I Don't Know How to Take Compliments

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    Last night a guy said to me “You are very,

    very pretty” and i said “I know” and he said like “You KNOW?” and i said “You think you’re the first person to ever compliment me?” and he didn’t know where to go from there.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox
    22-25, F
    May 22, 2015

    Why is it as females,

    we feel the proper response to a compliment is to decline? Like our natural instinct is to tell somebody no, we do not look nice today.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox
    22-25, F
    4 Responses May 20, 2015

    I've learned to say thank you,

    but feel awkward when people compliment me.
    Platana2100 Platana2100
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 19, 2015

    this morning , my husband told me

    that I "look nice today"...I raised an eyebrow wondering "what is he up to?"
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 6, 2015

    How to take a compliment: Step 1 Say "thank

    you" Step 2 There is no step 2, that's it jackass. Haha I don't think you guys are jackasses I just saw this on twitter
    AshleyJea AshleyJea
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    I'll blush, look away,

    and say something to the effect of: 'Aw, thanks, but not really.'
    thetitania thetitania
    18-21, F
    Mar 1, 2015

    When grown man who look about 40-50 years old

    and they tell me I look beautiful I don't know how to take they're compliment. If I say thank you, they're going to think I'm trying to talk to me. Guys who are 28-35 when they give compliments they always smiling that's another thing I don't want you, I don't know how to...
    lorrena19 lorrena19
    22-25, F
    Mar 1, 2015

    I don't normally get compliments

    so when I do I freeze up and get really awkward. Most of the time I feel like I don't deserve the compliments that I get but I take them anyway because I'm kind person.
    BabyGirlCleo BabyGirlCleo
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 28, 2015
    Marcus010 Marcus010
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 9, 2015

    When someone compliments me,

    I either blush or laugh it off. The other day, I was complimented on something physically that made me laugh. Now, I've been complimented on my legs... my hands...my smile but while I was getting some blood work done, the nurse told me I had lovely veins. Veins?! Really...
    Cinnamongrl Cinnamongrl
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2015

    I arrive at a dinner thing.

    . The host: "oh you look really beautiful" Me (feeling surprised) : "uhhhhh Is it me , or is cold here?" .. True
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 19, 2015
    codeyellow codeyellow
    31-35, F
    Jan 18, 2015

    I don't really get complimented too often ,

    so when I do get complimented I'm just standing there like an idiot . Smiling but not saying anything .
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    Some one told me I looked really nice once

    and all I didn't say thank you. I stood there blushed an said happy birthday. Yeah not used to compliments. :/
    KaylaBVB KaylaBVB
    18-21, F
    Jan 18, 2015
    CrossCresentCreed CrossCresentCreed
    22-25, F
    Dec 30, 2014

    When I get complemented on,

    I usually try to joke it off and say "No one likes a kiss up" or "You talkin to me?" Then they say they mean it and all I can do is sheepishly say "thank you" without making eye contact. I consider that a step up. I used to freeze in disbelief at someone buttering me up. Then...
    killakissa killakissa
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 25, 2014

    every time my bf calls me beautiful I tell him

    to stop lying. it makes me uncomfortable to be told that several times a day because I can't see what he sees.
    mandybear29 mandybear29
    31-35, F
    Dec 17, 2014

    Whenever people compliment me on,

    well, anything really. I'm left surprised, and kind of confused. I guess it's because I don't expect to many compliments to come my way. I expect a lot more criticism to come my way, and mentally that's what I try to prepare myself for. So on the off chance that I do get...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion
    26-30, M
    Nov 24, 2014

    Whatever compliments I receive,

    I will never feel like it cuz I know I am not, it's not . The words are just there to keep the conversations going and for the sake of having something to say without even meaning it.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 23, 2014

    It's weird taking compliments like "you're

    cute/attractive" or most positive things towards me BUT If you say you trust and/or respect me, I take them compliments and I love them.
    akaShaun akaShaun
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 21, 2014

    Compliments. Outwardly,

    I'm very polite and thankful. I suppose exactly what is expected. Inwardly... What do you want? Is it even true? Or are you just getting ready to ask a favor? Do I even believe your complement about myself? What if I don't? Does that make you a lair? Hmmmmmn. Now I'm...
    Anex61636 Anex61636
    31-35, M
    Oct 5, 2014

    "I like your shoes!" Uhm ummm ok yea ok umm I

    mean thanks yeah. All of that is mumbled too quietly no one can hear it and it's all said under 5 secs or less
    internetdoggraver internetdoggraver
    16-17, F
    Sep 19, 2014

    It's never as easy as just saying "thank you".

