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I Dont Forgive People After They Have Hurt Me

If you have been hurt, and you can't forgive the person you can find support here 284 People

    I have to admit that holding a grudge is one of

    my faults. I acknowledge it and try to temper it but that adage of fool me once always seems to stick in my head.
    Nuovinzi Nuovinzi 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2014

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    I think the one thing I've always struggled

    with was my boyfriends forgetting my birthday 2 times in a row. We've been together for 3 years so it does hurt and it does make me feel like he doesn't care about me. He doesn't remember the simple things. Like my fav colour, food, drink stuff like that. Yes I do remember...
    Anon2721 Anon2721 13-15, F Aug 27, 2014

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    I've only held one grudge

    and that's towards my mums brother and his son; my cousin. Although I was in the wrong I was happy to talk about the issue I realised they weren't the sort of ppl who talked things out. Instead they swore at me and suggested to never talk to them again. So rather then talk about...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 27, 2014

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    3 whole years to this very day

    and I'm still full of resentment and hatred. 3 years since my dreams were shattered. I just don't know when i'll stop my resentment.
    Paleandpolluted86 Paleandpolluted86 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2014

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    People say "forgive,

    but never forget". I actually would rather forget that lesson than having to forgive... I know it's bad! I know forgiving is a sign of maturity, but that's how I always was as a kid. Hopefully, one day I'll be able to change that. Had a talk with my dad yesterday. He gives good...
    BMTH99 BMTH99 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    Actually I do not get hurt easily!

    , and when it comes into forgiveness, I could only forgive the ones I love for the small mistakes they do unintentionally, but for those who give me a reason for not trusting them, I just treat them like they have never existed!.
    Loly11 Loly11 22-25, F May 17, 2014

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    I Don't Forgive You If You Hurt Me

    Most people meet my nice side, and that's the side they like, but a lot of the time that side of me is taken advantage of. I won't forgive you if you hurt me. You meet the side that's cold and hates people. I won't talk to you I won't pay attention to you. I won't even make eye...
    Lilwolf12 Lilwolf12 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2012

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    I can't! It's impossibile

    for me! I don't understand girls who forgive their boyfriends after they have cheated on them! I think that if someone really love us , he'll never hurt us! So if u'll **** up i can't forgive you!
    mael95 mael95 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 4, 2014

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    No matter how hard I try to forgive I just

    can't it wouldn't be the same either way if I have forgiven you Cus I remember how you hurt me
    cristina44 cristina44 22-25, F 1 Response May 17, 2014

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    Sometimes it's better to be cold.

    Some people just don't deserve more than two chances. Some people should just go to hell and never try to talk to me again.
    BMTH99 BMTH99 16-17, F Apr 5

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    Not Happening

    When people hurt me I never forgive cause I've learned when I do it only turns around and bites me in the ***, because it only happens again
    unforgettable77 unforgettable77 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 26, 2013

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    I Forgive With Words And Actions, But Inside I'M Still Hurt...

    Or I'll avoid the person still afterwords. I forgave my boyfriend for the turmoil, the ups and downs he's put me through, the insults the cruel comments, the raging, throwing fits, the relapses... But I can't seem to let it all go. It's like a natural mechanism for people, when...
    ArtofSunrise ArtofSunrise 22-25 1 Response May 24, 2013

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    For some reason, this morning I woke up with the spirit of forgiveness. God laid it on my heart to contact those who have hurt me & to just forgive them. He also put it on my heart...
    shesdifferent516 shesdifferent516 18-21, F 1 Response May 6

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    I believe it's important to forgive, even if they don't deserve it. Holding on to anger takes so much effort and it's not worth it. Save the energy for something worth doing. :3
    AnonSmiles AnonSmiles 16-17 May 3

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    Yes, I've forgiven those who have hurt me in the past because at one point I wanted forgiveness too even if I didn't deserve it. It is absolutely freeing to forgive. Thank You...
    JesusReigns777 JesusReigns777 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I always did and I still do. Everyone is there own person everyone has there own problems. You never know who's actually hurting on the inside or who's actually holding back a...
    lovebugg11 lovebugg11 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    We are all unique people . We all have our stories to tell that has had made us who we are today. Who I am I to judge you. I choose to see the good in everyone it doesn't matter...
    KindridSoul KindridSoul 36-40, F 14 Responses May 20

