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I Don't Forgive and Forget Easily

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    It is very easy to judge others

    and to remain angry with them for good reasons but have you ever stopped to think how you feel when you hold a grudge against someone. I've been hurt deeply by someone whom I looked up to an admired. As a child I was sexually abused so for a long time it was very hard to forgive...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    No

    i dont 4 give n i dont ever 4 get the hurt the lies the pain someone infilcts on me r my loved ones. u may think i have 4 given u n its all in the past, but one day i will pay u back. they say revenge is a dish best served cold, n i oh so agree w that. i dont ever 4 give people i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 4, 2010

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    I really need to learn how to forgive

    and forget. It's just easier said than done.
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Maybe I can forgive,

    but I know I can't forget the way she's treated me this past 13 years. She thinks she can simply claim her new catch-all diagnosis of ADD as the cause of all of her outrageous behavior and I'm supposed to just roll over and take it. Of course she never admitted she might even...
    flailure flailure 41-45, M Jan 2, 2014

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    I finally did today. I forgave my ex

    for all the hurt. I feel so content and after meditating and praying on it I feel like I'm ready and it's time to move forward with my life, like new relationships can and will come, and like I can give them everything I've got. But I also know I have to take care of myself...
    lalalapolkadotsmmbop lalalapolkadotsmmbop 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2014

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    It sounds bad, I know,

    but I refuse to forgive someone who has really screwed me over and I will never forget it. Now don't get me wrong, if it's something small and silly then it's a different story - I don't sweat the small stuff. But the big stuff, the unforgivable hurts to me, my family or my...
    LunarFelis LunarFelis 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I don't necessarily hold grudges.

    I just don't forget things. I can't forget them. Forgiving is only difficult if someone really let me down.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    Never

    I may be the mother and suppose to be the bigger person but sometimes you cant even forgive your own child.How much can a parent endure?I tried my hardest i know in my heart i did my very best, i stood by my daughter when everyone turned away, others told me its enough she is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 12, 2011

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    The small things...I can forgive.

    But when someone lies to me, cheats on me, leaves me, etc...I'm not going to just forgive that person. I don't forget anything. I have tried to forget a lot of things...but I can't.. not made that way. So once you hurt me...after I get over the initial pain...you're out of...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Of course I'm going to hold a grudge.

    Why would I do somebody a favor after they servely tore my confident up and stomped on my heart until the blood froze and shattered. Why would I ever forgive somebody for destroying my innocence and trust. I can't and I won't.
    mightymouse69 mightymouse69 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    I'm not Jesus and I don't have Alzheimer's!

    that just about says it all
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F Oct 18, 2014

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    I had a gf once and she ****** me over

    so badly, she cheated on me with three other lads and she keeps trying to come back to me, I warned her that my grudges hold for a while and she didn't believe me, last time she saw me she gave me a dirty look... She got a smack and didn't expect it coming, she hasn't talked to...
    uramothafucka uramothafucka 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 10

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    I hold grudges, and sometimes I guess I just

    act like I forgive but really I don't, because I will bring up certain situations that have happened. In order to forgive, you have to let go of that thing completely, in which I don't.
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2014

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    How to forgive the people

    who have wronged you? Good values teach us to forgive the people who hurt us. Forgive and forget. But can we really? I think that as humans, forgetting hurtful experiences are difficult and perhaps, close to impossible. In fact, the hurtful memories replay in our minds when we...
    thecasualdilettante thecasualdilettante 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 24

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    I am a very sensitive person.

    There have been a few people in my life who disappointed me greatly, and it was hard for me to get over what they did. Eventually, I did get over it; I just moved on & I never saw them again. There is only 1 person still in my life who did something unforgivable to me, and I...
    s4019t s4019t 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 15, 2014

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    Its true , forgivness its an attribute of the

    strong ...but how can u forgive , when the existence of that person reminds u of his sin , its also true that we dont hate people we hate their mistakes ...we hate the way they are made in some points that disturbe us , but we do not hate them ...in the end why should we give...
    FreedomVirus FreedomVirus 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Ok being a Capricorn first of all we rarely

    forget and nor do we forgive easily too, but I suppose that being the type of person that I am I guess when you hurt me to a certain point and certain degree then I will never forget and that sometimes when that pain has effected my heart so much then I don't tend to forgive...
    xxSTEVE7xx xxSTEVE7xx 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    I'm learning easier ways to do this though.

    ..... It seems the first step in forgiving is understanding that the other person is an idiot. ;)
    NotHisBabydoll NotHisBabydoll 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    People can make their way into my life

    and have experiences with me. But they must rememeber that when they wrong I do not forget. I will rememeber forever, and I will not be to easy to forgive them. They must prove that they are willing to be as honest and willing as I am. If they do not prove that truth then there...
    shur09 shur09 13-15, F Jan 10

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    I Don'T....

    I can't seem to forgive and forget easily...and quite honestly, I'm not sure I want to, at this point. People always say that forgiving would benefit me, not him...but I am not sure I see it that way... First of all, if he hadn't behaved that way all those years and continued...
    NotHisBabydoll NotHisBabydoll 41-45, F 14 Responses May 1, 2013

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    I don't forgive and forget easily is a

    misconception. I don't forgive and forget at all. I am sorry but this stop has but one chance. Life is too short, mistakes I can stand...mistakes is part of human nature. Lying and back-stabbing is not. There is no reason to lie to me, I don't to anyone. I accept you on...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 5 Responses Oct 17, 2014

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    there are some things i just cant let go of.

    specially if you insult mt family or loved one.
    xxpawprintsxx xxpawprintsxx 16-17, F Jan 10

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    Forgive And Forget???

