I Don't Get Offended If a Man Holds a Door Open For Me

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    Why would anyone be offended by politeness?

    I hold doors all the time, and if someone were offended by it I'd just look at them like they're crazy. Because they are.
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    What? Why would you get offended?

    It's a polite thing to do. Jesus. People need to stop being so damn critical and be grateful when a stranger offers an act of kindness, because most the time, the world won't offer it to you.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 8, 2014

    The fact that this group

    even needs to exist is outrageous. It's a given. No one should be offended by a man holding a door open, jeez. Unless he cat called you just moments before, he's just being a nice person.
    DanceOfBlades DanceOfBlades
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 3

    lol. why would u even?

    that's a sweet and gentle man thing to do.
    yayepisoverimsad yayepisoverimsad
    22-25, F
    Mar 22

    I think it is a sweet gesture :) I like to hold

    the door open for people as well.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 9, 2015

    Some guys don't hold doors anymore.

    I always say thank you when people hold the door for me
    staypretty staypretty
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 21

    Amen...its a beautiful thing

    if chivalry isn't dead...!!!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Nov 25, 2015

    Why would anyone be offended by that?

    I mean you'd have to be really insecure to take it as an insult
    StrawberryPix StrawberryPix
    13-15, F
    1 Response Mar 4

    It's called respect and I will hold the door

    open for a man as well. Manners is not a sexist thing.
    Katakuna Katakuna
    46-50, M
    Apr 18

    There was a time where women felt they needed

    to be so independent of men they wants to do everything for themselves. Well I'm sorry, I think it is the sign of a gentleman when they hold the door open, pull out my chair, and carry the heavy things. I heard a line in a show once...lipstick feminism... Women want to be...
    amisfitlady amisfitlady
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Mar 21

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    carinaccaa carinaccaa
    26-30, F
    Mar 1

    i actually love that.

    shows he has signs of being a gentlemen and good values plus good parents
    moongoddess35 moongoddess35
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    I am actually pleased

    when this happens. Good to know there's still a few gentleman around.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 3

    Why would such behavior offend me

    when it was once considered the norm? Honestly, I breathe an inner sigh of relief when it happens, because they were raised by parents who cared about politeness in social situations.
    moondiva moondiva
    36-40, F
    Apr 19
    claireblack claireblack
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 14, 2014
    TrumpDestroyer TrumpDestroyer
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 2

    It happens in several different ways,

    but I've never been offended. When I'm carrying stuff and don't have a free hand, I'm really grateful. When it happens casually, I'm OK with it and happy that we're all in the human race together. But when a man spots me, practically trips over himself to get ahead of me to...
    mickitg mickitg
    46-50, T
    Feb 11

    I must admit that I am impressed

    whenever I meet a modern dude carrying out a gentleman's attitude. Most often than not, the guy holds doors open for me not because they think I'm lame or weak, but because he wants to do nice things for me and his Mama taught him well.This type of guy is appreciated and is a...
    Qtrelle Qtrelle
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2014

    why would this holding the door thing offend

    any one? yes you can hold the door yourself but if someone else wanted to do that than you should be thankful for it. not "womeN aND MEN ARE EQUAL YOU ******* SEXIST PIECE OF DUCK1!!!!11one!1!!"
    darklotus01 darklotus01
    13-15, T
    Feb 12

    I don't get offended.

    ... in fact I am appreciative when anyone holds the door open for me..... it is considered common courtesy.
    ifyoucare65 ifyoucare65
    51-55, F
    Feb 12

    I don't see why people offended by a man being

    a gentlemen and holding the door open for someone
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 18

    I appreciate it. Unless he seems irritated

    or in a rush. Then I feel like I have to rush. In that situation I'd rather just open my own door.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 11

    I find it funny when people equate "feminists"

    with people who don't like when people hold the doors open for them. I am a feminist, but ahem, I LOVE manners! Manners are attractive coming from anyone! If someone is offended by someone else holding a door for them, that's not a matter of feminism. That's a matter of someone...
    Boulier Boulier
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    I love when a man is

    such a gentleman that he holds a door open for me. I enjoy thoughtful people, and I hold doors open for others whenever I can. Being kind to strangers is a pleasure.
    SoftCandle SoftCandle
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 12

    That's because it's called manners.

    Why would anyone have a problem with it?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 12

    Why would I? I value respect

    and kindness. Do I think men are the superior gender? No I do not. But as a woman, I want to feel treasured, to know a man thinks of the little things to make me feel special. Holding the door open is just a simple gesture to show this. If that makes me weak in anyone's...
    PhoenixDream38 PhoenixDream38
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 1

    I can't even explain how ridiculous people

    who get offended for this are.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    I'm tired of all this crap.

