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I Don't Forgive and Forget Easily

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    Since I'm A Scorpio..

    my personality traits are that i dont forget things easily meaning i can hold a grudge forever if i wanted to, i dont like getting in with the wrong crowd, because i've been hurt many times to the point where i've just had enough. i cant be bothered, and i'm not going to let some...
    OliverCJ OliverCJ 18-21 3 Responses Dec 14, 2010

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    Forgive & Forget

    If anyone causes me pain, I don't forgive and forget easily.  I need my time which I have every right being angry and feeling it.  If a person apologizes and are honests about it, then I MAY forgive. 
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    So recently I have been going through a lot.

    An incident occurred and my family has forgiven me and my friends don't think less of me, but for some reason I am not able to forgive myself. I have always held myself to extreme standards in golf, grades, and who I am as a person. I let myself and my family down and I feel...
    mkxhedrick mkxhedrick 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    Its Not So Much a Grudge...

    as a lack of trust. I do not trust easily. I find that once someone breaks my trust that I am incapable of trusting them again. Very rarely do I come to trust someone after this loss of trust. I have sometimes been told to just let stuff go, and I think that I have, I do not...
    bluemooon bluemooon 19-21, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2007

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    It was hard for me to forgive

    and forget. The past was like a road block in my mind stopping my good thoughts from flowing. The pain was centered to me felt only when a past thought will arise. It made me react and say hurtful things to people i once loved until i realize I'm only hurting myself. No who hurt...
    AZRIEL7 AZRIEL7 26-30, M Dec 14, 2013

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    Never

    I may be the mother and suppose to be the bigger person but sometimes you cant even forgive your own child.How much can a parent endure?I tried my hardest i know in my heart i did my very best, i stood by my daughter when everyone turned away, others told me its enough she is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 12, 2011

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    It Ends Here

    This is where forgiveness will be left, here on this blog post. I've been given this chance to become a great person, I have friends who love me and a life ahead of me. I've given you a certain period of time to try and make up to me for the problems you caused and the hurt you...
    KBISK KBISK 26-30, M Aug 16, 2012

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    Forgive And Let Live, Yeah Right

    Its not that I hold a grudge. I really don't. People can go on about their lives and I wouldn't give them the time of day. My anger or any other emotion feels too precious to waste on those people. But I'll always remeber who did what, or said that. So I know who not to trust and...
    SisteroftheNight SisteroftheNight 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    I Admit It..I Don't

    I shouldn't give them that rental space in my head...I guess you could say I'm good at holding grudges
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    I Cant

    My daughter is know a stranger to me.I can never forgive her for what she is about to do.She has decided to sign away her rights to her own children.NO  REAL mother would ever just do something like that.And why is she doing it?!Because she doesn't want to pay child support...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    I really need to learn how to forgive

    and forget. It's just easier said than done.
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 2 Responses May 6

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    I finally did today. I forgave my ex

    for all the hurt. I feel so content and after meditating and praying on it I feel like I'm ready and it's time to move forward with my life, like new relationships can and will come, and like I can give them everything I've got. But I also know I have to take care of myself...
    lalalapolkadotsmmbop lalalapolkadotsmmbop 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Why?

    A friend had an affair. It wasn't me that was betrayed and yet I can't seem to be able to forgive her. Does that make sense? I have a strong code of honor that I try to live by. If a family member or friend violates that code, I feel betrayed and I turn my back on them...
    brighteyedstargazer brighteyedstargazer 36-40, F Jun 6, 2013

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    Conflicted

    About 20 years ago, a my husband's sister walked away from his family and started spreading insane rumors about her childhood that all of her siblings knew were untrue.  She stayed out of our lives  and even denied her father the peace of mind of dying with things "right...
    katrinalynn76 katrinalynn76 46-50, F Apr 16, 2012

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    My Ex Husband Cheated On Me...

    10 years ago I walked in on my now ex husband of only six months having sex with a coworker in the washroom at his office holiday party. I've never forgiven him and I've never loved or trusted a man since. My bitterness makes me so ugly.
    UrbanSWF UrbanSWF 31-35, F Nov 8, 2013

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    I know I should but even

    if I say 'I forgive you' every time I look at them I'll remember what they've done.
    Randompenguin3 Randompenguin3 16-17, F Jan 6

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    I Don'T Even Know

    Thanks to you, i've learned an important lesson. I've learned that it's okay to open up your heart, but then you have to face reality sooner or later. I picked later. I didn't want to face reality. But it had to come. There's no way around it. But thanks to you, i learned...
    SecretIsOut SecretIsOut 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 13, 2013

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    Killer Emotions

    These past weeks have been really hard for me. My best friend violated a trust that broke our bond and completely devastated me. I've been through so much already and I couldnt understand why he hurt me the way I did and left me alone to pick up the pieces. The feeling of...
    loudsilence1 loudsilence1 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 11, 2013

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    It's Hard to Forget

    Especially when I'm extremely disappointed by someone I thought I could trust and was a friend.  If they disappoint me I take it personally and things are never the same again.  I'm trying not to let it get to me, I figure I put more value on the friendship than they...
    Morgause Morgause 41-45, F Jul 4, 2008

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    Master Of Holding A Grudge.

