I Don't Know How to Love

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    No Love (not A Lil' Wayne Song)

    I'm only 15 so I know I have time to fix whatever's wrong, but I don't seem to care about people. I feel, in a since, detached from the rest of the world like I'm watching it through glass or something. I'm attracted to girls so I know I'm not gay but I never seem to be able to...
    2 Responses Jan 10, 2013

    The Only Thing I Ask

    The idea that nature wants my personal happiness to depend on someone I have no control on whatsoever annoys the hell out of me. Come on, it is completely against survival instinct. From the very first moment we come on earth we get diligently trained to avoid anything that can...
    Diomea Diomea
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 6, 2013

    I havent been in love in maybe 3 years

    but when I fall in love, I love hard and I feel like I've gotten to the point where it was just too much for my last girlfriend. I've gone on dates from time to time but I subconsciously avoid connecting with women when I go on dates because I'm afraid of becoming too attached...
    AgentVNKO AgentVNKO
    22-25, M
    Oct 4, 2015

    I Don'T Know If I Really Don'T Know How To Love, Or What Is Love Or If I'M Just Scared To Love.

    This is on my mind all the time.... How do I know when I am actually in love.. How do I know that the one I come across can be the one. I think I start out on the wrong foot by saying I don't believe in love. But I don't think I mean that I believe that love exist but all I tend...
    Nksingh Nksingh
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 20, 2013

    Desperately Confused

    Every boy that talks to me is just another casualty. They don't know that, but I do. The first couple of dates are exciting. I take extra time in deciding my outfit and trying to look my best. I tell my close friends about the date, the boy, where we went, what we did, the...
    chopeg chopeg
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2013

    Getting Lonely...

    I am 22 years old (soon to be 23), and ashamed to say that I've never had a boyfriend. I've never even been kissed! Well, not properly at least... I’m not sure if 14-year-old drunk, sloppy smooches count. I’ve never been even CLOSE to being in love. And now I feel like it...
    beautyseeker beautyseeker
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 2, 2013

    I Don'T Know How To Love

    I am 16 and I have never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend and I have no desire to have one. I've lost many emotions when i was kid due to many dramatic events but one of them is love and I just don't see the point in it. I don't see anyone as that special someone and I don't...
    GlorifiedSanctums GlorifiedSanctums
    18-21, M
    May 27, 2013

    Love Is Waste Of Time

    according to me love is jus a waste of time because when ever i love'd someone from the bottom of my heart they left me alone and went so far that they never return'd back when ever i thought that i was in love someone would my love away from me they snatched away my love all the...
    guuyy guuyy
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jan 12, 2012

    I Know It'S In There Somewhere..

    I mean, I love my kid unconditionally and have never felt my heart swell so much when I look at his face... but when i'm in a relationship, it feels like I just don't care. I really do, but I just don't know how to show it. When I was younger my family were not people who gave...
    cottoncandy88 cottoncandy88
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 17, 2013

    Love...it's Such A Complication When You Don't Know If You Can...

    Ok, here’s my story…though I’m giving a shortened version. First marriage ended in divorce after seven or so years w/ no children. Can’t offer a huge explanation except to say we did not communicate as I would have liked. But, I was already feeling inside that there was...
    bikerbiker bikerbiker
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 14, 2012

    I Don't Know If It's Me, Or Him

    I've been dating my boyfriend for the past two years. I recently broke up because I've been having emotional issues, but I don't know why. I know I love him. But I can't stand for him to touch me, I hate when he tells me he loves me or shows me affection, and I can't do any of...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 16, 2011

    Never Loved

    I am that guy.... I am the class clown, loved my all, joke with many, have friends (shallow friends) of both sexes, been married to the same person for almost 35 years, never cheated, yet... with all of that never truly loved. I have 5 kids, and yes I love them all, would give...
    sunmural sunmural
    56-60, M
    2 Responses May 31, 2012

    Love, Life's Most Confusing Emotion?

    This is real, real, simple. When You Love Someone Your Actions (words, thoughts, etc.) Must Show Your Love ! When You Hate Someone Your Actions (if you feel the need to express them) Will Typically Show Your Hate! When You Love Someone You Should Never Hurt Them And Then Say You...
    tmajor tmajor
    41-45, M
    1 Response Dec 26, 2010

    Love Does Not Know Me

    A person cannot master something they were never showed to do. I don't know love because love never knew me. I want to love because I have a daughter but it is just not inside me. I don't think I love myself. Never in my life had I loved anything, I owe it to my baby.
    quitda quitda
    2 Responses Sep 7, 2011

    It's My Fault - I Admit It

    I think you know what it is to feel rushed with passion. You know that you have that need inside you: To love and to be loved back. But what if I tell you that you don't know how to enter inside someone's heart? What if I tell you that you lack the touch. Not because you lack...
    pearlfeather pearlfeather
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 5, 2012

