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I Don't Have Children

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 187 People

    And It Is Making Me Miserable.

    I want children more than anything in the world. I want to be a mother, to raise a child, to feel that love and bond. I worry that I will never have children. I worry that I CAN'T have children, due to my own childhood trauma. I worry that I will never be at a point in my life...
    PinkPyxee PinkPyxee 22-25, F 1 Response May 12, 2011

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    Don't Wanna

    Hey folks, please contact me. I want to have more and more friend who don't have and want children.
    haveadrink haveadrink 41-45, F Jun 23, 2011

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    Happily Decided Not to Procreate, Ever.

    I have never been the girlie-girl type that loved babies and squealed over how adorable they are. Just because I have working equipment, I don't feel obligated or entitled to bring forth another being onto the planet. Quite honestly, I don't know if my mother's selfish...
    qazrazl qazrazl 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 31, 2008

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    But Want Them In The Future...

    I am a 16 year old lesbian about to start college, and I think kids are the biggest joy in life...And my plan is to go into the Air Force next year, hopefully do SERE...and have the airforce be my career...then retire from the airforce at 37 and/or teach JROTC at a high school...
    Cadet1995 Cadet1995 18-21, F May 11, 2011

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    Bad Gene Pool

    Faced with too many possible inherited weaknesses and diseases on both sides, we decided to pass on bringing children into the world—end the bloodline. This was a surprisingly easy decision with no regrets other than my own occasional twinge at “what if.” They...
    luka309 luka309 46-50, M Feb 5, 2009

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    And I Don't Want Them...

    I love kids, other peoples! I can barely take care of myself , why would I have children? No way could I raise  a child alone and that is how I would expect to do it because you can not depend on anyone in this world but yourself.
    Meowderkatze Meowderkatze 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 28, 2011

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    Kids

    Don't have none, don't want none. Yes I know this is improper grammar. I love kids 5 and below because they're so beautiful and in my opinion the best people in the world because most don't have baggage and the taint of the world. But because the world is such an ugly place I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 14, 2013

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    And Its Going to Stay That Way..

    I love kids, I think they're great....I just don't want any. Which, coincidentally, is why I don't have any. I don't criticize people who have children or have a lot of them and I would appreciate it if those same people would extend me the same courtesy. There aren't any plans...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F May 12, 2008

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    I never wanted kids growing up.

    I didn't want to get married. I always envisioned myself alone by choice with an important career. Funny thing, though, is I am a maternal person- a caregiver type. I work in social work- advocacy and therapy- and I have a natural sense of social responsibility. As the years...
    kmacleod33 kmacleod33 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 26, 2014

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    Nope, Not Yet!

    I would like to have children someday. But only when I am married, if possible. :-D I have worked with children for many years. And I do enjoy be around them. Sometimes from the mouths of babes, you get the most wisdom, from their innocent point of view. And they don't mind that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 5, 2009

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    I Have No Children

    Society:  Do you have a boyfriend? Bella: No, I don't yet. Society: Oh, but you are beautiful.  Are you married? Bella: Um, I'm afraid not, since I do not have a boyfriend as I told you before *rolls eyes* Society: Okay, but I'm sure you have children, right? Bella...
    BellaFairy BellaFairy 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 17, 2010

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    Nope.......Natural Or Otherwise....

    Haven't met anyone who's wanted to have kids with me. So I'm 37, set in my ways, with too much baggage (I think) to make a good mom. Definitely wouldn't want to do it on my own. NO THANK YOU VERY MUCH! My mom was a single parent & she did an amazing job...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 11, 2009

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    I Have Strict Standards

    I've always said - If I was comfortably wealthy, had the perfect husband, a full-time nanny and housekeeper, I would totally have like 15 kids. For real. Until then, I'm fine with 0.
    sava744 sava744 31-35, F Feb 6, 2009

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    I Don't...

    But I hope that one day, some day, I will have several of my own. I love kids and have always wanted my own big family. I don't have kids, not sure when I will, but I hope that I will have them, cause I would LOVE to have kids, a house full of kids and animals one of the...
    purplebutterfly14 purplebutterfly14 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    I Am Sometimes Unsure...

    I love children.  Don't get me wrong, I do.  But whenever my friends come by with their horde of little hellions, I stop being so sure that I want them.  My home is not child-proof.  It is filled with expensive equipment, beautiful things and my nice clean...
    siobhan25 siobhan25 21-25, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2008

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    No Kids Ever

    I never had to inclination to have kids. I figure if I didn't have kids by the time I turned 35, I would never have them. Who wants kids when you're walking around with a cane? I also figure if I ever had kids, I would probably end up getting divorced (because that's what...
    Nickelman Nickelman 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 26, 2013

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    Not Sure Yet

    I have swayed back and forth so much on my desire for children.  I even worked at a daycare for a while and it really nurtured my...nurturing side.  BUT once I quit working there and went into another field, I quickly became anti-children for some reason. I'm with...
    Kilyra Kilyra 31-35, F 3 Responses May 8, 2008

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    Deliberate, Well Thought Out Choice

    I was never one of those girls who was obsessed with babies.  Motherhood was not something that particularly appealed to me. As I got older, I thought out my position on the whole children thing.  And after much consideration, I decided to remain childless.  My reasons are as...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F Feb 20, 2012

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    Sometimes I Wish I Did....