    I hold the door open just as much or more than my friendly neighborhood male community. It's a matter of respect, not gender. I can't tell you how many times people have just ******* let doors close in my face, even while I carry a bunch of **** in my arms. Like, dude, that's...
    TheRose202 TheRose202
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

    Why would I? I would smile

    and say thank you and have hope again that chivalry isn't dead.
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2014

    Wtf why would anyone

    even be offended it's being polite doesn't matter if it's a man a woman or a dog for god sakes just saying
    whenwherewhat whenwherewhat
    18-21, F
    Mar 22

    Why does this group even exists?

    I love it when my guy opens doors for me. It makes me feel important. And I love the attention we get from others.
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 3

    Why on earth world I be offended at an act of

    kindness..? I hold doors open for men and women alike...
    jaynielu jaynielu
    26-30, F
    Jan 4

    We really don't need more things to get

    offended by :) I get doors opened for me, I open doors for men and women. It's just manners and being nice.
    malinica malinica
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 2

    I guess I'm old fashioned like that.

    I like it when a man is a real man. Not some lazy abusive scumbag.
    HannahSavannah HannahSavannah
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Oct 13, 2014

    Ever since me and my husband went on our first

    date he has always gotten my car door or any door that I walk through if he's with me. I've never had this with anyone else and I live it because I like the old fashioned kind of love. Something like how your grandparents would treat each other or something. Lol. A year and do...
    Adpatrick Adpatrick
    22-25, F
    Oct 13, 2014

    If a man truly likes

    or even loves the woman he is with, this should be a given! I know there are woman who are "liberated" and don't need or want a man to do things for them but I'm not that kind of woman! Just sayin'!!
    angelpumpkin36 angelpumpkin36
    36-40, F
    Mar 22

    I don't have the energy to be offended

    that often, even if I wanted to be.
    Sashablues Sashablues
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 2
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 2

    Where I'm from boys are usually raised to be

    gentlemen. So yes this and ladies first. If your in a room with more people than seats. Women and elders are priority to getting seats
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Nov 23, 2015
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    12 Responses Oct 12, 2014

    People get offended by this.

    ..... **** YOU FEMINAZIS.
    rehn65 rehn65
    18-21, M
    Oct 13, 2014

    Some of the doors at my school

    or really heavy and it would be great if guys would hold them open for me. Or girls. Anyone stronger than me, really.
    StrawBracelet StrawBracelet
    18-21, F
    Feb 19

    Err, why would I be offended by this?

    I really think a guy's a gentleman if he does this. You guys seriously need to take your sh*t down.
    Coffee0606 Coffee0606
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 5

    Because You Are A Lady?

    `I hope you didn`t hold that door for me just because I`m a Lady?`, I was asked some years ago when I was an RAF Officer....`No Madam, I did it because I am a Gentleman!` My response was as cutting as I could make it and did leave the `lady` at a loss for words!
    SquadronLeader SquadronLeader
    66-70, M
    4 Responses Oct 25, 2013

    I feel like men stopped holding doors

    for women, standing when a woman walks in the room, etc. after suffrage.
    HopelesslySurviving HopelesslySurviving
    16-17, F
    Feb 13
    JuanLira JuanLira
    16-17, M
    Mar 2
    JeSuisAmira JeSuisAmira
    13-15, F
    1 Response Mar 27

    There is nothing sexier

    than a man who respects himself and women in equal measure. I believe both sexes have lost some of their sophistication and allure due to some ridiculous lifestyle and trend developments. I think men need to take some ground back from the t-shirt,jeans and bed hair man-boys and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 3

    Oh my God, can we please talk about this?

    When I see a perfectly good man holding open the door for me, I am reminded that I am still a woman and feminism has not yet eradicated chivalry. As a female, I only open doors for men if they are burdened with packages. Sometimes I'm sneaky about it and play it off like I'm...
    adianoeta adianoeta
    26-30, F
    60 Responses Oct 13, 2014

    This is an act of kindness,

    regardless of gender. If someone gets upset about this, I think they are just looking for a reason to get upset.
    Redbrook98 Redbrook98
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 14
    Asiiaa Asiiaa
    13-15, F
    1 Response Mar 22

    Why would I? It's a polite thing to do

    regardless of the gender. I get offended when people don't hold the door open for anyone, or give up a seat if needed, politeness and common courtesy don't cost anything but people just don't seem to have either anymore...
    Hopespringseternal Hopespringseternal
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 10, 2015

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