriage is the biggest passion killer ever devised by man.
    asango asango 56-60, M 4 Responses Feb 8, 2012

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    Okay hear is another tidbit into what makes me

    who I am. At 18 I got married the first time and had the worst marriage ever it was ten years if me working, buying a house, a car getting my feet on the ground while my husband made every excuse under the sun not to work and was a user but I didn't want to admit I failed at my...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Isn'T Marriage A Trap?

    I just don't understand why people get married. There's too many examples of failed marriages. Kim Kardashian.... Let's not even go on that one. It seems like everyone cheats as soon as they're married. Or they realize they never wanted to marry in the first place. I don't...
    JennyJen4lyfe JennyJen4lyfe 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    Most women dream of marriage

    but it never appealed to me. I dont believe there is a man special enough for me to want it.
    tb2985 tb2985 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 16

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    Marriage....What a Concept!!

    There are several reasons that I think there is something wrong with the concept of marriage as we Westerners think of it. Let's start with "til death do us part." When this phrase was built into marriage (historically it wasn’t always there), the average life...
    NebulaNoxx NebulaNoxx 51-55, F 10 Responses Apr 8, 2008

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    Unwed N Happy

    I know that their are strong Christian views about marriage, but my partner and I are happy together with our little baby girl. Not everyone can afford the fairytale life where boy meets girl boy falls in love ask for girls hand in marriage, buy home have kids and live happily...
    reasonseasonlifetime reasonseasonlifetime 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    Marriage Should Be The Perfect Gift For Someone You Love

    Treat your Marriage as gift and not a punishment to your life and everything wil;l be ok.If you've learn from your past marriage then it all for you own benefit.There is no win or lose in marriage, everything is survival and if marriage will be hard for everyone then we can say...
    FOTOCHECK FOTOCHECK 41-45, M Jun 19, 2012

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    Not Necessary At All

    Two people who are in love don't need a piece of paper to validate that love and they shouldn't have to prove their love before God or anyone else.
    chumchi chumchi 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 13, 2012

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    You Can Be

    just as committed without the paper.The paper might be a bit more protection in case of any legalities that happen, (such as the death of one of the partners) or in case of separation, but in general, if you are committed to making it work, I don't think you have to have a piece...
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F Oct 31, 2012

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    I have always loved the idea of someday finding

    the perfect guy for me and getting married in some fairy tale scenario. But as I got older and watched relationships around me fail and end in nothing but misery, I decided that what I want is someone to love me as much as I love them and that I don't need that fairy tale ending...
    ariel2891 ariel2891 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 16

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    anyway its no use to be single,

    like me i got enough singleness i'm 41. i do not dare to flirt women, i'm not ease with girls i always wanna date girls and women, but they always say no laurent
    steack2 steack2 41-45, M May 2

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    Looking For Love...

    hi everyone I am polish-Russian student living currently and study art in Melbourne Australia. Descent professional and mature guy w very open heart and mind... Next year traveling to NY and India looking for new inspirations, paths and art objects... will be nice to meet some...
    MishaAnale MishaAnale 31-35, M Dec 29, 2012

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    Not Essential To A Relationship

    i think if two people love each other then you don't really need marriage to validate that love or to show your level of commitment. marriage won't make you love the person anymore or make you more committed to the relationship then you all ready are. and plus if the relation...
    bemmie bemmie 18-21, F 3 Responses May 23, 2012

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    NOT Necessary For Sure

    How many times have we heard that once the rings are put on (or shortly after) that "someone" changes? Just be happy and live free. You do not need a marriage license to have a commitment for each other, now do you?
    onceasailor onceasailor 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    If What You Seek Is Not Within You You'll Never Find It Without

    People seem to think that they've got this love thing correct when they've found a person to marry and not when they've sorted out how they see love. I think I have the most objections with the "institution" or "establishment" of marriage when it comes to seeing love as a...
    Ariella Ariella 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 29, 2008

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    Maybe Someday

    Proven fact: marriage is the number 1 cause of divorce Well first I'd have to find someone I want to spend the rest of my life, second she'd have to want to spend the rest of her life with me and in reality I don't believe a piece of paper signifies much other then...your...
    Qtip1976 Qtip1976 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    Alexzoz Alexzoz 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 7

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    I used to think so but

    Changed my mind in a big way... sorry
    Gemzaayy Gemzaayy 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2012

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    Unspoken Agreement

    When i was a child i always would say "i cannot love someone, until i can learn to love myself"; Never did i think i could achieve this. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Love is an unspoken agreement, and many, many human...
    mistamew mistamew 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 2, 2012

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    A Lifetime Decision?

