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I Don't Know How to Take Compliments

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    CrossCresentCreed CrossCresentCreed 18-21, F Dec 30, 2014

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    this morning , my husband told me

    that I "look nice today"...I raised an eyebrow wondering "what is he up to?"
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    I always compliment others,

    but whenever they compliment me I just feel weird and think about how exaggerated they sound so I sometimes awkwardly say thanks to end it all ??
    Theworldandme Theworldandme 16-17, F Jul 22

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    I have no idea how to respond my therapist told

    me to just say "thanks" But I'm better at reacting to insults so its weird for me .-.
    PandaXBunny PandaXBunny 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    I grew up getting bullied,

    so much that everyone in the school slowly started to bully me. Sometimes even my teachers picked on me. I was the nerdy girl who couldn't see anything, so I got glasses. I started to get picked on and bullied even more both emotionally and physically. I never told my parents...
    LonelyPuppy LonelyPuppy 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    When someone compliments me,

    I either blush or laugh it off. The other day, I was complimented on something physically that made me laugh. Now, I've been complimented on my legs... my hands...my smile but while I was getting some blood work done, the nurse told me I had lovely veins. Veins?! Really...
    Cinnamongrl Cinnamongrl 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 24

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    Last night a guy said to me “You are very,

    very pretty” and i said “I know” and he said like “You KNOW?” and i said “You think you’re the first person to ever compliment me?” and he didn’t know where to go from there.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox 22-25, F May 22

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    Some one told me I looked really nice once

    and all I didn't say thank you. I stood there blushed an said happy birthday. Yeah not used to compliments. :/
    KaylaBVB KaylaBVB 16-17, F Jan 18

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    codeyellow codeyellow 26-30, F Jan 18

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    I don't really get complimented too often ,

    so when I do get complimented I'm just standing there like an idiot . Smiling but not saying anything .
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jan 18

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    When I get complemented on,

    I usually try to joke it off and say "No one likes a kiss up" or "You talkin to me?" Then they say they mean it and all I can do is sheepishly say "thank you" without making eye contact. I consider that a step up. I used to freeze in disbelief at someone buttering me up. Then...
    killakissa killakissa 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    I Never Believe Them!

    My problem is that when i get a compliment, i just tend to flat-out say 'no I'm not' or that's not true, but thanks anyway for the thought!' It also depends on what the compliment is, for some reason, if i get a compliment on how i look (except about my weight!), i.e you're...
    roc roc 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2007

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    I am so awkward when it comes to this.

    I am constantly getting them and it feels like I get them so often it's as a joke. Usually it's just like "thanks.." Or I just smile. I'm so awkward.
    RainBunny RainBunny 13-15, F 6 Responses Mar 9, 2014

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    Why is it as females,

    we feel the proper response to a compliment is to decline? Like our natural instinct is to tell somebody no, we do not look nice today.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox 22-25, F 5 Responses May 20

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    I guess it's because I've never really had

    people compliment me, other than my parents and friends? Whenever someone compliments me, which is rare but not unheard of, I always laugh it off. I just don't think they really mean it and I feel like they're saying so to be polite. I don't know
    Sasha0827 Sasha0827 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 30, 2014

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    When a guy friend compliments me I am usually

    pretty sassy as a joke, like I'll say something like "I know" and the flip my hair and do an awful model walk for a few feet. But once my crush compliments me, I usually say "thanks" and compliment them back or turn away awkwardly and blush, or I'll say "I appreciate the lie."
    katiemcgivney katiemcgivney 13-15, F Jun 13

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    It's weird taking compliments like "you're

    cute/attractive" or most positive things towards me BUT If you say you trust and/or respect me, I take them compliments and I love them.
    akaShaun akaShaun 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    It's True

    Call it sad or not or whatever but I was not raised in a household where compliments were consistent or prominent and most the time they were non existent. Not much interaction in my family to be honest talking about your feelings was prohibited. End of story. Compliments were...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 21, 2012

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    How to take a compliment: Step 1 Say "thank

    you" Step 2 There is no step 2, that's it jackass. Haha I don't think you guys are jackasses I just saw this on twitter
    AshleyJea AshleyJea 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 2

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    I've learned to say thank you,

    but feel awkward when people compliment me.
    Platana2100 Platana2100 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 19

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    Even When I Was Little...

    Even when I was little, I always felt embarrassed or as if they had to give me a compliment, that I wasn't worthy. I still feel this way, even more so because I'm not some perfect hot babe who has a perfect IQ. I have also been put down a lot and compared to others, how much...
    realityvsdream realityvsdream 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    Hate Them.

    Whenever someone says I compliment to me I either just quietly mubble thanks or just don't say anything at all and smile. I feel weird whenever I get compliments, Espcially when they compliment something about myself that I absoutely hate. I never believe any of it.. I feel like...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2011

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    When men compliment my appearance I feel

    uncomfortable. It makes me paranoid and distrusting if their intentions. When women compliment my appearance I feel okay about it. I prefer compliments not about my appearance. Recently my coworker told me "you look very pretty today." Usually when he compliments my appearance I...
    merrygentry merrygentry 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    I always smile and say "thank you",

    because at least that way, it stops quicker.
    Akurou Akurou 31-35, F Mar 22, 2014

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    Whenever someone gives me a compliment i just

    stare at them like they grew two heads while my face is bright red and feels really hot.
    IHateYourSmile IHateYourSmile 13-15, F Jul 24

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    I usually call BS until they stop being said

    altogether. If idk the person I say thank you but inwardly think theyre joking.
    Disobey247 Disobey247 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 29

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    I arrive at a dinner thing.