    I already don't think much of myself and I don't want anyone else to think so either. Saying "thank you" typically indicates that the compliment is heard and appreciated, but in my mind, I feel like I'm agreeing with the complimentor (yes, I make up words), and acknowledging...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34
    22-25, M
    Sep 11, 2014

    Yes I've been complemented.

    I've been called pretty the occasional cute, I've even been told I'm perfect (witch I don't believe) but even tho I get compliments I never know how to respond. I just duck my head and blush.
    Internetphan Internetphan
    16-17, F
    Sep 7, 2014

    Whenever I get a really nice compliment,

    I either sound really arrogant or change the topic to making fun of myself, it's pretty embarrassing
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 6, 2014

    I know that probably sounds absurd.

    I'm not sure why, and I have taken notice to it, but do not know how to change the way I address them! Maybe it's social anxiety/awkwardness, maybe I'm just negative and am not aware of that. Can anyone relate to this? And if so, what have you done to change this?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 6, 2014

    whenever someone compliments me,

    i find it hard to believe its true and i freak out.
    buttney buttney
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2014

    I get nervous when someone tells me a

    compliment. I just say "Thank you" without saying anything else. I do not like to show off or get any kind of attention about myself, so I never know how I am supposed to react. Trying to trust people is hard for me, so it feels weird to get compliments.
    s4019t s4019t
    31-35, M
    1 Response Aug 18, 2014

    This would have to be one of the hardest things

    for me to do. Sometimes when people give me compliments, I think they're lying. It's not their fault, it's just somethingI have to deal with. I'm a little weird I can trust people but not their words. So in a way I don't trust. Ahhhhh it sucks. What is a good way to respond to...
    Dreamprojector Dreamprojector
    22-25, F
    Jul 30, 2014

    I finally stopped saying Oh?

    and I know when people call me pretty. Now I giggle and say thank you
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    I guess it's because I've never really had

    people compliment me, other than my parents and friends? Whenever someone compliments me, which is rare but not unheard of, I always laugh it off. I just don't think they really mean it and I feel like they're saying so to be polite. I don't know
    Sasha0827 Sasha0827
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    And I don't know how to give them

    either without feeling awkward.
    LadyCNote LadyCNote
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 23, 2014

    like, thanks...you're.

    ..ah..look at the sky!, the cloud, are beautiful, aren't they?
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 19, 2014

    (Background info:I work at a fast food

    resteraunt) Today I was working drive through when a car pulled up and the driver said "you have really pretty eyes" now, I don't get compliments often so this absolutely blindsighted me. I just gave him a deer in the headlights stare and said "that will be $8.40 sir" I realized...
    snowunderthestars snowunderthestars
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 17, 2014

    I mean usually if someone tells me something

    nice I either laugh histerically and run away with a potato look on my face, or start doing llama noises.
    SaraPaqu SaraPaqu
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 16, 2014

    I'm terrible at it! I automatically assume

    that everyone has a negative view of me, and I accept it. It's kind of like having an underdog mentality; I automatically believe that everyone doubts my abilities and worth, only I don't feel like I have to prove anything to anyone because I'm happy with who I am. Although I...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34
    22-25, M
    3 Responses May 16, 2014

    I can't seem, to take compliments very well.

    I'd be in denial, and I usually don't know how to react. But when someone says 'hey you're really pretty' and I say I don't people be like '*****, acting humble wants all the attention' I don't get why people assume things. But I don't really give a ****, to hell with their...
    sftlr sftlr
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 11, 2014

    Guys at school call me sexy,

    beautiful, pretty and whistle at me and I just smile and say 'thanks...you perv!' Or 'uhh thanks you sick f***' lol it really depends on who it is though
    XxBellabixtch49xX XxBellabixtch49xX
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2014

    I'm SO embarrassed. So what happened was

    that I won intern of the month. I am not one to be center of attention, so when they called my name, I literally said, "F--K." I didn't mean to. I just would have been happier with them posting the certificate and the written speech next to my name. The way it's supposed to...
    BlueIce612 BlueIce612
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2014

    I always smile and say "thank you",

    because at least that way, it stops quicker.
    Akurou Akurou
    36-40, F
    Mar 22, 2014

    My Grandma always says to accept them

    and just say thank you!
    OVOXODrake OVOXODrake
    18-21, F
    Mar 9, 2014

    It is sometimes very irritating.

    i don't know but i can't take compliments well in my stride. i always feel people don't mean them and i ask them to stop. some think that i'm snobby while people who know me in and out has accepted it as one of my erratic behaviors. it's irritating at times. i guess i do...
    Namkeen Namkeen
    18-21, F
    Mar 9, 2014

    I don't know what to say

    when someone compliments me really. I'm awkward. "You look so pretty today!" "Happy birthday."
    faithlv faithlv
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2014

    I am so awkward when it comes to this.