    Many people get married while they are in their 20s. "To love and hold, forever. Until death." Why? Why the pressure to make a 'lifetime' decision so young?? And why the pressure to 'stay in the marriage' and 'make the marriage work'? Are there any other decisions we...
    rusted rusted 56-60, M 8 Responses Sep 8, 2008

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    Believe Marriage Is Necessary!

    Now that I am 44 yrs. old, I can relate to what my father used to tell about marriage.As a man, he always suggest that I should take my time to get what i want and strive for my goals before marrying. Back then it is quite hard to understand why my father always advice me to take...
    FOTOCHECK FOTOCHECK 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 19, 2012

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    Why do you need a contract between two people

    who want to live together, have sex with each other, and maybe make babies? Seems an ancient antequated idea of thinking of reliability. Tend number of divorces proves it's a ridiculous idea.
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    There Are A Lot Of Legal Papers You Would Have To Sign

    to get the same rights as a couple that get's married, but it's possible. Marriage is almost harder to get out of of than those papers. But we're in a modern age. An age of freedom to choose without (for the most part) society stopping you from progressing. If I just want to be...
    SofiaGrowsFlowers SofiaGrowsFlowers 18-21, T Nov 16, 2013

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    Welcome To My World

    my mom and i left the hospital at 10:30 last night, where we'd been with my dad most of the day, to discover that she had been ticketed not once, but twice, for parking in a 2 hour zone. she told me that she knows the new Mayor and that he would probably handle the tickets for...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 9 Responses May 18, 2011

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    I Don't Need It.

    The only necessity I can see marriage being needed for would be benefits. For instance, when your loved one gets injured, and you want to see them at the hospital you have to be married or family. Other than that, I really don't see a purpose. A lot of people are just married on...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2010

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    I've been married for 9 years.

    Divorce is pending. Though we've agreed how to go our separate ways, financially, possessions , living arrangements, and kids. It is still burden and worrisome. Marriage is nothing but legal hoopla. Personally, I'd rather wake up with someone each day with someone knowing I am...
    kstillsearching kstillsearching 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I grew up always wanting a wedding,

    but the older I got the less it seemed to be something that is needed. Yes, I did get married but that was to please others (husbands side, very religious). Do not get me wrong, we were engaged, just not in any hurry to actually get married. Getting married really has not...
    MrsGrisham MrsGrisham 22-25, F Apr 24

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    What Is The Point

    If you are truly committed to your special other, then the matters of the heart are exactly that! A ring is great, but a piece of paper that binds you not only legally but can hit you in the *** later in life if you find out you are truly not meant for each other is very painful...
    RedheadJolene RedheadJolene 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 13, 2011

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    I'm Married, But I Don't Believe It's Necessary.

    Does that make me a hypocrite?
    BasicallyLeslieKnope BasicallyLeslieKnope 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 5, 2013

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    I don't believe in love that last for ever we always hear and read about stories that two love each other but someone die in the end .. i don't hear about two lovers married and...
    onlypeace onlypeace 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 8

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    Everybody has their own beliefs that they follow, and I do to. But I'm not going to go around scoffing at the religious people in this world. They have a greater being that they...
    ToBeAnOtaku101 ToBeAnOtaku101 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I think I told this story before, but here I go again... I have lost my faith in so many things. I have lost my faith in myself, in people, in life. When I was a kid, I had a...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    I am so tired of people saying "everything happens for a reason," or "you just have to take it as a learning experience...," or "God has a purpose for everything." Quite honestly...
    RaTEARSin RaTEARSin 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    God is great, I totally believe in God and a heaven. But I don't believe in all these religions.
    alyssab11 alyssab11 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I don't believe in evolution. I don't have to, because it's fact.