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I Don't Know How to Love

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    After talking to my mother today.

    I realized I don't know how to love, even her. This is probably because she didn't really know either (she was in foster care, never really had anyone)..... I realize how all my life I've never really known how to show people I love them. Seems like I have alot of reevaluating...
    noelleandethan noelleandethan 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    Getting Lonely...

    I am 22 years old (soon to be 23), and ashamed to say that I've never had a boyfriend. I've never even been kissed! Well, not properly at least... I’m not sure if 14-year-old drunk, sloppy smooches count. I’ve never been even CLOSE to being in love. And now I feel like it...
    beautyseeker beautyseeker 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    Love Is Waste Of Time

    according to me love is jus a waste of time because when ever i love'd someone from the bottom of my heart they left me alone and went so far that they never return'd back when ever i thought that i was in love someone would my love away from me they snatched away my love all the...
    guuyy guuyy 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Love...it's Such A Complication When You Don't Know If You Can...

    Ok, here’s my story…though I’m giving a shortened version. First marriage ended in divorce after seven or so years w/ no children. Can’t offer a huge explanation except to say we did not communicate as I would have liked. But, I was already feeling inside that there was...
    bikerbiker bikerbiker 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 14, 2012

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    I've Come to Realize...

    ...that I think I'm just scared.  In fact, I might even go as far as to say that I have an endless capacity for love; yet that is something I do not show, something that I don't allow myself to feel.  I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that if I'm going to...
    solarxmoon solarxmoon 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2007

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    Inability To Love, Being Lonely And Screwing Up An Exchange

    This is my first story, so I don't know if I'm doing it right or not. Bare with me anyway, please? I'm 21 years old. I'm in better shape than I've ever been because I've been doing sports. I'm good at meeting people, but absolutely incapable of taking things forward from there. I...
    hutre hutre 22-25 2 Responses Dec 3, 2010

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    Love, Life's Most Confusing Emotion?

    This is real, real, simple. When You Love Someone Your Actions (words, thoughts, etc.) Must Show Your Love ! When You Hate Someone Your Actions (if you feel the need to express them) Will Typically Show Your Hate! When You Love Someone You Should Never Hurt Them And Then Say You...
    tmajor tmajor 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 26, 2010

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    The Only Thing I Ask

    The idea that nature wants my personal happiness to depend on someone I have no control on whatsoever annoys the hell out of me. Come on, it is completely against survival instinct. From the very first moment we come on earth we get diligently trained to avoid anything that can...
    Diomea Diomea 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2013

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    Desperately Confused

    Every boy that talks to me is just another casualty. They don't know that, but I do. The first couple of dates are exciting. I take extra time in deciding my outfit and trying to look my best. I tell my close friends about the date, the boy, where we went, what we did, the...
    chopeg chopeg 22-25 2 Responses Mar 30, 2013

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    I Don't Know If It's Me, Or Him

    I've been dating my boyfriend for the past two years. I recently broke up because I've been having emotional issues, but I don't know why. I know I love him. But I can't stand for him to touch me, I hate when he tells me he loves me or shows me affection, and I can't do any of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    Never Loved

    I am that guy.... I am the class clown, loved my all, joke with many, have friends (shallow friends) of both sexes, been married to the same person for almost 35 years, never cheated, yet... with all of that never truly loved. I have 5 kids, and yes I love them all, would give...
    sunmural sunmural 56-60, M 2 Responses May 31, 2012

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    I Don'T Know If I Really Don'T Know How To Love, Or What Is Love Or If I'M Just Scared To Love.

