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I Don't Know How to Flirt

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    I Get An "f" In Flirting

    The subtleties of flirting have always escaped me. I'm very shy and have always admired the objects of my affection from afar. I just don't know how to flirt. I never learned. My best friend is an amazing flirt in a really casual way. She's not overly exaggerated or sexual, she...
    vbunny vbunny 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    I'm terrible at flirting,

    I went to a bar once with my friend and she's a natural at it...she giggles and guys eat that up. Me on the other hand gives one word responses like "uh...thanks.." and "wow its sure warm for being winter"...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 8

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    I'll give you a potato.

    Because it lasts more than flowers. Am i doing this right?
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    Looking back I've realized several girls had

    flirted with me before I've just never noticed at the moment when they were doing. If I was aware of it I really wouldn't know how to react, probably keep talking but remain unresponsive. I should probably learn how to react
    Ifixedtheclock Ifixedtheclock 16-17, M Apr 11

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    With guys I don't know

    if I flirt, I just be myself I guess. With girls it's weird because I just realized I was bi not too long ago and I have this friend who I like and she likes me. She sometimes flirts with me and I just stand there like a silent idiot shy and not knowing what to do or say back.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    I don't know how to flirt.

    .. well, that's an understatement. For that matter I don't even know how to talk to my crush! Anyways, I try to laugh my fails off so I feel less miserable about it.
    dandeelaion dandeelaion 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    Honestly I need I girlfriend.

    I don't know why but the girls at my school always go for the douches while the actual popular people (im a part of) get none of them. Im nice, I care about girls and everyone, I am helpful, funny caring and nice and tall and I have a nice haircut, and people (not girls) say...
    GingaJustice GingaJustice 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    People use pick up lines.

    I just make people uncomfortable by not saying anything. Missed a lot of opportunities.
    soodster soodster 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 1

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    I've never had to flirt.

    ..so I'm kinda clueless
    Tami8161 Tami8161 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    almaera almaera 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Yeah, I Know ... How Embarrassing!

    I'm such a mess. 35 years old and know no other way but to be simple and direct, and it hasn't gotten me anywhere. Just recently I thought someone was interested in me ... never got that big compliment I was looking for, just hints. I struggle with depression and do not take...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 2, 2013

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    masonishere masonishere 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 18

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    I'm so bad at flirting.

    Maybe that's why guys that I like would never know that I like them.
    Asia06 Asia06 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 31

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    I Feel Like A Complete Idiot

    I have recently been dreaming of this woman I am training at work. I became so overwhelmed yesterday that I actually told her about it because she asked me why I acting so 'off.' We have worked together for many years and now I can't even look her in the eyes. She said she...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 22 Responses May 29, 2010

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    When guys hit on me I feel like hiding.

    I usually come across as cold because I don't even try to flirt back, if I tried I would make a huge fool out of myself haha . Oh well, take it or leave it it's a part of my personality I guess.
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 8

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    Flirt Failure My Talent

    So I went to the park with my friend which has a huge pond which you can publicly fish at. We walk on to this wooden old deck where you can sit at and also fish off of. My friend spots this tall hot guy. And hes fishing with hot dogs as bate. Thats when my stupidity kicked in...
    TellmeaLie TellmeaLie 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    Closet I've ever gotten with flirting with

    someone is complementing each other she says to me Man Chris your cute and I reply your really cute yourself Is that good way to start? got no clue Girl I'm flirting with is really cute she is a true Scottish lass and we work together which is a bonus
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 31

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    This guy asked for a body pic

    so I sent him one (refer to pic above). I don't think he likes my true form. :'( He never responded back even though it said he read the message. I mean, it shows my body, doesn't it?!?
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F 4 Responses Oct 31

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    You know, there's having no game,

    and then, there's being me. I've had some girls hit on me in the past, and the end result is either me turning them away because I'm not interested, or my sheer stupidity and inability to flirt with the ones I am interested in, costs me. The most recent example of this happened...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion 22-25, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    AkibaKinji AkibaKinji 18-21, M Oct 31

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    My flirting techniques include giggling

    uncontrollably and saying I like a person's feminine/masculine features...
    sugarbay sugarbay 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I do this really weird thing,

    where instead of flirting I act like I'm disgusted by them and move away. It's because of my own insecurities but it ends up with guys I like thinking I hate them!
    LocketRainbow LocketRainbow 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Literally me. I'm just naturally awkward,

    especially with guys. I get nervous when cute boys talk to me and it makes me look like an idiot ugh forever alone
    msmika msmika 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 25

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    Juliette18 Juliette18 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 2

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    it's so awkward when the person you're talking

    to is really good at it. Like all I could do was smile and nod and walk away
    sairaa sairaa 16-17, F Aug 18

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    I Don't Know How To Flirt

    Ever since I was young, I've had this social ineptitude.  I don't know how to flirt, and I don't know how to read the cues that a male likes me.   When I was in school, boys would pick on me or tease, make little suggestive comments or even steal my pencils. ...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 33 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Our 29 Year Age Difference!

