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I Dont Know How to Cheer Someone Up

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 38 People

    I Wish I Did...

    ...but alas, all I can usually do is make some lame joke, and most of the time I overshoot the mark and end up looking stupid and making the other person feel like I"m mocking them or making fun of them. I never try to do that, I genuinely try to make someone feel better, but I...
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 2, 2011

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    It's All One Sided

    I hate it when my friend feels sad and I know it, yet I can't do anything about it. I tried saying things like 'No worries I'm still here, you got me.' But it seems like he still feels sad. (It's all through IM) A girl he likes made him sad, and another moment she can make him...
    geniegenie geniegenie 18-21 1 Response Apr 9, 2009

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    When My Grandma Died

    I didn't cry. I couldn't. Then I saw my cousin crying in the bathroom. She was crying so much and I didn't know what to do. I just froze. That was the worst time. I don't think I would do that now. At least, I like to think that I wouldn't. I felt like such an...
    musicspirit musicspirit 16-17, F 6 Responses Jul 6, 2009

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    I Don't Know Whats Wrong With Me...

    Sometimes I just feel so awkward. I don't know what to say or do. I see one of my friends and they look so sad and depressed and sometimes they even look like they're about to cry and I just freeze up and I feel weird. I absolutely hate it when my friends are hurting and all I...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2009

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    I'm Basically Useless

    I don't even really try anymore. I think it's partially because I'm not willing to say meaningless optimistic things when a situation is bad. Not to say that people who can cheer others up only do so by saying meaningless things. Also I hate when guys want to get advice from me...
    celandine celandine 22-25, F 1 Response May 23, 2007

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    I Wish I Could Be Better At It. I Still Care!

    There are some people who know exactly what to say and what to do to make someone feel better. I can't seem to find the right way to cheer someone up. So sometimes, I just leave things unsaid. Or I appear silly and superficially sympathetic. I worry that I appear...
    musicspirit musicspirit 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 8, 2009

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    Not Really Sure

    I don't know how to cheer someone up, really. I mean I try with my friends but I'm not sure if that really works. Usually, I either try to get them to talk about it or try to be funny. Sometimes they work and sometimes it doesn't, depending on who I'm with..If I'm with my friend...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine 18-21, F Mar 17, 2009

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