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I Don't Forgive and Forget Easily

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    Why I Don't Forgive and Forget Easily

    Ever since the events of the last few years, I dont trust people easily. A lot of people i trusted a lot, have broken my trust, and each time it happens i find it harder and harder to trust people. It started a while ago, cant exactly remember when, but I've always been close to...
    openuris openuris 18-21, F Jan 15, 2008

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    Master Of Holding A Grudge.

    I truly am. There are people who treated me like crap in school and I had many two faced friends and here I am 26 and I still do not forgive them. I have even had a couple try to apologize and I acted like I forgave them at the time...primarily because they had me cornered at my...
    Onedayacometwillfall Onedayacometwillfall 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    I know I should but even

    if I say 'I forgive you' every time I look at them I'll remember what they've done.
    Randompenguin3 Randompenguin3 16-17, F Jan 6

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    It's Not Fair That I Am Expected To Forgive And Forget So Easily.

    I am a true believer in forgiveness, but I also do believe that some things just can't be forgiven. Sometimes you hurt so bad, that you can't forgive it. Forgiveness comes from the heart and in order to give it, you have to feel it. I've been hurt, just like we've all been hurt...
    courttttmarie courttttmarie 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2012

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    I Admit It..I Don't

    I shouldn't give them that rental space in my head...I guess you could say I'm good at holding grudges
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    Grudge Master Of The Universe

    I Can't let go of them.  Oh I can with the guys or casual friends.  But if you are in my posse and you do or say something I think is disloyal I write you out of my life.  Disloyalty is the worst. Nothing wipes the memory away.  Friends are supposed to have your back.  A man...
    artemis66 artemis66 31-35 3 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    Forgive And Forget???

    Does that concept really exist????? Yesterday my ex fiancé and I- went out for drinks. We have been trying really hard to work things out, he really believes in the core of his heart I am the one and he made a huge mistake leaving me. We started off the night in a good place...
    carla788 carla788 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    Forgiveness Is Divine But to Forget?

    I can forgive pretty easily depending on the nature of the offense. Forgetting is an entirely different story, I have a long memory when it comes to being hurt and I can often remember the exact nature of the hurt and what the person said that wounded me at the time. It's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    I Don'T Even Know

    Thanks to you, i've learned an important lesson. I've learned that it's okay to open up your heart, but then you have to face reality sooner or later. I picked later. I didn't want to face reality. But it had to come. There's no way around it. But thanks to you, i learned...
    SecretIsOut SecretIsOut 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 13, 2013

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    The Grudge...s

    I don't know where it came from, this habit of begrudging ppl for wronging me and my loved ones. Maybe it grew from my mum's nasty habit of never letting a mistake go - always bringing it up again and again to **** me [and many others] off. Anyway, I'm not one of those ppl who...
    BowsAndBones BowsAndBones 16-18, F 3 Responses Jul 20, 2007

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    Being Bullied

    i really dont know where to start but i will keep it short. i had a very strict father when growing up who thought nothing of using me or my older brother as a punch bag this went on for years for things like coming home ten minutes late or not eating all our meals, this has...
    derrickpm derrickpm 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 22, 2011

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    To Hell With My Ex

    Lemme know if you agree by commenting this! When I was 16, I was in a relationship with a girl named Carrie. As all my relationships have been, it started out great, became abusive in all manners and I ended it due to adultry. She used to be such a wise-*** strutting around like...
    ByungHee ByungHee 26-30, M May 30, 2013

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    Forgiveness And Forgetting Are One In The Same

    Oftentimes, I hear people say that they forgive but they don’t forget. I don’t believe in this idea; I believe that so long as you can remember what bad things people have done to you, you cannot really forgive. Once you have absolutely no care for whatever bad thing someone...
    TravelingHelper TravelingHelper 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 11, 2012

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    I Really Hate This About Myself

    I find that I can get back to normal and be friendly, but it's very hard to forget what the person has done.  In fact, I find it nearly impossible if it's a big thing.  I wonder if by "forget" the meaning is to literally forget.  I think that if someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 29, 2007

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    Well...