    We meet on AgeMeet.com , I am 21 and my boyfriend is 50. We were friends for a couple years before we got together, we have been together 3 amazing years and he's my best friend and the most wonderful boyfriend! We have a lot in common believe it or not, we want the same things...
    amanda198812 amanda198812 26-30, F Dec 9

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    AtlPunk1D AtlPunk1D 13-15, F Nov 1

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    I'm Awkward

    I never had many friends in grade school because I wasn't pretty enough to be popular, this made it very hard to indicate that I like someone(Flirt), I went through a change my freshman year to where I was the cute little blonde haired nerd girl that guys wanted, they would flirt...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F Dec 30, 2012

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    The Awkward One

    I have really low (justified) self esteem and when someone flirts with me I freak out cause it's such a rarity. I am also kinda socially awkward around guys I like and I tend to form loads of pally relationships where people like me because they thing I'm 'friendly' and 'nice...
    Person123x Person123x 16-17 30 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    I really don't know how to flirt

    and reciprocate to flirt. any one good in that?
    Dangerpus Dangerpus 18-21, F 30 Responses Aug 26

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    I literally need help,

    that's how bad I am
    AtlPunk1D AtlPunk1D 13-15, F 5 Responses Oct 31

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    ARRGGH have no clue if I'm making any progress

    she was helping my department again today and I kept up the flirty talk and behaviour (pretty sure she flirted with me a lot) I made her smile a lot she keeps telling me I'm cute but she also kept calling me buddy I'm afraid I may be close to entering the friendzone (for the...
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 6

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    I'll see a chick, walk up to here

    after my knees stop shaking from nervousness, and then stare at her with a stupid or funny face. She and her friends either laugh, look disgusted, look scared and worried, or smile. That last one has happened twice. The rest... You get the idea
    LeonardFinch LeonardFinch 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    I don't know how to flirt.

    Nor even do I want to Say what you mean, mean what you say is how I like to live.
    dontcareforlabels dontcareforlabels 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 30

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    Everytime someone flirts with me I'm flattered

    and all and I want to flirt back but something in me panics and I stop responding and I don't know I feel like it makes me look really mean I wish I didn't do that :/
    MossPrincess MossPrincess 13-15, F Sep 11

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    I'm literally so bad at flirting.

    .. I make it so awkward :/
    SecretUK SecretUK 16-17, F 10 Responses Dec 1

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    It'S Weird.

    When I think about flirting, I don't even know what to mentally picture. Yeah I kinda know, but exactly? It confuses me a little. And what do you do when you "flirt" anyway? When you say "I will go now, and flirt with that person over there", what do you do? You just, go to...
    Matt200 Matt200 18-21, M 4 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    What does flirting actually

    even mean? I saw that some people perceived it as sexually and others just smiling and laughing.. So I'm confused to what it actually is. Can someone tell me?
    Karinas2 Karinas2 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1

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    How normal people flirt: Hey sexy(; How I

    flirt: U have nice face muscles
    sixpackbookworm sixpackbookworm 13-15, F 9 Responses Nov 30

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    Flirting is very hard.

    I tried showing off my body but nobody seem to look at me. They prefer big butt chicks or huge breast. The max of flirting I do is smiling
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 31

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    When I'm around a good looking guy,

    I just laugh or blush or say something stupid. I'm totally not myself; I'm terrible at flirting and showing them I'm actually intelligent and funny and witty...
    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 22

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    A new survey has revealed

    that one 25% of women prefer to be with men 10+ years older than they are, while one third of men prefer to be with women 10+ years younger than them.The study, conducted by online dating site www.agemeet.com, collected data from 53,233 users with the results being quite...
    Juliecc11 Juliecc11 26-30, F Dec 1

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    I may not know how to flirt

    but I definitely know how to be awkward πŸ˜πŸ˜³πŸ˜† lol
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 27

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    Not Such A Good Idea For Me

    I don't know why I'm not used to flirting , never flirts to anyone before , doesn't like flirting , and dont know how to flirt. I always thought I'm weird because lots of girls in my school flirts a lot and hang out with boys and everytime I see the way they flirt at each other...
    Sharlita Sharlita 18-21, F Jul 3, 2013

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    This is totally me, apparently my kindness

    or wanting to be someone's friend is flirting but I'd still say I can't lol
    daniebravo daniebravo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 2

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