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I Don't Know How to Ask For Help

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 256 People

    I'm Not Sure I Even Want It

    I could use help, but do I even really want it? I'm not so sure. Sometimes I feel as if feeling depressed & hopeless is where I belong; the only place I can feel comfortable. I don't think I'd even begin to know how to be happy anymore...it's been so long. I wish I didn't have to...
    Chellefromhell Chellefromhell 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2011

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    Just Don't Know!!!

    It's Nothing to do with Pride. It's nothing to do with making a Fool out of myself. It's just hard For me to ask For help. Because I am so use to doing everything by myself, It Feels like asking for help would be Contradicting my Independence.
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2008

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    I’m a drama queen. My problems are small

    and insignificant. It would be ridiculous to ask for help with them. They’re barely even problems. In the grand scheme, I’ve got a pretty good deal. So why can’t I cope?
    dramaqueen262 dramaqueen262 22-25, F Mar 8, 2014

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    I Don't Need Any Help, But Can We Talk.

    A lot of people come to see me. They start out their conversation with " I don't need any help, but can we talk?" That's the key to helping, let others talk. People feel better about themselves if they can talk without: 1) Disruption 2)Criticism. Many times...
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 5 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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    Hello I Need Some Help

    This is something I have always had trouble with.  From asking for a simple helping hand, to a heartwrentching plea. I still don't know why one little word can be so hard to say. Maybe part of it is admiting that there is a problem in the first place.  Like I am...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    I've Had Every Opportunity To Ask For Help

    I don't know how to do it anymore. I tried so many times, so many ways. I could just never get the words out. I even said the words out loud to someone, to my mom. I told her I'm depressed. I said it too casually, I said it at the wrong time. She thought I meant I'm lonely or I'm...
    mysteryhatcat mysteryhatcat 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2013

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    I Shut Down

    When I need it the most, I shut down.  I retreat into myself and don't know how what do to or articulate what I need.  Sometimes I need someone to just hold me and let me know that they're there.  Be gentle and take care of me, give me the space to cry alone (why I...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl 41-45, F 13 Responses Jun 9, 2008

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    Please Help Me..please

    I wrote another story, in another group in reference to my molestation as a child.. I really have a hard time thinking and talking about it. I havent told anybody but those you on ep about it. A recent event caused the memory to surface and its putting me on the verge of a mental...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    You Need Help.man.

    When people say this to others, they are often not sure on what to say. Sometimes it is a sincere plea to others. Sometimes it is said out of misunderstanding what the problem is. SOmetimes it is said to get people to stop bothering. Sometimes it is just a thought of concern...
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 4 Responses May 8, 2009

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    How?

    How do I tell you that I am sitting here alone, with my heart breaking on the inside, and the tears are falling on the outside. How do I tell you, that I am falling deeper into this dark place, and I am scared out of my mind. How do I tell you, that I don't completly trust myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 25, 2010

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    It's Not Our Fault

    I've come to really notice, that we read on many sites, and here from many people that when we are having any form of problem, we need to get help. We are given every step except the first step which is actually having to ask for help; we are told to do it, but we are never told...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 14 Responses May 5, 2009

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    Nope

    How do I tell you that I am sitting here alone, with my heart breaking on the inside, and the tears are falling on the outside. How do I tell you, that I am falling deeper into this dark place, and I am scared out of my mind. How do I tell you, that I don't completly trust myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 10, 2013

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    This is a problem for me.

    I don't know how to ask for help. There were times when I could've solved all my problems just by asking for help. There were willing people, I remember someone telling me to just call if I needed help finding a job...I never did. Now, it feels like De Ja Vu, I've been...
    migs1910 migs1910 26-30, M Oct 17, 2014

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    I Don't Know How!!!

    I don't know how to ask for help. I don't know how to do it. I am So bad at reaching out, even when I am at my worst. Yes, I can easily reach out to someone else, when they are hurting, or I see they are suffering, but than when it comes to me, I don't know what to do, I don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 9, 2010

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    This Is Why I..."have to go and make things so Complicated..."

    I don't ask for help really. I try everything else first, I think it through over and over, analyze, try to fix it myself, only when I'm positive I can't go on without it do I ask. Why? Hmm. This confuses me a bit too. I don't want to burden others with my problems? I don't...
    Angelwings7 Angelwings7 13-15, F Jan 12, 2012

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    I Wish I Had Known

    I wish I had known how, and that I had the strength to ask for help, but I didn't. I would chicken out or avoid certain situations. My act didnt hold up for long...eventually a professor noticed, and they got a hold of a counselor at the college... My friends it was NOT a fun...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 26 Responses May 4, 2009

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    Coz When I Do, People Just Judge

    well, most people. it's like, i can't feel helpless! when i do, people feel i'm too weak & they say all these things...or they try to help, but they always say something about it. so there, it's hard.
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 3 Responses May 4, 2009

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    I Just Can't

    I cannot say it... I end up making them guess, then I feel bad for that and I feel like I'm bothering them... I just cannot win.If I don't ask for help I feel worse but if I do ask.. I feel worse anyway..
    Buffy19 Buffy19 18-21, F Dec 18, 2011

