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I Don't Know How To Tell My Boyfriend I'm Submissive

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    Soo here it goes. I'm 22

    and a recent college graduate. Applying for grad schools, working full time and moved in with my bf in July. I've been with him for 4 years and he's been the best thing in my life. Very supportive, understanding, charismatic, strong, intelligent, kind and attractive. I was his...
    kuriouskatie kuriouskatie 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    bunny1321 bunny1321 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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