I Don't Know How to Flirt

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    idk what to say here.

    I just... I can't, guys. I just cant. let's just.. leave it at that
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 22, 2015
    masonishere masonishere
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jul 17, 2014

    Maybe it's the fact that not a lot of guys talk

    to me but I'm terrible at it. I've asked for people's help but they just tell me it should come naturally. If I try to flirt I bet I would look very stupid hehehe.
    alleycat888 alleycat888
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Jun 20, 2015

    I had this convo yesterday in my car

    and I didnt realize what was happening. The guy: How come I never see you? Me: its probably because I'm the invisible one in my family. A lot of people dont. The guy: *looks me in the eye* I do (myname). I see you. *smiles* after a while of talking he says: it so easy to talk...
    TheNewBatman TheNewBatman
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 22, 2015
    ratnakar1104 ratnakar1104
    26-30, M
    Feb 10

    Can I just flirt with my body lmao I can barely

    say a good pick up line without stuttering or hesitating. I'd rather act sensual with someone than speak about it.
    carazami carazami
    16-17
    1 Response Oct 22, 2015
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 19, 2015

    It's like a foreign language to me,

    I don't know how to do it and I can never really tell when it's happening to me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 16

    Single and drinking on this beautiful

    Valentines day cause I'm a loser ! ;D who's with me!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 14, 2015
    mother1983 mother1983
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Feb 21

    I've been told I'm not a flirt.

    I hadn't cared for it growing up but now as an adult in a social world I find myself wishing I knew how to respond to flirting I receive from men. I draw blanks when men talk sweet to me.
    aLadywithoutaclue aLadywithoutaclue
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 25
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 8

    Oh my god, I say the absolute dumbest things

    whenever someone tries to flirt with me.
    Ominousity Ominousity
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Dec 6, 2015

    I can't flirt to save my life,

    I'm just too awkward or sometimes I just don't realize when a guy is flirting with me. Earlier this week a fairly good looking guy approached me, we started talking and I guess I got nervous so out of nowhere I blurted out " Yeah apples are niceee." Lmao we weren't even talking...
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05
    18-21, F
    20 Responses Nov 19, 2015
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2014

    "Hey... we can't keep EATing like this.

    .." "A lot of other gas smells..." "...was I talking about gas??" I was laughing hysterically, but yes - this is probably what happens whenever I try~
    JustLevlin JustLevlin
    31-35, M
    Nov 20, 2015

    I Don't Know How To Flirt

    Ever since I was young, I've had this social ineptitude.  I don't know how to flirt, and I don't know how to read the cues that a male likes me.   When I was in school, boys would pick on me or tease, make little suggestive comments or even steal my pencils. ...
    Vessa Vessa
    41-45, F
    30 Responses Nov 13, 2009

    So today in college I met this really cute guy!

    But I have social anxiety so I was a little nervous about it, so what was my ingenious plan to grab his attention? To write a little note saying "do you like me?" With a tick box for yes and one for no, sweet right?... So he ticked yes and we started chatting, it seemed to be...
    BlondeBatgirl BlondeBatgirl
    16-17, F
    1 Response Sep 22, 2015

    You are so damned fine.

    .. How's that?
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 8

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    bethccaa bethccaa
    26-30, F
    Feb 21

    I don't know. I mean I try to flirt,

    or in the name of flirting I just do something and it has always always always back fired! :P Any takers to teach some moves?? I'd gladly learn!
    Abi936 Abi936
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Nov 20, 2015

    When guys hit on me I feel like hiding.

    I usually come across as cold because I don't even try to flirt back, if I tried I would make a huge fool out of myself haha . Oh well, take it or leave it it's a part of my personality I guess.
    Rosaalie Rosaalie
    22-25, F
    Dec 8, 2014

    Literally me. I'm just naturally awkward,

    especially with guys. I get nervous when cute boys talk to me and it makes me look like an idiot ugh forever alone
    possiblyali possiblyali
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jul 25, 2014

    I am so terrible at flirting.

    If I can get up enough courage to talk to them in the first place, they just think I am being friendly like I am to everyone. And I just get so nervous to imply that I am attracted to them because I am worried that I will get an "ew" that I wimp out. Mind you, this is only if I...
    AutumnTea AutumnTea
    18-21, F
    Sep 23, 2015

    Do you remember that time we tried to go see a

    movie late one night but they had already locked the doors on us? We went to the pub down the street instead, where we chatted over a drink. You had a rum and coke, I had a beer. I must confess, I don't remember what we were even talking about that night. I remember looking...
    arailia03 arailia03
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    Um so nice weather we're having.

