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I Don't Know How to Take Compliments

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    Self Esteem.

    I have no self esteem so naturally, when people give me compliments, I will not believe them, so I will turn them down immediately. The bad thing is, when I deny them, people get angry because they THINK that I would think that way, but really I don't so then they think I am just...
    wewantcowbell wewantcowbell 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2007

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    I Can't Give Them Well Either

    I think it's because I don't trust that people aren't trying to use me or that that they're make fun of me or mess with my head. I don't want to make someone feel like that so i hardly ever compliment people, I think it hinders relationships because I don't really say nice...
    RaeDuh RaeDuh 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2012

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    Some musings on how to accept compliments.

    These days, I am far better at receiving compliments than I used to be. It is not a skill that I have perfected yet, but it certainly far better than it has been. With that in mind, I thought I would share my perspective on the matter. On Compliments. The problem...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 12 Responses Nov 14, 2007

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    Hell No!

    Just be kind and abuse and insult me. I can handle that.I don't know what to do when people are nice to me.And half the time I suspect you are up to something anyway. lol
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2012

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    They make me feel so awkward.

    I could be so happy and smiling and feeling good and then when someone says something nice i just kinda tense up and feel weird.I can't handle it.
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    I Dont Know Why

    Everytime I get a compliment, it feels like I always have to say one back or that the person who complimented me is looking for a compliment....Its really akward usually
    muffintopwarrior muffintopwarrior 19-21, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2007

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    Um, gee thanks, I like your.

    . Arm! I mean!!! Uh.., smile! Yeah... I just don't get it haha! Compliments do make me happy though. Research shows that when someone gives a compliment to someone else. The compliments makes the 'reward' system in our brain more active. Which also deals with pleasure and...
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    Slightly Uncomfortable With Them.

    Whenever I'm given a compliment it just confuses me as to why because I don't think I'm deserving of any and not really used to receiving them, I get a little self conscious when told things that are flattering and complimentary about myself because I probably don't see myself in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 7, 2013

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    I'm SO embarrassed. So what happened was

    that I won intern of the month. I am not one to be center of attention, so when they called my name, I literally said, "F--K." I didn't mean to. I just would have been happier with them posting the certificate and the written speech next to my name. The way it's supposed to...
    BlueIce612 BlueIce612 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Suspicious

    I always feel like people are lying when they give compliments.. I'm sure I'm not alone with deflecting compliments
    justmeand11 justmeand11 22-25 1 Response Nov 10, 2013

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    Even if the compliment is sincere

    and genuine, awkward silence almost always follows. Sometimes the complimenter will get an awkward "oh" from me.
    rubyrubyrubywhat rubyrubyrubywhat 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    I'M Beautiful? Yeah Right!

    Years back I was bullied and humiliated in high school by girls and emotionally and mentally ****** up by my father so was led to believe that I was anything but beautiful. I have been told by a lot of people that I'm 'beautiful' or 'pretty' or that I should 'be a model'. On...
    candy85 candy85 26-30, F 1 Response May 3, 2013

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    True And Frustrating

    I am working on this. I don't like that I feel so uncomfortable with compliments. I really thought being here would help and maybe it has a little. But I have this automatic response in my head I can't seem to get rid of. I will continue to work on being more accepting and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    Guys at school call me sexy,

    beautiful, pretty and whistle at me and I just smile and say 'thanks...you perv!' Or 'uhh thanks you sick f***' lol it really depends on who it is though
    bulimicbixtch49 bulimicbixtch49 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    Weird?

    I have no trouble giving compliments to anyone. But when someone gives me a compliment, i get silent. Thinking '' Its just a lie'', ''They're just joking'', ''I don't believe it'' or other stuff like that. I really have no clue on what i should say. Should I just laugh? Pretend i...
    HumhumTheHaunter HumhumTheHaunter 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    Is There A Right Response

    Seriously I'd love it if someone could tell me what to say when a person compliments you besides...uh...thanks. It makes me feel awkward, uncertain, and a little apprehensive about why they're saying nice things. It's not that I don't like being complimented but what am I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 3, 2012

