I Don't Have Much of a Relationship With My Dad

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    I don't have much of a relationship today with

    my dad, but that's due to my mom. I moved out of state in 2003 to be with the love of my life. Since then, my parents have only come out to visit me once, when I got married in 2004. Meanwhile, I have been back three times, all for family functions, and at times when money was...
    FTDFTL79 FTDFTL79
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2015

    He asks "how is everything" every

    once in a while through a text and invites me on holiday vacations every other year, but other than that I don't really talk to him. Sometimes when he asks he sounds genuine, but I'm so used to not really talking to him that I don't even know what to say or where to start. When...
    Hydrangea745 Hydrangea745
    22-25, M
    1 Response Aug 31, 2015

    It's friendly. It's cordial.

    We talk around things. It's a "solid" relationship. The problem is that he doesn't understand me at all. I should say that that's not really a problem, that's just how it is. Part and parcel of how everything is what it is. I don't want it to be different. He's got a psychotic...
    IgnatiusJReilly IgnatiusJReilly
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    Between the screaming swearing drinking

    and verbal abuse, how am I ever supposed to get a word in when all I can say is sorry for no real reason other than to calm him down and make him feel correct...
    Jnstoneami Jnstoneami
    22-25, M
    Nov 18, 2015

    He's such an ******* I just hate him

    for never being here and I hate my moms boyfriends to
    CaseyCutiePie CaseyCutiePie
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    Really Only Dealt With Him When Forced&Now

    Refuse To Speak To Him At All- my mother was his first and last interracial intercultural relationship and he left our household under a court order while my mother was still pregnant with my little sister, because he didn't want a 2nd mixed race child and tried to beat my...
    ToBeDiskovered ToBeDiskovered
    22-25, M
    Apr 9

    I invited him to my graduation at my community

    college and he said he would try to make it there. I gave him one last chance to prove to me that he cares enough about me to go to this graduation that only happens once in a lifetime yet he failed miserably. Two days before graduation he texted me he can't make it because of...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 16, 2015

    I've never had a relationship with my

    biological dad. My mom and biological dad broke up before I was born and I've never met him.
    realityruinedmylife realityruinedmylife
    16-17, F
    Aug 6, 2015

    I'm so tired of being told how to feel.

    People are judging things they don't understand. If I want to be angry at the man who abandoned me, I'm allowed to. No one can tell me otherwise. Especially someone who has had her dad her whole life. Yes, I have a dad who took me in and loves me as his own. But the void created...
    reneeo11314 reneeo11314
    18-21, F
    Jun 30, 2014

    growing up me and my dad would love to watch

    movies and hang out but over the years he got to busy and would only talk to me when he wanted to yell so now I can't stand him
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 25, 2015

    WOW. So I just had such a moment of clarity.

    My mom and I were talking about something, and it reminded me of something I had been wanting to ask. Not too long ago, my aunt had told me about when I was little. She basically said my dad left when I was little to live and work down in Virginia with my uncle. And when he...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 20, 2015

    He's an ******* he said almost everyday I

    wasn't his son and he hates me bc I'm bisexual
    Sadness3 Sadness3
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    It's hard for me to honor someone

    who has never given me a reason to honor him for. I feel that the only way I can honor him is to not speak badly about him.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    I don't know what I did

    but he stopped calling me, he stopped sendin me letters on birthdays or holidays, he cut me out completely
    ghostflannel ghostflannel
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 4

    My dad has anger issues

    and is very insecure and pins them on other people. It's always a constant back and forth w him. It's like there's two people there, the nasty grinch and then my hero. But it's been like that for as long as I can remember. I keep my distance for my own sake but I've been going...
    AnaValencia AnaValencia
    16-17, F
    Aug 6, 2015

    My dad was In and out of my life

    for years and it always made me sad that he wouldn't stay and as much as I wanted to say I don't want to see you anymore I couldn't because an infuriating part of me will always love him so no matter what he does I'll always be waiting for his next visit because the idea of...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 6, 2015

    He was beating me as child

    and my mom stopped me for visiting him from when I was 4. But she wanted me to get to know my dad, so she arrange to meet tougher with supervisor every second Friday after school. When I was around 12, I wanted to stay with him for weekends... My mom was not happy, but she...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 21

