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I Don't Know How to Flirt

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    I really don't know how to flirt

    and reciprocate to flirt. any one good in that?
    Saarikaa Saarikaa 36-40, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I remember when I asked my current boyfriend

    out, I had a panic attack because I didn't know how to flirt
    NathanYu NathanYu 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 12

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    I do but I don't . I mean I can do it

    professionally if its beneficial to my wallet or my performance but if I like someone or think theyre attractive I lose all positive social skills. I friendzone myself. My friend set me up on a date and I literally sat there and laughed after everything he said to me . He was...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F Aug 17

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    Sorry about posting this again

    but I need someone to reply and help me with this Met this girl on a work night out a few months ago we got on well halfway through the night she squeezed my side as walked past me What does it mean someone please help
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    masonishere masonishere 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I may not know how to flirt

    but I definitely know how to be awkward 😁😳😆 lol
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 27

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    That silly "I'll seduce you with my

    awkwardness" phrase totally applies to me. I never realize when I'm being hit on either... Whoops!
    BleuGardenia BleuGardenia 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    ???????!!!??? Wtf???!!!???

    It's all confusing to me.   I had a ruff childhood, plus I was a fat-*** ugly kid in grade school, lost weight & got semi-cute in high school, had plenty of dates but... I don't know... just never felt cute or like I was capable of even flirting, though my husband...
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2009

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    I Fear Sounding Like A Geek

     I don't think I do it right. It's okay I don't seem to have a problem getting what I want when I make up my mind i'm going to get it.
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 12 Responses Sep 17, 2010

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    I'm not shy or anything.

    I'm just really straightforward. If I like someone I tell them directly.
    Mi5h Mi5h 16-17, F Jul 10

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    I am honestly so bad at flirting I don't

    even think it can be called that
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I'll see a chick, walk up to here

    after my knees stop shaking from nervousness, and then stare at her with a stupid or funny face. She and her friends either laugh, look disgusted, look scared and worried, or smile. That last one has happened twice. The rest... You get the idea
    LeonardFinch LeonardFinch 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Flirt Failure My Talent

    So I went to the park with my friend which has a huge pond which you can publicly fish at. We walk on to this wooden old deck where you can sit at and also fish off of. My friend spots this tall hot guy. And hes fishing with hot dogs as bate. Thats when my stupidity kicked in...
    TellmeaLie TellmeaLie 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    Strange guy: Hey, you are cute.

    Me: Emmm.... Do we know each other? Strange guy: Eh... no... i just wanted to say that. Me: Why? In another situation...... Me: Oh my god, that guy is so cute i want to talk to him so bad right now *Stays silent all her life* That is why i will die alone :c
    Mynameistooweird Mynameistooweird 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I Don't Know How To Flirt

    Ever since I was young, I've had this social ineptitude.  I don't know how to flirt, and I don't know how to read the cues that a male likes me.   When I was in school, boys would pick on me or tease, make little suggestive comments or even steal my pencils. ...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 34 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    I literally can NOT flirt!

    I think it's mostly because of my social awkwardness and anxiety, but I can't even tell when someone's actually flirting with me, messing around, or just making a joke out of it! I really want to learn how to!!
    floralenvy floralenvy 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    I've never had to flirt.

    ..so I'm kinda clueless
    Tami8161 Tami8161 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 18

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    I have a lot of female friends,

    and usually others girl find me funny or cute when I'm trying to be funny without any interest in them. But once I try to flirt I feel like I can't keep the girl's interest in me. They said be yourself but it's look like every things I do usually and makes people laugh doesn't...
    ClassicGentleman ClassicGentleman 18-21, M Aug 10

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    Never

    I have never been able to flirt. Ijust dont know how. Just being nice is all I got. I cant put on the moves and sweet talk ya. I dont even think I ever have. Hmmmm......
    tomtombear tomtombear 18-21, M 11 Responses Aug 16, 2008

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    I've mentioned this before

    but I'm still not sure what it means this girl I met for the first time a few months and who I've been getting along well with squeezed my side the first night I met what does that mean I've tried to figure it out but have had no luck
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M Jun 14

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    I'm not awkward, I'm just weird.

    When someone I like flirts with me, I just freak out and just act like I'm not interested. Then later I give myself an *** whooping for being an idiot. Then later when me and Mr. Hotty meet again, I'm just like, "Are you excited the Parent Teacher Student Conferences?" Like who...
    ILoveYourSmile ILoveYourSmile 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I Feel Like A Complete Idiot

    I have recently been dreaming of this woman I am training at work. I became so overwhelmed yesterday that I actually told her about it because she asked me why I acting so 'off.' We have worked together for many years and now I can't even look her in the eyes. She said she...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 24 Responses May 29, 2010

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    Is Tickling Flirting?

