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I Don't Know How to Ask For Help

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    I Don't Know How!!!

    I don't know how to ask for help. I don't know how to do it. I am So bad at reaching out, even when I am at my worst. Yes, I can easily reach out to someone else, when they are hurting, or I see they are suffering, but than when it comes to me, I don't know what to do, I don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 9, 2010

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    This is a problem for me.

    I don't know how to ask for help. There were times when I could've solved all my problems just by asking for help. There were willing people, I remember someone telling me to just call if I needed help finding a job...I never did. Now, it feels like De Ja Vu, I've been...
    migs1910 migs1910 26-30, M Oct 17

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    I Just Can't

    I cannot say it... I end up making them guess, then I feel bad for that and I feel like I'm bothering them... I just cannot win.If I don't ask for help I feel worse but if I do ask.. I feel worse anyway..
    Buffy19 Buffy19 18-21, F Dec 18, 2011

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    I’m a drama queen. My problems are small

    and insignificant. It would be ridiculous to ask for help with them. They’re barely even problems. In the grand scheme, I’ve got a pretty good deal. So why can’t I cope?
    dramaqueen262 dramaqueen262 22-25, F Mar 8

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    Some days I hate who I am

    and feel trapped and other days I feel like I should stick around. Most of the time I just want to run away and see if anyone even noticed.
    Viciouspistols Viciouspistols 22-25, F Mar 10

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    I Shut Down

    When I need it the most, I shut down.  I retreat into myself and don't know how what do to or articulate what I need.  Sometimes I need someone to just hold me and let me know that they're there.  Be gentle and take care of me, give me the space to cry alone (why I...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl 41-45, F 13 Responses Jun 9, 2008

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    Grad School Blues

    So I'm a history student, and I find my classes to be extremely boring.  Sure the initial rush of new information is exhilarating, but that quickly fades.  I know my job as a historian is to analyze available historical sources and the secondary opinions about them ...
    omniaTranseunt omniaTranseunt 22-25 1 Response Jan 1, 2009

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    Just Don't Know!!!

    It's Nothing to do with Pride. It's nothing to do with making a Fool out of myself. It's just hard For me to ask For help. Because I am so use to doing everything by myself, It Feels like asking for help would be Contradicting my Independence.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2008

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    How?

    How do I tell you that I am sitting here alone, with my heart breaking on the inside, and the tears are falling on the outside. How do I tell you, that I am falling deeper into this dark place, and I am scared out of my mind. How do I tell you, that I don't completly trust myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 25, 2010

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    It's Not Our Fault

    I've come to really notice, that we read on many sites, and here from many people that when we are having any form of problem, we need to get help. We are given every step except the first step which is actually having to ask for help; we are told to do it, but we are never told...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 14 Responses May 5, 2009

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    Please Help Me..please

    I wrote another story, in another group in reference to my molestation as a child.. I really have a hard time thinking and talking about it. I havent told anybody but those you on ep about it. A recent event caused the memory to surface and its putting me on the verge of a mental...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    This Is Why I..."have to go and make things so Complicated..."

    I don't ask for help really. I try everything else first, I think it through over and over, analyze, try to fix it myself, only when I'm positive I can't go on without it do I ask. Why? Hmm. This confuses me a bit too. I don't want to burden others with my problems? I don't...
    Angelwings7 Angelwings7 13-15, F Jan 12, 2012

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    You Need Help.man.

    When people say this to others, they are often not sure on what to say. Sometimes it is a sincere plea to others. Sometimes it is said out of misunderstanding what the problem is. SOmetimes it is said to get people to stop bothering. Sometimes it is just a thought of concern...
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 4 Responses May 8, 2009

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    I Wish I Had Known

    I wish I had known how, and that I had the strength to ask for help, but I didn't. I would chicken out or avoid certain situations. My act didnt hold up for long...eventually a professor noticed, and they got a hold of a counselor at the college... My friends it was NOT a fun...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 26 Responses May 4, 2009

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    Hello I Need Some Help

    This is something I have always had trouble with.  From asking for a simple helping hand, to a heartwrentching plea. I still don't know why one little word can be so hard to say. Maybe part of it is admiting that there is a problem in the first place.  Like I am...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    Nope

    How do I tell you that I am sitting here alone, with my heart breaking on the inside, and the tears are falling on the outside. How do I tell you, that I am falling deeper into this dark place, and I am scared out of my mind. How do I tell you, that I don't completly trust myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 10, 2013

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    I'm Not Sure I Even Want It

    I could use help, but do I even really want it? I'm not so sure. Sometimes I feel as if feeling depressed & hopeless is where I belong; the only place I can feel comfortable. I don't think I'd even begin to know how to be happy anymore...it's been so long. I wish I didn't have to...
    Chellefromhell Chellefromhell 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2011

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    I Have Learned How ...

    When I was young, I learned that asking for help was a sign of weakness - well, to ME - it was a sign of weakness. As I grow older, I don't fear this as much. This last year of my life has REALLY opened my eyes in SO many ways. I'm still getting...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Coz When I Do, People Just Judge

    well, most people. it's like, i can't feel helpless! when i do, people feel i'm too weak & they say all these things...or they try to help, but they always say something about it. so there, it's hard.
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 3 Responses May 4, 2009

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    I don't know how to ask

    for help :( My home life is in the least complicated. My grandparents have been in and out of hospital since i was 7 and, currently, my grandma has kicked my grandad out after having a stroke, so he lives with us, as my grandad has slight mental problems during the night. My...
    MusicMakesTheRules MusicMakesTheRules 13-15, F Jan 23

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    I've Had Every Opportunity To Ask For Help

    I don't know how to do it anymore. I tried so many times, so many ways. I could just never get the words out. I even said the words out loud to someone, to my mom. I told her I'm depressed. I said it too casually, I said it at the wrong time. She thought I meant I'm lonely or I'm...
    mysteryhatcat mysteryhatcat 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2013

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    More like, I do not know

    why I get this feeling of defeat. I recently started talking to someone. Though she is several states away, I do hope for the day that I finally get to meet her. But yet, The person I truly want, keeps slipping away like sands from the hourglass. Why is it that I can not be...
    AnubisRising AnubisRising 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 16

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    I Don't Need Any Help, But Can We Talk.

    A lot of people come to see me. They start out their conversation with " I don't need any help, but can we talk?" That's the key to helping, let others talk. People feel better about themselves if they can talk without: 1) Disruption 2)Criticism. Many times...
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 5 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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