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I Don't Know How to Flirt

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    Girls Just Don't Get It

    What I don't fully understand is now girls will go for the guys with no education, no potential, no money, no house of their own and somehow they can't take a hint that the more successful people and more brainy are the guys to go for. Personally I don't understand, so people I...
    JohnWolfy JohnWolfy 16-17, M Jul 23, 2012

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    I am honestly so bad at flirting I don't

    even think it can be called that
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I'm Awkward

    I never had many friends in grade school because I wasn't pretty enough to be popular, this made it very hard to indicate that I like someone(Flirt), I went through a change my freshman year to where I was the cute little blonde haired nerd girl that guys wanted, they would flirt...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F Dec 30, 2012

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    What Can i say... This habit of mine to run away

    and hide when i get flirted with is one of if not the Worst thing about me. I cant handle it because i become so nervous that my heart skip a beat. Once i was watching this movie with a girl and she layed her head on my shoulder. It was one of those "kiss her you bastard...
    vickepicke vickepicke 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Aura24 Aura24 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    The Awkward One

    I have really low (justified) self esteem and when someone flirts with me I freak out cause it's such a rarity. I am also kinda socially awkward around guys I like and I tend to form loads of pally relationships where people like me because they thing I'm 'friendly' and 'nice...
    Person123x Person123x 16-17 30 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    It'S Weird.

    When I think about flirting, I don't even know what to mentally picture. Yeah I kinda know, but exactly? It confuses me a little. And what do you do when you "flirt" anyway? When you say "I will go now, and flirt with that person over there", what do you do? You just, go to...
    Matt200 Matt200 18-21, M 4 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    With guys I don't know

    if I flirt, I just be myself I guess. With girls it's weird because I just realized I was bi not too long ago and I have this friend who I like and she likes me. She sometimes flirts with me and I just stand there like a silent idiot shy and not knowing what to do or say back.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    I Am Too Awkward!

    I can never flirt with anyone, because I am so awkward that I usually say something weird. It is just so hard for me to get comfortable around guys. I will probably never know why, but unless I've known that guy for a long time, I am the most awkward person ever. Especially when...
    seungwon seungwon 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2012

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    I'll give you a potato.

    Because it lasts more than flowers. Am i doing this right?
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 4 Responses May 6

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    Don'T Know How To

    Flirting isn't natural for me. Wouldn't know if some one was flirting with me. Im that clueless when it comes to flirting. Don't know why people expect most individuals to know how to do so.
    celebarwen celebarwen 22-25 5 Responses Jun 10, 2013

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    Ok so i do it when i dont mean to & suck at it

    when I wanna its an gift & a curse
    1LilLefty 1LilLefty 13-15, F Jun 1

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    ???????!!!??? Wtf???!!!???

    It's all confusing to me.   I had a ruff childhood, plus I was a fat-*** ugly kid in grade school, lost weight & got semi-cute in high school, had plenty of dates but... I don't know... just never felt cute or like I was capable of even flirting, though my husband...
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2009

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    And

    I can't tell when someone is flirting with me.
    lollerskeeball lollerskeeball 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    No one's ever flirted with me before,

    but I figured that I would probably end up embarassing myself if I tried to flirt back.
    flyoffsomewhere flyoffsomewhere 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    Slowly Learning

    My boyfriend is too humble and I'm too new so our attempts at flirting are awkward. I think we're ok through text but when we're facing each other or on the phone, it gets awkward really quickly. He doesn't understand why he attracts females (mostly the crazy ones). I told him...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    I remember when I asked my current boyfriend

    out, I had a panic attack because I didn't know how to flirt
    NathanYu NathanYu 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 12

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    Flirt Failure My Talent

    So I went to the park with my friend which has a huge pond which you can publicly fish at. We walk on to this wooden old deck where you can sit at and also fish off of. My friend spots this tall hot guy. And hes fishing with hot dogs as bate. Thats when my stupidity kicked in...
    TellmeaLie TellmeaLie 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    I Fear Sounding Like A Geek

     I don't think I do it right. It's okay I don't seem to have a problem getting what I want when I make up my mind i'm going to get it.
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 12 Responses Sep 17, 2010

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    lol i honestly don't know how to flirt.

    .like how do people do it so easily? if i try i probably end up being more of a cheesy *** person
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    I Get An "f" In Flirting

    The subtleties of flirting have always escaped me. I'm very shy and have always admired the objects of my affection from afar. I just don't know how to flirt. I never learned. My best friend is an amazing flirt in a really casual way. She's not overly exaggerated or sexual, she...
    vbunny vbunny 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    I'm not shy or anything.

    I'm just really straightforward. If I like someone I tell them directly.
    Mi5h Mi5h 16-17, F Jul 10

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    Yeah, I Know ... How Embarrassing!