    I am constantly getting them and it feels like I get them so often it's as a joke. Usually it's just like "thanks.." Or I just smile. I'm so awkward.
    RainBunny RainBunny
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Mar 9, 2014

    I blush when I get compliments!

    ! I find it strange that people take time to notice that they love my hair or think my shirt is cute. It makes me feel really happy!! I give compliments all the time because I know that everyone loves a compliment and there's always something I like about that person so I want...
    MyExperiences3 MyExperiences3
    16-17, F
    Feb 13, 2014

    When men compliment my appearance I feel

    uncomfortable. It makes me paranoid and distrusting if their intentions. When women compliment my appearance I feel okay about it. I prefer compliments not about my appearance. Recently my coworker told me "you look very pretty today." Usually when he compliments my appearance I...
    merrygentry merrygentry
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Feb 6, 2014

    Um, gee thanks, I like your.

    . Arm! I mean!!! Uh.., smile! Yeah... I just don't get it haha! Compliments do make me happy though. Research shows that when someone gives a compliment to someone else. The compliments makes the 'reward' system in our brain more active. Which also deals with pleasure and...
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence
    22-25, F
    Feb 5, 2014

    I didn't really ever get compliments from

    anyone of anything until this year. I'm very awkward about it, like when somebody says "I love you" I say "oh. I love me too" and awkwardly walk somewhere else.
    walrusenator walrusenator
    18-21, M
    Dec 27, 2013

    I've been bullied my whole life

    so to hear someone say "you're beautiful" is flattering to my self esteem but inside I don't feel right. Why is that? I should embrace these compliments
    ADeepPerspective ADeepPerspective
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

    I grew up getting bullied,

    so much that everyone in the school slowly started to bully me. Sometimes even my teachers picked on me. I was the nerdy girl who couldn't see anything, so I got glasses. I started to get picked on and bullied even more both emotionally and physically. I never told my parents...
    LonelyPuppy LonelyPuppy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

    I feel like if I say "yes thanks" it seems like

    I'm accepting the compliment and thinking I'm such an amazing, perfect, beautiful person. So sometimes I'll be like, "no I'm really not..." And then that backfires cause people go "fine! I was just trying to be nice!" And other people think I want even more compliments! Like no...
    gogirl08 gogirl08
    18-21, F
    Dec 16, 2013

    They make me feel so awkward.

    I could be so happy and smiling and feeling good and then when someone says something nice i just kinda tense up and feel weird.I can't handle it.
    battlefighter battlefighter
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 15, 2013

    True!

    I get really awkward and say dumb things like "aw, no ... I'm dumb!!!" I don't know why! Haha... But for real, what do you say when you get a compliment??
    Elzkitty Elzkitty
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 21, 2013

    Suspicious

    I always feel like people are lying when they give compliments.. I'm sure I'm not alone with deflecting compliments
    justmeand11 justmeand11
    22-25
    1 Response Nov 10, 2013

    Slightly Uncomfortable With Them.

    Whenever I'm given a compliment it just confuses me as to why because I don't think I'm deserving of any and not really used to receiving them, I get a little self conscious when told things that are flattering and complimentary about myself because I probably don't see myself in...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 7, 2013

    I Cant Take Compliments

    when people offer me compliments, i feel like i dont deserve them so i cannot accept them. this is awkward as then i go red and embarrassed! so stupid!
    prettybrowneyes1993 prettybrowneyes1993
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 2, 2013

    Just Say Thank You.

    It's simple enough. Whether you believe it or not is irrelevant since this group is about how people don't know how to be gracious enough to accept one. Just say "Thank you" and don't make a big deal out of it. I tend to find that it's people's insecurities that don't allow them...
    RationalCutie RationalCutie
    26-30, F
    Jul 15, 2013

    True And Frustrating

    I am working on this. I don't like that I feel so uncomfortable with compliments. I really thought being here would help and maybe it has a little. But I have this automatic response in my head I can't seem to get rid of. I will continue to work on being more accepting and...
    soulrunher soulrunher
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jun 23, 2013

    I'M Beautiful? Yeah Right!

    Years back I was bullied and humiliated in high school by girls and emotionally and mentally ****** up by my father so was led to believe that I was anything but beautiful. I have been told by a lot of people that I'm 'beautiful' or 'pretty' or that I should 'be a model'. On...
    candy85 candy85
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 3, 2013

    *Hides*

    Compliments scare me. I don't know what to do with them, or how I'm supposed to respond, or if I should pay one in return... It's complicated. I've been paid a compliment, and not given one in return, and the other person had looked hurt... Or, I've been given a compliment, and...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 21, 2013
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