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    I always smile and say "thank you",

    because at least that way, it stops quicker.
    Akurou Akurou 31-35, F Mar 22

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    Well

    I'm kinda learning how to now. Still got it bad though
    LoveIsSublime LoveIsSublime 18-21, F Oct 16, 2010

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    To Pretend

    When I was younger friends would tell me that I am nice or pretty or something like that I didn’t know what to say or how to reply but one day I just thought of saying thank you or reply  thank you that’s so nice of you and stuff  but in truth I still don’t know what to...
    SoftSpokenLady SoftSpokenLady 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    I never agree with the good things people say

    about me... I try to accept them cause I don't want to be one of those annoying girls who calls themselves ugly all the time but I just feel so awkward because I don't believe it when people tell me I'm pretty or anything like that.
    TheCrookedYoung TheCrookedYoung 13-15, F Dec 16, 2013

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    *Hides*

    Compliments scare me. I don't know what to do with them, or how I'm supposed to respond, or if I should pay one in return... It's complicated. I've been paid a compliment, and not given one in return, and the other person had looked hurt... Or, I've been given a compliment, and...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    I am so awkward when it comes to this.

    I am constantly getting them and it feels like I get them so often it's as a joke. Usually it's just like "thanks.." Or I just smile. I'm so awkward.
    RainBunny RainBunny 13-15, F 6 Responses Mar 9

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    I've improved. I can say thanks

    and act fairly natural and normal from hearing compliments now. however I still feel weird inside or wonder if the person is being sincere. for the longest time I'd reject compliments or immediately discredit them. regardless of what it was, if someone affirmed me or said...
    greenrust greenrust 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 13

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    I will literally call you a liar

    and walk away lol it's bad I know! And really rude but when you get told something different for years.. well it's easier to believe the bad things said about yourself then the good...
    LivviyLove LivviyLove 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    Should Be Proud?

    When people are nice to me it is usually straight out of the blue because people usually pick on my and i'm use to that but sometimes there is a kind soul out there that likes to give me a compliment and when they do i'm not usually too sure how to act.. do i say thank you...
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings 16-17, F Feb 9, 2013

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    Even When I Was Little...

    Even when I was little, I always felt embarrassed or as if they had to give me a compliment, that I wasn't worthy. I still feel this way, even more so because I'm not some perfect hot babe who has a perfect IQ. I have also been put down a lot and compared to others, how much...
    realityvsdream realityvsdream 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    I Cant Take Compliments

    when people offer me compliments, i feel like i dont deserve them so i cannot accept them. this is awkward as then i go red and embarrassed! so stupid!
    prettybrowneyes1993 prettybrowneyes1993 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2013

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    I feel like if I say "yes thanks" it seems like

    I'm accepting the compliment and thinking I'm such an amazing, perfect, beautiful person. So sometimes I'll be like, "no I'm really not..." And then that backfires cause people go "fine! I was just trying to be nice!" And other people think I want even more compliments! Like no...
    gogirl08 gogirl08 16-17, F Dec 16, 2013

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    I Get Annoyed

    For some reason, if a person calls me pretty or says something nice to me, I just can't take the compliment. I'm more likely to freak out or get offended! What's the deal with that?! I'm so strange.
    Sasayaku35 Sasayaku35 13-15, F Apr 1, 2013

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    Ummm... Thanks..?

    Compliments... Yea, never really been a strong point  of mine.. Im always like umm yea thanks your beautiful too.. I mean your cute.. or handsome.. Agh..sh!t i f.uck.ed it up again...lol.... But hey thats jsut me..; )  Sure there are others that lack this part of the...
    AuThEnTiC AuThEnTiC 19-21, F 1 Response Feb 29, 2008

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    Just Say Thank You.

    It's simple enough. Whether you believe it or not is irrelevant since this group is about how people don't know how to be gracious enough to accept one. Just say "Thank you" and don't make a big deal out of it. I tend to find that it's people's insecurities that don't allow them...
    EmotionalPrincess EmotionalPrincess 22-25, F Jul 15, 2013

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    I didn't really ever get compliments from

    anyone of anything until this year. I'm very awkward about it, like when somebody says "I love you" I say "oh. I love me too" and awkwardly walk somewhere else.
    walrusenator walrusenator 13-15, M Dec 27, 2013

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    NOPE

    Just clam up... don't like them, can't take them, so don't give them... odd I know but that's just the way it goes.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 27, 2007

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    I can't seem, to take compliments very well.

