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I Don't Know How to Deal With the Upcoming Deployment

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    Iraq

    My boyfriend is going to Iraq in February. It's his second deployment so I know he already knows what it is going to be like, but I don't. This is the first time I've been dating a military guy during deployment. Anyone have suggestions for me?
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Sep 21, 2008

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    Jus Left Sunday

    My Boyfriend and i have only been together for 7 1/2 months...for me that is a long relationship. I can honestly say I love him he is so much different than anyother guy i have been with. When his deployment date got moved from feb. 2010 to this month it was super hard to deal...
    Bksnnfam Bksnnfam 18-21 2 Responses Jul 16, 2009

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    He's Leaving Dec. 3rd...

    My boyfriend/fiance is leaving next week for 1 year to Korea. We have only been together since January of this year. When we found out that he was being sent there we were both shocked considering he had a less than 1% chance to get deployed there. So finding out this news we...
    SoonToBeMrsB SoonToBeMrsB 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2009

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    He Leaves In Two Days

    wow its that time again i leave to go home tomorrow but he leaves in two day to go out to sea i hate tis time even more cause he wont have a cell phone we found out that it would be $1.99 per minute and he just told me today that they dont know if the email is gonna...
    skysthelimit skysthelimit 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Will Deploy This Summer

    My husband will deploy this summer. This our first,we have been married 10 yrs and we dont spend alot of time apart so I know as it gets closer it is going to be hard. Any advice on how to get through 15months without the other half of you?
    Mominindy4 Mominindy4 36-40 1 Response Apr 14, 2009

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    It's Only Been A Week...

    a week ago today the love of my life was deployed, and in 12 days we will be celebrating our 6 month anniversary apart :(.... now i thought i knew what i was getting into but boy was i wrong. i knew it would be tough but i had no idea it would be this hard. the first day i was...
    nicmor nicmor 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21, 2011

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    My Heart Breaks A Little More Every Day

    He leaves in less than two weeks. Exact day I'm not sure of yet. I've heard july 4th but he hasn't told me for sure. We are long distance. A year of corresponding via text messages and emails. I've been with him 3 times. Last year for post deployment, during xmas holidays and...
    lunatuna9 lunatuna9 22-25, F Jun 23, 2012

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