Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Don't Hold Grudges

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 212 People

    I may dislike someone

    so much, but I do not want to hate someone. Hate is such a strong word, and if I could not hate then maybe the world world be just a bit less hateful. I also do not hold grudges because it does not make you any better than the person you "hate."
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Anger Tarnishes People.

    In life people might rub me this way or that way but the more they do, the brighter I shine.
    jeffr jeffr 41-45 2 Responses Oct 9, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Letting Go Of The Anger

    I could have held onto the biggest "grudge" of all times if I thought it would have made any difference....my son's bio-dad was an emotional and verbal abuser in our 10 years of marriage. It was a nightmare that I never thought I would escape.....until the day that he turned his...
    klkipp01 klkipp01 46-50 Aug 12, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Grudges

    me either all it does is hurts you and not the other person and it tears you up .
    silvercoins4 silvercoins4 70+, F Jul 8, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Heart prefers peace

    It doesn’t mean that I am brave or that I forgive all kind of betrayals, for sure not. But my heart has something good, for my own well being. It doesn‘t occupy places with grief and, with time, it doesn’t waste time with frustration or disappointments from a past. And...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 17, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Forgive And Move On

    I look at it like this It's easier to forgive than to hold a grudge it takes more to hold a grudge I learned this a long time ago. Don't mistake my Kindness for weakness because I can be mean and I don't let me take advantage of me.
    CountryBaby22 CountryBaby22 22-25, F 1 Response May 9, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Very Few, Because...

    ...it takes me a LONG time to get to the point of being that angry at someone. I am constantly giving others a second chance. But, when they have finally worn me down with their crap, I am done with them. No grudge held in that case because I just don't care anymore.
    Tkldpink Tkldpink 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It Is a Coping Mechanism

    As the logo says: 'Laugh through the tears; Smile through the pain.' This is so true and has been a staple for my life for ages. It has helped me cope and help me continue on even when I thought all was over. EP has helped to lessen the tears and pain in that now I have an...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 1 Response Sep 23, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Not My Style

    The chances are you've rubbed me up the wrong way and I've told you so.  I'm way too honest sometimes and I don't sugar coat it. It doesn't mean you're on my blacklist, or we can't still be friends.
    DarknessFallen DarknessFallen 16-17 1 Response Feb 28, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A Waste of Time

    Obviously we've all held a grudge or two at some point in our life. And sometimes it's necessary. But for the most part, i think holding grudges is both selfish and perhaps a little ignorant, ignorant of the real priorities in life - which aren't to get caught up in silly things...
    jasminjane jasminjane 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    To Much Trouble

     i just go on with my life.i can`t spend all that energy and time just to stay mad at one person.and besides i would rather be enjoying myself.and if they want to hold a grudge,so be it they have the time and energy,not me.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 Aug 9, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It's Vanity

    Life is too short to hold grudges Forgive and let go bitterness. It is not healthy to the body neither to the soul Nothing is worth the price to pay for bitterness towards others Live and Let go!
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Almost Physicaly Impossible

    i have tried to hold gruddges when i am realy pissed off but for some reason they always blow over in my head and i end up forgetting and forgiving them after around 2 hours or so. its anoying but i guess its better than being pissed all the time
    Shadowwalker256 Shadowwalker256 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 9, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Why Bother?

    Why hold onto a grudge? What's it gonna prove? It's not like anyone is going to win. I helped a friend and even though it messed up, the important thing was I made her open her eyes and realize somethng. It was a little hurtful, I admit it but the most important thing was she...
    khushali11 khushali11 26-30, F Aug 13, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    FRIENDS

    I have come to belive that friendship is something to cherish not take for granted. I have this friend that I grew up with and everything about each other we pretty much know. This friend was there for me even when family was not and I love here for that. My friend and I got into...
    knockknees knockknees 36-40, F 1 Response May 12, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Don't hold grudges, hold boobs instated.

    Because boobs make everything better. Plus women like supportive men.
    jojo0915 jojo0915 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 23, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sister Who Holds Grudges From Our Childhood

    My sister recently moved half way across the country. I should be glad about this since we could never get along but I am not. I am sad about it. Recently she lived with me and I discovered that she still holds grudges about things that happened when we were kids. Now mind you...
    momhenn momhenn 51-55, F Apr 11, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Never Have

    You can Hurt me beyond words, Or compare. I won't Hate you. I don't may be hurt and Sad. But I won't hold a Grugde or what you did. It's not my nature. I learned by holding a grudge your giving the grudgee power. Why do I want someone In control of my emotions I don't so I don't...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 8, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    holding a grudge doesn't hurt anyone

    but yourself....why give someone else power over you?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 16, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Wasted Energy