    I'd be in denial, and I usually don't know how to react. But when someone says 'hey you're really pretty' and I say I don't people be like '*****, acting humble wants all the attention' I don't get why people assume things. But I don't really give a ****, to hell with their...
    sftlr sftlr 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I Dont Know How To Take Compliments.

    Im just so akward my reaction just comes off weird. Sometimes I even choose to just ignore a compliment after its given.
    LennonLover LennonLover 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    Hate Them.

    Whenever someone says I compliment to me I either just quietly mubble thanks or just don't say anything at all and smile. I feel weird whenever I get compliments, Espcially when they compliment something about myself that I absoutely hate. I never believe any of it.. I feel like...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2011

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    i have never done it with any grace.

    My skeptical nature always gets in the way. I consider myself a student of so many things...its hard to think in terms of competencies. I am not soliciting comments here....I will actually delete them.
    tacitlygarrulous tacitlygarrulous 70+, M Apr 3

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    It is sometimes very irritating.

    i don't know but i can't take compliments well in my stride. i always feel people don't mean them and i ask them to stop. some think that i'm snobby while people who know me in and out has accepted it as one of my erratic behaviors. it's irritating at times. i guess i do...
    Namkeen Namkeen 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    Flattery

    Not really sure how i should take a compliment. I feel like people are just trying to flatter me to get me to like them or do something for them or only because I'm in the same room with em.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 10, 2012

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    I blush when I get compliments!

    ! I find it strange that people take time to notice that they love my hair or think my shirt is cute. It makes me feel really happy!! I give compliments all the time because I know that everyone loves a compliment and there's always something I like about that person so I want...
    MyExperiences3 MyExperiences3 13-15, F Feb 13

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    I can't take compliments well.

    I just look down awkwardly and smile in the inside and whisper a quiet thank. so quiet that you can't hear, so you think I'm a rude *** person. And never compliment me again all because you couldn't hear my thank you. 😔
    anyomunos anyomunos 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    When men compliment my appearance I feel

    uncomfortable. It makes me paranoid and distrusting if their intentions. When women compliment my appearance I feel okay about it. I prefer compliments not about my appearance. Recently my coworker told me "you look very pretty today." Usually when he compliments my appearance I...
    merrygentry merrygentry 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 6

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    I Fear The Worst

    I dont know how to take a compliment. i always think people are just makeing fun of me. i was always made fun of as a kid. i was the weird one in the class and everyone always made fun of me. so now when people compliment me i always think back to my classmates as a child and i...
    Silent20 Silent20 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    I Never Believe Them!

    My problem is that when i get a compliment, i just tend to flat-out say 'no I'm not' or that's not true, but thanks anyway for the thought!' It also depends on what the compliment is, for some reason, if i get a compliment on how i look (except about my weight!), i.e you're...
    roc roc 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2007

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    Ugh.

    Let's face it... I'm lazy, cynical, awkward, obsessive, no motivation, chubby, average looks, neurotic, can't make someone feel great, paranoid, have blonde moments, spend too much time on the computer, hide away from the world, don't buy things for other people, can't get a job...
    cannibox cannibox 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    My Grandma always says to accept them

    and just say thank you!
    OVOXODrake OVOXODrake 16-17, F Mar 9

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    True!

    I get really awkward and say dumb things like "aw, no ... I'm dumb!!!" I don't know why! Haha... But for real, what do you say when you get a compliment??
    Elzkitty Elzkitty 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    I'm trying to get comfortable with them,

    trying to remember to thank. A little while ago I read that dismissing a compliment is kind of dismissing the complimenting person's taste or opinion, and I don't want to do that. They often feel like an uncomfortable pill to swallow, making me shudder on the inside, squeemish...
    ChooseYourPoison ChooseYourPoison 22-25 Jan 11

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    lol i honestly don't know how to flirt..like how do people do it so easily? if i try i probably end up being more of a cheesy *** person
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