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I Don't Have Children

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    But Want Them In The Future...

    I am a 16 year old lesbian about to start college, and I think kids are the biggest joy in life...And my plan is to go into the Air Force next year, hopefully do SERE...and have the airforce be my career...then retire from the airforce at 37 and/or teach JROTC at a high school...
    Cadet1995 Cadet1995 18-21, F May 11, 2011

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    Nope, Not Yet!

    I would like to have children someday. But only when I am married, if possible. :-D I have worked with children for many years. And I do enjoy be around them. Sometimes from the mouths of babes, you get the most wisdom, from their innocent point of view. And they don't mind that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 5, 2009

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    Bad Gene Pool

    Faced with too many possible inherited weaknesses and diseases on both sides, we decided to pass on bringing children into the world—end the bloodline. This was a surprisingly easy decision with no regrets other than my own occasional twinge at “what if.” They...
    luka309 luka309 46-50, M Feb 5, 2009

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    I Don't...

    But I hope that one day, some day, I will have several of my own. I love kids and have always wanted my own big family. I don't have kids, not sure when I will, but I hope that I will have them, cause I would LOVE to have kids, a house full of kids and animals one of the...
    purplebutterfly14 purplebutterfly14 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    I never wanted kids growing up.

    I didn't want to get married. I always envisioned myself alone by choice with an important career. Funny thing, though, is I am a maternal person- a caregiver type. I work in social work- advocacy and therapy- and I have a natural sense of social responsibility. As the years...
    kmacleod33 kmacleod33 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    I Have Strict Standards

    I've always said - If I was comfortably wealthy, had the perfect husband, a full-time nanny and housekeeper, I would totally have like 15 kids. For real. Until then, I'm fine with 0.
    sava744 sava744 31-35, F Feb 6, 2009

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    Abandoned Children

    I don't have a son or daughter of my own, though I did want children as I dreamed of getting married in my twenties and thirties; I was too busy sheltering myself from the hurricanes that held me back from accomplishing all my dreams. I have observed parent's hope for their...
    Carrie7 Carrie7 51-55, F Jul 28, 2013

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    And I Don't Want Them...

    I love kids, other peoples! I can barely take care of myself , why would I have children? No way could I raise  a child alone and that is how I would expect to do it because you can not depend on anyone in this world but yourself.
    Meowderkatze Meowderkatze 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 28, 2011

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    Don't Wanna

    Hey folks, please contact me. I want to have more and more friend who don't have and want children.
    haveadrink haveadrink 41-45, F Jun 23, 2011

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    Nope.......Natural Or Otherwise....

    Haven't met anyone who's wanted to have kids with me. So I'm 37, set in my ways, with too much baggage (I think) to make a good mom. Definitely wouldn't want to do it on my own. NO THANK YOU VERY MUCH! My mom was a single parent & she did an amazing job...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 11, 2009

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    Sometimes I Wish I Did....

    I don't have any children, and I am 29, and seem to be the abnormal one out of all of my friends, since I have only one friends out of many that doesn't have any children either. It really makes it hard to have girlfriends to hang out with when all of them have children. I really...
    ChristianGal ChristianGal 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2011

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    I Am Sometimes Unsure...

    I love children.  Don't get me wrong, I do.  But whenever my friends come by with their horde of little hellions, I stop being so sure that I want them.  My home is not child-proof.  It is filled with expensive equipment, beautiful things and my nice clean...
    siobhan25 siobhan25 21-25, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2008

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    Not Sure Yet

    I have swayed back and forth so much on my desire for children.  I even worked at a daycare for a while and it really nurtured my...nurturing side.  BUT once I quit working there and went into another field, I quickly became anti-children for some reason. I'm with...
    Kilyra Kilyra 31-35, F 3 Responses May 8, 2008

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    I Have No Children

    Society:  Do you have a boyfriend? Bella: No, I don't yet. Society: Oh, but you are beautiful.  Are you married? Bella: Um, I'm afraid not, since I do not have a boyfriend as I told you before *rolls eyes* Society: Okay, but I'm sure you have children, right? Bella...
    BellaFairy BellaFairy 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 17, 2010

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    No Kids Ever

    I never had to inclination to have kids. I figure if I didn't have kids by the time I turned 35, I would never have them. Who wants kids when you're walking around with a cane? I also figure if I ever had kids, I would probably end up getting divorced (because that's what...
    Nickelman Nickelman 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 26, 2013

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    Deliberate, Well Thought Out Choice

    I was never one of those girls who was obsessed with babies.  Motherhood was not something that particularly appealed to me. As I got older, I thought out my position on the whole children thing.  And after much consideration, I decided to remain childless.  My reasons are as...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F Feb 20, 2012

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    And It Is Making Me Miserable.

    I want children more than anything in the world. I want to be a mother, to raise a child, to feel that love and bond. I worry that I will never have children. I worry that I CAN'T have children, due to my own childhood trauma. I worry that I will never be at a point in my life...
    PinkPyxee PinkPyxee 22-25, F 1 Response May 12, 2011

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    And Its Going to Stay That Way..

    I love kids, I think they're great....I just don't want any. Which, coincidentally, is why I don't have any. I don't criticize people who have children or have a lot of them and I would appreciate it if those same people would extend me the same courtesy. There aren't any plans...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F May 12, 2008

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    Happily Decided Not to Procreate, Ever.

