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I Don't Know How to Ask For Help

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 257 People

    I'm Not Sure I Even Want It

    I could use help, but do I even really want it? I'm not so sure. Sometimes I feel as if feeling depressed & hopeless is where I belong; the only place I can feel comfortable. I don't think I'd even begin to know how to be happy anymore...it's been so long. I wish I didn't have to...
    Chellefromhell Chellefromhell 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2011

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    It's Not Our Fault

    I've come to really notice, that we read on many sites, and here from many people that when we are having any form of problem, we need to get help. We are given every step except the first step which is actually having to ask for help; we are told to do it, but we are never told...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 14 Responses May 5, 2009

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    I've Had Every Opportunity To Ask For Help

    I don't know how to do it anymore. I tried so many times, so many ways. I could just never get the words out. I even said the words out loud to someone, to my mom. I told her I'm depressed. I said it too casually, I said it at the wrong time. She thought I meant I'm lonely or I'm...
    mysteryhatcat mysteryhatcat 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2013

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    I Don't Need Any Help, But Can We Talk.

    A lot of people come to see me. They start out their conversation with " I don't need any help, but can we talk?" That's the key to helping, let others talk. People feel better about themselves if they can talk without: 1) Disruption 2)Criticism. Many times...
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 5 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    You Need Help.man.

    When people say this to others, they are often not sure on what to say. Sometimes it is a sincere plea to others. Sometimes it is said out of misunderstanding what the problem is. SOmetimes it is said to get people to stop bothering. Sometimes it is just a thought of concern...
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 4 Responses May 8, 2009

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    This Is Why I..."have to go and make things so Complicated..."

    I don't ask for help really. I try everything else first, I think it through over and over, analyze, try to fix it myself, only when I'm positive I can't go on without it do I ask. Why? Hmm. This confuses me a bit too. I don't want to burden others with my problems? I don't...
    Angelwings7 Angelwings7 13-15, F Jan 12, 2012

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    More like, I do not know

    why I get this feeling of defeat. I recently started talking to someone. Though she is several states away, I do hope for the day that I finally get to meet her. But yet, The person I truly want, keeps slipping away like sands from the hourglass. Why is it that I can not be...
    AnubisRising AnubisRising 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 16, 2014

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    Coz When I Do, People Just Judge

    well, most people. it's like, i can't feel helpless! when i do, people feel i'm too weak & they say all these things...or they try to help, but they always say something about it. so there, it's hard.
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 3 Responses May 4, 2009

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    I don't know how to ask

    for help :( My home life is in the least complicated. My grandparents have been in and out of hospital since i was 7 and, currently, my grandma has kicked my grandad out after having a stroke, so he lives with us, as my grandad has slight mental problems during the night. My...
    MusicMakesTheRules MusicMakesTheRules 13-15, F Jan 23, 2014

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    Some days I hate who I am

    and feel trapped and other days I feel like I should stick around. Most of the time I just want to run away and see if anyone even noticed.
    Viciouspistols Viciouspistols 26-30, F Mar 10, 2014

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    Hello I Need Some Help

    This is something I have always had trouble with.  From asking for a simple helping hand, to a heartwrentching plea. I still don't know why one little word can be so hard to say. Maybe part of it is admiting that there is a problem in the first place.  Like I am...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    Just Don't Know!!!

    It's Nothing to do with Pride. It's nothing to do with making a Fool out of myself. It's just hard For me to ask For help. Because I am so use to doing everything by myself, It Feels like asking for help would be Contradicting my Independence.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2008

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    I Shut Down

    When I need it the most, I shut down.  I retreat into myself and don't know how what do to or articulate what I need.  Sometimes I need someone to just hold me and let me know that they're there.  Be gentle and take care of me, give me the space to cry alone (why I...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl 41-45, F 13 Responses Jun 9, 2008

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    I Wish I Had Known

    I wish I had known how, and that I had the strength to ask for help, but I didn't. I would chicken out or avoid certain situations. My act didnt hold up for long...eventually a professor noticed, and they got a hold of a counselor at the college... My friends it was NOT a fun...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 26 Responses May 4, 2009

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    Please Help Me..please

    I wrote another story, in another group in reference to my molestation as a child.. I really have a hard time thinking and talking about it. I havent told anybody but those you on ep about it. A recent event caused the memory to surface and its putting me on the verge of a mental...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    How?

