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I Don't Know How to Flirt

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    I Feel Like A Complete Idiot

    I have recently been dreaming of this woman I am training at work. I became so overwhelmed yesterday that I actually told her about it because she asked me why I acting so 'off.' We have worked together for many years and now I can't even look her in the eyes. She said she...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 22 Responses May 29, 2010

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    A new survey has revealed

    that one 25% of women prefer to be with men 10+ years older than they are, while one third of men prefer to be with women 10+ years younger than them.The study, conducted by online dating site www.agemeet.com, collected data from 53,233 users with the results being quite...
    Juliecc11 Juliecc11 26-30, F Dec 1, 2014

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    don't know how and how to react.

    Is someone ever try to flirt with me I wouldn't notice and probably I would change the topic
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    AllTimeLowFH AllTimeLowFH 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2014

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    You know, there's having no game,

    and then, there's being me. I've had some girls hit on me in the past, and the end result is either me turning them away because I'm not interested, or my sheer stupidity and inability to flirt with the ones I am interested in, costs me. The most recent example of this happened...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion 22-25, M Dec 14, 2014

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    I literally need help,

    that's how bad I am
    AllTimeLowFH AllTimeLowFH 13-15, F 5 Responses Oct 31, 2014

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    When guys hit on me I feel like hiding.

    I usually come across as cold because I don't even try to flirt back, if I tried I would make a huge fool out of myself haha . Oh well, take it or leave it it's a part of my personality I guess.
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    This is totally me, apparently my kindness

    or wanting to be someone's friend is flirting but I'd still say I can't lol
    daniebravo daniebravo 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    This guy asked for a body pic

    so I sent him one (refer to pic above). I don't think he likes my true form. :'( He never responded back even though it said he read the message. I mean, it shows my body, doesn't it?!?
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F 2 Responses Oct 31, 2014

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    I'm terrible at flirting,

    I went to a bar once with my friend and she's a natural at it...she giggles and guys eat that up. Me on the other hand gives one word responses like "uh...thanks.." and "wow its sure warm for being winter"...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    is beaty needed when you flirt?

    or charm? or dirty talks? or similar interests,?
    lachrymosejessa lachrymosejessa 16-17, F Apr 3

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    I'm probably the worst flirt this side of the

    Mississippi....wonder if there is a flirt webinar somewhere
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 3

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    Our 29 Year Age Difference!

    We meet on AgeMeet.com , I am 21 and my boyfriend is 50. We were friends for a couple years before we got together, we have been together 3 amazing years and he's my best friend and the most wonderful boyfriend! We have a lot in common believe it or not, we want the same things...
    amanda198812 amanda198812 26-30, F Dec 9, 2014

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    Not Such A Good Idea For Me

    I don't know why I'm not used to flirting , never flirts to anyone before , doesn't like flirting , and dont know how to flirt. I always thought I'm weird because lots of girls in my school flirts a lot and hang out with boys and everytime I see the way they flirt at each other...
    Sharlita Sharlita 18-21, F Jul 3, 2013

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    Lmfao I can't flirt at all.

    I've actually tried before with my male friend and he said I sucked xD I don't know how people flirt, like I get super awkward out of no where.
    drunkpunker drunkpunker 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Literally me. I'm just naturally awkward,

    especially with guys. I get nervous when cute boys talk to me and it makes me look like an idiot ugh forever alone
    possiblyali possiblyali 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    I'm literally so bad at flirting.

    .. I make it so awkward :/
    SecretUK SecretUK 16-17, F 11 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    How normal people flirt: Hey sexy(; How I

    flirt: U have nice face muscles
    sixpackbookworm sixpackbookworm 13-15, F 8 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    almaera almaera 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    People use pick up lines.

    I just make people uncomfortable by not saying anything. Missed a lot of opportunities.
    soodster soodster 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2014

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    I Don't Know How To Flirt

    Ever since I was young, I've had this social ineptitude.  I don't know how to flirt, and I don't know how to read the cues that a male likes me.   When I was in school, boys would pick on me or tease, make little suggestive comments or even steal my pencils. ...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 32 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    I'll give you a potato.

    Because it lasts more than flowers. Am i doing this right?
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    It'S Weird.

