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I Don't Know How to Flirt

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    I can't tell when someone is flirting with me.
    lollerskeeball lollerskeeball 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Aura24 Aura24 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 10

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    My Crush...

    Okay, so I'm going to a new school and I've been going for a couple of weeks now. Im 14 and in 8th Grade, I know alot of people there because my best friend goes there. Anyways there's this guy who goes there. He's like the mean jerk type of guy, he's not mean(or from what I've...
    TheFunnyGirl TheFunnyGirl 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 9, 2012

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    It'S Weird.

    When I think about flirting, I don't even know what to mentally picture. Yeah I kinda know, but exactly? It confuses me a little. And what do you do when you "flirt" anyway? When you say "I will go now, and flirt with that person over there", what do you do? You just, go to...
    Matt200 Matt200 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Flirting Failure

    I have never been good at flirting. I am terrified at the thought of a guy catching me looking at him. I worry he will think I am weird or unattractive so I try to act like I am not interested at all. I guess I do that so I won't feel the sting of rejection. But I know that men...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    I Am Too Awkward!

    I can never flirt with anyone, because I am so awkward that I usually say something weird. It is just so hard for me to get comfortable around guys. I will probably never know why, but unless I've known that guy for a long time, I am the most awkward person ever. Especially when...
    seungwon seungwon 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2012

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    I really don't know how to flirt

    when I like someone. I always feel self conscious and that I will look stupid. I refer to my flirting skills as flirtarded! I'm quite frank and can talk about " personal" things once I'm in a relationship and I don't feel I have to hide. But since I'm single and want to find...
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I don't know how. But I sometimes I turn on

    people with out meaning to. For example, married people.
    zestymeatballs zestymeatballs 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    The Awkward One

    I have really low (justified) self esteem and when someone flirts with me I freak out cause it's such a rarity. I am also kinda socially awkward around guys I like and I tend to form loads of pally relationships where people like me because they thing I'm 'friendly' and 'nice...
    Person123x Person123x 16-17 29 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    What Is Flirt

    Some people don't know how to flirt.. I have no idea what is flirt...Literally,the word is not so nice.But,would that be a friendly sign? what about the wink thing? When I was about eight.Some people just wink at me...I felt shy, because i don't know what do they mean...I...
    Zinniqe Zinniqe 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 2, 2008

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    Flirting

    I think that may be the reason I've never had a girlfriend. I don't think I'm that ugly...and I've even seen ugly guys with girlfriends. I just don't have any "charm." I get a bit nervous when I talk to attractive girls. I have some female friends, but I treat them just the...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 10 Responses Nov 5, 2007

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    Know Nothing

    I know abslutely nothing about flirting. I don't know how to flirt, when guys are flirting with me, or anything else that has to do with flirting. For me its a total shot in the dark.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 9, 2012

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    ???????!!!??? Wtf???!!!???

    It's all confusing to me.   I had a ruff childhood, plus I was a fat-*** ugly kid in grade school, lost weight & got semi-cute in high school, had plenty of dates but... I don't know... just never felt cute or like I was capable of even flirting, though my husband...
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2009

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    No Idea How To Flirt

    I thought I was the only one who had not got a clue how to flirt. But apparently not. So if anyone can give me a few thoughts and pointers I would be pleased. I mean my certain man seems to like the way I deal with him so I must be doing something right.
    shall13 shall13 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 30, 2012

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    Ha Ha Very Funny

    My friends think its hilarious when i try to flirt. I dont know how to flirt but they insist on trying to make me flirt with random guys. I mean i still try to flirt but its just for laughs. I know i can't flirt, my friends know i can't flirt, my sisters know i can't flirt...
    jadedsapphire jadedsapphire 18-21, F Jun 17, 2012

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    I don't want to sound hypocritical,

    alright? It's just that there are times that I don't really have the right amount of brain cells to execute this normal human behavior. Maybe libido is the right term -- whutevs. Seriously, like watching-The-Walking-Dead-reruns-serious. I guess it has something to do with...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 Feb 14

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    Yeah, I Know ... How Embarrassing!

    I'm such a mess. 35 years old and know no other way but to be simple and direct, and it hasn't gotten me anywhere. Just recently I thought someone was interested in me ... never got that big compliment I was looking for, just hints. I struggle with depression and do not take...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    I do this really weird thing,

    where instead of flirting I act like I'm disgusted by them and move away. It's because of my own insecurities but it ends up with guys I like thinking I hate them!
    LocketRainbow LocketRainbow 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    Is Tickling Flirting?

    I've read on numerous sites on the web that tickling is considered flirting but I dont know how to flirt. Is tickling flirting or not.....I'm just trying to understand.
    MysticBrunette MysticBrunette 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 24, 2008

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    Slowly Learning

    My boyfriend is too humble and I'm too new so our attempts at flirting are awkward. I think we're ok through text but when we're facing each other or on the phone, it gets awkward really quickly. He doesn't understand why he attracts females (mostly the crazy ones). I told him...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    I Feel Like A Complete Idiot

    I have recently been dreaming of this woman I am training at work. I became so overwhelmed yesterday that I actually told her about it because she asked me why I acting so 'off.' We have worked together for many years and now I can't even look her in the eyes. She said she...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 24 Responses May 29, 2010

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    Looking back I've realized several girls had

    flirted with me before I've just never noticed at the moment when they were doing. If I was aware of it I really wouldn't know how to react, probably keep talking but remain unresponsive. I should probably learn how to react
    Ifixedtheclock Ifixedtheclock 16-17, M a week ago

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    Flirt Failure My Talent

    So I went to the park with my friend which has a huge pond which you can publicly fish at. We walk on to this wooden old deck where you can sit at and also fish off of. My friend spots this tall hot guy. And hes fishing with hot dogs as bate. Thats when my stupidity kicked in...
    TellmeaLie TellmeaLie 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    Im just .. Whenever i try to flirt no words

    came from my mouth instead i stare or just stay in schock almost pale
    lucepixy lucepixy 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    I wish I knew how to flirt better.