    My dad has always been abroad

    for work since I was a kid. As a kid, I used to send him snail mails and long letters and I'm always excited when he gets home. However, things changed when I grew older (12 yo), I used to the feeling that he's not around, that he's gonna be just a Skype video call forever and...
    tippyville tippyville
    18-21, F
    Jan 1

    So my dad walked out on my family several times,

    but my mom keeps taking him back. A couple years ago, he left again. He filed for divorce, left my mom. I'm grown and have a family of my own, by the way. I know I only really see one side of the story, but it sounds like he was a real jerk in the divorce proceedings. He...
    racethesun racethesun
    26-30, M
    Nov 17, 2015

    He barely was present during my childhood

    because of work and god knows I don't hate him for it because he did it for me and my silbings but I am not going to lie because this affect our relationship and now he's like a stranger to me. Even worse with the divorce because now I don't see him nor talk to him. I don't want...
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    I'm kind of like whatever.

    I sometimes forget about him.
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    Apr 13, 2015

    I used to have a great relationship with my

    father he was an alcoholic but he wasn't mean. after I moved away from home he found Christ which is wonderful but it changed him and so much he wasn't fun to be around he was annoying. somebody told me something about when I was little and I asked my dad I started to drink but...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 18, 2015

    I just want to start off by saying I really

    don't want to repare my relationship with my dad. I only want to share my story. I can't remeber much of him from before my mum kicked him out, and the things I do remeber were good. The first sign of my dad being someone that I don't like is when I was about 8, my brother didn...
    jonesey911 jonesey911
    18-21, M
    Dec 31, 2015

    I love my father. When I was little he was my

    hero. When I was about five my parents lost their home. My father left. My parents separated and my dad moved to another state. He would visit a few times a year. Mainly on holidays until I was 13. Then there was a big change. I had been living with my mother in a rental home...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    I haven't spoken to him in 8 years.

    We had a disagreement about a family issue and he hasn't spoken to me since. I say "whatever" or "F#ck him, it's his loss", but inside it absolutely kills me. I try to be understanding that he had a hard road as a kid. He was adopted, then his adopted mom died, his dad...
    TheDays TheDays
    46-50, M
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    I suppose it's difficult to have a relationship

    with some one you only see a couple of days a year, so yeah.
    QueenVen QueenVen
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 24

    To put it in a way most people would understand,

    I'll give you a visual: Imagine two people. A teenage girl, and a man in his forties sitting at a table in a cafe. They both have a cup of coffee, and maybe something to snack on. The girl stares out the window, and the man just drinks his coffee quietly only saying something...
    lizcosmo1997 lizcosmo1997
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 14, 2015

    It's mom that took care of the house

    and family, dad still stay with us but doesn't help much. He never want to be blamed even though he made many mistakes, all he thinks about just money. Then we lost our house mostly because of him, he changed just a little bit better but still... I don't hate him, I just never...
    cloversmoon cloversmoon
    22-25, F
    Oct 9, 2015

    I use to have a great relationship with my

    father until I turned 13 it all changed. My father was caught talking to young children online, and he is now in prison for life. Leaving his wife to raise 5 daughters (who could have very well been victims of his perversion), my life has been nothing but a struggle since he was...
    lonelyproblems lonelyproblems
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 6, 2015

    So my Dad has a history of.

    ..questionable behavior with younger women under his supervision, whether as a teacher, or retail manager. Nothing that was ever reported in such a way to show up on a record, or get him in legal trouble, but there's enough smoke to make me believe the victims. I am even friends...
    jdhammer84 jdhammer84
    31-35, M
    1 Response Aug 5, 2015

    My father was very abusive

    when I was growing up. He never physically abused me, but he physically abused my brothers. He was also emotionally abusive with them as well as my mother and I. He was emotionally abusive especially towards me. My mom finally got the courage to divorce him only about two years...
    Mickkeyy Mickkeyy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 2, 2015

    i am lonely without him my dad passed away

    since i was 12 years old..i don't have much time with him..but the last things i remembered about him..he is inteligent,kind,responsible,loving,caring..i love him so much..people saying my dad just perfect..sometime i like to hear my dad love story with mom..my mom saif there is...
    myselfhere myselfhere
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 29, 2015

    that is an understatement on my part.