    . The host: "oh you look really beautiful" Me (feeling surprised) : "uhhhhh Is it me , or is cold here?" .. True
    Kardia Kardia 36-40 1 Response Jan 19

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    I'm SO embarrassed. So what happened was

    that I won intern of the month. I am not one to be center of attention, so when they called my name, I literally said, "F--K." I didn't mean to. I just would have been happier with them posting the certificate and the written speech next to my name. The way it's supposed to...
    BlueIce612 BlueIce612 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2014

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    Is There A Right Response

    Seriously I'd love it if someone could tell me what to say when a person compliments you besides...uh...thanks. It makes me feel awkward, uncertain, and a little apprehensive about why they're saying nice things. It's not that I don't like being complimented but what am I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2012

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    Some musings on how to accept compliments.

    These days, I am far better at receiving compliments than I used to be. It is not a skill that I have perfected yet, but it certainly far better than it has been. With that in mind, I thought I would share my perspective on the matter. On Compliments. The problem...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 12 Responses Nov 14, 2007

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    Um, gee thanks, I like your.

    . Arm! I mean!!! Uh.., smile! Yeah... I just don't get it haha! Compliments do make me happy though. Research shows that when someone gives a compliment to someone else. The compliments makes the 'reward' system in our brain more active. Which also deals with pleasure and...
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 5, 2014

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    I've never got many as a child

    or as a adult so when i do get them i always feel like they are joking.
    TheMidNightCrow TheMidNightCrow 26-30, M Aug 7

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    Marcus010 Marcus010 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 9

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    It makes me shy... I do not know what to say

    or how to react. I get kinda paralyzed and blushing. I've learnt when you don't know what to say or do the best answer is a humble : thank you. Tho sometimes some may think I don't give a **** coz of my poor response... It is not that, I am busy blushing lol
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F Aug 5

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    Went to the mall today

    and was walking with my brother who's 14 but looks 16. We walked past this boy and his friend and I'm assuming his sister or something. The one talking stops my brother and I. Looks at my brother and says "aye he said yo girl is fine" indicating his friend said it. His friend...
    Jurnee16 Jurnee16 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I just don't know how to take compliments.

    Either my anxiety gets the best of me and I think the person is up to something (or wants something), or I think they are lying. I feel that I have mastered the awkward thank you and smile. I'm trying to learn how not to read to much into it, and how to graciously accept it.
    bretneyc bretneyc 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    It is sometimes very irritating.

    i don't know but i can't take compliments well in my stride. i always feel people don't mean them and i ask them to stop. some think that i'm snobby while people who know me in and out has accepted it as one of my erratic behaviors. it's irritating at times. i guess i do...
    Namkeen Namkeen 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9, 2014

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    My manger said to me .

    .. " when I hired you I knew this girl has talent " Co-worker said- I always work from my heart without thinking and someday God will help me Made my day 😊😊😊😊I felt proud and bit emotional too 😓
    dezeena dezeena 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 23

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    I feel like if I say "yes thanks" it seems like

    I'm accepting the compliment and thinking I'm such an amazing, perfect, beautiful person. So sometimes I'll be like, "no I'm really not..." And then that backfires cause people go "fine! I was just trying to be nice!" And other people think I want even more compliments! Like no...
    gogirl08 gogirl08 16-17, F Dec 16, 2013

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    When grown man who look about 40-50 years old

    and they tell me I look beautiful I don't know how to take they're compliment. If I say thank you, they're going to think I'm trying to talk to me. Guys who are 28-35 when they give compliments they always smiling that's another thing I don't want you, I don't know how to...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F Mar 1

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    NOPE

    Just clam up... don't like them, can't take them, so don't give them... odd I know but that's just the way it goes.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 27, 2007

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    Because I always think

    that when they walk away they will immediately make fun of me. For example when they compliment my hairstyle and then when they walk away they will tell their friends how hideous my hair looks and stuff.
    BooksAreMyComfort BooksAreMyComfort 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I finally stopped saying Oh?

    and I know when people call me pretty. Now I giggle and say thank you
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    well first I rarely get them.

    So when I do, it's pretty weird and I feel awkward somehow. So from that, I even don't know how to compliment others which suck. In my head I'd be like 'oooh she dresses up nice today'. I won't say it but instead I just stare at them with a blank dumb face.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 16-17, F Jun 20

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    (Background info:I work at a fast food

    resteraunt) Today I was working drive through when a car pulled up and the driver said "you have really pretty eyes" now, I don't get compliments often so this absolutely blindsighted me. I just gave him a deer in the headlights stare and said "that will be $8.40 sir" I realized...
    snowunderthestars snowunderthestars 16-17, F 3 Responses May 17, 2014

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    One of my friends keeps saying things like I'm

    "wonderful" or "alluring" and I'm just like "I'm not. But thanks, I guess..." He'll argue with me, saying that I am, and I'll just flat out list the reasons he's wrong.
    SwitchbladeKisses SwitchbladeKisses 26-30, F 5 days ago