    I truly am. There are people who treated me like crap in school and I had many two faced friends and here I am 26 and I still do not forgive them. I have even had a couple try to apologize and I acted like I forgave them at the time...primarily because they had me cornered at my...
    Onedayacometwillfall Onedayacometwillfall 26-30 3 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    No

    i can pretend to like someone if i have to.i can pretend i even give a crap when they talk to me.but dont think me being nice to u means i like you.i tolerate certain people in my life because i have to.but once you talk sh@t on me or say or do anything behind my back where done...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 30, 2010

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    It's Not Fair That I Am Expected To Forgive And Forget So Easily.

    I am a true believer in forgiveness, but I also do believe that some things just can't be forgiven. Sometimes you hurt so bad, that you can't forgive it. Forgiveness comes from the heart and in order to give it, you have to feel it. I've been hurt, just like we've all been hurt...
    courttttmarie courttttmarie 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2012

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    Unforgivable.

    after my mentally ill sister called my job repeatedly last night, harrassing me and my co-workers and forcing me to call the police and report her, i will not forgive or forget what she did. the blatant disrespect for me, my workplace and for co-workers who are more like family...
    jerrica jerrica 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    Forgive And Forget???

    Does that concept really exist????? Yesterday my ex fiancé and I- went out for drinks. We have been trying really hard to work things out, he really believes in the core of his heart I am the one and he made a huge mistake leaving me. We started off the night in a good place...
    carla788 carla788 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    I Need To Try

    Forgiveness...that's a tough one. I don't want to forgive, right now I want to be angry, I want to rant, I want to get him back. I know how to forgive but actually doing it is the hard part. It's been such a long time that this has built up, 14 years of disappointment, heartache...
    Isntitironic Isntitironic 31-35, F 3 Responses May 30, 2013

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    It sounds bad, I know,

    but I refuse to forgive someone who has really screwed me over and I will never forget it. Now don't get me wrong, if it's something small and silly then it's a different story - I don't sweat the small stuff. But the big stuff, the unforgivable hurts to me, my family or my...
    LunarFelis LunarFelis 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 25

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    The Grudge...s

    I don't know where it came from, this habit of begrudging ppl for wronging me and my loved ones. Maybe it grew from my mum's nasty habit of never letting a mistake go - always bringing it up again and again to **** me [and many others] off. Anyway, I'm not one of those ppl who...
    BowsAndBones BowsAndBones 16-18, F 3 Responses Jul 20, 2007

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    I Don'T....

    I can't seem to forgive and forget easily...and quite honestly, I'm not sure I want to, at this point. People always say that forgiving would benefit me, not him...but I am not sure I see it that way... First of all, if he hadn't behaved that way all those years and continued...
    Babydoll42 Babydoll42 41-45, F 14 Responses May 1, 2013

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    Well...

    I can forget easily, but I don't forget.. So many people hurted me, I forgave them, but forget? Never...
    misunderztood misunderztood 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    I Will Not Forgive A Man Who Blames Me

    I was sleep in my bed and went to the restroom in the middle of the night then my husband started punching me in the face and blood started comming out my face and he wants me to say sorry
    cute77 cute77 31-35, F Sep 17, 2012

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    I don't forgive and I certainly don't forget,

    I'll hold a grudge forever if I don't like you, I'll keep you in my sight so I can watch, "Burn me once shame on me, burn me twice **** You!" I may forgive but then you are cut out of my life for good, I know that's bad but that's who I am lol
    JackNJ JackNJ 36-40, M Apr 27

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    It's Not That I Don't

    If a person owns up to their actions and sincerely apologizes, I can wholeheartedly forgive them and move on almost immediately. People who either give me half-assed apologies or think that they did nothing wrong, I skip right over forgive and go straight to forget. Forgetting...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 22-25, F Sep 21, 2013

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    No

    i dont 4 give n i dont ever 4 get the hurt the lies the pain someone infilcts on me r my loved ones. u may think i have 4 given u n its all in the past, but one day i will pay u back. they say revenge is a dish best served cold, n i oh so agree w that. i dont ever 4 give people i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 4, 2010