    Does that concept really exist????? Yesterday my ex fiancé and I- went out for drinks. We have been trying really hard to work things out, he really believes in the core of his heart I am the one and he made a huge mistake leaving me. We started off the night in a good place...
    carla788 carla788 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2013

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    As much as I love my birthday,

    what they say is true: Capricorns rarely forgive, and they never forget.
    sugarfooties sugarfooties 66-70 4 Responses Jan 10

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    I'm typically forgiving

    when it comes to small things. I can get upset quickly but then forgive after about 5 minutes. But if I put my trust in you and you betray me in any way, I will hate you until you die. And then some.
    CleverName94 CleverName94 18-21, F Oct 27, 2014

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    I could probably win medals

    for holding a grudge; my family laughs at me about it, but I really should learn to let go. It doesn't hurt anyone except me in the long run.
    Chaosforthefly Chaosforthefly 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    So recently I have been going through a lot.

    An incident occurred and my family has forgiven me and my friends don't think less of me, but for some reason I am not able to forgive myself. I have always held myself to extreme standards in golf, grades, and who I am as a person. I let myself and my family down and I feel...
    mkxhedrick mkxhedrick 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 29, 2014

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    I Admit It..I Don't

    I shouldn't give them that rental space in my head...I guess you could say I'm good at holding grudges
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    Unforgivable.

    after my mentally ill sister called my job repeatedly last night, harrassing me and my co-workers and forcing me to call the police and report her, i will not forgive or forget what she did. the blatant disrespect for me, my workplace and for co-workers who are more like family...
    jerrica jerrica 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    No

    i can pretend to like someone if i have to.i can pretend i even give a crap when they talk to me.but dont think me being nice to u means i like you.i tolerate certain people in my life because i have to.but once you talk sh@t on me or say or do anything behind my back where done...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 30, 2010

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    Killer Emotions

    These past weeks have been really hard for me. My best friend violated a trust that broke our bond and completely devastated me. I've been through so much already and I couldnt understand why he hurt me the way I did and left me alone to pick up the pieces. The feeling of...
    loudsilence1 loudsilence1 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 11, 2013

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    Master Of Holding A Grudge.

    I truly am. There are people who treated me like crap in school and I had many two faced friends and here I am 26 and I still do not forgive them. I have even had a couple try to apologize and I acted like I forgave them at the time...primarily because they had me cornered at my...
    Onedayacometwillfall Onedayacometwillfall 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    I know I should but even

    if I say 'I forgive you' every time I look at them I'll remember what they've done.
    Randompenguin3 Randompenguin3 16-17, F Jan 6, 2014

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    I wish I could just erase this out of mind.

    It is hurting me... Ihate the past. Why do I allow people to hurt me again and again?
    Nannyxd Nannyxd 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    What's really the meaning of Forgiveness?

    If a person did something bad in the past and I've forgiven the person, does it mean I just trust the person again like nothing happened? I kind of find it hard trusting people who did something bad on me. Why do I feel and tell myself, yeah I forgive you, but I just want...
    imkryptonian imkryptonian 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Forgive & Forget

    If anyone causes me pain, I don't forgive and forget easily.  I need my time which I have every right being angry and feeling it.  If a person apologizes and are honests about it, then I MAY forgive. 
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    Since I'm A Scorpio..

    my personality traits are that i dont forget things easily meaning i can hold a grudge forever if i wanted to, i dont like getting in with the wrong crowd, because i've been hurt many times to the point where i've just had enough. i cant be bothered, and i'm not going to let some...
    OliverCJ OliverCJ 18-21 3 Responses Dec 14, 2010

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    Descendant of the Ape

    I just read a story about forgiveness.  It said that if a person has been rude, it is easier to forgive if you accept that this was just their nature, that it had nothing to do with you. We accept this about animals...if a dog barks or digs that is his nature.  If a...
    findinme findinme 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    My friend was pretty bossy to me back in

    December 2014 before Christmas. It was around two weeks after my grandfather passed away. She invited me to spend the night so I can get my mind off of my grandfather. I didn't want to but I didn't Nobody else has hung with her because they're busy with their lives and our...
    maialove maialove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I guess I have to be open to making things work

    if I want everything to go back to normal again. Especially if the other person is putting in alot of effort. Nothing comes out of me being stubborn in this situation. If I still want the person to be in my life, then it's best for me to give them another chance.
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 16-17, F Feb 17

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    Please get out of my head,

    I don't want to think of you anymore, it's hell just replaying everything in my head, I just want you to go away.
    Unicornpeasant Unicornpeasant 18-21, F Mar 20

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    Well...

    I can forget easily, but I don't forget.. So many people hurted me, I forgave them, but forget? Never...
    misunderztood misunderztood 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    There's a dark bubbling rage inside everyone.

    .. It comes naturally for some to ignore it, and be able to move on with life... I used to forgive and forget easily, but now I've got a sadistic hatred towards anybody who wrongs me even slightly... I'm always so sarcastic that people think I'm just joking when I talk about...
    iamFrightened iamFrightened 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 9

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