    I'm such a mess. 35 years old and know no other way but to be simple and direct, and it hasn't gotten me anywhere. Just recently I thought someone was interested in me ... never got that big compliment I was looking for, just hints. I struggle with depression and do not take...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 2, 2013

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    I Don't Know How To Flirt

    Ever since I was young, I've had this social ineptitude.  I don't know how to flirt, and I don't know how to read the cues that a male likes me.   When I was in school, boys would pick on me or tease, make little suggestive comments or even steal my pencils. ...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 34 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Literally me. I'm just naturally awkward,

    especially with guys. I get nervous when cute boys talk to me and it makes me look like an idiot ugh forever alone
    msmika msmika 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've mentioned this before

    but I'm still not sure what it means this girl I met for the first time a few months and who I've been getting along well with squeezed my side the first night I met what does that mean I've tried to figure it out but have had no luck
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M Jun 14

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    Never

    I have never been able to flirt. Ijust dont know how. Just being nice is all I got. I cant put on the moves and sweet talk ya. I dont even think I ever have. Hmmmm......
    tomtombear tomtombear 18-21, M 11 Responses Aug 16, 2008

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    Is Tickling Flirting?

    I've read on numerous sites on the web that tickling is considered flirting but I dont know how to flirt. Is tickling flirting or not.....I'm just trying to understand.
    MysticBrunette MysticBrunette 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 24, 2008

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    I may not know how to flirt

    but I definitely know how to be awkward 😁😳😆 lol
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 27

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    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I do this really weird thing,

    where instead of flirting I act like I'm disgusted by them and move away. It's because of my own insecurities but it ends up with guys I like thinking I hate them!
    LocketRainbow LocketRainbow 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I don't know how. But I sometimes I turn on

    people with out meaning to. For example, married people.
    zestymeatballs zestymeatballs 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Sorry about posting this again

    but I need someone to reply and help me with this Met this girl on a work night out a few months ago we got on well halfway through the night she squeezed my side as walked past me What does it mean someone please help
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    I Used To Be..

    i used to be good at this way back when i was in high school, and now it seems like i lost all my skills when it comes too this stage.. i always lack self confidence .. why?! no wonder i'm loveless..damn right...
    chie0429 chie0429 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    I wish I knew how to flirt better.

    I generally just try to be honest and relaxed. In my head, I keep sounding like a goofball. I think I have too much of my past wrapped up in my present. Fat kid trapped inside slightly less fat man's body. 😊
    Nijima Nijima 41-45, M Jan 9

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    That silly "I'll seduce you with my

    awkwardness" phrase totally applies to me. I never realize when I'm being hit on either... Whoops!
    dolceharajuku dolceharajuku 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I Feel Like A Complete Idiot

    I have recently been dreaming of this woman I am training at work. I became so overwhelmed yesterday that I actually told her about it because she asked me why I acting so 'off.' We have worked together for many years and now I can't even look her in the eyes. She said she...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 24 Responses May 29, 2010

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    Flirting Failure

    I have never been good at flirting. I am terrified at the thought of a guy catching me looking at him. I worry he will think I am weird or unattractive so I try to act like I am not interested at all. I guess I do that so I won't feel the sting of rejection. But I know that men...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    I really don't know how to flirt

    when I like someone. I always feel self conscious and that I will look stupid. I refer to my flirting skills as flirtarded! I'm quite frank and can talk about " personal" things once I'm in a relationship and I don't feel I have to hide. But since I'm single and want to find...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Abbiesbackpack Abbiesbackpack 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    masonishere masonishere 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    Im just .. Whenever i try to flirt no words

    came from my mouth instead i stare or just stay in schock almost pale
    lucepixy lucepixy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    Looking back I've realized several girls had

    flirted with me before I've just never noticed at the moment when they were doing. If I was aware of it I really wouldn't know how to react, probably keep talking but remain unresponsive. I should probably learn how to react
    Ifixedtheclock Ifixedtheclock 16-17, M Apr 11

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    I literally can NOT flirt!

    I think it's mostly because of my social awkwardness and anxiety, but I can't even tell when someone's actually flirting with me, messing around, or just making a joke out of it! I really want to learn how to!!
    floralenvy floralenvy 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    I'm not awkward, I'm just weird.

    When someone I like flirts with me, I just freak out and just act like I'm not interested. Then later I give myself an *** whooping for being an idiot. Then later when me and Mr. Hotty meet again, I'm just like, "Are you excited the Parent Teacher Student Conferences?" Like who...
    ILoveYourSmile ILoveYourSmile 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    Not Such A Good Idea For Me

    I don't know why I'm not used to flirting , never flirts to anyone before , doesn't like flirting , and dont know how to flirt. I always thought I'm weird because lots of girls in my school flirts a lot and hang out with boys and everytime I see the way they flirt at each other...
    Sharlita Sharlita 18-21, F Jul 3, 2013

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    I don't want to sound hypocritical,

    alright? It's just that there are times that I don't really have the right amount of brain cells to execute this normal human behavior. Maybe libido is the right term -- whutevs. Seriously, like watching-The-Walking-Dead-reruns-serious. I guess it has something to do with...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 Feb 14

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    I have a friend of nearly 20 years who I believe has Borderline Personality Disorder. She claims she was diagnosed as bipolar, but as time has passed BPD has really seemed like a...
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    I am trying hard to get away from my high school friends and all they do is drink and smoke weed after I cut all of them out it's really boring and lonley I really want to meet new...
    brnino brnino 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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