    How do I tell you that I am sitting here alone, with my heart breaking on the inside, and the tears are falling on the outside. How do I tell you, that I am falling deeper into this dark place, and I am scared out of my mind. How do I tell you, that I don't completly trust myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 25, 2010

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    Nope

    How do I tell you that I am sitting here alone, with my heart breaking on the inside, and the tears are falling on the outside. How do I tell you, that I am falling deeper into this dark place, and I am scared out of my mind. How do I tell you, that I don't completly trust myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 10, 2013

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    Grad School Blues

    So I'm a history student, and I find my classes to be extremely boring.  Sure the initial rush of new information is exhilarating, but that quickly fades.  I know my job as a historian is to analyze available historical sources and the secondary opinions about them ...
    omniaTranseunt omniaTranseunt 22-25 1 Response Jan 1, 2009

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    I Don't Know How!!!

    I don't know how to ask for help. I don't know how to do it. I am So bad at reaching out, even when I am at my worst. Yes, I can easily reach out to someone else, when they are hurting, or I see they are suffering, but than when it comes to me, I don't know what to do, I don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 9, 2010

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    I Have Learned How ...

    When I was young, I learned that asking for help was a sign of weakness - well, to ME - it was a sign of weakness. As I grow older, I don't fear this as much. This last year of my life has REALLY opened my eyes in SO many ways. I'm still getting...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    This is a problem for me.

    I don't know how to ask for help. There were times when I could've solved all my problems just by asking for help. There were willing people, I remember someone telling me to just call if I needed help finding a job...I never did. Now, it feels like De Ja Vu, I've been...
    migs1910 migs1910 26-30, M Oct 17, 2014

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    I Just Can't

    I cannot say it... I end up making them guess, then I feel bad for that and I feel like I'm bothering them... I just cannot win.If I don't ask for help I feel worse but if I do ask.. I feel worse anyway..
    Buffy19 Buffy19 18-21, F Dec 18, 2011

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    I’m a drama queen. My problems are small

    and insignificant. It would be ridiculous to ask for help with them. They’re barely even problems. In the grand scheme, I’ve got a pretty good deal. So why can’t I cope?
    dramaqueen262 dramaqueen262 22-25, F Mar 8, 2014

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    I'm always sad and down but no one notices and i don't know how to change that and be happy again
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    Lmfao I can't flirt at all. I've actually tried before with my male friend and he said I sucked xD I don't know how people flirt, like I get super awkward out of no where.
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    Well, I just don't know how to start any kind of conversation. The friends I have are mostly the ones that starts them... I'd just blurt out a random / stupid thought.
    jellyfishz jellyfishz 13-15, T 6 days ago

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    Since I have never been in one xD But I still don't know how and all that and I'm afraid that, soon, all my friends will be in a relationship and I'm just sitting on my couch...
    jellyfishz jellyfishz 13-15, T 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    i am so tired of trying to understand. I don't know what to do nor do I feel like I care.
    lovebites86 lovebites86 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 8

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    I remember being good at writing. Decent at drawing as well. I grew up being told I was "wise beyond your years..." and could hold a conversation with any group of adults. Scores...
    Demise Demise 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    There are still many pages that are blank and must be written... But I don't want this story to be boring. How can I prevent that? Oh, right. Stop thinking, start doing
    jellyfishz jellyfishz 13-15, T 6 days ago

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    37 hours 44 minutes deep into this hold! My boyfriend is doing what he can to prolong my hold but I'm so full. I'm in so much pain it's getting hard to breath or even see. I can...
    36hourholds 36hourholds 36-40, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I feel silly doing this but I REALLY need your help and input. I've reached my mental limits and honesty suicide crosses my mind. I cannot tell if there is any REAL in my...
    ScaredButterfly75 ScaredButterfly75 36-40, F Mar 26

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    I honestly can't do it. It just doesn't work. I'd like to learn though.
    TrackStackz TrackStackz 13-15, M Mar 26

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    I haven't found mine yet :/
    angeldelinkwent angeldelinkwent 22-25, F Mar 31

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    I'm pretty sure, no you can't see my lady parts isn't the appropriate response to wow you're beautiful!
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    I am a constantly uncertain about myself. They say your own worst enemy is yourself and i can see why. I tell myself lies that stop me from moving on and i hate that. How can i...
    Alonso1996 Alonso1996 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 16

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    Ugh! I've heard one of his friend say that he likes me, but I'm not sure if it's true!! There's also another friend of mine that likes him and I'd usually give up on someone very...
    jellyfishz jellyfishz 13-15, T 6 days ago

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    Got drunk last night and repeatedly told my bf how much I like him. He never once said he liked me, too, but he did make fun of me for it today.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 6 days ago

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    It seems like no one wants to have a deep and meaningful conversation with me, Im always there for others but they never return the gesture.
    AlisonAnnAbby AlisonAnnAbby 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Am one. But pain ruins it. Got to town to mail cards. Had cards. Had charger for phone. But the address was in phone back at camp. So. I go shop. And try to...
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Apr 6

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    Trying to get me to accept a compliment is like trying to get a vending machine to accept your wrinkled cash. You can try as many times as you want, it isn't going to work and it...