    I've read on numerous sites on the web that tickling is considered flirting but I dont know how to flirt. Is tickling flirting or not.....I'm just trying to understand.
    MysticBrunette MysticBrunette 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 24, 2008

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    With guys I don't know

    if I flirt, I just be myself I guess. With girls it's weird because I just realized I was bi not too long ago and I have this friend who I like and she likes me. She sometimes flirts with me and I just stand there like a silent idiot shy and not knowing what to do or say back.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Not Such A Good Idea For Me

    I don't know why I'm not used to flirting , never flirts to anyone before , doesn't like flirting , and dont know how to flirt. I always thought I'm weird because lots of girls in my school flirts a lot and hang out with boys and everytime I see the way they flirt at each other...
    Sharlita Sharlita 18-21, F Jul 3, 2013

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    Yeah, I Know ... How Embarrassing!

    I'm such a mess. 35 years old and know no other way but to be simple and direct, and it hasn't gotten me anywhere. Just recently I thought someone was interested in me ... never got that big compliment I was looking for, just hints. I struggle with depression and do not take...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 2, 2013

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    I Get An "f" In Flirting

    The subtleties of flirting have always escaped me. I'm very shy and have always admired the objects of my affection from afar. I just don't know how to flirt. I never learned. My best friend is an amazing flirt in a really casual way. She's not overly exaggerated or sexual, she...
    vbunny vbunny 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    I'm such an awkward person!

    I literally don't know what to do! A guy will say I'm cute and I'll reply with "your face...I like that"
    lillylolz lillylolz 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    I do this really weird thing,

    where instead of flirting I act like I'm disgusted by them and move away. It's because of my own insecurities but it ends up with guys I like thinking I hate them!
    LocketRainbow LocketRainbow 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    It'S Weird.

    When I think about flirting, I don't even know what to mentally picture. Yeah I kinda know, but exactly? It confuses me a little. And what do you do when you "flirt" anyway? When you say "I will go now, and flirt with that person over there", what do you do? You just, go to...
    Matt200 Matt200 18-21, M 4 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    When I'm around a good looking guy,

    I just laugh or blush or say something stupid. I'm totally not myself; I'm terrible at flirting and showing them I'm actually intelligent and funny and witty...
    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F 7 Responses Aug 22

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    I'm such a bad flirter with girls in real life,

    I never know what to say or do. Even when I know the other girl likes me already. And most times I'm scare that I could get caught in an awkward silence. Those happen to me a lot and I hate it :(
    Quietguy1234 Quietguy1234 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Ok so i do it when i dont mean to & suck at it

    when I wanna its an gift & a curse
    1LilLefty 1LilLefty 13-15, F Jun 1

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    lol i honestly don't know how to flirt.

    .like how do people do it so easily? if i try i probably end up being more of a cheesy *** person
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    I don't know how to flirt.

    Nor even do I want to Say what you mean, mean what you say is how I like to live.
    dontcareforlabels dontcareforlabels 41-45, M 1 hr ago

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    I really don't. Like someone will flirt with my

    and I'll do this weird nervous chuckle thing. It's not pretty in the slightest.
    anorganizedmess anorganizedmess 16-17, F Aug 10

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    The Awkward One

    I have really low (justified) self esteem and when someone flirts with me I freak out cause it's such a rarity. I am also kinda socially awkward around guys I like and I tend to form loads of pally relationships where people like me because they thing I'm 'friendly' and 'nice...
    Person123x Person123x 16-17 30 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    I'll give you a potato.

    Because it lasts more than flowers. Am i doing this right?
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 4 Responses May 6

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    No one's ever flirted with me before,

    but I figured that I would probably end up embarassing myself if I tried to flirt back.
    flyoffsomewhere flyoffsomewhere 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    it's so awkward when the person you're talking

    to is really good at it. Like all I could do was smile and nod and walk away
    sairaa sairaa 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    Literally me. I'm just naturally awkward,

    especially with guys. I get nervous when cute boys talk to me and it makes me look like an idiot ugh forever alone
    msmika msmika 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 25

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    Honestly I need I girlfriend.

    I don't know why but the girls at my school always go for the douches while the actual popular people (im a part of) get none of them. Im nice, I care about girls and everyone, I am helpful, funny caring and nice and tall and I have a nice haircut, and people (not girls) say...
    GingaJustice GingaJustice 13-15, M Aug 21

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    I Used To Be..

    i used to be good at this way back when i was in high school, and now it seems like i lost all my skills when it comes too this stage.. i always lack self confidence .. why?! no wonder i'm loveless..damn right...
    chie0429 chie0429 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    Looking back I've realized several girls had

    flirted with me before I've just never noticed at the moment when they were doing. If I was aware of it I really wouldn't know how to react, probably keep talking but remain unresponsive. I should probably learn how to react
    Ifixedtheclock Ifixedtheclock 16-17, M Apr 11

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    I'm Awkward

    I never had many friends in grade school because I wasn't pretty enough to be popular, this made it very hard to indicate that I like someone(Flirt), I went through a change my freshman year to where I was the cute little blonde haired nerd girl that guys wanted, they would flirt...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F Dec 30, 2012

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