I Don't Know How to Take Compliments

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    Or rather criticisms,

    i just get annoyed and over react most times, cos i try to do everything right. I guess even if i was perfect i'll still be criticized :/
    4everoptie 4everoptie
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2015

    True And Frustrating

    I am working on this. I don't like that I feel so uncomfortable with compliments. I really thought being here would help and maybe it has a little. But I have this automatic response in my head I can't seem to get rid of. I will continue to work on being more accepting and...
    soulrunher soulrunher
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jun 23, 2013

    Uh, welp. I actually prefer complimenting

    people instead of receiving compliments. I mean I like compliments.. I just dont know how to take them.
    Punkturtless Punkturtless
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 7, 2016

    Some musings on how to accept compliments.

    These days, I am far better at receiving compliments than I used to be. It is not a skill that I have perfected yet, but it certainly far better than it has been. With that in mind, I thought I would share my perspective on the matter. On Compliments. The problem...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo
    31-35, M
    12 Responses Nov 14, 2007

    My manger said to me .

    .. " when I hired you I knew this girl has talent " Co-worker said- I always work from my heart without thinking and someday God will help me Made my day 😊😊😊😊I felt proud and bit emotional too 😓
    Dezeena Dezeena
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2015
    Marcus010 Marcus010
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 9, 2015

    When someone compliments me,

    I either blush or laugh it off. The other day, I was complimented on something physically that made me laugh. Now, I've been complimented on my legs... my hands...my smile but while I was getting some blood work done, the nurse told me I had lovely veins. Veins?! Really...
    Cinnamongrl Cinnamongrl
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2015

    Um, gee thanks, I like your.

    . Arm! I mean!!! Uh.., smile! Yeah... I just don't get it haha! Compliments do make me happy though. Research shows that when someone gives a compliment to someone else. The compliments makes the 'reward' system in our brain more active. Which also deals with pleasure and...
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence
    22-25, F
    Feb 5, 2014

    Why is it as females,

    we feel the proper response to a compliment is to decline? Like our natural instinct is to tell somebody no, we do not look nice today.
    ImAlivingParadox ImAlivingParadox
    22-25, F
    4 Responses May 20, 2015

    It's weird taking compliments like "you're

    cute/attractive" or most positive things towards me BUT If you say you trust and/or respect me, I take them compliments and I love them.
    akaShaun akaShaun
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 21, 2014

    "You're so cute" Me: "Oh.

    . erm.. eh.. than-.. thank you.." *blushes for life*
    Shyness03 Shyness03
    18-21, F
    Mar 17, 2016

    Seriously. When someone calls me cute

    or nice I don't know how to respond. I feel awkward about it .-.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 18, 2016

    NOPE

    Just clam up... don't like them, can't take them, so don't give them... odd I know but that's just the way it goes.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Oct 27, 2007

    I am so awkward when it comes to this.

    I am constantly getting them and it feels like I get them so often it's as a joke. Usually it's just like "thanks.." Or I just smile. I'm so awkward.
    RainBunny RainBunny
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Mar 9, 2014

    I'll blush, look away,

    and say something to the effect of: 'Aw, thanks, but not really.'
    thetitania thetitania
    18-21, F
    Mar 1, 2015

    I don't know how to handle compliments.

    I think it's just the way I've been brought up - humility is a value treasured in Asian culture... and this was drilled into us since we were children - always deny praise. Plus every family gathering would be like Asian humility bootcamp, with all the backward compliments you...
    VioletVivid VioletVivid
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 9, 2016

    When men compliment my appearance I feel

    uncomfortable. It makes me paranoid and distrusting if their intentions. When women compliment my appearance I feel okay about it. I prefer compliments not about my appearance. Recently my coworker told me "you look very pretty today." Usually when he compliments my appearance I...
    merrygentry merrygentry
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Feb 6, 2014

    I don't normally get compliments

    so when I do I freeze up and get really awkward. Most of the time I feel like I don't deserve the compliments that I get but I take them anyway because I'm kind person.
    BabyGirlCleo BabyGirlCleo
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 28, 2015

    I'm terrible at it! I automatically assume

    that everyone has a negative view of me, and I accept it. It's kind of like having an underdog mentality; I automatically believe that everyone doubts my abilities and worth, only I don't feel like I have to prove anything to anyone because I'm happy with who I am. Although I...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34
    22-25, M
    3 Responses May 16, 2014

    I finally stopped saying Oh?

    and I know when people call me pretty. Now I giggle and say thank you
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    this morning , my husband told me

    that I "look nice today"...I raised an eyebrow wondering "what is he up to?"
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 6, 2015
    CrossCresentCreed CrossCresentCreed
    22-25, F
    Dec 30, 2014

    ugh! I hate compliments.