    i have no relationship with him...sure ive tried over the years. and i guess he has too a point. i am the oldest of 4 kids plus the only daughter...but my dad divorced me when he divorced my mother...and too put the icing on the cake..he completely disowned me when i got...
    moongoddess35 moongoddess35
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 3

    Well this has been going on

    for a while, but my dad basically feels that I pushed him away, while he feels this way, he is a introvert, very bold about how he feels, and he has no trust in me, which was never lost? I guess never gained? But I have no mom, so it's just him, he left her while I was 3 months...
    linkin15 linkin15
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 18, 2015
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    1 Response Jul 4, 2015

    I started school and normally I get s text

    saying have a good first day of school but I didn't and I'm breaking down like a little ****! I lost it today so bad! he can't just forget me and move on to his new life. I'm still here he still made me! I don't get why it's so hard to just remember your kid how the **** do you...
    steal11 steal11
    18-21, F
    Aug 31, 2015

    I actually don't even know him.

    I only remember one memory of him and I which is when my dad picks me up.
    KindredKings KindredKings
    13-15, M
    Aug 7, 2015
    FallenOptimist22 FallenOptimist22
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 4, 2015

    my dad is not a very good person

    and I can't really like him because he never give me a reason to love him, my dad has never liked me anyway so when he finds out that I am gay he is going to disown me and I won't have anywhere to go
    loneleyboy loneleyboy
    13-15, M
    Jul 4, 2015

    I love my dad and I've done a lot of stuff with

    him over my life, but I feel like his alcoholism and attitude toward my mom has really sullied my view of him
    will1982 will1982
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jul 21, 2015

    Growing up all I could think about was being

    someone else. Ive always been afraid of being like my father. As I can see it is because I can't do all those drugs and love all those ugly people and I can't give up on myself. He never calls or visits and neither does the rest of my family. So it is really a mutual thing. I'm...
    coerietheraven coerietheraven
    22-25, M
    Aug 6, 2015

    He was a physical and emotional abuser of my

    mom, me & Siblings, I don't know how my mom married this stupid guy.... !!! But to be honest he changed my life to choose right path and achieve good great heights in life. hey.. it does't mean that he showed me right path in life... I never teach me how to become a good...
    bak4u bak4u
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Sep 1, 2015

    I swear it bothers me to my core to see my

    so called dad trying to talk to a 20 something year old. I swear he only goes for young short good lookin girls but not well rounded lookin older WOMEN. he's almost 50 and the girls he talk to are young enough to be one of his kids. he wont go for older women which idk why but...
    BlueMoonx BlueMoonx
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 6, 2015

    I broke off any ties with my father at a young

    age. He was a druggie and alcoholic. It sorta bugs me when people ask,what about your dad? Like I want to talk about a man who abused me and my family.
    Amaretsu Amaretsu
    13-15, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    Mistakes Made Us Distant From The Start

    My father and I have never been close, which has to do with the decisions he made early in my mother's and my life. My father told my mother her boyfriend (the love of her life) was cheating on her so he could be with her. My mother later found out this was not the case, she...
    Karlee93 Karlee93
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 25, 2013

    My parents never got divorced,

    and my dad was always there...just not THERE. He's a very closed off, distant person. We've never really talked to each other. He doesn't know me, and I don't know him. I was raised by my mother, pretty much alone. For a long time, I was angry with my father, and felt like he...
    Bluebutterflywings Bluebutterflywings
    31-35, F
    Jun 15, 2014

    I used to have a really great relationahip with

    my dad, visit him on weekends, but when I was around 14 he started dating people. It didn't bother me that much its just that he changed. he cared less about me and more about dating. long story short- he got married to a crazy woman, who had it out for me so i never saw him...
    PoisonedxxApple PoisonedxxApple
    18-21, F
    Sep 1, 2015

    Anymore. Not since his affair with my mom.

    . No even before that when I became a teenager I shut him out. Good reasons to. He praised my sister and only yelled at me. I'm a disappointing crybaby failure to him.
    AfterFall AfterFall
    22-25, F
    Apr 13, 2015
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