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I Don't Know How to Take Compliments

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    It makes me shy... I do not know what to say

    or how to react. I get kinda paralyzed and blushing. I've learnt when you don't know what to say or do the best answer is a humble : thank you. Tho sometimes some may think I don't give a **** coz of my poor response... It is not that, I am busy blushing lol
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F Aug 5, 2015

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    He/she would be just all like,

    "nevermind -_-" at the back of his/her head lol
    GummiBr GummiBr 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    I'll blush, look away,

    and say something to the effect of: 'Aw, thanks, but not really.'
    thetitania thetitania 18-21, F Mar 1, 2015

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    I'm not used to getting them

    so I just don't know how to handle them. I usually get awkward but I know they mean well but it's different.
    awayfromlife awayfromlife 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2015

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    I REALLY do not know how to take compliments!

    ! I will just disagree with them all the time! Like, they are so toxic to me....
    ForgottenLyric ForgottenLyric 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    I have no idea how to respond my therapist told

    me to just say "thanks" But I'm better at reacting to insults so its weird for me .-.
    PandaXBunny PandaXBunny 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 14, 2015

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    ugh! I hate compliments.

    ..it always seems like someone is making fun of me or flattering me...you have no idea how much I hate flatterers, they are always up to no good
    prettykatey prettykatey 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2015

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    I don't normally get compliments

    so when I do I freeze up and get really awkward. Most of the time I feel like I don't deserve the compliments that I get but I take them anyway because I'm kind person.
    BabyGirlCleo BabyGirlCleo 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 28, 2015

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    I honestly don't think I deserve any of them.

    If someone compliments me I either rudely ignore what they say, deflect to something else or give an unenthusiastic thanks. It can be a compliment on anything, how I look, how I do my job or anything else.
    burgh712009 burgh712009 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 21, 2015

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    When someone compliments me,

    I either blush or laugh it off. The other day, I was complimented on something physically that made me laugh. Now, I've been complimented on my legs... my hands...my smile but while I was getting some blood work done, the nurse told me I had lovely veins. Veins?! Really...
    Cinnamongrl Cinnamongrl 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 24, 2015

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    I've learned to say thank you,

    but feel awkward when people compliment me.
    Platana2100 Platana2100 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Um, gee thanks, I like your.

    . Arm! I mean!!! Uh.., smile! Yeah... I just don't get it haha! Compliments do make me happy though. Research shows that when someone gives a compliment to someone else. The compliments makes the 'reward' system in our brain more active. Which also deals with pleasure and...
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 5, 2014

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    Some musings on how to accept compliments.

    These days, I am far better at receiving compliments than I used to be. It is not a skill that I have perfected yet, but it certainly far better than it has been. With that in mind, I thought I would share my perspective on the matter. On Compliments. The problem...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 12 Responses Nov 14, 2007

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    Even When I Was Little...

    Even when I was little, I always felt embarrassed or as if they had to give me a compliment, that I wasn't worthy. I still feel this way, even more so because I'm not some perfect hot babe who has a perfect IQ. I have also been put down a lot and compared to others, how much...
    realityvsdream realityvsdream 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    I Fear The Worst

    I dont know how to take a compliment. i always think people are just makeing fun of me. i was always made fun of as a kid. i was the weird one in the class and everyone always made fun of me. so now when people compliment me i always think back to my classmates as a child and i...
    Silent20 Silent20 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    well first I rarely get them.

    So when I do, it's pretty weird and I feel awkward somehow. So from that, I even don't know how to compliment others which suck. In my head I'd be like 'oooh she dresses up nice today'. I won't say it but instead I just stare at them with a blank dumb face.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 18-21, F Jun 20, 2015

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    NOPE

    Just clam up... don't like them, can't take them, so don't give them... odd I know but that's just the way it goes.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 27, 2007

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    One of my friends keeps saying things like I'm

    "wonderful" or "alluring" and I'm just like "I'm not. But thanks, I guess..." He'll argue with me, saying that I am, and I'll just flat out list the reasons he's wrong.
    SwitchbladeKisses SwitchbladeKisses 26-30, F Aug 26, 2015

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    Went to the mall today

    and was walking with my brother who's 14 but looks 16. We walked past this boy and his friend and I'm assuming his sister or something. The one talking stops my brother and I. Looks at my brother and says "aye he said yo girl is fine" indicating his friend said it. His friend...
    Lilred17 Lilred17 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2015

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    My manger said to me .

    .. " when I hired you I knew this girl has talent " Co-worker said- I always work from my heart without thinking and someday God will help me Made my day 😊😊😊😊I felt proud and bit emotional too 😓
    dezeena dezeena 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2015

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    this morning , my husband told me

    that I "look nice today"...I raised an eyebrow wondering "what is he up to?"
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 6, 2015

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    If I am in a good mood,

    with a good self esteem... I think I take them in a good way and I appreciate them and thank people for them:) but if I'm having one of those days when my self esteem is so low and I'm feeling so bad, probably I'd just ignore it or maybe get mad at it .-. So yeah. Most of the...
    LittleUnicorn LittleUnicorn 18-21 1 Response Dec 19, 2015

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    True And Frustrating

    I am working on this. I don't like that I feel so uncomfortable with compliments. I really thought being here would help and maybe it has a little. But I have this automatic response in my head I can't seem to get rid of. I will continue to work on being more accepting and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    I always compliment others,

    but whenever they compliment me I just feel weird and think about how exaggerated they sound so I sometimes awkwardly say thanks to end it all ??
    Theworldandme Theworldandme 16-17, F Jul 22, 2015

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    I am so awkward when it comes to this.