    I Don't Know How To Love

    I have never received love from parents, other relatives, friends, etc. My life experiences made me very numb and callous. I do not know things like mercy, etc. If I feel crossed I literally forget he's my boyfriend and deserves a higher level of understanding in the given...
    LaBellaNoire LaBellaNoire
    3 Responses Nov 2, 2013

    I don't know how to love

    or should I say I'm scared? I guess the reason is I never recieved love. My mother and father left each other and I chose to live with my father because I looked up to him but now... Recently he left me to spend time with his new girlfriend. I found that out recently. He's not...
    XxDarkAngelxX1 XxDarkAngelxX1
    16-17, F
    Jan 3, 2014

    I fell in love so many times just to find

    myself broken-hearted in the end, to the point that I don't know how to love someone anymore! I've had guys who love me dearly but I just don't feel the same way towards them! I'm numbed and I just don't know how to love anymore.
    april0132 april0132
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2014

    After talking to my mother today.

    I realized I don't know how to love, even her. This is probably because she didn't really know either (she was in foster care, never really had anyone)..... I realize how all my life I've never really known how to show people I love them. Seems like I have alot of reevaluating...
    noelleandethan noelleandethan
    22-25, F
    Jun 21, 2014

    I've Come to Realize...

    ...that I think I'm just scared.  In fact, I might even go as far as to say that I have an endless capacity for love; yet that is something I do not show, something that I don't allow myself to feel.  I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that if I'm going to...
    solarxmoon solarxmoon
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 28, 2007

    Inability To Love, Being Lonely And Screwing Up An Exchange

    This is my first story, so I don't know if I'm doing it right or not. Bare with me anyway, please? I'm 21 years old. I'm in better shape than I've ever been because I've been doing sports. I'm good at meeting people, but absolutely incapable of taking things forward from there. I...
    hutre hutre
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2010

    Do Not Know How To Love They Way Other Picture It Today

    o know the old love that starts with respect and love for the other and a commit to each other
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    Feb 13, 2012

    How To Love?

    I don't know how to love. A statement so simple yet oddly misunderstood when attempting to gain an empathetic connection. I guess I should make it a little more discreet: I don't know how to love someone romantically. That statement is waaay more accurate. I can love my family...
    KibblesNBits KibblesNBits
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 22, 2010

    I try to give u everything.

    Try to make u happy. And end up hurting u worse than anyone ever has or will. I make u care just to push u away. My words are like venom without me realizing what i do I ruin everything that I built with u. For lovers like me there is no future only a past, u weren't my first...
    ronnybee22 ronnybee22
    18-21, M
    Jul 14, 2015


    I am in a relationship which has lasted almost three years now. It is my first "serious" relationship. I dated one other boy in high school, but it didn't last very long at all (almost seven months). I see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I honestly do. I also know...
    ginariffic ginariffic
    Sep 3, 2012

    Ever since I was raped at six then molested at

    14 or 15 by my boyfriend at the time.....I see myself and blame it on myself. I wont let anyone close, I push people away even my family and really close friends. I hate myself with a burning passion and the fact that I am a whale doesn't help either, but I have lost 30lbs...
    kelsey1426 kelsey1426
    18-21, F
    Sep 21, 2015

    I Don't Know How To Love.

    I'm 20. I have a boyfriend. I know it's not really serious relationships. I do hope he will LOVE me one day. But I dont really care and am not even sad when i know he has an affair. I'm talking to many guys also. Just talking tho. Dont blame me, i do want to know how to love. and...
    Jan 19, 2013

    I Can't Connect With People On An Emotional Level

    I am 42 years old, and I have never been truly in love. I am in a relationship, mainly because he loves me, but I do not love him. When I am honest with him, he thinks I am joking. The truth is, I have had so much pain in my life, beginning from early childhood when my...
    alynn123 alynn123
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 28, 2013

    Compassion Is Not Love...

    I recall a conversation between my co-workers and I about some dumb jokes, and how guys show their love for their friends via mockery. The harsher it is, the more love they have for the individual. I was then asked how will I show my love for all my friends and I could not...
    PinkLoopey PinkLoopey
    1 Response Jan 5, 2012

    How To Start Feeling Ok To Let Go

    I was raised in a loving home with my mother and little sister. The only man in the house was my dog. Now that I am starting my own life I am seeing that I am out of my element around men and love. It is foreign to me how to act out my feelings around men. Flirting is fun and...
    Jan 21, 2013

    Not Sure About Love

    The last year, year and a half I had a very rough time in my life. I found out that I am bi-polar and went through a very uneasy episode dealing with my spiritual mindset shall I say. Now I'm not sure what love is anymore. Is it an emotion you feel or just an idea. It's...
    perniec82 perniec82
    Jun 4, 2012

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