    Nice face. I like your shoes. Your butt looks good in those pants. Am I doing it right?
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 17

    I suck at this. Today I went shopping

    and at Pacsun this guy who was working there comes over to greet me. He talks to me about knowing me from Highschool. I kept looking at him, but I vaguely remembered him. He was really nice and good looking. He helped me around the store and sometimes would ask me if I was doing...
    steph986 steph986
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 14
    CoraIsAwesome CoraIsAwesome
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    I'm terrible at flirting,

    I went to a bar once with my friend and she's a natural at it...she giggles and guys eat that up. Me on the other hand gives one word responses like "uh...thanks.." and "wow its sure warm for being winter"...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Dec 8, 2014

    The Awkward One

    I have really low (justified) self esteem and when someone flirts with me I freak out cause it's such a rarity. I am also kinda socially awkward around guys I like and I tend to form loads of pally relationships where people like me because they thing I'm 'friendly' and 'nice...
    Person123x Person123x
    18-21
    29 Responses Jun 11, 2013

    I'm probably the worst flirt this side of the

    Mississippi....wonder if there is a flirt webinar somewhere
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses Apr 3, 2015

    I'm Awkward

    I never had many friends in grade school because I wasn't pretty enough to be popular, this made it very hard to indicate that I like someone(Flirt), I went through a change my freshman year to where I was the cute little blonde haired nerd girl that guys wanted, they would flirt...
    IvannaQuinn IvannaQuinn
    22-25
    Dec 30, 2012

    How normal people flirt: Hey sexy(; How I

    flirt: U have nice face muscles
    sixpackbookworm sixpackbookworm
    16-17, F
    8 Responses Nov 30, 2014

    I couldn't flirt if my life depended on it.

    .. I might flirt and I have no idea I am tho....
    kiwigirl2021 kiwigirl2021
    13-15, F
    5 Responses Nov 1, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    emilyccaa emilyccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 8, 2015

    I don't know how to flirts

    and also have no clue if someone is tryna flirt with me. I really feel sorry for whoever tries to flirt bc I am bad at it please just tell me u are flirting with me that way we all good😆
    naomithequeen naomithequeen
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 27
    bokading bokading
    31-35, F
    Jan 15

    I'm literally so bad at flirting.

    .. I make it so awkward :/
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Dec 1, 2014

    I went online to see

    if I could learn how to, but still come up short. I hope to find someone someday.
    asert12345678 asert12345678
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 21

    I may not know how to flirt

    but I definitely know how to be awkward 😁😳😆 lol
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 27, 2014

    Ok I just lied. What sucks is

    when you inadvertently flirt on someone. And jeez women stop it! I know I'm sort of pretty but come on! I'm talking to you! NO! don't hide my keys in your back pocket! I don't....seriously annoying
    Pride49 Pride49
    22-25, M
    Mar 22

    She's too innocent to know

    that telling me to come over and chill at 2 in the morning is booty call language...
    rodneyking719 rodneyking719
    22-25, M
    1 Response Sep 29, 2015

    A guy once said "Hey There,

    pretty girl." I looked around. True story.
    RebekahWriter13 RebekahWriter13
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 21

    Like everyone here, I don't know how to flirt,

    so I kind of use an alternative. Lately I'd been reading about random psychology ****, including body language, and it seemed a bit pretentious all the conclusions that could be drawn from it. Anyway, a tactic I really got interested in to build rapport was mirroring. And I mean...
    carmansoul carmansoul
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 15, 2015
    RachelDare RachelDare
    16-17
    5 Responses Sep 1, 2015

    biting and poking their nose is how i show

    someone i'm interested.. (not without consent, if course) i'm really, really not good at words. it's a ******* curse.
    cinnamontoastfox cinnamontoastfox
    16-17, T
    1 Response Oct 22, 2015

    You have a nice butt.

    I bet you take nice dumps
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 21

    I really don't know how to flirt

    and reciprocate to flirt. any one good in that?
    Dangerpus Dangerpus
    18-21, F
    23 Responses Aug 26, 2014

    I had to pretend to flirt with a guy

    for a project when I was in high school. We filmed the whole thing. We didn't have any guys in our group so we recruited a random guy from our school. My "flirting" consisted of me touching his arm and asking him if he worked out. I cringe just thinking about it.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 1, 2015

    I'll give you a potato.

    Because it lasts more than flowers. Am i doing this right?
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 6, 2014

    I am a horrible flirt I dont think I make

    people feel good when I flirt it ends up being the opposite its weird
    bloodyscreams bloodyscreams
    13-15, F
    Feb 13, 2015

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