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I Don't Get Offended If a Man Holds a Door Open For Me

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    I can't even explain how ridiculous people

    who get offended for this are.
    QueenVenus QueenVenus 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    Or anyone for that matter.

    I was raised to hold the door open if someone was just behind me, or if they struggled to get about for whatever reason. I'm all for supporting equal rights and fighting sexism but having manners isn't sexist. There's more important stuff to worry about.
    BlueWraith BlueWraith 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 11, 2015

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    My husband always holds the door open

    and always gets the door for me. I kept waiting for it to stop but 3 years later and he still does this. A true gentleman!
    Joans2day Joans2day 46-50, F Nov 11, 2014

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    People get offended by this.

    ..... **** YOU FEMINAZIS.
    rehn65 rehn65 18-21, M Oct 13, 2014

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    I'm tired of all this crap.

    I hold the door open just as much or more than my friendly neighborhood male community. It's a matter of respect, not gender. I can't tell you how many times people have just ******* let doors close in my face, even while I carry a bunch of **** in my arms. Like, dude, that's...
    TheRose202 TheRose202 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Why get offended? It's better

    than him letting the door hit you. I hold the door open for anyone, doesn't matter the gender. Basic politeness.
    Ordinarylady Ordinarylady 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2015

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    I don't understand why someone would be

    offended by this, it's just good manners. I think everyone should hold the door open for others.
    ThisKris ThisKris 16-17, F Nov 24, 2015

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    Where I'm from boys are usually raised to be

    gentlemen. So yes this and ladies first. If your in a room with more people than seats. Women and elders are priority to getting seats
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2015

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    I do the same thing regardless

    if the person is male or female. You are just being polite and showing respect toward the person.
    Gambler715 Gambler715 51-55, M 1 Response Jan 3

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    Why would this be offensive?

    It's just a kind gesture.
    SadlySafe SadlySafe 13-15, F 8 Responses Dec 9, 2015

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    I must admit that I am impressed

    whenever I meet a modern dude carrying out a gentleman's attitude. Most often than not, the guy holds doors open for me not because they think I'm lame or weak, but because he wants to do nice things for me and his Mama taught him well.This type of guy is appreciated and is a...
    Qtrelle Qtrelle 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    Oh my God, can we please talk about this?

    When I see a perfectly good man holding open the door for me, I am reminded that I am still a woman and feminism has not yet eradicated chivalry. As a female, I only open doors for men if they are burdened with packages. Sometimes I'm sneaky about it and play it off like I'm...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 63 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    We really don't need more things to get

    offended by :) I get doors opened for me, I open doors for men and women. It's just manners and being nice.
    malinica malinica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    The fact that this group

    even needs to exist is outrageous. It's a given. No one should be offended by a man holding a door open, jeez. Unless he cat called you just moments before, he's just being a nice person.
    DanceOfBlades DanceOfBlades 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    Ever since me and my husband went on our first

    date he has always gotten my car door or any door that I walk through if he's with me. I've never had this with anyone else and I live it because I like the old fashioned kind of love. Something like how your grandparents would treat each other or something. Lol. A year and do...
    Adpatrick Adpatrick 22-25, F Oct 13, 2014

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    Because You Are A Lady?

    `I hope you didn`t hold that door for me just because I`m a Lady?`, I was asked some years ago when I was an RAF Officer....`No Madam, I did it because I am a Gentleman!` My response was as cutting as I could make it and did leave the `lady` at a loss for words!
    SquadronLeader SquadronLeader 66-70, M 4 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    Err, why would I be offended by this?

    I really think a guy's a gentleman if he does this. You guys seriously need to take your sh*t down.
    aLittleLamp aLittleLamp 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    i actually love that.

    shows he has signs of being a gentlemen and good values plus good parents
    moongoddess35 moongoddess35 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

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    Why on earth world I be offended at an act of

    kindness..? I hold doors open for men and women alike...
    jaynielu jaynielu 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I help girls not because I think they are

    inferior but because I think I am inferior
    galvamagnus galvamagnus 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 6, 2014

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    claireblack claireblack 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    Why would I? It's a polite thing to do

    regardless of the gender. I get offended when people don't hold the door open for anyone, or give up a seat if needed, politeness and common courtesy don't cost anything but people just don't seem to have either anymore...
    Hopespringseternal Hopespringseternal 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 10, 2015

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    Sometimes women hold the door open

    for me. I work in a setting where there are very few men. Everyone holds the door open for each other. Women expecting men to hold open a door for them or thinking that he's holding the door open for her out of man to woman gentlemanly etiquette? That's being silly.
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M Dec 9, 2015

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 12 Responses Oct 12, 2014

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    IrishRedhead IrishRedhead 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    when I ask my gf if she's still mad at me she

    says yes but when I just talk to her she just pretend nothing happened
    derea derea 18-21, F Dec 10, 2015

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    I Like It When Anyone Holds A Door!!

    I LOVE it when I have an arm load of stuff from the cleaners, shopping bags or bottles going to the recycling place and a nice  man OR lady holds the door. I make sure I do the same thing for anyone else who needs a some help too.  I have used my umbrella* when I'm smart enough...
    sierra33 sierra33 31-35, F 14 Responses Jun 20, 2011

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    My fiance opens every door including my car door

    when I drive. He also picks me up bridal style to walk through a puddle.. I am not the type to let a man open my door and that stuff but he keeps opening them
    SilverandGold23 SilverandGold23 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2015

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    Why would anyone be offended by politeness?

    I hold doors all the time, and if someone were offended by it I'd just look at them like they're crazy. Because they are.
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    Affronted Door

    I was a Sophomore in college when I first experienced a woman taking offense to My holding a door for her. I was entering the cafeteria and noticed a woman about fifteen feet behind me, naturally I waited and held the door. She was so angry that I did so that she actually...
    MasterSeb MasterSeb 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    What? Why would you get offended?

    It's a polite thing to do. Jesus. People need to stop being so damn critical and be grateful when a stranger offers an act of kindness, because most the time, the world won't offer it to you.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 8, 2014

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    natalieccaa natalieccaa 26-30, F Jan 5

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    I think it is a sweet gesture :) I like to hold

    the door open for people as well.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2015

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    I guess I'm old fashioned like that.

    I like it when a man is a real man. Not some lazy abusive scumbag.
    EvolvedMonkeyAlien EvolvedMonkeyAlien 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    julieccaa11 julieccaa11 26-30, F Dec 10, 2015

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    I find it funny when people equate "feminists"

    with people who don't like when people hold the doors open for them. I am a feminist, but ahem, I LOVE manners! Manners are attractive coming from anyone! If someone is offended by someone else holding a door for them, that's not a matter of feminism. That's a matter of someone...
    Boulier Boulier 18-21, F 15 Responses Dec 8, 2015

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    Why would I? I value respect

    and kindness. Do I think men are the superior gender? No I do not. But as a woman, I want to feel treasured, to know a man thinks of the little things to make me feel special. Holding the door open is just a simple gesture to show this. If that makes me weak in anyone's...
    PhoenixDream38 PhoenixDream38 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    I actually find it offending

    when men don't open the door for me. I feel like I'm not even human, just for them letting the door slam in my body is disrespectful.
    kidLeftInTheDark kidLeftInTheDark 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    Why would I? I would smile

    and say thank you and have hope again that chivalry isn't dead.
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Amen...its a beautiful thing

    if chivalry isn't dead...!!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Nov 25, 2015

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