    ..it always seems like someone is making fun of me or flattering me...you have no idea how much I hate flatterers, they are always up to no good
    prettykatey prettykatey
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 21, 2015

    I remember showing my pic to someone

    and they said that's not you. I said yes it's me why it wouldn't be? Because it's " too pretty " really ?! To be real I need to have standards.. Hmm good to know.
    DarknessDepth DarknessDepth
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 16, 2016

    I Never Believe Them!

    My problem is that when i get a compliment, i just tend to flat-out say 'no I'm not' or that's not true, but thanks anyway for the thought!' It also depends on what the compliment is, for some reason, if i get a compliment on how i look (except about my weight!), i.e you're...
    roc roc
    26-30, F
    Nov 14, 2007

    I Fear The Worst

    I dont know how to take a compliment. i always think people are just makeing fun of me. i was always made fun of as a kid. i was the weird one in the class and everyone always made fun of me. so now when people compliment me i always think back to my classmates as a child and i...
    Silent20 Silent20
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 10, 2012

    Hate Them.

    Whenever someone says I compliment to me I either just quietly mubble thanks or just don't say anything at all and smile. I feel weird whenever I get compliments, Espcially when they compliment something about myself that I absoutely hate. I never believe any of it.. I feel like...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2011

    Is There A Right Response

    Seriously I'd love it if someone could tell me what to say when a person compliments you besides...uh...thanks. It makes me feel awkward, uncertain, and a little apprehensive about why they're saying nice things. It's not that I don't like being complimented but what am I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 3, 2012

    It is sometimes very irritating.

    i don't know but i can't take compliments well in my stride. i always feel people don't mean them and i ask them to stop. some think that i'm snobby while people who know me in and out has accepted it as one of my erratic behaviors. it's irritating at times. i guess i do...
    Namkeen Namkeen
    18-21, F
    Mar 9, 2014

    It's True

    Call it sad or not or whatever but I was not raised in a household where compliments were consistent or prominent and most the time they were non existent. Not much interaction in my family to be honest talking about your feelings was prohibited. End of story. Compliments were...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 21, 2012

    (Background info:I work at a fast food

    resteraunt) Today I was working drive through when a car pulled up and the driver said "you have really pretty eyes" now, I don't get compliments often so this absolutely blindsighted me. I just gave him a deer in the headlights stare and said "that will be $8.40 sir" I realized...
    snowunderthestars snowunderthestars
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 17, 2014

    I feel like if I say "yes thanks" it seems like

    I'm accepting the compliment and thinking I'm such an amazing, perfect, beautiful person. So sometimes I'll be like, "no I'm really not..." And then that backfires cause people go "fine! I was just trying to be nice!" And other people think I want even more compliments! Like no...
    gogirl08 gogirl08
    18-21, F
    Dec 16, 2013

    I grew up getting bullied,

    so much that everyone in the school slowly started to bully me. Sometimes even my teachers picked on me. I was the nerdy girl who couldn't see anything, so I got glasses. I started to get picked on and bullied even more both emotionally and physically. I never told my parents...
    LonelyPuppy LonelyPuppy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

    I'm SO embarrassed. So what happened was

    that I won intern of the month. I am not one to be center of attention, so when they called my name, I literally said, "F--K." I didn't mean to. I just would have been happier with them posting the certificate and the written speech next to my name. The way it's supposed to...
    BlueIce612 BlueIce612
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2014

    Sometime it's too much too take in.

    I don't know what to say and all I do is smile.. I don't even feel like m doing anything different ... I m just trying to be there for them because I believe we need that listening ear... Just someone they can feel comfortable ... I feel proud at a times that I m valued so much...
    Dezeena Dezeena
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 16, 2016

    Whenever people compliment me on,

    well, anything really. I'm left surprised, and kind of confused. I guess it's because I don't expect to many compliments to come my way. I expect a lot more criticism to come my way, and mentally that's what I try to prepare myself for. So on the off chance that I do get...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion
    26-30, M
    Nov 24, 2014

    Whatever compliments I receive,

    I will never feel like it cuz I know I am not, it's not . The words are just there to keep the conversations going and for the sake of having something to say without even meaning it.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 23, 2014

    When grown man who look about 40-50 years old

    and they tell me I look beautiful I don't know how to take they're compliment. If I say thank you, they're going to think I'm trying to talk to me. Guys who are 28-35 when they give compliments they always smiling that's another thing I don't want you, I don't know how to...
    lorrena19 lorrena19
    22-25, F
    Mar 1, 2015