    This is on my mind all the time.... How do I know when I am actually in love.. How do I know that the one I come across can be the one. I think I start out on the wrong foot by saying I don't believe in love. But I don't think I mean that I believe that love exist but all I tend...
    Nksingh Nksingh 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 20, 2013

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    I Don't Know How To Love

    I have never received love from parents, other relatives, friends, etc. My life experiences made me very numb and callous. I do not know things like mercy, etc. If I feel crossed I literally forget he's my boyfriend and deserves a higher level of understanding in the given...
    LaBellaNoire LaBellaNoire 26-30 3 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    Love Does Not Know Me

    A person cannot master something they were never showed to do. I don't know love because love never knew me. I want to love because I have a daughter but it is just not inside me. I don't think I love myself. Never in my life had I loved anything, I owe it to my baby.
    quitda quitda 22-25 2 Responses Sep 7, 2011

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    I fell in love so many times just to find

    myself broken-hearted in the end, to the point that I don't know how to love someone anymore! I've had guys who love me dearly but I just don't feel the same way towards them! I'm numbed and I just don't know how to love anymore.
    april0132 april0132 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    Compassion Is Not Love...

    I recall a conversation between my co-workers and I about some dumb jokes, and how guys show their love for their friends via mockery. The harsher it is, the more love they have for the individual. I was then asked how will I show my love for all my friends and I could not...
    PinkLoopey PinkLoopey 41-45 1 Response Jan 5, 2012

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    Committed.

    I am in a relationship which has lasted almost three years now. It is my first "serious" relationship. I dated one other boy in high school, but it didn't last very long at all (almost seven months). I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I honestly do. I also know...
    ginariffic ginariffic 18-21 Sep 3, 2012

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    Not Sure About Love

    The last year, year and a half I had a very rough time in my life. I found out that I am bi-polar and went through a very uneasy episode dealing with my spiritual mindset shall I say. Now I'm not sure what love is anymore. Is it an emotion you feel or just an idea. It's...
    perniec82 perniec82 26-30 Jun 4, 2012

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    I Know It'S In There Somewhere..

    I mean, I love my kid unconditionally and have never felt my heart swell so much when I look at his face... but when i'm in a relationship, it feels like I just don't care. I really do, but I just don't know how to show it. When I was younger my family were not people who gave...
    cottoncandy88 cottoncandy88 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    What's It Mean "I Don't Know How To Love"

    The man I love cares for me and tells me I'm important to him. His actions show only love, he's gentle and kind, he's always touching me in loving ways, rubbing my back, holding my hand, stoking my hair... He kisses me and looks at me like there's nothing else in the world he...
    samiam11 samiam11 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 13, 2012

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    It's My Fault - I Admit It

    I think you know what it is to feel rushed with passion. You know that you have that need inside you: To love and to be loved back. But what if I tell you that you don't know how to enter inside someone's heart? What if I tell you that you lack the touch. Not because you lack...
    pearlfeather pearlfeather 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    Do Not Know How To Love They Way Other Picture It Today

    o know the old love that starts with respect and love for the other and a commit to each other
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Feb 13, 2012

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    I Can't Connect With People On An Emotional Level

    I am 42 years old, and I have never been truly in love. I am in a relationship, mainly because he loves me, but I do not love him. When I am honest with him, he thinks I am joking. The truth is, I have had so much pain in my life, beginning from early childhood when my...
    alynn123 alynn123 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    How To Love?

    I don't know how to love. A statement so simple yet oddly misunderstood when attempting to gain an empathetic connection. I guess I should make it a little more discreet: I don't know how to love someone romantically. That statement is waaay more accurate. I can love my family...
    KibblesNBits KibblesNBits 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2010

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    I Don'T Know How To Love

    I am 16 and I have never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend and I have no desire to have one. I've lost many emotions when i was kid due to many dramatic events but one of them is love and I just don't see the point in it. I don't see anyone as that special someone and I don't...
    GlorifiedSanctums GlorifiedSanctums 16-17, M May 27, 2013

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    I don't know how to love

    or should I say I'm scared? I guess the reason is I never recieved love. My mother and father left each other and I chose to live with my father because I looked up to him but now... Recently he left me to spend time with his new girlfriend. I found that out recently. He's not...
    XxDarkAngelxX1 XxDarkAngelxX1 13-15, F Jan 3

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    I really never loved

    or know how to. I never fell in love .
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 18-21, F Mar 23

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