    I generally just try to be honest and relaxed. In my head, I keep sounding like a goofball. I think I have too much of my past wrapped up in my present. Fat kid trapped inside slightly less fat man's body. 😊
    Nijima Nijima 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 9

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    Its Ruining My Life ]=

    so the girl i'm dating right now i met at wal mart. i was with my homophobic friends while she was ringing us up, so i couldn't say anything, but she was like, the most beautiful thing i'd ever seen. afterwards i told my friends i was tired and going home, so they dropped me off...
    ou ou 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2007

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    Love?? ;(

    Okay, so I posted a story about my “crush” a while ago. Well no luck.. Anyways this isn't about him. I'm 14 (almost 15) and in 8th grade. I've Never had a boyfriend, or anything close to one. Right now it's almost valentine day, and I see all the lovey dovey stuff everywhere...
    TheFunnyGirl TheFunnyGirl 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 3, 2013

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    I Used To Be..

    i used to be good at this way back when i was in high school, and now it seems like i lost all my skills when it comes too this stage.. i always lack self confidence .. why?! no wonder i'm loveless..damn right...
    chie0429 chie0429 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    Shocker

    Wow.. I never really even thought about it untill I saw this group. I can't flirt! Jeez, this is a bit of a shock. My general idea of flirting is probably a lame pick up line followed by some meaningless chit chat until they make a move on me. How do I reverse that?
    magickalveneer magickalveneer 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    I Get An "f" In Flirting

    The subtleties of flirting have always escaped me. I'm very shy and have always admired the objects of my affection from afar. I just don't know how to flirt. I never learned. My best friend is an amazing flirt in a really casual way. She's not overly exaggerated or sexual, she...
    vbunny vbunny 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    Not Such A Good Idea For Me

    I don't know why I'm not used to flirting , never flirts to anyone before , doesn't like flirting , and dont know how to flirt. I always thought I'm weird because lots of girls in my school flirts a lot and hang out with boys and everytime I see the way they flirt at each other...
    Sharlita Sharlita 18-21, F Jul 3, 2013

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    Hey girl, I like your boobies.

    *stare* Hey boy. What's up? You're cool. Okay. *stare*
    Naxxaras Naxxaras 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    Never

    I have never been able to flirt. Ijust dont know how. Just being nice is all I got. I cant put on the moves and sweet talk ya. I dont even think I ever have. Hmmmm......
    tomtombear tomtombear 18-21, M 11 Responses Aug 16, 2008

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    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm Awkward

    I never had many friends in grade school because I wasn't pretty enough to be popular, this made it very hard to indicate that I like someone(Flirt), I went through a change my freshman year to where I was the cute little blonde haired nerd girl that guys wanted, they would flirt...
    Angelofloveandlife Angelofloveandlife 18-21, F Dec 30, 2012

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    Don'T Know How To

    Flirting isn't natural for me. Wouldn't know if some one was flirting with me. Im that clueless when it comes to flirting. Don't know why people expect most individuals to know how to do so.
    celebarwen celebarwen 22-25 3 Responses Jun 10, 2013

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    What to Look For

    i dont know how to flirt. i have read online some tips to flirt but i really dont know how. in one of my classes last semester there was a guy that was cute who flirted with me. not wanting to sound too forward i played it down a little. i think at that point i lost my chance...
    MysticBrunette MysticBrunette 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

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    lol i honestly don't know how to flirt.

    .like how do people do it so easily? if i try i probably end up being more of a cheesy *** person
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    What Can i say... This habit of mine to run away

    and hide when i get flirted with is one of if not the Worst thing about me. I cant handle it because i become so nervous that my heart skip a beat. Once i was watching this movie with a girl and she layed her head on my shoulder. It was one of those "kiss her you bastard...
    vickepicke vickepicke 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    Bad

    I'm so bad at it. I alway been in between girly and tomboy. For some reason I alway become the guy homie. I don't want to be your homie I want to your gf.
    Musicpassion19 Musicpassion19 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Tell Me About It

    I'm like the girl in the logo picture, just sitting practically oblivious to what is happening around her. I don't know how to flirt and therefore don't know what it is ... even when it's being done to me. I need to be told it's happening. I don't know if that makes me naive...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F Oct 27, 2008

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    I Don't Know How To Flirt

    Ever since I was young, I've had this social ineptitude.  I don't know how to flirt, and I don't know how to read the cues that a male likes me.   When I was in school, boys would pick on me or tease, make little suggestive comments or even steal my pencils. ...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 36 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Abbiesbackpack Abbiesbackpack 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I Fear Sounding Like A Geek

     I don't think I do it right. It's okay I don't seem to have a problem getting what I want when I make up my mind i'm going to get it.
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 12 Responses Sep 17, 2010

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    Girls Just Don't Get It

    What I don't fully understand is now girls will go for the guys with no education, no potential, no money, no house of their own and somehow they can't take a hint that the more successful people and more brainy are the guys to go for. Personally I don't understand, so people I...
    JohnWolfy JohnWolfy 16-17, M Jul 23, 2012

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