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    "In a world so hateful, some would rather die than be who they are." It's amazing how true this quote can be sometimes. We live in a world where society cares so much about how...
    RedHwaiting RedHwaiting 18-21, F 3 Responses May 2

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    Nope. Never had and never will. I never had someone telling me that they have a crush on me and I will never have someone telling me that either. Why should I expect that? I am...
    colourflame colourflame 13-15, F 5 Responses May 7

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    It's just not easy to forgive.. When people tell me that they forgive.. I don't believe them. I just think we naturally carry grudges, not because we are bad people.. It's just...
    AAlD AAlD 26-30, F 14 hrs ago

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    Sort of. Sometimes it seems like forgiveness is more of a journey than a destination.
    WhisperingTrees WhisperingTrees 41-45, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Forgive you. Hurt is just a part of life. You're traveling your path, I'm traveling mine. I don't know what lives in you, what has shaped you, what your struggles are. If you hurt...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Can we just get a few things straight. I'm a little sick of hearing misinterpretations and wrong definitions of these terms, which often concludes with discrimination. We need it...
    loveyourselfalwaysxx loveyourselfalwaysxx 13-15, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    And that is something that many people lack in the world. Acceptance. (I may say "you" or "your" but don't take it too personally, I was just speaking in general throughout this...
    WrongPage WrongPage 18-21, F 11 Responses Apr 28

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    just because i forgive, doesn't mean i forget. i don't have that luxury.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have read abt foregiveness,and how powerful it can be in healing Moving on& pressing forward. It is one those lessons that is esier always to say then do I have always been a...
    Sugasug Sugasug 41-45, M 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    The wrong you do to people is the wrong you do to yourself
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 18 hrs ago

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    I don't get it, my whole life a struggle with being over weight and unhealthy. but I have a eating disorder that i can't control
    lupealcala lupealcala 56-60, F 3 hrs ago

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    Why do people make fun of over-weight people yet don't make fun of underweight people? Both are unhealthy and disorders that stem from the same place in the mind. Why make fun of...
    Psych102 Psych102 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    hey there, i had as a child more than only one bad experience. My memories reach from abuse to really badly hurt. My Mother with a lot of time for men but only hate for her...
    sundina sundina 22-25, F 3 Responses May 15

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    money is just a piece of paper that has been assigned value in order to control us and give some people power over others. it enslaves us and holds us back. the last thing we need...
    femininespirit femininespirit 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Good afternoon everyone. One of the things that gives me pleasure out of life is when I cook a meal and people enjoy it I left I really love to watch people enjoy their food. It...
    Miguel55 Miguel55 46-50, M 3 Responses May 17

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    If you're in Northern New Jersey and have a high degree of empathy, join my meetup group. Http://meetup.com/NNJ-Empathy-Meetup/ We already have over 40 members. Our next Meetup...
    Roxvox Roxvox 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    i honestly am gonna stop thinking about my needs and wants in this life anymore. im done with it because when we have high expectations of ourselves and when we dont meet them or...
    heavenlytouch heavenlytouch 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I know I do this a lot. I'll ignore group conversations, I'll be by myself, I'll talk less, I'll be having my earphones in all the time, I'll be lost in my thoughts and I'll be...
    CloeSmile CloeSmile 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    For me, it's hard not to put myself in their shoes. It would be nice if more people would do that. It's almost like I can feel their pain with them.
    digitaloverload digitaloverload 36-40, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Marilyn McCoo 'You Don't Have To be A Star' these lyrics are soo true! Baby come as you are with just your heart And I'll take you in You're rejected and hurt To me you're worth...
    RetroGamerChris RetroGamerChris 31-35, M 2 days ago

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    I generally accept anyone for who they are, as I find them, within reason. I do not care about a person's appearance, race, gender, orientation, religion, nationality, social...
    TheBookAddict TheBookAddict 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 28

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    Society is a cruel oppression these days which somehow has brainwashed people to think that they need to act a certain way..be who makes you happy
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses a week ago

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    I don't judge people at all. I know I'm different and i don't want people judging me.
    Ang012685 Ang012685 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm one of those people who should NOT have kids. They annoy me to the umpteenth power! Like they're cute and all, but they’re nowhere near cute enough for me to be like, “I...
    RoyalTeee RoyalTeee 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    It doesn't matter what a person looks like or if there straight, gay, bisexual, trans, pan, ect. if you like that person good don't complain when there something/someone you didn't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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