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I Don't Hold Grudges

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    Sister Who Holds Grudges From Our Childhood

    My sister recently moved half way across the country. I should be glad about this since we could never get along but I am not. I am sad about it. Recently she lived with me and I discovered that she still holds grudges about things that happened when we were kids. Now mind you...
    momhenn momhenn 51-55, F Apr 11, 2012

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    Don't hold grudges, hold boobs instated.

    Because boobs make everything better. Plus women like supportive men.
    jojo0915 jojo0915 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    It Is a Coping Mechanism

    As the logo says: 'Laugh through the tears; Smile through the pain.' This is so true and has been a staple for my life for ages. It has helped me cope and help me continue on even when I thought all was over. EP has helped to lessen the tears and pain in that now I have an...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 1 Response Sep 23, 2008

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    Why Bother?

    Why hold onto a grudge? What's it gonna prove? It's not like anyone is going to win. I helped a friend and even though it messed up, the important thing was I made her open her eyes and realize somethng. It was a little hurtful, I admit it but the most important thing was she...
    khushali11 khushali11 26-30, F Aug 13, 2011

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    My Heart prefers peace

    It doesn’t mean that I am brave or that I forgive all kind of betrayals, for sure not. But my heart has something good, for my own well being. It doesn‘t occupy places with grief and, with time, it doesn’t waste time with frustration or disappointments from a past. And...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 17, 2011

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    Anger Tarnishes People.

    In life people might rub me this way or that way but the more they do, the brighter I shine.
    jeffr jeffr 41-45 2 Responses Oct 9, 2011

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    FRIENDS

    I have come to belive that friendship is something to cherish not take for granted. I have this friend that I grew up with and everything about each other we pretty much know. This friend was there for me even when family was not and I love here for that. My friend and I got into...
    knockknees knockknees 36-40, F 1 Response May 12, 2009

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    Very Few, Because...

    ...it takes me a LONG time to get to the point of being that angry at someone. I am constantly giving others a second chance. But, when they have finally worn me down with their crap, I am done with them. No grudge held in that case because I just don't care anymore.
    Tkldpink Tkldpink 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

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    It's Vanity

    Life is too short to hold grudges Forgive and let go bitterness. It is not healthy to the body neither to the soul Nothing is worth the price to pay for bitterness towards others Live and Let go!
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2011

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    Letting Go Of The Anger

    I could have held onto the biggest "grudge" of all times if I thought it would have made any difference....my son's bio-dad was an emotional and verbal abuser in our 10 years of marriage. It was a nightmare that I never thought I would escape.....until the day that he turned his...
    klkipp01 klkipp01 46-50 Aug 12, 2011

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    Forgive And Move On

    I look at it like this It's easier to forgive than to hold a grudge it takes more to hold a grudge I learned this a long time ago. Don't mistake my Kindness for weakness because I can be mean and I don't let me take advantage of me.
    CountryBaby22 CountryBaby22 22-25, F 1 Response May 9, 2013

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    A Waste of Time

    Obviously we've all held a grudge or two at some point in our life. And sometimes it's necessary. But for the most part, i think holding grudges is both selfish and perhaps a little ignorant, ignorant of the real priorities in life - which aren't to get caught up in silly things...
    jasminjane jasminjane 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2009

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    Almost Physicaly Impossible

    i have tried to hold gruddges when i am realy pissed off but for some reason they always blow over in my head and i end up forgetting and forgiving them after around 2 hours or so. its anoying but i guess its better than being pissed all the time
    Shadowwalker256 Shadowwalker256 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 9, 2012

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    Grudges

    me either all it does is hurts you and not the other person and it tears you up .
    silvercoins4 silvercoins4 70+, F Jul 8, 2008

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    Not My Style

    The chances are you've rubbed me up the wrong way and I've told you so.  I'm way too honest sometimes and I don't sugar coat it. It doesn't mean you're on my blacklist, or we can't still be friends.
    DarknessFallen DarknessFallen 16-17 1 Response Feb 28, 2010

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    Wasted Energy

    Granted, it's hard to let go of how people hurt you.  I've got more than a few wounds on my heart that are not likely to heal any time soon.Having said that, I work to let all that go.Carrying around hurt and anger and grudge-y stuff does no harm to the people I'm angry at...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F Aug 12, 2011

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    Keep It Moving

    I dont hold grudges because it's useless to stay mad at someone and make myself sick inside because of someone's bull****, we are only human and it's expected that's how i see it. I learn from what the person did to me and probally dont trust them as much or at all.
    humbleme humbleme 31-35, F Dec 8, 2010

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    To Much Trouble

     i just go on with my life.i can`t spend all that energy and time just to stay mad at one person.and besides i would rather be enjoying myself.and if they want to hold a grudge,so be it they have the time and energy,not me.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 Aug 9, 2009

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    Never Have

    You can Hurt me beyond words, Or compare. I won't Hate you. I don't may be hurt and Sad. But I won't hold a Grugde or what you did. It's not my nature. I learned by holding a grudge your giving the grudgee power. Why do I want someone In control of my emotions I don't so I don't...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    Forgive someone once, but if they consciously ruin there chances then they clearly don't care or have respect for you
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