    I get nervous when someone tells me a

    compliment. I just say "Thank you" without saying anything else. I do not like to show off or get any kind of attention about myself, so I never know how I am supposed to react. Trying to trust people is hard for me, so it feels weird to get compliments.
    s4019t s4019t
    31-35, M
    1 Response Aug 18, 2014

    I mean usually if someone tells me something

    nice I either laugh histerically and run away with a potato look on my face, or start doing llama noises.
    SaraPaqu SaraPaqu
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 16, 2014

    whenever someone compliments me,

    i find it hard to believe its true and i freak out.
    buttney buttney
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2014

    I guess it's because I've never really had

    people compliment me, other than my parents and friends? Whenever someone compliments me, which is rare but not unheard of, I always laugh it off. I just don't think they really mean it and I feel like they're saying so to be polite. I don't know
    Sasha0827 Sasha0827
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    I always smile and say "thank you",

    because at least that way, it stops quicker.
    Akurou Akurou
    36-40, F
    Mar 22, 2014

    I don't really get complimented too often ,

    so when I do get complimented I'm just standing there like an idiot . Smiling but not saying anything .
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    I just don't know how to take compliments.

    Either my anxiety gets the best of me and I think the person is up to something (or wants something), or I think they are lying. I feel that I have mastered the awkward thank you and smile. I'm trying to learn how not to read to much into it, and how to graciously accept it.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 9, 2015

    Whenever I get a really nice compliment,

    I either sound really arrogant or change the topic to making fun of myself, it's pretty embarrassing
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 6, 2014

    Being bullied, picked on

    and abused I get suspicious of compliments. First I look around to find out whom ever they must really Ben talking to, someone behind me maybe? Then I'm wondering what they really want.
    teadiva teadiva
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016

    I have no idea how to respond my therapist told

    me to just say "thanks" But I'm better at reacting to insults so its weird for me .-.
    PandaXBunny PandaXBunny
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    Ugh.

    Let's face it... I'm lazy, cynical, awkward, obsessive, no motivation, chubby, average looks, neurotic, can't make someone feel great, paranoid, have blonde moments, spend too much time on the computer, hide away from the world, don't buy things for other people, can't get a job...
    cannibox cannibox
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Nov 6, 2009

    Self Esteem.

    I have no self esteem so naturally, when people give me compliments, I will not believe them, so I will turn them down immediately. The bad thing is, when I deny them, people get angry because they THINK that I would think that way, but really I don't so then they think I am just...
    wewantcowbell wewantcowbell
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 22, 2007

    I Can't Give Them Well Either

    I think it's because I don't trust that people aren't trying to use me or that that they're make fun of me or mess with my head. I don't want to make someone feel like that so i hardly ever compliment people, I think it hinders relationships because I don't really say nice...
    RaeDuh RaeDuh
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 22, 2012

    Well

    I'm kinda learning how to now. Still got it bad though
    LoveIsSublime LoveIsSublime
    22-25, F
    Oct 16, 2010

    I Dont Know How To Take Compliments.

    Im just so akward my reaction just comes off weird. Sometimes I even choose to just ignore a compliment after its given.
    LennonLover LennonLover
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2011

    To Pretend

    When I was younger friends would tell me that I am nice or pretty or something like that I didn’t know what to say or how to reply but one day I just thought of saying thank you or reply  thank you that’s so nice of you and stuff  but in truth I still don’t know what to...
    SoftSpokenLady SoftSpokenLady
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

    Hell No!

    Just be kind and abuse and insult me. I can handle that.I don't know what to do when people are nice to me.And half the time I suspect you are up to something anyway. lol
    BeteNoire BeteNoire
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2012

    Flattery

    Not really sure how i should take a compliment. I feel like people are just trying to flatter me to get me to like them or do something for them or only because I'm in the same room with em.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 10, 2012

    Counterproductive

    I perform in theatres rather often, I also sing and am an artist. I love doing these but I always hate the following weeks after a performance because people will just spout compliments and I don't know what the hell I should do with them. I've realized my response is generally a...
    RedLippedRequiem RedLippedRequiem
    18-21, F
    Dec 29, 2011

    How to take a compliment: Step 1 Say "thank

    you" Step 2 There is no step 2, that's it jackass. Haha I don't think you guys are jackasses I just saw this on twitter
    AshleyJea AshleyJea
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    Yes I've been complemented.

    I've been called pretty the occasional cute, I've even been told I'm perfect (witch I don't believe) but even tho I get compliments I never know how to respond. I just duck my head and blush.
    Internetphan Internetphan
    16-17, F
    Sep 7, 2014

    like, thanks...you're.

    ..ah..look at the sky!, the cloud, are beautiful, aren't they?
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 19, 2014
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