    I can forget easily, but I don't forget.. So many people hurted me, I forgave them, but forget? Never...
    misunderztood misunderztood 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Want To Forgive Them.

    So story short I had a crappy childhood. I won't bore you with the details but summarized up in a neat little ball I had a fight with my parents when I turned 18 because i didn't want to take it anymore. A year later they call me up with the perception that they've changed. I...
    Mindy723 Mindy723 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2010

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    It's a Major Flaw.

    I know this is something I need to change about myself because it is starting to make me a little bitter in regard toward certain people and things. Somethings I will never forget and some people I will never forgive but I think there are things I need to. - RDW
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 5 Responses Aug 3, 2007

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    I Will Not Forgive A Man Who Blames Me

    I was sleep in my bed and went to the restroom in the middle of the night then my husband started punching me in the face and blood started comming out my face and he wants me to say sorry
    cute77 cute77 31-35, F Sep 17, 2012

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    Cheaters Never Win...

    My current boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. He's in the National Guard. We graduated from high school in 2008 and he joined the Guard that following August. He left for basic training that November. He was gone for 9 months. I visited him in Missouri and in Georgia...
    SPCgirl SPCgirl 18-21, F Jul 31, 2011

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    No

    i dont 4 give n i dont ever 4 get the hurt the lies the pain someone infilcts on me r my loved ones. u may think i have 4 given u n its all in the past, but one day i will pay u back. they say revenge is a dish best served cold, n i oh so agree w that. i dont ever 4 give people i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 4, 2010

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    I Don'T....

    I can't seem to forgive and forget easily...and quite honestly, I'm not sure I want to, at this point. People always say that forgiving would benefit me, not him...but I am not sure I see it that way... First of all, if he hadn't behaved that way all those years and continued...
    Babydoll42 Babydoll42 41-45, F 14 Responses May 1, 2013

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    Can't Do It

    I keep getting told to forgive and forget. How? When someone hurts me how can I possibly forgive or forget that. Am I supposed to forgive my step-father for sexually abusing me (I know I will never forget it) You can't forget and if you forgive them who's to say they won't...
    tarrat43 tarrat43 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 8, 2008

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    Conflicted

    About 20 years ago, a my husband's sister walked away from his family and started spreading insane rumors about her childhood that all of her siblings knew were untrue.  She stayed out of our lives  and even denied her father the peace of mind of dying with things "right...
    katrinalynn76 katrinalynn76 46-50, F Apr 16, 2012

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    Maybe I can forgive,

    but I know I can't forget the way she's treated me this past 13 years. She thinks she can simply claim her new catch-all diagnosis of ADD as the cause of all of her outrageous behavior and I'm supposed to just roll over and take it. Of course she never admitted she might even...
    flailure flailure 41-45, M Jan 2

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    I Forgive But Never Forget.

    It's more of i never forget than forgive. I don't mind forgiving people, it's the negativity or embarrassment that sticks with me all my life taunting me. I won't forgive when people call me ugly like five years ago. All my bad past memories keep coming back to me haunting me all...
    loveanime2 loveanime2 13-15 Aug 14, 2011

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    Well, Only Partially

    I ALWAYS forgive, but NEVER forget...
    myspip myspip 18-21, M Aug 4, 2007

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    Eventually, But Not Easily

    I need space and time to get over being hurt or wronged. I remember a fight I'd had with my sister once. Another of my sisters, one I interacted with a lot more, told her to just give me some time and I'd definitely forgive her. Just for that, I wanted to hold that grudge forever...
    Dyssey Dyssey 70+, F Aug 23, 2013

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    I Need To Try

    Forgiveness...that's a tough one. I don't want to forgive, right now I want to be angry, I want to rant, I want to get him back. I know how to forgive but actually doing it is the hard part. It's been such a long time that this has built up, 14 years of disappointment, heartache...
    Isntitironic Isntitironic 31-35, F 3 Responses May 30, 2013

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    I Refuse to Forgive and Forget

    My father used to beat me...from the ages of  10 to 13. The worst 3 years of my life. calling me stupid, and fat and worthless. Fast forward to today..I have scars on my arms from self injury, though I havent cut in a year. My self esteem is non existant, and I have a place...
    BiSuicide BiSuicide 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 1, 2009

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    Can't Move On

    She was the first girl I've ever loved. I had never felt anything like that for anyone, for a man or a woman. I was pretty young and naive, even though this story didn't happy long ago, but the scars of what happened burned my soul so deep that I feel like I got much older...
    mugcup21 mugcup21 18-21, F May 13, 2011

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    I Can't Help It.