    I have never been the girlie-girl type that loved babies and squealed over how adorable they are. Just because I have working equipment, I don't feel obligated or entitled to bring forth another being onto the planet. Quite honestly, I don't know if my mother's selfish...
    qazrazl qazrazl 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 31, 2008

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    Kids

    Don't have none, don't want none. Yes I know this is improper grammar. I love kids 5 and below because they're so beautiful and in my opinion the best people in the world because most don't have baggage and the taint of the world. But because the world is such an ugly place I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 14, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    so in my family, we are cursed with only boys so i made a list of just boy names that i like. Bailey Alexander Avery Carlisle Gerard Michael Raymond Antonio Tobias Perry Devon...
    piercethemack piercethemack 13-15, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I really don't know why anyone would. I don't have anything against people who do become parents but I just can't understand why they would throw their lives away. First few years...
    Dontcare8 Dontcare8 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    I don't have any piercings or tattoos. I don't think I will ever have any. I don't like them at all and find them a turn off. They can ruin a nice body.
    Danceofhours Danceofhours 36-40, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't have a best friend. Plain and simple. I have plenty of friends, and don't have problems making them. But I think I've been making all the wrong types of friends. The ones...
    jolieember12 jolieember12 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am 20 years old and I don't have my license or permit. Usually when people turn 16 they are so set on driving and get their permit and license right away. I am not in any kind of...
    Samhopexo Samhopexo 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    Never was interested in getting my license. When I was going into high school, the standards were changed, saying that students aren't forced to take driver's class which meant for...
    deadlyrose88 deadlyrose88 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 11

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    so I don't have gf but I have friends is more good then gf and bf
    hmkspain hmkspain 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 30

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    I Don't Have A Boyfriend Since Birth.. So Can U Be?
    IlovePistachios IlovePistachios 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    Mostly because I'm scared of how my mother is going to judge them, i'm a people pleaser because i grew up with a narcissistic mother and I'm still living with her (about to move...
    TheGuiltTripGirl TheGuiltTripGirl 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    I don't have anyone to hold me or console me when I'm frightened, sad, not feeling well. I miss that dearly. :( I hope to find that again one day.
    Saram1985 Saram1985 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    Life is getting me down. I know I shouldn't complain and that I'm very lucky in a lot of ways but working and studying is taking up all my time. It upsets me that I don't have time...
    Ver24 Ver24 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I love my freedom too much to be a father. Once, I dated a girl with a kid and it didn't work out because I couldn't handle fatherhood. I've told my parents before that I don't...
    bktaylor1989 bktaylor1989 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 2

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    Eh, I say I don't but I wouldn't mind it. Then I realize that my fertility is questionable for one. My uterus and hormones hate me. For real. Two, I am ALWAYS in dire straits. I...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    Every time I want to hangout with them they say that they are busy but one time I asked one of them in private why can't we hangout he said that his father don't like his son...
    agent268 agent268 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I actually do have pube hair. But I know plenty of boys who don't yet. Some of my 13-15 friends don't yet... It's all ok. You'll get there and there's a down side to all that pube...
    gayandproud13 gayandproud13 13-15, M Aug 26

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    Being under the influence of love is not unlike being drunk or high -- that's why we fall in love. We don't join in, or sign up or practice being in love. We simply fall. So I...
    cindycap cindycap 41-45 Sep 4

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    And my imagination is a little too good. I sometimes make eye contact with women I don't know. I don't try or go out of my way to do this, it just happens. I maintain a neutral...
    joecell joecell 46-50, M Sep 12

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    Yup, that's a fact Jack and the way I like it. I'm sure you can find lots of young girls that are more than happy to supply you with tons of hand love pics. What's it like to be in...
    AndroMunkey AndroMunkey 18-21 5 days ago

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    I know that i am existing and not living and that is a real thing. It hurts a s i know but what i can do as for my health situation and for being trapped in a lot of issues that...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 22

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    He left us right after my younger sister was born, and my younger sister was born when I wasn't even a year old yet. Which means that I grew up without a father, without knowing a...
    Celal Celal 18-21, F Aug 22

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    I'm the person that doesn't belong to a specific friendship group. I like meeting new people and getting to know a lot of people rather than staying in my comfort zone and hanging...
    uniqueisme uniqueisme 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    And I don't want one. I enjoy washing the dishes. It's oddly therapeutic......
    AuntieShani AuntieShani 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I want the guy I like to ask me but I don't think he will :/
    cicizzle cicizzle 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    I just want to go home. I've moved so many times that I have no idea what or where to call "home". I have friends and family storing all my things for me, but I don't want to live...
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    Im settling in to college and don't really have any one to talk with so anyone on this that wants to chat boy or girls I'm not picky on who I talk with
    tinieTempah tinieTempah 16-17, M Sep 12

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    I have maybe two friends that I can really count on. I thought I made another one at work, but it was a really self-centered woman who has made my life a living hell. She couldn't...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M Sep 6

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    Never had any man that was a dad to me. I was so afraid to become a parent, thought for certain I'd screw it up because I had no father to imitate. Fortunately I have not but I...
    don0063 don0063 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 11

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    The most frustrating thing ever is trying to explain or express what you're going through to someone whose never been through it, they always seem to belittle the situation or make...
    Dauntlesssmile Dauntlesssmile 18-21, F Aug 30

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    i would LIKE a job, but I can't seem to get one. Part of me is interested in school just to fill some sort of void, but I decided against it for many reasons.
    YuriXWolfram86 YuriXWolfram86 18-21, F Sep 4

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