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I Don't Know How to Take Compliments

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    I will literally call you a liar and walk away lol it's bad I know! And really rude but when you get told something different for years.. well it's easier to believe the bad things...
    LivviyLove LivviyLove 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    I blush when I get compliments!! I find it strange that people take time to notice that they love my hair or think my shirt is cute. It makes me feel really happy!! I give...
    MyExperiences3 MyExperiences3 13-15, F Feb 13

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    Even When I Was Little... - Even when I was little, I always felt embarrassed or as if they had to give me a compliment, that I wasn't worthy. I still feel this way, even more so...
    realityvsdream realityvsdream 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    I'm trying to get comfortable with them, trying to remember to thank. A little while ago I read that dismissing a compliment is kind of dismissing the complimenting person's taste...
    avessel avessel 22-25 Jan 11

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    Suspicious - I always feel like people are lying when they give compliments.. I'm sure I'm not alone with deflecting compliments
    justmeand11 justmeand11 22-25 1 Response Nov 10, 2013

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    i have never done it with any grace. My skeptical nature always gets in the way. I consider myself a student of so many things...its hard to think in terms of competencies. I am...
    tacitlygarrulous tacitlygarrulous 70+, M Apr 3

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    I Dont Know How To Take Compliments. - Im just so akward my reaction just comes off weird. Sometimes I even choose to just ignore a compliment after its given.
    LennonLover LennonLover 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    I can't seem, to take compliments very well. I'd be in denial, and I usually don't know how to react. But when someone says 'hey you're really pretty' and I say I don't people be...
    sftlr sftlr 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    It is sometimes very irritating. i don't know but i can't take compliments well in my stride. i always feel people don't mean them and i ask them to stop. some think that i'm...
    Namkeen Namkeen 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    I feel like if I say "yes thanks" it seems like I'm accepting the compliment and thinking I'm such an amazing, perfect, beautiful person. So sometimes I'll be like, "no I'm really...
    gogirl08 gogirl08 16-17, F Dec 16, 2013

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    I've improved. I can say thanks and act fairly natural and normal from hearing compliments now. however I still feel weird inside or wonder if the person is being sincere. for...
    greenrust greenrust 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 13

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    Weird? - I have no trouble giving compliments to anyone. But when someone gives me a compliment, i get silent. Thinking '' Its just a lie'', ''They're just joking'', ''I don't...
    HumhumTheHaunter HumhumTheHaunter 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    When men compliment my appearance I feel uncomfortable. It makes me paranoid and distrusting if their intentions. When women compliment my appearance I feel okay about it. I prefer...
    merrygentry merrygentry 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 6

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    To Pretend - When I was younger friends would tell me that I am nice or pretty or something like that I didn’t know what to say or how to reply but one day I just thought of...
    SoftSpokenLady SoftSpokenLady 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    Hell No! - Just be kind and abuse and insult me. I can handle that.I don't know what to do when people are nice to me.And half the time I suspect you are up to something anyway...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2012

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    I'm SO embarrassed. So what happened was that I won intern of the month. I am not one to be center of attention, so when they called my name, I literally said, "F--K." I didn't...
    BlueIce612 BlueIce612 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Well - I'm kinda learning how to now. Still got it bad though
    LoveIsSublime LoveIsSublime 18-21, F Oct 16, 2010

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    I Fear The Worst - I dont know how to take a compliment. i always think people are just makeing fun of me. i was always made fun of as a kid. i was the weird one in the class and...
    Silent20 Silent20 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    Even if the compliment is sincere and genuine, awkward silence almost always follows. Sometimes the complimenter will get an awkward "oh" from me.
    rubyrubyrubywhat rubyrubyrubywhat 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    Self Esteem. - I have no self esteem so naturally, when people give me compliments, I will not believe them, so I will turn them down immediately. The bad thing is, when I deny...
    wewantcowbell wewantcowbell 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2007

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    Is There A Right Response - Seriously I'd love it if someone could tell me what to say when a person compliments you besides...uh...thanks. It makes me feel awkward, uncertain, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 3, 2012

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    I'M Beautiful? Yeah Right! - Years back I was bullied and humiliated in high school by girls and emotionally and mentally ****** up by my father so was led to believe that I was...
    candy85 candy85 26-30, F 1 Response May 3, 2013

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    I Get Annoyed - For some reason, if a person calls me pretty or says something nice to me, I just can't take the compliment. I'm more likely to freak out or get offended! What's...
    Sasayaku35 Sasayaku35 13-15, F Apr 1, 2013

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    I never agree with the good things people say about me... I try to accept them cause I don't want to be one of those annoying girls who calls themselves ugly all the time but I...
    TheCrookedYoung TheCrookedYoung 13-15, F Dec 16, 2013