    When I think about flirting, I don't even know what to mentally picture. Yeah I kinda know, but exactly? It confuses me a little. And what do you do when you "flirt" anyway? When you say "I will go now, and flirt with that person over there", what do you do? You just, go to...
    Matt200 Matt200 18-21, M 4 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I'm Awkward

    I never had many friends in grade school because I wasn't pretty enough to be popular, this made it very hard to indicate that I like someone(Flirt), I went through a change my freshman year to where I was the cute little blonde haired nerd girl that guys wanted, they would flirt...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F Dec 30, 2012

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    Actueeljdut Actueeljdut 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 20

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    I may not know how to flirt

    but I definitely know how to be awkward 😁😳😆 lol
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    With guys I don't know

    if I flirt, I just be myself I guess. With girls it's weird because I just realized I was bi not too long ago and I have this friend who I like and she likes me. She sometimes flirts with me and I just stand there like a silent idiot shy and not knowing what to do or say back.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2014

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    ZachCrip ZachCrip 16-17, M Jan 26

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    Like how do people do it?

    What do I say without making a fool of myself?
    Madscheers512 Madscheers512 13-15 4 Responses Jan 17

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    What does flirting actually

    even mean? I saw that some people perceived it as sexually and others just smiling and laughing.. So I'm confused to what it actually is. Can someone tell me?
    Karinas2 Karinas2 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    Single and drinking on this beautiful

    Valentines day cause I'm a loser ! ;D who's with me!
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 14

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    The Awkward One

    I have really low (justified) self esteem and when someone flirts with me I freak out cause it's such a rarity. I am also kinda socially awkward around guys I like and I tend to form loads of pally relationships where people like me because they thing I'm 'friendly' and 'nice...
    Person123x Person123x 18-21 29 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    I always come up with witty flirty things to

    say 3 moments too late. v.v On the spot, all I can do is clam up and ignore people.
    skykanin skykanin 13-15, F Jan 18

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    ARRGGH have no clue if I'm making any progress

    she was helping my department again today and I kept up the flirty talk and behaviour (pretty sure she flirted with me a lot) I made her smile a lot she keeps telling me I'm cute but she also kept calling me buddy I'm afraid I may be close to entering the friendzone (for the...
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 6, 2014

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    Yeah, I Know ... How Embarrassing!

    I'm such a mess. 35 years old and know no other way but to be simple and direct, and it hasn't gotten me anywhere. Just recently I thought someone was interested in me ... never got that big compliment I was looking for, just hints. I struggle with depression and do not take...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 2, 2013

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    I Get An "f" In Flirting

    The subtleties of flirting have always escaped me. I'm very shy and have always admired the objects of my affection from afar. I just don't know how to flirt. I never learned. My best friend is an amazing flirt in a really casual way. She's not overly exaggerated or sexual, she...
    vbunny vbunny 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    masonishere masonishere 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 17, 2014

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    How do I flirt with a 27 year-old man to make

    him fall in love with me. I'm pretty sure he already likes me, but I want to take it farther without scaring him off. lol
    crushingonmyteacher crushingonmyteacher 16-17, F 14 Responses Mar 19

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    It's not that I don't know how to,

    I just feel weird doing it with random guys. I only talked flirty with the guy I dated. It just feels wrong for some reason. Like you have to be special for me to be my sweet heart. I guess I'm just weird haha
    masmelo masmelo 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    Correct, and I'm not cute either.

    I'm strange, and will stare at you, and aggressive, and touchy, and will most likely try to touch your face.
    Dreambrother Dreambrother 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    I'm so bad at flirting.

    Maybe that's why guys that I like would never know that I like them.
    Asia06 Asia06 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 31, 2014

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    Like everyone here, I don't know how to flirt,

    so I kind of use an alternative. Lately I'd been reading about random psychology ****, including body language, and it seemed a bit pretentious all the conclusions that could be drawn from it. Anyway, a tactic I really got interested in to build rapport was mirroring. And I mean...
    carmansoul carmansoul 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 15

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    I really don't know how to flirt

    and reciprocate to flirt. any one good in that?
    Dangerpus Dangerpus 18-21, F 26 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I went on this date with a cute girl

    and I wanted to flirt but I was so nervous I forgot how. :( I don't know how to talk to girls.
    MoragaroM MoragaroM 31-35, F Dec 29, 2014

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    I am a horrible flirt I dont think I make

    people feel good when I flirt it ends up being the opposite its weird
    Crystalsgirl08 Crystalsgirl08 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 13