    I try so hard to forgive and forget, but i just can't. early into our relationship, my boyfriend hurt me a lot. he flirted with other women, he wrote extremely hurtful letters about how i was a dirty *****, and he really didn't take our relationship seriously at all.It's been a...
    inawarwiththeworld inawarwiththeworld 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 10, 2012

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    It's Not That I Don't

    If a person owns up to their actions and sincerely apologizes, I can wholeheartedly forgive them and move on almost immediately. People who either give me half-assed apologies or think that they did nothing wrong, I skip right over forgive and go straight to forget. Forgetting...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 18-21, F Sep 21, 2013

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    Sometimes I Forgive, But I Never Forget

    I'll forgive someone an indiscretion... I'll forgive someone a momentary lapse of common decency... I will not forgive repeated lapses. I will not forgive an abandonment of morals. I will not forgive a malicious attack.
    eyes eyes 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 15, 2007

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    I Want To Be More Forgiving.

    I try hard not to be like this, and it's something I will always work on. If someone screws me over once, that's it. Relationship over. I don't want to be around you anymore. It's just the way I naturally am and I wish I was more forgiving. Hopefully I will be one day.
    devouringflames devouringflames 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2013

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    Descendant of the Ape

    I just read a story about forgiveness.  It said that if a person has been rude, it is easier to forgive if you accept that this was just their nature, that it had nothing to do with you. We accept this about animals...if a dog barks or digs that is his nature.  If a...
    findinme findinme 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    I Have Learned How

    You know how it works with forgiveness. We fling out the "I'll never forgive you!" and hold onto the pain, torture, ill-feelings, betrayal, feeling stupid, our self-worth, self-esteem and self-image crumbling to dust. We lose trust, become relationship-shy, cynical, bitter...
    CatchCabby CatchCabby 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 17, 2010

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    I Just Can't Let Go...

    There are ghosts from my past that will haunt me forever, but I just want to forget everything. I want to start over. Sometimes I want to be somebody else. I wish I could forget all bad stuff so it won't weigh me down any more. I wish I could forgive those that hurt me - I want...
    Ragelovelumos Ragelovelumos 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 17, 2012

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    No

    i can pretend to like someone if i have to.i can pretend i even give a crap when they talk to me.but dont think me being nice to u means i like you.i tolerate certain people in my life because i have to.but once you talk sh@t on me or say or do anything behind my back where done...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 30, 2010

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    It's Hard to Forget

    Especially when I'm extremely disappointed by someone I thought I could trust and was a friend.  If they disappoint me I take it personally and things are never the same again.  I'm trying not to let it get to me, I figure I put more value on the friendship than they...
    Morgause Morgause 41-45, F Jul 4, 2008

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    Why I Don't Forgive and Forget Easily

    Ever since the events of the last few years, I dont trust people easily. A lot of people i trusted a lot, have broken my trust, and each time it happens i find it harder and harder to trust people. It started a while ago, cant exactly remember when, but I've always been close to...
    openuris openuris 18-21, F Jan 15, 2008

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    Emotional

    I have that all the time. Can't forgive nor forget easily. It really hurts when a person hurts my feelings or when something disgraceful has happen to me. I can get mad that quick and hold that feeling for a very long time. It made me trust people less and be doubtful. It keeps...
    Adrianna Adrianna 21-25, F Aug 12, 2007

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    Its Not So Much a Grudge...

    as a lack of trust. I do not trust easily. I find that once someone breaks my trust that I am incapable of trusting them again. Very rarely do I come to trust someone after this loss of trust. I have sometimes been told to just let stuff go, and I think that I have, I do not...
    bluemooon bluemooon 19-21, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2007

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    Do You Really Think I Can Forget!