    I don't have any children, and I am 29, and seem to be the abnormal one out of all of my friends, since I have only one friends out of many that doesn't have any children either. It really makes it hard to have girlfriends to hang out with when all of them have children. I really...
    ChristianGal ChristianGal 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 25, 2011

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    I need some help, I really don't have any friends. I am lucky to talk to two adults in one day, usually my mom and my husband(who I love). I think I am a good person, I try not...
    momof4goingcrazy momof4goingcrazy 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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    I don't have a Facebook.. Or twitter or any other mainstream social media for that matter. It sounds stupid but I've had self esteem issues for a while so around the time fb got...
    Dreamscape98x Dreamscape98x 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I don't have any real friends that are female, other than my ex sister-in-law. My best friend is a man.
    angierose2014 angierose2014 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    I don't have but 2 friends its hard to trust people
    sugarplum44 sugarplum44 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    and I kinda don't want any for a long while ... all of my friends or people I know are either on there first child or second or third which is crazy even thinking about it now and...
    jynx1 jynx1 18-21, F 17 hrs ago

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    I have known since I was 11 that I didn't want to have children. I didn't like kids as a kid, and couldn't fathom that my sole future was entwined with dirty diapers and tween...
    MoniquetheBlonde MoniquetheBlonde 18-21, F Dec 29, 2014

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    I am scarrd to have children of my own because this world is so crazy and extreme. I would probably shelter my child and I know that's not good in the long run.
    namedashley namedashley 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Of my own. Not really. One at the most . I feel like that makes men with kids uncomfortable but I don't want to give birth . The thought literally makes me ill .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    I don't know why this is happening right now. I had a best friend for 7 years & we have been through so much together. I have had a really hard life and I don't trust many people...
    Wvgirl20 Wvgirl20 18-21, F Jan 1

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    My husband just left me in the house by myself...again. I don't care that he hangs out with his friends but he makes the plans early in the day and won't tell me until a hour...
    Javail5 Javail5 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    This holiday me and my friends were planning to go to the beach together. One of them who own the house didn't really invited me, but she invited everyone on the group chat so I...
    lottiemendler lottiemendler 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I really don't. of course there are things some people don't know because it's personal and only close people know. But no secrets.
    KidAgony KidAgony 22-25 Dec 29, 2014

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    Don't get me wrong, I love my family to bits and most of them are wonderful and supportive! But... we've just never had that sense of closeness that so many families have. I'm...
    Saiyanprincess Saiyanprincess 18-21, F Jan 2

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    Society has put a pressure on us, the youth and the young adults, to "have your life together." We've been asked countless times when we were kids, "What do you want to be when you...
    elliechickenface elliechickenface 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    Not sure I have any! I don't go out much. I don't drink. .....?
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    I feel like where ever I go I don't really fit in.i feel that they like me and my personality but I never quite fit in to any place
    painfullyloving painfullyloving 16-17, F Jan 4

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    I'm new on this site and my best friend all of a sudden hates me. We first met in 7th grade and we played basketball together and became fast friends. Soon we became best friends...
    Rooknightingale43 Rooknightingale43 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    every single ''friend'' i had turned out to be fake and every single girl turned out to be a mistake i'm content and happy just being on my own i pleasure myself real good i don't...
    antoneli antoneli 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    The flux capacitor is withering. The one point twenty one gigawatz is not coming, and to make matters worse, the aliens on the horizen aren't even the worst of our problems.
    itismichael itismichael 36-40, M Dec 25, 2014

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    I thought I had a friend but turns out that I didn't. I was just being used....
    Urtech Urtech 22-25, M Jan 8

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    It's been this way for ten years now. He married my mom when I was five and has been unkind to me ever since he married her. I can't take it anymore, being disrespected. It...
    ningqin ningqin 13-15, F Jan 11

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    My mum isn't like other mums... Things I should have done with my mum, my dad had to come with and do because she's too busy being selfish. he even said to me 'isn't this...
    Misscoconut Misscoconut 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    at a church event. I'm ready to go home. I have no car.
    tinalr tinalr 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    I am 21 and turning 22 this year.. i am also a member of NBSB. When i turne to this page and find out that there is a community like this, and find out i am not alone. ??i love...
    xxbiRitch xxbiRitch 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    Music makes everything okay. It both evokes every emotion and eases every emotion. It mimics experiences that I've never had. It mimics experiences that I've had but are long gone...
    SheSaidx SheSaidx 22-25, F Jan 12

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    Not yet anyways! I have plans!
    jenapoobear jenapoobear 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I do have a camera on my phone but it's broken
    GassGirl03 GassGirl03 22-25, F a week ago

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    Most people only like me when its convenient or beneficial for them to do so. I'm used to it, I have a few friends and they care. Thats all that really matters .-.
    CanYouHearTheSilence CanYouHearTheSilence 13-15, T 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I want to have a couple...someday...everyone i know has a family of their own and here i am...
    redphoenix02 redphoenix02 22-25, F