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I Don't Get Offended If a Man Holds a Door Open For Me

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    Civility and counters should never be lost

    for the sake of an 'ism' even feminism. If a guy holds open the door he is not saying I'm weak, or that he desires anything of me, he is just showing sense. Doors are heavy awkward things, and a swinging door can hit you and knock you out! A guy holding it open is a sensible...
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 19, 2014

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    Oh my God, can we please talk about this?

    When I see a perfectly good man holding open the door for me, I am reminded that I am still a woman and feminism has not yet eradicated chivalry. As a female, I only open doors for men if they are burdened with packages. Sometimes I'm sneaky about it and play it off like I'm...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 73 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    My husband always holds the door open

    and always gets the door for me. I kept waiting for it to stop but 3 years later and he still does this. A true gentleman!
    Joans2day Joans2day 46-50, F Nov 11, 2014

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    Affronted Door

    I was a Sophomore in college when I first experienced a woman taking offense to My holding a door for her. I was entering the cafeteria and noticed a woman about fifteen feet behind me, naturally I waited and held the door. She was so angry that I did so that she actually...
    MasterSeb MasterSeb 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    Seriously the fact this exp exists is annoying

    to me. Are feminists so fudging fudged up that they think they are weak, or that they are conforming to some archaic ritual which makes them less of a person? Why is it that most Feminists/Masculinist are so blinded by their creed that they fail to see or understand the real...
    iwantacar98 iwantacar98 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 2, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    tessacc12 tessacc12 26-30, F Dec 12, 2014

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    Who Would?

    I love a man who's a true gentlemen. A man with manners and respect for women. I love it when a strange man holds a door for me in public. Of course I never just stand, wait, and expect it. But it's nice when men do it just because you're a lady. Now I'm not too good to open...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 26, 2011

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    People get offended by this.

    ..... **** YOU FEMINAZIS.
    rehn65 rehn65 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Just stretched my septum piercing!

    Come check out the video & my YouTube channel! www.YouTube.com/1996Ashley
    ModifiedMamaofTwo ModifiedMamaofTwo 18-21, F Oct 13, 2014

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    I actually find it offending

    when men don't open the door for me. I feel like I'm not even human, just for them letting the door slam in my body is disrespectful.
    KidLeftInTheDark KidLeftInTheDark 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    Are You Kidding Me?

    If a guy opened the door for me I'd just about melt!
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F 29 Responses Nov 24, 2010

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    Unsupervised777 Unsupervised777 51-55, F 5 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I don't really get offended

    if anyone holds a door open for me. I always thought it was a nice gesture, especially if I had my arms full. Of course I don't think people should feel like they MUST hold to door open for me but it's nice if they do! ?
    Elizua Elizua 13-15, F Nov 2, 2014

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    I must admit that I am impressed

    whenever I meet a modern dude carrying out a gentleman's attitude. Most often than not, the guy holds doors open for me not because they think I'm lame or weak, but because he wants to do nice things for me and his Mama taught him well.This type of guy is appreciated and is a...
    Alyyeska Alyyeska 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 17 Responses Oct 12, 2014

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    I'm tired of all this crap.

    I hold the door open just as much or more than my friendly neighborhood male community. It's a matter of respect, not gender. I can't tell you how many times people have just ******* let doors close in my face, even while I carry a bunch of **** in my arms. Like, dude, that's...
    TheRose202 TheRose202 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Why would I be offended?

    It's a sign of respect
    itsjustme11119 itsjustme11119 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Why would I? I would smile

    and say thank you and have hope again that chivalry isn't dead.
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Why would I? He's just being nice.

    I'm pretty sure he's aware that I can actually open them myself if need be.
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F Oct 13, 2014

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    Both male and female do it here.

    You must be way in over your head if this offense you. :/
    MadNocturnes MadNocturnes 18-21, F Oct 13, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    tessacc12 tessacc12 26-30, F Dec 12, 2014

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    Best thing in the world

    for me. My ex never opened the door while my best guy friend will rush to make sure I never have to open it.
    Evain121 Evain121 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Ever since me and my husband went on our first

    date he has always gotten my car door or any door that I walk through if he's with me. I've never had this with anyone else and I live it because I like the old fashioned kind of love. Something like how your grandparents would treat each other or something. Lol. A year and do...
    Adpatrick Adpatrick 22-25, F Oct 13, 2014

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    I Like It When Anyone Holds A Door!!

    I LOVE it when I have an arm load of stuff from the cleaners, shopping bags or bottles going to the recycling place and a nice  man OR lady holds the door. I make sure I do the same thing for anyone else who needs a some help too.  I have used my umbrella* when I'm smart enough...
    sierra33 sierra33 31-35, F 14 Responses Jun 20, 2011

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    Because You Are A Lady?

    `I hope you didn`t hold that door for me just because I`m a Lady?`, I was asked some years ago when I was an RAF Officer....`No Madam, I did it because I am a Gentleman!` My response was as cutting as I could make it and did leave the `lady` at a loss for words!
    SquadronLeader SquadronLeader 66-70, M 4 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    Call me old fashioned,

    but that is just proper manners for man to hold the door open for a woman. It seems like etiquette does not exist like it used to. Bring back the manners.
    toots01 toots01 56-60, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2014

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    Please Do

    I love when a man (or a woman for that matter) holds the door open for me.  I live in the South and it is something that we do for each other frequently.  If I get to the door first, generally I will hold the door for my entire group to walk through and I will follow...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 16 Responses May 11, 2009

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    I didn't even know this was something

    that offends people,it's common curiosity for a man or a woman to do it . If I (a girl) am first through a door and there's people behind me I always hold it open for them no matter how many people there is
    Life8227 Life8227 16-17, F Aug 8, 2014

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    I really don't care along

    as someone is saving my energy by opening the door
    justplainawkward justplainawkward 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2014

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    Its The Sweetest Thing Ever

    I don't see how a girl can possibly be offended by such a small gesture. Its not like they are saying you can't open a measly door. Some people just don't appreciate help, or kindness. I go to a pretty big college, with big and heavy doors. I am not the biggest girl around, I am...
    happyinmyskin happyinmyskin 18-21, F Jan 31, 2013

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    I help girls not because I think they are

    inferior but because I think I am inferior
    galvamagnus galvamagnus 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Why would anyone get offended.

    It just makes the guy look more like a gentleman.
    Inlovewithtecher Inlovewithtecher 16-17, F Apr 5, 2014

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    unless he let's the for slam in someone else's

    face to do it for me. OK, maybe that doesn't happen to me that often but I have seen guys open doors for pretty girls and leave old people to fend for themselves. I think people with obvious mobility issues and heavy packages should get priority even over nubile young virgin...
    mickitg mickitg 41-45, T 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Miamunoz Miamunoz 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    Peoe hold doors for everyone.

    .. It's polite... How can people be dumb enough to hit realize this.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    IrishRedhead IrishRedhead 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    claireblack claireblack 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    I guess I'm old fashioned like that.

    I like it when a man is a real man. Not some lazy abusive scumbag.
    TheFemaleGrimReaper TheFemaleGrimReaper 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Kitry Kitry 13-15, F Nov 2, 2014

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    nonorawi nonorawi 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2014

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    What? Why would you get offended?

    It's a polite thing to do. Jesus. People need to stop being so damn critical and be grateful when a stranger offers an act of kindness, because most the time, the world won't offer it to you.
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2014

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    Kittyxfreak Kittyxfreak 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2014

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    I always do this, I don't see why you wouldn't lol
    nathans872 nathans872 18-21, M Apr 5

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