    Somethings I can't forget that my husband said to me in the past 10 years: After 7 years of marriage.  I didn't love you the first 7 but now I do.  That's why we never really had sex. To his best friend.  She's to fat why would I want to **** her.  After I...
    tks tks 36-40, F 12 Responses Nov 16, 2007

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    I hold grudges, and sometimes I guess I just

    act like I forgive but really I don't, because I will bring up certain situations that have happened. In order to forgive, you have to let go of that thing completely, in which I don't.
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Biggest Impact On Me

    This one day I wish never happened but yet again I'm glad it did. 'This one day' was the day my boyfriend who I truly love so much that it literally hurts my heart so much, who tells me he loves me 100000 times a day, promises me he will never hurt me nor leave me, gave up on me...
    Laalaa1 Laalaa1 16-17, F Nov 16, 2013

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    Grudge Master

    I still hold grudges from years ago. It seems I never let go of anything really. I think one day it may just eat me alive, but oh well. When your mom doesn't raise you, I think it's ok to hold a grudge against that. She gets upset whenever I bring it up. But I missed out on...
    Melody08 Melody08 18-21, F Mar 5, 2008

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    Forgive & Forget

    If anyone causes me pain, I don't forgive and forget easily.  I need my time which I have every right being angry and feeling it.  If a person apologizes and are honests about it, then I MAY forgive. 
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    Since I'm A Scorpio..

    my personality traits are that i dont forget things easily meaning i can hold a grudge forever if i wanted to, i dont like getting in with the wrong crowd, because i've been hurt many times to the point where i've just had enough. i cant be bothered, and i'm not going to let some...
    OliverCJ OliverCJ 18-21 3 Responses Dec 14, 2010

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    Forgive And Let Live, Yeah Right

    Its not that I hold a grudge. I really don't. People can go on about their lives and I wouldn't give them the time of day. My anger or any other emotion feels too precious to waste on those people. But I'll always remeber who did what, or said that. So I know who not to trust and...
    SisteroftheNight SisteroftheNight 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    Why?

    A friend had an affair. It wasn't me that was betrayed and yet I can't seem to be able to forgive her. Does that make sense? I have a strong code of honor that I try to live by. If a family member or friend violates that code, I feel betrayed and I turn my back on them...
    brighteyedstargazer brighteyedstargazer 36-40, F Jun 6, 2013

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    Unforgivable.

    after my mentally ill sister called my job repeatedly last night, harrassing me and my co-workers and forcing me to call the police and report her, i will not forgive or forget what she did. the blatant disrespect for me, my workplace and for co-workers who are more like family...
    jerrica jerrica 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    Sometimes Its Better That Way

    Once someone has wronged me, it first has to be significant enough. I don't let the little petty things get to me. But if its someone I've trusted then that's another story. If you wronged me by betraying my trust, lying to me and causing drama. In most cases I can forgive a...
    asimpson86 asimpson86 22-25, F Feb 1, 2012

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    My Ex Husband Cheated On Me...

    10 years ago I walked in on my now ex husband of only six months having sex with a coworker in the washroom at his office holiday party. I've never forgiven him and I've never loved or trusted a man since. My bitterness makes me so ugly.
    UrbanSWF UrbanSWF 31-35, F Nov 8, 2013

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    It Ends Here

    This is where forgiveness will be left, here on this blog post. I've been given this chance to become a great person, I have friends who love me and a life ahead of me. I've given you a certain period of time to try and make up to me for the problems you caused and the hurt you...
    KBISK KBISK 26-30, M Aug 16, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    People mistake how open I am about myself for trusting them. Just because I'm willing to tell you about myself and my past doesn't mean I trust you.
    AnInfamousDerka AnInfamousDerka 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    I've had so many people come and go throughout my life. Whether it's something they did or something I felt I've never had any interest in trying to hold on to them. I've never...
    DarknessWolf DarknessWolf 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 4

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    You don't know what I have been through regardless of who the person was, It wasn't a bad experience, never that. Peroooo I learned from it. You can always have that one friend who...
    DDanaaax3 DDanaaax3 13-15, F