    Granted, it's hard to let go of how people hurt you.  I've got more than a few wounds on my heart that are not likely to heal any time soon.Having said that, I work to let all that go.Carrying around hurt and anger and grudge-y stuff does no harm to the people I'm angry at...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F Aug 12, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    I've always been bullied which haven't exactly boosted my self-esteem. But I really wonder how other people see me and what it would be like to see myself through others eyes. What...
    MissClueless MissClueless 16-17, F 10 Responses Feb 12

    Your Response

    Cancel
    this is going to be one of those brittany rants that i'm not going to filter and make pretty. if you like pretty, then stop reading. THE SAME WAY THAT IF YOU ONLY LIKE PRETTY GIRLS...
    foldedunfolding foldedunfolding 31-35, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't know anything. I can't figure out anything. I don't know what I want, who I want, where I want to go. I am breathing, existing, taking up space. But that's all. Oh - but i...
    ecress ecress 18-21, F 8 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I really kind of want to make a new account and start fresh. I have people whom I block and try to get back in contact with me by making new accounts and don't know how to leave me...
    leandra260 leandra260 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I barely started dating this person 2 weeks ago. We don't talk or text everyday, we don't do any of that at all actually. We hang out only once or twice a week. He ignores my texts...
    hardlyexisting hardlyexisting 18-21, F 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't add men... I'm married. I don't private message men. We can all talk in the public pages just fine without being buddy buddy. My Life is simpler with only female friends...
    MommysGotTats420 MommysGotTats420 22-25, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I didn't say I love you for almost 2 years. I felt like people just threw it around way to much. I hurt a lot of people. in a way I feel bad for hurting them. but in a way I don't...
    Happythoughts7771 Happythoughts7771 22-25, F 11 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't think people who do drugs are "bad",it is just that I find it incredibly stupid.There is no way you can escape your problems,and more importantly your emotional problems...
    aquabunny aquabunny 22-25, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am so lonely. I've always been lonely, but I don't think I've ever been as much as I am now. I love being alone, but it's because I can't be left alone that it makes me feel...
    BlueRio BlueRio 18-21, F 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i have seen many handsome boys eyes brighten when they see me.i am mostly on my own.i don't give them a single hint in order to attract them nor do i dress like a fashionista.but...
    jez999 jez999 18-21, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It erodes God's Holy Word. If we chose not to believe the Old Testament and our Salvation through Jesus Christ we have no belief in God. Evolution is an attempt to weaken God's...
    RuthT RuthT 16-17, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Any input is welcome. My parents divorced when I was five and I (and my siblings) lived with my mom until I went off to college. To keep this somewhat short I'll just say that...
    ExplosivelyShy ExplosivelyShy 22-25, F 16 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm 17. I do so only when its necessary. Why? Because it's a hassle, it takes forever, and the hair grows back in within hours, leaving me all types of itchy. It's stupid. Do what...
    MissBlackrose MissBlackrose 16-17, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    the things that happen on this earth makes me feel so different how much pain that passes around and just how it molds humanity. we where sent to this planet to make CHANGE its...
    Johnnyboy57 Johnnyboy57 18-21 1 Response 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Eating is great-- I love food, I love to cook, I love snacking. But good gosh is it inconvenient. I forget to eat; I opt not to because it's difficult to prepare food or to take...
    quirkygirl520 quirkygirl520 22-25, F 41 mins ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Here I am, 6 in the morning, joining this site for no apparent reason other than the fact I want to vent, I suppose. Or is it I want to find comfort in typing all this out? I haven...
    LoZtMe LoZtMe 18-21, F Feb 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Valentine's Day has just passed. Everywhere I go, I see all these happy people, holding hands, engaging in public displays of affection. If only they knew how much it tortured some...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't believe in it because it makes your relationship sound kinda fake. Do you really need a license and a bunch of paperwork just to know that your in love with someone? I don...
    lonewolf2323 lonewolf2323 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 15

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I feel like I just need to let this out... I have a lot of pent up issues and frustrations with my parents that I've never really expressed to anyone. The other day, some simple...
    astro00 astro00 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 20

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm not sure if it's just me, but I have actually never really got on well with my younger sibling. She's two years younger and I'm just about to progress onto university in...
    RoseKelly01 RoseKelly01 18-21, F Feb 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't mind it....in fact with the kissing, holding hands, hugging....I think we don't see enough of that in life. We get too busy with other things. We don't see enough showing...
    shakenama shakenama 41-45, M 1 Response a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm living in a situation where I'm not loved, appreciated or even treated with decency. What's even sadder is that it's in a house with my bf and my mom. My mom is the most...
    therapeuticalsentences05 therapeuticalsentences05 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm jealous of my sister. Everyone thinks she is so pretty. People come up to me asking me if she is my sister all the time and tell me how she looks like a model or something. I'm...
    classAteam classAteam 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 8

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Lonely,hungry for your affection Sitting by the phone wishing for your attention I know you. Inside and out You make 10 calls a night to blow it all out Did my face cross your mind...
    OsageBetty OsageBetty 31-35, F Feb 9