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    Grad School Blues

    So I'm a history student, and I find my classes to be extremely boring.  Sure the initial rush of new information is exhilarating, but that quickly fades.  I know my job as a historian is to analyze available historical sources and the secondary opinions about them ...
    omniaTranseunt omniaTranseunt 22-25 1 Response Jan 1, 2009

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    I don't know how to ask

    for help :( My home life is in the least complicated. My grandparents have been in and out of hospital since i was 7 and, currently, my grandma has kicked my grandad out after having a stroke, so he lives with us, as my grandad has slight mental problems during the night. My...
    MusicMakesTheRules MusicMakesTheRules 13-15, F Jan 23, 2014

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    More like, I do not know

    why I get this feeling of defeat. I recently started talking to someone. Though she is several states away, I do hope for the day that I finally get to meet her. But yet, The person I truly want, keeps slipping away like sands from the hourglass. Why is it that I can not be...
    AnubisRising AnubisRising 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 16, 2014

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    Some days I hate who I am

    and feel trapped and other days I feel like I should stick around. Most of the time I just want to run away and see if anyone even noticed.
    Viciouspistols Viciouspistols 22-25, F Mar 10, 2014

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    I Have Learned How ...

    When I was young, I learned that asking for help was a sign of weakness - well, to ME - it was a sign of weakness. As I grow older, I don't fear this as much. This last year of my life has REALLY opened my eyes in SO many ways. I'm still getting...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Like everyone here, I don't know how to flirt, so I kind of use an alternative. Lately I'd been reading about random psychology ****, including body language, and it seemed a bit...
    carmansoul carmansoul 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 15

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    When other people have problems, I'm the first to help. I enjoy it because the problem is the focus and not me. I do things for others because I don't know how to be myself.
    eludesme eludesme 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    When grown man who look about 40-50 years old and they tell me I look beautiful I don't know how to take they're compliment. If I say thank you, they're going to think I'm trying...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    Everything's been going wrong today and yesterday. ******* everything. I'm already depressed and suicidal and anxiety-ridden even before the last couple of days, but now I'm just...
    polyglotparrot polyglotparrot 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    when everything goes downhill this fast, it's hard to stay strong. there's very literally hope left, and I'm at the breaking point. I can't do this anymore. I can't. I've tried. I...
    gummball gummball 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    ...and don't send me yours unless I ask. I'm sick of seeing random naked pictures in my inbox. And guys, whatever you may think, women aren't turned on by pics of your junk. I...
    QueenBee479 QueenBee479 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    I feel like I really need to learn how to swim, but every time I think of it, I can enumerate a lot of stupid excuses I can think of, like: I don't like to get sun burned, sun...
    grrrey grrrey 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I don't normally get compliments so when I do I freeze up and get really awkward. Most of the time I feel like I don't deserve the compliments that I get but I take them anyway...
    BabyGirlCleo BabyGirlCleo 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    i just want to find goood friend, but i dont know how to find friends l
    beingprecious beingprecious 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    How to take a compliment: Step 1 Say "thank you" Step 2 There is no step 2, that's it jackass. Haha I don't think you guys are jackasses I just saw this on twitter
    AshleyJea AshleyJea 22-25, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I don't mind sending someone a selfie but I hate it when people beg or push me for a picture.
    JustDevy JustDevy 18-21, F Feb 3

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    I told my wife I want a divorce yesterday. Today is just day one and I am already dying inside. All of the things that need done, the emotions, I can't take it. How will I find the...
    brianpast40 brianpast40 36-40, M Feb 7

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    A friend of me at school (yes it was really a friend, not me) sent really exposing pictures on snapchat. somehow those ended up in our school and everyone had them and was looking...
    Estelle2000 Estelle2000 18-21, F Feb 8

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    AH!!! What do I do! I really like him. I've never felt this way before. I have no idea what to do. Should I tell him how I feel? Or shoud I wait for him to tell me? I'm so...
    Sparkles4Ever Sparkles4Ever 13-15, T 3 days ago

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    If ever someone compliments me on something, it just feels weird to me.
    Marcus010 Marcus010 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I am a horrible flirt I dont think I make people feel good when I flirt it ends up being the opposite its weird
    Crystalsgirl08 Crystalsgirl08 13-15, F Feb 13

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    Single and drinking on this beautiful Valentines day cause I'm a loser ! ;D who's with me!
    thiswillmostlikelyformyou thiswillmostlikelyformyou 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 14

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    im alone this valentines day and bored so i was texting this guy who is also alone and he stopped responding. hes not even that attractive...cant catch a break on valentines day
    wxvx wxvx 16-17 1 Response Feb 14

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    I really like this guy but I am so worried that he is starting to lose interest in me..
    sammimel sammimel 18-21, F Feb 22

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    He told me he liked me, maybe even loved me. I said he would get sick of me. Never, he said. But all I heard was lies. A month later and where are you? You said you're getting...
    marieflorence109 marieflorence109 22-25, F Feb 22

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    I've always wanted to make a decent animated short film. I've already got the whole storyline written down and I've already figured out what the characters and scenes should look...