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    Forgiveness And Forgetting Are One In The Same

    Oftentimes, I hear people say that they forgive but they don’t forget. I don’t believe in this idea; I believe that so long as you can remember what bad things people have done to you, you cannot really forgive. Once you have absolutely no care for whatever bad thing someone...
    TravelingHelper TravelingHelper 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 11, 2012

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    Eventually, But Not Easily

    I need space and time to get over being hurt or wronged. I remember a fight I'd had with my sister once. Another of my sisters, one I interacted with a lot more, told her to just give me some time and I'd definitely forgive her. Just for that, I wanted to hold that grudge forever...
    Dyssey Dyssey 70+, F Aug 23, 2013

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    Descendant of the Ape

    I just read a story about forgiveness.  It said that if a person has been rude, it is easier to forgive if you accept that this was just their nature, that it had nothing to do with you. We accept this about animals...if a dog barks or digs that is his nature.  If a...
    findinme findinme 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    Biggest Impact On Me

    This one day I wish never happened but yet again I'm glad it did. 'This one day' was the day my boyfriend who I truly love so much that it literally hurts my heart so much, who tells me he loves me 100000 times a day, promises me he will never hurt me nor leave me, gave up on me...
    Laalaa1 Laalaa1 16-17, F Nov 16, 2013

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    I Just Can't Let Go...

    There are ghosts from my past that will haunt me forever, but I just want to forget everything. I want to start over. Sometimes I want to be somebody else. I wish I could forget all bad stuff so it won't weigh me down any more. I wish I could forgive those that hurt me - I want...
    Ragelovelumos Ragelovelumos 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 17, 2012

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    I'm learning easier ways to do this though.

    ..... It seems the first step in forgiving is understanding that the other person is an idiot. ;)
    Babydoll42 Babydoll42 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 12

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    I Have Learned How

    You know how it works with forgiveness. We fling out the "I'll never forgive you!" and hold onto the pain, torture, ill-feelings, betrayal, feeling stupid, our self-worth, self-esteem and self-image crumbling to dust. We lose trust, become relationship-shy, cynical, bitter...
    CatchCabby CatchCabby 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 17, 2010

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    Well, Only Partially

    I ALWAYS forgive, but NEVER forget...
    myspip myspip 18-21, M Aug 4, 2007

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    I Want To Be More Forgiving.

    I try hard not to be like this, and it's something I will always work on. If someone screws me over once, that's it. Relationship over. I don't want to be around you anymore. It's just the way I naturally am and I wish I was more forgiving. Hopefully I will be one day.
    devouringflames devouringflames 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2013

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    To Hell With My Ex

    Lemme know if you agree by commenting this! When I was 16, I was in a relationship with a girl named Carrie. As all my relationships have been, it started out great, became abusive in all manners and I ended it due to adultry. She used to be such a wise-*** strutting around like...
    ByungHee ByungHee 26-30, M May 30, 2013

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    I hold grudges, and sometimes I guess I just

    act like I forgive but really I don't, because I will bring up certain situations that have happened. In order to forgive, you have to let go of that thing completely, in which I don't.
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    Do You Really Think I Can Forget!

    Somethings I can't forget that my husband said to me in the past 10 years: After 7 years of marriage.  I didn't love you the first 7 but now I do.  That's why we never really had sex. To his best friend.  She's to fat why would I want to **** her.  After I...
    tks tks 36-40, F 12 Responses Nov 16, 2007

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    Maybe I can forgive,

    but I know I can't forget the way she's treated me this past 13 years. She thinks she can simply claim her new catch-all diagnosis of ADD as the cause of all of her outrageous behavior and I'm supposed to just roll over and take it. Of course she never admitted she might even...
    flailure flailure 41-45, M Jan 2

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    I think one must connect by hearts first before their bodies.. I think how a man treat his woman in public will determine the impression about who the man is and who the woman is...
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    Hope is all we have.So many people face personal tragedies and still live on in a positive manner.There are so many who are sad now.Let us give a patient hearing to them.
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    whenever i try to please my parents by striving for my best in many ways, i would always end up in an argument with them, said being too immature. i don't think i am immature, why...
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    I do things because I need to, I have to.. Well most of it.. I try my best in it.. I try to evaluate myself every day before I go to sleep.. I persuade my heart to forgive, to let...
    9thguy 9thguy 26-30, M Jul 23

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    I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. We met at university through a mutual friend. We don't live together as we live and work in different cities and I am still caring...
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