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I Don't Know How to Love

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    I Don't Know How To Love.

    I'm 20. I have a boyfriend. I know it's not really serious relationships. I do hope he will LOVE me one day. But I dont really care and am not even sad when i know he has an affair. I'm talking to many guys also. Just talking tho. Dont blame me, i do want to know how to love. and...
    Jan 19, 2013

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    How To Love?

    I don't know how to love. A statement so simple yet oddly misunderstood when attempting to gain an empathetic connection. I guess I should make it a little more discreet: I don't know how to love someone romantically. That statement is waaay more accurate. I can love my family...
    KibblesNBits KibblesNBits 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2010

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    I don't know how to love

    or should I say I'm scared? I guess the reason is I never recieved love. My mother and father left each other and I chose to live with my father because I looked up to him but now... Recently he left me to spend time with his new girlfriend. I found that out recently. He's not...
    XxDarkAngelxX1 XxDarkAngelxX1 13-15, F Jan 3

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    Love...it's Such A Complication When You Don't Know If You Can...

    Ok, here’s my story…though I’m giving a shortened version. First marriage ended in divorce after seven or so years w/ no children. Can’t offer a huge explanation except to say we did not communicate as I would have liked. But, I was already feeling inside that there was...
    bikerbiker bikerbiker 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 14, 2012

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    It's My Fault - I Admit It

    I think you know what it is to feel rushed with passion. You know that you have that need inside you: To love and to be loved back. But what if I tell you that you don't know how to enter inside someone's heart? What if I tell you that you lack the touch. Not because you lack...
    pearlfeather pearlfeather 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    I really never loved

    or know how to. I never fell in love .
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F Mar 23

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    I Don't Know How To Love

    I have never received love from parents, other relatives, friends, etc. My life experiences made me very numb and callous. I do not know things like mercy, etc. If I feel crossed I literally forget he's my boyfriend and deserves a higher level of understanding in the given...
    LaBellaNoire LaBellaNoire 26-30 3 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    I've Come to Realize...

    ...that I think I'm just scared.  In fact, I might even go as far as to say that I have an endless capacity for love; yet that is something I do not show, something that I don't allow myself to feel.  I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that if I'm going to...
    solarxmoon solarxmoon 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2007

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    Desperately Confused

    Every boy that talks to me is just another casualty. They don't know that, but I do. The first couple of dates are exciting. I take extra time in deciding my outfit and trying to look my best. I tell my close friends about the date, the boy, where we went, what we did, the...
    chopeg chopeg 22-25 2 Responses Mar 30, 2013

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    Love Is Waste Of Time

    according to me love is jus a waste of time because when ever i love'd someone from the bottom of my heart they left me alone and went so far that they never return'd back when ever i thought that i was in love someone would my love away from me they snatched away my love all the...
    guuyy guuyy 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Love, Life's Most Confusing Emotion?

    This is real, real, simple. When You Love Someone Your Actions (words, thoughts, etc.) Must Show Your Love ! When You Hate Someone Your Actions (if you feel the need to express them) Will Typically Show Your Hate! When You Love Someone You Should Never Hurt Them And Then Say You...
    tmajor tmajor 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 26, 2010

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    I Don'T Know How To Love

    I am 16 and I have never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend and I have no desire to have one. I've lost many emotions when i was kid due to many dramatic events but one of them is love and I just don't see the point in it. I don't see anyone as that special someone and I don't...
    GlorifiedSanctums GlorifiedSanctums 16-17, M May 27, 2013

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    Not Sure About Love

    The last year, year and a half I had a very rough time in my life. I found out that I am bi-polar and went through a very uneasy episode dealing with my spiritual mindset shall I say. Now I'm not sure what love is anymore. Is it an emotion you feel or just an idea. It's...
    perniec82 perniec82 26-30 Jun 4, 2012

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    What's It Mean "I Don't Know How To Love"

    The man I love cares for me and tells me I'm important to him. His actions show only love, he's gentle and kind, he's always touching me in loving ways, rubbing my back, holding my hand, stoking my hair... He kisses me and looks at me like there's nothing else in the world he...
    samiam11 samiam11 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 13, 2012

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    I Know It'S In There Somewhere..

    I mean, I love my kid unconditionally and have never felt my heart swell so much when I look at his face... but when i'm in a relationship, it feels like I just don't care. I really do, but I just don't know how to show it. When I was younger my family were not people who gave...
    cottoncandy88 cottoncandy88 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    Love Does Not Know Me

    A person cannot master something they were never showed to do. I don't know love because love never knew me. I want to love because I have a daughter but it is just not inside me. I don't think I love myself. Never in my life had I loved anything, I owe it to my baby.
    quitda quitda 22-25 2 Responses Sep 7, 2011

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    Getting Lonely...