    I am constantly getting them and it feels like I get them so often it's as a joke. Usually it's just like "thanks.." Or I just smile. I'm so awkward.
    RainBunny RainBunny 13-15, F 6 Responses Mar 9, 2014

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    I feel like if I say "yes thanks" it seems like

    I'm accepting the compliment and thinking I'm such an amazing, perfect, beautiful person. So sometimes I'll be like, "no I'm really not..." And then that backfires cause people go "fine! I was just trying to be nice!" And other people think I want even more compliments! Like no...
    gogirl08 gogirl08 18-21, F Dec 16, 2013

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    Being bullied, picked on

    and abused I get suspicious of compliments. First I look around to find out whom ever they must really Ben talking to, someone behind me maybe? Then I'm wondering what they really want.
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    Marcus010 Marcus010 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 9, 2015

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    It's weird taking compliments like "you're

    cute/attractive" or most positive things towards me BUT If you say you trust and/or respect me, I take them compliments and I love them.
    akaShaun akaShaun 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    I'm terrible at it! I automatically assume

    that everyone has a negative view of me, and I accept it. It's kind of like having an underdog mentality; I automatically believe that everyone doubts my abilities and worth, only I don't feel like I have to prove anything to anyone because I'm happy with who I am. Although I...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 22-25, M 3 Responses May 16, 2014

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    Last night a guy said to me “You are very,

    very pretty” and i said “I know” and he said like “You KNOW?” and i said “You think you’re the first person to ever compliment me?” and he didn’t know where to go from there.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox 22-25, F May 22, 2015

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    Uh, welp. I actually prefer complimenting

    people instead of receiving compliments. I mean I like compliments.. I just dont know how to take them.
    Punkturtless Punkturtless 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 7

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    cougarloving cougarloving 26-30, F Dec 20, 2015

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    I can neither give nor receive compliments.

    I understand that proper etiquette is to return a compliment with a compliment, but for years all I've done was keep my head down and stay silent, which leaves little time for practice. But I've been getting a lot of compliments lately, and I've been looking like an a...
    SilasArke SilasArke 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 7

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    I Never Believe Them!

    My problem is that when i get a compliment, i just tend to flat-out say 'no I'm not' or that's not true, but thanks anyway for the thought!' It also depends on what the compliment is, for some reason, if i get a compliment on how i look (except about my weight!), i.e you're...
    roc roc 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2007

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    Is There A Right Response

    Seriously I'd love it if someone could tell me what to say when a person compliments you besides...uh...thanks. It makes me feel awkward, uncertain, and a little apprehensive about why they're saying nice things. It's not that I don't like being complimented but what am I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    How to take a compliment: Step 1 Say "thank

    you" Step 2 There is no step 2, that's it jackass. Haha I don't think you guys are jackasses I just saw this on twitter
    AshleyJea AshleyJea 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2015

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    When men compliment my appearance I feel

    uncomfortable. It makes me paranoid and distrusting if their intentions. When women compliment my appearance I feel okay about it. I prefer compliments not about my appearance. Recently my coworker told me "you look very pretty today." Usually when he compliments my appearance I...
    merrygentry merrygentry 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    Whenever someone gives me a compliment i just

    stare at them like they grew two heads while my face is bright red and feels really hot.
    xXMyLastEscapeXx xXMyLastEscapeXx 13-15, F Jul 24, 2015

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    I just don't know how to take compliments.

    Either my anxiety gets the best of me and I think the person is up to something (or wants something), or I think they are lying. I feel that I have mastered the awkward thank you and smile. I'm trying to learn how not to read to much into it, and how to graciously accept it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 9, 2015

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    CrossCresentCreed CrossCresentCreed 18-21, F Dec 30, 2014

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    Why is it as females,

    we feel the proper response to a compliment is to decline? Like our natural instinct is to tell somebody no, we do not look nice today.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox 22-25, F 5 Responses May 20, 2015

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    its like a broken vending machine trying to

    accept money... its very frustrating for everybody involved..
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 20, 2015

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    When a guy friend compliments me I am usually

    pretty sassy as a joke, like I'll say something like "I know" and the flip my hair and do an awful model walk for a few feet. But once my crush compliments me, I usually say "thanks" and compliment them back or turn away awkwardly and blush, or I'll say "I appreciate the lie."
    katiemcgivney katiemcgivney 13-15, F Jun 13, 2015

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    (Background info:I work at a fast food

    resteraunt) Today I was working drive through when a car pulled up and the driver said "you have really pretty eyes" now, I don't get compliments often so this absolutely blindsighted me. I just gave him a deer in the headlights stare and said "that will be $8.40 sir" I realized...
    snowunderthestars snowunderthestars 16-17, F 3 Responses May 17, 2014

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