I Dont Forgive People After They Have Hurt Me

If you have been hurt, and you can't forgive the person you can find support here 394 People

    I've only held one grudge

    and that's towards my mums brother and his son; my cousin. Although I was in the wrong I was happy to talk about the issue I realised they weren't the sort of ppl who talked things out. Instead they swore at me and suggested to never talk to them again. So rather then talk about...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 27, 2014

    I have to admit that holding a grudge is one of

    my faults. I acknowledge it and try to temper it but that adage of fool me once always seems to stick in my head.
    Nuovinzi Nuovinzi
    46-50, F
    1 Response Aug 27, 2014

    no matter how much you make up

    for it...never hurt me with the issues im currently trying to work on.... id hurt you ten times worst...okay my bf :)
    apperentlyicanthavemynameagain apperentlyicanthavemynameagain
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 3, 2015

    3 whole years to this very day

    and I'm still full of resentment and hatred. 3 years since my dreams were shattered. I just don't know when i'll stop my resentment.
    Paleandpolluted86 Paleandpolluted86
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2014

    No matter how hard I try to forgive I just

    can't it wouldn't be the same either way if I have forgiven you Cus I remember how you hurt me
    cristina44 cristina44
    22-25, F
    May 17, 2014

    People say "forgive,

    but never forget". I actually would rather forget that lesson than having to forgive... I know it's bad! I know forgiving is a sign of maturity, but that's how I always was as a kid. Hopefully, one day I'll be able to change that. Had a talk with my dad yesterday. He gives good...
    BMTH99 BMTH99
    16-17, F
    1 Response Feb 16, 2015

    Sometimes it's better to be cold.

    Some people just don't deserve more than two chances. Some people should just go to hell and never try to talk to me again.
    BMTH99 BMTH99
    16-17, F
    Apr 5, 2015

    I Forgive With Words And Actions, But Inside I'M Still Hurt...

    Or I'll avoid the person still afterwords. I forgave my boyfriend for the turmoil, the ups and downs he's put me through, the insults the cruel comments, the raging, throwing fits, the relapses... But I can't seem to let it all go. It's like a natural mechanism for people, when...
    ArtofSunrise ArtofSunrise
    22-25
    1 Response May 24, 2013

    I think the one thing I've always struggled

    with was my boyfriends forgetting my birthday 2 times in a row. We've been together for 3 years so it does hurt and it does make me feel like he doesn't care about me. He doesn't remember the simple things. Like my fav colour, food, drink stuff like that. Yes I do remember...
    Anon2721 Anon2721
    16-17, F
    Aug 27, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    I do. I can't help it.

    People make mistakes, and though I'd really much rather not be hurt, it happens. No one is perfect, and if I were not to forgive , I would not be worthy of forgiveness myself. So I do. No one said it comes wrapped up in a basket of the big easy.
    LadyGallivanter LadyGallivanter
    41-45
    Jul 3, 2015

    Not Happening

    When people hurt me I never forgive cause I've learned when I do it only turns around and bites me in the ***, because it only happens again
    unforgettable77 unforgettable77
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 26, 2013

    I Don't Forgive You If You Hurt Me

    Most people meet my nice side, and that's the side they like, but a lot of the time that side of me is taken advantage of. I won't forgive you if you hurt me. You meet the side that's cold and hates people. I won't talk to you I won't pay attention to you. I won't even make eye...
    Lilwolf12 Lilwolf12
    16-17, F
    1 Response Dec 22, 2012

    Actually I do not get hurt easily!

    , and when it comes into forgiveness, I could only forgive the ones I love for the small mistakes they do unintentionally, but for those who give me a reason for not trusting them, I just treat them like they have never existed!.
    Loly11 Loly11
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 17, 2014

    I can't! It's impossibile

    for me! I don't understand girls who forgive their boyfriends after they have cheated on them! I think that if someone really love us , he'll never hurt us! So if u'll **** up i can't forgive you!
    mael95 mael95
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 4, 2014

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