    I am 22 years old (soon to be 23), and ashamed to say that I've never had a boyfriend. I've never even been kissed! Well, not properly at least... I’m not sure if 14-year-old drunk, sloppy smooches count. I’ve never been even CLOSE to being in love. And now I feel like it...
    beautyseeker beautyseeker 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    Never Loved

    I am that guy.... I am the class clown, loved my all, joke with many, have friends (shallow friends) of both sexes, been married to the same person for almost 35 years, never cheated, yet... with all of that never truly loved. I have 5 kids, and yes I love them all, would give...
    sunmural sunmural 56-60, M 2 Responses May 31, 2012

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    I Don'T Know If I Really Don'T Know How To Love, Or What Is Love Or If I'M Just Scared To Love.

    This is on my mind all the time.... How do I know when I am actually in love.. How do I know that the one I come across can be the one. I think I start out on the wrong foot by saying I don't believe in love. But I don't think I mean that I believe that love exist but all I tend...
    Nksingh Nksingh 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 20, 2013

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    Inability To Love, Being Lonely And Screwing Up An Exchange

    This is my first story, so I don't know if I'm doing it right or not. Bare with me anyway, please? I'm 21 years old. I'm in better shape than I've ever been because I've been doing sports. I'm good at meeting people, but absolutely incapable of taking things forward from there. I...
    hutre hutre 22-25 2 Responses Dec 3, 2010

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    I Don't Know If It's Me, Or Him

    I've been dating my boyfriend for the past two years. I recently broke up because I've been having emotional issues, but I don't know why. I know I love him. But I can't stand for him to touch me, I hate when he tells me he loves me or shows me affection, and I can't do any of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    No Love (not A Lil' Wayne Song)

    I'm only 15 so I know I have time to fix whatever's wrong, but I don't seem to care about people. I feel, in a since, detached from the rest of the world like I'm watching it through glass or something. I'm attracted to girls so I know I'm not gay but I never seem to be able to...
    2 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Committed.

    I am in a relationship which has lasted almost three years now. It is my first "serious" relationship. I dated one other boy in high school, but it didn't last very long at all (almost seven months). I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I honestly do. I also know...
    ginariffic ginariffic 18-21 Sep 3, 2012

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    Compassion Is Not Love...

    I recall a conversation between my co-workers and I about some dumb jokes, and how guys show their love for their friends via mockery. The harsher it is, the more love they have for the individual. I was then asked how will I show my love for all my friends and I could not...
    PinkLoopey PinkLoopey 41-45 1 Response Jan 5, 2012

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    The Only Thing I Ask

    The idea that nature wants my personal happiness to depend on someone I have no control on whatsoever annoys the hell out of me. Come on, it is completely against survival instinct. From the very first moment we come on earth we get diligently trained to avoid anything that can...
    Diomea Diomea 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2013

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    I Can't Connect With People On An Emotional Level

    I am 42 years old, and I have never been truly in love. I am in a relationship, mainly because he loves me, but I do not love him. When I am honest with him, he thinks I am joking. The truth is, I have had so much pain in my life, beginning from early childhood when my...
    alynn123 alynn123 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    How To Start Feeling Ok To Let Go

    I was raised in a loving home with my mother and little sister. The only man in the house was my dog. Now that I am starting my own life I am seeing that I am out of my element around men and love. It is foreign to me how to act out my feelings around men. Flirting is fun and...
    Jan 21, 2013

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    I don't know why anyone would come to me for advice, I'm so screwed up, I'm the one who needs help...
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    My boyfriend and I ha e been together for 2 yeara now and ever aonce weve been together iI realize how much we changed.. I realized especialy how much he changed. He acts really...
    l0velygirrl l0velygirrl 18-21, F Mar 22

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    I'm a 35 year old African lady, married with four lovely kids, even though people see me and think I'm 22, never married let alone 4 kids . I will be married for 13 years in April...
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    So, I'm in the friend zone. . Trying to claw my way out of quick sand. Wishing for a branch to cling to, I wonder how to endure preferably avoid being heartbroken. Escaping the...
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    I feel like there is some mental blockage in my mind, from all the trauma I have experienced in my life. I don't want to see a therapist I don't have the money for that and I just...
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    Oh god... what have i got myself into... Stupid me. I've met this guy, he's my friends friend.. And it's just so awkward... we started off as just two people who knew the same...
    emmatebby emmatebby 18-21, F Mar 20

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    I feel emotionally detached yet all I do is laugh or cry or smile. I feel as if I'm on the edge of something that could be life changing, and that everyone I used to love and care...
    beyondthebreakingpoint beyondthebreakingpoint 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I think I'm a weak person.Why am I so afraid? Why do I fear? How can I solve this? Idk Nothing seems to work. Seems like I'm gonna die a coward. Whatever.
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    I think I'm a weak person.Why am I so afraid? Why do I fear? How can I solve this? Idk Nothing seems to work. Seems like I'm gonna die a coward. Whatever.
    JaMaiKan JaMaiKan 18-21, M Apr 4

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    like, how people even can do that
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I want to let go of the past that built me today , the sad memories that have scared me. The times that I wish I wasn't alive. I want to let go
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    What Can i say... This habit of mine to run away and hide when i get flirted with is one of if not the Worst thing about me. I cant handle it because i become so nervous that my...
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