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    Flattery - Not really sure how i should take a compliment. I feel like people are just trying to flatter me to get me to like them or do something for them or only because I'm in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 10, 2012

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    I didn't really ever get compliments from anyone of anything until this year. I'm very awkward about it, like when somebody says "I love you" I say "oh. I love me too" and...
    walrusenator walrusenator 13-15, M Dec 27, 2013

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    I Never Believe Them! - My problem is that when i get a compliment, i just tend to flat-out say 'no I'm not' or that's not true, but thanks anyway for the thought!' It also...
    roc roc 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2007

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    Some musings on how to accept compliments. - These days, I am far better at receiving compliments than I used to be. It is not a skill that I have perfected yet, but it certainly...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 12 Responses Nov 14, 2007

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    I Cant Take Compliments - when people offer me compliments, i feel like i dont deserve them so i cannot accept them. this is awkward as then i go red and embarrassed! so stupid!
    prettybrowneyes1993 prettybrowneyes1993 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2013

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    Um, gee thanks, I like your.. Arm! I mean!!! Uh.., smile! Yeah... I just don't get it haha! Compliments do make me happy though. Research shows that when someone gives a...
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    *Hides* - Compliments scare me. I don't know what to do with them, or how I'm supposed to respond, or if I should pay one in return... It's complicated. I've been paid a compliment...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    I Dont Know Why - Everytime I get a compliment, it feels like I always have to say one back or that the person who complimented me is looking for a compliment....Its really akward...
    muffintopwarrior muffintopwarrior 19-21, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2007

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    Guys at school call me sexy, beautiful, pretty and whistle at me and I just smile and say 'thanks...you perv!' Or 'uhh thanks you sick f***' lol it really depends on who it is...
    bulimicbixtch49 bulimicbixtch49 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am so awkward when it comes to this. I am constantly getting them and it feels like I get them so often it's as a joke. Usually it's just like "thanks.." Or I just smile. I'm so...
    RainBunny RainBunny 13-15, F 6 Responses Mar 9

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    I can't take compliments well. I just look down awkwardly and smile in the inside and whisper a quiet thank. so quiet that you can't hear, so you think I'm a rude *** person. And...
    anyomunos anyomunos 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    I always smile and say "thank you", because at least that way, it stops quicker.
    Akurou Akurou 31-35, F Mar 22

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    True And Frustrating - I am working on this. I don't like that I feel so uncomfortable with compliments. I really thought being here would help and maybe it has a little. But I...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    Should Be Proud? - When people are nice to me it is usually straight out of the blue because people usually pick on my and i'm use to that but sometimes there is a kind soul out...
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings 16-17, F Feb 9, 2013

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    My Grandma always says to accept them and just say thank you!
    OVOXODrake OVOXODrake 16-17, F Mar 9

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    Ummm... Thanks..? - Compliments... Yea, never really been a strong point  of mine.. Im always like umm yea thanks your beautiful too.. I mean your cute.. or handsome.. Agh..sh...
    AuThEnTiC AuThEnTiC 19-21, F 1 Response Feb 29, 2008

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    Ugh. - Let's face it... I'm lazy, cynical, awkward, obsessive, no motivation, chubby, average looks, neurotic, can't make someone feel great, paranoid, have blonde moments, spend...
    cannibox cannibox 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    Slightly Uncomfortable With Them. - Whenever I'm given a compliment it just confuses me as to why because I don't think I'm deserving of any and not really used to receiving them...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 7, 2013

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    Hate Them. - Whenever someone says I compliment to me I either just quietly mubble thanks or just don't say anything at all and smile. I feel weird whenever I get compliments...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2011

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    NOPE - Just clam up... don't like them, can't take them, so don't give them... odd I know but that's just the way it goes.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 27, 2007

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    I Can't Give Them Well Either - I think it's because I don't trust that people aren't trying to use me or that that they're make fun of me or mess with my head. I don't want to...
    RaeDuh RaeDuh 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2012

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    They make me feel so awkward. I could be so happy and smiling and feeling good and then when someone says something nice i just kinda tense up and feel weird.I can't handle it.
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    True! - I get really awkward and say dumb things like "aw, no ... I'm dumb!!!" I don't know why! Haha... But for real, what do you say when you get a compliment??
    Elzkitty Elzkitty 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    Just Say Thank You. - It's simple enough. Whether you believe it or not is irrelevant since this group is about how people don't know how to be gracious enough to accept one. Just...
    EmotionalPrincess EmotionalPrincess 22-25, F Jul 15, 2013

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